Daood Butt – June 28, 2020 – Essential Fiqh

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The importance of respecting the body of the deceased and not overpaying for one's debt is emphasized in the aftermath of the deceased's death. The message of Islam is to avoid the loss of one's life and that the soul is being removed and the eyesight follows it. The importance of patient illness and privacy in the aftermath of the deceased's death is also emphasized. The segment emphasizes the need to be patient with the decree of Allah's death and avoid mistakes, while also offering resources for those who may be able to achieve their dreams.

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			Bismillahirrahmanirrahim hamdulillah hit of the land I mean, was sort of over to LA he was an M word
and Karim, Allah He of course sada to Adam, just rubbish, roughly Sabri were certainly under the
		
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			study of Coco Lee, my brothers and my sisters sent Mr. Lee come to LA
		
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			tonight and shot a lot of data, we continue with our Cintiq class and hamdulillah from the stem
community center of Milton. And we are starting chapter three, which is the funeral prayers, so
we're going to be starting the funeral prayers, we're learning about them, we're not going to be
learning about the process as to how to wash the body, as of yet, that will be something that we
learned as we move on inshallah, tada, we will be learning it, but not for tonight's inshallah, so
just bear with us. And once we get there, we're gonna start off by looking at some of the things
that we're supposed to do when someone passes away, initially, and also, you know, getting ready for
		
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			or getting ready to prepare the body and ready to get ready for the host as well as the Genesis. So
chapter three, the funeral prayers
		
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			if a person is approaching death, so if a Muslim family member or relatives or friends of someone
who is Muslim, you know, notices that that person is about to pass away or approaching death, you
know, their health is deteriorating, and so on, from someone who's approaching death, and it is
recommended for that family to encourage that person to say,
		
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			no law. In a in a law that should be the words that they say they shouldn't be bothering themselves
with anything else or saying anything else. They should focus on this in the law. And this is
because the prophets send them said prompt your deceased.
		
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			That is those who are about to die today. There is none worthy of worship except Allah that Allah.
The reason for that is because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also said in another east,
whosoever is the last words. So whoever's last words are that the law, definitely agenda will enter
Paradise. So it's important for us to encourage our family members, a lot of people ask this
question very, very often, in fact, what do we say, to a family member that is going to pass away?
Or what are we supposed to do what I asked, what are we supposed to recite, to be honest, my
brothers and sisters,
		
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			what's important is what you just mentioned, like we can be busy and reciting the Quran, which is
good, like, we're not going to bother ourselves in doing other things or saying other things or
doing things that
		
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			are just wasting time talking about things that are irrelevant and joking around and stuff like
that. But
		
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			you know, a lot of the time people ask this question, we know that we're supposed to, you know,
behave during this time. But what can we say? And what can we recite, and a lot of the time people
think that, you know, reciting the Quran is what is highly encouraged. I mean, that's good, it's
good to do, it's good to recycle and, and let the person who's, you know, in that condition, listen
to the product and, you know, benefit from the product and be soothed by the Quran as well. But for
them specifically, they should say, you know, right, you know, no law, you know, no luck. And so
sometimes you'll find, and this happens very often, because I do chaplaincy at the hospital, you'll
		
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			find that family members will ask, what should we say? or What should we do to them,
		
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			especially for the the person or their relative who is in a state that they are not responsive, so
they're not hearing they, they may be hearing, but they're not saying they're not responding.
		
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			And we encourage them to constantly just say, la, la, la, la, every now and then just say that, you
know, even if they can't breathe, they might have a tube in their mouth or something, and they
can't, they can't speak.
		
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			They can see and they're responsive, they're listening, you, you know, that they're listening, they
might move a finger or their hand or something of that sort to show or to indicate that they're
listening to you, they hear you, you know, they hold your hand. They let you know that, that I'm
aware, I'm conscious, I'm there with you, right. So it's important for us to say that, you know, a
lot to them, and to remind them to say that, you know, because the prophets a long time said
whoever's last words, in the law, enters into paradise, and that is a testimony of faith showing us
how this person you know, was obedient to Allah subhanho wa Taala at least in their belief, right
		
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			and submitted and submit to Allah subhana wa to add in
		
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			That way.
		
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			And then once the person passes away, so once a person actually passes away and the soul is taken
away and removed, and there's a number of things that the family or those who are there should do,
first of all, first and second is the deceased eyes should be closed and supplications should be
made for them. So once a person passes away, we should close their eyes for them. Right and then
make do out
		
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			in general, right.
		
