Bilal Assad – How Allah Prepared Me For The Death Of My Son & Brother
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The speakers emphasize the importance of learning about Islam and being a good person for others, as well as finding the spirit of death and embracing forgiveness. They also provide advice on handling death by family members and suggest charity options for those who die. The success of one's church and pray for their parents is also highlighted as crucial for personal growth.
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Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
can we have our dear sister? Yes mean here who has come to interpret our words to our brothers and sisters among the hearing impaired community. So salaam aleikum to you too. And thank you, sister Yasmin
Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah. We thank Allah, we send our prayers and blessings unto His messenger. Thank you Allah, for everything that you have given us. Thank you Allah, for our parents, thank you Allah for our children. Thank you Allah, for everything that we have forgotten and you have blessed us with. Forgive us, O Allah, but we have not worshipped you as you deserve.
My dear brothers and sisters,
we are brothers and sisters, and we share our grief. We share our pain, we share our struggles. Not a single person in this world lives a life that is perfect without any hardships, without any grief without any struggles without any sadness or pain in the world.
For Allah said in the Quran in Arabic while another no one
be shaking him Mina little home fee well enjoy it. Why not go sleep means
only one.
Foreseeing with some out ot web machine is slobbing a levena in
law, but mostly Eva.
God, oh, in the law here in elearning. Here are general rules. Well, law says, we are going to put you through different trials in your life.
A little bit of fear, at times,
a little bit of hunger, at times.
A little bit of loss of finances and wealth, and luxuries
and sometimes loss of lives, either yourselves or around you.
And sometimes a little bit of loss from your own businesses, your own fruits, your own food.
Allah says, give the best news to those who persevere
and a patient are
the ones who when a trial or a hardship falls upon them in their life.
They only say to Allah we belong unto Him, we will all return.
My Brothers and Sisters in Islam. This word in Lila we're in LA Hiroshi own, we all belong to Allah and to Him we will all return Wallahi for people who can understand the meaning of this word, everything in your life in sha Allah will ease.
Allah knows. He knows what we go through. He knows our pain, he knows our struggles.
In my first talk, I'm going to share with you my own personal journey
in a different way that you have heard on YouTube. For the first time.
I want to share with you how I went through my own grief and tragedy,
which I am not alone in. There are hundreds of 1000s Millions of people around the world who have been through what I've been through. I'm no special.
But I want to share with you from a religious perspective from a spiritual perspective.
How did I find myself staying on my own two feet? What happened? How did I get through it?
Am I happy now?
How did I get to here?
What is it?
And my journey my dear brothers and sisters actually begins before the tragedy as you know the tragedy of the death of my son and brother Rahmatullahi I lay him and upon all of your last ones and all the Muslims around the world.
It began when I was nine or 10 years old.
Did you know It began when I was nine and 10 years old.
My whole
My life, the way I see it, and insha Allah the way you should see it.
It led up
to the time of the tragedy.
And whatever happens from here on is also leading up to something else and something else. I know it's a trial from Allah. And I know that Allah knows that I will be able to get through it.
And I will Insha Allah, prove to Allah and to myself that I can.
I will keep going in sha Allah. I'm here to help you and inspire you, my dear brothers and sisters. If I can do it, you can.
My journey starts when I was nine or 10 years old.
It was my father.
So it begins with parents, the real school, the real education. The real preparations, my dear brothers and sisters begins with the parents, a man they're going to share with you things that you are very familiar with things that you can do. When you leave from here, I'm not going to tell you something, as if some angel came down from heaven, and I saw them on the cliff and I don't know what and I'm not going to tell you stuff like that. No fantasies here, just real life. Because the Quran talks about reality. It's for everybody.
So my brothers and sisters, my father.
He was an amazing storyteller.
And he had just gotten religious. And he surrounded himself by religious friends. So my mother and myself and my siblings, we had religious people around us who were loving, non judgmental, caring, Wallah, he, all I saw from them was smiles, smiles as a child, you remember smiles.
I've got a friend back in Melbourne. He called me up the other day. And he said, My little daughter who is seven years old, she said, Dad, where is that man who smiles?
I said, why? Me? He says well, why?
And he said, you know children, they remember that. They remember smiling and wallah, he is smiling does wonders for you. If he does it for the children, they are they are teachers too. We can learn about that inshallah. Anyway, my father told us the stories of what of all the prophets of God, and all the stories of the prophets, companions, companions that were around him. What did this do to me at nine or 10 years old brothers and sisters, it made gave me a role models, which he brought back to life. And it says if they were living around me everywhere I went Wallahi This is how it began. Simple Stories. And in our brothers, sisters, you tell your children's stories.
It's like music to their ears. Tell children's stories, rather than just rules and commands and haram and Khaled. And my advice to you as well brothers and sisters, is teach your children about the positive knowledge of Allah. Speak to them about paradise, speak about demons about the beautiful angels speak to them about the lovely Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, and how he was with children and how he had fun with them and joked with them and smile when they make a mistake as much as you can.
If you make a mistake with your children, go up to them and humble yourself because they're gonna learn humbleness from you, and tell them I'm sorry, I also make mistakes. Give me a hug. Hug your children, brothers and sisters. Do you know what I'm talking about here? I'm talking about simple things that everybody already knows. But let me emphasize something to you brothers and sisters, I'm talking from my personal experience.
Children
if you want to prepare them, for the hardships of life, and to be able to be strong in their future Wallahi it starts with these simple things.
You got to build the positivity, the energy, the inspiration in them, Allah He and makes them very strong. That is how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was, you know, there was a child who had a bird. It was his pet. You know the story. It died and New Haven.
People around him you know, they're rough and tough. Fellas, it's gone. It was just a bird.
as laborers that's what we do.
You feel child cries about a bird and say get out of here. You're a boy or was what we say we make them feel? The whole lower Lakota level insha Allah none of you do.
