Haifaa Younis – Grief & Loss – An Islamic Perspective #02

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The importance of death and good deeds in the aftermath of death is discussed, including the need to prepare for it and avoid unnecessary surprises. The emotional impact of death is emphasized, and the importance of learning to express emotions and surrounding the message of Islam is emphasized. Personal items and shrouds are recommended, and the importance of not doing things that make you feel sorry is emphasized. The speakers stress the need to stay true to the message of Islam and remind people of the negative impact of giving things that make you feel sorry.

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			Bismillah you're off man you're walking
		
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			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah
Walla alihi wa sahbihi wa Manuela La Molina. I am founder and founder of EMA LM tonight Nikka
semiology will dwell on many how to become an MLA Amphawa alveoli of Shaolin of Silla. dishwash.
Leticia, what do I need? Are you smart, have been allowed to SuperLumiNova had Atena or have been
militant. In the Intel hub of dystrophy surgery recently only waterlogged. That's an melissani of
coli. Welcome, again, everyone. To our Tuesday night program has been lucky for joining us again,
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			have said last week, actually, this program this series is, as a result of your requests really
liked how I got couple of requests,
		
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			as one of them specially from a sister who wrote a very nice, beautiful email requesting to learn
the Islamic way. What does Islam teaches us? How do we handle the
		
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			unfortunate events of losing someone we love or basically death? And what should we do after that,
so just Akuma head 100 natural banana mean? And what we shared last week, if you remember, we talked
about death. And we said that each one of us who don't have seen that remote every single soul will
taste, death taste meaning it will go through this process. Nobody will escape this if anyone should
have escaped. And if Allah will, he would absolutely have been able to do that. Subhana was Rasul
Allah risotto Sal, and we all know the most beloved creation for Allah Subhana Allah rasool Allah
salatu salam pastorally. So if he passed away, why do we think we will live forever and
		
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			unfortunately, all of us, and even some scholars says it's from the Rama of Allah subhanho wa taala,
that we don't remember death, every single minute, because otherwise we will be paralyzed, it will
be very difficult to live.
		
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			Always constantly with this thought, however, what is hot, what happens is the opposite that we are,
most of us majority of the human beings are absolutely
		
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			forgetting this reality, as if it is not going to come to me or to you or to us. So we don't want
these two extremes, that we're going to think of it every minute that it basically will
		
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			paralyze us and then, at the same time, I don't want to be completely forgetful and heedless about
the fact and I live my life as if I am living here forever. And then a very wise st man said, a
laughing the wise person has three or does three things three car has she or he has three
characters, or does the three things allowed to man America bro, I'm sorry, first thing allow for
the wise person when Tomica dunya complex Kubla enter Toka The wise person she or he is that person
who leaves this life meaning of life and networker leaves this life before the life leads. Meaning I
live in this life. But I am not so attached and focused on this life and what we mean by life is the
		
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			material side of the life and now you will be no children and wealth. And we are so focused on it as
if you're living here forever. And we all know we are not so allow the wise person when Tanaka dunya
Kubla enter to
		
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			live this life live in this life without being attached to it and focused only on it as if we're not
going to go anywhere else. Before it will leave us as we just said no one is going to live here
forever as one. So the wise person, man or a woman leave this life before life leaves him or her one
second. While I'm Morocco Kubla Tala furnish flourish for repair his grave or her grave before she
enters it. And how do you prepare the grave? And I'm not talking about the the the
		
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			The wise man or the the scholar when he said this, he doesn't mean that you're going to prepare the
grave dig the grave. Actually what the question should come, what are the foreignness? What's
furniture will enter with me to the grave.
		