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			But do I that is good. We see here the hadith of Osama marinha, who said the Messenger of Allah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam came to Abu Salah after his gaze had become fixed. So Salah, was married
to Abu Salah, and his eyes after he passed away were fixed upwards. So when he passed away, his eyes
were open. And so she says the Messenger of Allah usnm came to Abu Salah after his gaze had become
fixed, that is, after he passed away,
		
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			he closed his eyes. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, close the eyes of Abu
Sena. Okay? And said, when the soul is taken, the eyesight follows it. So when the soul is removed
from the body of the believer or the person in general, our eyes follow the soul and stay fixated in
one spot, right because they're watching the soul of their own soul being removed and departing from
the body. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
		
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			when the soul is taken, the eyesight follows it. Some of the members of his family started to cry,
but profits on a longer added us Do not replicate anything but good upon yourselves. For the angels
say, I mean, what do you say?
		
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			When you say a door out, some people get really upset, they're like, Oh, you know,
		
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			male punish me or it was my fault and stuff like that, you know, people say, out of out of, you
know, grief, they they're just, it's a shock. Sometimes you're right.
		
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			Especially if it's certain certain cases, you'll notice where it's very sensitive, like if the child
passes away, and the parents are the ones that are there, the parents are like, you know, this
should never happen, you know, and they start to say things of that storage and the profits are
longer I need to send them advises,
		
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			say only that which is good, because the angels are there. Remember the soul is being removed and
the angels are surrounding this body, body. Right? They are saying mean to the door, that they hear
from the people that are present at that time.
		
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			He then said somebody was Salam. O Allah forgive Abou semma read his his rank among the guide
		
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			of him, followed by bid successors in his family, and forgive us and him, oh Lord of the worlds
expand his grave and illuminate, illuminate,
		
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			illuminate, illuminate the grave of the cinema. For him, so illuminate it for him.
		
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			So the door of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was good for abou cinema and pure
		
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			one that was not only for him, but also for his family, right and made do out for him to have a good
time in his grave to illuminate the grave and to expand it for him. And why and nice and bright. And
this is why I like to make this door out when anyone passes away, to
		
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			make dua out to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah make that person's grave, a wide, open, scented garden
of Paradise, make it nice, make it bright for them, make it beautiful for them make the the time of
their enjoyment for them because they live this life and they left and they're going to return to
LA. And that's a good sign for loss of Hannah, which Allah would a person spends, you know, the time
in the grave, enjoying themselves and it's wide, opens up and doesn't crush them, like someone
crushing a person's ribs.
		
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			You know, and that's where the ribs you know, are crushed. So we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to make
it easy for us and also have a good ending and to have ourselves with the people or in the company
of people who will say good, and ask for goodness as well. I mean,
		
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			the third thing that is
		
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			Encouraged for the people to do when someone passes away is to cover the entire body with armament.
So cover the body with a blanket or a sheet or something, put it over the body.
		
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			After closing the eyes, of course, nowadays, we also see that we close the jaw, right, close the
jaw, otherwise it stays open.
		
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			And so that's something that, you know, is done as well. Sometimes you can take some gauze during
the hospital, and that's when you can wrap it around to keep the job closed, instead of having the
mouth wide open, okay? Instead, I'm actually throughout an entire person's life, when our mouth is
open, we try not to show the inside of our mouth to anyone, right. So when we, for example, there's
some that is to
		
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			cover the young, right with your hand. So people in front of you don't see inside as the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned, you know,
		
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			how bad that is, as well.
		
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			So cover the entire body afterwards, after closing the eyes and making it
		
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			a shot of the lover and has said the messenger lost on a lot like he was
		
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			when he passed away, he was covered in an embroidered garment, a he was covered in an embroidery
department.
		
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			Someone's got a usnm number for promptly preparing the body taking it to be buried. Okay. So quickly
preparing the body for the Jenas and then taking it for it is a very low self, what I thought of the
lower accorded that a lot of us hurry in performing the funeral. For if he were a pious person, if
the person who away with highest person, you will take him to goodness, right, if the person who
passed away is a pious person, hurry up and finish off the the janazah and everything and bury the
person because you're taking them to goodness, there's goodness waiting for them and the greatest
things of this life that we've never experienced or waiting for us in the grave.
		