But we should
go with the flow. He went and sat with this boy and paid him condolences as if he lost a member of his family. put his arm around him. said tell me all about your bird. My brothers and sisters. This is where it starts. Now I felt role models around me which gave me strength. At school I got bullied
but
cause aren't do the things the other kids did. I did not have a girlfriend.
My hand never touched the hand of another girl except by mistake. And when I became a teenager once or twice
and I got caught by a shave.
It's like Allah subhanaw taala wants to stop me. I'm gonna get to that. My father instilled role models and brought them back to life that no matter what happened, I remember them, but Musab no homemade, the great companion, he also went through family bullying.
His family disowned him just because he converted to Islam. He was luxurious and wore beautiful clothing, the women used to stand on the balconies and wait for Musab to come pass because he smelled so amazing. He was charming. And when he turned into Islam, they left him and took his wealth to the point where when he died in a battle of a hood, he was holding the flag of Islam with even his arm severed. And resource Allah Selim could not find enough wealth to bury him and cover him not even from his own wealth. And he said back in yamasa, Baiser is an Arabic word, oh Mossad, how much you had, and now we can't even find enough material to cover you with as we bury you.
And he was so eloquent. A public speaker, many people learned about Islam through him. And that's what inspired me. That's why I'm standing in front of you, brothers, sisters, I had a role model that, you know, you know, from the stories my father gave me about the different women companions, and how I started to respect my mother. And my sisters, because of them. He instilled what the great prophets went through use of Alayhis Salam, and how his brothers threw him in the well and how we ended up in prison and how he was bullied and accused. There isn't a hardship in our life that you cannot learn from the prophets and the Companions, they all went through it all. Do you know why
they went through it, because Allah wants us to have a connection with the most beloved of his, and Allah wants you to know that just because you go through a hardship, it does not mean that Allah has left you or that he hates you. Nor does it even mean that if you have a lot of wealth, and everything seems to go the way you want it, that he necessarily loves you. No, no, no. Allah subhanaw taala. He is merciful. But you might see someone who was really bad, and it looks like everything's going for them.
And then I've heard people say, you know, Allah must love you. Sometimes. So you're driving in a nice car, or you've got things going and got a nice house and they say, what a lovely hubback Allah must love you. How do you know that? You see another person who's not doing so well, but doing their religion properly, and they say, see, see what religion does to you, just keeps you behind keeps you poor. Both of them are not true. Subhanallah
but my brothers and sisters, this is the first thing we need to think about.
That Allah subhanho wa Taala does not work that way. The real richness in the real happiness is inside here.
Nowhere around us. One brother, he said to his son, and I had a token as a friend of mine. He said to his son, son, if you give that $10 FISA bill, Allah in charity, Allah will give you back things in your life. So brother, don't teach him that. So what if you didn't get what he expected? He's gonna think that charity is bad.
Another one says, Pray because if you pray, Allah will make your life good. child doesn't understand that. He's going to think every time I pray, I'm going to make money. I'm going to get more aid money on aid, I'm going to get more toys, I'm going to get people who like me. And when he goes to school and has a rough time says, What did my prayer do? I'm going to leave the prayer. It starts there. But the sisters rather tell them that when you pray to Allah, and when you give in charity, Allah is going to give you something special in here, that when people come and hurt you, when things go wrong in your life, he's going to be there for you, you're going to be strong, because
you're solid makes you strong. Your charity makes you generous. It helps you to see other people who are in need, it makes you see other people and not just yourself. This is what we need to nurture in them. Look on YouTube, there is a lady who raised two entrepreneurs, they are very famous. And they asked her what is the secret? She said I got them involved in charity events, community events, for them to give, to take part. Why so that they can see the sick, the poor, the needy, the orphans, the other people who are struggling, the people in domestic violence, the people who are hungry, the people who are on drugs, the people who are struggling in their marriages, the parents and the
children who have problems. They got to learn and develop empathy and look beyond themselves. That is true strength My dear brothers and sisters. Anyway.
Allah says in the Quran affirm in a sense Boonie
Ya know why Allah don't mean a law he was one in one.
Sense. Bonilla Anna why Allah? Allah George ofin had fun how OBE fina region, while long hula dance in Oklahoma, whoa Nene lug gives an amazing analogy in the Quran. He says, compare these two.
The first one he says, What do you think of a person who built their building on the brink of a river?
And the only foundations is water and thin soil.
And a person who builds their structure on solid foundations, fearing God, loving God and going by God's guidance, are they the same? The one who built his construction on weak foundations, the construction will fall and he will fall with his construction. And then Allah says, Allah does not make available his guidance to the people who wronged themselves.
Therefore, we have something to do. We cannot sit there and say Allah will organize everything for me. Whatever happens it was written, yes, it was written, but we also have a duty ourselves to do. We have work to do.
My brothers and sisters I grew up that way. Being prepared. And my father was a wise man, masha Allah, may Allah reward him
on Saturdays and Sundays, Friday nights, and Saturday night, sorry, we used to have a butcher where we give out back in the days we still give meat to the restaurants. And he used to take my brother and I deliberately passed the nightclubs, the
the discos, the pubs.
And as a child, I used to see people the age of my grandmother walking on the street, drunk, saying silly words, and everybody's laughing at her. For me, I thought what made her that way? My father would show us what about that man that's lying on the street and everybody's walking over me. He's passed out. What about those people inside? I used to see disco lights, we can hear the music. Have you ever seen people jumping up and down dancing without the music? I said that. And I'm sorry. That's how I said it. When I was a child. I said that they look like monkeys. They can't hear the music. They literally look like monkeys jumping up and down. As a child my father taught us you want
to go down that line? This is the type of situations you will see. I said Subhanallah No, I'm not going to go down on my own. So the foundation was strong brothers and sisters. We visited the sick. I remember going to a funeral. We buried people when I was 1213 years old.
We used to go and visit people who are in need. And my father would tell us here's some money go give in charity. Brothers and sisters, there's the key.
Now I learned about the hereafter. I learned about the Day of Judgment. I learnt about death and what happens after death. I learnt about all the stories about Allah gives us in the Quran and these prepared me. This is one of my solutions that I'm talking about.
