Haifaa Younis – Ask the Sheikha! 21-06-2023
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah while Ali he was a happy woman Wada, La Molina, Maya and founder one fan Habima alum tena in Mecca Samia moody with dua.
Lamoni Allah to become an MLA of our LBI Asha and FC Leticia would like to use my opener that is a clue been a bad headache to know when I'm living in a country or hub or visually sundry ways. Sadly, I'm the one that I'm only sending of polio. Welcome, everyone, it's good to be back home the normal anime, I definitely miss it, although I was dealing with something similar. But it's different when you do it at home, as they say nothing like comes to Panama. So today, actually, I got a lot of questions. Some of the questions was really interesting. And I divided them into two. One is related to the time we are in and the second one is related to the youth. It's amazing. I got two questions
from 15 and 16 year old from different parts of the world because she said what is the same question? And this question is going to be hit home for the unglamorous on youth here today. Because when you hear this question, you're gonna say to yourself, What am I doing here? Honestly, when I read it, I was like a sheaf of team did I really reach 15 But I leave the last the best for the last. So this is the very common coach, I think I had three ladies, woman or young ladies Bismillah she said, as we as we know, we are actually approaching approaching the first seven days of the hijab, this slide received it before we start, and I was planning to fast but Subhanallah I got my
period, what else I can do to benefit from those days. I really hope to get a reply from you. And then the next question, so I group them together. What can I compensate? Or what can compensate fasting in the first 10 days of the hedger? I have anemia, so might not be able to fast all days. And I may find it difficult.
So what is the answer?
This will go fast.
Fast. I don't know.
Don't fast. Don't ask you sick, like so what does you do?
Okay.
Okay, so I'm going to take you through what is all this about? Why do we why do we care? Let's put it this way. Why the 10 these 10 days who started yesterday actually. And some, some of them are very lucky they are there in May Allah subhanaw taala give us the reward because he knew we wanted to be there but we just couldn't somehow hunted down. So Allah subhanaw taala. Before that, I want you to learn this concept. If you look at the the Islamic calendar, Islamic calendar, you will see this every month, maybe every two months, just one time where there is more than two months where there's always an opportunities. So we had Ramadan, right, that was April and then what happened? We
have six days of Chawan then they'll cut their payment right? So we took we became flux through we're not the same as we were at all are smiling because then I was rather than Moses so he brings this then okay, we do the 10 days and then we didn't go to Hajj all we want and we are really up and strong. And then the 20 days we go down again, and then what happens Mohammed comes in, right and then after there's a break.
So these cold breezes from Allah subhanaw taala and this is a Hadith of Casa De Soto Surah Nisa in Allah He Federico Farhat your Lord throughout the year and Tao here is year or you can say the whole the whole lifetime. There is breezes he called never had never heard his breeze you know, when you go to the beach, and then to beautiful weather and then you feel it. What do you normally do?
Right? That's an Aha. And what did he say? He said for Tarot Buddha, expose yourself to it. So when someone calls you and says come on in the beach, you know, today's beautiful day and it's very calm, there's a beautiful breeze can just smell it. Don't you go if you can, and you feel good. That's the meaning of it. And he says now, whomsoever get exposed to these breezes,
and get it he will never be
he will never be sad afterward.
So the first thing and I'm going to come of course to the question because the very almost everybody was asking I can fast before we fast it's not Ramadan. So before we fast Why do why do I care about these days?
What's so special about these days? So this is the first thing is you have to feel they are special specially for us here because nothing changes. Nothing changes. Now going down
I'm not at work nor industry, nobody. Many of the Muslims don't even know it is the 10 dates, because many of us don't follow the external calendar. So the first thing I need to say okay, this is a special days. This is one of the breezes. So this is a good weather beautiful breeze breathe it these days, who said they are a breeze. So whatever Swami has salatu salam said about them. And he said
I was going to a Young Center, the best days. Pay attention to this. And there's a huge debate between scholars about this home. The best days of the year is a large
these days.
And the huge debate between scholars What about Ramadan?
And imagine you me in Ramadan? How do I feel that tomorrow is Ramadan? I'm in Ramadan? How do I feel? How do I feel here?
Most of us, okay. Hamdulillah. Our offer everybody is looking at our offer Hamdulillah. But these days are valuable as our offer. Our offer has a special, special, special was special, but these days are not less. So as you look to Ramadan, young and old look to it. That's why everybody's asking about fasting.