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			And he continues to say some along there, I think most of them if he was isn't that
		
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			is evil, that you are moving from your necks as in your you know, if he was an evil person on us,
you know, you're removing this person, and returning them to a loss of hand with added this person
maybe did evil on Earth, evil, you know, promoted evil did things that were no good, treated, just
to you know, hurt others and so on and so forth. We know the list of things of evil, you know, to
quickly vary that person and have the body returned to a vessel kind of want to add so that you know
that is taken care of by a less accountable what
		
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			we ask of us for which added to save and protect us. Number five, some or one of the people who
would move quickly to pay off the debt.
		
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			Jabba Abdullah said of the lover and
		
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			and we washed shrouded,
		
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			prepared him for the jenessa. We then asked him for the messenger of a wasp
		
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			where the deceased were you
		
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			near the place of Djibouti at a time and just
		
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			the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then we called the messenger
		
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			alum to come and perform the
		
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			lead the janaza prayer.
		
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			He came, took a few steps and said maybe your company has a debt, maybe this has debt that is not
paid off. And they said yes to Deena so he went back and then one of us called a book said so one of
us have a lot of the love and said the Messenger of Allah it is my responsibility as I will look
after paying off the debt of this person who passed away. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam said to him, they are your responsibility upon your wealth and the deceased is cleared of
them as you are going to take care of to not to Deneuve and the deceased will then be cleared of
them. Are you taking this responsibility? And he said yes to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam. So then the Prophet sallallahu wasallam prayed the janessa prayer upon him. The debt was not
paid off yet. He did the janessa when the Messenger of Allah sent along there and he was send them
with live meet Abu Qatada, he would say, what has happened to the to Deena
		
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			he would remind him what's happened to the to dinner, paid to to dinner, right. What about the to
dinner?
		
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			So he's reminding us that, hey, you have debt to pay off of this person, you took it upon yourself,
you took the responsibility of paying off the debt of this person passed away, make sure that you
pay it, don't forget.
		
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			He said, have a Qatada.
		
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			Then one time, finally Abu Qatada, the alarm and said, I have paid them a messenger of Allah and the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, it is know that his skin has finally cooled down on him
		
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			who passed away, just finally paid. So my brothers and sisters debt to when we have a debt in this
world, and for us to pay it off, if we can as quickly as we can. So reminder for every single one of
myself included, and to
		
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			you know, make sure that when we pass away from this world don't have a debt. That means and if any
one of us has a debt that remains, and it's important for those who are still alive, who are aware
of debt, or know or who are owed something, to let the family members know that person who passed
away and that the money or I let such and such thing or so and so thing to them, or they board it
from the end, it hasn't been returned yet. And so they still have the debt to pay off. And so it's
important for us to remember to return that debt. Okay.
		
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			So the profits on the wall, I do send them said, finally, now that his skin has finally cooled down
on him, we ask also kind of what's ahead of
		
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			me,
		
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			what is permissible for those President and others to do when someone says away what is permissible
to do when someone passes away, it is permissible for them to under the face of the deceased person,
and to kiss the person who passed away. So for example, if it's a family member, relative,
obviously, if you're not to the person, right, then you would not do this.
		
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			So of course, we have to respect the body of the deceased even after they passed away. And this is
where in Islam and we don't just respect the human being while they're alive, we respect the body of
the human being even after they passed away. And so it is permissible for them to uncover the face
of the deceased and kiss him is also allowed to cry for the person who passed away for a period of
up to three days. Okay, up to three days. out the love, said, The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam was to us men even mother rune when he was dead, when he had passed away and covered his
face, leaned over and
		
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			kissed him, so maybe his cheek right kissed him. He then cried to the extent that I saw tears
running down his cheeks. The law is telling us that he cried and tears ran down the cheeks of the
prophets on love. It was
		
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			in another narration out of delight and jack federal dilemma, unstated the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam aloud with the family of Jaffa, his father,
		
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			remember to delight in Jaffa? So Abdullah, the son of Jaffa, saying that the Prophet salallahu,
alayhi wasallam, allowed his father's family to mourn for three days. And then he called them and
said, Do not for your brother after today,
		
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			do not mourn, do not cry for him after today, cause like, you had your moment to be sad. Now it's
time for you as well to move on. And they know that it's easier said than done. Trust me, I know
that it's easier said than done. I see people all the time, sometimes agendas as done. So kind of
like one of my, one of my friends in high school from high school. He passed away. Last year, maybe
it's almost two years now. Right? almost two years ago. Yeah. Two years from this summer.
		
