Fatima Barkatulla – 70 Major Sins #15 – Sin 25 – Deliberate False Oaths, Sin 26 – Injustice
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The conversation covers various topics related to the idea of "by the way of Judgment" as a major sin that carries on into the aftermath of the pandemic, highway robbery, rape, and sexual assault, and the various types of punishment. The speakers emphasize the importance of avoiding accusations and avoiding harms, and stress the need to address past mistakes and avoid giving up on others. They also stress the importance of being sensitive and avoiding harms, and advise parents to be cautious and write down certain things for reference. The session ends with a discussion of rules and addressing anger management issues.
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah.
Okay, dear sisters, I hope everyone is well.
Last time, we got to
major sin number 22. We just wanted to finish that off, I don't think I explained the idea. And when I looked back at the recording, I noticed I didn't really explain this idea.
The idea
we're makin and in the being in your hole,
it is not appropriate for a prophet to illegally withhold spoils of war, and whoever does so it will be held against him on the Day of Judgment, then every soul will be paid in full for what it has done, and none will be wronged. This was one of the I had mentioned under this major sin. And it might seem a bit strange, why is it something about the Prophet but basically, the incident behind it was this incident when some red velvet cloth went missing on the day of butter.
So, you know, after the battle, and some people began to say, perhaps the profit took it, the following was revealed, it is not for a profit to be fraudulent meaning to steal or to take
unlawfully from the spoils of war. Yeah.
So in other words, don't you shouldn't be thinking that about him you know.
So, do not presume this of him whoever defraud shall bring, what he has defaulted on the Day of Judgment, carrying it around his neck, then every soul the fraudulent and otherwise shall be paid in full, the required total of what he has earned.
Sorry, he should be paid in full, there shouldn't be a comma here, there are quite a lot of what he has earned. And they shall not be wrong, a single thing. So
in other words,
you know, this idea indicates that
it's not for profit or anyone to do that, you know, to basically fraudulently without
due process, taking anything from the spoils of war.
Okay, so that was the purpose of that.
And we were saying, you know, that goes for public money of any sort, you know, like, from the beaten and mile from the car, from those types of, you know, funds, funds at the masjid
etc, right. Okay. So, I think we started talking about Qatar
major sin number 24. From emammal, hubbies keytab Delta buyer broker major sins, and usually it's translated as highway robbery.
Like literally it means cutting the path or cutting the highway right? Like, into intersecting the highway or
the know what a good way to describe it would be what it's almost like you're, you're interrupting somebody's journey, right?
But it has more explanation to it and Sharla will go into that.
And another word for adultery is actually hiraga yarrabah which is the word that is used in this ayah and Allah says
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against Allah and His messenger and
do mischief in the world in the land, right?
Cause facade in the land is that they shall be executed
or crucified or their hands and their feet be cut from opposite sides or they'll be exiled from the land. That is their disgrace in this world and a great torment is theirs in the hereafter.
Okay, so what does this actually mean? Like you know what exactly
is
Is this sin?
So there are a number, a number of things that scholars put under this category, okay, that can come under the category of Atari or hiraga.
And
generally, highway robbery. So in other words, people know you can imagine that the time of the prophet SAW Selim, people will be traveling your traveler on this on in the desert, you're away from home, you're in a state of peace, you're a peaceful person, you're not out there for war, right? And then some group of bandits, typically, they'll kind of intercept your journey, and steal everything from you, or, you know,
hold you at,
well, not in those that I was gonna say, gunpoint and have guns in those days, but they'll threaten you with weapons, they would try to steal something from you, they might kill you.
All of that comes under this category of herrada. And, and there are different levels of highway robbery. Okay? Even like if people are on a ship, for example, in the sea.
And, you know, pirates, pirates are basically burglars thieves on the seas, right?
They come they take over the boat, they steal things, they kill people, they hurt people, they threaten people. All of that is a type of head robber.
But there are different levels of head either. So
another way of describing it that scholars give is terrorizing people on the highway, terrorizing people in Iowa, it doesn't even have to involve
killing or stealing. Right? Just the act of trying to threaten and terrorize people is enough to be this major sin pathetic.