These are the best days of the year 365. These are the best days. So the discussion was Okay, which one is better Ramadan, or this scholars put them together? They said the nights are the nights of the 10 last nights of Ramadan. And the days are the best these days, the days of the future. So first thing for me to look at these days, I need to change my mental way. How I look at them. This is not the usual Tuesday. This is not the usual yesterday was not the usual Monday I didn't fast because it was Monday. It is one day however I fasted because these are the 10 days, I gave charity not because I am charitable or someone reached out to me. But Hamdulillah that happened because then
the good deed became easy for you. But I did it because these are the attendees. And why is that also, because when you're humbling SHA, Allah technomic
When you glorify the symbols of Allah, it's a sign that you have a lot in your heart. And these are his signs we look at
as a symbol of Allah's Pantheon, we look at Ramadan, we look at AID, we look at how often, but these 10 days are a symbol for law, you need to feel it one one that everything starts from here. If I do feel that nothing is going to happen outside, even if people telling me, I'm going to brush it, I'm going to find excuses. But if I really feel it in me here, then I need to pay attention. This is not the usual tahajjud This is not the usual fajr I do it on time. This is not the day I'm gonna miss a solder. This is how you start changing the way you look. So the first thing is you have one you need to glorify it. Number one, number two is what did he say about them? He said these 10 days, no days
in the whole year. The good deeds are more valuable than the good deeds in these 10 days. They asked him What else do you have the flexibility now not even somebody goes to fight for Allah? And he said why don't you have the FISA
except if the person goes for jihad, and he doesn't come back, meaning he died.
So imagine your Salah your extra took out today as if you have as if a man went for jihad to fight the enemy
to record or a little bit extra the or holding the tongue or reading more Quran and of course fasting of course. But the whole idea is I need to know why. What is the reward because when I look at it differently, I'll act differently and that means I glorify Allah subhanaw taala the best way to welcome them today is only the second day we still have a days to go and next week we're going to talk about the day we'll find only why do we celebrate how do we celebrate do we really celebrate as Muslims are everything is really serious and we all have fun, and
we'll talk about it next week. So here you go. The best way to welcome them number one who can tell me you know what, it will be great.
Number one to welcome these days.
Yes
That's why I'm asking you because I want you to think, no, it's actually Stefan, ask Allah to forgive you. And forgive me and forgive us. It's a beautiful discussion about that, again, because of the time and I want to cover some questions. They say,
you want to glorify these days? Yes. So how you glorify it, I want to do good deeds. But I don't do it. But I don't do as much as I want, or the way I wanted or the quality I do. Why.
Since is a block
since is a block and the beautiful idea that came to my mind which saved me No, he said, go to Europe. Welcome. In our corner of Faro, you see some on a call with Aurora. We did a cumbia morning webinar, where local Jannatul Regina Coleman Hara, you will ask Allah for forgiveness. All the goodness is going to come. That's what he said. He said, ask Allah for forgiveness. He'll give you children forgive your sins, He will give you strength. So the first thing everyone myself number one, I need to start saying iStockphoto use any form you want. As the federal law, a stalker, a lot of you don't know what Hey, what are you? And why to bully? SubhanAllah? Can you control your volume
in any form you want? You don't know anything, just say stuff.
You don't memorize anything, don't worry. But don't say it. One.
constant, constant. And I'm going to come quickly to the decoder, which is the main act of a burden the standards. So you know, when you work on someone think of it this way. And you have guests coming tomorrow. And the guests are really special. Somebody's so special in your life. They've never been in your home before, or they have many years ago, and you're so excited. And they tell him you're gonna say You know what, I put a plan. I need to get ready. Right, and everybody is different. This is what I need. This is a special guest comes once a year. I don't know if I'm alive next year. I don't know if I'm alive or I am alive, but in my state of mind, or I have the health so
the first thing I'm saying this is the special guest when you have special guests, other things become unimportant. Are you with me? You lower the other things, you put them on the side.
Anything that is not a priority? I'm not going to do within this 10 days.
Exactly like Ramadan. We do this always in Ramadan, especially the last 10 days, right. It's the same way anything is not important is going to be in the back burner.
I'll do it at the end. Right? I'm not gonna go shopping. These are the 10 days of Ramadan, and 10 days of the hater, right? I'm not gonna go just have fun with my friends and drink coffee or do this or do this was the 10 dates, same as Ramadan. So number one is you glorify the number two, a lot of SFR just keep asking Allah for forgiveness. Don't tell me have never disobeyed Allah. If you tell me this, I'll talk to you after the class. And I was like, Okay, tell me the secret. Because what rasool Allah salatu salam said,
Well, I will help her in it. All the children of Adam are sinners, and the best among them those who ask for forgiveness, so I can't claim I'm perfect than I am actually for sure lining or I am saying what I heard, or saw they saw to send it and say the truth.
