Sh. Daood Butt – Invite Your Neighbours to the Masjid!
Sep 16, 2016
Daood Butt – Invite Your Neighbors To The Masjid
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The speakers emphasize the importance of reaching out to non- Muslims to see what they do and invite them to join events. They stress the need to be polite when asking for help, show respect for your neighbors, and show appreciation for your actions. They also discuss various topics such as socializing, driving, and privacy, and provide examples of behavior that can be considered rude or rude in Islam. The customer expresses frustration at a poor service experience at a station, but the representative apologizes and explains that the call is about business. The customer expresses frustration at a recent incident where someone ate a trash bag, but the representative apologizes and explains that they cannot help with the situation.
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I'm going to ask all the youth to come over to this side inshallah. So all you guys that are playing basketball, it's time to stop dribbling and come to this side and stop shooting as well. Especially the brother with the ball in the green shorts. Hey, come to this side inshallah. We're going to do some practical things today. some really interesting things.
For now, whoever's coming through the door
is going to have something nice.
So any of those youth coming through the door will have something nice Mashallah. So you stop where you are? Stop Anyone else? Whoever comes through the door, Mashallah you stop where you are. today. You can go sit down shala Okay, whoever just came through the door, grab a chair and bring them here?
Yes.
You could fold it up, just put them to the side. We're going to use them later on in childhood. Okay. Just remind me about this. Remind me about those chairs at the end. ChildLine. Okay, so we begin today inshallah Tiana we wanted to do again before I go any further just a reminder to the sisters the partition is up so if any of the sisters want to come forward and sit on this side to come through the white door, you can do that.
So today who is here for jumaan? Raise your hand if you are here for Joomla
Okay, for the first one right the one that I lead good second, it's okay you can just put it there and
that's good.
No, I didn't mean bring a chair to sit on.
And then bring a chair over here and leave it there. That's enough chairs there's more than enough chairs I only needed for you guys brought in like eight. Just put it put it over there. Don't clutter this area. Okay, good. So today at Yamaha, the hochma was related to what's going to take place in the mustard next week. Next Saturday, there's going to be an open mustard I don't know if you open house open mustard, the mustard is always open hamdulillah but right outside the mustard there's this big sign that says that next Saturday on the 24th it's going to be an open house you know for the non Muslims, our neighbors, invite them into the mustard so that they can learn about
Islam they can see what we do they can see the place that we gather regularly they could see the place that we come to on Fridays for example for Joomla and for our Salah our prayers
and they can also see that there's not things that they may think take place during in the must here in the masjid so they may think you know going into a church they see a lot of idols and statues coming into the masjid we don't see any they may think that there's a lot of paintings and you know stained glass and things of that sort. And of course we don't have that in this Masjid but it's not that you know, it isn't something that's permissible in the masjid in general. So stained glasses, okay. But generally speaking, relating it to a church, a lot of the people will think okay, coming into a Masjid, it must be just like the place of worship, where Christians will go into right,
because that's the majority religion in this country. Now, what we noticed some had a lot is that many of us because in the Juma clip I was talking about the importance of reaching out to others the importance of inviting Muslims, sorry, inviting the non Muslims, our non Muslim neighbors to come to the masjid to see what we do, and to interact with some of the Muslims that are here. Now, this is not a project that is inviting all the Muslims to come to the masjid next Saturday. Okay, that might actually create a little bit of chaos, because it might be too many people hanging around too many people getting their input too many people, you know, not really being prepped with how they're
supposed to handle a non Muslim coming into the mustard. So hamdulillah the team is ready to do that. But for you and I what's important is that we invite our neighbors, especially our non Muslim neighbors, or our friends, colleagues, co workers, it might even be students who we go to school with, give them a simple invitation and the invite cards are, they are outside. Can we get some of them in here just so that they have them on the table and shall not
and encourage everyone like I did today in Juma had to take one of these cards home and invite at least one neighbor to the masjid. Now what does that mean for me and you though? Allah subhanho wa Taala shows us in the Quran, like we've mentioned before, and we've actually covered it in the book at the bottom of REITs. When we spoke about neighbors, Allah Subhana Allah says couldn't do hydromet in awkward Egypt leanness. morona Bill maruf 10 hona Anil Mancha. What took me noona villa. Does anyone know what that means?
You guys speak Arabic. What does that mean? Yes.
Good, what took me No, no. Billa What's the last part? What taught me norrona Miller
and we believe in the law right? And you believe in Allah. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says that you are from the best of people, the best nations that ever walked the face of this earth. You're the best people to have ever come to have you encourage goodness and you discourage that which is no good evil. Can you stop evils what taught me Luna Villa and you believe in Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah subhanho wa Taala gives us that as a simple example in the Quran and i like i said in Juma I don't want to spend too much time on this verse because we've heard it so many times time and time again. Allah subhanho wa Taala it also shows us in the Quran odorheiu illa Serbian abelia rugby
kabil Hekmati? Well mo raventail has an app here we actually learn how to give Dawa how to speak to someone else. In this verse, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Call ILA Serbian Arabic call people call others to the way of your Lord Illa Sabina Arabic. Bill Hekmati. Well, mo wherigo till hacer una how do we invite people? This is where I want us to learn? Yeah, this is it becomes very practical now. Okay, what is the loss of Hannah with Hannah telling us he's telling us to invite people to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to the pack the way of Islam. Bill Heckman, what is hikma?
wisdom, very good. Wisdom called People First of all, Allah subhanho wa Taala does not say called people by going to them and you know, grabbing them and shaking them and forcing them to accept Islam. That's not the first thing that Allah subhana wa tada mentions. In fact, he doesn't say that. Allah subhanho wa Taala says us wisdom, use hikmah when we want to invite people towards Islam, the very first thing that they're going to look at is not what we are going to say. They're going to look at us who we are. Are we people that are always angry? Are we people that are always swearing? Are we people that are always yelling at each other? Are we people that are stealing and cheating?