But obviously, then, above that, and even worse than that is if the person who is terrorizing people on the highway, in their path or in their ordinary life, if includes stealing,
or *,
you know, under duress, etc.
that is even worse, of course. And that's why you're noticing that if there are different types of punishments, that an Islamic State or an Islamic hurricane, the ruler, the will the judge can meet out to a person who
indulges in this sin. Okay, so it's a crime as well as a sin.
You know, not all sins are crimes, are they?
Yeah, not all, not all major sins are crimes that the state will punish.
But this is this is one of those, that is also a crime.
And so, so even * comes under this, you know, hiraga.
And then if it includes killing, then that's an even
higher punishment for that, right? So for example, if it's terrorizing people, but there wasn't any stealing or killing involved, okay?
That those people could be banished from that country from that land, or they could be imprisoned, okay, it's up to the, the judge or the ruler, what he thinks.
If it includes stealing,
then, you know, there'll be punished for it with the punishment for stealing, which is amputation.
If it involves *, as well, you know, something similar. If it involves killing, then that person will be put to death,
executed and then even crucified, meaning
after exe being executed, their
body will be hung up for people to see. And it's obvious that that's the reason for that is
is a type of deterrent. Right? Like, let all of the terrorists all of the criminals in the area know that you can't do this in our land, right.
It's not going to be tolerated. So I think that was the idea behind it. Right.
So basically, it's up to the judge,
depending on the severity of the crime, you know,
What kind of punishment? So with *, for example, you know,
there are different factors that will take into account for if the person should be executed or not right.
etc.
Terrorism as well, you know, it's not the scholars put terrorism and when we say terrorism we don't mean like legitimate people fighting to defend their land, you know, people doing job. We're not talking about that we're talking about people attacking innocent, ordinary people, right?
We're all trying to terrorize them.
The scholars put this under the same category.
Yeah, and I already mentioned that in classical Islamic law is punishable with various levels of punishment. And these are punishments that, you know, the likes of Abu Bakr and Omar Abdullah and Homer meted out, you know, to people who indulge in this kind of terrible crime, because it involves multiple crimes, right. It impinges on the safety and the well being of people
and their freedom as well.
And this is a story where the scholar in Nairobi, he describes that when he was a judge, he says, some bandits were brought before me, who had gone out to attack a group of travelers, they took a woman by force from her husband, and the group of Muslims who were with him and carried her off. Then they were hunted down, caught and brought to me. I asked one of the movies with whom Allah tested me about them. And he said that they were not hardly being because her robber, the crime of waging war against sunlight and His Messenger
applies only with regards to wealth, not *. I said to them to all in it, lady, lady Rajon?
Do you not know that herrada against Ana is worse than hirado aggression against wealth? All people would agree to lose their wealth and have it confiscated from them rather than to see aggression committed against their wives or daughters. If there were any punishment more severe than that, which Allah has mentioned it would be for those who kidnap women
panela I thought that was quite an interesting
ratio, you know, of this Hardy, you saying that some of these are being a bit literalist. Right. And saying that actually no herrada is only is only got to do with you know, literally what
is usually understood which is that these bandits they steal wealth, right? And doesn't apply to * but but he's using his logic and he's using any class or extending it even further and saying, Look,
it's even worse to steal somebody on our right to steal somebody's sense of any the take away that a woman and all her daughters or, you know, and to commit aggression against a person's honor is worse than against wealth. So it should be the same punishment.
In fact, he felt felt that if it could be more severe, he would make it even more severe.
So Panama.
Okay, so major sin number 25.
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deliberate false oaths.
And the main idea that is used to talk about this major sin is in the loving and I wish there ought to be I had the lawyer who will Imani him feminine Khalid and hula
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Allah's covenant and they're ODEs for a fleeting gain. So they, they basically sell sell their Deen outright they sell selling out, will have no share in the hereafter. A law will neither speak to them nor look at them nor purify them on the Day of Judgment, and they will suffer a painful punishment.
So what is deliberate faults of what is a deliberate photo of it's basically swearing
about something in the past
dill and deliberately lying about it. So you know that it's not true but you're swearing an oath to say it is true or it is
a certain weight right? And then of course, especially in court, which is even worse, right? The Undertaker of this oath is sinful.
But really, there's no expiation other than seeking forgiveness doing Toba sincerely and writing any wrongs. So if he's sworn an oath to take away somebody who's right, he should now try to fix that, right?