So and led to the conference, don't say it's me.
Keep asking Allah for Stefan. Glorify it in your heart. Now comes what do I do the question, so somebody has their period, what do you do?
Fasting is one of them.
Salah is one of them. There is way more. You know what is the best Didi do in the best good deal you do in these days.
Stay away from sins.
Don't disobey him.
Don't sit down and watch the usual things you watch. Don't do texting and the same discussion and the same.
Don't don't hurt people. Knowledgeable however, don't hurt people number one, Jonnie number one remove the ill and then bring the good back. You know, in medicine when you have an infected wound. We don't give you treatment, right? We have to clean it first. It's not gonna get better. So you clean remove the sun sit down or everybody today and just say it between you and Allah. Nobody needs to know he knows what sins you do.
Usual, normal. I don't even have to worry about them. They are my normal life. What did I do? I did this right. Again, external and internal.
The way I dress the way I speak the way I handle other people's and then internal
What do I harbor in my heart? I don't like her, I hate her. I hate him. Why and I'm jealous, all these diseases, these are sins because they are Hudler, Allah who will not take us accountable about them internally.
Otherwise, we're done. But the more I harbor them, the more I let them live in my heart. What will happen? One day I'll say it one day, I'll do it. Don't tell me I can control we all fail in this just a little bit of trigger and then comes out and then somebody Haven't you had someone look at you say, why did you overreact like that? says I've been caring in my heart for you for a long time. That's it. So number one good deed in these days is do not literally write it on whatever reminder you do not disobey Allah.
Don't disobey Him, meaning don't delay your Salah. Don't miss your Salah. These the major ones then think about the fasting. And I love this question because we always think of fasting. It's beautiful. Don't underestimate one of the most beloved deeds to Allah. But that doesn't mean it. If I can't as the two questions, Mother Come on because of the restoration. So number one, stay away from sins, list your sins. You have children don't hurt the children. Children don't hurt your parents. It's both wife don't hurt your Husband, husband don't hurt your wife. Because these are sins that way Muslim hurting Muslims sin
unless you're doing correctly and rightly and nicely and they took it wrong. That's their that's their issue, but in general, stay away from sins number one, number two
what are you doing in the last two days? You're looking at me as like what is she asking us?
Because of Allah dhikr the number one action here listen to this am amo dick. It's remember Allah subhanaw taala. So how do I remember Allah? subhanaw taala? What are you telling me the Torah heater I work and then I have to dry one hour they have to take my children, right wrong. Now in Canada, there's no school, but there is I'm sure there's summer camps and all this not to go back and cook the usual life story. Right? So how do you handle it? That's why I said the easiest act of a random, the easiest act of worship is actually
because you need nothing. You don't need to do. You didn't need to know what is the cobbler. You don't need to be covered. You don't need to be in certain places, wherever you are. The only place you cannot do there is only one police bathroom. And actually there is a liquor before you go in. There's a liquor as you come out. It's so there is no excuse whatsoever not to be in liquor. As a Roswaal risotto. Sam said to one of us harbor the a community center Culatta going with Aquila. Keep your tongue Moist, moist because when you speak, saliva comes out. Keep your tongue moist, as tough Allah is one of them. And hamdulillah is and somebody asked me How are you to say good. It's the 10
days. Somebody Allah brought this how I say to myself, Allah through the good deed, that the opportunity of good deeds, Allah through Cheney, and I just missed how are you? Alhamdulillah
that's a good deed. Sunday's best. This is better than a person goes and do jihad struggle, right? Are you feeling okay? Not my best but everything comes from Allah has higher. That's it. You remembered what is dhikr? is remembrance remembering? What?
Have you ever thought of remembering What?
What? No, no? Remembering what?
Allah koroni could have come, wash Collodi will attack Furuno remember me? I remember you and be grateful and don't be ungrateful. You know, this famous verse sort of Bukhara, and scholars commented on it for a long time, what is it koroni If Curonian means what
many, many commentary on the number one is by your tongue?
You say Bismillah Allahu reminded him. Allah who mentioned you and me, the sinners in his presence, just because I remembered
Subhan Allah just because I said that hamdulillah just because somebody says hi. And they said, Oh my God.
That's your liquor. That's liquid as I nothing extreme. I am remembering my creative in a very simple, easy way. And he will remember me. He will mention he fought in his gathering his gathered with the Prophets with the use of
martyr.
Assuming you just by saying this, how miser we are,
how miser we are. One, number two, so if Caroni is bitung Number two is by your body. This is very new concept I just learned it's calories.