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			None of what I have in this world, nothing in my home, nothing in my garage, nothing in my kitchen,
nothing in my living room, nothing in my closet. None of this is going to come with me. So the
furniture of the grave is not what comes to my mind and yours. When we talk about furniture. No, the
furniture of the graveyard of the grave is number one is actually good deeds. Allama Rosada one of
the specific good deed of the grave is actually a Quran reading the Quran, memorizing reviewing
spending time with the Quran. So hum Morocco Morocco habla Mutola, you prepare you the grave. And
one of the DUA as we say for the the deceased is Allah much I'll cover how Cobra rolled on Maria,
		
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			the agenda Yala make his or her grave, a piece of Jana, a piece of the garden of Jana. So for me, I
want to prepare, I want to come to this grave. And I am ready like imagine when you come to the
house, and the house is beautifully done, and furnished and finish to beautifully how happy you you
will be this is in this life. And I am going to go and live in that grave. We all know that it's a
reality we cannot
		
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			move away from it and we cannot run away from it, let alone escape from it. So I am going to furnish
my grave with the good deeds.
		
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			And you name it it's a good deed but as I said specifically, in that for the grave is of oran so
allow people the wise man or a woman man Taraka dunya. Cobbler enter to leave this life meaning
attachments, focus, fighting, hating people, severing relationships disobeying Allah, because of
connecting, and more and more. So leave the dunya before the dunya leave us second foreign nation
prepared the grave before we enter it. And third, what are la Mola public?
		
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			He or she please our Lord or His Lord, on last animal Tyler before I will meet and what will what do
I do to please Allah? What does Allah wants from me? And you so he will be pleased with me and you
are all the Allahu Anhu? What one? May Allah be pleased with them? And they are pleased with Allah?
What does he want from your, your thought for now so that you obey Him? And you do not disobeying
him? What Anushka follow you for
		
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			you are grateful, I am grateful we are grateful to him Subhanallah and not ungrateful for a new
surfline, sir, that you remember him and not forget.
		
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			If I do these three, these Nilla by His grace, I am qualified. I just can't say he will be pleased
with me. That would be me. But I have done what I what he wants me to do. Obey Him and not disobey
Him be grateful and not ungrateful and remember. So, let's go back again. The reality of this is
reality. Wherever we want to run away, it's going to come right in and moto Levita Unum in the in
the whole article. Was this in the Quran? Say, the death that you are running away from? You're
going to meet it. You're going to meet him if you want to use that. No, no escape from that, as I
that we spoke last week is the only reality of things certainty that we all know. No question about
		
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			it. No ifs and buts. No hesitation. Only one. Everything else can change. Except that so that's
number one. I need to get ready.
		
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			Inside me morally, I mean mentally. That's that this is going to come and let alone if I have
someone who's sick or terminal as we use the word in medicine. So number one, get ready. x zero Min.
Min. dickly has the middle of that as a Roswaal eSATA or Santos. Remember, abundantly are not the
destroyer of joy. And he didn't see a moat. Then he said, a moat. He called it first the destroyer
of joy.
		
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			The one thing that will destroy you, meaning destroy every joy, because it think of yourself, all of
us, let's think about someone, we just came back from a funeral.
		
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			You're not in the mood.
		
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			I don't even in the morning to eat and that alone to see something that's alone to joke, let alone
things changes because the perspective change. When you see the grave, you'll know for sure, one day
me and you will be there. So however, now, as we have talking about the death, it's one of the
Sooners that all of us needs to remember as death come close to us. We need always, always, always
always, to have good thinking and expectation of Allah, inseparable hospital one you will always
think it is not the time to think that Allah will punish me and let alone I will say to someone,
it's not the time. The time is of Allah for Rahim when someone is dying inside me a lot. We never
		
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			let me down. Allah is all forgiving. Allah is all merciful. So the time I think of Allah should rely
upon Allah has severe punishment, no, and an in depth. And one of the things we have always to
remember in general, and specifically at the time of death, and I enter in the host no one near Abdi
will the only Masha Allah said this in a hadith woodsy. I was Panama time, I think I am I'm sorry, I
am to my servant, as he or she think of me, let him or her think of me what they want.
		
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			I Allah sing this, I am to my servant. She or he as they think of me. So I think Allah subhanho wa
Taala
		
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			is Allah subhanho wa Taala is merciful at the death. And Allah will say I mercifully I am not going
to say what I'm going to do I missed all this, I didn't do that. No, I will say Allah in California.
		
