Fatima Barkatulla – Aisha (RA) – Mother of the Believers #3
AI: Summary ©
The speakers discuss the importance of the Prophet's name and its relation to the concept of a shadow person. They share their screen to show various examples of great grandfather, including the ones who passed away or were killed during the Battle of water. They also discuss the struggles faced by women during the early stages of Islam, including the lack of support and pressure to stay in their homes, the pressure to give protection, and the importance of finding one's own needs and values. They also mention the need for women to find their own values and connect with their parents.
AI: Summary ©
Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah dear brothers and sisters Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatu. This is your sister Fatima Baraka Tula. I hope you're enjoying my podcast. I just wanted to leave this little message for you guys, just to ask you please, to share the podcast to review the podcast and to give me five stars in Sharla just so that more and more brothers and sisters can listen to the podcast and benefit. And, you know, if you have any feedback that you'd like to give me, please don't hesitate to reach out to me.
I'm on most of the socials you know, on Facebook, Twitter, on Instagram, and also on LinkedIn. So do reach out and do stay in touch. May Allah Subhana Allah bless you all, May He grant you all your heart's desires, and may He bless you and this life and in the next. I mean the man amin Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
she was
peace be upon him. We love him so
our amazing father was
known as the true
shavon Regina smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam and I truly love this sisters. Assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. And welcome to the third session of
our class, the life of our Isha, or the love and a half.
last session, we was the second session, and we've started to look at some of the context around the birth of the learner. We looked at some of the titles that she was given some of the names that we started introducing her lineage and her family. And we also looked at some of the books about the lives of this hobbyists that are out there.
In Sharla, as in when I find more books, because I do have a lot, it's just there in all different places. I will introduce you to those books, you know, during the sessions in Sharla, and share them with you. If you have anything you'd like to share, please do as well.
While we're waiting for more and more people to join,
I'd love to hear from you.
Where, where exactly you're based. So if you could just type in the chat you know, the the cities that you're from the countries that you're in right now.
And then we can get an idea of the kind of makeup of this class.
Wow, so we've got
Oxford Hello Oxford, Maldives. London. That's where I am right now. Where Sussex, UK? Bangladesh, Subhan Allah
make home USA. I have no idea with eyes.
Which state is that? A state? I've never heard of that place.
Cardiff, Cardiff, Germany Subhan. Allah, Cardiff, Wales, Port Elizabeth, South Africa. South Africa, my god. So Hannah,
Croydon, London, Derbyshire, South London, Philadelphia.
From the USA, Cardiff, Staffordshire, Saudi Arabia, Mashallah Riyadh, Saudi Arabia, East London, good old East London.
Cardiff, Wales, London, Jeddah, Saudi Arabia, Michigan. Wow. Is it France in Michigan, Michigan.
I had a friend from Michigan
years ago in Egypt,
Wales, Philadelphia, USA
swanzey
Birmingham, London, Essex, Greensboro, USA. Wow.
Layton
good old East London
Mashallah, that's really amazing. That's just so wonderful to hear, you know, because
it's sitting here in northwest London, I have no idea where everyone is from. And isn't it amazing that the times in which we live, we can unite in this way we can literally have a halaqa an international halaqa it's amazing what shall
be offered.
And the thing that binds us and handily lies our is our Dean, Islam and I love I shadowed Ilana. So hamdulillah May Allah bless this gathering.
Thank you so much for sharing that with me.
Okay, and without further ado, I will
begin the class. So just to tie up some loose ends from last time. There was a heavy that we mentioned last time, which was
we were trying to I was trying to bring a hobby that will show how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam called a shadow villain ha
Morpher car right? That was one of her sort of nicknames motherfucker, meaning that the one who has to fake The one who has,
you know, who is successful, who Allah has given success to or given
intelligence, you know, tofik to. So
in that Hadith, somebody asked a question at the end last time that it was where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had said to eyeshadow, oh Ayesha, whoever from my own my has two deceased children had of him a lot will enter him into gender because of them. And she asked,
she said, I ransom you with my father. And he said, an expression in Arabic, which means, you know,
it's just an expression to say, Panama type expression, right?
And what about the one who has one ahead of him?
So one child who has died before the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, and the one who has one ahead of him own life. So he he called her my fucker in that instance? Because of her intelligent question, you know, an inquisitive inquisitiveness, her curiosity which led her to ask such intelligent questions, right? And then she said, what about the person who has no one ahead of him? Right? No one who has died before them, no child, then the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, I will be ahead of the one who has no one ahead of him. Meaning that and the word in this in this hadith is follow up. So basically follow it is like a person like a scout, the Arabs, when these two travel,
they used to send a scout a person who on a very fast horse, for example, to go ahead of the rest of the the,
what is it called? The
the rest of the caravan? Yes, the rest of the caravan, someone to go far ahead, to see what's ahead, you know, is there water ahead
to reach the city that they were heading to before them to prepare the people etc, etc. So the profits or loss enemies using a word in this heavy for the deceased child, which means, like a scout who goes ahead of you, right? So it's as if when a person has a child who passes away before them, that person that that child is like a scout has gone ahead, right?