We went to Lebanon and in Lebanon I was 16 years old. How old was I? 16
and I got so religious there. The Quran is played on the masjid, I'm listening to the Quran. I'm listening to the words of the A then it does something to you.
And one day I remember it was a Zuma Friday.
And I stood outside the sun was shining. The Quran was on
in the masjid, that mosques
and I said yeah, Allah, I'm ready.
I am ready. I close my eyes and I said, Now
I said mean take me I'm ready to come to you, Allah. Allah I felt an amazing feeling.
Nothing, nothing serious. I just said, hola. Now, I said nothing happened. Then I stood there again and I said, Alright. My lord. Dr. Rob, I'm making dua here, you're supposed to give me what I'm asking. So Dr. Rob, I'm ready now I give you permission. Said now.
Nothing happened
to Europe. I mean, Lebanon. There's just been a civil war. A bullet can come you know, stray bullets come on anything. You're
back in the 90s
Nothing happened.
I got disappointed. Wallahi my life was going good. It was beautiful. I have everything. It was nothing. I wasn't miserable. I wasn't sad.
Had I just felt I want to go to you Europe? Yeah Allah I remember one little daughter. She said to me when we're praying Baba, I want a letter said what do you want the letter for? He goes, I'm gonna go up, go with him and do because I want to go and hug Allah
said Baba, we can't hug Allah. She goes, but I want to say to him how much I love him. I said, Why do you want to tell him you love him? She said, he gave me my dad. He gave me my mom. He gave me my bed. And he gave me my blanket that has lots of colors on it. I said, I got you the bed and the blanket. She said, Yeah, but Allah made you get it.
So true, true. True. I said all right. If you want to hug Allah, you gotta pray. She is that way we do this. Like we're hugging him. In the child's language we say yeah, but that's how you hug Allah. Because our I'm gonna hug him. Brothers and sisters, the fitrah is there. Allah is always telling I'm close to you. Don't worry. But in your head, you might think the other way.
So then I was disappointed my life to keep going there must be a reason. Time past. One day I'm at the masjid. I was only about 617. I come out and I see my mother. And I said, Mom, you know, today I was reading Quran in the mosque. And these two boys came and asked me religious questions. No one's ever asked me about religion. She said, No, ma'am. I saw a dream. I know. I promised John we're going to talk about fantasy stories. But she did see a dream. And I think a lot of you will see these things. She said to me, I saw you standing on the pulpit up on the stage and you're reading Quran, and people are listening to you.
And there was a man wearing white and he said to me,
glad tidings to your son good news, because he reads the Quran.
What do you think that does? To a young person like that hearing this from his mother.
I started to hold on to the Quran. So this is it.
And there was an old man who used to sit on a roof in front of our house. And our grandmother used to live with us. She had a missing leg. And she used to wake me up for Fajr Nephi dance, she'd shake me and destroy me.
And she used to tell me Look at that man over there. I looked at that man. And he's reading Quran after Assad for two hours, he has to finish the Quran in two weeks.
Now, he's probably 70 years old. I'm only 17. And I said, I'm going to be like that man. Why should he only do it? And so I started reciting the Quran. Every day there was half an hour after also, this was it every single day. Have to read the Quran for half an hour. And you know what happens during the seasons, when you make up your mind for something and you manage it. Suddenly, in about two weeks or so everything around you in your life goes works around it. You'd manage your life and you organize it that way and it becomes your new life. It's not hard. You just got to do it and watch what happens. The Quran, my dear brothers and sisters is very important for me to tell you
about it because that's the second thing that came to rescue me.
The Quran How do you speak to Allah and how do you hear Allah speak to you? It is through his words. And that is why the prophets Allah sallam said on the Day of Judgment, Allah says in the Quran, sorry, it says, What color Rasul Laura be in Nicole Mita, who had Al Quran and joura on the Day of Judgment, the Messenger of God will complain and say, My Lord, my people took this Quran and neglected
the Quran, Madeira and sisters, sometimes you read the Quran, you get a bit tired, put it aside. Sometimes you want to listen to the Quran, listen, and when you get tired, stop listening. Once the prophets Allah Salam asked his companion, read the Quran to me says yah rasool Allah, the Quran was sent upon you, and you asking me to read it. He said, sometimes I like to listen. So he got up to a verse that that affected the Prophet
brought him pain. He said, Stop, stop, stop. I can't handle more than that. And he was crying, the part where it says we will bring you a messenger of God as a witness upon the people. He said, This is a heavy task.
Anyway, brothers and sisters, the Quran became part of my life.
And one day my mother saw another dream this very quickly. She said, you're on the pulpit, ma'am. And you're giving a talk to people, hundreds of people. And so I took the companion Messiah was my role model. And I studied public speaking.
I started to Subhanallah it just came Subhan Allah.
Now my brothers sisters, when you in that world, you're surrounded by the people who are like you. You're surrounded by people who remind you of Allah, they remind you of the hereafter. They get you ready to why you're here in this life. Most people don't know where they come from, why they're here, and where they're going. This is not it. This life is not it. It made me see this world truly like a small bridge design.
Imagine it a small bridge you got land here and another land there. And these lands one land here is small, and the land on the other side of the bridge is huge and there's no end to it. The Land Before is when I was in my mother's womb in her stomach. The bridge is this world. You're not just going to stay there, and the big land over there is huge. Growing up, this is how I saw life. So I was ready.
As the Prophet sallallahu sallam said one day I was in a hot bath in Lebanon and Imam said Gibreel Allah His Salam came to the Prophet peace be upon him and said,
I wish man a sheet live as long as you wish for in a coma yet, you're gonna die. Maha masala Sam, you're gonna die. Wash bib man shit, love as much as you want. For Inaka MUFA. Rick, you are going to depart.
And then he said,
and do not get attached to what people have. Try not to need people. Be self sufficient. And don't ask people and you will feel free.
And know that your honor, is in your night praise.
