Edris Khamissa – Tap into your potential – 06.11.2014

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Hello masala, no Mahabharata and mashreq on radio Islam
international it is Thursday morning and inshallah, as you see in our program this morning, we are
going to get hold of the Idris camisa and inshallah have an interesting discussion on social issues
with increased buy in Sharma has is. Yes, a lot has been happening around the world and lots of
discussion on different issues. We've been talking, we've been deliberating, we've been messaging
and we've been planning and preparing for many, many different things around the world and around
our lives. And it seems that time is so short time so scarce that we don't find time even for
		

			ourselves, we don't find time for our families. And yes, we don't find time.
		

			There's no weekends, left to make any appointments for anything. Because we are so busy and we are
so involved. This is a idiom it is a sign of, we have to make sugar to Allah subhanho wa Taala
		

			and really have to be thankful that Allah subhanho wa Taala has blessed us with the amount of
freedom they allow freedom of religion, Allah Allah has blessed us with the Nirvana of good health,
and has given us the means. So that we can travel we can eat, we can sleep we can do many different
things. And so really make sure to Allah subhanaw taala in the face of all of this and important and
important part of making sugar so must be handled at least to share
		

			with every single human being not only ourselves, not only in our circle machines, but every single
human being make sure because from us panels and array sharing was the creation of Allah subhanho wa
Taala Well, we just going to check we have lovies camisa on the line of salaam aleikum wa
rahmatullah wa barakato walaikum salam wa rahmatullah wa barakato, my most beloved, maulana,
speaking to you from a sunny Durban, Shangri La, it's always good to context I pray that you are
well, and I think that the subsequent years are the best years of your life and the best moment in
your life will be the day Allah calls you back. I mean, I mean, I mean, it is very generous among
		

			the the social cases are basically the discussion that we have been having in this first half hour
is regarding time and regarding using our time correctly regarding the busy lives that we are
having,
		

			running now, and basically so occupied with so many different things that are happening, not even
finding time for ourselves, and they spoke a little bit about time, and about me using our time
productively, perhaps you could you could enhance our discussion and a treat inshallah. Yes,
		

			I'm so glad you're talking about that. You meet any person today, they say there's no buck, I know
it's time. But yet when you have to scrutinize how we spend our time, every day, we find that a fair
amount of our time is spent on inconsequential things. And we do not do things that are fundamental
for our existence and what our purpose is. And it is important I always have with me every day, I
have a diary for I said, put a priority what I need to do today. And if you don't do that, then
you'd be busy, be busy doing lots of stuff, but none of it is productive. And that, to me is
critical. And I think that what we need to do is get a balance in our life. And part of the time
		

			should be used in terms of our relationships with our loved ones, our relationships,
		

			with people at workplace, and so on and so forth, and that we don't forget their purpose. And it's
so so important that we don't always say Tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow, we're going to do things and
and it's something that is very, very sad that sometimes even when there is a near tragedy in your
own home or in the neighborhood, some of the other It seems so difficult for us to give our total
focus on these things. So time is the time loss is time never regained and is fundamental how we
utilize our time how we maximize our time, Alana
		

			looking at
		

			the average person who
		

			is sometimes looking for things to pass time, we should look away from looking for things to pass
time, but rather look for things to make our time more productive. Absolutely. I mean, these are
these sometimes is so caught up to CCA to satisfy our legend in life for a domestic life. That you
know for a true believer for a true believer. He fought
		