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			He was abroad in another country, and he passed away. And his body was sent back to Canada. And
		
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			there was a time so for some time before body arrived. And then also after the body arrived in order
to clear customs and everything. It took some time. So it was well over a month before
		
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			the funeral actually happened. And I remember at the funeral,
		
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			you know, his mother, his mother, who was who's Muslim. In to me, she saw me and she grabbed me. She
grabbed me and she said Pamela, you know, we were children. We were children growing up playing
together.
		
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			With him in high school with him. You know, we grew up together. His mother knew me
		
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			Since I was a child,
		
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			she grabbed me and she said, What is the login and do what is due to him.
		
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			But this was well over a month after he passed away, right because of all the other legalities of
things, and also have a law. And it was a very complex situation. But you know, when we finally had
the the funeral, just just before they buried him, you know, she saw me and she grabbed me and she
said, You know what is going to do? To him pray that Allah protects him pray that Allah protects
him. We ask Allah subhana wa tada to make it easy for all of all of us and all of our family and
relatives when someone passes away, you know, to allow them to have their moment and have their
time. And no doubt, the heart is always going to feel sadness, right? It's not going to go away. But
		
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			it should not set us back. That's the point is that you don't just mourn and mourn and cry and weep
and weep. That's actually not from the dean, as we'll see. Right. So you try your best after three
days, or last time to move on. Now you still have,
		
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			okay, we still have our life, we still have to worship but most of the person who returned to a law
returned and left a huge sign a huge example for us, right that they returned to a loss of habitat.
We haven't yet our test is still ongoing, our life is still ongoing, there's no guarantee that we're
going to die as believers is no guarantee that we will die in a good state or a good condition. So
we have to continue to do good, we have to continue to work hard, we can't just stop and be like,
Oh, they passed away, my life is over to normal life isn't over. Alright, we need to continue.
		
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			And so
		
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			you know, it is permissible for the family to uncover the face and kiss, you know, the forehead or
the cheek or the face of the deceased person. I remember
		
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			azeez about a year ago, less than a year his father passed away in LA, and
		
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			we drove to Montreal, and we went to the janaza
		
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			children if he does, like open minds, adolescence, we studied in Medina, we've been very, very close
to one another.
		
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			And somehow the law
		
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			a remember, I went into the room in the back, his father's body was inside of the coffin.
		
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			And a very, very close friend of his father
		
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			came to the masjid. So he brought him and he brought me into the room. And he opened up the coffin,
and he uncovered the face, you know, and tied the cloth and uncovered the face of his father. And he
allowed his friend to see, you know, his father's friend to see his father's face. And then he asked
him to, to leave and I stayed in with him, he asked me to stay behind, to help him to move the body
out. And before closing, he, you know, leaned over, and father on the forehead, and, you know, me to
draw for him. And then he covered up the face of his father, and, you know, close the boss over it.
And then we put the lid in a piece of wood over the top of the coffin. And then he asked me to help
		
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			him to rule out. So I remember making a door out to a loss of Hannover, which I had at that time.
And I continued to pick this door, and I will never forget that and that scene of our brother,
shifting feet,
		
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			you know, giving his his a kiss on the forehead. And I thought to myself, yeah, a law,
		
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			me to have the ability to also do that. If they pass away, give us the ability to see them again
before they pass away. And, you know, this, this period of COVID-19 has been a time that really
struck many of us. And one thing that I was very, still very,
		
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			you know, cautious about and very,
		
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			I would say
		
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			cautious about is the fact that you know any one of us if our parents or loved ones or family
members passed away of COVID-19 we can't even see them.
		
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			And if done janaza of you know community members who passed away during this time,
		
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			if they passed away of COVID-19 there'll be inside a sealed
		
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			you know, sort of bag or wrapping
		
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			it
		
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			If you can't open it by law, you're not allowed to open it. And so there's there's going to be no
host, there will be no view viewing like as in, you won't be able to see your loved one has to be up
and you can't see them. It's done, it's closed, you can't even see your loved one. And I know some
of our community members, they went through this and it's very difficult for them, we asked them how
to avoid to add it to make it easy for them, to suit their hearts, to grant them ease and peace in
their hearts and to make it easy for us as well. And to protect us and protect our loved ones. And
to grant us the ability to, you know, be content with a loss of hand which is decree when any of our
		
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			loved ones pass away. And
		
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			okay.
		