And his has reached where we are all going to reach before, before we have right? So the profits are less alone. And it's as if that person is like a representative, you see. So that person is like a representative waiting with Allah for their parents. When the parents come, then they will be entered into general
because of that person or with that person, right with that child.
And so when I asked What about a person who has no child who died before them, then he says, I will be I will be that representative for that person who has no one because the Prophet sallallahu Sallam on the Day of Judgment, you know, he will be at the pool of gopher he will be the one who is greeting and welcoming his alma and his followers into gender. Right. So it's as if he is that representative who went ahead, right because he has passed before us. It's panelist so somebody asked last week
About this heavy that this deceased child does it have to be? Can it be an adult child. And I looked into this and I researched some of the shadow hurt the explanations of this hadith and said it is incident tirmidhi. And it's actually a child that is under the age of puberty, right. So it's if a person has a child has, first it says to children who passed away before them, then you know, under the age of puberty and in Sharla.
And their patient, of course, then
that child will allow will cause them to enter gender because of that, you know, because of the loss that they experience. And obviously, the difficulty how difficult it is to lose a child. So although that wasn't strictly speaking a part of, you know,
anything to do with that I shouted down, huh, I thought because somebody had asked it last week, we should address that question and answer it properly.
Okay.
And what I'm going to do now is I'm going to share my screen.
Okay.
So, can you see this screen? sisters, if you can just let me know.
The law Great. So I'm sure you'll be very pleased that I put together this family tree so that it would be much easier to visualize. So I don't know if you can see my arrow. This is the first time I'm using screen sharing. So I'm not very familiar with it, but can you see my arrow?
Okay, make the mouse Okay. Excellent. So, this is the this is just to illustrate
how the family tree of Arusha delanda met. The family tree meets the family tree of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Okay. So here we have, you can see here we have the Prophet Ibrahim alayhi salam. So of course, both the profits and the loss of them and it should have been and are descended from Ibrahim Ali Salaam, right.
Here we have. So there are a number of people between the Prophet Ibrahim alayhis salam and the mandala right. And then at Mora
This is where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam family tree meets our wishes. Because here, I've written here common ancestor that is their common ancestor. And you can see that moron he had three sons team
is the heart and Caleb.
So the Prophet, some of our son's family are descended from killer. So Caleb could say I've done enough
of manav He's the one who you know, he had Hashem. And so Hashem everyone who descended from Hashem is Banu Hashim, right? They were the bundle Hashem, abdomen. I've also if we went up here somewhere, had another had other sons and one of them is of the chance and then he had omiya and then the bundle omega come from come from that see, but it will may or are basically like the family of a boost of urine
or from on the line who etc. Right? That's just to get to get you to sort of be able to visualize it. And through the Mullah Stan Hashem came the Boo Hashem, right.
Abdul muttalib Abdullah, and then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So in other words more raw, or Caleb here, and I've written here, look, I'm the laziest father and grandfather great grandfather is Hashem great, great grandfather is alumina, and three times great grandfather his crusade. Four times. Great is keylab. So fifth time's great is more right? For our shuttle Anna. Her father is aboubaker City. Of course.
Grandfather is a vocal alpha and worker whose real name is Does anyone know his real name?
Can you type it in?
Anyone remember his real name of the law? Yes. of luck.
He been a pickle hopper but
it also has a real name. Oh is his real name.
What is half his real name?
Man, yes. Okay. So I will call half my grandfather. Great Grandfather.
I'm in the normal then cab and sad and tame.
And so Maura is her sixth time great. Grandfather, right. And that's where the profits are low. And it shows family cheese meat. So I hope that kind of makes it clearer. Would you say that that made it a lot clearer for you guys. And you can copy that in Sharla.
And what I will do is I will ask
the team from eliminar to,
to email that to you, and Sharla hope we can do that as a PDF.
But you know, I don't really want us to rely on PowerPoints, okay? Because there is such a thing as death by PowerPoint. And I've experienced that that unit myself, you know, like, we had this one professor who literally
the PowerPoint is just text and text and text, and he's just literally reading and we're all you know, our eyes are glazing over. Because it's very difficult to pay attention to somebody's words when there's a whole load of text on the screen, right? So sometimes, occasionally, when we need something a bit visual like this, I will bring it, but on the whole, I want you to take your own notes, please. Okay.
So that's
the first thing I wanted to show you. I wonder if I can share my
Yes. Here's the second
diagram I wanted to share with you.
Okay, and can you see this, this is basically
I share or abubaker sudip. On the lion has four wives, the four wives that he had over his lifetime, and their children just to kind of make it clearer. So let's talk about these people in this family tree or in this in this, the siblings of Arusha dilemma. So first of all, you can see in this diagram, so abubaker
he has his four wives, they were not his wives all together, right? His first wife was called Taylor bent Elisa.
