06 – Purification of the Soul (Tazkiatu Al-Nafs) – Sh. Daood
Dec 30, 2016 @ Al Falah Islamic Centre
06 – Purification of the Soul (Tazkiatu Al-Nafs) – Sh. Daood
Dec 30, 2016 @ Al Falah Islamic Centre
Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala Anna v Hill Karim Allah here follow salado automata slim. Rubbish Ronnie sobre la Sidley Emery. Melissa Ania Gabor Kohli. My brothers and sisters in Islam Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
So for the sisters, again, just a reminder, the partition is finally up and handler on the on your left side. So if you want, you can come through on the left side, for those that are still sitting in the back, or want to remain seated in the back. There's nothing wrong with that. But please turn the lights on in the back. If you don't mind, just come along.
So today we're gonna get started. But before we move forward and shout loud to Hana, what I want to do is a little bit of a review. What did we learn last week? And what did you learn from last week? Do you even remember last week?
No. Do you understand what I'm saying? Yeah, you remember something good. I'm vanilla.
Good. We're talking about showing off. What do you remember about it?
Now, the fact that it's bad to show off very good hamdulillah we don't want you to show off right? So he's just choking on the law. That's very good. hamdulillah What else? What else did we learn last week?
Right so it's good to show off in Allah subhanho wa Taala as you know, for his sake, right? Very good.
What else? So for example, you're learning to recite the Quran, someone Someone might ask, Well, what do you mean showing off for the sake of Allah like, or you know, in front of Allah? How do you show off? So for example, you learn to recite the Quran for the sake of pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala. So when you recite it, there's no one around you nothing. You're just in your room on your own inside of your house, right? No one can hear you. But you're reciting the Quran beautifully, because you want to do that in order to please Allah subhanho wa Taala you're beautifying something for the sake of pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala not for anyone else. Okay. What else? What else did
we learn?
She didn't learn anything, then we're going to start stopping the quizzes.
Very good. The three the first three types of people that will be dragged and placed into jahannam Who are they?
Okay, the first person is the Shaheed very good.
Right? So someone who learned the Quran and was teaching the Quran learning knowledge was teaching knowledge. Very good.
Okay, anyone know anyone remember the third one?
The one who has wealth, he just keeps it for himself.
Okay, so he has well, then he shows off with his wealth very good. So the person who has that wealth and shows off so someone who showed off in those three different categories, okay, so that's very important. We just put for the sisters, there, there's some chairs just so that we, you know, keep people away from the partition. We don't want it falling on anyone. So, you know, just make sure any sisters that are sitting there, make sure that you know, no children or anyone leans up against a partition.
So that's what the guard said. Yeah. What else? I want some of the sisters I want to hear two responses from the sisters. What did you learn with regards to Rhea showing off?
Do you remember that? That's what we studied last week. How many of you were here last week?
None of you were here last week. All right. That's really interesting. So
yeah, I'm pretty sure they were here that just not raising their hands. Right? You were here. Good. What did you learn?
You don't remember.
We'll do the quiz again. Then you remember?
All right, in sha Allah, okay. So this week, what we're going to be covering in sha Allah, tada is cooperation. Okay, we're going to talk about cooperation. And I want to give a few practical examples of cooperation as we go along in sha Allah hota hai to now allow us to high dimensions in the Quran in surah verse number two, he says, What's one word? The word topo 111. And if me What are we doing?
Now this is in the middle of the verse. And the last one which Allah will focus on the first part he says what Tylenol I ll berry with toccoa. He encourages us to help one another in goodness in piety and righteousness with our new Ll Berry, what taqwa Nelson Mandela when we help people with righteousness and piety, etc. We have to look deeper into that. Like what is taqwa? If I'm going to help someone if I'm going to cooperate with someone, how do I cooperate with them? Do I cooperate with someone in order to backup
Someone else? Or do I cooperate with someone in order to help someone else? Or in order to increase myself in knowledge or myself in piety myself in righteousness? Do I help people in order to get closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala? Or is my helping of other people and interacting with them cooperating with them? Is that taking me away from Allah subhanho wa Taala. Now I want to give you a few examples in sha Allah hota Hana. We mentioned that
Allah says, to help one another in goodness, righteousness, piety, taqwa.