Nicoma is one when you obey.
When you're about to look at something, you know, and you say, No, I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna look because that's not pleasing to Allah. That's dick.
You just remember, and they say you remember him by staying away from this obedience, he'll remember you by making obedience easy. Making the song fasting is very easy. And making your waking up for Fudger is easy. making any good deed is easy. You want to give charity and you say, I'm not finding anybody suddenly, out of the blue. Someone sent you a text and says this family coming wherever they need, Can You Say Subhan? Allah? How did they know?
He they didn't know. Allah brought them to you. But Caroni as coco de como, and we are an I am number one. We are so not good. Let's not say bad. And the vicar, we talk a lot. Especially us woman true.
Yes. Yes, absolutely. Right. And how many of them sentences? Sometimes, you know what I like to do. I like to record myself in knots in lectures in real life. And see, like, you know, we do selfies. We love selfies. Everybody is crazy about selfies. Literally, I was about to faint from selfie in Malaysia. I was like,
nuts. Can I say no? No, like, I couldn't. But honestly, everybody's so crazy about so that's okay. Satara 100.
But what about Sophie of my heart?
What is in it? And how about Sophie of my conversation, physically? Put Allah in your conversation in any way, in any way. You know, even like, like yesterday, I literally I was, I was delivering a baby. And it was 805. And I was about to finish and I said what time the nurse figured it out, says Dr. Yunus, I'm fasting.
And I said, Yes. So I figured it out.
And I said, How come? She said, Because you're not as strong as your normal because this was eight o'clock PM? And she said, is it? This is the beauty one the non Muslims asked? She said, Is it health or its religion? Meaning the intermittent fasting? And I said no. And this is it. She learned everything about the 10 days.
She asked us I didn't I didn't Allah throw it in my lap. I was doing C section. And I said, No, this is religion. These are the best 10 days and honestly, and she was listening.
So he this is what I was trying to share with everybody because we live in the real world we live with or you go to, you know, to buy something, you buy some say it, say something or ask Allah I actually always do this. I always ask Allah to bring the opportunity. Because sometimes you don't want to be like giving lectures wherever you go. Doesn't doesn't look good, but lets him open the opportunity. One and two. When he opened the opportunity, I take it. I don't let it pass. So the care of Allah subhanaw taala keep the police and Calatrava with acredita Sahaba came to complain to Rosewall. They sought It's another beautiful hydrogen. I've learned this probably 20 years ago, and
says the habit of
the people who are always Indic the No, I'm sorry, not this one. Here they came. It says the people the meeting the people who have money, they are way ahead of us, because they have money so they can do charity.
Right, not everybody has money. So he said I'm gonna teach you something. I'm just giving you the meaning of it. Not exactly. So Okay. You go and do dhikr of Allah and you will be the same as them.
Now the people who have money heard this, they won't lie to you when we you know, we go by minimum. Hello. So I prayed. hamdulillah so the people who are rich, they said that's it. Fine. We will do rituals. So the poor Kintobor Swati Santosa. So the honest one, they are doing it.
They are rich, they're giving charity and they are doing liquor. Isn't that why okay Manisha? That's the blessings of Allah give it to hold the world's point you and me. We all can do the Dhikr even if you cannot speak, you can do it in your heart. Can you say it's tough for a lot handler Subhanallah La hawla wala Quwata illa biLlah one of the treasures of jail
And there's not a whole lot.
So that's number. I didn't say faster because the question was you can't ask and I didn't say so now because she can't pray for everybody else. Yes, there is. You do it. They say the three things, you You stay away from sins, you do the obligations, but you do them with excellence.
This two seconds Salah two minutes louder, you know Allahu Akbar. I have no idea what I do personally love about Allah Akbar exams Ramadan Did you pray? Yes, I did. Not in the 10 days. Not in the 10 days at least in the time where I have the same time at work really I have only five minutes at home. But if I am really at home and there is nothing going on and I am on my phone checking all my social media
get up and present to Allah this this one best sunnah you've ever done even if you don't know how to read a lot of Quran doesn't matter just read slowly prolong your record prolong your salud be different be different so far have they say you do with with perfection? That is why what's what's one of the most common and everybody is asking about good deeds you do in this 10 days
come on everybody's asking about
LA mnemonic
qurbani don't you slaughter? Yes.
What happened? What happened today? What am I leave you two weeks that's what happens. Complete.
Don't you slaughter? Right? Whether one or more how many Roswaal is auto synonyms for
the only * went? Anybody knows?
I can't hear you.
What am I can't hear you.