She was divorced by abubaker.
And it's disputed whether she became a Muslim or not.
Her mother, sorry, She is the mother of a Berliner. Smart, right? The two who really helped a lot during the cage era, right.
Okay, and we'll talk more about them in a moment. Then we have his wife, Omoro man
and woman she married abubaker severe after becoming widowed, she had been married before.
She accepted Islam early. And she made the hedgerow to Medina
and she passed away during a worker's life in Medina and she's the mother of a Chateau de Landa and Abdul Rahman I should I should full brother right? I shall not the Rama and then we have a smart bento mais Okay, she is a great hobby. She migrated to other senior and to Medina. So she made to hijras. She was actually married to Jennifer in a polyp, right?
And jaffrabad every time he was killed, or he was martyred during the Battle of water, okay. And that is after one woman had passed away. Some women had passed away. Jafar passed away during the Battle of mortar. And so abubaker married a smart interface.
And later on, he said, a smart bento mais also married Ali Vitali after a baker passed away. Right? And her son is Mohammed bin Abu Bakar.
The youngest brother of Ayesha of the Atlanta and we said this Mohammed he had
a son called Kasim bin Mohammed. And that son becomes one of Asia's important students. Right and one of the Grateful COP of Medina, this man here, he had a daughter called Amara, okay.
And she might have been bent other hand becomes, again a great student of Arusha. You see
so
Of course we know a smart had Abdullah even a Zubair as Hassan. Right, and odawara
and they become great students of Russia as well, right?
So you can see a theme there right? Mashallah that I should have been on has brothers and sisters, their children will often key students of Asia or the line and she treated them as her own children because she didn't have children, right.
And the last wife of abubaker is Habiba bin Tada.
Kate, have you ever been taught a job? And have you ever been heard that she is an unsavoury? Yeah, she's the only one who's an area that work and married. These three are from the kurush, right? They're from Croatia, Croatia, and have you been taught is from the hazards tribe,
from Medina, okay.
And she's the one who you know, when the prophets of Allah Salaam passed away, and Bucher was not in the vicinity of the masjid. At that time. He was in her house, right. And she seemed, she lives in the outskirts, I believe of Medina.
And she had a daughter on Merkel thumb through aboubaker. And this uncle film was actually born
after the death of abubaker Subhana Allah. So Habib antologia, was pregnant was expecting
when abubaker passed away, and Uncle foon was born thereafter, so she is the youngest sister of Russia, or the law, Hannah.
What can we say a little bit more about each of her siblings.
Start with Abdurrahman, who's her full brother.
He fought with the mushrikeen in the Battle of butter
okay.
So initially he was not on the side of the Muslims, okay.
But then he, when he saw his father in the battle, he changed direction to avoid fighting him Pinilla.
And abubaker remarked, see him later. You know, this is the, you know, you must have heard this famous exchange between them that, you know, he, he told his father boubakeur, you know, I was avoiding you in the battle and I was avoiding you in the bottle of butter. And a Booker said, If I had had an opportunity, I would not have spared you, Savannah. Look at the human abubaker you know, when his son was against him in the battle?
He said, No, I would have fought you Subhana Allah.
He converted to Islam at the time of the Treaty of Abia. So that's interesting.
I found out that he,
during the Battle of Ohio as well, he had thrown down a challenge for a duel, you know, at the beginning of the battle days to have those duels just one on one.
And when he threw down the challenge for a deal of Bucher had accepted the challenge. And the profits and loss alarm prevented abubaker from doing that, you know, because obviously,
there's not, there's not a good situation. So,
also he
he hid in the house of Isaiah. Yeah, this is something that's going to come later on in Sharla.
At one point, because he was opposing a decision that
Malia
even Abby soufiane, the halifa after Ali Aglianico
or the halifa after,
yeah, after Halle, Atlanta
because he was opposing him. He had people off to him basically. And so, the man had to hide somewhere and he hid in the house of I shouted around, I will find out about that later inshallah. So, that's up the rackmount, even boubakeur. Okay. Just a few things about each of them so we can kind of contextualize them. A smart bins every bucket
here, a smart bit of you bhaker
She is the daughter of patella we said she's the wife of Zubair right then allow one
One of the 10 promised paradise, okay.
Both her husband and one of her sons were companions of the profits and loss of them. So the la mina Zubair she is known as Sunita Heine, the owner of the two belts, because what why is she known as the owner of the two belts? Can someone type that into the chat?
That's a little pain. Her parents divorced during Jay Leah. They have Joe helia. She was about 10 years older than Ayesha, or the law, huh?
Yes, exactly. So somebody has written in the chat that she tore her belt into two pieces. So during the hinge era of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. She prepared food for
abubaker and the profits on a law center. And she didn't have anything to tie the food up with so that her brother, I'd like to take it to them, you know, they're hiding in the cave.