			To be so involved in uplifting his life uplifting the life of the oma. And when he sees that we're
not shining, I can understand that when he is spending his time meaningfully. In fact, you know, he
is not, it is ironical to say, don't get your work done, ask a busy person because he understands
the value of time immediately, for her personally relationally. Like, nothing is important because
he doesn't take his own life seriously. Why would he take your life seriously? Why would he want to
filter and obligations that he might have made? And that is fundamental. I mean, we look back at our
own lives. People say, gosh, I can't believe it. I'm already 60 years old, 62 years old, whatever it
		

			is, I cannot account for my time. But I think when people need to do and they say, you know,
brother, I'll not forget how you made a difference to my life. Or the family says, you know, you've
been an inspiration to me, you reminded me about Allah, the beloved liver cells, and we know you are
you got involved in in productive things. And the thing is, this is an important thing that our time
should be how best we cannot be the oma how we can develop automatic consciousness. And that is a
fundamental that is very fundamental. And one of the things that I've learned from my own life, just
purely anecdotal. And I find that people whenever people ask me for help whenever I can help them, I
		

			would help them in the counseling beats in any other way. If I can do it, I would do it and and I
find that by doing this, we are alive, so merciful, Allah is your partner in your time you know, and
Allah opens your your risk in the organization easy for you, because Allah is pleased with those
individuals that are using the time to help the homeless. But then there are those who hooked up for
seven nonresistance pain in day out day in and day out. And what you hear from them is frustration
what hear from them their issues their family, the family says that I have not been relevant enough
I spoke to my father and you find the issue the community people don't see them at all. But then you
		

			have those you have some intellectual who utilize the time optimally and maximize the time they find
their hunger they always have a smile on their face. They have resigned the sudden the color and
these benefits in whatever they do.
		

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			being so busy or being so caught up in those things that they don't even benefit
		

			via Sorry, can you can you hear me?
		

			Okay, it seems like it is sunny, she cannot hear me. Clearly it is very rare. I'm back I'm Alana
they can say whatever they want to do to separate us and on and ours is a true love mother.
		

			So we connected on Leila
		

			Mashallah,
		

			you're you're speaking about
		

			those people who wile away the time and don't even give time to their, to their own families. And
sometimes days go by and the person hasn't really spent a quality hour with his children.
		

			Yes, you know, one another view that is so true. And you find that, you know, especially in this day
and age, this is becoming a recurring problem. You know, one second understand when fully exposed to
the stresses of modernity, modern life, and when they come home, the family is pining for them. They
say that he never never spends time with me doesn't talk to me doesn't play with me. And you find
that these parents really, you know, they need to re engage themselves with children. So that the
they can leave a meaningful legacy that they say, you know, I understood, my father got to know him.
He was a loving individual, because what is expected of them is not different. What nabeshima seems
		

			to do in a family, he was eloquent a better example than he is in terms of family life, in terms of
her husband's terms are a grandfather, and all those roles you play, and yet he had the most
demanding role of any pastor to spread the deen of Islam, the four corners of this earth and he did
it you know, effectively without compromising on other dynamics. And therefore, you find that
especially, you know, in homes, and parents themselves and husbands are non committal, they cannot
communicate what goes on the art. They expect the family to second guess, and they come home,
totally rich. Then you start saying on grade children because children need that fatherly love, they
		

			need a father, who is a mean a person who is a surgeon, they need that individual who really
promotes through his own example, the institution of marriage they need that, you know, is
fundamentally something
		

			One ideal need that they need to fulfill you.
		

			Children definitely need this attention from the parents. And you know, this is something that we
have discussed many times previously, and it can never be overemphasized about the attention that
our children require from us.
		

			What it requires from us to
		

			manage our time, and this is perhaps the advice that we need, it is my is my time management and how
to make sure that our time is spelled correctly. You see, the point, the point is this, that we all
often mentioned to the station, that our society has changed dramatically, there was a time and even
non Muslims subscribed to the universal values of Islam, the neighbor next door, wherever you watch
the NATO, Mr. Modi, whatever, he himself subscribed to values of respect, and so on and so forth.
Now, we are living in such a fragmented community, that even he has Muslims, you know, sometimes
your uncle may be displaying a valid entity called through Islam. So this is the issue. The issue is
		

			that as parents, and one of the things that I recommend, strongly I say, so many times, is to
develop a family routine, a routine in which your attention is focused, when you give to each of
your kids, you know, certain things all kids want, they want affection, attention, they want, you
know, appreciation, they want acceptance, and every day, you give them that aspect, and you help
them focus on managing their own time. And we need to do that we need to do otherwise, what will
happen, then many parents that in a sum total of their responsibilities eating clothing and housing
the children, which is something that'll be the gift reward for, it's far more important that we do
		

			not neglect the other critical areas, you know,
		

			let us take a look at some of the social issues that you've been discussing, and that you've been
working with over the past few weeks. And perhaps some lessons from Ben Sharma.
		