What does that mean?
In practical examples,
and the example that I wanted to start with, and I had this in my mind on the way the entire way I was thinking of it, I'm like, you know what, this is a good example. We're going to do this inshallah. But that's gone from my mind now, but I have another example. Right? The example that we're gonna do and you're gonna come help me, does he look sleepy today?
Cuz usually you're full of energy and right here and today.
Sleepy, you're tired? You feel it? And you're not feeling good?
You sure? Because your faces I kind of read you have a cold?
No, you're fine. You're good. 100 Okay, so remind me of your name. I mean, good. So I mean, he's gonna help me with something right.
I mean, it's gonna be praying Salah so you just pretend like God bless that way. You just pretend like you're praying. All right. But
so as a mean, is praying Sala right.
Um, maybe just sitting down and talking to my friends. chilling. And we're just, you know, enjoying ourselves in the masjid. Who's your man? Last night at Tim Hortons is amazing. We came out with this new donut.
A mean, man. Look at the way he's making
his his back. He's all like twisted. He doesn't even know what he's doing. He's not how you're supposed to be praying. This guy can't believe him. And he thinks he's all pious and stuff. Stuff that a lot. May Allah forgive him. Right.
Now, is that cooperating with him or helping him in righteousness? Was that doing something good, that's beneficial to him? No, it isn't. That's the second part. Right? Allah subhana wa tada says, well add to our no lol if me Well, I heard one, he says and do not help one another in sin and transgression. So this is a method of showing how we're helping someone in sin like I'm now speaking to someone else. And if someone else was there, like my friend that I was talking to started to say something about Amina as well. It would be like the two of us are helping each other in sin. We're both cooperating in backbiting. And we spoke about backbiting already, didn't we? Yes, we did.
Right? And so some handler we need to look at how does that go along with it, you can sit right there. If you want, you don't have to move. Right? We see how it's important for us to try and help one another. To try and do goodness towards others not want to give the same scenario but I want other people to try and figure out how to change that. Like how can we perfect this incident? So I'm going to ask I mean if he wants to, to do that again.
Okay. And I'm going to ask for
two other volunteers.
Raise your hand if you want to help out. I know your hands up but you always hand up and then don't worry if no one else wants to raise your hand. Okay, are you someone who's very talkative?
He's looking behind him? Yeah. Are you someone who's really talkative? You're?
How old are you?
Seven. Okay. I want someone a little bit older than you. Okay. We'll give you another. Something to do later on. inshallah. Okay.
What's your name again? khadim. philos. Kadeem is gonna help out we need someone else to help out.
could even be an adult. Why are the adults so scared to? Who's that over there? Who's hiding?
Are you very easy, very talkative, though. He could be but is he really shy in front of others? Because if he's not shy if he is not, are you shy in front of others? Yeah. No, you get to talk. No.
You sure? You haven't said a single word yet? I don't think you're good to talk.
Who's good to talk? Yeah, you're okay, good. Let's go. Alright, so we're gonna do the exact same thing. I mean, he's gonna, you know, pretend like he's praying sada and these two are gonna sit down and chill and they're gonna notice that amine is doing his sauna wrong. You're gonna pretend like you're in your last Raka Okay, and then when you're done sauna helaas you just sit there as though you're finished your Salah, and you're minding your own business, the two of you I want you to just like sit down right here inshallah. Okay, just sit down over here. pretend like you're having that conversation that I was having. You don't sit with your back towards him. How you going to see him?
Alright. Good. So he's praying his Salah, and the two of you just chatting.
How much
boxing is Boxing Day? sale? 199 for one donut.
What on earth is
Oh man, you see, like trying to smell his toes or something? I think so.
What? What's going on?
I think he needs help.
Guide him. He needs a lot of help. Yeah.
Yeah, it was just he's helped him step up and help them.
It should be a good idea. Should we like go and pull him up right now? Like make him stand up just like force him to bend over? Yeah. Cuz like you can hold his legs and I could just like push this back down.
