Fatima Barkatulla – Love #08 – I Have OCD, Is It Permissible to not Get Married?

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The speaker discusses the importance of treating mental health disorders and avoiding unmarried children in marriage. They explain that Islam allows individuals to remain unmarried and that marriage is an obligation for individuals. The speaker also suggests that individuals may be willing to try marriage with others if they have certain health conditions.

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			salat wa salam ala Rasulillah. Question number three
		
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			brother says I have mental health disorder, OCD. And managing my daily work is a difficult task.
Considering that raising a family will exhaust all my energy and the possibility of a child
inheriting OCD is very high. Islam encourages healthy children does Islam or allow me to remain
unmarried? So, as I said, many of these questions, the way I'm answering them is by giving you
pointers, pointers for you to think about not, I'm not prescribing anything to you, right, because
you know, your situation better. And as I said, it's better for you to,
		
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			especially with specific situations to ask somebody, a scholar local to you, but I'm just giving you
some pointers, right?
		
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			Some things that you might consider or think about. So, first of all, I would ask
		
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			the person who asked this question, you know,
		
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			can your OCD be treated?
		
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			Is this something that can be treated?
		
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			Have you done your best to get it treated? In terms of, you know, through medically, right, through
the mental health, mental health professionals and services?
		
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			Could your OCD get to a stage where you could manage it better? And that it would be, you know, the
the negative aspects of it could be
		
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			minimized?
		
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			Is that possible? Is that something you could work towards? Because obviously, that would be
optimal, you know, if you could get people have mental health issues, right.
		
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			And they get married.
		
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			It might mean that sometimes they have difficult times, right.
		
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			But you know,
		
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			people have difficult times, due to all sorts of things.
		
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			So the point is that, if you have some kind of health issue,
		
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			the first thing is to is to really try to get it treated, to the best of your ability right?
		
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			Now,
		
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			it doesn't make it impossible for somebody to get married necessarily, right? Especially if it can
get to a stage where it's manageable. Okay. Now, when it comes to the second part of the question,
which is,
		
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			Does Islam allow me to remain unmarried?
		
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			Yes, Islam allows a person to remain unmarried, like getting married,
		
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			is obligatory, if you think you will fall into haram.
		
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			Right? It becomes an obligation
		
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			for you to get married, if you will definitely fall into Harar.
		
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			But if you're somebody who can stay patient,
		
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			you know,
		
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			it's not it's not obligatory for you to get married. Especially if you have other reasons, you know,
that you feel that you don't want to get married, etc, etc. However, as I said, look, the marriages
from the Sunnah of the Prophet SAW Salem, and obviously, most human beings, for their own well
being,
		
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			for their own kind of peace of mind, and one of the joys of life is
		
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			marriage and having children, right. So before we write it off, I would say, first of all, please do
consider, you know, and do your best to get your condition treated.
		
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			And to get it to a stage where it's manageable.
		
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			If it can get to a stage where it's manageable,
		
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			okay, then it might be worth when you are, if you are considering getting married, to be open about
it, you know, in meetings,
		
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			because, believe it or not, there might actually be people out there
		
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			who
		
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			might be willing to accept that.
		
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			Right. But if they if they go into a marriage, like that,
		
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			with the eyes open, that's obviously going to be better, right? Because they can
		
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			Be prepared, etc. And the reason why I'm mentioning that is because, for example, I know people who
sometimes this is just an example, you know,
		
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			a brother has a particular health issue, right?
		
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			And,
		
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			you know, just know, in my extended family, somebody had a health issue, like diabetes. And, you
know, they had it from a young age. And I know, diabetes is not the same thing. Right. But I'm just
giving it as an example. And another person I know had.
		
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			Not I'm not sure, exactly, but a mental health condition, right.
		
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			I think it was, yeah, it was a mental health condition. And
		
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			basically, because they were open about the various conditions that they had, they were willing to
consider each other for marriage.
		
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			And from, from, what I can see, is that their marriages
		
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			is healthy, you know? Now, I'm not saying that that's, it always works out like that. Right? But
what I'm trying to open your eyes to is that there might be people out there who
		
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			are willing to consider somebody who has, you know, a condition
		
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			if you're open about it, and especially if you can get it to a level where it's manageable.
		
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			But you know, may Allah Subhana Allah make it easy for you keep making out as well, you know,
sometimes certain conditions they can
		
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			get better.
		
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			You know, I've seen people who had a particular condition for a year for a few years and then they
		
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			completely come out of it, you know, so it is possible.
		
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			I hope that some of the pointers that I've put there are useful May Allah Subhana Allah make it easy
for you in sha Allah