One per family. That's not a resort in southwestern. That's what we are supposed to do. I'm talking about how many he did? How many he sacrificed.
Raider
three Roswaal I do three terasaki Santos and he did 163 He slaughtered it himself.
63 he slaughtered himself even they said some said it's 63 That's the age he died.
And he did 100 The rest say 90 slaughtered 100
Right now the number is one of the ways if you can it's very expensive Subhanallah literally I'm getting messages from people they say we have never had meat since last time. Last ate not to this aid since last year the 10 days honestly.
Now we find what on what come on chicken fish. Right down. I don't like it goat beef. What is the problem? Literally, I got more than one message. And I was like You're like Please forgive us. So you slaughter now in the slaughter to perfect remember we're talking about perfecting you're very bad. So you do but you perfect it is not only you do more what you can if you can afford but also you choose the best. You know that and handy. Especially if you're unhappy. You don't just bring anything you bring the best. And always remember when you slaughter this verse, I love it. It's sort of an homage nine year not a lot and the whole holidays you know, we're looking at
the blood and the meat of the animal that we slaughtered for not reach Allah, Allah who would reach for what reaches to Allah is the Tacoma in us. Why don't we start especially if you're doing it let's say back home or overseas to really meet the people you're not even eating from it. So the first thing is you stay away from sins. Number two, you do extras, not necessarily Salah and fasting if you can, again the question but you do it not only you do it, you do it with perfection. I shared with you recently my experience of tarawih in one Masjid overseas, I think I did in one go car here Ruddle
and in second I was there I didn't hear it. I was behind it.
One little car or one of them now. One little car and one little car
and one Rock Island.
It's beyond you and you have never seen this in my life. So here you are. As I say to myself, let's give a lot shows a lot of interest in us. The best in us you know when you're invited, invited this wedding or this gathering graduation these days is graduation and wedding days. This is the days right? So when you go
According to your genes,
you don't take a shower.
Now that I need to get ready, right and get ready Allah knows how long it takes.
Again, as long as not how long it's good, why don't I get ready?
And I the same way I do with people may Allah forgive me I do to the law. I present my salah to Allah the best way as if I'm getting ready to go for a wedding that I don't You are the bride or my fasting or my Quran on my vicar so stay away from sins. Number two, all the extra Quran is one of the first things you do more so these days. And for the woman who was menstruating you can read without moving your lips. We've covered this many times. The best decree you do is actually a tally and technique needed this week say Allahu Akbar Subhan Allah Alhamdulillah La ilaha illa I'm sure all of you and if not let me know I can share it with you. You have received these recordings,
recordings of tech V or have tallied just put it driving permit. And your Nia is this is the attendees say now I will say no to our word very well known. They say onesies they start they go to the market and for no reason. Like you're you're gonna go and buy and you're gonna go to Albertson and buy milk, right? You enter you do liquor and you leave and you do liquor and you're all the time in Dicker. That's what they did to Kabiru law Halima Hidalgo. Washington is what will help you glorify your life because he guided you. He guided me so dhikr of Allah subhanaw taala last but not the least is charity.
Charity money charity in not non monetary not in money. What is the best charity? Not in money?
Simple somebody doesn't know anything.
Smile. Exactly say salaam icon smile are very miserly. If I know you with smile. If I don't know your watch, you're smiling in my face. What does she want from?
Why is it true?
And some people don't answer you say sir, Am I equal that?
Allah will answer that's fine. I'll get my reward. And I'm going to do it perfectly because it's the 10 days.
So the first thing is smile. make someone happy.
A lot of the a lot there's a lot of opportunities these days to make people happy.
And if you really want to do that, he allows them to handle money make you call someone that's almost certainly say something to him, you're gonna make them happy. There's people who wants to talk to somebody, there's people who want someone to come and sit with them. And these are all simple things. But again, we're busy in our rat race as I call it. So so the of course you give money Don't you have $1
Don't you have it up every day
in the masjid dollar
sadaqa charity and then next week of course Tuesday which all of you know is our offer. Our offer so young is for the person who is not in Hajj is the special one so yeah, we all want our young Pharaoh
before and after the first thing of the day of Arafah will forgive the says before and after. How about it I have the cycle your knee is the
don't be too hard on yourself or don't answer your bond do this to you. If you did not have your cycle you will be fasting Yes, that's it you got that you got the reward. Because if you are used to do something, a good deed you always fast one day in 30 days, then you will travel and you couldn't do it because you're traveling and it's hectic schedule a lot more reward you as if you fast. So the same thing you plan to pass a very horrify class this horrify couldn't traveling. I had this cycle. I'm sick, whatever the reason, legitimate that is allowed for us not to fast. Allah reward best dhikr on the day far from
There's one special
we actually gonna call him what?