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			So always, it's a good idea that even when we think of someone, we're losing someone that we love,
and we're going to think of God, how she is going to be in the gray or how he's going to be in the
gray, bring this to you
		
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			have good expectation from ALLAH SubhanA. Allah does not want to punish me in my life, how long will
the either the company shocker tomorrow, loss of this are sold to Lisa, in the chapter, the woman,
what Allah Who will get from punishing me in you, He only wants two things. In shocker to me. You're
grateful, and you're a believer. So
		
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			we need to remember this. Now, also, if we are close to somebody who's dying, actually a lot of
		
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			a lot of your heart for as the person is dying, a lot of your heart, it's very emotional. I'm sure
many of you listening to me, you have seen this or been in this situation could be someone very dear
to. But remember in that moment, and I'm going to focus on this or maybe repeat this point, more
than once today.
		
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			When we are in a situation that we are about to lose a very loved one, a loved one. Don't think of
yourself, think of that person, what I should do and say that benefits him or her not what I want to
say or what I want to feel or what I am feeding, think of new love them, you will love her. And you
want the best for them and add them she or he at that point. At that point, they can do much to
themselves. And again, if you've seen dying person cannot even move their hands. So what I need to
say and do everything that will benefit that
		
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			dying, beloved die in person. And in fact, this will help a lot in the grief process. It will really
help a lot when I feel in me that I have done everything I can I'm so grateful to Allah subhanaw
taala that he allowed me and facilitate for me to do everything that will benefit this dying person.
So a lot of dua for the person who is dying. Also.
		
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			Reading Surah chasin on the dying person reading Quran on the dying person, a lot of Juha as the
person is dying and of course, keep reminding that person, whether awake or not awake. Again that
will help
		
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			but not help you, the person afterwards in your brief, remind them cheap, which we say tell train,
keep saying that a lot in their ears. We don't know. There is a lot of unseen, unknown. When the
person goes through the dying process, nobody died and came back. So we don't know. We know what
Allah subhanaw taala told us. We know what also Allah salatu salam told us and we know what the
sooner so what the sooner is, is you keep reminding that dying person, even if they don't say a
word, even if they are not responding, but they are still alive. Now.
		
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			There's a hadith about that also alayhi salatu salam said Lakhta pneumococcal Cheech, you're dying
people now you know.
		
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			Yeah, you know. And Subhan Allah, law, law, this word, no God, no di t but Allah has so much comfort
power. At that moment, I went through this not long time ago, as how Allah the LRB, the creme de
thought, my inner, worldly by the remembrance of Allah, hearts reach serenity, hearts, feel peace in
peace, And subhanAllah every time you get very emotional, because that's a very dear person in front
of your eyes dying, the moment you start remembering now,
		
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			the moment you start singing
		
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			the words the name of a lost power Tada, as if you feel much more in peace. Imagine this is the this
is us, what will the dying person feel? So you are you are in Doha, and do have
		
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			one of the things I'm I don't want to make it as a class. But there is some things that we ordinary
people may face and specially for us living in a non Muslim country, and you may be the only Muslim
person in that hospital or you're the only person allowed to be with the dying person. So it's good
to learn as much as you can. What, again, beneficial to this Muslim dying person and also will help
me also when the person dies, when the person died, a couple of quick things we do in the Sooner
close the eye, if the mouth is open coverage or tired, but the most important thing that we
immediately all of us is to remember and say is inaccurate. Rajon Inari lucky, we know you're here
		
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			Roger, to Allah we belong and to Him, we will go back to Allah we belong and to Allah Who will go
back. It has an again, amazing impact. And Allah said this in the Quran surah three and levena
either Saba, mostly Bhutan, are you in Malaga are innately Rajan. This is a swatch of the buffer the
verses starts by What an ugly one, we will test you vishay in a little bit, in a hole sheer will
July hunger. We're not also and less. Knox a minute and why in wealth was Thammarat fruits will
unforce
		
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			souls human being of a Sheree soldering and give glad tidings to those who are patient. And Allah
described them what they should have slavery who are the slavery they lead in a Siberian are those
be people who,
		
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			who
		
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			says in Nigeria, what you know
		
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			that I am it makes you so patient when you say this also. So how long so when you it's a very hard
one, probably the toughest moment, toughest moment, a human being will go through is when he sees a
beloved one, dying or dead or died.
		
