Daood Butt – Friday Night Etiquettes Class – May 21, 2021

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The speakers discuss the importance of speaking clearly and avoiding false accusations in shaping up for upcoming topics. They stress the need to be careful with words used in publicity and emphasize the importance of being aware of one's behavior and behavior. They also discuss the use of negative language and the importance of respecting people's beliefs. The speakers stress the need for strong character and good speech to avoid evil behavior and suggest avoiding discussing personal matters. They also mention a lecture on "has been good" and a potential lecture on "has been bad" to encourage people to stay up and help others.

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			So I want to call God by give you a smile I need to give you a smile. I give you smiles all the
time. I was just getting the YouTube and Facebook going and hamdulillah and we will get started in
54321 This will I have 100 Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu wa he was Salam. ala Ana
de Karim Ali of Posada to automata slim rubbish Ronnie Sabri wire Sibley and Mary Washington on
lissoni of Coco Lee, my brothers and my sisters SNM were at a con What are ye What about our cattle?
		
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			So today is
		
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			Friday, May 21 2021. So it's may 21 2021. And today inshallah we are starting up our next
		
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			sessions we could say or continuing our,
		
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			our
		
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			Friday night, what are we calling it Friday night etiquettes class, right, and I'm getting a lot and
we left off in our etiquettes class discussing the
		
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			not just the importance of speech, but also the etiquettes of speech and how to correctly say things
how to correctly interact with others. And also as we continue today, we look at some more of the
morals and values in regards to
		
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			speech.
		
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			Now before we continue in sha Allah to Allah just to keep in mind this is going to continue in as we
were throughout the previous years, every single Friday night, you know, typically at this time of
the year after sold out to the mothership, and we may start a little bit earlier I might change the
timing next week so that we start earlier so that families can attend as well in Charlotte and I
know nine o'clock is a little bit late. So maybe what we'll start earlier and go up until muffet
even shot a lot.
		
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			We would typically start later people were at work, coming home from work on a Friday night have
dinner and then make the masjid and you know, I know that now. Most people are working from home
it's not really an issue of commute coming from work from downtown trying to make it home and
hamdulillah.
		
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			So I think that we are safe to say that we could start a little earlier button sometime next week,
you know, a little bit later and that way we can start roughly around say eight o'clock and go right
up until Monday then that is a good timing in sha Allah in my opinion. If you feel that we should
start at a different time then let me know in sha Allah. Okay. So as I mentioned, we're going to be
continuing with our topic and the topic was
		
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			you know, going through kitabi doubt, but the importance of speech and speaking properly having
proper manners with regards to using our tongues, okay. Today in sha Allah, Allah we look at how it
is prohibited and discouraged within even to be immoral in the way that we speak as in anything that
is not right. Anything that is immoral as using bad language, lying, cheating, stealing and use our
mouths in order to achieve that. And we see a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
which is narrated by even Mr. rude about the Allah and
		
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			the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, For is not a slender, nor does he curse others mizzi
immoral, orderliness. Okay, the believer is not a slender, what is slandering. We spoke out
slandering right, we spoke about backbiting we spoke about slandering, and how.
		
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			In fact, let me just ask you, our memories, I know what it is. I could say it to you, but it's nice
to have some interaction and I know that there's less people online and you know, we're going to
slowly build that up again in the online presence. But what is slender who remembers the definition
of slender just type it in in the comment section in sha Allah tada what is slender?
		
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			Let's see if you remember slender the definition of slender
		
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			lots hot isn't it?
		
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			weather has changed. It's very humid. conditioning is not working properly. And so I'm roasting in
front of the lights I'm very
		
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			slender Does anyone remember no one wants to say anything you know not even gonna try no attempt.
There we go. So Mr. Sam is telling a lie be back. Okay. And you suffer man said is spreading lot
about someone all right good attempts I'm gonna love
		
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			What about shiners? There we go. It means is say bad things in front of
		
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			Riaz says lies about said about someone. Okay, good humbler good way of putting it slide under as we
see in
		
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			Islam we have a difference in definition between backbiting and slander, slander in itself is to say
something oh
		
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			saying something about somebody that they don't like behind they're very close missing one
component, okay saying something about somebody that they don't like.
		