			Yes, you know, the one of the issues that we need to speak about is that, you know, that more and
more nowadays, it seems that divorce has become a norm. And I say to people, that you know what,
when you
		

			tried everything humanly possible, and you want to separate, you must not in the process, destroy
your partner the reputation or destroy your children, because there are no winners, then I think,
you know, healthy snacks are lots of emotional immaturity, a negative thing, low self esteem and all
of those things. So that is a an area and what happens, and that the time of separation, then
couples play one against the other, sometimes, some kids are more inclined towards the mother. And
the other is a trend towards the Father and that and that can be problematic because, you know, if
this creates a lot more dissension, that's one issue I've been dealing with. The other issue I'm
		

			dealing with is that the point that I've been emphasizing for so long, and I cannot overemphasize
this, that I think the only mind this country, must now make it compulsory mandatory, that they will
not perform and Nika until a couple of they're gone for three metres on C and E also the prospective
in laws. The second, the third thing that we want to mention, and also fundamental is that, you
know, our young boys are not growing into young men, many of them by investor related many of them
only enjoy the pleasures of the world. They need to be given responsibilities, you know, to be like
young, dynamic adults, they can inspire love in their spouses, they can make decisions when they
		

			have to, and they need to say no, so that is fundamental. And the last point that I want to make and
we can talk about these points. For me, it's very, very critical is about how we can create in our
children, a deep and profound love for the deen of Islam. That to me is fundamental. Because if you
look around if you go to the shopping malls you look everywhere else is quite clear that many of our
kids do not reflect those value systems. Many of them
		

			self absorbed and preoccupied so these are some of the issues that I've been dealing with.
		

			Interesting in this way that you that you bring up this last point is a there's a message that
		

			they've ever shared on social media and WhatsApp etc.
		

			By Montana
		

			with regards to the situation
		

			in Sri Lanka, and just the gist of the message, I'm going to go into the details of the message. But
the gist of the message is that we need to as South African Muslims, broaden our horizons in terms
of our interaction with the fellow population living in our country, we need to be more inclusive,
and be less exclusive is the nature of our
		

			our functions, as the nature of our activities usually go it's more exclusive to Muslims, but we
need to be more inclusive, and more accommodating. And be more interactive with every facet of
society.
		

			Yes, you know, my Mala. And I'm so glad that modern Obama has mentioned that this has always been my
concern that Islam is not an exclusive Deen is inclusive, and our individual olalia swim team has a
mercy on all mankind. In fact, what happens when even our students go to law city, we have what you
call a getter mentality, you know, we Muslims are there amongst ourselves, and others do not know
us, the only image they have of us is, well, Muslims, many of them a lot of money, they exploiters
and so on, and so forth. And as a result, you know, we must, for example, one of the natural
extension of education is that our parents ourselves need to teach us, you know, basically, that
		

			when you go out to the community, how you interact with Phyllis manatee, you need to interact a
smile, like this morning, you know, I used to get my car for a service. And then there was a
		

			non Western driver or indigenous person, and they behind me was another guy. And we had such a
		

			wonderful conversation about a party and we laughed and whatnot. And I said to myself,
		

			at least when he goes back, he someone mentioned something about nations or Indians, I think he
would have left today, more favorable image because of his interaction would be, and I think this is
fundamental that we need to do that we need.
		