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			The moment you remember ALLAH, it makes you again so called so when the person already died in 911.
Id
		
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			to unlock we belong and to Allah, we return. So immediately we need to teach ourselves so this comes
frequently comes frequently becomes natural, inadequately Roger and especially when again. We go
through this when we feel so much in pain. When we feel crying and pain at the moment or even later
on the keep reminding in Allah
		
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			to Allah we belong and ALLAH
		
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			SubhanA wa
		
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			touched
		
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			briefly last week about the crying, can I cry? Should I cry? Is it allowed? As they say able
Karolina need? Can I cry? The first answer is absolutely yes. But even before I say absolutely, it's
very natural,
		
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			yet yet
		
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			yet to see a human being that it has lost immediately
		
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			a deal person, she or he to him or her, and they are not crying. It's very natural. It's actually as
even medicine will tell you, it's actually it's very healthy. It's very healthy, because it's a
sign, what's an expression of grief. It's an expression of pain. And we need to express our
feelings, because that's a very painful moment. And as we said, last week, when I saw He saw it was
his son, Ibrahim, you're scaring him, he must die. And he, he was dying, actually. And then he was
crying and the Sahaba looked at him yas meaning you.
		
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			And he said in our home is a sign of mercy with Allah put it in the hearts of the human being when
they cry. It's not weakness. Absolutely. It's not weakness. It's its mercy. We're humans, we are
full of feelings. So let us not try to
		
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			act and put a bald face and I'm strong strength has nothing to do with crying. Because crying is a
natural emotion. And crying is actually expressing my feelings and expressing the feelings is not a
sign of weakness at all. However, having said that,
		
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			is how do we cry? And what comes with the crying is that what do we need to be careful, and all
scholars have agreed that the crying is absolutely allowed. And there's many Hadith of Australia
salatu salam, he says, the meaning of that Allah subhanaw taala will not punish because of the
crying or because the heart is in pain and sorrow. But Allah's pantalla were punished by this and he
pointed to the tongue meaning what we say at the time. So I can say, Oh, she was so young and she
left I can say that is a decree of Allah Subhana Allah.
		
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			And Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah or knowing Allah subhana wa Tada is the one who knows.
		
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			And Allah subhanaw taala every decree he decree is just so I can say she was still young, she didn't
live that long. Where did she go and left me or where did he go left? I can do that. What I say in
No, that's why I kept reminding you know what in that day, Roger, another one, we see what usually
you see it, too, as part of condolences, and we will come to it is a Lahemaa home, with a home out
		
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			to a lot belong what he took. And To Him belongs what he gives. That's another concept we all have
to keep reminding ourselves that we don't own anything in this life.
		
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			It's very hard to live this way because it's mine. It's my house. It's my children. It's my car. I
worked hard for it. I brought the money. I did this. The reality of the matter is, is everything is
owned by Allah Subhan God, and he loaned us this.
		
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			He gives it to us, but as alone is not going to stay with us. Because we are going to go back to him
and it's not going to come with us. So that he might have to Allah below what he took our US on your
servants of Allah span time, He created us. So crying
		
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			is healthy is a good sign. It is not haram, is it not? mcru? Absolutely not. It's actually on the
contrary, and as we said it was solely his love to sit down, cried when his son died when his
granddaughter died candelabrum plan where is the issue comes in. Because again, what we are learning
is that stomach way of mourning, and dealing with death. That I am going to go through a process
that I want to please Allah with it, but also what is allowed for me to help me in this process to
cope.
		
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			So show your emotions and cry. That's fine.
		
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			The one that is not allowed is what we call wailing, meaning crying very loud, making noises saying
things that is not pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala as I just said too young, too early. Why I wish
if I have done this they will not
		
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			have died, we don't do this. Because every soul, the moment it was created, the same time was
created, how long before live?
		