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			And they're not around and is not true. Okay, saying something about someone that they would not
like, and they're not around, right? You're not seeing it in front of them. And it's not true.
		
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			Whereas backbite is to say something about some behind their back, and it's actually true, but they
wouldn't like it.
		
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			Okay, so the difference there is that backbiting is something that's true, still wouldn't like it
and they're not present. slender is saying something about them. That is not true. And they're not
present and they wouldn't like it. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, Lisa, moo,
Bonnie, when a LAN well, alpha ish.
		
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			Sorry, when alpha fish Lv.
		
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			So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that the belief, however, is not us, we don't stand
your people, we don't say things about others, that is not true about them, behind their backs,
knowingly that they wouldn't be happy about it either. We don't do that. And this is a really,
really difficult thing to do. For many human beings. In fact, most human beings, it's easy to say
something about when they're not around.
		
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			But if we were to turn around and say, Hey, wait a second, let's bring that person here and say that
about them to their face. Be like, No, no, I'm sorry. No, it's okay. Does that go Okay, then don't
want to ruin my relationship with that person.
		
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			But we are ruining our relationship with that person. When we say things about them behind their
backs, and we know they wouldn't be happy about it. And what we're saying is not even true.
		
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			Okay, so
		
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			Okay, good question. What if you had to tell the police something of someone so if it is to some or
if it is to remove harm that's happening, right? To stop some sort of evil from spreading? And yeah,
then that's something that should do. Right. We should, you know, try to stop evils from happy
remember, I'm going to be married to a foreigner here and in Mancha is part of our Deen.
		
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			And so what we're referring to here is clean, chilling with friends, talking to people, you know,
having general conversation with with people, neighbors, friends, family and saying things about
other sitting there talking gossiping, socializing, gossiping, saying things about other people that
they wouldn't like so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, The believer does not do that.
Right? The believer does not slander others, nor does he curse others. Now what is cursing? First of
all, we know cursing to be to mean using bad language, right saying the F word the S word, the M
word the T word all the different words right? The B word. All the different with their and in every
		
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			language as well. Right? So when you think of cursing someone, you know, using bad language saying
bad things about them. It's not just saying bad. We're using foul language. It's to also wish
		
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			evil upon wish bad for that person. Like May this happened to you may that happened to you may you
lose your wealth may you this May you that and to say or to wish evil upon that person to say bad
things to people, but to also wish bad to them or for them as well. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam forbade us from doing that believers do
		
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			Do that, right? We don't wish for evil upon others, nor do we ask for it to happen. Nor do we say
bad words and use foul language in front of others to know B words or s words or F words or M words
or l words or whatever it is right. And not in any other language as well. So how sometimes, you
know, people feel comfortable swearing or cursing in their own language. And so sometimes it will
be, you know, you might hear someone
		
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			saying something in their own language, and they're like, Brother, please don't say that. Well, I
didn't swear that you know, you did swear, just because I don't understand it or others don't
understand it doesn't mean that you didn't swear them, and there will always be people that will
understand it. And so we need to be very careful of that. And my brothers and sisters, remember,
sometimes, the swear words that are used or phrases that are used are terrible, and dirty, terrible
and dirty. When you look at it in the Arab culture, right to call someone a donkey, or to call
someone a dog is terrible. But in some cultures, you know, it go even further than that. It's about
		
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			people's mothers and saying things about people sisters and saying things about our own rubella.
That's that's not the way of the believer, the one who believes in Allah subhanho wa Taala does not
use their tongues to say things that are not good.
		
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			The tongue that we have in our mouth is a tongue that we use to praise Allah.
		
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			It's the tongue that we use to recite the Quran. How can the same tongue that recite su 30 over and
over insula be the tongue that we use to curse people's mothers or to curse using people mother's
right and saying things about other people's pants so on and so forth, and we'll see examples of
that shortly.
		