That wouldn't be very nice.
Now's
your turn. encouraged me
to absolutely wrong.
Because we I have this guy also says that and a bunch of other people say that he in prayer studies. I get it. Yep, that's right. Okay.
So what am I doing wrong? should keep your back more straight.
Yeah, you shouldn't try to smile your toes.
That's very rude. I'm very offended.
Okay, that's nice. So
is it How is this wrong?
Is this
a right angle?
And make sure that bottle doesn't fall.
Sale
must be the bottle. very encouraging.
All right.
Okay, so the reason why I did this is because and I did it with youth on purpose is to sit down. I did it with youth on purpose. As adults, a lot of the time we don't really know how to correct people's mistakes, and we don't know how to cooperate with them. We don't know how to deal with one another. And you know, over the past two weeks of Panama, there's been a lot going on in the masjid. Not not past two weeks past week, because school was out. Right. So I've been dealing a lot and interacting with a lot of use Pamela, you know, they're off from school. They're like, Yo, what are you doing this go to Tim Hortons is like one o'clock in the morning, like, yeah, I have two
children, you know, they wake up at eight o'clock, if I go to Tim Hortons. Now I'm not gonna get any sleep. And so kind of like, it's really interesting how our youth, they just don't feel comfortable around people that are older than them because they always feel as though they're being criticized. And this is what I did is that I wanted us to do an example to show us that even as youth, sometimes we don't know how to correct other people's mistakes, right? So we need to cooperate with one another. There's this huge gap in our communities. There's the there's the you know, elderly adults are not elderly, as in, you know, people who are really, really old, like grandparents, but we have
the adults. And then we have the young adults who are like maybe 20 to 25 years old. And then we have those that are younger than them like the teenagers. And there's always this gap. And unless Palo Alto wants us to work together once is to communicate with each other. Remember, we took the Hadeeth of even on bus, the Allahumma. He's riding behind the profits and a lot of us on them, right? He's a little boy. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam speaks to him in a way that he can learn and he can gain knowledge and still be around the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as a nice person that was going to welcome him, even though he's a prophet, he's a leader. But people,
even children would want to be around him. Now the question is, am I that person? Like in, in our society, or in our community? Are we the type of person that everyone wants to be around? Or are we the type of person that goes in always corrects people's mistakes sometimes, or maybe always in the wrong manner? Or am I the type of person that maybe just goes and gets to know the person talks to them, learns from them, and they learn from me. And then afterwards, we share, you know, knowledge and information together? We need to be people that learn to cooperate with one another. And this is creating this huge gap in our society. And I'm talking about this today because, you know, youth are
off from school and we see a lot of children. We all see children on a Friday night, but some handle that we have a little more of the teenage crowd that we normally don't get, and I know there were quite a few that said they were going to come today and lo and behold, they're not here. But somehow what we need to do is learn to work with one another. As youth. What is your biggest frustration with regards to coming to the muscle
What bothers you about coming to the masjid?
I want you to be honest, be completely honest. And I'm asking this because I love constructive criticism. So if you say something we as adults should be able to learn from what your concerns are. Right? And then we're going to ask the adults as well. What are your concerns about coming to the masjid? Do you feel there's too many children? Do you feel that the children are playing basketball when we're trying to play? Pray? Right?
And so somehow, let's find out what are some of the issues that happen so that we can resolve it. And the reason why we're doing that is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he would encourage discussion. Sure, making sure that is a huge part of our Deen that we don't really do anymore. How many of us sit down and make sure with our family? Anyone within the family? You have like a time every day where you make sure you know, not every day when like once a week, only when there's a real serious problem like you were caught with?
I don't know your friend's ps4 game controller. And your parents told you not to play any ps4 for a month. Right? Then there's a shootout. Right? Okay. Does anyone have regular shooter in their house? You have regular shooter going on in your house? Like on a daily basis? Yeah. And handle that. Are you annoyed with that? Is it is it something that you find is beneficial? Very good, something that's beneficial. And that's important because Allah Subhana, which I hadn't even mentioned shorter in the Quran, he tells us the importance of shorter and how we are supposed to seek counsel and guidance from one another. But as Muslims, we are losing out on some of the basic things that we're
supposed to do. And what happens then is we see that ourselves, either within our family or within our community, we become disconnected. We no longer like to communicate with other age groups. We no longer like to humble ourselves in order to give someone else what they want. And that's all part of communication. And it's all part of cooperation, because cooperation doesn't happen unless you communicate or you interact with others. Let's take an example.