So what did she do? Quickly, she took her own waist strap, so some kind of belt that they would use, you know, to tie their lower garment.
She She took it off quickly, and she tore it into the tube. And she used that to, to wrap the food so that her brother could carry it to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and her father abubaker. And because of that, sacrifice and that kind of initiative of hers the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam called her avartan lithophane and said she would have
special these special belts in gender.
What else do we know about her 10 years older than I should have given her?
Um, She is the mother of many children. Some of her children were Avila odawara and move their Sim, and Mohajer Khadija omole, Hassan and Ayesha so she had lots of children.
She was the last of the Mahabharat to pass away to Canada. So last of the Moroccan women who had traveled to Medina to pass away, she lived to the age of 100. And it says with all of her teeth intact.
She eventually did divorce.
So as Zubair in a worm, her husband, he eventually divorced her.
And her son Abdullah was as a hobby. And so one of the great blessings of her family of as smart as a smart family was that her son, Abdullah, was the only Sahabi who was Sahabi son of a companion. Who is a smart, who is daughter of a companion who's a banker, right?
So it says
yeah, there were that many generations of Sahaba in their lineage.
Masha Allah.
And so her brother,
brother, Abdullah, he's one of the early Muslims. Okay, so this is her, a summers full brother, but his half brother
Abdullah, even Abby Bucher, he is one of the early Muslims He is the one who would travel and take provision to the prophets of Salaam and his own father in the cave during the hijra.
He had a wife called artica who he really was very much in love with to such an extent that it seemed like he was neglecting taking part in some of the expeditions right some of the puzzle ads. And so I will bucker basically
told him you know, this is not good enough, you're neglecting your duties, you know, so, I think you should leave this wife of yours. She's distracting you away from
from Allah.
And so he was ordered to divorce have a abubaker
but he became so so sad. Bla Bla he would write poetry, in her praise in about his love for this wife of his Attica. And so when abubaker read or heard sorry, this poetry
was such sad and heartfelt love poetry that he felt sorry for him and
You know, he said okay take take your life back.
He was martyred
due to his injury in the siege of thought if
40 days after the death of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam during the hilife of Abu Bakar, okay.
We said about Mohammed even every Bucher the son of a smart that he,
he was not a Sahabi. Well, he was a baby, basically, he was a child when the prophet SAW Selim passed away, okay.
You know,
he, there's a category of Sahaba, called the Muharram. They are the Sahaba, who they were like, too young to remember seeing the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. But technically they were born or they were present, or the prophets, I seldom saw them. So, you know, they're not the same, obviously, as the Sahaba, who had lived with the prophets of Salaam who had studied with them, who accompanied him, of course. And so these, this category of Sahaba are kind of, you could think of them as being the highest level of Tabby, right? So the generation after this Harbor, the tambourine, or the tiger on
the Mahanama, like the highest level of those because they were, technically they had the prophets or Solomon seen them, but they don't remember having seen the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So how many of you have buckers from that category of people? Okay.
We said he's the father of Al Qasim Ibn Muhammad, and across him was one of the seven famous folk out of Medina, which we will go into later when we study when we look at the students of Asia. He was brought up in the house of Albion, Habibullah, we said last time, right? Which is really amazing, because, you know, when people try to make out but I Lila Dylan, who had some kind of animosity with abubaker, you know, and Omar and etc. One of the things that amazing things you'll find is they will all interrelated. You know,
Ali literally brought up the son of Abu Bakar, he married the widow of aboubaker. Right? If there was animosity between them, he would not have done that, right. And
so, and Ali or Dylan, who really regarded Muhammad as his own son, he made him governor actually, you know, during this carafa.
We will see there's some controversial things about Muhammad, even Abu Bakar seems that he was one of the people who were,
I would say, upset with some of the things that were happening in the time of earthman. Now, the Alon Horton, his khilafah. And there are reports that he was in some way involved in the, the siege of man's house right when his house has been besieged.
But that he was not, was not part of the actual, you know, killing of a man of the land who, okay.
During the caliphate of it under the law and who he was the governor of Egypt.
And he was killed by one of why we as men, okay, while we're doing it, Sofia and Adelanto, one of his men, Hamad bin Abu Bakar was killed by him because, of course,
he refused to
pledge allegiance to Maria
Muharram you haven't said here's the Mahabharata highest category of the highest category have been
too young to remember the prophets Assalam.
But, so usually, those who are under seven under the age of seven, they're considered to be mohanan. Alright. And then all mobile phone. Okay. She said she was born after the death of abubaker. So Dave,
she was married to boho, even Obaidullah, one of the 10 promised paradise.
And what's really interesting is she had a daughter called Arusha. I have been following her right. And this Arusha later on we'll see. She was also a key student of eyeshadow, Milan, her and people used to used to consider her to be like the secretary, Secretary or assistant of Ayesha
What
is basically a holla? Right? So Mashallah, so that's an introduction to the context and the family of body shot of Dylan. Hmm. So these are her two younger siblings. These are her older siblings, right?