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			This is also why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam encouraged we are busy in the rooms of a law
constant, me and always right, and his word, rule tuber, right to describe that our tongues the way
our tongues should be busy in the remembrance of Allah, moist, constantly busy, always moist in the
remembrance of alignable. What to add, and if we think of it, if our are going to be busy in the
remembrance of Allah subhanaw taala then we don't have time to use foul language. We don't have time
by others. We don't have time to slander others, we don't have time to lie about others. We don't
have time to tell tales. We don't have time. We don't have strength. We don't have the ability to
		
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			use our tongues in evil because our tongue is always busy with good. And so Al Hamdulillah one of
the ways that we you know, people ask, How can I train myself to stop swearing?
		
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			How can I train myself to stop swearing?
		
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			train yourself to be busy in Vicar and you will naturally train yourself to stop swearing.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Nor is the believer immoral or shame. Right? And forgive me if your name is read up. I will answer
that shortly in sha Allah. Tada. Okay.
		
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			So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, nor is the believer immoral, or shameless, and this
is important now, when you know this is getting to the question that was asked, you know, can we say
about the enemies of Islam? Those who attack and are constantly attacking Muslims? Can we use words?
Can we use words that describe who they really are? Well, look.
		
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			I remember just the other day, seeing a video of
		
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			some hood.
		
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			Okay, so the video was a video made in response to someone in a country once they were not hearing
who was saying
		
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			this is, you know, a Muslim who didn't his videos, you know, that accent should you know the Muslims
should just give it up.
		
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			That's what he was saying.
		
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			And he wants to that. Some had gotten gotten into their cars going over to his home. Somehow they
know his house. And there was a video that was made by them while they're in the car and they're
saying we're coming to get you we're going to do this to you and they're using such foul language.
		
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			Like first of all my brothers and sisters if we are going to old the dean
		
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			And we are going to try to help in stopping people from doing what is wrong, then we should do it in
the ways according to how the product fits on a longer edit, who is seldom should this our annual.
Right? Don't you think that's something that we should do? Don't you think that if we're going to
someone's home to correct a mistake that they may have made, that we should first of all, not damage
their home?
		
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			That we should first of all, not use language that is bad?
		
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			Because what are you doing? You're at what you're saying, oh, we're going to uphold the deen we're
going to uphold the values of the snam and Muslims and the UN. And you're using the F word over and
over.
		
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			Right? And you know, you saying things, insults cursing this person in a way that is just not
befitting for the Muslim. And there are ways within our society that we can seek justice. And it is
not by going and throwing things through people shutting down doors and putting their family in
harm's way. And we, if we're not happy that that's being done to the Muslims in other countries,
		
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			then why would we do it to Muslims, who are saying things
		
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			that we disagree with?
		
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			If we disagree, then there's a method and manner to go and confront people talk to them about it. I
try to reason with
		
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			my brothers and sisters, when we think of the Hadeeth and we think of the way that the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught us to react and to be and to speak, and to converse, and to
convey the message of Islam to others. You see that in the behavior of Muhammad SAW longer, and he
was some of them. Not only were his words, words of wisdom, words that were impactful, not
insulting. He also would clean his mouth and use his miswak and make sure that his breath smelled
good when he was speaking to the enemy, or when he was confronted hunting people who opposed his
slim
		
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			or delegate to speak to him.
		
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			Who are non believers? Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made sure that he not only spoke with
with words of wisdom, but he smelled nice that he was groomed properly, that his clothing was clean.
Right? And that he welcomed them in with good manners as well. He welcomed them in with good
manners. Why?
		
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			First of all, he's the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Second of all, he does things with
wisdom. Right? He responds in ways that Allah subhanho wa Taala guided him to respondent. Well, now
young people
		
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			in who are ill, what do you how he would respond with what are you with, you know, guidance from
Allah subhanho wa Taala revelation that comes to him from Allah subhanho wa Taala. But also,
		
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			when you respond to people's evil, or people who come to you with negative thoughts and intent, when
you respond to them with honor, with dignity,
		
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			with
		
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			a level of respect,
		
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			you have more of an impact upon them.
		