There's a person who owns a store, right? Or they don't own a store yet they say you know what, I'm gonna own a store. I want to open the most beautiful store. What would be an amazing store for you guys? Like, if you wanted to open a store? What kind of store would it be?
slushy? You would open a store that sells only slushies.
No.
slushy cola and pizza.
Oh, man, your dad must be buying some you know, fruits and vegetables only because you're really craving this stuff.
What about you? What would be the ideal store for you?
Okay.
So like,
like a Nike store.
If you owned a Nike store, you'd be happy.
Yeah, all right. Cool. What about you?
Microsoft, you like Do people. Anyone here even know what Microsoft is anymore?
Apple, okay, you want you want? You want to own a farm that has an apple orchard? Right under the law. You can make apple pies for all of us.
There's no such thing as an apple computer. I'm just joking. It's a Mac.
Macintosh. Alright. So kind of like, I know, I know. I'm just pulling your legs and panela So okay, that's that's a good that's I like his idea. All right, he's got the slushy store. How many of the children would love to have a slushy store? I'd love to go into a store that had like 100 different flavors of slushies. Raise your hand if that's what you'd like. Yeah, see, even some of some of the adults are like, yeah, slushy all the way right? Even though it's winter, may Allah subhana wa Tada. Guide all of you, right? We shouldn't have a hot chocolate store. Right? That'd be even better. But Tim Hortons What? If you own a Tim Hortons? Would you be happy?
You get loads of money. Yeah, handler, the whole point there is that you own the store. But no one comes to your store because you don't want customers. You're like, you know what I'm gonna own the best store. It's gonna be like this super slushy store that has 1000 different flavors. slushie. And it has like 25 different types of hot chocolates. And you know, it has everything that's super cool in it. But you know, I don't like people. I don't want people to come and buy anything from my store. So I'm just gonna own the store and just sit there all day.
What are you going to benefit from? Are you going to get rich?
How know no one's gonna come and buy from you. Right? So you need cooperation. You need someone to come through the door, then you need to be nice to them. You might not even like what they're wearing. You might say, Oh my god, what's wrong with this guy? He's wearing a blue watch what's wrong with this guy? He doesn't even know what he's talking about during a brown film in a blue watch. This guy is really bad with color coding, right? And I don't want to sell any slushies to him. But I want to get rich so I'm going to sell it to him. So you cooperate with that person, right? Someone comes into your store and
You know what, you have 1000 different flavors, but you don't have watermelon.
You don't have watermelon flavor slushy, right? What is that? That person is making sure are with you. They're communicating with you, right? There needs to be communication and we need to be able to speak to each other. So I'm gonna go back to my initial question.
How many of you feel like you are classified in the category of being a youth stand up if you feel like you're a youth?
Do you feel like you're a youth? If yes, stand up. I'm staying standing up. That's why I'm not sitting down. Right?
No, no, no, no, no, no. Honestly, who considers themselves in youth? Right?
What you're like a grandfather? No. What do you
What about you? Are you like a grandmother? No, you stand up.
Okay, good.
Now all of you are standing up.
How many of you when your parents say, you know what, we're going to the masjid. You're like, yeah, and you jumped for joy. You get happy. Sit down, you get happy. Sit down. Sit down. Sit down. Sit down. You just sitting down because you want to know, you get happy. You jump for joy when your dad says you're going to the mustard. You're happy. Okay. hamdulillah Yeah, okay, stay standing. That's good. We need you for this. Yeah.
Well, you don't like my haluk All right.
Okay, I'm gonna
just start kicking you out. No, I'm just joking. Okay, so you guys don't jump for joy when you're told you know, we're gonna that the machines like oh man, we got to go to the masjid again. Okay, why?