That's my third rescuer. The night praise.
So first the role models.
Second, the Quran. Third the night prayer and within this, knowing where I am and why I'm here and where I'm going.
Brothers and sisters, then he said and know that your night prayers is your honor.
And these are four amazing key
keys to our life. For us to keep going in hardships brothers and sisters.
As I grew older people around you the people reminding of the Hereafter people telling you about death I learned about death. And the people give you inspirations positive people around you the masjid the friends, the people who come to Islam because of you. I've many stories like that, of course. But Allah opens doors upon doors upon doors.
One day, I'm at home. And a young man 19 years old comes knocking on my door at 2am. Brothers and sisters, I'm telling you these because these are all playing a role in the lead up. He comes into my house at 2am.
How did he find my house? I don't know. He comes in and says to me, he's crying. He's afraid he's shaking. So coming, coming coming. He said, Is it suicide? If a person takes drugs and dies?
I said
come inside. Let's talk. Let's sit down first. I'm not gonna give you an answer. We sat down, said what happened?
He said, I wish I listened to you. I've been hanging around with the wrong people. And I don't take drugs. I don't steal. I don't do any of that stuff. But I like girls a lot.
So what happened because it was Ramadan.
His friend said to him, let's go meet up with these two girls. They're behind the mosque. They're behind the mosque.
It's that way. You go there you pray your parents are at the front there behind the mask. He got in sat with them in the car. And they had little pills and said Here take these pills.
said no, no nurses are. You're not courageous enough. You're not a man enough. So he took them and something happened to him.
comes to my house says I don't know what's going to happen to me. I said let's get up we make well do we pray to our cars. And we ask Allah to forgive you. He did that. I said cry it out. Cry it out and ask Allah to forgive you
know nothing will happen to you. Don't you dare listen to the shaitan about all these bad whispers and he prayed to Allah all night. We slept the next day he went back to his parents Alhamdulillah till today. He is away from all harm of these it never went back to him and hamdulillah
he's married he has children's happy and hamdulillah brothers and sisters. Allah brings to you people around you to show you and teach you and get you ready
until the day came.
Do you know what day came?
What day came? What do you think?
This young man here medulla Hey Ali, Ali Bennett.
I see him in my dreams.
I swear by Allah.
I see him in my dreams.
And the last time I saw him was at my center in Melbourne. I prayed to him and I read sort of to him. He came and hugged me and cried
He cried, said, Why are you crying he goes, it's so much hope.
I cried with him.
About six months or so later, I see him in my dream. And I am taking him around the world and showing him all the things that people have built after him like the masks, the center's the orphanages, I'm taking him I have no idea but I'm taking him in my dreams. And he's with me in the car and walking with me. And it's like he already knows. But he was smiling to me. It's just like, it's like, I know what you're saying. But I'm going to smile with you as if he came to me with a message.
It was about two months after that, that my son and brother passed away Subhan Allah,
maybe, Allahu Allah.
I'm going to stop here.
Because I'm going to come back up insha Allah afterwards, the food is out, and I'm hungry, like you.
And I'm going to continue this journey in sha Allah, and share with you the rest of it, and how I ended up here in front of you. But I will tell you something. Today, I'm a very happy person.
Brothers, sisters, I am happy. And you can see my clips in UK. I just went there.
And I started to say jokes onstage again.
I'm happy.
And I remember one brother in Lebanon, a knowledgeable chef. He came to visit me and said, You're going to go through a roller coaster.
And then after that, you are going to be happy. I couldn't understand why. How am I ever going to be happy again. But I am and next insha Allah next lecture I will tell you how I got there in sha Allah Jezza como lo heyde was ALLAH on I've been on Muhammad was salam ala
hamdu lillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah. Now my brothers and sisters of Allah here I'm not used to talking about myself like this, but today, I'm just sharing it with you to try and have a connection with you and try to inshallah walk away and think okay, this is how it happened in his life, Inshallah, we can also get through it, my dear brothers and sisters, and now
I came across a beautiful Hadith of the Prophet peace be upon him a saying of the Prophet peace be upon him, where he said,
If Allah knows
that there is something in your heart,
a secret between him and you.
And he knows
that your actions and your deeds so far in your life,
and not yet enough
for you to enter Paradise, immediately,
he will bring to you another avenue.
What is that avenue,
he will bring to you a hardship in life. Bear with me,
that he knows, you will be able to persevere through it.
And through that perseverance and patience,
you will rise in your level
without needing to do any extra good deeds than what you have already done.
And through that, you earn the highest level in paradise. Did you hear what I said brothers and sisters, some people, their good deeds, make them reach paradise and reach high levels. Other people are not very good at that. Maybe their circumstances don't allow them maybe their opportunities aren't the same as yours. So Allah brings to you something of a loss, something of a little bit of sickness, maybe something of a little hardship or struggle, and he knows that you will pass it and he will use that as an excuse on the day of judgment and tell everybody this person persevered through a hardship that I gave him or her and they deserve nothing but paradise. Listen to what the
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, he said, If Allah subhanahu wata Allah
tests a servant of his or takes away a beloved of his and that person is patient and persevering and thinks that their reward is with me and thinks well of me and knows that I am the most merciful and forgiving. I have no other reward for that person except paradise. Nothing less. My dear brothers and sisters Wallahi the movement the believer is something different. We are weird
to where we are to a lot of people Allah who were very strange, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam even said, I find the believer very strange, nothing good or bad that happens to them, except that something good in their perception, they think of it in a good way, they're able to see the good in it. It is all good for them could look, everything is hired for that person. If good happens to them, they are thankful if bad happens to them, they are patient, and they can see the good in any situation. And this is only for a believer. Why? Because a believer does not only look in this world as the end, this is just temporary, every pain, every struggle, every loss, every hardship, every
agony, every worry, even the prick of a needle in this world, brothers and sisters Wallahi it doesn't go in vain. Allah said even to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said to him and know that no matter what action you do, I will compensate you for it. Allah compensates you brothers and sisters, just hang in there. Hang in there. Some people, they are patient when a calamity befalls them. Some people are more patient, when you give them more good deeds to do, they do more. Some people are more patient against things that Allah has forbidden. Everybody's patient in their own way and Allah doesn't let it go to vain. Remember this brothers and sisters,
my journey now.