Or are we people that are nice people that are smiling people that say good things to each other people that help one another or help others when we don't even need to and that's what's important because Allah Subhana Allah says to us, Hekmat us wisdom when we are inviting people to your towards Allah subhanho wa Taala now using wisdom is of various different types and we can get into so many little details but I don't want to because it's just going to become really technical. Okay, so what I want to do is just rush through a few things a few lessons and then we're going to take a lot of practical examples and then open it up for some questions and dialogue Okay, so let's handle it at
first and foremost says to use hekman then he says one molar a bottle has Santa what is more a bottle has Santa
Who knows?
Hey, it's got to be some people here understand the verses of the Koran.
Whenever I give you guys homework no one does it. So I'm not going to give you this as homework and you asked you for the answer now.
The best level what do you mean by best level?
Food the route Illa Sadie lira Vika bill Hekmati well mo wherever till Hasson
Okay, very good. Mashallah. advising them, advising them in nice ways, speaking to them in a nice manner. Remember the first thing that we mentioned, they're going to look at us from the outside. And we have to do things with hekla with wisdom. When we want to invite someone to Islam, we might not need to go up to them very firstly and say, hey, guess what? I'm a Muslim. I want you to come with me and follow the wave. Mohammed, come on, let's go to the masjid and you just bring them to the masjid. And they're completely confused. No, we advise them using hekla we speak to them nicely. We interact with them nicely. Then Allah Subhana. Allah says, advise them with with good words kind
words. And then he says, What's the deal?
Who knows what g dal is? What is G dal?
argue okay. It could be translated as argue Anyone else? Raise your hand if you know
he hadn't you know, discuss. g Dan. What was done what was a d dot known for?
Dialogue,
debate, debating. Now notice Allah Subhana Allah puts debating at the end of the, the types of Dawa, the tips that he's giving to us. Allah subhanho wa Taala says use hikmah then use good advice. Then he says what jarrahdale whom bill? He said
He doesn't say go and start debating people and saying oh you religion is like that you religions like this Ah that's nonsense don't follow this Christianity Judaism all this stuff No, no, that's not for me No, a lot doesn't say to do that he says would you do at home build it here. So someone comes to argue with you or comes to debate with you with regards to Islam or your way of life Your maybe your manner of dressing etc. Don't start getting into debates with them to try and prove that your rights by putting them down. Okay, prove that this is right by giving proof and reasoning why this is right. Okay, let's take another example.
menorah min C'mon current value hi yah hoo be ready for ilam yesterday. Fabulous. And for Elon yesterday for the Colby was alika of the hafele Eman. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he tells us when we're inviting people or we see something that's wrong. We're trying to call people towards goodness. Remember, he says men, men come Mancha, whoever from amongst us see something that's wrong. Okay, for example, you see someone doing something wrong, trying to find something that's wrong.
playing basketball during the football.
There's nothing wrong with having a basketball in the football. Right? There's nothing wrong with having the basketball on the hook. But maybe you're playing basketball while the hook was taking place. So you're out there and the hook was in here right now. This is not the flipper. Okay? This is no halakha hamdulillah. But the Nice try. He's like trying to get me now, right. But some had a lot in common can any one of us who see something that's wrong, the profits are longer and he was selling them says tell you a year ago big change that situation. Physically, he says using your hands, but it means physically. Now this level is actually a level that is kept for the leaders. So
for example, you're speeding down the highway, right and some guy pulls you over and slaps you across the face because your window is open. It says Hey, stop speeding. He physically stopped you from doing something you're at a red light, he slaps you on the face. And he says stop speeding right away, you're gonna be like, well wait a second, what just happened here, right. So you might not even speed you might get out of your car, put it in park and get out of your car and start doing something wrong. But some kind of law that is an example of how the authority is supposed to take care of dealing with things physically. But that can also transfer into the house. For example,
inside of our houses, the mother and the father, they see their children doing something wrong. Right taking food, instead of eating it. They're like, putting it in their shirt, pretending that they ate it, hiding it in there, right? Like pizza, just dump it inside my mom, I ate my food. And then she goes and does the laundry and sees that there's like cheese and you know, all these vegetables stuck to the shirt of this child you do that? How did I get a shala? Right. So the mother or the father now has the ability to change that situation to tell that child You know what, from now on, you're going to eat your food with no shirt on
simple example, because maybe the child is two years old, right? And this child is doing that putting the food inside their shirt, or inside their bid, hiding it somewhere else or dropping it on the floor, putting it under the table. So the parents say From now on, you're not going to sit on the table, you're going to sit on the floor and you're going to eat so you can't put your food underneath the table. There's nowhere to put it. Okay, so they're going to change that situation. But then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, If we can't do that, if you can't change that wrong situation, physically, then we should take another method to try and change it. How do we do
that? What do we do?
Alright, quaint like this. Okay. Yeah, point like that much better way, pointing like this mean something else yet? point like this, use your hand.
Alright, so he said something really good, nice and change that situation verbally? Say something. A simple example. What just happened right now? I saw something that was not right. So I changed it by verbally correcting that problem. I told him, the best thing is instead of pointing like this, because this kind of looks like a gun, and we don't want to promote guns, we live in Canada Alhamdulillah. We're far away from the United States, right? We don't want to promote guns over here. So change the situation how by showing him you could point like this point with your hand rather than pointing like that. Or if you want to point with your finger, put your thumb down.