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			Generally speaking, you have more of an impact upon them, than if you were to be rude. If you're
rude to others, automatically, they put up a wall that goes up, defense or defense mechanism comes
into place, right? But so Pamela, when you're nice and kind, you're gentle to people, you offer them
something sit down, let's talk let's Converse. Let's try to reason try to find some middle
		
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			hamdulillah you notice that their hearts start to open up and they become more inclined to listen to
what you have to say. This makes sense. You're choosing with me? I can understand this. And that is
the way of Muhammad Sallallahu usnm Allah Subhana Allah says either hearth of the homeowner Jaya He
Luna corlew Salama, right, when those who are ignorant to reach out and say evil to the believers,
what do they say?
		
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			They respond in a peaceful manner. we as believers are taught to respond in a peaceful manner. Now
of course this is generally speaking.
		
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			There's a difference between people who need to defend themselves okay.
		
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			We're not talking about that we're talking generally, not everything, our brothers and sisters, I
want you to think. Not everything that we learned has to tie it in with the least popular current
event.
		
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			Or one of the most or the
		
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			current event is being made most popular, right? So when we're talking about this not every single
thing has to apply to every single aspect of life.
		
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			We take the general knowledge, and we continue to learn and then we learn how to implement that
knowledge in Charlottetown.
		
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			The profits on the longer you are selling them also said
		
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			In fact,
		
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			I'm sorry.
		
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			Abdullah said
		
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			lemmya Cooney nimbyism Allahu alayhi wa sallam for he shared with Deaf her Haitian he says the
Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not indulge in, nor did he like to listen to it.
What is loose talk? Like just chilling saying random nonsense things like not beneficial
conversations. So he says I'm the lightning. I'm not what the law says about the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam he says the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not indulge in loose
talk, nor did he like to listen to it. So what he would listen to, from the speech of the people was
what was beneficial. And don't waste your time with things that are pointless. Discussing no meaning
		
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			discussing things that are just wasting your time. You're not getting any benefit out of it. Why are
you even talking about it? nor did he himself
		
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			you know, sit there and just waste his time speaking.
		
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			Then he continues, and says he used to say when he was sanlam the best of you is the best of you in
conduct in nem in Korea, yquem
		
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			cinecon Allah.
		
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			Allah subhanho wa Taala shows us in the example of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		
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			Abdullah bin I'm gonna de Allahu Allah tells us that the prophets on a long run and he was saddened
to say, the best of you is the Pew in conduct.
		
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			Your morals, your values? What kind of values do you have people know you for someone who is kind,
someone who is gentle, someone who's understanding someone who has reason, someone who uses wisdom?
Or do people know you for someone who is harsh, someone who lost someone who swears someone who
insults someone who doesn't have value? Someone who has a short temper? What type of person are we?
		
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			And so my brothers and sisters, Allah subhanho wa Taala had sent us the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam in February to live with me mother, Karima o'clock, he tells us, Allah sent him to perfect.
		
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			The manners mchattie mill,
		
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			the best of manners, how do we speak? You know, when we began, I was just, you know, doing some
		
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			technical stuff before the livestream started. And one of the brothers says, smile for us. Kind of
love. I hadn't even started the light session yet I was just focusing on something already. We're
looking for smiles. Why? Because as believers, that's what we want. We want others who we love as
our Muslim brothers and sisters, to have good behavior, to have good luck. And we should want it for
ourselves and want it for others and want it for others. When they're interacting with us, for us
when we're entering with others, right. That's how we should be. So my brothers and sisters, the
best of us are those who are best in conduct. And when you look at the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam advice to sisters to women, in choosing a spouse in choosing a husband, what is the parts of
a long letter he will send them say we learned this in our Sunday night's program, our essential
thick class, to look for two things.
		
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			good character,
		
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			Dean, their level of religiousness or religiosity,
		
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			their conscious and
		
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			consciousness understanding
		
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			as in level of knowledge and implementation of the deed
		
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			of their belief in Allah Subhana wetterhorn
		
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			Two things that are so important. Because if you don't have Deen, you don't understand your religion
and you're not going to apply that religion in your life.
		