I'll going to summarize it and come to what I actually did about it.
Leading up to the event,
our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam always taught us no matter what you do in your life, make your intention. Well,
no matter what you do in your life, make your intention well, so that no matter what happens along that journey, you are doing it in the Cause of Allah. You have fun on the journey. You're having fun in the Cause of Allah, you eat on that journey you eat for the cause of Allah, you help someone you're helping him for the cause of Allah, you earn money on that journey, you earn it for the cause of Allah, everything is rewarded. Make your intention, right.
So
I remember a night, we didn't want to go to Lebanon at all.
And my mother was in Lebanon suffering from something.
My brother, Allah here humble, he sat in front of me and my son.
And we said, Lebanon is bad. I don't want to go anymore. My brother said, Well, I don't want to go anymore. I said, Hold on. We'll give my mother a call.
If she feels good. We'll say listen, ma'am, we don't, we're not going to come we'll come another time. But if she's really bad, we're gonna go.
So we gave her a call. And the thing she said to us was that she's not in a good state.
She was a bit ill and things like that. And my father.
When we put the phone down, my brother got teary. And I said to him, Listen, let us all shake our hands.
And let us make our intention, right.
Oh Allah.
If we die on this journey, we're dying with the intention, my lord of going to connect the ties and helping our parents.
You know, in the Quran, Allah says, We're cuddle Rob Booker, Allah Tabu Illa. Yeah, have you learned any Aksana Your Lord has commanded you to worship none other but him. And to be good to your parents. It doesn't mean you have to listen to everything they say good and bad. It means you have to be good to them in good and bad. Try to be good to them as much as you can disagree with them in a good way, and agree with them in a good way if you can. My dear brothers and sisters, that was the purpose of our journey. We said if we die with IV sebelah, and if we return we return with a bag of rewards. That was the intention Subhanallah we went there.
And the morning my father woke us up. We all prayed for Azure together.
And we went on a hunting trip
my son was looking at his mobile phone, a little family was quiet.
After the tragedy, I found his phone
and he had changed his
screen, the home screen to his two little sisters.
He had missed them.
Allah He changed that one hour before his his meeting with ALLAH SubhanA died.
And they were happy. Him and my brother praying Joe are playing joking laughing That was so happy. They were so excited. I don't know why they were like that.
And subhanAllah you all heard on YouTube what happened?
They had an accident.
And Allah subhanaw taala had decreed from the moment they were in their mothers
When that they were going to go back to Allah at that point.
Yes, it's called death but for a believer means you have gone back to Allah. Who did they go to? Did they go to a drug dealer? Did they go to a murderer? Did they go to a serial killer? Did they go to someone who's going to torture them law Allah, they went to the Most Merciful. Brothers and sisters, I want you remember this, no matter what tragedy you go through a hardship. Remember that every Salah that you pray you say Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim. Is that true? You start your car with Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim. Did you hear the two names of Allah? Or Brahman? Or Rahim? Rahman means his mercy is the source of everything. Or Rahim His mercy flows and never stops. The source and the
flowing that never stops. Then we say Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen Oh praise to Allah for everything. Or rush man Rahim we say his two names again, the Most Merciful, the one whose mercy never never stops, brothers and sisters. Why do some people only think of the hardships and the punishments of Allah when Allah subhanaw taala tells us to remember that he is a Rahman Rahim we recite it more than for those of you who pray every day five daily prayers you say it more than 26 times every day out of Rahman Rahim. That's what Allah wants you to know. At the same time, yes, Allah does punish. However, this is just to keep us away from harming ourselves and doing the wrong
thing in this life. But Allah subhanaw taala is our hammer raw honey. And that's what we want to remember in the times of hardships, listen to Allah's names and attributes, every name of Allah. If a name begins with something negative, it always follows with a name that is positive. I will give you an example. Allah says a ball, the one who harms what comes after a bar. Anyone know? What's after a bar? Anyone has memorized the law is 99 names. A bar
no one, a bar
or omega a bar?
No know, a bar, an airfare, a bar, an airfare, the one who brings harm? The one who brings benefit. Do you know what that means? The earlier Matt said, they said it means Allah will not harm you. Unless he is going to bring you a benefit from it. Allah will not harm you, unless he's going to bring you a benefit from it. Allah subhanaw taala says and Horfield are raffia the one who demotes because he wants to promote, he demoted because you're going to be promoted. He harms it because there's going to be benefit from that harm. Brothers and sisters, when we feel pain. We know how it feels. We know how to protect ourselves. When we were little children. How did we learn how to walk,
we had to fall we had to fall 100 times to learn 100 different ways of how to stand up.
We fell 100 times to learn 100 different ways of how not to fall.
That is why we fell.
My dear brothers and sisters, you don't know what happens after hardships. Allah opens many doors.
After that, I stood on the roof of my father's house when my son and I were the last time
and I said Oh Allah, what is my life for? What do I need to keep going?
I need to be with my brother and son.
They're not meant to die before me. These are my this is what my head is saying. Now obviously these are just whispers brothers and sisters, I want to tell you something. The Companions came to the Prophet peace be upon him and said the rasool Allah, sometimes we get whispers we hate those whispers had we told you we would rather burn in a fire burn us and and we will rather not tell you what goes through our heads. This is human emotion.
And the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, Wow, do you really feel like that? He said, They said yes, says Alhamdulillah thank God that He has made the show thorns, strength and power as simple as just whispering. He said that is the truth. Amen. The fact that you have these whispers and you don't believe in them, you don't go by them. You hate them. Of course, Allah subhanaw taala has left me a life for a reason. Each and every one of you here is breathing because there is a reason. There is a purpose. Some of us we get sick and we think it's the end of our life. Allah says no, you still have a little bit more to go. Why not me? Why am I brother? Why my son why?