The reason why it's a major sin is it combines two sins which are lying, of course, which is a sin. Right. And using Allah's Name, in a in an unjust way or in the light way. Yeah, taking God's name in vain as the Christian say, right. You're using Allah's Name. Because you know that Allah's Name is going to put weight onto your words. And you're using that to lie deliberately. Right?
And the word vamos
indicates intentionally lying, and it means being plunged and, like,
the scholars say it's like, it's because you're basically plunging yourself self into sin, or you're, you're plunging yourself into the fire.
Now, with regards to oaths in the future, like promising to do something, that's a different thing, you know, that's not in this category of
sin that we're talking about here, right? This major sin is about taking ODEs about something in the past, okay, while deliberately lying about it.
And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said about this, he said, of the major sins are associating anything in worship with Allah. disobedience to the parents, killing without justification, and taking a false oath, this sin, right, this sin. So you can see that was one of the big sins that he mentioned in one of the habits where he was, you know, talking about the major sins. Um, so Pamela, you know, we should really think about habits like this and think to ourselves, just check ourselves you know,
associating partners with Allah disobedience to the parents.
Killing without justification, taking a photo of disobedience to parents, you notice it comes up every time doesn't it? Suppan a lot.
And, by the way, before we go on to this heavy if, you know, the way that
this usually works is, you know, in Islamic Courts,
there's this principle that the person who comes with a claim
he has to bring proof. Okay.
And if he can't, or if the the person who kind of says no, no, it wasn't me, right? Who did this? They
they can swear an oath. Right? If there is no proof, basically, right.
So whenever there's any doubt, you know, the Shetty doesn't want to punish people. Based on doubt.
Even if that person might have done that harmful thing.
The shaman wants to err on the side of caution, you know, not to punish people without
without the
the witnesses the proof. Okay. So that's why like a person who swears an oath in court, and lies in a way they're using, you know, something that Allah gave them in a very unjust way. And they have their wielding power, you know, because they have the ability to use this to get themselves off, right?
When there's no proof. So, look at this, in this Hadith, Abdullah bin Massoud when he was talking about this idea, you know, whoever takes a false oath in order to grab some property unjustly. Allah will be angry with him when he will meet him. Okay. Sorry, he said this. He said this. Whoever takes a false sloth, in order to grab some property unjustly alone will be angry with him when he will meet him. And then he said, Allah confirms this through the eyes.
And then he mentioned that I you know, indeed those who purchase a little gain at the cost of Allah His covenant and they ODEs they will have a punish painful punishment.
I i've been pleased he came to us, okay, what is saying otherwise is saying and asked what is
above the Rama, who's Abdullah bin Massoud, what is he telling you? We told him what he was narrating to us. He said, he was telling the truth. This verse was revealed in connection with me. There was a dispute between me and another man about something. And the case was filed before Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who said, produce your two witnesses, or else the defendant is to take an oath. Okay, so you can see the idea is basically if you don't have witnesses to the crime, okay. Oh, to the, for example, that person borrowed money off me. You don't have any proof? And the person saying, No, I didn't.
And then
the idea is that Muslims are supposed to have enough quiet, right? That and fair enough, that they would find it a really big deal to lie.
And say, you know, I swear by a lie did not for example, take this might take any money. I don't owe this man anything. Right? The act of having to swear an oath should put so much fear into the person's heart, that they wouldn't do that falsely, right? They would actually say, Okay, I admit, I do owe you money, right? They'd rather do that than swear an oath and lie. Okay. That's, of course, somebody who is a, what does he write? But so Pamela, you know, there are people who are not, so
he said,
the prophets, Allah, someone said, produce your two witnesses, or else the defendant has to can take an oath. And he said, I said, the defendant will surely take a false oath, caring for nothing. And he saying, but he's just gonna lie, he's just gonna take an oath in life. And that's when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, Whoever takes a false oath, in order to grab others property, then Allah will be angry with him when he will meet him.
Then Allah revealed its confirmation in this ayah Allah shall then recited the above, divine verses, and
the verses are basically these verses right.