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			And you don't have good character, to respect the people that the spouse that you're getting married
to, and you don't have good character in speech, you don't have good character in the way that you
use your hands. You're physically tough on them. And that's not the way of the profits on the long
run, he was hoping
		
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			that's not
		
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			if you're not going to have good speech, that's not the way of the profit.
		
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			If you're not going to,
		
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			you know, avoid listening to how long then that's not the way of the summer long I had a listener.
So my brothers and sisters remember
		
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			good speech and good character. In fact, good character
		
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			falls into that umbrella or under that umbrella. Okay.
		
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			Here's another example of the life of the Prophet sallallahu. I had even sent him for a shuttle the
loved one.
		
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			Right? She tells us about my day, he was some of them in the famous Hadith that we know, right? How
a delegation or some Jewish they came speak to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam, some of the
Jewish at the time of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam, they came to speak to him. And when
they entered upon him in greeting the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam. They greeted him with
		
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			a sad
		
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			ID column earlier. They said a sell more icon. What does that mean? What does it mean?
		
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			There'll be death upon you.
		
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			Right? They were wishing and cursing, making dwara supplicating asking,
		
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			indirectly
		
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			may death be upon you? What they said to the Prophet, some among us and
		
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			they say a Sam were highly above cost and
		
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			that's how they greeted the profits on the longer end of us.
		
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			So he responds to them and says, We
		
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			have equal.
		
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			That's like
		
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			they just insulted you. So how you set up the alarm? She says.
		
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			She says Ben Ali concern with them. Nice. She says Let there be death and disgrace upon you.
		
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			Carla Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says to her
a shadow Viola and her Yeah, if letter Cooney for heisha.
		
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			He says,
		
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			Do not use harsh words.
		
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			Do not use harsh words. Oh Ha Aisha
		
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			for call it
		
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			mercenary makalu Have you not heard said that? Didn't you hear what they said to you? Oh prophet of
Allah, messenger of Allah. Oh, husband love it all right here what they said to you.
		
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			For Allah.
		
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			He says some longer and eaten them. Our nice God ordered to early human lady a call to call to
wireless Comm. He says some of them didn't I respond to them. When they said that,
		
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			and let it be upon you. Wherever they come.
		
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			You see profits on a long lead them is teaching us here. You don't need to say the evil words that
are on the tongues of others. And get back to the
		
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			Prophet sallallahu assuming are a shadow do Miranda Don't let those words even be on your tongue.
		
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			And if they are going to say something to me, then I can respond to them by saying why are they come
and may that be? You're saying it to me may be upon you without me even having to say those evil
words. See that was the way of the prophets on a longer it USM
		
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			where you wished evil for me? Well, the same be upon you. But I'm not going to wish that evil as in
I'm not going to say it. Whatever you intended for me then I intend that for you as well. So if you
intended good for me, then I intend to good for you. But if you
		
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			intend evil for a while? Isn't it fair for me to intend that for you to?
		
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			See that's the way of the Prophet Bongo.
		
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			And did he initiate evil? No. Did he initiate saying no? Did he initiate you know something negative
upon others? No. He welcome them.
		
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			He welcomed others. He did not ever embarrass or disgrace them or even use those words.
		
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			So my brothers and sisters, look at a beautiful example of a shadow Viola. She got upset, because
you have to sort of, haven't you heard what they said to you? Yeah, I did. But I've responded to
them. me the same be upon you.
		
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			without even having to see that evil turd. Do not use harsh words. Do not use harsh words. What does
that teach us? that teaches us that we need to implement wisdom in be that we do things we need to
implement, speaking in ways that convey a powerful message without even having to say anything.
		
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			Just a word or two. And that was the way if Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
		
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			Now
		
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			with regards to someone who curses
		
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			pay attention to this a learn layer kuno Sadiq Khan,
		
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			we do not be friend. We do not friend or make friends with people who are going to curse others.
Why?
		
