Faith IQ – What Should I Do When A Person Backbites About Someone To Me

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Backbiting is without a doubt a major issue in our religion. It has been said that backbiting is equivalent to eating the flesh of your dead brother. There comes a time where you may find yourself in the situation where the person you are with is backbiting about someone to you. How must you handle this situation?

Shaykh Yahya Ibrahim answers.

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The speaker discusses the importance of avoiding negative language in relationships. They suggest that people should avoid talking about others and encourage others to talk about them directly. They also suggest addressing people who may be struggling with addiction by offering assistance and reminding them to avoid offense at them.

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			What should I do? And how do I react to someone talking negatively about me talking backbiting about
other people's to me?
		
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			I think that's, you know, a very serious question that at one point or another, all of us have felt
it, three things that you need to do one, don't answer back and don't, don't engage in it, because
you don't want to add fuel to the fire. Number two, keep in mind that the one who talks to you about
others is going to talk to others about you. Number three, recognize that this is a sin. And it's
something that you need to assist them to stop, it doesn't necessarily have to be stopped brother,
or stop sister, you know, a red card or something you you've gone overboard, but it could be that
you just deflect the conversation to something else. And you just, you know, you know, you flow like
		
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			water out of it, and you just help them to overcome it, you don't make a comment about and you say,
oh, did you know, oh my gosh, I just remembered, you know, Subhan, Allah, this has just come up. And
that way you've assisted them. And maybe it's not directly an insult. But if you find that this has
become a regular habit and trait with that person that they just want to talk to you about someone
else, it might be something where you do need to pull them up, and you need to speak to them very
directly and say, you know, it actually makes me feel a little bit uncomfortable when you speak
about this other person. You know, I know them really well. And I know some of the things that you
		
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			might say are true. And this is what the Prophet told us. You're not I know you're not lying about
them. But if you really had such a big problem with them, maybe you should say to them, or in front
of them. The second, you know, second thing additional to that is to remember that some people you
just can't cure and some people will never get better. And you might want to consider what kind of
protections you'll make for yourself so that you are not the next object subject to being spoken
about in some other setting, or whether that friendship is actually a friendship