And so she would have
during on romance life
abubaker was married to her and then later on, he was married to others. So that's just for us to kind of get a bit of an idea of her family. So let me know, in the chat if you if you feel that, that has helped, you know, just being able to see that diagram and
it's helped you visualize things.
Okay.
That's great.
We are visual people.
Okay, great.
Somebody's saying that the volume is low. Do you? Do you all feel that or is that is the volume, okay.
Okay, so perhaps the person whose volume is low, needs to put their volume up there and.
Okay,
so Alhamdulillah that's an overview of her brothers and sisters. What time is it now? Okay. So we're going to spend the next
10 minutes in Sharla. Talking about eyeshadow, the line has
early memories, and also her father, you know, because the blessings of eyeshadow delana sorry, let me stop sharing now.
Okay.
Okay, I just want to make sure everything is set up fine again. Okay.
So
the one of the blessings of eyeshadow, the land her or all of the things that we could say that were great about boubakeur, Cidade de la know, we could say about Irish as well, because she grew up in that household, right. And we said that the household that you grew up in has a huge impact on you. So let's talk about her father.
Her family was from the nobility. So that also makes a difference, doesn't it? A person who's brought up in a noble family,
family that has status in society, you can kind of tell, you know, by the way, I showed it on a spoke, you can tell from the way she has, I would say she had very high self esteem, right? She seemed very secure, the way she speaks the way you know, eloquence. And her eloquence is an indication as well of her nobility. Right? The fact that she comes from a noble family, well spoken person, right?
It will affect, you know, a person, a person's background affects all of that doesn't.
Her family were wealthy, I think that's something also to take into account because I was thinking Subhana Allah, you know, later on when she became when she was a widow, and she didn't seem to have any kind of attachment, you know, to that wealth that used to come to her.
But also it kind of is, it's quite interesting that she would have grown up in a house where she wasn't, she wasn't poor at all, you know, she wasn't in need,
which might actually explain why some of the wives of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, including Ayesha, later on, found it quite hard. When the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam insisted on living such a frugal life, you know, when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was given a choice between being a king, who is a prophet, or a messenger who is a slave, right? Allah subhanaw taala gave that choice to the prophets, my son, and he chose to be the messenger who is a slave. What that meant was that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam although he had access to wealth, he was on purpose going to live a very, very simple, an extra simple and extra frugal life, right and that had
an effect.
On the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as they saw the rest of Medina and the rest of the community, you know, their standard of living increasing. And they, they themselves were having to live a very, very simple life. Many of them found that difficult. And I was just reflecting on the fact that I actually came from a wealthy family, you know, where she would not have been wanting for anything from that time, whatever the norm was, have a have a good life, she would have been used to that from a young age, right, her father, being a tradesman, a businessman, a merchant,
and from the nobility, so that kind of could explain why somebody like I shut down how would have found living that life difficult. And inshallah we're going to go into that later. And we'll see that
you know, although she did find it difficult initially, when she was given the choice by the prophet sallallahu Sallam to choose between staying with him and living a very simple life, or being given a lot of wealth and being allowed to go. She chose to live with the prophets of Salaam, she chose the frugal life, and she chose that our header.
But this kind of explains why, you know, somebody like her would have found that life difficult.
She says,
I never knew
my parents accept as practices of the dean meaning except as religious people, right? So I shut it down. I was born into a household where parents were already Muslim. Her half brother and sister were already Muslim as well, right?
Some scholars say actually, Dylan, how was the 19th person to become Muslim? Okay.
And there were companions in for generations of it should have been his family. Yeah, we already mentioned that right? About under loving the suburb, especially
during the era of the companions, it would be said, Okay, this is what they said about the house of aboubaker that Eamonn faith has its households. And hypocrisy has its households. One of the households of a man
among the Mahajan ruin is the household
of aboubaker. And this is in Tamia, Rahim Allah, he mentioned this in Mahalia Jackson. Okay, so it was a household of a man. Again, this has an impact on it should have been on her and the way she was brought up.
Her paternal grandfather or someone who's a vocal Hoffer, right, with my Indian armor and armor, known as iboco have embraced Islam on the during the conquest of Mecca. So he embraces some much later,
as Dhaka she mentioned that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married no other woman whose parents both made his job other than Ayesha, and that she was distinguished also by the fact that her father and grandfather were companions of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam.
Okay, her paternal grandmother,
so a typical housewife who broke his mother, Salma bent sucker, even known as omal hire. she embraced Islam during the early stage of our
Okay, and she died to cheat embraced Islam before her husband. And she died during the philosopher of person abubaker.
So, I just Father bhaker, of course, he had a huge impact on our personality, right.
He was the first man to embrace Islam.