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			Wherever the Allahu Allah and
		
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			call
		
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			another soul of law he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a call of a word or the law and says that the
Prophet he was selling were the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said
		
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			les youngberry he saw Deacon and your Khun Ella and and
		
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			what does he say befitting?
		
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			It is not right for us to befriend and
		
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			who curses others, someone who's known for cursing others.
		
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			Also the Prophet sallallahu added he was some of them says
		
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			I would dare that are the Allah and I heard the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say
		
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			oh who are accustomed to cursing will not be intercessors or witnesses the Day of Resurrection.
People who are known for cursing others, people who are known for, you know, using foul language
will not have the ability or the blessing or the status, to intercede for others nor to be from
amongst those who are called upon and witnesses on the Day of Resurrection.
		
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			So that teaches us my brothers and sisters.
		
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			Those whose tongues are dirty with cursing, whose tongues are with swearing, whose tongues are
dirty, backbiting, whose tongues are dirty, slender, whose tongues are used for cheap eating and
lying are not the pilot we should make us friends.
		
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			They're not the people that we should make us friends for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
says la yumbo really Saudi Kenya kulula Lamborghini Saudi Arabia cool kulula Han and that it is not
right. It is not befitting for a friend of ours to be someone who curses others. If that's the case,
then they should not be our friend.
		
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			And that's the way that we protect ourselves from
		
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			inheriting
		
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			the evil or bad
		
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			custom we're traits of the people who
		
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			are around us male Muslim have always had to protect us all i mean.
		
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			Another thing to keep in mind as well my brothers sisters, from eatest of sins are from the biggest
or largest or from some of the most evil or worst sins that we can commit
		
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			is for a person to curse
		
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			the parents of someone else
		
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			Or let me say it this way for a person to curse their own parents
		
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			for a person to curse their own parents.
		
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			So let's look get a hadith of Abdullah and I'm the Allah where he says, All Rasulullah he's Madhu la
he was Allah. The Prophet Alayhi Salaam, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
		
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			from the biggest of sins is for a person or a men to curse their own parents.
		
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			Be Yasuda law. So this habit of the Allahu Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam.
		
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			How does a men curse or reveal their own parents?
		
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			How does he do this to his own pets?
		
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			prophecy who ascended says
		
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			he curses the father or mother
		
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			of another person
		
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			who in turn, then curses his
		
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			and he versus his mother.
		
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			And so in return, that person curses his mother. Does that make sense?
		
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			From the biggest ins or the worst of sins to commit is to curse our own parents. The Sahaba were
like how did how is this even possible? Like they can't fathom the idea of like, how is someone
cursing their own parents? How is someone saying such evil things about their own parents?
		
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			So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam says that you say something evil about someone else, says
father. And in return, they say something about your they curse your father. And because they say
something about your father, you now turn around and say something about their mother. And because
you said something about their mother, they say thing where they start to curse your father. So
because of your action in saying something evil, evil about another person's parent,
		
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			I default ceived you receive evil words towards your own parent, because of usual actions in cursing
another person's parents
		
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			see the wisdom of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam that we stay away from cursing other
people's parents or saying evil things about others. Why? Because in return, they will do that to
us. And in fact, Allah Subhana Allah tells us this in the Quran to respect other people's belief.
		
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			Why? Because in return, if you insult what they believe in, in return, they will insult a loss of
handle or whatever.
		
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			So yeah, so one behavior and
		
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			that they would in returns a loss of handle with data or say evil, about the loss of data. Why?
Because you said something bad about what they were doing.
		
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			And so my brothers and sisters, wisdom in speech is so important as believers, as believers, one of
the most important things as a business simply remain silent.
		
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			Men can do Wheeler he will Yomi folio cool here on Oh, Leo's smart.
		
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			Whoever believes in Allah subhana wa Tada. And the last day should see that which is good or remain
silent. Just be quiet. And you know, as the saying goes, we have two ears and one mouth, we should
listen, double the amount that we speak, right? We should speak for half the amount that we listen.
And most of us we speak multiple times more than we listen, we have such a hard time listening. And
from the best of people in society are those who usually lend an ear. They listen. They listen. And
they don't necessarily have to give a solution. They just listen. Right?
		