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			Could we have seen mongoose Allah subhanaw taala. When he created every soul he created, when it's
going to be created, when it's going to shut the university is going to be happy, was going to be
unhappy. So no wailing, no saying things that is not pleasing to Allah, rather, saying things that
is pleasing to Allah. And we need to remember what I say, is going to make the beloved person that I
just lost, either happy or unhappy.
		
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			So how long does it have you thought for Swati salatu salam said, whosoever will, on a deceased
person, that person the deceased will be suffering because of this.
		
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			What does that mean? Meaning that that person, the person who just died, will feel again, we don't
know, the hereafter. We don't know what happens in the grave. We don't know what the dead people
hear or see, we don't know. This is again in the animal life unseen. But these are all from the
hadith of rasa risotto. So this is the Sunnah of my and your beloved, or so as I've said. It they
say the meaning of the heavy that the deceased person, the person who just died, Will, she'll pain
how we don't know when his relatives or loved ones cry, but not cry, when so not crying is actually
waiting, waiting. And then meaning that another seeing they say it's to Ebola, it says that what we
		
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			do, at the time of the death of that person will be presented to the dying person
		
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			will be presented to the disease not to the dime, the season saveetha For ossuaries auto center, and
he said in a manner come to our albala Akali become Masha Iroko minute and watch your actions will
be presented to your deceased relatives.
		
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			For instance, kind of height and structure will be if what you are doing is good, then that that
people will be happy. And they will feel and it's like a glad tidings to them. We're in kind of real
Adeleke. And if it was not that all they say that person will say along miletto to have data, camera
data, y'all do let them die until you make them guided as you guided us. Meaning when I am in that
moment of pain and sorrow, and feeling down, I need to always my focus is about the person that I
just lost, not about me.
		
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			And what I can do, to my best ability to give them the best I can give them and give them so they
will be even better and happier. And one of the things I need is what I say everything I say is
pleasing to Allah Clinton, and I need to be trained, or somebody in that gathering. Normally there
is more than one person has always to remind everybody, if we don't say anything, but what pleases
Allah, again, what I have found is once you say in any law who are in the garage, even those who are
about to say, or their voice will be dealt with how mother the word calm human beings. And I've seen
it a mother lost her child, husband lost his wife. In many situations, even children lost their
		
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			parents in arena. We're in the era of loss and it's in the Quran Subhanallah in what he says is
absolutely the best of us. So that's, that's one and the wailing person in certain cultures, certain
cultures, they bring that woman to the gathering, and starts reading about the dead person and it is
a sign of ignorance of God. That's what they did before Islam. They hire people, and it still is
done in certain parts of the world. They hire people to come and basically wail about the dead
person and also add insult to sit down.
		
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			This is all over yourself. Have a soiree sort of sinner took a covenant upon us woman that we should
not will about the deputy
		
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			and specifically about the woman and he said also Alayhi Salatu was set up to voices. So tiny man
you
		
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			nanny Paola solo tiny little nanny for doing our
		
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			two voices will be cursed in this life and the hereafter. Soltani mellow nanny
		
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			for dunya. Well,
		
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			Salto Nagamma in Dyneema, was sold to Marana in the masiva. They say this is an umami bizarre, in
aerated this hadith, they say, the sound of a flute,
		
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			when there is a time of prosperity
		
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			and the sound are unknown in the most labor, cry, meaning shouting at time of calamity, two voices
Melona they're cursed in this life and the hereafter, two sons. One is the sound of mismarked have a
flute music at time of prosperity and loud cry, run. Loud cried loud voice time of day.
		
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			So I need to ask Allah Subhana Allah that Allah Allah give me strong your Allah make me see
everything that's pleases you and do everything that's pleases you. It's not easy. But if I keep
turning to the one who makes the hard thing easy, it's going to happen. Anytime I turn to Allah
subhanaw taala in everything, not necessarily only
		
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			at time have done anything that I find it so difficult, impossible. You don't know. And I will say
this to myself and to everyone. Turn to Him Subhana and he will make it easy. And sometimes you look
at yourself and you say, I don't know how I went through this. Because he helped me. He helped you
and other Adil a capable they're always capable. Subhana so
		
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			crying is absolutely allowed. It's healthy. It's one of the external signs of grief. Express your
emotion, however, without saying anything that displeasing to Allah pantalla and without loud cry,
the person died.
		