Well, I stood there, and suddenly I hear the Quran in the masjid. Allah said, Why Allah tokoto no fossa circle in hookah. Nabil comm Rahim do not kill yourselves. Do not burden yourselves. Do not overwhelm yourself.
with too much agony and stress, Allah is ever so merciful to you.
Allah is ever so merciful to you, we just don't see it yet.
Then the Remember when I told you at a young age, I'm reciting Quran all my life here. Every day you recite the Quran. That's what the Quran does in the time that you need it, it comes to save you. It comes from your subconscious mind, you don't even need to think about it. My emotions are going haywire. And the Quran came up and it says, What the * when Layli either such a dark or a book, our male color by the dawn and by the night as it encompasses you. Your Lord has not left you alone and he has not given you up to anyone. My dear brothers and sisters, you know what Allah says? He says to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam to tell us that he says, Whoever harms a dear servant
of Mine, I declare war against that person. And my servant keeps coming closer to me with the things that I made compulsory upon him his five daily prayers, his fasting is how much you get closer to me. Allah says and then my servants does little tiny, good acts voluntary act that he gets keeps getting closer to me until I become his eyesight which he sees with his ears which he is with, and his hands and legs which he uses. And if he calls upon me, I will respond. And if he seeks protection from me, I will give him and there isn't anything that I hesitated to do more than I hesitate to take the soul of my dear beloved servant at the time of his or her death, for he hates
he hates to die and I hate to hurt him.
The hadith in Bukhari and Muslim
My dear brothers, sisters, who is Allah? Do you know who Allah is? You know, there are angels that Allah created, they have been bowing to Allah since the day they were created. The only time they lift their heads is on the day of judgment. And the first thing they say when they see Allah, Akbar, Mel Kahakai Baddeck Oh Allah, we didn't even worship you as you deserve. Who was Allah? Who is Allah? Allah says one Karabo ala human hub Lily worried Allah is closer to you than your own jugular vein. He knows your pain, he knows exactly what you're going through. Do you think that Lord who knows all of this about you is going to leave you and harm you? So long as you stick by him? My dear
brothers and sisters? Don't that Allah subhanaw taala go? Allah subhanaw taala says we're either Celica, they are NIFA in Nitori. And if My servants ask you about Me, I am close or Gee Buddha, whether I either I will respond to the person who calls to me, so long as he or she keeps calling upon me, don't give up calling upon you. And brothers and sisters, here is a mistake that many people do. They think that if they ask Allah for something, Allah is going to give them exactly what they expected. No, that is not the way if Allah were to give each and every one of us exactly what we asked for, we're going to fall into more turmoil because we don't know our future. We don't know
what happens later on. Only Allah knows. And Allah says, Put your trust in me I will respond in a way that is better for you. Do you believe in Allah that will do that for you? Yes, he will.
My brothers and sisters that was the time for my son and brother to go that was their time nothing could have changed it nothing.
But then I remembered my daughter's Allah still gave me two daughters. Allah still has got my parents alive still. I got my siblings I got my nephews I got my nieces I got all you got lovely people. You know what brothers and sisters through that something happens to you you change every single night I make dua for my brother and sister for my brother and son and I make dua for all the believers so I've never made this much dua every Salah as much as after they passed away I'm always connected to Allah dua connection with Allah number two making dot for every believer on Earth. Nina that source Allah said I'm said when you make a dua for the believers, there is an angel that stands
behind you and says, Oh Allah give him or her exactly what they're asking as well give him or her then angels make up for you.
I started wearing my brother and Sons clothes. This is my brother's jacket. I've got my son's t shirt underneath. Do you know why? The intention? I said, Oh Allah, this is their stuff. I'm going to keep wearing them whenever I do good deeds. I will walk with them because the Prophet sallallahu sallam said, when a person passes away, everything is cut off from their deeds except for three things. A righteous child or
a family member who makes dua for them. An ongoing charity that they left behind, and knowledge which they left behind that people still benefit from. Even the word Bismillah when you eat if you taught someone that that keeps going for you in your grave in the hereafter until people stop doing it.
So don't take for granted even the smallest of good deeds. That's what I started doing.