He was the greatest man after the prophets. He was the best man from the Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now, when you know that your father is that that has an impact on you and makes you feel you have to behave a certain way you must have a certain standard, right?
abubaker never bow down to an idol, nor drank a drop of alcohol before in his life more marital relations. That's amazing for that time, right? That is amazing for that time, because these things were normal for people right? buying two idols. Drinking alcohol having premarital relations was not anything is not seen as anything in those times. And yet Abu Bakr Siddiq of his own volition right had stayed away from those things and
That shows you also how similar he was to Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam right, you know, birds of a feather flock together. This is why you can see that they had such a good relationship and such a bond, right? That they were very similar in that they had naturally, that in their fitrah they will draw away from these flower HESH and, you know, evil deeds and things like that.
Her father used to free slaves and help the oppressed of Makkah. He spent his wealth and life for the sake of Islam Sudeep was the first key left as well we know that he was the closest companion to the prophet SAW Salam and one of the two in the cave, mentioned in the Quran. He was a wealthy businessman, he spent his time and wealth calling to Islam and freeing Muslim slaves. His home was a center of Islamic activity. So panel, I love that image, you know, of a home that is buzzing with Islamic activity.
And, you know, that's that's it, brothers and sisters or sisters, you know, I feel that we as Muslim women, we need to make our homes like that centres of Islamic activity. We don't need lots and lots of organizations, we need our homes, we need our families to become those hubs of our those hubs of, you know, activity. When there's somebody who non Muslim who needs to be invited to assign it's our homes that should be open to them, right on aid, when there are new Muslims who need support, it's our homes that should be open to them.
There are so much we can do from our homes. And I just love this image of abubaker and our children has family life, being a home you know, full of Islamic activity and one of the narrations and inshallah we will end with this and then have q&a. The long duration where I should have done her describes
how Abu Bakr Siddiq set out, actually, initially when there was persecution in Moscow, you actually set out to go to a senior he had intended to make your director other senior. And this hadith really sums up the kind of household she grew up in, right. So I want to read it to you on the translation.
So, even at Davina, he was one of the people in Mecca, he saw abubaker setting out to migrate to Habesha, right to migrate to a senior. And he was really alarmed by this because you know, when you see the best people in your society leaving, you think what's going on, you know,
there's something wrong, it's not fair. It's not right, this shouldn't be happening. So he went, he said to abarca he said no, no, no, don't leave, don't leave. He said I will protect you, I will give you the system that they had, you know, at the time where somebody can lend their protection or asylum or some kind of
it was like a type of asylum you know, that okay, you are you are under my protection. And if anyone has any issue, they have to come to me. Right? So, even the who said that he would give him that protection. And he went to the kurush the dignitaries of Croatia and he said to them, he's very upset. He said, Look, a man like abubaker should not leave his homeland, nor should he be driven out. Do you Quraysh drive out a man who helps the destitute who who provides the living for them, who keeps good relations with his kith and kin, who helps the weak and poor, who entertains guests generously and helps the calamity stricken people. So panela
and so it says the people of Croatia could not refuse even if doggedness protection, this hadith in Bukhari and it goes on Quraysh indorsed even adult in his covenant of protection known as jihad, right type of asylum or protection ensuring safety provided that abubaker would only worship Allah indoors, right. So that was their condition that aboubaker is not allowed to pray in public.
Okay, later abubaker made like a masala in his own home, right?
Like a messenger that Rama Salah, like a big mustard but just he set aside a part of his home as a Masjid.
And so he would be praying and people could see him, okay. And squarish began to fear
And it says in the heavy that the son that their son
might become attracted, okay? And asked even adult enough to stop abubaker from doing so. Okay, so they saw like, what would happen is abubaker would stand in prayer. And you know, he was so emotional, and he was so like his Salah, and this is one of the amazing things, you know, when a person of a man, a person of abubaker status, when they pray, their Salah is awe inspiring. The connection to Allah is so or inspiring that people would start stop and watch. Right? And so Quraysh got worried that oh, my God, he's attracting the youth, you know, he's attracting the women in the you
to Islam because of abubaker. So they went to Dublin and they said,
Oh, you know, you promised us they said, You promised us that if we would give if we would allow him to stay and and allow him your protection, then he would not print in public. So as an adult in a went to a workers house, and he said, Look, he said I gave you
he said I gave you my covenant. So either you commit to this or give me back my jihad. Give me back my covenant of protection. He said, because I don't want the Arabs to hear that I reneged on a covenant I gave to any man. Okay?
So even if Dugan is set to abubaker
abubaker set to open a document it should say, box is set to even Adelina he said take back your douar take back your douar I'm satisfied with the protection of Allah subhana wa Tada.
That was abubaker civics reply. Right. So but Allah Allah, you know, what an amazing man, what an amazing man. So I think there's a lesson in that for us as well, you know, us living in the West, one of the things you sometimes hear people say is, you know, in order to protect our rights in order to ensure our rights, and in order to ensure that we
narrative that sometimes you hear or saying, you know, we have to collaborate with certain groups, certain lobby groups, who have agendas that are an Islamic, right, and we have to maybe compromise a little bit might have to support them a little bit in their work, right, because we need their support, we need their protection, we need their support.
