Habib Bobat – The Fiqh Of Intimacy Part 4 – Liked & Disliked Times

			Previously, we spoke about the fact that the right to sexual intimacy belongs to both the husband
and the wife. And we mentioned that it is a misconception to think that this right only belongs to
the husband. Now, moving on to today's discussion, we are looking at two things. Firstly, how often
sexual relations and secondly, selecting a time for sexual relations. So as far as the first topic
is concerned, how often should we engage in sexual relations. As far as that is concerned, the
Sharia has not fixed a specific limit, or has not set a restriction on how often a couple may engage
in sexual activity. Now, this is because the temperament, the physique, and the sexual libido of
		

			each person varies considerably. Therefore, the couples should mutually decide what is best suited
for them. However, moderation is the golden principle. You know, having relations too often can be
exhausting and unhealthy. At the same time, if you abandon sexual relations all together, or even if
you reduce it to a bare minimum, this may be damaging and unhealthy to the relationship. Now coming
to the aspect of selecting a suitable time for sexual relations. Here, again, we have to understand
that the Sharia does not specify any particular time for engaging in sexual activity, it's totally
up to the couple, they may choose any time of the day or any time of the night, as long as there is
		

			no external factor, which prohibits Relations at that time. And we will be looking at those factors
in the segment. Now let's look at some of the preferred times and the dislike times to engage in
sexual activity. As far as the preferred times are concerned, the rule of thumb is that you should
engage in sexual activity, when the both of you are at optimal level, a time and the both of you are
relaxed, there is no tension or anxiety, and you are not thirsty, you are not hungry, because all
these factors can then dampen the passion for intimacy. So for some people, the optimal time is the
night, while others may prefer the morning period after waking up. So it all depends on the couple,
		

			some prefer in the early part of the night, because they find that that's the time when their energy
levels are high. And that's the time that they can engage in sexual activities. Others prefer the
latter part of the night, or should we say the early morning, and that's because they feel that
after a long, tiring day and after a stressful day, and they feel that they don't have the desired
energy to engage in sexual activity. So it's all up to the couple when they decide to engage in
sexual activity, but the rule of thumb is that they should be both in their optimal level. Now if
you study the sooner Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we find that Rasulullah sallallahu
		

			Sallam prefer the latter part of the night as opposed to the first part of the night. I showed her
the load on her narrates the Canon m overlaid the profit of a load rested out in the first part of
the night, while your hero and he would stand up in the latter part of the night to worship Allah
subhanho wa Taala. So main character was written in a Leopoldo hijo. After engaging in a birder, if
the Prophet of Allah had the need to engage in sexual activity, he would then come to his wife and
fulfill his need. So from here we learn that the Prophet of Allah prefer the latter part of the
night. And if we look at the benefits, firstly, your food has digested because you have given
		

			yourself enough time to digest the food. Secondly, you are fully alert and you are vigilant.
Thirdly, your energy levels are at optimum, so it's quite beneficial to engage at that time of the
night. Having said that, we are going to say that it's totally up to the couple, they should decide
what time suits them the best. Another preferred time that the scholars speak about is the day of
Friday and the night preceding Friday, that is the Thursday evening. That's because of the hadith of
Buddhahood, in which Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, men was Salah was tested our
attell. Juma, he who takes a bath and makes his partner take a bath, indicating towards sexual
		

			relations. So the Prophet of Allah is saying he who takes a bath, and he who makes his partner take
a bath. So in this Hadith, we learn that one of the preferred times is also the Friday day and the
night preceding the Friday and that is the Thursday evening. Let's move on to the final segment and
that is the dislike times the times in which we should not be engaging in sexual activity. So number
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			Relations and one needs to answer the call of nature. This is disliked from the sweetener
perspective as well as the medical perspective, the profit or loss allamani sentiment said now you
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I do komaba head nominal bowl for in Julio coonan Noah Slater, the prophet of Allah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam is saying that do not engage in sexual relations when you need to answer the call
of nature, for this will cause piles and it can also cause tumor. So yeah, we learn from the sooner
perspective it is disliked to engage in sexual activity when one needs to answer the call of nature.
		

			And This usually happens when couples are engaging in the middle of the night. People are lazy to go
to the bathroom, and so they engage into sexual activity. without answering the call of nature, we
should understand that it is detrimental to one's health, and it is ever heard from the sooner
perspective. Secondly, have an effect.
		

			Or should we say menstruation and postnatal bleeding.
		

			It is how long it is how long it is how long to engage in sexual activity when your wife is in her
menses or when she is going through her postnatal bleeding. It is haram for the husband to have
sexual relations with her. And this is because of the clear cut verse that we find in the Quran.
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here in our Rasulullah they are asking you with regards to sexual *, whilst the wife is in
menses say to them that this is both you should not engage in sexual activity, when your partner is
in her menses, they should wait for a period to come to an end. And thereafter they should engage in
it. So in this verse, Allah clearly prohibits a lot clearly prohibits the men to engage in sexual
activity with his partner, and he should wait till her period has come to an end. So that's
important to understand, the same ruling would apply for postnatal bleeding. However, having said
		

			that, it is permissible for the husband to take pleasure from his wife, as long as he does not
engage in the actual act. So kissing and fondling will still be allowed, as long as there is a
barrier between him and her in terms of the actual act. And those be finding the student of
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam, as it I shall do lo Thailand and the rates, it can be done.
Either kind of hard, even when one of us would be in our men says I'm not on how to sort of live so
long while you're still in desert is in familiar bear shadow her, then the Prophet of Allah would
say that create a barrier between myself and yourself. And thereafter he will then engage in other
		

			forms of pleasure. So besides the actual act, it is still permissible for one another to derive
pleasure, as long as that act is avoided. There's one factor that I'd like to clarify here, and that
is of a safety hazard. Now listen to this carefully, is the howdah is abnormal uterine bleeding. In
simple terms, a lady bleeds 10 days every month, but for some reason, her blood does not stop after
10 days, she continues to bleed after 10 days. So after the 10th day, that bleeding is known as a
state how the or abnormal uterine bleeding. What is the ruling pertaining to sexual intimacy in
those days. So the Sharia explains that anytime between the first and the 10th day, it is haram for
		

			them to engage in it. However, after the 10th day, it will be halaal it will be permissible for them
to engage in it to engage in the actual act of intimacy, even though she is bleeding. But this only
applies to abnormal uterine bleeding, it only applies to a stay. However, if you don't understand
the must Allah kindly refer to the books or refer to the Halima around you for further
clarification. And the last must Allah for today. And that is pertaining to pregnancy and
breastfeeding. Is it permissible for them to engage in sexual intimacy or not? Well, as far as
Sharia is concerned, when a woman is pregnant, or while she is breastfeeding, it is totally halaal
		

			and it is totally permissible for the couple to engage in sexual interest.
		

			Of course and that brings us to the end of today's discussion.