Fariq Naik – Criteria for Selecting a Life Partner for My Son Fariq who is a Daee
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The speaker discusses the importance of following Islam, including following the rules of religion, finding a partner, and being a full-time version of oneself. They stress the importance of personal attributes such as wealth, lineage, and religion, and provide examples of relevant points. The speaker emphasizes the importance of following these guidelines in life, including having a passion for religion, being fluent in English and Arabic, and being a half of the original title. They stress the importance of following these guidelines in life, and provide examples of relevant points.
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The second question
from Muhammad Yunus, Mumbai, India,
masha Allah, you have a family of Dinesh,
what would be the criteria you would look for? While selecting a
life partner for your son Farik considering he's also the
brother Mambo, Julius has posed the question that what would I
look for a life partner if I have to choose the life partner, for my
son five equals a day? Number one,
the choice will depend on my son, not on me. Because my son would be
leading a life with his right.
He should select the right one. But naturally, I being a father
can give guidelines because of experience. If I was to guide my
son, and you're aware of the criteria, and we discussed this,
many times Alhamdulillah we are on the same wavelength. And the
reason is because of my wife, whatever my son today is, and my
daughter's maximum credit, you could say 80% or more, goes to my
wife, and oppose this question very often. That when is the
latest?
You would like to plan for the future of your son. To some people
say I would like to plan maybe when my son goes in university or
my daughter goes in university. Some people say when you go to
college, some would say in school, some would say I would plan for my
children when they enter nursery, but Islamic Methodist and Islamic
criteria is that the latest you plan not nearly latest is when you
select a life partner. When you select a life partner, then you're
planning how would you want your children so I wanted my children
to become dive. That's the reason I selected the year. I wanted them
to be religious, that is the reason I selected a religious
girl.
And today, most of the people think that my children are di e
then Alhamdulillah I had in the field of Dawa and Islam
Alhamdulillah because of me, if percentage wise I forgive myself
50% Due to my wife 100 My guidelines there my support is
there everything is there, but the credit goes to my wife. But coming
to the question, what are the criteria that I would see or look
for? In a life partner for my son FEYERICK was a die? As I mentioned
in my earlier answer, our beloved prophet masala Salam said
inside Buhari wire number seven, Hadith number 5090. And the same
Hadith repeated in say Muslim, while number four Hadith number
3635. Abu Huraira Mala BP, the team said that Prophet Muhammad
peace be upon said that women
are chosen for four things in marriage, when you marry a woman
or look for four things.
Wealth,
lineage, nobility,
beauty
and religion to the for her religion. But the prophet said
though people look for four things in a life partner while choosing a
woman for marriage.
Wealth, lineage,
beauty, and religion. Choose her for religion the best is religion.
And as
I mentioned earlier, that I would tell my son, that while choosing a
life partner, see to it that you give 95% weightage to religion.
The other three
are time bound mainly for worldly things. Religion Hardeen is for
the hara, and for the fold. And Allah Subhana Allah says in the
Quran, that if you seek for this world, Allah will give you this
world but not the akhira if you seek for Kira, Allah will give you
Accra and this world as far as the wealth is concerned, I would not
like my son, to use the wealth of his wife for delivery.
He should be a man he should look after himself. He is the one. So
what difference does it make whether the girl is rich or poor.
So as far as the wealth is concerned, there is no waiting at
all. Only thing you should be careful that poor achieve, the
better it is, the richer she is, it is difficult, but if she's
extremely rich, then you have to be careful. If she's extremely
rich and used to that luxury of life, she may be a billionaire's
daughter, then I would say, Be careful unless a dean is 100 out
of 100 Then maybe she would not care for the wealth that she has.
But otherwise, if she's too wealthy, you have to be careful
you may not be able to take care of
For the poor or the better, so the weightage for the wealth is zero
but only be careful that she's not actually marriage is for the
better if she's nominal, so no problem britches oh no problem but
not too rich or excessively rich.
Point number two, the lineage of the family
I would say that makes no difference, but if you're coming
from a religious family make it a very small, maybe half percent
weightage according to me, if it is good, but whether it is or not,
the deen is more important, some people from the very good family
may not be good, we have the examples of children of the Amir's
of messengers, who Mushriks you have examples of children and
mushriks, who became messengers. So your body the example. So
lineage is important, but not that much, I would hardly give any
mutation that maybe half percent.