But their support comes with strings attached. Right. That's the problem, their support comes with strings attached. And those strings are against our values.
So I think this example of abubaker City shows us that actually, we instead of considering all these different groups, all these different people of power as being our protectors, de assisters,
we should rely on Allah Subhana Allah as our ultimate protector, right. And so Pamela is quite sad to see because before we have even really, in a mela, protect us all. But before we have even really had to suffer anything in the West, right? We're willing to give up on some of our principles and our values in order to seek some kind of protection from other human beings. Right now, the biggest downfall for us will be our sins. Our biggest downfall will be us being separated from our principles from not being a lot. That is the thing that causes us harm.
But if we make a loss, Hannah Island, number one in our lives, if we really believe that Allah subhanaw taala is our protector, then we can never lose, we can never lose.
Because even when we are persecuted, may Allah protect us from that. And we are winners, right? Even if we have to die for Allah sake. Right? There are many who have died before us. There are many who have suffered before us and many, many who are suffering today in the world.
Because of their DNA, because of saying like, in the law, Mother assala
are the losers. Now ultimately, they are winners, because this life is not the life the guilt or the goal of this life is not to live in comfort. Right. And I know it's hard to say and I'm not wishing any difficulty upon us. But what I'm saying is even before the the
smallest amount of persecution as the US are we so easy and so ready to give up our principles. When look at abubaker severe he was facing real persecution. He was facing real persecution. And he said to a man who didn't, who wouldn't allow him to pray in public. He said to him, take back your protection. And I'm satisfied with the protection of Allah Subhana Allah.
So dear sisters in sha Allah with that we will wrap up for today. And next time we will talk about the hedger of OSHA of law and her early memories, how she married the prophets that allows them and some of the issues or questions surrounding her marriage to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam
subhanak Alomar behind the shadow Laila into stuff, it'll go to Lake shallow, we'll look at the questions now.
If you have any questions or comments,
any tips on how we can make our homes the center of Islamic activity?
Okay.
Well,
I think
one of the things I witnessed with my own parents is, we actually moved house quite a lot during our childhood, you know, and he used to, after a while, it kind of annoyed me a bit, that we would keep moving, because whenever we moved, we would start in a new school and a new, obviously, you had to get used to a new area, etc, etc, right. But looking back, I can actually see the benefit of that. Because wherever we moved
my parents where my mom would gather the children of that area, she would invite them and teach them.
Right? My father would answer their questions, he would be the one who establishes a master that will be involved in the establishing of a Masjid in the area, or inviting him moms, you know, and allowing there to be qualified imams present in each Masjid.
They would teach us when we went to school, we would talk about Islam, you know, it was something natural to us. So that's just a little example of how a family can be like a center of Islamic activity, right? Whatever it is that your talents are, whatever it is that your community in your locality needs.
We as Muslims should not be waiting for some organization to fulfill that need, we should be fulfilling that need, right? So whether it means reaching out to your neighbors, you know, giving them gifts, giving them baking them a cake,
and giving them some dour material, whether it means starting some kind of project from your home that each of your children can take part in, right. Whether it means making sure that your children know about their Deen have a strong relationship with Allah such that when they go out into the world, they themselves are beacons of light.
Yeah, wherever they go. I think it's for each and every one of us to identify the needs of our local community, what kinds of things could we do in our locality that would bring people together, that we could invite people to Islam through, you know,
and that we could solve problems of the local communities such that people would be attracted and wanting to engage with us, right? We can't as Muslims live in ghettos. We can't live in silos, you know, completely shut off and thinking No, we're only going to mix with our own only going to mix with other Muslims, right? That's not how it's supposed to be. I
hope that's given you some ideas.
Sorry, can you please repeat the part about what they worried about?
What they worried about?
Somebody answered, they were worried that the youth and women in society would be attracted to Islam by seeing Abu Bakar pray with such crucial. Yeah. And isn't it funny that that's exactly the worry of people who hate Islam today, right. You know, they're always worried. You can tell they're worried that women will be attracted to Islam because of the amount of demonization that the topic of women in Islam gets, right.
Well, why sisters, if women knew
what Islam would give them the gifts that Islam gives them
A relationship with their Creator, a good relationship with men an understanding of their position in society, the ability to embrace their femininity, right? To not be a commodity, all of these things, right to have a real status as mothers as women, to be supported and protected from the cradle to the grave. These are some of the gifts that Islam gives to women. If the wider women, if women in wider society knew the reality of what it is to be a Muslim woman, they would embrace Islam, they would embrace Islam. And I think that is why I want one of the reasons why those who disliked Islam who don't want it to spread who see it as a negative thing that
are always demonizing the topic of women, women in Islam, because they don't want women to be attracted. And again, they don't want youth to be attracted, right? So they make religion and Islam in particular, look as though it's backward, etc, etc, etc. Right.