Right. So Subhanallah that's another example. Then the profits in the long run even send them shows us if we can't change the situation that way. How should we change it?
Hey, how do we change it?
Hey,
sorry.
calling a higher authority really
Guests Mashallah. But no, when we're looking at the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says, Well, you have to be can be with alika baffle Eman, right. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam shows us if you want to change the situation, and we don't have physical ability to change it, nor can we verbally change that situation, like we might not have the courage to actually say something about it, then change it in your heart, as in dislike that situation, don't like it, hate it inside of you. But maybe you're too weak to actually do something about it. So you just hate it inside of you. And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, and that
is the lowest level of a man, that's the lowest level of a man as in it is one of the lowest levels of things that we can actually do to try and change a bad situation. Now let's look at some techniques. Okay, now here we get into how we're going to approach our neighbors, you want to approach your neighbor,
the very first thing that you should do first of all, before we even, you know, go into this, how many of you have already approached your neighbor about Islam or spoken to them about it, maybe invited them already to the open house that's taking place next week? Raise your hand if you already have 1234? Okay, how many of you have conversations with your neighbors, all of your neighbors, not just one, all your neighbors, so the person to your right, the person to your left, maybe the person across the street? How many of you have conversations with your neighbors, as in, you're capable of speaking to them good. So that means about half of us have not really approached our neighbors. Even
if we're living in an apartment building, which means we have more neighbors than everyone else because their neighbors undressing on top of us as well. Right. So that means that half of us have not really done that. The very first thing that we want to learn in order to approach our neighbors in a correct manner is to dress appropriately. Hey, dress appropriately. Why? Why do we dress appropriately?
You want to show respect? Very good. You want to show respect? That's one thing but Why else?
Very good. You want to show them that Muslims are not messy. They're very nice. well kept very proper people right and hamdulillah Anyone else want to add anything? Why do we dress nicely and appropriately?
So okay, so raise we raised our hands right so I don't know who's speaking if we just speak out loud. Yes.
First impressions very good. The first impression is an impression that lasts long someone sees you and like oops wrong this person smells really weird. That impression lasts long, but someone sees you and say wow, look at that. You know boy or look at this girl look at Oh so cute. Right in Malaysia we used to say 2020 that means very cute, right? So you see them like wow, you're really impressed. That will always stick with you. Yes.
All very good. Mashallah. So he's thinking in a different light, Mashallah. He's saying if you go to your neighbor for the very first time and you're wearing a robe, right, and you look like really super Islamic, they might think, Oh, no, you're a terrorist. Right? So how old are you?
11 years old. Look at what the media does to the 11 year olds nowadays. Mashallah. Right. And anyone else? Someone else over there said something?
No. last, last. Okay, the next thing that we do.
Okay.
Very good question. We're going to do that later. Don't worry. We're going to do it later. So he's asking if you go to speak to your neighbor, and you just mentioned Islam to them, and they get really angry, right? And then that makes you really angry. How do you deal with them? We're going to do that right after inshallah, okay, we're going to give you scenarios, and you have to act it out. And we have to give you inputs on how you did very good. So the next thing is to smile. Okay, smile when you go to speak your to your neighbor. smile at them. Don't go to them. You like.
Yeah, just woke up. Listen, my mustard has an open house tomorrow. Here. Take this. I'll see you later. Like, what was that? He just got out of bed. You have no idea. You don't even know. You don't even know what day of the week it is. And you just like throw something at someone else. You notice some kind of low in the Jehovah's Witness come and knock on your door. Are they dressed like in track pants? No, they look like they're going to seal a deal at some business deal. Right? It looked like a million dollars and handler you open the door. Right through the door. You smell that perfume? like Whoa, what's going on here? Right? They look really good really presentable. Somehow,
like our Dean teaches us to do that religions in general teach us to be very proper people.
well kept. Another thing that we do other than dressing appropriately and smiling, observe those that are around you look around you. First of all scope, the grounds, know who your neighbor is who I'm going to speak to, if this neighbor of yours is someone who when you're playing soccer and your ball goes on their grass, and they start yelling at you, and they take a slingshot to try and pop your ball right there, try and make a hole through your ball. Okay, maybe this is not the person for me to speak to maybe I should let an adult go and speak to this person, right? So observe the people that are around you, right? Be the first to break the ice. When you go and you speak to someone, or
you see them? How many times do we see our neighbors almost every single day, they're coming and going. And we just get out of our car while they're getting out and getting out of their car. And we go into our house and they go into their house. And we don't say anything. And the reason why we don't say anything is because they haven't said anything to us. So we should be the ones who break the ice. You see someone who's standing outside of your house, whether they're a neighbor or not, maybe they're going for a walk down your street. Hello, how are you? Right? Have a nice evening and say something nice to them. Or for you know, sometimes they might be I don't want to say walking
their dog, but maybe they're walking their cat, right? Because people walk their cats nowadays, for some reason, right? They're walking their cat like, Oh, that's a cute little cat. Can I see that cat, right? So somehow you start to engage in conversation, we're going to give you scenarios to teach us how to do that inshallah. The very first thing that we should do when we're meeting someone is to not talk about religion.