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			Additives of the deceased person. Two things are obligatory upon the deceased relatives when they
hear of the death of someone who passed away. The first is that they have to be patient, and pleased
with the decree of a loss of cannabinoids. They have to be patient and pleased with the commendable
loss of habitat and this is what a low wanted and remember, every single one of us will pass away or
loss as it were, and we don't need anyone else to tell us right? You don't even need me to remind us
but it's a reminder that
		
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			environment meaning, you know, Allah Subhana Allah tells us in the
		
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			universe in the if God told, every soul shall taste death.
		
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			Every single in every one of us will experience death, we cannot be alive and not experienced death,
it's a guarantee is the one guarantee we have that we will die. Right? And so
		
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			it is human to die. So when someone passes away, it hurts. But we have to remember that we will also
go through what they're going through. We will also leave this world how, in what state in what
condition in which way? At what time? How old will we be all of those details we don't know that's
led to a loss of power with data so that we can continue to push forward in our lives worshiping
Allah and doing the best that we can. However, we leave it up to a lesson.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			So, what is obligatory upon us, first of all is to be patient with the decree of Allah subhana wa.
entity pleased with it. And this is why I lost my hand with baronesses in Toronto bacara while
everyone mbca immunol Sophie well, jewelry one asimina and 40 were thought well that she is salvini
and Latina either a saga Tomasi button con, la La, la, la, la, la, la la la to never be more,
Ashleigh, what will our eco home will matter? He says, and I'll just read through the English very
quickly. And certainly we shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and
fruits as in provisions, but give glad tidings to those who are patient who went and did with a
		
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			calamity they truly to allow me belong and truly to him, shall we return?
		
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			They are those on whom our blessings from their Lord and receive His mercy and it is they who are
the guided ones. So those who say in evaluating your own are the ones who are guided without him
upon them is.
		
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			Right there is mercy. blessings that come from Austin
		
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			says they're the ones who are guided to what will let you go home with one another and said the
Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed by a woman who was quite one of the female
companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and she was at a grave and she was crying and
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed by her. He said to her, fear a lot and have patience.
She said, Get away from me, you have no experience, you have not experienced what I've experienced.
		
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			But she didn't realize and
		
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			recognize who he was.
		
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			She was then told that it was the Messer of a loss and a lot of it was
		
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			this fact, almost killed her like she was in so much pain that oh, I spoke to the prophets, or
something like that, like, you know, you're grieving, because someone passed away within you speak
so rudely to the prophets and along it was something that was worse than what just happened. Right?
He's the Messenger of Allah. How can we speak to him this way?
		
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			So she didn't recognize who was when she was told to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the
fact that that knowledge was so hard to upon her, she went to the door of a messenger of Allah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and said
		
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			I'm sorry, she went to his door and did not find anyone there. Right? She didn't find anyone there.
She said, O Messenger of Allah, I did not recognize you. Right. So she, you know, spoke out to the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, He then said, Truly patience is at the beginning of the
affliction.
		
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			You need to be patient, and right from the beginning, right from the get go, because if we're not,
and it's going to always be difficult, the moment we push patients into us, then everything after
that becomes easy. See, it's very hard to get past it, if we're not going to be patient. So we have
to try our best to my brothers and sisters, as difficult as it is. And there's a great reward and
being patient for
		
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			the one who's who has lost their own child who has experienced the death of their own child
		
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			looks at the the whole blue, hopefully, it'll be longer and narrated that the women as the profits
are longer. And we know this very famously right. The women as prophets of Allah, Allahu wa sallam
appoint a day for us so that we as women, as in the women of the Prophet, sallAllahu, Alayhi, wa
sallam, they wanted some time with him so that he can teach them as well. Because then they're
always stuck together, right, and women are all stuck together as well. But the prophet SAW that he
was being a man, you know, he was always surrounded by the companions. And even though he sometimes
tried to have his own time, you know, people always come closer to him. So they asked the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam appointed day for us, so that he can teach them.
		