He said it hieromartyrs Anyone never you know and probably the best. I have said he was in our offer. And he salatu salam May Allah inviter, they still hope I don't know but it's fading but maybe So on the day of our offer he was standing here he said walk up to one hour could have I stood up here and everywhere in our fight is a place to stand and then he said the best what I said now
that we'll call our coalition in
every letter is one good dude.
See how many calculate do the math and everybody this time Stan do the math. Imagine I give you one cent and ice
said say this for every letter I'll give you one cent letter now I'll give you $1 And then after we finish I said guess what every dollar will be 10 for every letter
and I'm too busy
learning the heilala whatever last year you can normally call out some of our other conditioning colleagues put it in your home Record and put in your home so you remember he gets into the car, put it there because we forget it. Not necessarily we don't want to do it. We forget to get distracted. Put a do so fasting and liquor on day of out of charity, money, smile, remove somebody is feeling down so a couple of fours to make them feel better. That's a charity.
Easy, of course for the for us who can pray for sure Salah quality and quantity.
And it's very hard not to do it 110 days and this was it was fully in the last 10 Nights. Why now?
Why what happened around will bait is
the Lord of the house is to the Lord of the house. The Lord of the house was in Irvine in Cal in, in Ramallah is still the Lord of the house in Irvine. Attendees. Try to come to the masjid much more. Whatever Allah opens for you get catch wa salatu salam, whatever you can on daily basis. And for young good mothers bring your children teach the children what is this days are everybody's talking about pride month and this is our dates. We need to if we don't celebrate who will celebrate if we don't glorify it, who will glorify it, the non Muslims they don't even know about it.
So inshallah I gave you overall easy, simple. Hamdan. Any question before I go to the next? I don't know how much time left for us that 100 of this stuff. Okay. Any question about this? Let's see.
There's so many questions online.
Okay, let's look at this one. Because that's a good deed. This question came in, I don't know phone where it says I believe we are the best online because we encourage what is good and for good versus evil. Guidance is in the hands of Allah subhanho wa taala. No doubt about that. But I can just let them live however.
Did you get the question? Let's read one more time. And what's pantalla certain sort of alien Imran Khan to my own leanness, why to own every Moutinho non mocha which would mean Aveda, we are the best nation that was brought on the face of this earth. Why? Just because Allah loves us? No, I would love to say that
is three criterias. So if I don't have them, we are not
that Morona we model if you're enjoying good, then Hona and Luca, and you
remove evil or you reject evil, and you believe in Allah, we are all from the left, because we are here. How many we do that? How many we say it's not my business? How many say I'm not gonna say she's gonna get upset with
how many say, You know what? I don't know. I'm a kid. How many?
Everybody?
I don't know about everybody. That's a good number of us. Right? But if this is your daughter, or this is your son,
what will you do?
If someone said something to your son, or your daughter, what will you receive? Say, for example, my business took maroon every minute and we left this, this I did this I actually this verse has a special place in myself because I had my Quran exam. And she said, bring the verse in the Quran that says we are the best.
And tell me why
you enjoy a good. You see someone in the masjid younger or older or a man or a woman, let's say a woman. Right? Not doing something proper on the steak, the steak, people don't know. But you will know for sure. And you have the knowledge nots, you learned it, or you heard that. Right. Let her don't you just say it in a very nice way.
I don't want to say that I'm not sure at least rejected. This is what I want to try to focus you today. This is a good deal, by the way. And that was a question here actually about it. So when we are living in a non Muslim country, this is now summer and we walk in the streets and the women are dressed not properly. What should we do? Should I lower my gaze? Am I getting a good deed? Of course it is a good deed. You can change it but your your heart is not accepting it. I hope you make do half of these people when you see them in the streets. You lower your gaze and say a lot please cover them.
I
I hope you'll do that don't look down at them, but pray for them. And the reason I don't like it not because I don't like it because Allah doesn't like it
and he doesn't like it when he sees people like that let alone if they are Muslims.
So this is a good deed. Good deed is you enjoy good yes, and you forbid evil, but you need to do this. There's a lot of requirements, but I'm talking about the obvious. At least in your heart, don't talk to about them when you leave. Now this is disobedience to Oh, did you see what you did in the masjid?
Why are you saying Why didn't you go and?
Or why didn't you need to have for how inside you and rejected? We don't say anything. We smile on her face and everything is fine. She leaves already when you say oh you should see her that day in the masjid while you're doing this that's not the best month that was sent to Marina Good morrow.