Subhan Allah. So
you see, that although,
you know, in a way,
it's, it's not a perfect way to get to the truth, right? Like, that's the thing about this dunya isn't it? Like, people, no matter what Allah's laws are? Okay, they're there to bring about as much justice as possible.
But in terms of perfect justice, I don't think that it's achievable in this world, because human beings are so flawed, human beings, like human beings are willing to, you know, go around the rules or use the rules in order to benefit themselves. So the Sharia kind of
presents the best way to come to the truth. But
you know, even that it's impossible for
for justice on this earth to be perfect. And that's why we need the Day of Judgment, isn't it? sisters? That's why we need a day of judgment. Because, you know, even if you have the most amazing justice system, right?
So panela human beings are such that
in justices will still be done.
No, you might get to a level where there's a high level of justice in a society. But perfect justice. I don't know what do you think? Do you feel that? I don't know about you, but for me,
knowing that there's a day of judgment, it gives you a certain level of,
of course, if hear for yourself, right on the Day of Judgment, but
in terms of like injustices, it gives you It gives human beings a sense of
any sakeena right, that you know that there's going to be a day when people who got away with doing terrible things, right. Terrible harms terrible oppression,
you know, that they never got their comeuppance regarding right? On the day of judgment. There will be a day of pure justice and nothing, nothing
You will escape the judge, right? Because the judge is a lot.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, also. And by the way, each of these major sins, you'll find so many heartbeats about them, you know, it's not like there's just one or two years or something like this, it's, you know, there's lots of different narrations. And you can go and do your own research. I just literally cherry picked one or two because
because of time, really, but they kind of these habits illustrate to you, I hope, the seriousness of the sin.
So in another Hadith, Sahih Bukhari, even Massoud
also said, that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Whoever takes a false oath in order to grab others property, then allow be angry with him when he will meet him. This added is just the last part of the other one, I guess.
You know, in a independent home, these are rated independently.
And that should really for a believer that should instill a lot of fear, right? Imagine turning up on the day of judgment because of some dumb, earthly
thing that you wanted, right? Someone's right, that you're trying to take away in this on this earth, imagine turning upon their judgment with Allah subhanaw taala angry with you? Right from the beginning.
You know, panela
Okay, the next major sin seems very general, but, you know, it is a very important thing for us to think about. It is an injustice, right? What oppression is usually translated as oppression, injustice, taking away rights?
Yeah, those are all good translations. So what kinds of things come under volume?
For example, consuming the property of others unlawfully.
So just if you can think of some scenarios, you know, maybe you've heard of some scenarios in your own lives where you've seen this type of volume taking place, right? So for example, I don't know.
Sometimes, you know, in certain countries, you could say, even the way that debts are collected from people, right? very oppressive in a very oppressive way.
You borrow something from somebody, and you use their wealth, and then you won't give it back?
Right? You borrow something from someone, they said to you do this, you know, please, can you give it back by this time, and you don't give it back. And you're uncontactable? You know, so Balala, somebody works for you.
And they, they did a job for you, and you agreed on a price.
And once they've done the job, you won't pay them.
Right, we won't pay them what you agreed
Subhanallah all of these things, they might they're things that happen every day with people, you know.
So taking the property of others, or
especially taking it in an impressive way, or persecuting people, or oppressing people physically, through hitting, threatening, insulting, being hard on weak people, weak as in weaker than you, right. transgressing their rights, all of this can come under view. So think about a parent with a child even right. Couldn't be room, a certain type of behavior can be evolved, right?
A husband with a wife, or even a wife or the husband, you know, sometimes there's been taking place that way around as well. Right?
or anyone you know,
who knows that somebody can't stick up for themselves, or can't fight back, etc. And they oppress them even children nowadays being oppressive towards the elderly parents. Right? You know, that your parents can't do anything to
to force you to help them or to force you to fulfill their rights. And so you take advantage of that.
Not paying people their wages. We already mentioned that
is a type of taking away their right isn't it?