Why? What is it about the masjid that you just not happy to go to the masjid? Why? I want to know honestly, I just honestly truly want to know what is it about the mustard? You You sat down. You said you jumped for joy. Now you're standing up. You don't
know why you sitting down? I want to hear your response.
Okay, it's not about the monster. What is it?
You just don't want to get ready. So you just want to stay home? It's just too hard to get ready. Is it because it's winter or is that in the summer as well?
You got me on that one? Some kind of luck. All right. Yeah. Okay. What? What about the mustard?
My dad.
All right. Make sure we're not backbiting anyone. Right? Does your dad hear? Your dad heard you, Angela? So your dad talks to people and you want to leave? But you're just hanging around? Okay, good. What about you can sit down.
So it's too late at night. And you just want to be at home? You want to go to sleep? Or if you were at home right now, would you be sleeping? What would you be doing?
Playing video games?
or watching TV? Yeah, exactly. So all right, good. You're honest. Sit down. Yeah.
You have to go out in the cold. What about summer?
You're cool coming to the mustard in the summer even though he was at 1130 at night.
Okay, all right. Sit down.
You don't like interacting with people? Why did something ever happened? Someone ever tell you something?
You don't want
Okay, you go to the muster to so many people so you get overwhelmed.
Okay, but yeah, you're cool and standing in front of you. You have good confidence you should use that. You should actually come to the mustard more often and talk to people interact with people that's good. shala Don't be shy come into the mustard. You should feel good coming. Okay, good. Sit down. What about you?
takes too long All right, you can go You want me to stop right now?
I don't mind stopping right now. You want to stop right now?
No. All right. You can sit down and shut up. Do you want to add anything? You want to say something else? Yeah, no, he's cool. Yeah, what about you?
You're what?
You're happy but you're not super excited. Why aren't you super excited?
You're good. So but why are you still standing then?
Sorry.
Okay, all right. You can sit down inshallah What about you?
You get a lot of good deeds, but it's boring.
I don't have any chocolate to give you it would make it would it? Would it be fun if you got chocolate?
Yeah.
I don't have any chocolate. I have money.
hamdulillah All right. So you get bored at the mustard. What would you want to see happening at the masjid?
Like what what
Make the mustard not boring fun for you?
You don't know. Be honest. What if we played video games in the masjid?
You'd be happy. Like we could just instead of praying five times a day we could play five times a day right?
Okay, so we could play and we could pray as well at the same time. All right, cool. So while you're praying, you're playing the games? No. Are you stopped to pray? Okay, good. Mashallah. All right. What about you? You can sit down.
You prefer staying at home? Why don't you like coming to the mustard? What is it about the mustard?
Sorry, what? What do you say?
You have to make blue.
Cold, right? You got to make it blue.
So it's just too much work. You have to get ready to go out. What is your getting ready to go? Do you like school?
Do you like going to school? What do you like doing? Do you like going to sports? What if you're going to go watch a sports game?
Would you be happy? Would you get ready? You wouldn't really care. Right? Like, yeah, I'm gonna go. Right. So that's good. I like it. You can sit down because this is what what you don't realize is that you're identifying things is that the youth don't feel happy coming because they don't feel like there's something fun for them to do in the masjid. Yes.
You get lazy. So you don't like coming to the mosque because you're lazy. But otherwise, you're okay, coming to the masjid. That you could just sit down in the corner doing nothing. You're good?
Yeah. Like everyone leaves. It's like two o'clock in the morning. You're still sitting in the corner. You're happy? You're like, yeah, I'm still in the masjid. Right.
Yeah, I shot lots of water colonialist kind of it's Allah bless you and give us all that love for the mustard. Yes.
Good.
You don't like when they all
okay, so you don't like when you come to the masjid and lectures or whatever is taking place is in a language that you don't understand. Very good. That's really good input does aka low height. And I appreciate that. You understand me right now. Right? Okay, good. Because I can switch languages if you
handle now I'm going to ask the adults.