Don't just go up to them and say, hey, guess what? I want to invite you to Islam. They're gonna say, Whoa, wait a second. You know, don't make the very first thing about Islam. or religion starts, you know, maybe you might start speaking about their religion. Okay. Generally speaking, this rule kind of applies across the board, generally speaking, but sometimes it doesn't. Like you might be walking by a church and you see someone sitting outside the church and you you know, ask them a question. Just because they're sitting on the steps of the church like, oh, did you plan on going to mass today or something that's religious, right? That's beginning with with with something that's
religiously associated. So make sure that when you start, don't start with religion right away, because someone might think, oh, okay, this person only wants to talk religion. And tell us, why do we say this, because it's important to build a relationship with the person that you're speaking to, it's important to build that relationship with them. The next thing that I'm going to encourage us to do is to show our Islam in our actions and don't rely on verbal speech all the time. Okay? Don't rely on actually speaking about Islam. Actions speak louder than words. So show Islam in your words, in your actions. Hey, let's try and do some some practical things inshallah. And then we'll get into
the will explain a few things as we go along.
I want to start with
Let me see, let me see, I have a bunch of things here, a bunch of scenarios, and you guys are going to act this out. Okay. And I'm going to start with some of the children and then we're going to move to some of the adults. Here. We're gonna have some of the adults do this stuff. Okay. So I will ask people who don't usually come up here, you haven't been here in a while. Where have you been?
here last week?
Where are you? Are you sitting in the back?
You're sitting right there. Mashallah, I just didn't see you. Were here the week before.
Catch you? I don't think I was here before either. Hey, so we're gonna we're gonna start with you. You're gonna come up here, right?
Do you want to be the Muslim?
Okay, you're gonna have a friend with you choose a friend.
Not people that have their hands up people who don't have their hands up.
Him, okay? Mashallah. All right, this is what we're gonna do. The two of you are friends. Okay? I want you to go down there. You're going to come up to me. I'm going to pretend just so that no one gets offended, right? I'm going to pretend that I am the person that you're trying to invite to Islam. So I'm the so called non Muslim. Okay. But I'm a Muslim Alhamdulillah. Okay. I said so called like this, okay.
And this is why I said, I'm going to do that so that none of you get offended and say, why'd you make my child do this or anything of that sort? Right. Hey, so the two of you are going to come up to me, right? But the first thing you're going to ask me is
are you Muslim?
Okay.
Take this off, just to make it easier. All right. So back up and you come down the street. Okay. Both of you are Muslim, and I'm going to pretend like I
not okay. And let's see how you give power to someone. Now what I want all of you to do now I'm your neighbor. Okay? Remember, I'm your neighbor. What I want all of you to do is pay attention because I want a few people from the audience right? To give them advice on what they did wrong or what they could have done better. Okay, so pay attention. Hey, let's go.
Yeah.
Hey, what's up? Oh? Oh, one more is a really loud Oh,
yeah, what's going on man?
So why don't you stop me from cutting my grass?
Am I Muslim? When I look like a terrorist to you?
Do you want us friends or something? You guys gonna come in like pick on me? Just because you see white people in the news you think like white people are bad or something? You're white look really red right now.
You must be like a mohawk native Indian or something.
Right.
Now what's up you guys come to my house and bother me man. Get off my grass. Get off my grass or stand on my grass. Man. Stay on that side. Stay on that side. Get off my grass. And I call the police if you get on my grass.
Tell us your Time's up. I think you guys failed drastically. I shall no No, no, no, we do one. Hey, I want us to give them advice adults to give them advice.
Yes
Mashallah, very good. Listen to that. They didn't even offer help. Remember, we said actions speak louder than words. Right. And I did say that sometimes we don't need to actually say anything. Right? To show an example of Islam. First of all actions speak louder than words. The brother mentioned. They didn't offer any help whatsoever. They didn't say hey, can we help you with your lawn? Right?
Good. Give some compliments as an icebreaker. Good and hamdulillah What else? Anyone else?
Okay.
Very good. Greet him. Ask him how the weather is. For example.
Can we help you out with something? Okay, good.
Stop laughing very good. You guys came to me and just
like what's wrong with these crazy kids? Man? Right. There's something hiding under their shirts or something?
Yeah.
No, I want the adults. Okay, go on.
Okay, so they were nervous, shy.
Okay, so they weren't composed. Okay, is that what you were gonna say?
Yeah, Qatar Airways.
They should not have gone on the lawn when I told them not to very good, I shall not. Okay. That's an example of two people not really composed as well as they should be. And not approaching the right person. As in, if they were going to offer help to clean the grass or cut the grass. That's great. But these are two people that basically went into a situation, not knowing what they were actually going to do. Okay, not knowing what they're actually going to do. Remember, we're trying to use these scenarios as you and I are going to approach our neighbors right now. Okay. So
I'm going to use two adults now.
Okay, you're not an adult.
I'm going to use our ways.
And for data, we use young adults for now just to break the ice because I know the older adults Mashallah they're like, hey, come. We're gonna do the exact same scenario but tomorrow it's supposed to be pouring rain. So as you guys walk over here, it's pouring rain and I'm sitting in my car, and I'm waiting to get out of my car to go into my house because it's pouring rain and I have you know, nothing to do. I just can't get into my house. I'm sitting in my car.
It's raining.
It's raining strain. lenses rain gonna stop
ringing and stop sitting in my car. Hey, good, good. What's up? Yes, it's raining a lot, man. Who's that?
I just don't have my umbrella I don't want to go into the rain might get sick. Your hoodie. I don't know man kind of looks wet already. I don't know who's gonna do anything for me right now I'm sitting in my car. I just want to go into my house.
Let me get an umbrella. Yeah, that'd be great. You know what I had pneumonia last week so I just don't want to step out of my car cars, you know? All right, cool.