You're totally you remind people these are the 10 days that's all we model.
Right? You know somebody tells you I know what you know what's so hard for me to wake up if you want me to call you. I'll call you at 430 at five and she said no. Don't get upset. You did it. You cared about her? And you tried to give a solution she didn't listen to you Hello Cheryl. Please make her wake up. That's it. I'm RTB model. Somebody is for example, watching something really is inappropriate let alone in these things and you're gonna say not to say are haram you're gonna go to Johanna Barbuda and attendees and can't we not do it at least in these days? In a nice beautiful way and you're rejected? If they didn't listen? Don't be part of it. That was other questions so I'm
Ruby model. You come to the masjid and you find the masjid let's say there's food don't complain clean it is the house of Allah that's a good deed it's the house of Allah and the child is you know sometimes you see them you know carrying chips and walking upstairs you know you go to the child sit down and then you give him a take the book and you give it to him one by one this is unreliable model this is good deeds. You know we all think of good deeds fast all this all the questions I got is I can't fast I can pray Okay, fine. What can we do that?
Let's do good deeds. May Allah Subhana Allah make us always keys for good deeds. So now let's come to the question.
This is from the 15 year old she actually the question came from, from France.
Yes.
Until it wasn't my email, please forgive me. There's so many things in here. I have to do the smear. Yep, it is here.
Okay, so let's get this one. This is a 15 year old says need a thorough ephah. I have a cousin who is around my age 15.
She doesn't pray. Nor does she wear the hijab correctly, all the tissue in the hijab? No, not karate.
I'm assuming again, I don't know. I don't even know the person to be honest with you. She always has fights with her mom, my aunt, so this is her cousin from Mom's side and doesn't respect her. I try to encourage her to stick to her salah. And but she often that she often takes it as a joke, never really listened to raise her volume of her phone and ended up making fun of me pointing out of me to my insecurities.
I end up feeling drained. I want to know if I should stop talking to her and ignore her. But Allah question look, this is what the best in this question. This is a 15 year old.
Right? And a cousin is making fun of her basically bullying her because she trades. Look at this one. She said Will Allah I want to know if I if I should stop talking to her and ignore her? Will Allah question me on the day of judgment? Because I didn't continue encouraging her?
To look at the question. It literally made me cry when I was reading spa or if I have encouraged her many times, but stopped Is it enough? She's part of my life. And I cannot simply stopped singing.
When I was younger was this. I hope her mother knows her value. This is important. This is a caring person,
a caring person. And this is a person who doesn't care about herself. Because any one of us that cousin does this to us what do we will say I've nothing to do with him.
And Allah knows and Allah will forgive me. Or actually even more I was like I know I'm writing a lot more rewarding.
This is a pure heart.
A pure soul cares about people. She even when she said the way she described her cousin, she didn't describe it in a negative way. Right? She doesn't pray
for the hijab improperly. And then the negative was about her. She makes fun of me and my insecurities. So the answer to her again, I don't know. Number one is Allah subhanaw taala will ask us about the effort will not ask us about the result. You need to know all this. So when I plan let's say I plan to go to lunch. And I really planned it did everything. I didn't end up going to no visa, the travel agent cancel, I got sick, something happened. Luckily working for all the all the preparation, and he will reward me as if I went to lunch. So a lot once the effort he wants to see me struggling for him getting up from bed struggling for Fudger these days for 15 in the morning,
right? But he will not going to take me accountable. Why did you not do this? And this do? He wants to see the opportunity? Or say why didn't you to put the effort? For example, you stopped early. And you put the alarm? Right? And the alarm went on. And you didn't wake up? A lot more than once if you woke up because you took the measures. So for her back to her she didn't take the measures. She was talking to her. Should she stop talking to her? That's the first question. Let's see what you all say.
This by the way, this is not only 15 You This is all of us. Could be a friend could be a family member could be anybody could be a spouse could be your husband could be his wife.
Stop talking to her talk to her. Don't mention it anymore.
Send a reminder.
gentle reminder she's making fun.
She's basically what do you
say that again?
Pray to make always number one, they do have Allah news, each one in this room? Who made dua for you and brought you here?
Don't you think you can I didn't come Allah I know someone behind your back. Maybe it could be your mother. Could be your father could be your friend. It could be your cousin somebody like that. We're going to have for you and the dog. And the time of the class you're passing by Ico as like, oh, today's Tuesday, okay, let me come. You didn't come or what brought you and this could be the DUA absently maybe to everyone you will see that they are disobeying Allah make dua for them. It could be your DUA the change that you feel bad about their disobedience, this could be their dua that will change. That's number one. Number two, when do you stop? And that's a general question. When do you
stop mingling with people who are disobeying
when they affect you?