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			So he did. And he taught them by saying, if three, one of the things he taught them is, if three
children of a woman pass away, so if a woman has children, and they pass away,
		
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			they will be a barrier
		
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			from denim for
		
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			those children will be a barrier, as in, they are the means of this mother being protected from
john,
		
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			one of the women when a female companion law where it was seldom said, and even the only two, as in
what if one of us has to and those like two children that have passed away. And he said, a lot of it
was done and replied and said, and even if there's only two, right and even only two,
		
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			that was the first thing being patient,
		
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			and pleased with the decree of Allah subhanho wa Taala. The second thing is
		
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			that it's obligatory on the relatives
		
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			to say in La la, he was in La Ilaha Rajim as mentioned in the previous set, right? And also it's
encouraged say, along that journey, female see Betty, what, what a sniffly Amina
		
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			or LA reward me for my affliction and replace it with something better for me. And there's a very,
very interesting Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu that we all need to very close attention on
sentiment about the lover and having said that she heard the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam say,
		
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			attention on center of your love and her said, she heard the prophet SAW the Messenger of Allah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say, no servant is inflicted within an affliction. But if he said is so
knows that no worshipper of Allah Subhana Allah is faced with a hardship or trial or some difficulty
		
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			and says
		
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			in Allah he were in La Jolla Raji are on a long journey, if you will see but he was literally afraid
Amina, we belong to a lot to him we we are to return. And Allah reward me in my affliction, and make
what is after it. Therefore me.
		
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			If someone says this, she says the Prophet salaallah alayhi wa sallam said if someone says this
after they've been gone through some hardship, law will reward him for his affliction, and we'll
give him a better replacement. and sell him I said, When
		
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			Abu Salah died, who is Abu Salah, her husband, right? Instead when Abu Salah died
		
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			what Muslims are better than a ballista This is what she says what Muslims are better than Abu
Salah.
		
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			He was an amazing person for her it was her husband. She says what Muslims are better than abou
cinema. The first household that has
		
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			emigrated to the Messenger of Allah.
		
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			Then I said those words that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught them in early last year
in a journal. along that journey female See, Betty will hate on me.
		
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			And she says, And Allah replaced him for me, by the messenger of Allaah, Allah Allah usnm in Allah
gave her something even better, right? She said, what you know, what is better than than him and I
will send him like he sacrificed so much and embrace this Deen and so on. And she says what the
prophet SAW longer and even some of them said, do say to allow you belong to Him, we shall return.
And for anyone who, you know, goes through this hardship or difficulty, to say, Well, you know,
whatever it comes after this may be better for me than than what has already passed. And Allah
blessed her with something even better. She married the prophets on a lot. But
		
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			this is a beautiful examples of how Allah
		
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			what is forbidden upon the relatives
		
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			of the deceased will take this is just five things, right? And they're very similar to each other.
So things that we should not do after someone we know has passed away. The first is wailing, like
crying uncontrollably.
		
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			ematic Lee narrated that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said four things will be amongst this
ummah, from the things of jet helia. So there will be four things that the people of this oma will
carry on from the time of ignorance. And they will not give up boasting about social status. We live
in a world of social media and we're just constantly medical Look at me, look at me, look at me,
right, boasting about social status, defaming lineage, seeking rain, through the stars, and wailing
after someone passes away.
		
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			going nuts.
		
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			The second and third things that we're not supposed to someone passes away is
		
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			just give me one second to plug this in. Because
		
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			the second thing is
		
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			striking the cheeks. Someone's hitting themselves
		
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			or tearing the front of one's gap. Right? ripping like ripping their clothing or you know, like
going going nuts hitting themselves ripping their clothes and you see people doing this Nowadays,
people doing it in the name of and doing it in the name of Allah Subhana Allah Allah. Allah doesn't
want this from us, right? So getting yourself for beating yourself and destroying your clothing. And
it was not from the things that were supposed to do in the area that the prophet SAW
		
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			Us and Them said, the one who stressed tears the front of the gown, London's lamenting of the days
of ignorance and price goes up someone passes away, is not from homelessness, as in it's not from
the character from the characteristics of the believers to do that. The fourth thing is shaving
one's head. Some people after person passes witness shave that right.
		
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			Even Abu Musa said of Moosa fell seriously ill and fainted while his head was in the lap of one of
the women of his household, there upon the woman.
		
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			What happened I started going crazy.
		
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			He was not able to respond to her in any way. But when he regained his consciousness, so when he
began his consciousness, he saw what was happening and he was like, Whoa, what's going on here? She
thought he passed away and you know, he was gone.
		
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			And when he regained his consciousness, he said, I dissociate myself from those
		
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			people who the profits in the long run, I think you ascend them to associate with disassociated
himself.
		
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			And the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam disassociated himself from the woman who
whales, the woman who shaves her head due to a calamity. And the woman who tears the front opening
of her garment.
		