Oh, thanks, man. That's super cool. Thanks a lot. Hey, so what do you guys walking around in the rain anyways for men come over here. Come get a get under the umbrella as well. Yeah, there we go. All right, cool. You guys. All right, going. Let's come into my house. Come through some tea. Come inside. Sit down. Have some tea. Hello, scenarios done. Zach. Hello, can you see that?
He didn't know that. You're right. You didn't ask? Am I Muslim?
But
I wondered why these two random people came up to me while I'm sitting in my car. And it's raining. I'm like, What are you doing? You offer me a hoodie that's already soaking wet. No, I'm sorry. He's already wet.
Because it's pouring rain. But he went to get me an umbrella. And now because I want to return the favor. I asked them to come under the umbrella and come into my house right and have some tea Sit down. And so you see there's many different scenarios that we could be faced with. We'll take a few different ones in sha Allah to add.
We're gonna use
Do you want to do this? Gotta do the next one. Yeah, the two of you.
Okay, hey, okay. The two of you are just stay there. Let me explain this first inshallah.
The two of you are
Oh, Mashallah. Is this because waste did it we have to give them chocolates
on us, so we have some chocolates here.
You did the first one.
Who did who did the first one. Was it you?
There were two people. It was you and yeah, you
and I summer here. We don't want to waste time on chocolates
and holiday.
Okay, so the two of you, right?
Are
the two of you are going to visit me at my house? Okay, you're gonna come to my house to invite me to the mustard. Okay.
I'm trying to think of how this is gonna play out for you guys. I don't want you guys to do anything wrong. Right? So just think of.
So you're gonna come visit me to ask me to come to the mustard. Right? on download. So technically, my name is Dave or David. Okay. And the thing is, I have a dog in my house. Okay, so you have to invite me but I have my dog. Go
okay.
Back up.
So I'm inside my house just eating my chocolate.
Some ding dong ring the doorbell or something? Right.
Who's ringing my bell it? Take what time is it? It's like 830 at night on a Friday night was opened up the door. Oh, Hi. How are you?
Do I want to come to the must to the masjid? What's? What's a Masjid?
Are you scared of my dog? Why?
Why are you scared of my dog?
Why are you scared of my dog? It's just a dog.
dot you're scared of dogs? Should I put it inside? Okay, open today. Get inside Toby. Get inside and close the door. All right. Yeah. So what you're inviting me Where? Where am I going? To the mosque?
Oh, you mean the place where like all the Muslims get together? That's like a dangerous place. Right? I heard a lot of people from Afghanistan there.
It's a peaceful place. I don't know me or the people from Afghanistan that come there. Afghanistan's dangerous place can't be peaceful. Again. He's there, right?
It can be peaceful when you guys have them all, like locked up or something. They're like, no. So how I don't understand, like, what does it look like?
It's like Guantanamo or something.
You don't know Guantanamo? Oh, that's good. That's good. You don't need to know Guantanamo. That's it. You stay away from those places. Those are bad places. Yeah, it's a bad place. So why don't you wear this scarf around your head.
Also the Muslim girls are the only beautiful women on Earth.
Yes, no, yes. No. I'm confused. Now I don't understand. you're inviting me to like, what? I don't know where I'm confused. Right? You're telling me I'm gonna go to this place is filled like Afghani people. And there's gonna be women wearing the hijab. That's a hijab, right? What are you wearing?
Because
I know there's a lot of discrimination in your religion.
There's no discrimination. So why are you wearing a hijab?
Because
Oh, okay. All right.
I don't know. I'll see. I'll think about it. You have like address or something for this? When is the open house? I mean, I don't know.
Next Saturday, next Saturday. Okay. All right. Thanks. I'll take you up on the offer. I'll see if I if I have some time. I'll come over. Right. Are you gonna be there? Because I'm a little bit scared. So like, if there's people I know, it might be kind of cool.
You don't know. All right.
So who's gonna be there? It's not gonna be like a big guy with a big beard from Afghanistan. Right.
You're ruining You're ruining their thing right now. You know that right?
So
we'll be on the other side. He'll be on the other. Okay. Oh, yeah. The discrimination. Okay. All right. Oh, I'll be the judge of that. I'll come and see it myself, right. Maybe I'll call CCTV, CCTV and get them to bring the cameras to they could, they could like show us the reality of what happens on the inside of a mosque. Right.
Okay.
Show me the fake stuff. Okay. All right. Cool. I'll take you up on the offer. I'll see what I can do. Thank you. Have a good day.
Mashallah, I want to adults to do that now.
No, I want two adults to do it.
We're gonna pick on
who
know
where we're gonna ask you.
You're from Afghanistan, you got the big beard.
We need you to do this. And
yeah, and you Mashallah.
But in this scenario, they are considering they're both adults, right? One of them is going to be the Muslim from Afghanistan. And the other one is going to be the guy who owns the dog.
Right. But in this scenario, I want you to invite Him into your house and insist on him coming into your house. Okay, but you have a dog. Okay. You have a dog. Yeah. All right. So you got to come up here, the two of you.
shala.
Right.
Now, they both have beards, but tell us so. You know, you're like inside of your house here.
You can come over here. You're inside your house. No, no, you're gonna come to his house soon. So you just take a few steps back and then you come and ring the doorbell and he's gonna answer the door. And then that's all up to you.
You're in your home. You're pretending to be David. Who has the dogs?
Yeah.
Yeah, you have to make it difficult for him. Do you want to do that? Or do you want me to be David? Yeah. Okay, all the David's.