What else? Charity. Money doesn't mean much after you lose a life. Money doesn't mean much after you've gone through that because you look and you think Subhanallah here I am planning and planning and planning and things that sometimes then go ahead and the way I planned obviously I don't have control of everything. If I plan and things don't go ahead to my plan with as a Muslim do, he says God but Allahu Allah, Masha. Allah has willed and what He wills he does. Don't keep reminiscing and thinking but if and if and if learn from your mistakes if you had made a mistake, and keep moving forward, or also SLM told us to do that. Why? Because then you're going to fall into depression into
anxiety into trauma that you cannot climb out of an Allah Samantha does not want to harm you that way. There is a purpose and a reason for it. You know, brothers, sisters, you've been chosen to be in this world. You've been chosen by who by Allah, and also scientifically, you know, the mother's egg. The egg chooses you. Science in the past thought that,
excuse me, the sperm that beats into the womb into the uterus, that's the one that makes it it's a race. It's not a race, you are chosen, you are chosen, even biologically. Allah subhanaw taala chose you deliberately. There is no reason why you are here while you are breathing, for who for what, Allahu Allah, but just keep going. There is a reason why he got sick. There is a reason why someone passed away. There is a reason why you lost your well. There is a reason why you married someone. So there's a reason why you have those children. There is a reason why you live in such and such a place and not other place, make use of what Allah has given you. You know, in the UK, I met a lovely
family. Chef Omar Suleiman took me to them and he said, Can you come with me to this family? They're on YouTube as well. Their daughter died of brain cancer of medulla Haley, and she made a beautiful interview or podcast with him talking about her journey. And what Allah had till today, I get so amazed by these types of people who get sick. How do they get closer to Allah when everybody else is thinking something negative Wallahi every time I see a Muslim or even someone I know who got really ill, something happens. They get closer to Allah, my brother and sisters, that is a sign that is a beautiful sign. Subhanallah the family went through some tragedies afterwards, and I got so many
doubts and questions. And Allah Spandana sent us to them. We went and sat down because somebody who's had a tragedy in their life, someone who's had a loss in their life, just by sitting with them. They know that they feel amazing, they feel better, because you've got something that you can connect with them. After that, how many people around the world I connected with Wallahi I've got so many brothers and sisters, we talk about who's this one's lost their child, this one's lost their daughter, this one's lost their parent, this one's lost. And we talk always, how many people did Allah subhanaw taala benefit through that? And what are the rewards for my brother and son as a
result? You see a man thinks very differently to the world. Brothers and sisters, you know, I went to a camp in Melbourne. And in this camp, the young people are there. I sat on a table a lot of these youngsters came and sat with me they're talking, talking, talking, I don't know, I'm just answering their questions. I'm talking stuff. And they're listening attentively. I don't know what I'm doing. But Allah Subhana Allah sent me the one particular brother sitting there. He's listening and asking me a lot of questions. And I told him about my journey in the end, brothers came up to me and they said, What did you do to that young man? I said, I don't know. He said, Wallahi he was
about to take his life. And we brought him on his journey. Hopefully we can help him. Just by sitting with him. I had no idea. Well, Allahu Allah just sent me that. But you know why brothers and sisters? Allah subhanahu wa ala he prepares you for something even beyond your imagination. Just white, white and be patient the time is coming when we will all meet Allah and you will see, you will see what Allah Subhana Allah did for you. Right now. We can't see you at all. One sister, she messaged me and saying, I can't understand why all of this is happening to me. Can you tell me I said, I have no idea. Who can tell me I said nobody can tell you. You'd have to know the eternal
past the eternal present the eternal future. You have to know everything about everything. And only Allah knows that.
Think about it like this. If you've got a young, five month old child, for example, or five month old, a one year old brother or sister and there is a fire burning. Let's say there's a little woodfire that child looks at that fire and thinks toy colors. Play. Mom and Dad always let me play. I'm gonna go play with that. The child goes to the fire. What do you do? You move the child away. The child starts to cry. Wow, what's the child crying about? I'm a victim.
them. Why am I a victim? The child thinks mum and dad don't let me play. They've always let me play. Why won't they let me play now? Little thing that's going like this. I want to play with it. Fire burning. Nice. The child doesn't know that fire is going to burn them. But the fact that baby keeps crying and if you try to explain to the child why the you can't touch the fire is the child going to understand? Is the child going to understand? child will never understand no matter what you say? The best thing you can do? Keep the child away even if the child cries. Even if the child suffers a little bit through emotions, it's better than to get burnt
until the child is aware. Think of yourselves like that little child by the brothers and sisters. Compared to Allah subhanahu wata Allah. Allah says who he is Aleem, he knows everything. What is our duty? What should you do? Think positive of Allah and keep going.
These are the things that I thought about brothers and sisters in my journey. The Quran never lift my hand. The night prayers were the best because their mind. You know, when someone tells you pray your five daily prayers, everybody keeps telling your parents tell you pray five times, daily prayers. You feel it's an obligation. But when you do your own Salah because you chose it. It has a different effect on you. Those night prayers, there are no distractions.
You put the phone away, no tick tock, no Instagram, there's no one around, everybody's asleep. There's nothing to rush to
choose a little time in the night before you go to sleep. Wake up a little bit before Fajr prior to the cause, and just in your sujood because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said when you are down on the ground with your head on the ground, You are the closest to Allah than any other time. So talk to Allah in your sujood in your prostration in when you've got your head on the floor,
and that's what I did. Sometimes I didn't know what to say. You might think well, what should we say? Say anything, say anything from your heart. Sometimes I just sit there and I would cry.
And I cry for about half an hour. Not saying a word just with my head on the ground? Why? Allah knows what I'm going through. He knows what I want to say. Although I don't know how to say it. Don't you think Allah knows? You want to say it in English? Say it in English saved in Turkish? Yeah, can you say in your own language make up your own language? Allah knows what you mean.
Don't worry. Another thing I did was I'd go alone to fireplaces and sit just watching the ocean. Sometimes I would go and watch the the clouds, the trees, the animals. These things also make a connect with Allah. Another thing I did was I created new memories. Every place that my son and my brother we had spent time and I have to create new memories. You can't run away brothers and sisters, you have to go and face it. If you do not face it and deal with it. You're going to stay scared and running away. Allah does not want you to run away. Allah says in the Quran for fear. Oh, in a lot more in the lagoon min Hornady movie is a runaway escape. Escape to where Allah says escape
to me.
Escape to Allah.
Escape to Allah, my dear brothers and sisters. Just do it.
Another thing I did was write a diary.
Do you know what the diary does? Now we men, we don't usually do that. When someone came and told me about it, I'll tell you how I came up with the idea of a diary. There's a sister overseas, I don't know her. But she sent me a book. It just came in the mail goes this from the mosque calls me up and said, someone sent you a book. I opened up this book. It's it's about an Egyptian woman who lost her husband in Egypt. Someone shot him he got murdered. And she talks about her grief.
And I read through that book. And she says, You know I wrote a diary. So I go what's a diary gonna do? I just wanted to design I wrote, I wrote my feelings and everything. day one, day two, day three, day four, day five.
One year later, I thought I'm not progressing.
So I opened up my diary and looked at back at day one, and I go, Oh my god, I was that bad. And look where I am now. I am progressing.
Oh my god, that brother in Lebanon who told me you're going to feel happy soon. It's working. I didn't leave Allah. I didn't leave Allah.
It makes you feel that you are normal. You are okay. Things are getting better in sha Allah. What did I focus on? I focused on all my brothers and sisters around the world. I focused on my daughters. They're still there. They still need their dad. Oh, maybe Allah did not take maybe
because it's their right, not only my right, there are others who need me.
There are others who I need.