As far as beauty, she should not be repulsive, but natural medicine
should like and beauty differs. It's in the eye of the beholder,
and everything is in the mind. So I would say okay, you can give
about maybe three or 4% marks of beauty 95% minimum should be 14.
This is what our guidance and this is what I believe everybody
believes in regarding the criteria and the requirement, but
naturally, the basic requirements that are Muslimah should be
in the criteria,
I would have eight criteria which are compulsory. Number one, she
should be a practicing Muslim Ummah, following Islam as per the
Glorious Quran, and the Hadith, and she should do all the fries. I
repeat, the first criteria and the most important is she should be a
practicing Muslim who follows Islam as per the teachings of the
Glorious Quran and the say Hadith and she should do all the
all the all Tawheed Krishna Taqwa she should pray five times a day.
She should give Zuckerberg if she has to give, she should first in
the month of Ramadan. If she has to do it, she should do it. Hijab
and all these can speak for us together. Number two, she should
abstain from all the Haram activities. All the major sins all
the minor sins as much as possible but natural. If it's one or two
minus and no human being can say that he does not send it all.
But Abstain from all the major sins, abstain from all the sins if
possible, almost all
number three, she should be virtuous and do as much as mazahub
as much as Sunnah of the Beloved Prophet masala Salah
third is a virtuous girl
who follows as much as sunnah of the Prophet does as much as
mazahub What is recommended in the Quran and say Hadith
that is,
article 11 should be high.
Believe Tauheed
besides the fight times Salah she should offer the title salah, she
should pray the sooner the Makkah descended the yarmulke she should
give charity besides the first zakat. Beside fasting in the month
of Ramadan, she should fast the day of alpha.
First, the first nine days of Zilla Jaya the three days of moram
910 11 She should keep the six last Prof. Chawan she should fast
three days that aim will be every month should be faster on Monday
and Thursday and so on and so forth.
As much as of the stock as possible, as much as virtuous as
possible.
And you can speak for us together on the third point.
The fourth point is she should have the passion for Dawa and
spreading the message of Islam amongst the Muslims anonymous
passion
for Dawa and spreading Islamic teachings. Fourth point, fifth
point she should encourage and support her husband that is my son
for doing Java completely that we should support in all the
activities of my son she should completely support and encourage
and help him in all of our activities.
Number six, she should be willing
to lead a simple life which is non lectures. Inshallah. My son's life
is quite comfortable. But if required for the sake of Islam,
she should be able to sacrifice all comforts.
Seventh, she should be fluent in English. Because my son is
Sudanese you
And he would want how to be fluent in English. The eighth is she
should be willing to settle in Malaysia or wherever my son would
shift, but his plans are to stay and live in Malaysia. So she
should be willing to settle in Malaysia, these are the eight
compulsory criteria. If I would mention the criteria for selecting
life partner for myself, as far as the criteria which are very
important, but not compulsory number one would be I would want
her
to be fluent in fossa, Arabic, the classical Arabic, the Arabic of
the Quran, she should be fluent.
And that
the reason is that I would want my children to be fluent and Arabic.
My son knows Arabic fluently fossa, I would want his wife to
know so that the children are fluent in English and Arabic,
both.
Number two,
she should be a Daya.
She should propagate Islam, to the non Muslims, and the Muslims.
Number three,
she should have a bachelor's degree in any of the Islamic
Studies,
whether it be Islamic studies in general, or in Sharia, or in Quran
or Hadith.
These are preferable, not compulsory, if little bit is less
or more no problem, but preferably the third Bachelor's in Islamic
Studies. The fourth is I would also want her to be a half of the
Quran.
My son had half either want to be office on the children also office
and being half as is preferable for our
number five, she shouldn't be associated with an Islamic
organization.
And number six, that she should have watched
many of the English speaking days so that she knows
what is Java and
what is the surrounding atmosphere. So these are the six
additional points which are not compulsory, but preferable if one
is missing, or a little bit less, doesn't matter, but there are
eight compulsory points. And there are fixed, highly recommended
preferable points that I would look for in a life partner for my
son. These are the main criteria, the initial, of course, is there,
that there are many additional points, for example, the culture
should match. And the other things are there you can't expect a
Chinese to live with an African can if the first aid criteria are
95 or above in Max. And if the additional points six are very
good, then the other things can be compromised. The culture differs
between the people. So these things are with a secondary and
tertiary. But the first compulsory points I've mentioned it, then the
six points and the points are later on. So this was in brief
what I would look for in life partner for my son Farik hope that
answers the question.