You know, that's one that we should be really careful of like, say you've got a cleaner or you've got a song
But he has done a little job for you. You know, sometimes you notice Muslims take very lightly that somebody has completed a job for them. Right? It can be any job. I've experienced this a number of times, right? Where I've completed a job for somebody, we agreed on a price. And suddenly, they're just no uncontactable, you know, uncontactable, while you were doing the job, they were perfectly able to contact you and communicate with you, you know, while you're doing the job. And that's why you know, sometimes then, then people have to start being harsh, and say, Well, actually, I'm not gonna even start the job unless you pay me, I'm not gonna even start the job unless you give me a
deposit, etc, etc. It's because people now don't trust that,
you know, people will fulfill that person's right, you know, and pay their wages or pay what was agreed. So panela, we should be really careful about that, you know, there's a hadith that you should pay the person before their sweat dries.
You know, so the person has done hard work for you, before their sweat dries paid them. before they even like, relaxed, you know, after they've done the work, pay them and make sure they've, you know, got there, right, you shouldn't take these things lightly. So Pamela,
I remember there was this. I don't know if I should share the stories. I'm sure you guys have got stories, please do share them. And,
of course, like when we're talking about this is not just about sharing horrible stories about what other people have done, or what we see in society, but we need to take ourselves to account Yeah, and that's the whole point of this series, right? Taking ourselves to account and asking ourselves like,
Am I doing this? Am I indulging? Or am I going anywhere near this? sin? You know?
Am I being too overbearing on people, even children, for example, on your children?
Do you give them too much to do? Do you? Are you too strict?
You know, sometimes being too strict, can cause a child to then hit back later on, right? to rebel later on. Because it's too restrictive.
So yeah, it's for us all to kind of reflect on, but um, I'm just sharing a little story. And this, this might seem trivial, but I remember there was this lady who we used to,
you know, an elder member of my family used to give clothes to, to, so for us, you know,
and sometimes it were like, hundreds of pounds worth of clothes. And the lady would be happy to take the clothes.
And
and then, you know, she would sell them and then, but then it was so hard to get in touch with her in order to get those codes back
to the point where panela, one of the elder ladies who had given her so many codes to so had been trying to get them back from her.
And,
and then she died. You know, the lady who had given the clothes to her died. And then the family members just thought, you know, there's no point trying to chase after this lady now, to get back all of the beautiful, expensive clothes that the elder lady had given to her to sew.
And I was thinking so Pamela, like, that's, that's so horrible, isn't it? Like, that's such a horrible thing to have done to another person, right that you took on a responsibility. And then you knew that that person is elderly, and so they can't really force you to do anything, right. And so you just kind of kept ghosting them, right being uncontactable until that person died.
I mean, Subhanallah they died with you having their property, their stuff in your possession, right? Unable to get it back.
And that might seem like a little thing, but it's not a little thing. It's not a little thing. You know, we as Muslims, we need to be people of integrity. don't promise someone that you're going to do something for them or that you're going to take on something for them. If you can't do it, you know, it's actually better to say, no, it's better to say I can't. I'm really sorry, I can't than to say yes, yes, yes. And be unable to say no, you know, some people that just can't say no, say yes, yes, yes, yes. And then become uncontactable because you haven't actually been able to complete the job or do the work. You know,
Subhan Allah and actually all of us need to think about that right in our personal lives. Like, there are times when we all fall short in that last part that Allah forgive us. But especially when you're taking away somebody's property, or somebody is right, or you're oppressing them, this is when it gets very serious, right.
And you know, the armies of different types scholars talk about volume against Allah and volume against Allah servants. Okay. So volume against Allah would be
giving somebody else a right that belongs to Allah. Right. In other words worshiping other than Allah, for example, right, or revering somebody in a way that only Allah should be revered. That would be a type of or not fulfilling Allah Subhana dialers commands, right.
But the volume against Allah servants?
Generally, it's to do with their blood, their wealth and their honor. Okay. And this is what the prophet SAW, Selim said in his farewell sermon as well, right, the blood of the wealth and honor of a Muslim or sacred
so anything that impinges on a person's self, his life,
his wealth, property, his honor, his reputation, you know, these are all types of the so like, for example, under honor the scholar say things like, you know,
committing Zina or doing something, you know,
that impinges on that person's honor, right? with somebody, for example, his wife, with a biller, etc, you know, those types of things are volume as well, you know, committing a sin that then affects that person.
And we know that there's going to be a pace on the Day of Judgment. And this is very scary. The Bridge of Pantera, right, where
I believe even after people have crossed the bridge, right, the the
fun what it's called.