			That, you know, we are not, because what will happen, Allah forbid that dinner in this country
Alhamdulillah you know, Allah's mercy has descended upon us. But almost every country, wherever
they've been a minority Muslims, many of them are subjected to such kind of tyranny, and people are
shocked out of the rich, I mean, and so we need to be very, very clear. I'm not saying mas do not
have that purpose of saving our skins for humans do it for the right reasons, because how are we
expected to share with people our team, and this is a brand I'm so good on my brand promise and
mentioned this point, and I subscribe to it in its entirety.
		

			Just be more inclusive, be less ostentatious also is one of the points in our lifestyle.
		

			You know, she more than what we spend on ourselves and and be
		

			more interactive with with every part of society, every
		

			every aspect of your type of people. And we need to become more South African, basically.
Absolutely. As in fact, you know, I mentioned this often, use of Islam is very dear to me. And
you're setting in one day, you said that the Muslim must not be seen as only such supporting causes
that affect Muslims directly. We must support all human humanitarian causes. And this is important,
we must be we must be in the forefront people of justice, people that want to rectify are wrong,
people that don't improve the quality of life, no matter whose life it is people because we must be
as a collective as a mercy on to all mankind. So that to me is fundamental, you know? Yes, yes, yes.
		

			And
		

			South African Muslims
		

			are particularly v if we look at
		

			look at our functions look at a weighting function, we look at our our fate. Don't forget,
		

			most of our functions are exclusive to Muslim and it is necessary. We're not saying that we don't
have to have those functions, it is necessary to have those functions. But equally, we need to have
other types of functions that include the broader, broader society. One of the
		

			lines, or one of the angles that we can look at this is to use sport as a vehicle in order to
promote interaction.
		

			You know what sports is one thing we talked about this in at USP
		

			I'm reminded of something, if I mentioned it before, it's okay. You know, I do a lot of motivation
and training, and I try to get access to Muslim companies, so that they can support what I do, and I
would support what they do. I went to a brother and I don't mention his name Alhamdulillah he's
running a very, very successful Empire. And I said to you, what I do is at the time, immediately, he
said to me, you know, what, I treat all my workers as my own family, the food and he's got a lot of
people working there, you know, of course, your 100 people, they work maybe, I don't know, maybe
four or five people working there, he says the food that I used to have to give them this, they are
		

			people that are working for the last 2530 odd years, you know, and I tell them, you know, you don't
require any training from me at all. And this is the whole point, the point is about, just how you
treat each other, and sports and all can be used, you know, what I must tell you this monana The
point is the signal this this attitude of people have that, you know, the attitude is, everything is
haram, you know, everything is Rama, Rama, Rama, Rama, Rama, we need to be far more, you know, God
didn't, before we make such a dramatic statement that we need. Remember, we are here, no one owes us
a living here, right? We need to be here, we have a role to play, we need to we need to interact
		

			with people, we need to treat people with dignity. And we need to do that it's not about us invading
so we need to use whatever vehicle that we can use inshallah. Even our radio stations, you know,
getting people involved, talking to them, chatting with them, showing neighborly love, you know,
appropriately and all of this. So each one of us is a guy he in something that you have
		

			overlooked.
		

			Yes, yes.
		

			And this is my final remarks, each of these on this aspect of being a die by means of the example
that we set in being South Africans at the same time. And also the millennia You know, you're
sitting in the plane, you're sitting in the passenger seat is the fancy next to you, that lets us
you know, let us engage with the people let's talk to them and say hello to them, introduce yourself
to them. And then when you're doing that, you know, then what you are doing you're promoting the
deen of Islam. It's not about you. And and we don't do that you know, and you find that we and many
people although they are generalize about us, but much of it is based on their own life experience
		

			that is fundamental that we be a form of proactive interactive, and really promotes the deen of
Islam the beauty of this theme, you can do it through beautiful character. The beautiful example is
if I select Milan say them for your time this morning and inshallah has his will speak to you next
week. inshallah g Milan you go well have a good day found.
		

			This camisa speaking tour this morning should be given
		

			to you for listening too much to get up into my studio play the flag Osama salaam aleikum wa
rahmatullah wa barakato.