Since I have a lot of experience pretending to be David.
Mashallah, okay, good. So the two of you will come and come up to my house. I'll just be washing my dishes. You come to my house. Do whatever's wash my, my my washing the dishes. Put them in the dishwasher.
Oh, someone's at my house. Hey, hey, how's it going? Good. I see you guys around.
Are you moving out?
To walk? Okay.
Say hi to you. Oh, cool. Thanks. Thanks.
Sure. All right. Let's go. Start walking.
It's good. Yeah, the weather's nice. You guys don't mind I brought my dog along with us. Right? Yeah, that's fine. He's on the leash, right? Yes. Okay. All right.
No, no. Why don't you just pat him here?
I never thought they would do that.
Yeah, his name is Toby. Yeah, he's he's 12 years old.
So they let you know that recently the monthly call these month have hurt you if you're Christian you know about the Prophet Abraham is the month of us, we just celebrated the head so, so we have get together in our, our place called master more, so we can show you how we're gonna play how we will do so. So this is an issue letter for you. Oh, cool, thanks. You can see the timing. So there is a barbecue there. So you know we're gonna have a barbecue. It's not gonna be that how neat.
neatly you guys like, I'm a vegetarian, you guys slaughter animals like I'm totally against
veggie burger.
We're gonna barbecue veggies. Yeah.
Just get on. So today no prophet.
Abraham. Yeah, I've heard of Abraham before.
You know what? Yeah, he was the guy.
I know. He used to challenge people. He always used to try and challenge people. Yeah, I don't know why he did that. No, he is the white man. And then the Prophet Allah. And God help him to understand that I thought so. This is why prophet
positive for all property. So the like, there's our property.
So so once you come over, I will show you how when appraising how many.
So we owe you guys like, we're gonna sleep. Like, should I bring my sleeping bag? Do I need a tent?
To also there's beds there already? We're just going to sleep in the beds.
Okay, okay. All right. There will be
different people coming up and
we will show them around the market. What do
you have a barbecue
you can have. So let me ask you a question. Where are you guys from?
I mean, I've seen you guys come and go, but like, Where are you from? Like, you know.
Thank you. You guys both have beards and stuff. Right? I'm from Pakistan. Oh, you're from Pakistan? What about you?
Oh, you're from Afghanistan? Oh.
You recently moved back from Afghanistan? Where was it? Like before after September 11. Did you?
You came after September 11. Did you like escape or something? You know?
I don't know. Cuz we hear like, Afghanistan's like, yeah, a lot of you guys like ended up in Guantanamo and stuff. So I was thinking maybe you came from there? I don't know. No.
So near Moscow, they're like, you know, I don't want to go there. And it's just like, everyone has a beard. And I'm the only one that has no beard. You know, I don't want to I don't want to be the only guy that stands out there gonna be other people there.
I think it'd be like, you know, I don't want to be racist, but I think it'll be white people. I have my friend. My colleague is coming. So their family's coming. You're gonna need more votes. Because we're from our houses, many people coming. Ah, okay, that sounds sounds like a party. Yeah. Should we bring anything? Should I bring like, you know, you want me to bring some meat or serving some beer or something?
Oh, you guys got all the drinks taken care of. Okay. All right. All right.
All right. All right. Sounds like a party. We cannot if you have a time limit, we can like you had to find we can pick you often. Don't take it. Sure. Sure. You know what, since both of you guys live right next door, what I'll do is I'll just knock on your door and let you know, you know what time I can make it and then we could make some plans. That's good. That's good. We'll
go together. Sounds good. Sounds like a plan. Thanks a lot. I'll see you guys take care. Have a good one.
How do you think that was? Okay, feedback. Let's go keep
your feedback. All right.
Overall,
overall, was good. Now, I hope no one's upset that I said, Bring along the beer. Right? Because that actually happens. That's the reason why I mentioned it. Because it actually happens. People do say that they offer things and say, Well, you know, we'll bring this or, you know, at someone and we see that school sometimes or at work where a colleague will give you a gift of like a bottle of wine or something. What do you do? Right? How do you deal with that situation? You had your hand up?
Okay, good.
Very good.
So instead of identifying one faith or run one religion in particular, just say there's going to be people of all different faiths that are coming very good. Yes.
They shouldn't pet the dog so much. Why?
Good. So with regards to the dog, and this is something that I really wanted to stress. And that's why I gave the example of having the dog is that a lot of us become really scared or spooked out when we hear a dog, or we see someone has a dog in their house, and we get scared to actually, you know, meet this person. And you know, it's really interesting. I told them about the scenario and told them that I'm going to have a dog. And before I could even invite them into my house, what did they do?
What did they do?
invited me to go where?
No, they invited me to go for a walk. They invited me out of my house to go for a walk. Now, that was really interesting. I was actually thrown off when they did that. I'm like, okay, they were supposed to come into my house. And they invited me out for a walk. So that took me away from this scenario where you know, we'd be sitting down inside of the home, and you're like, you know, what, there's dogs saliva everywhere, and stuff like that, you know, fur and all that stuff. And the dog might jump on you and it might come out of the room. It avoids all those different scenarios. Now, with regards to the dog petting the dog, petting a dog, there's no prohibition against it. It's the
saliva itself. If it touches your clothing or touches you, you wash it off, right? So don't get scared with regards to the dog. And in fact, this is something that shows you know, the non Muslim sometimes that our barriers are not so rigid, right? You don't have to pet the dog. Okay, don't think Oh, you know what, now let's all go start touching the dogs. No, but this is something that they did. Alright, so and handler that was a good example. Someone here had their hand up. Was he? No, no, someone here had their hand up. Okay.