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			Also, my brothers and sisters, let's take a couple more things here in sha Allah.
		
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			It is preferred within Islam to avoid debate
		
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			with others, even if
		
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			may be right, or even if you have an upper hand in what you are going to debate with and of course
ties in to what we just finished learning.
		
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			But also we
		
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			Either in Surah two calf in verse number 22, Allah subhanho wa Taala and his fellow to marry up him
in Langmuir O.
		
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			Allah subhana wa tada says, to do not argue about them, except with
		
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			sure knowledge, nor consult and of those who debate about them.
		
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			So what are we learning here? We are learning that it is preferred to avoid debate with others, even
if we may have the knowledge. That is the knowledge that we are we are. But what comes from that
debate is not always good times we debate with people, what comes from the debate is no good.
		
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			It's evil
		
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			and cursing and bad words and saying things about Allah or saying things about others. And this is
where my brothers and sisters, sometimes it's just not worth debate, meeting with people.
		
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			Because if you're not going to convince them, then what are you doing? You have the truth in what
you're saying. But you realize, I can say the truth over and over, it doesn't matter. They're not
going to accept it and they're just going to retaliate, or just going to respond with evil. And so
sometimes it's better to not debate at all
		
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			through Maddie, as in don't debate don't have these back and forth arguments.
		
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			In love you don't annoy me and ally Malia as in you know exactly what you're saying is true and
right but it doesn't matter.
		
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			The last thing that we'll take in sha Allah who Tanner
		
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			Where are we?
		
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			Are the alarm
		
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			says submitted to Rasulullah sallallahu earlier you are sending me a call.
		
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			I heard the message of loss on Allahu Allah him say,
		
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			Waylon little lady in your duffel. Woe to him who says things or tells people things?
		
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			Speaking falsely, to make people laugh. Whoa to him, whoa to him. Three times the Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam says, whoa, as in May that person be cursed, as in May some made me make the
punishment of Japan with Allah be upon the person who who is this person? One who says things to
people. That is not true, simply to make them less? Who is that the comedian that lies? That tells
jokes that are not true. There lies lead to get laughter out of the people.
		
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			Can we say something nice
		
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			that a person smiles at we're happy with Yes. Are we allowed to lie and to make things up? And to
tell tales? And to say things that are false true to me laugh? No.
		
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			No.
		
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			A lot of the time.
		
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			When people say things that are not true to make people laugh, they're in fact insulting other
people's culture or other people's language or other people's race or other people's names or you
know something about other people that is true.
		
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			And it's spreading evil and hurting people's hearts and instilling evil into people's you know, fun
and minds and their hearts and the way that they conduct themselves. And so it is not befitting for
the believer, to tell tales or to speak about things to get people to laugh.
		
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			When we're seeing things that are not true and not right. They're false. That's all that will take
today. Insha Allah who does not come along who hate on my brothers and sisters for tuning in
hamdulillah we had a really good attendance considering that this is the first day back after the
month of Ramadan on Friday nights. And we hope it's got lots of hanway to Allah to make this as
beneficial to all of us shot along to add I'll keep you posted I will post on Instagram and Facebook
next week letting you know that timing insha Allah that we will start up and I'll also let you know
lecture right the Juma lecture that we have next week in sha Allah, just to be sure of the timing,
		
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			but most likely will start at eight o'clock pm. Okay, most likely we will start next week at eight
o'clock pm in sha Allah to Allah. That way it makes it easy for everyone to join in. And it makes it
easier for those who have children to be able to benefit as well and to stay up watching, attending
learning and hopefully we can help
		
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			Have a little bit of a discussion afterwards with our family and children as to what we let so that
we can try to become better at this in our lives. Just like on Hayden or Baraka lucky calm or some
of them or Baraka and Anna vnm. Hamidullah early he was suffering with them was morally from what
I'm up to. And I'll see all of you on Sunday in sha Allah for our essential thick class at eight
o'clock pm.
		
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			Eight o'clock pm.
		
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			Sunday night, central fic. Take care, said MRT