But even after people have crossed the bridge that goes over Hellfire, right?
You might have made it to the other side. Okay, you know, we know people will be crawling, either crawling or going like lightning, or going very slowly walking slowly running
across that bridge, when they get to the other side. Okay, they, they'll feel glad the people who get to the other side, you know, they've basically been saved from being thrown into the Hellfire, because many people will just fall into the Hellfire from that bridge.
But those who get to the other side, even they are not safe yet. They're not safe yet. Because there's another part, there's something else. There's a breach of contract, where people gather to take their rights that other people took away from them.
Any right that you took away from somebody else, anything you did against somebody else. backbiting, you know, that's a type of volume against somebody's honor, isn't it?
Or spreading rumors about them? Right, or committing some crime against them, taking their wealth, not giving back something you borrowed, you know, it could be anything, anything that you did, swearing,
insulting them, you know, even the scholars mentioned insulting somebody as a type of woman, right?
All of these types of things that we do that take away the rights of Allah servants, or impinge on the rights of Allah servants, fellow human beings.
at that place, people will come to us, even after we've gone over the bridge, they'll come to us and they'll say,
I want my right back. You owe me and we will have to give our sins too, we will have to give our good deeds to those people. Okay, until a person will run out, run out of good deeds. Because they've wronged so many people, you didn't vote to so many people in your lifetime that you just run out of the deeds.
And then you will have to start taking their sins on on yourself. If you haven't got the currency of the deeds anymore. You have to take their sin onto yourself. So pile Allah
until that person will be so overburdened with sin that now they have to go to the hellfire. They have to do their time, right. So Pamela, may Allah Subhana Allah protect us from that.
And the Prophet Solomon
described
people in that situation as being
worthless, right? bankrupt and worthless is a bankrupt, dependent. He's got nothing, no money. The profits are alone whatever sell them once
told us of a great tragedy of piety, so to speak when he said, Do you know who the muffler is?
Okay. On receiving the reply someone says somebody said always somebody poor in a home office, literally is a poor person who doesn't have anything doesn't have wealth, no property.
And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, No the roofless in my nation, my own map is He Who shall bring on the Day of Judgment, prayer, Salah, fasting Zakah, you'll have all these deets, right? But we'll come having insulted this person, having slammed that person having devoured the property of this one, having shared the blood of that one, having beaten this one.
And then He will give His deeds to each of them right. And when his good deeds are exhausted, before he pays his dues, their sins will be taken and cast upon him. And then he will be flung into the hellfire. So pal Allah
and suppiler one act word for them right for such a person. worthless, complete loser. Right? So basically what it means. And it's, and it's not funny at all, you know? But the reason why such a person, may Allah prevent us from being of them. Such a person is a complete loser is that you actually had good deeds, you know, it's not like you're an evil person, you actually did a lot of good as well in the world. Right? You were one of those people who kept this allows he kept there's a solid there song and there's a car and maybe you went on hydrogen he did so much. But
it's almost like it on one side, you're earning a lot of money. On the other side, you're spending so much that, you know, you don't end up having any profit.
Right. So along with all those good deeds, you're also insulting people, you're also slandering people, you're also
oppressing them, right?
So panela this is why it's so important for us to become very aware, and very kind of self accounting, self reflective and account ourselves. Because we don't want to be one of those people who can't comes in the Day of Judgment proud. Thinking handling, I did a lot. You know, I did a lot in this world. I was this I was that I gave talks I, you know, I prayed I fasted.
And yet, were negligent when it came to the rights of others
when it came to being nice to others even
right. So I think we all need to become really, really sensitive to this. And when I say become sensitive, I I believe that each of us should do an inventory. You know, I can't remember once we did an inventory where I literally sat down and thought, who do I owe anything to? Who do I owe anything to.
And literally, I remembered that there was a shop that I once had gone to with one of my kids when he was very little and he had taken something like a rubber or something. It was like a museum or something. And I don't really realize that he taken it when I got home, and we hadn't paid for it. I remembered that it could be library books, library books that we owe
the library, or something that I borrowed from somebody a book that I borrowed from someone and I told them they thought that they would they would get it back. And all of those types of things, you need to write them down, do an inventory of things, you owe other people, okay? And anything, any harm that you've brought about to anyone in any way, including backbiting.