Good.
Very good.
Yeah, very good. So seeing he mentioned that one of the reasons why they invited us invited me out for a walk was to avoid being served something inside of the house that they would not be able to consume, without actually saying, Oh, you know, we don't want to come in. Because you know, you might give us pork or something like, Wait a second, you know, we don't drink and stuff like that. So it's very good, Mashallah, they avoided the situation
going.
So you and your friend play soccer and invite him to come to the open house, so you play soccer with him? Yeah, that's good. That's perfect. I mean, we don't really need a scenario for that. You just after you're finished playing soccer, because you guys are friends are playing soccer with each other. Then just say, Hey, you know what, why don't you come over to this open house that we're having on Saturday?
Yeah, we could try and do it. We hold on. Not right now. So relax. All right. You want to propose something to do it right away? Yes. I have a really good scenario.
Okay, yeah, that's fine. Very good. So the brothers saying, you know what, if someone offers you something, you could simply tell them you know what, I just don't want any. Right? No, you don't have to lie and say you're on a diet. Right? And you could just say, I don't want it. Now. Let me give you another scenario. Stand up. Hey.
vegetarian, very good. But we're not vegetarians, right. We can eat meat. I'm going live. So turn around this what you do, you're coming to my house, but I'm not David now.
I'm Diana.
Okay. So you ring the doorbell. Okay. And I opened the door.
No, no, no, no, I'm Diana.
Is does that tell you on the man or woman?
Okay, Diana. All right. So you come to my house. you ring the doorbell and Diana opens the door. Okay, back up. Thank you guys like standing on my zone.
That was a ding dong.
Hi. Oh, Hi. How are you?
busted?
Diana just shook your hand.
She took it by force. Nah, Diana went like this. And And you?
Hey.
So what do you do? Good Sit down. Michelle law says that's it? What do you do? Oh, be careful.
You got so scared Russia.
Okay, so what do you do when you go to someone's house and as as a brother, right? Or as a sister, someone of the opposite gender opens the door. And when you say hello, they stick their hand out to shake your hand. What do you do?
You start going like this, and you're like, just a second.
Like, no, you don't do that. Come on, what do you do?
You pretend to shake their hand and cite them. Like, Oh, got you. Right? That's really good. Because that actually works. We live at a time that that actually works like people just be like, Oh, that was super cool, man. You got me and they totally forget about actually shaking hands. But that's a good example. Anything else? Yes.
So when they put out their hand, you just go like this. Okay, very good. Mashallah, what is that doing? That's avoiding the handshake. And it's a gesture of respect. And the person usually immediately understands from that, that this person for some reason can't shake my hand. Right? Very good. Anyone else?
You shake their hand. But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam warned us against shaking the hands of people that are not Muharram to us.
Right.
It's good. That's good. That you mentioned that handler What else?
What do we do? Come on, guys.
What about the sisters? sisters? You go two sisters. You go to your neighbor's house and you ring the doorbell and the husband opens the door and he sticks his hand out to shake your hand. What do you do?
Okay, you say sorry.
I can't shake hands with you because I'm not allowed. Okay? Mashallah. Anyone else? Yes?
Say hi. And put your hand back. Okay. Anyone else? Any of the other sisters?
What do you do some kind of Oh, this is Yeah.
Very good. Very good. put something in their hands. Go with something. Always try to avoid the situation go with something either, you know, the invitation to the masjid, a bowl of sweets, you know, something nice, bring them some fruit or something when they stick their hand out and be like, here you go. Right. That's for you. And so that avoids the situation of actually shaking the hand of the opposite person. One of the best things that we can do though, is to simply explain it to them.
Like as Muslims, we're always trying to hide this. Do you want to say something?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Very good. Mashallah. So the brothers mentioning a few points. First of all, use hikma when you're inviting someone when you're visiting them. Don't just go and knock on their door and stand like right in front of their door and be really close to them. Keep your distance First of all, second of all, ask them. Is this a good time to actually speak to you? Right? Is this a good time to speak to you? And so that person instead of them getting all cozy and friendly with you? They might say You know what? Now's not a good time. Could you come back later? What's it about? Right? And so you might just leave something with
And say here I just wanted to share this with you I'll come back and speak to you later and so you leave something with them right or say you know what I brought this we had some nice sweets that my wife or my you know my daughter for example cooked here you go This is for you. Okay very good
you want to say something I have another scenario really interesting one to do
no, you guys can't do it I need to have some brothers any of you brothers take the go train
any of you take the go train on the way to work or school
all of a sudden no one takes the go train guys it's none of you are doing it. So put your hands down. None of you are doing it doesn't matter just right now. Before Auntie comes and fixes you again. You just calm down
the go bus? Okay, very good. Mashallah. The go bus counts. So you can come up here. We'll have you in one chair. Okay.
I need two more chairs. If you could bring one more chair closer can bring one more chair closer.
Anyone else? Any of the brothers?
Any of the brothers? Take the go train? Come on, guys.
Go train bus, go bus or any of the buses? Know you all drive to work drive home. And if you fly in an airplane sometimes. Yeah.
Hey,
if you go to McMaster University.
No, no, I don't need you reading my stuff for Don't worry about reading my stuff.
I did. I went to McMaster once, but I didn't go there to study I went there to teach. Hey, I need one more person, one brave person to do one last thing before we finish. No, I want I want one of the parents.
Your dad Mashallah has too much wisdom.
Okay, this needs to be right next to you. Okay, there we go.