Once they start to affect you, you need to pull back because we are not immune. We are not immune we are human beings. And I can easily get affected and shaitan will work on this. I will keep the relationship I will say that the sake friends I'll keep them as a friends as long as I can change them even gradual. Even if you come to the OSHA came don't say this should not get like it. Good news affecting them.
Right Brighton Salah time you say okay, I'm gonna go and pray. Don't tell it come and pray. Say I'm gonna go and pray. One or two follows you good news, you're changing. But if you feel yourself with them, and Salah time comes in and you're too shy to go alone, that's not the company you want to be with, because they are pulling you away. Being a cousin, that's a relative. Now this is a different story. Because that's sort of a that's a blood relation. I can cut it, but I can minimize it. Move away. Instead of seeing her texting her handler these are these days, right? Instead of honestly talking on the phone, leave a voice note. But don't cut her because if you cut her, you let her go.
Who will remind her at least you You never know, by the way, and especially for the youth listening to me. Sometimes when people make fun of you believe me, they want to be like you.
They want to be like this is one way of showing the insecurity.
So don't get affected. And keep strong. Keep going along and always ask a lot to make your key for a key for now, the second question is really sad. This is costly came from France because she said I'm from France 15 year old who wants to wear her hijab. She did the Torah. It's not allowed in schools
and she
She, her question was, am I a hypocrite? You can question look at it. You want all the youth here to think of this? This is a 15 year old in France. She said I want to do it because I can't meet Allah with an iron not obeying Him. Allah he this is her question. But I can't go to school. Should I stop scrolling? That's what's first question. Should I stop Code School? I don't know if we can do homeschooling. Number two, should I go to school? Take it off. And then when I come out on where it Amalia HyperCard, what do you tell her? She said, I am 15 years old. What do you tell her?
We have four minutes left. What do you tell her?
And see, what's the problem we have here?
What's our problem?
It's getting very hard in certain places of this world, especially for a woman because we are obvious blood ambassadors.
I know when I was reading the question, I was like, what did your parents put in you? That your thoughts? Determined? And you send a question overseas? To someone you don't know? And you're looking for an answer. She's sincere in the question. What do you tell her? I could.
This is what I will say if everybody will quit and not study will have a room that is completely ignorant. That's not what a lot want from us. Number one, can she learn outside schools? I don't know. Again, I can't speak about fast because I don't know. But can I? Is there a way and this is she's I hope she's hearing? And that can you find a way that he would continue to 14 year old young he doesn't even have high school degree yet. You need at least a high school degree. Right? Can you do it? Can you travel somewhere else? And I'm just giving solutions again, I don't know. Can you travel somewhere else? Can you go to Paris and you're somewhere else? And you finish your study? Can
you study online and finish your diploma? humbler? This possible? If all these The answer is no, there is there is a possibility, then yes. You come to school, you take your hijab, you stay in school, you leave and you put it back
and see what is our problem? What is our difficulty? I can do it I am not ready. Somebody asked me this lovely day. And I said just told me when will you what will happen so you will be ready. And I said that I am not making fun out. I said what is it? What do you need from Allah? That you will get to be ready? Ask him
and this is the questions we are getting Subhanallah I get this at least once a week, the struggles some woman are going through because they practice them
whether it is the society whether it's the family, whether it's the husband, and I know people the appearance want them to obey Allah and protect their husbands want them
I am not ready May Allah subhanaw taala make us all buddy. Your Lord ready for obedience ready to meet Him in the way that pleases Him. And may Allah Subhana Allah make us of those who will take really advantage of these verses these 100 elements of Hanukkah a lot more behind the shadow Island stuff a little cold today. So a lot honestly, you know, one or the other. He was highly tested him and kathira. Again, don't forget Friday and Saturday. We are running out of space on both days. So if you're planning to come, don't do what He did on some of you, I don't know not to some on the woman conference. They were outside they're texting me.
And I said why don't you wait and wait. So please register. It's free register. So you know, so we can plan accordingly Friday between model seven tomorrow and then after tomorrow we'll take questions and answers upstairs. The class will be here questions so we'll be upstairs and Saturdays from go to a puzzle. The seminar we have Sheikh Hasina on sorry, flying all the way for you. Honestly, if you just know how difficult was my allotting water, but she said yes at the end all the way from Atlanta. And she had to fly Sunday morning with the strategics on Sunday morning. There's a whole lot going on. And let's all go