And I want you to be honest, to be completely honest. What are some of the things and I'm not saying that it bothers you to come to the mustard? Because I know some of the adults are gonna say what are you talking about? Like you're trying to make us like be upset with the mustard? No, not at all. What we want to do is we want to identify some of the things that would make us feel happier coming to the masjid. Like sometimes some of the brothers they'll come in, they'll tell me you know what? Why don't you go talk to that boy over there because his shorts, you know, they're just at his knee. And when he jumps up while he's playing basketball, we could see his knees. And that irritates some
people because every single week sometimes they're telling me the exact same thing about the exact same person at the exact same time. So it's like, is that really bothering you that every time you come to the mustard You're so irritated by this one boy who's jumping up and down not in this Masjid, right? Who when he jumps his shorts exposes me. Right? What else? What else do you feel about the mustard? When you come to the mustard? What do you feel could be done? Better? What do you feel could be increased or reduced? sisters? I know sisters always have a lot to say. Right? They're like why is it that the lights are still off in the sister section? Right? Why is it that the door
is all the way in the back and it's freezing cold? And how come the men get to come in over here and the sister is coming all the way over there? We need a scooter to come in. Right. Right and the sisters have a lot to say so say it please we want to hear from you. So Pamela, go on. What else? Yes.
hamdulillah
very good. That's very good. So kinda this brother, you know pointed out something that's really really powerful. He said he loves to see children in the masjid. And I'm the same way I love to see children in the masjid. Right.
And he gave us a few examples of how you know sometimes children are right beside their parents standing. praying in the
Front row are in the first few rows. But then someone will take that child and push them to the back or someone will even come as the prayer has started. They'll come in late and they'll pull the child to the back because that child shouldn't be there. They feel they should be there, even though they came late in the, you know, saw that already started. But they pull that child out, like I'm more deserving as an adult to be in the front row because I came late, right, but I'm, I'm an adult. And so they'll pull them out sometimes from the front row, and just keep pushing that child to the back. Well, if this is a child who loves to be in the masjid and loves to be in the front row, maybe they
don't even love to be there, but they are there. don't discourage them from doing that. Another example that the brother is mentioning, some analyze, you know, sometimes you see children going and taking the Koran, right, they'll take a copy of the most half sit down and they want to read it, they might not even know how to read it. But then people will come and say you don't have a clue Don't touch it. Why discourage our children from goodness? Why stop them from things that are good for them. If this child is not even mature, yet, the child doesn't even need to have to touch the Koran. Right? The child is not mature yet. The child does not need to have whoo to even touch the
Koran. They're free from sin. Nothing that they can do they get sinned for it. Right. And so somehow that's really interesting. As adults, we don't think of these things. And we start to push ourselves apart. And that's really what I wanted to talk about tonight was cooperation. Let's try to cooperate as a community and I know this mustard does really well and hungry luck. For the majority for the most part, it does really well like we have the youth basketball happening right after, right. But last night, we had this basketball tournament in Milton, that some of the youth setup, right, they organized it within 48 hours out of law, but it was really, really good. We had 18 different teams
that showed up. And it was a very, like interesting, very powerful, you know, basketball tournament that some of you missed out on
Americans, right? No, just picking on some guys. Mashallah. But some kind of luck. What we saw there was that these youth, I asked a few of them a question. I said, Why? Why is it that I never see you guys in the masjid? Like, there were a couple of them in particular wives known since they were really really small. Like, how come I never see you in the masjid you live literally like minutes away from the masjid and you're never there. You know, we have a youth program and every single Saturday after the youth program, so it's a two hour program. For the first hour. We're learning and asking questions back and forth. And the second hour, we're just playing sports. Like you could come
and play every single week with us. And like, you know, every time we go to the masjid man, someone says something about us or it's like the uncles will kick us out or they'll be like, stop bouncing the balls is too noisy. I was like, okay, don't worry about it. What you do is you come and you tell someone like us, right? You come and tell someone like us and we will deal with it will take care of it. But somehow that goes to show us as sometimes as youth, it just takes one or two times to discourage them. And they don't want to come back to the mustard.
So what can we do to make this mustard happy? And it already is but what can we do to make it better? This is what I was asking the parents.
Okay.