Okay, this is what we're gonna do. So you sit down there.
And that middle seat is for me.
Now, this is what's gonna happen.
airplanes, fly, right?
Okay, so I'm gonna go sit in that seat. However, when I sit in that seat, I'm not going to sit down as David. I'm going to sit down as Diana.
Okay.
All right. You guys ready?
Okay, it's seven o'clock. Come on, man. Take my sofa. It's like 630 in the morning. Really, really tired. Okay. And Diane is about to board the go train.
Is your friend on the train?
Oh, no, actually, no, it's okay. You go ahead, take the window seat. Oh, it's okay. You don't mind if I sit here? Do you?
Okay, if you're for when your friend gets on which station is he getting on it? which saw
them in one minute in one minute. Okay, I'll sit down for a minute.
I don't know what the train sounds like. But I'm hoping that's what it sounds like. All right. Sit down. Okay.
Yeah, how are you? I'm sorry. I'm just really tired.
Yeah, yes. Really, really long. Nice.
Good, good. How you been? Yeah.
Yes, nice weather. It's changing a little bit. kind of feels like winter's coming. But she's really tired. Yeah, it's kind of hot in here too. is like no ventilation in this cheap train. I don't understand what the City of Toronto is doing these days.
I work downtown. Yeah. Just yet.
Avis rental cars.
Yeah, I do rent alone. Yeah. Rent a lot of cars. Yeah, that's good. Yeah. Hey, you should come see us. Sometimes we've got some deals. I can hook you up. That's good. So how you been? How's house
I'm sorry, I don't even know your name. My name is Imran Nice to meet you, man. Thank you.
Okay.
So hey, so what do you do? You said you travel a lot. So I do. computer does computer job. Okay. So you take this train every single day you go downtown. Yeah, it's good. That's good. Yeah.
Nice meeting you, man. Hey, you said your friend was coming on this train. It's been over a minute. Where's your friend? Did you lie to me?
Oh, you checking the text? Let me see that text to
something wrong there. Yeah, I think I need my privacy. Oh, sorry. Sorry. Okay.
Oh, it's really early. Yes. Sorry. Yeah, I didn't have my coffee either. I just tried to stay awake. Cuz you know, I fell asleep on him. Right. I feel really bad. I'm sorry, man. I just I didn't mean to do that. You know, just be doing math on your phone or combination. or combination. Oh, you must study. Study with my friend today. Oh.
He finished his assignment and now.
Already, so he's not coming. Oh, he's not Oh, okay. Yeah, I guess so. I could sit in the seat for longer than a minute then. Yeah. Thanks a lot. Thanks.
Sorry.
Oh, no, I don't want it was asleep. I don't know. I'm just yeah, just really tired. I went to sleep really late last night, you know, my dog just had diarrhea kept taking him for a walk outside. It's really annoying.
And, you know, happened, like, I'll tell you, you know, the other day I was on this plane. And this. It was really, really interesting because a flight arrived late. And I had to rush to my next flight. And when I was going to the next flight, you know, showing them my passport and telling him I really had to, you know, I was in a rush to get to I didn't want to miss the flight. And when I showed them my passport, they're like, sorry, we need to inspect your passport. Like why do you have to inspect my passport?
And then they told me they're like, you know, something's wrong with it. And I'm like, No, it's okay. Don't worry about it. It's just my dog. My dog chewed up my passport. So yeah, yeah, this one my passport looks like your show. Yeah, see that? It's all like chewed up. Do you want to take a look at that? Yeah, they're gonna, you know, it was actually dripping like the dogleg today it's almost ya know, it kind of threw up on it too. I washed it These things are waterproof Yes, waterproof. Yeah, it's weird but yeah
it's nice meeting you run things my station I gotta go now. Take care. See you soon.
Did you guys notice something there?
What did you notice?
I love how he sneezed on his hand
very good Mashallah, you could have given up your seat to sit by the window and say you know, just lean against a window that was great, but what did Emraan do that was really good.
He kept he kept the conversation going
yeah
sorry.
He did Imran did offer the space but I actually didn't want it for the sake of the example but what he could have done after I was falling asleep he could have said you know what, why don't you take the window seat and just lean against the wall right and go to sleep that'd be that'd be more comfortable for you. Right That's that's actually really good Mashallah, I think that was handled really, really well. Mashallah, even though
that was awesome. But some kind of like, you know what?
The whole passport and dog chewing on the passport thing actually happened to me by a lady who got on a flight from New York to Montreal and I was boarding in Montreal on my way back to Medina. And she gets on the flight, and she's sitting down in the middle seat. I believe she was in the middle seat and she starts
It's falling asleep. And she starts, you know, dipping over to my side and I'm like some how do I how do I, you know, how do I deal with this situation? And so I woke her up, you know, I said, Excuse me, you know what you can recline your seat. So she reclined her seat and I kept my seat up. So she could lean against the side of my seat and use that headdress because now they curve, right? So use that and so she wasn't leaning against me. But then the whole passport thing was absolutely true. Like her passport was half tattooed. Her dog chewed it up. And I'm sitting here thinking, this is right after September 11. I'm thinking she's a CSUs agent, right? who's trying to corner me into
something showing me a passport that's completely chewed up for some reason. I'm like, oh, what's going on here? Some kind of law. So yeah, these are scenarios that actually do happen right. And I think that was handled really really well. Mashallah. So I know it's almost time for the end, but I do want to a shot at 915 right.
And ends in five minutes. Good. So I just want to open it up for a few more last minute questions inshallah. Hopefully, no, no, no more scenarios no or scenario is not right now.