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			How long should it be? How long it should be the
		
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			the the
		
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			more the morning in Islam. And again if you look at cultures, it has nothing to do with our origin.
Morning. Morning for that person, the relatives three days
		
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			it
		
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			except the wife when she lose her husband. It's four months and 10 days. And that's what Allah
pantalla said in the Quran. Within a telephone knowing where the room as Rajan yet robust may be
unforeseen or Bata assuring washer, Allah so this is what we call those who died and leave wives the
behind the wife behind them behind him. It's our boss not the unforeseen or Bata Sreenivasan they
stayed observed themselves in mourning period, which is four months attendance.
		
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			Everybody else when they lose someone that the warning period is only three days is only three days.
So how long
		
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			another thing that we do again, when you are going through this, or if somebody very close to you is
going through this, why do I need to learn this because I'm going to help them when I know these
things, when somebody goes a lot in the middle of this calamity, sometimes this may, you may not
remember, you need someone to remind you and be as we have said many times be achieved of goodness
and a key to lock evil. Don't be a key to open evil. So remind them in allowing Mary Geraldo
remembering Allah subhanaw taala now in law is the cure of Allah homes people another sooner to do
is actually to cook for the family of the deceased. Again, when I do this, when I do this, it's
		
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			let's say is my uncle. Right? And when I am going to cook or they are my neighbors, which is very
common, if they are my neighbor that I am cooking for them, I am helping them and our Swati salatu
salam said it's not only Ali Jaffa cook for the people that the family of Jaffa they the death has
kept them busy.
		
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			Unfortunately Subhana wa unfortunatly and I still see it, maybe not in the West. But in the East
special people cook the person who lost
		
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			lost a beloved one, they cook for the people who are coming to give condolences. And sometimes they
go way overboard. And none of this is the sun.
		
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			None of this is the sun at all the morning, you come is actually to remind that the front I'm sorry,
to remind the family to keep the number one is Hong Kong Muslim, it's the the right of the Muslim.
And number two, is actually to give in to make the people feel better that people care about them,
people wants to help them. So I'm not going to be I am the one who's going through this calamity.
And I'm going to be worried about food, how many people is going to come how much I am going to cook
how much it's going to cost me all this not from the sooner we need to go back to our original soon.
We should not cook for them. We should not if I am the person who I lost a loved one I should not
		
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			talk to anybody or order food or pay money at all, is the people should do it too. And and one of
the He called this which was really nice, they say is actually because sometimes the person which is
very common, those persons specially if it is hard, it felt hard on the hard on the person who lost
a beloved one, they don't even eat. And this is what one of the things the support you give to
people who have lost a beloved one is actually help them eat, help them sleep, help me comfort them
in the way that pleases Allah Subhana Allah even when you are asked them to eat, remind them of
Allah,
		
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			nothing will keep the family one day long, when they lose a beloved one, keep them strong, and take
it easier, other than the remembrance of Allah subhanaw taala. And every time I see this, I Say
Subhan Allah, this is why Allah spent Allah said, when a calamity before them, they say in Allah
		
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			to Allah who belong, and to Allah, we are going back, one of the swollen actually, also that even
before we die, it's actually the commended Humblot to prepare the coffin to prefer the shroud and
even the place, even the graveyard. It's absolutely tsunami in the Muslim world, you don't see this
a lot. But here in the West, it's very common.
		
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			It's very common, you want to make sure you are buried in a Muslim cemetery. Again, we live in a
Muslim country hunt a lot of Brahmin, we don't worry about these things. But for me, we live in an
Austrian country, you want to know where you are going to be buried, are you going to be buried in
the Sunni away as a Muslim, and the sooner we are there, people are going to be coming and visiting
and reading, visiting you. Meaning something I mean, when you go to a Muslim cemetery, even here,
right? Most of the time, you don't go and visit only one you can visit as many of the disease they
were there and you give themselves.
		