And what you do then is try to write those wrongs.
So for example, with the book had been so long stuffer, like I've been so long since I borrowed that book.
I contacted that person and said,
Listen, you know, I've still got that book of yours.
Please give me your address. I'll post it to you, you know, post it back to you. And that person said, No, you know, I don't really want it anymore. Don't worry about it. So then I just gave it to charity. Right. But at least that's been cleared now. Yeah, it's like I dealt with it in this life. I've dealt with it in this life.
That Museum, for example, that rubber, I believe what I did is I phoned the museum. And I told them, you know that, and they, I don't remember what they said.
That's one way you could deal with it, you know, by calling up and just talking to them, or by giving a donation, for example, to that Museum, you know, just yet most museums, they have like a website where you can give a donation. I mean, that's just one example. Right? Well, you could give a donation to a charity, with that intention, you know, of covering that, especially if there's no way to kind of redress, or it's very difficult to redress the wrong that you've done, right.
But I really do believe that we should become forensic like that. Because as I think it's the saying of all my reading and who you know, bring yourself to account before you are brought to account, bring yourself to account before you are brought to account because we are going to be brought to account when it comes to for example.
backbiting, right?
You might need to judge that one. Because, you know,
I know that some scholars say that you should tell the person that you back bit them and ask them for forgiveness, right? But obviously, that depends, okay, that depends. If that's going to cause more harm, if it's gonna cause you more harm,
or cause that person will harm, of course, the situation more harm by us telling them you know, I used to backfire you.
Or, you know, if I've said things about you that I shouldn't have, please forgive me, if that's going to cause more harm than,
then don't do it. Do something else instead. And what you can do, for example, is
stop, of course, stop backbiting that person,
but also start speaking well about them, go around telling everyone good things about them, you know, praise them to others, to redress that sin that you did, right?
say good things about them, give them a gift, for example.
You know, fix that relationship, if you've got a problem in that relationship. And just make up your mind, they're not going to do that again, you know.
And, of course, repentance and CLE. Those are some of the things that we can do, to redress some of the crimes or so sins that we do against other people. Right.
But we need to become very sensitive, very sensitive, because we don't want to be of those people who end up
the bridge of contoller with all our good deeds, and I may just have been having to pass them all out to everyone who we've wronged, right.
Do the writing of the wrongs here in this life?
In Sharla, may Allah Subhana Allah help us? It's actually been a good reminder to me, because it's been some time since I did that kind of inventory. And I think it's time you know, you have to do it at regular intervals, because
as human beings, we, we might have righted the wrongs and then more wrongs are committed, right?
Okay, and just a warning. Lastly, about the blood of the mother loom. Right?
The Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam said, beware of the DA, of the mother loom.
Because there's nothing between him and between a lot. There's no barrier between him and Allah. In other words, it's the most direct type of da, that gets answered, you know,
it will definitely get answered in some way.
And this is quite scary, actually. And, you know, I don't know about you, but I've experienced this in the past. Where if I've ever gotten a bit arrogant, or I've kind of said something disparaging about somebody or some people, the type of people or something like that, right. Obviously, when I was a lot younger, right?
And it's a category of people that might not be
able to do anything, you know, they might be kind of
in a difficult situation, for example, then I've always found,
I've always found that I start having a problem in that same area that I was gloating, or I was showing off or I was saying something kind of negative about another group of people regarding
like, I've
literally experienced that.
And sometimes I think Is it because you know, when you say something in a very arrogant way, you might have hurt somebody and you hurting them as a type of vote.
Right, there's no need for you to gloat for Allah has given you a better situation than other people. You know, who are you to gloat
should be just thankful to ally and keep it to yourself, you need to show off, you don't need to put other people down.
But sometimes when we do things like that we don't know, the hurt that we've caused those people, you know, the type of woman.
And then those people might think something negative of us. And we definitely don't want them to ever make bias against us, right. So be really careful, you should all be really careful not to hurt other people, you know, because although like, you might not be the sort of person who makes the dial against others.
Some people might, you know, even if they might think it in their heart, they might wish ill for you in their heart, because of some hurt that you caused them.
You know,
let's all be very, very careful with all of that. Let me see if there are any questions. Just like when I Farren? Yes, I'm feeling a lot better.