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			Right. So basically, losing control of yourself is what we are not encouraged to do. It is
discouraged and disliked in istep. And some will shave their head, right? We see this in some
cultures even up until today. I know some cultures where they shave the head, the woman will shave
your head. And number five and this is the last thing that we'll take for today and a lot of time is
		
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			shuttling one's hair.
		
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			One of the women who gave the pledge of allegiance to the prophets and all it was sent them said
from the matters that we pledged to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and from the things that
we vowed not to pay him were
		
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			as he used to say to us, you will not scratch your face right scratching your face or hitting your
face, whale
		
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			garment, nor make the hair disheveled, like going nuts.
		
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			Right going crazy. So basically control ourselves be composed when someone passes away be composed.
Why is the planning decree dependable a tad
		
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			it's out of our heads out of our control. We can even stop ourselves from dying.
		
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			Someone else passes away last a panel without his decree. We ask Allah Subhana Allah to make it easy
for us to continue to learn this Deen of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam or the Sunnah of the Prophet
salallahu alayhi wasallam the deen of Allah subhanho wa Taala. In the deen in the light of Islam, we
ask Allah subhana wa tada to grant us a deeper understanding open our hearts to what is right and
true. And to turn us away from what is wrong and displeasing to Allah subhana wa tada mean. And we
ask Allah subhana wa tada to forgive us of our sins, and to forgive the sins of those who have
passed away of our family members, and to place them into the highest ranks of Paradise and grant us
		
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			the same. And to make our graves wide open sweet scented gardens of Paradise. And we
		
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			open it up for some questions and charlo to add on has any questions, please feel free to type them
in now. We'll just open it up for a few minutes.
		
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			And we've been having some
		
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			not so pleasant. people join our sessions and type things in there. But escalus panels are added to
make it easy for us to be respectful to one another.
		
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			And to allow us to respect
		
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			and decisions of others as well.
		
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			Just like a little hidden for your time and effort. Say hello back to Alice. Alex, from you and your
family.
		
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			If you have any questions about our lesson for today,
		
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			feel free to ask. And when we do this in person, we usually go crazy with questions right. usually
have a lot of questions afterwards.
		
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			I mean,
		
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			I don't know if I grew up with some rajputs from Montreal. I don't know you might be related to
them.
		
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			Michael Hayden Kathy on Meanwhile, he had come
		
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			to was that Simon Ali asked, Allah bless you and your family.
		
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			What to do if someone has a debt to not remember or unable to pay? Okay, so if someone has a debt,
then we should try to pay it off
		
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			before that person, so if before he dies, okay, so if someone has a debt.
		
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			First of all, try to pay it off as quickly as possible. Secondly, if you don't remember how much it
is, then ask the person you borrowed from.
		
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			They may have forgiven you of the debt, and you no longer have to pay them anything. Or they might
tell you the amount, or they might lessen the amount.
		
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			Regardless, ask the person who lent you the money, how much you owe them and tell them say I'm
sorry, but I really don't remember how much it is. And I would hate to return to a loss of handling
data with a debt. And if someone is unable to pay back the debt, then they should try to make
arrangements for that debt to be paid off somehow in some way. So letting other people know and this
is why a contract with witnesses is important. When borrowing money or wealth from anyone that way
the family and others can be aware of the debt and something that's hidden in silent so that people
who are aware of the debts will be able to help to pay off the debts or to seek forgiveness from the
		
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			debt from the person who lent that money or that wealth.
		
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			So when it comes to okay philosophy 609 Valley concepts are located in Barca lo fi comm anyway,
yeah.
		
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			Is there a specific way folding the suggested wording to the sun? No. Not that I know of because
there was no such data that was used like this agenda, or john Maas that we use.
		
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			Nowadays, so there's no specific way. I know some people fold it from top to bottom. And then you'll
have the grandmother or grandfather who say, oh, Bothell, ah, don't fold it this way. Because you're
putting the head on the feet, you're putting the place that you make sense on the place that you
stand with your feet. So let's say hold it this way, and then fold it down. And event head part goes
down to the bottom as well. There's look
		
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			at a lot of these things eventually lead to superstitions, and they lead to us believing certain
things. These things are not from the DNA, as in this specific way, except that you don't do
something that's wrong to do something that's dirty, don't do something that is displeasing to us,
from what we know of. So you can fold your prayer mat as you wish. One thing important to to note is
to try and keep ourselves clean. So especially at this time, when you know the prayer mat isn't
here.
		