Okay, very good. So sometimes the elderly crowd, not elderly, but the adults who will kick out the youth because it's their turn to play. Okay, but that's understandable. Right? There needs to be that communication between them and that's why I said cooperation goes hand in hand with communication we need to communicate with one another.
Very good. Okay, so we come up with a schedule and the schedule is posted publicly people could see it that today this is the schedule very good. What else can we do? What else can we do in the masjid? You know what we did the other day, we had a gaming night. You guys missed out. We actually played two k 17. All night long until 5am.
I brought my sleeping bag and passed out halfway through both of these children kept going they kept going they kept playing they had fun. They had you know the to ps4 setup. Alright, and in the masjid, not in the main men's prayer area but in the mustard building. And we had a FIFA as well. And we were playing basketball in the courts, right? They were playing like all night long. We had pizza midnight came in, you know order the pizza and it was just a beautiful things. Pamela these youth were just really, really happy.
But what happened was the next day, we just had parents who were pointing the finger at Little things like well, you know, My son was so tired to wake up.
And I'm like, okay, and that's my responsibility to wake your son up for a lot. Right like you're telling me now I need to like drive to your house every single day. Wake up your child for sada like how many days a week does your child play video games until the middle of
The night And like every single day, school is off, you know, he plays every single day unlike so every single day you want me to be the one who comes and wakes up, you know, but you had a youth program in the machine, you didn't teach them anything. It's like, wow, we're gonna teach them and make them change their entire life in one night. And all of a sudden, they're the most perfect human beings. No, that's not going to happen. So parents need to also take initiative, when we bring our children for programs in the masjid. Also, as parents, we need to take an active role. Like last night, there was one Father, one Father out of 18 different teams that were playing. There was one
father who was there who was cheering on his sons. Like he was clapping for them. And he was like, good job. When they were done. He went over He's like, Mashallah, you guys did great. You lost but it's okay. You did really good. Right? That's what's needed. interaction, constant interaction is absolutely important. What about the sisters? What do you what do you feel is needed in our communities?
No, you're too scared to say it right now. You'll probably send me little pieces of paper after and say, yeah, this is what we need to do. But I didn't want to say it publicly. Right?
Anyone
know, you just want to do the quiz and go home. Because getting late now.
Yeah, on us. We're not going to do the quiz right away, though, unless China shows us something in the Koran. And I'll try and finish with this and show a lot of data in order to be heard about in verse number nine and 10. Allah subhanho wa Taala shows us that if two people are arguing, or two groups of believers are arguing, right, or fighting with each other, right? Allah Subhana, Allah tells us and commands us to calm them down, to bring peace between them. Right? try and settle it. But then Allah Subhana, Allah knows that us as human beings, we can't just bottle in our emotions and feelings. We can't just stop in the middle of nowhere and be like, yeah, you know what, he said
something bad to me, but I'm just gonna take it and walk away. Because many of us can't do that. So lots of kinds of ways. And he continues, and he says, if these two different groups are, you know, going at it with each other,
and one of the groups becomes aggressive, and starts to maybe get physical or starts to, you know, push the other group around, whatever it is, right? They become very aggressive. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, then go against that group, go against that group, the one that's becoming aggressive, and stop them from what they're doing. Why does a lesson plan what to say to do that? Why does he say go against that group? Maybe that group is right. But why does he tell us to stop that group? Why does he tell us to stop that person in particular? Does anyone know?
Yes.
Exactly. What that person is doing is stirring up commotion within the community. They're creating problems, and that person needs to stop because the greater good of the community is absolutely important. And Allah subhanho wa Taala continues in verse number 10, of Sora. To her Jarrett, he goes on to tell us how we are as believers, nothing but brothers and sisters of one another. Right? We're brothers and sisters of each other. That's what we are, we're believers. We are not people that are supposed to be fighting amongst ourselves. And when it comes to this, you know, the the the adults and the youth, some handle a lot of the time we're just fighting back and forth. And then we
see adults versus adults fighting and arguing amongst themselves like oh, you know, this person he can't always comes late and this person does this and that person does that. We criticize each other, when we should be helping one another trying to grow with each other, communicating and talking to each other. And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make that a reality for every single one of us.