Let's see, Rod. Yeah, that's
Yeah, I couldn't find the heavy on the vessel out in time. But yeah, after the slot, there is a breach of Pandora. Right?
If there are no questions or comments,
then in sha Allah, we can end the session.
So anything anyone wants to contribute? Or say?
What is the limit?
I don't understand what that means. When it comes to children,
you know, with, with this category of them, a lot of it is
things that we can sense, isn't it? Right?
We can sense whether we're going over the top. Right?
When it comes to children, you know,
I think the good rule of thumb is
when it's uncontrolled, you know, when you're disciplining a child, and you've lost control, you probably
don't over the top, right.
And then, of course, you know,
you need to talk to your children need to, we should also seek forgiveness from our children. When we fall short, you know, we've gone over the top with disciplining them or shouting or getting angry, or whatever it is, you know, we should,
we should acknowledge that, that goes some way to, to making it better, it's one parents go over the top, and then they never acknowledge it. And it just goes on and on for years, you know.
And if you've got anger management issues,
is something to deal with, you know, you've got to, we've all got to work on ourselves. When it comes to anger, when it comes to self control. You know, we all have different personalities, we have to know our own triggers and weaknesses and things that set us off, right, and make sure that we don't go over the top. So when it comes to Salah, you know,
you discipline them
in the minimum way that you can,
you know,
do it in the minimum that you can, that will get the results.
And at the end of the day, initially, it should also always be through love, right should always be encouraging. When they're seven years old, you come on them, you you keep telling them to pray, even if they don't pray, you just tell them, you know, oh, it's third time come and pray with us mate with them. Sometimes they might do it, sometimes it might not. You know, it doesn't matter. The point is, you're getting them used to the idea that there is this thing that's going to interrupt their day, right?
Or that's going to connect them to Allah
five times a day. And then if you're doing that, from the age of seven, then by the age of 10, my experience, they're pretty much used to it, you know, and they're pretty much aware of it. And probably you've put them in an environment where other people are doing it as well. So it becomes natural, you know, and they start doing it. You might need to wake them up for fudger that might take more effort, you know.
So I would say, you know, if you if you're doing all of that, you probably don't need to
Yeah, harsh, you know, we shouldn't be harsh.
If an older child is then refusing or something like this, then
You know, again, it has to be done with a lot of hikma, because we are living in a city in a country and an place where
it's very easy for children to run away,
you know, literally, in the sense that
to kind of leave the dean,
the society around us will not care if they leave the deem, right? Or if they distance themselves from their parents.
So, because of that, I think in our context, we have to be very careful, and we have to be very caring and loving and do things in a much more wise way, you know, then people may be used to do back home, you know, etc, or our parents generation, etc.
But there's no harm in making Salah one of the rules of the house, okay? So just like, a rule is that you have to brush your teeth. Okay, like you do not tolerate that your children do not brush their teeth, do you? If you do, you probably got really bad dental bills, you know, and your pet, your kids probably got really bad teeth.
But if you are kept, most parents will not tolerate that their children don't brush their teeth twice a day, right? Most parents will not tolerate that. When a child gets into a car, they have to wear their seatbelt.
It's just a rule of our house, you know, it's just a rule, you have to do it. So in that same way,
Salah is a rule, especially when they get to above 10 it becomes one of the rules of the house, one of the things that we all do.
And so, just like we would, you know, be quite firm on
brushing teeth, and wearing seatbelts.
The Salah is even more important than that, right? So, of course, this is assuming that we've explained to our children, the why right of Salah, connecting with Allah or being Allah, worshipping Allah, and over over the years would have built their relationship and love for Allah right.
After that,
you know, if there's a child has being lazy, there's a child who just doesn't want to follow the rules. Just like with any other rule, you would say no, no, this is one of the rules. You got to do this, okay, we're, this is our family. This is the identity of our family. This is what we do. We are from the mausoleum. We want to be people who Allah loves on the Day of Judgment. And this is a rule of our house palace. Right? And you do like that? I think that's helped.
Okay, just like Kamala Harris I'm gonna end the session subhanak Allah whom I will be handing shadow Allah ilaha illa Anta stuff you got water to be like salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah Hema. Bye wabarakatuh