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			So it is something that is recommended that you
		
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			prepare for your death, as I said, and how can you man, the wise person who prepared the grave
before he gets into it. And that preparing the grave is in two ways preparing physically, you buy
the lot, you buy the car, find the shroud, you put in your car in your own way, who should if you
can, if it is possible, who should be there for your for washing the body, you want people who are
righteous people, who again will remember Allah Who knows how to do with the sun, no way, all these
things, the more you prepare for yourself easier will be on your feet on your relatives. And that's
why the week is one of the Sunon with every Muslim should have a will and the will is not about
		
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			money. Only are the children of the wealthy
		
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			parts of the world is this where I am going to be buried, who's going to be washing my body was
going to be there for the shroud.
		
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			You spent you spell it out especially if you're living in a non Muslim family with a non Muslim
community is like you know, mourning is three days. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't cook food,
don't serve all these things and life would be much easier for the people who comes after us. And I
am my intention is to please Allah subhanho wa Taala and to follow the sooner one of the beautiful
things and may Allah subhanaw taala give it to all of us your opinion is that you want to die in one
of the two
		
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			masajid the two huddling in the two sanctuaries.
		
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			step above. It is highly recommended. It's highly recommended. It is highly wished somebody would
have done even in makeover Marine. It says, see not all of your loved ones made this Doha he made to
us.
		
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			He said, this is actually his daughter said, Hassan, may Allah be pleased with her. She said he
said, Make dua for himself. See now Omar Omar, hop on. He said Allah who was up me Shahad FISA
Vivica, which I naughty fever of Eurosonic Allahu Marzocchi Shahad, she said, which I multi view the
better they are surely your law
		
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			grants me a state of Marxism
		
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			for your sake, meaning make me die as a shade as a marketer for your sake. And the second guy he
made for himself say no more. Second one is and me me dying in the city of your Rosolino.
		
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			And guess what?
		
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			Lucky him both.
		
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			A login from both Subhana he died as a shade he was killed. And you all know, then he was buried in
not only in the city of Roswell risotto sir, next to
		
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			Satan, Abu Bakar. I'm gonna say no, and say you've never saw any solid yourself. So how, and when he
was
		
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			stepped, he actually send See, he send it to us a dilation, taking her permission. That will she
allows what she put a mitt that he buried next to save that mill worker and also allow yourself to
sit and look at say nice cedar eyes. And she said, is like I was hoping I will be there.
		
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			But she said yes.
		
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			So again, part of the things we need to do is also make the heart for our beloved and for ourselves.
		
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			To Allah give us hospital heart in a good and give us a play
		
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			a death that is pleasing to Him. People who are righteous at the time other people who will remind
us of Allah subhanaw taala people who will help my family to go through this difficult time people
who were followed the sooner in my process of preparing of death of washing off graveyards and all
the Subhanallah
		
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			one of the most painful if I will not say the painful, the most painful. Death is the loss of a
child is the loss of a child.
		
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			May Allah help every parent go through this? It's very difficult. It's very difficult. Younger and
of course older is harder, but it is very difficult and that is why Subhan Allah, specifically there
is sayings about losing children, because Allah subhanaw taala or sorry Santosa knows what autumn
how difficult of this and he says mama NASCI Saraswati salatu salam innominate Buhari narrated and
he said Ma Mina Nassima Muslim, Utah Fila filata Lemonnier global Hannah. I will hint I'm sorry.
Then you blow things up. Jen. Before Dr. Schmidt, he knows
		
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			us three children. Three, they have not reached the age of puberty. But Allah spawn Tada. We entered
him Jana, as a result of their
		
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			intercession actual. So how long another one is Rosaria salatu salam, as some of you may know, he
had a one day in the week where he taught women only taught women only and this hadith is the woman
told of a swami Sato semirara. So Allah make one day for us only for teaching.
		