And yet, Angela, who are the majority of people converting to Islam, in the UK, it seems to be women. And it seems to be young people.
So that somebody completes What was the name of the man who tried to prevent them from praying in public?
I mean, even Davina, he's the one who gave abubaker protection. And the dignitaries of Quraysh. The leaders of course, they saw that he was praying in public and they told us in a duck in a tell him to stop because you are the one who's responsible for protecting him. You're like his,
I would say His representative. Right. And so, you know, you've got to stop him. So it was like that.
Smart smile, but was almost sugar. It seems that she was and that she died upon that. It's not very clear. But yeah, she was in remember, smart was the one who came and asked, Is it okay for her to, you know, welcome her mother and have good relations with her mother?
And the prophet SAW someone said, Yes, she should.
Sister is asking, Is it okay? If we conduct a class with our friends on what we have been? what You have taught today? Of course, I would love you to do that.
You know,
that's what we should do. You know, we seek knowledge. Do you have a bit of your own research as well as make it solid, make it you know, more concrete, and then convey that knowledge, especially the things that you are sure about, like my father, when I first started out, giving talks and stuff, I would ask him, like, you know, what things what kind of topics Should I stick to and avoid? And one of the things he said to me is, which is great advice. He said, you know, talk about the things that everyone agrees upon, the scholars agree upon, don't be a person who brings up all the controversial things that cause divisions between the Muslims. Yeah.
So the things that we we know about the deal, you know, and especially things like the Sierra especially, you know, Islamic history,
without causing fitna and without, you know, bringing up things that there might be difference of opinion on that will cause problems. We should, we should do that, you know, okay, so, that question that sister asked challenges you face while rearing children islamically there are many challenges, you know, what I think the challenge is, and
you know, the fact is that
the great thing is the assisters that Alaska Canada does not burden us you know, with
with more than we are able to do so. When we do our best as parents, when we make sure that we are doing our part, we're setting a good example. We're following the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu when he was telling us we are teaching our children the things that Allah has told us to teach them we've given them love, we've given them a loving home, an environment in which their mind can thrive. We've helped them to have good friends, you know, good social circle,
or, you know, made sure they have good schooling, whether they have good mentors, etc, etc. If we've done all those things, we've taught them core and you know, we've done our best then the
result is in a loss of $100 hands, right? We're not responsible for being the guiders. Of course, all of us want our children to be traded, but we're not responsible for the end result, what our responsibility is to do the due diligence, right.
So I think some of the challenges are challenges such as the media challenges such as the internet,
keeping children focused, you know, as they get older,
of what helping them avoid being confused by Muslims who are not very practicing, for example.
But I think the main thing, the most important thing that we as mothers can do, is to connect our children with Allah, you know, if you can connect your children with Allah by making them so they know how to talk to Allah, by talking to them about Allah, by showing them how a person relates to Allah, in your own example, in your own life, you know, when they see the way you react to certain things, then what you will see is that they will develop a bond with Allah such that even if you're not there, they'll know how to connect with a lot. They'll know how to talk to Allah. Right? And that's something that nobody will be able to take away from them, no matter what kind of situation
they're in, right?
Is this course open to all? Yes, it is. It is open to all. You can share every every week, when you get the link, you can share it with as many people as you want. Okay, so please do share it with everyone.
Did I should have begun to have any half siblings with my mother? Yes, she did. And I don't have the names with me.
Unfortunately, but yeah, she because her mother was married before she had siblings from that as well.
Think that's pretty much everything.
One sister says children learn from what you are
more than what you teach. That's true. You know, Pamela is true. Because just think about your own parents, right? There are amazing things that our parents used to do that we just observed them do not we didn't necessarily hear them preach about it, right.
Care to zakka higher interest aquatimer for the very informative session, and for answering all the questions that have been asked. We have a lot to reward you and our client to everyone for joining us. I know it's a time of very that we spend with our family but it's really important for us to keep our souls nurtured and Sharla the firm Islamic knowledge along the way
everyone and inshallah We look forward to seeing you next Sunday
in sha Allah so just like Kamala Harris you know everyone I'm I love your messages and it's so nice. It's so amazing to know that everyone is like joining us from all around the world you know, that's that's just great. And I would love it sisters if you would invite other sisters you know, to your homes, maybe make this a halaqa every week where you invite them you have this on a big screen maybe you know and allow other sisters that's one way you can make your home a center of Islamic activity right by opening your doors.
So does that come along here and inshallah next week we will carry on and we hopefully will reach the stage of the heater and at least you know the beginning of Medina next time. So with that said Shall I will leave you subhanak en la home ob handig bola Illa Illa and that stuff will go to Lake Eden Mubarak and salaam aleikum a couple of them in salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
Oh, I shall. I shall.
I shall. I shall.
She was
peace be upon him. We
are amazing father.
was the first
woman scanner.
She was in
third grade.
She was.
She was.
Ay
Ay