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			You know, sometimes people finish and they fold the clean side in and keep the dirty side out, but
then they're touching dirty side with their hands. So nowadays, what I encourage people to do is to
fold the dirty side in and keep the clean side out. But then fold the place that you're putting your
head down on to make such that inside and then wrap it inside. So keep our clean, because you don't
want to put your
		
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			face on a place that is already contaminated or soiled. Right? And you do your best on what to add
after that.
		
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			Can we pray for non Muslims who pass away? You can not ask for forgiveness. So we're not to ask
forgiveness. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked for was added to light in the punishment
of
		
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			uncle who had passed away.
		
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			After a loss of heritage Allah had informed him that is not permissible for us to seek forgiveness
for those who passed away that we're not
		
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			ask Allah subhana wa Jalla to make easy for all of us and
		
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			Canadian Mashallah Canadian, a me? You mean Canadian mom? Because unneeded is not a Canadian
language sort of word. Right? But hamdulillah The beautiful thing about candidates are all from
different places. So the beauty of Canada and beauty of Canada.
		
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			So do people have to come over? What about all
		
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			Hutton's done in some cultures, so those items are not from the son of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam. As for collecting any wealth or anything of that sort, if people want to contribute, if
it is known that someone had a debt people contribute, like we saw in the example of Abu Qatada or
the Longhorn, who took it upon himself to pay the debt of the person who passed away. If we have
community members who want to do that, then that's perfectly fine. And it's permissible for people
to you know, come forth and pay off the debt of the person who passed away.
		
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			Yes, Canadian.
		
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			Philosophy 609 when it comes to
		
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			saying it says my mother passed away a few years back in that indictment on June we all must forgive
her. I do not know how many facets she missed, what should I do?
		
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			So
		
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			you don't necessarily need to make up the facets that a person missed. And this is why we're
supposed to make up those fast before the next Ramadan are also supposed to seek forgiveness to make
Toba to Allah subhana wa tada you can do extra setup a give extra setup on behalf of your mother.
		
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			And remember, you can also feed people the person who missed a day of fasting they can you know
expiate that or that day by feeding someone a meal.
		
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			So feed people and we ask Allah Subhana Allah to accept from her I mean
		
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			last question before we go because it's almost time for mocha did I need to wrap up, put things away
and close up
		
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			any last questions no questions from Facebook or YouTube today? I find that very interesting. But we
do have sent them from the view so for Hannah Jodie says a ceremony comes to you as well. I don't
know if he's still there because he messaged at 819 and 37 seconds and
		
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			welcome server to body over cattle you also the exam that eat 24 and 12 seconds.
		
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			All right. Anyone here from Malaysia?
		
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			Singapore, Indonesia, Southeast Asia, Hong Kong anywhere. Anyone? Just make me happy make the day.
		
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			Yeah, is that yes, you are from Malaysia.
		
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			Notes rules
		
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			Okay, so for us has a question
		
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			Can we do it for the person who is alive but can't go
		
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			so I'm not it can be done for someone who's passed away. Right It's not something that's compulsory
upon them.
		
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			But there's no need and no doing armineh for someone who is alive
		
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			except the person was past
		
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			looking at where they come from to LA he was
		
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			the leisure time a lot of Habiba RB I saw lots of auricula
		
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			hungry La La Malaysia. Acaba.
		
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			suscipit
		
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			suscipit I don't know if that's one word or two words or three words but yes, you're from Asia
Welcome to LA live aqsiq I love them religions are
		
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			I mean, hello for us.
		
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			Alright, that's it for today. I will see you soon in sha Allah does Apple fail on your lesson
handling data protecting you and your families and keep you all safe and united always grant you the
highest levels of paradise. And we asked most of our data to make us pass away from world with the
best way, best way to grant us long lives on Eamon and Islam health and wealth. And we ask Allah
Subhana Allah to fill this with lots and lots of wealth, lots of wealth, say I mean, we need a lot
of wealth so that we can this dunya and achieve great things with the wealth that we have and it
never gets to our hearts and we use it and use it and use it to build and build and build and do
		
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			lots of things, not just building things. I mean, like hospitals and services and food banks and
stuff like that. And we need to build and build and build lots of things, entities and societies
from the oma and we never feel the pinch. We never feel the squeeze We ask Allah subhanaw taala to
make us so wealthy, that we are able to that. I mean, hello FICO will see all of you soon in sha
Allah does not come low Hayden for coming. I wish I could, you know spend more time with all of you.
It's always nice to see more and more people logging in. And we will join all of these in another
class. So we're at a common law here.