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			And he said yes. And then in this day, at one of these classes, he gave them this admonition and he
said, what any woman, any mother that lose three of her children, those children will be her shield
from the hellfire. Any mother that she loses three children. Those children are shield from the
hellfire. Then a woman asked him, she said Yara Salma Oh, how about if she lose two children? Not
three. And he said if she loses two, they're also for her as
		
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			a shield from the hellfire, one of the things we have to remember also, model how do we as Muslims,
we are a nation and I talk about Muslims, not nationality. We don't live long
		
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			We don't live long and narrow Swati salatu salam said this, this isn't monetarily and narrated by
save now Hurayrah, who said Amma at my alma will live between 60 and 70 my ummah will live between
60 and 70. And much less of them, among them that will the more, they live longer, meaning majority
of the Muslims will live between 60 and 70. Much less numbers will live longer than 70 Meaning we
all need to get ready. We all need to get ready. And we all need to get ready in a way that pleases
Allah subhanho wa taala.
		
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			One of the other things and I again I am not going to go through a lot of chakra part because the
idea is actually how do we go through and there is there is probably a we'll do
		
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			party threes next week if Allah's pantalla will allow us is how about what do we do when the janazah
comes in. So the mate now is
		
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			washed, the body is washed and the body is Australian, and now they brought the janazah or the
disease brought him to the place to the masjid. For Santa.
		
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			They say this to mean about that, at some says you it's recommended to stand as the janazah as the
deceased is is being entered to the mosque. Some says no. It's a different opinion. But the idea is
		
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			when we see this scene, we all have to remember one day we will be there
		
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			and the question always have to come.
		
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			Am I ready?
		
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			Am I ready?
		
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			How long as a Bedouin Astra resource Allah Allah seldom, and said, Yeah rasool Allah matassa
		
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			that also Allah when is the hour
		
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			when is the
		
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			animal Swati sort of Salam responded in the meaning? What's Have you prepared for it?
		
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			What have you prepared for?
		
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			And then the Bedouin responded, the meaning of I have not prepared a lot other than I love Allah.
And I love His Rasul Allah saw Joseph.
		
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			And then Allah so Allah salatu salam responded, and what Muhammad
		
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			the person will be there with the person he loves. So when I see
		
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			the deceased is being brought in, for Salah, the first thing that has to come to my mind, even if
they are the most beloved people to answer again, very difficult moment is one day I will be there.
		
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			And am I ready? What I have prepared? What does my vocab?
		
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			Which one is heavier, which skill is heavier? Is it my right side, or it's my left side button
moment that will look more as you put
		
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			those who will have a heavy, heavy scale, the those are the one who are successful.
		
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			In many, many ways I must point out I mentioned in the Quran, from Mahmoud Chiquita who be a mean
those who will be given their books in the right hand for who you have omocha Ottavia and that
person he or she will say come on in, read my book. So death in general, death in general is a
reminder to all of us. Reminder, it's a daily reminder, if not outwardly reminder that there is this
life is temporary. One day we are leaving one day we are going to go and when I see when I lose a
loved one it's a reminder to me it's a reminder to me I need to get 300 letter O'Brien news article
optimal handling issues and I started getting caught at some of honestly you know hammered whether
		
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			it was highly esteemed career and Shala who will do a third part in next week and if you have any
questions feel free to send it to us agenda Institute at
		
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			or actually office agenda institute.org and I will be more than happy if I can to respond also have
the lack of blind mean there is a lot of requests we received for our usually do it before Ramadan.
It's a five week schools we will not I will be teaching starting on the 26th of February. Not this
coming Saturday, Saturday after it's the fact of menstruation make becoming easier inshallah. And I
normally what I cover a couple of boys
		
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			as a as an obstetrician gynecologist so from the medical point of view and also from the point of
view it's open to everyone and usually I mean the ages is it's open for women it's open for all ages
nine and above or the woman who about to get their oh the goals we're about to get their cycle it's
highly recommended that you start teaching them about this shot level. See there is a common Allahu
Allah subhana Kolomna Morbihan Nick, it shouldn't be
		
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			a stuffy we'll call it truly solid love ala Sayidina Muhammad Ali he was highly disciplined and
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