You know, my parents nearly died in the code in during COVID. They were induced coma, I'm sure that your parents may be my last panel to Allah have mercy upon those who passed away and I'm sure maybe some of you have had this tragedy as well. Some of you got sick.
My parents needed me at that time my siblings needed me at that time.
Someone needs you. That's why Allah keeps you. There's good in your life. That's why Allah gives you more life. If Allah Subhana Allah wants you now it means this is the best time for you because Allah is going to look after you. Don't be scared of Allah subhanaw taala don't feel going back to him. And every little thing that you go through in this life, every worry is small. Listen to what the prophets Allah sallam said, not a single thing that a Muslim goes through, whether it be physical tiredness, pains of sickness, worry, anxiety, fear, harm, someone hurt you.
Even the prick of a needle Rasul Selim says, except that ALLAH will compensate that person by expiating their past sins and shortcomings, the Companions used to say, we love it when we get through go through hardships and are patient because a source of Allah who the Prophet peace be upon him said, there could be people out there who go through so much hardships that they are so patients that they meet Allah with not a single sin on them, they are like babies.
Think well of Allah. And you know, Islam is the only religion I know that really talks about embracing suffering. I know it's hard. But when you embrace it, you become strong. You don't let suffering get you.
My dear brothers and sisters, I listened to the hereafter what happens after death? What happens when we meet Allah, knowing about the souls and the life of the souls after death, makes you prepared as well and makes you at ease? Did you know The dead people, they talk to each other. But also Salah salem said in the Hadith isn't a necessity says when somebody passes away, they meet, they meet the souls that have passed away recently. And nice souls come to them from may be here. Many in the process that I've said the souls come to that person and they say, tell us about my dad, tell us about our brother, tell us about our sister, tell us about our mother. Tell us about our
children. Tell us about a friend who got married who had who gave birth? Do you know why they're asking these questions? Because the people of the Hereafter they don't want to come back here. They can't wait for you to go over. But they want more people. They want a whole celebration. You know, like the Lebanese when they do weddings, we invite 1000 people. So that's how it is in the Hereafter. And then someone says the true coup for Indonesia and Muhammad dunya. Leave that person alone for a little bit. He or she has just come out of the claustrophobia of the world. This world is claustrophobic.
And Allah talks about Prophet Yunus when the big fish ate him, he felt claustrophobic. So Allah says he was among those who remembered God he kept on calling upon God. Allah says fernet Jaina Homina Luzon, we saved him out of the claustrophobia. What are their Liikanen gene mean? And this is how we will also save the believers. Why the believers because you put your trust in Allah, you believe in Allah, you have a connection with Allah.
You have a relationship with Allah.
So this world is claustrophobia. Anybody who goes after it, is going to feel the claustrophobia. It's not going to solve anything for you. Yes, it may solve a little bit of the poverty, maybe it'll pay your bills. But that's just the essentials of life. Then what
we are here for a reason, and we are going to go back to Allah subhanaw taala. Brothers and sisters, the best thing that you can focus on are your deeds in this life. It doesn't matter if you are a business person, you're, you're employed in some other area other than being a shareholder, an Imam, or a student of knowledge. And most of them can benefit in any area, they're in any area. You're a stay at home mom, or you're a stay at home dad, even you're a teacher, you're a business person, you're a trade trades person, you're whatever you are, you're a doctor, you're not whatever you are brothers and sisters, you can turn everything you do into a way that pleases Allah. Wake up in the
morning and say, Oh Allah, I'm about to go to work. I'm about to do this. I'm about to look after my children. I'm about I'm about I'm about to do whatever. Oh, Allah know that I am. Do this for your sake, say it in the morning. Just say it. And suddenly everything you do, you don't. You're gonna know that hamdulillah I'm on the right path. It doesn't matter when Allah takes me. You know, my mother the other day I'm looking at her and I'm saying
Can and she's always working. She's always serving everybody. We tell her to sit down, she doesn't stop.
I come to take things off her, she won't let me. And I think well then, anytime my mother goes back to Allah, she's going to go back to Allah while serving other people while being selfless. Subhan Allah, there's nothing but Jana, for her Insha Allah, and all of you are the same Subhanallah isn't that a beautiful thing? Isn't a beautiful thing that we've got something to look beyond this, this world. Something that we can look beyond this world, this is not it. If this was paradise, outside you I don't believe in God. This is not paradise. This is not it.
Yes, get money, enjoy your life. But don't let your heart get attached to it too much. Because your expectations, they're gonna hurt you later on.
Be the son or the daughter of the moment. Tomorrow, Allahu Allah and what will happen? Plan for it. But keep a little gap in your heart and say you know what, only Allah knows in which direction I'm going to go after this. For Allah does say in the Quran. In last three use along with every hardship, there are many aces. And then Allah repeats it a second time, in case you didn't get it the first time. In nama I lost three you saw with every hardship, there is a package of many good things with it, every hardship, now it's up to you to build that mindset and say Yes, I believe that and watch how the doors will open for you.
Watch how the doors will open for you. Insha Allah may Allah subhanaw taala bless you, my dear brothers and sisters. Now I'm very happy. And I've been happy for about six months, took me close to two years yoni. And when I say happy, I mean I'm back to normal. I'm enjoying people. I'm enjoying doing the things that I was doing before. I was always happy in with my faith with Allah. But now even in life, I can joke with people I can laugh as I used to be 100 in there, I'm able to.
And perhaps Allah makes you go through a little bit of hardship and a journey to build your character and to make you stronger than what you were before.
My dear brothers and sisters, nothing goes in vain. May Allah Subhana Allah bless you. And you don't know tomorrow in sha Allah is another day. Leave it to Allah subhanho wa taala. Go and kiss your parents. Go and be with your family. Try to work out your problems with people. Go and hug your children. Go and hug your husband. Go and hug your wife. You know, smiling and I'll finish it with this smiling as a huge thing. Start with their start with a smile. He can't smile. Think about a good memory. Think about a moment that made you laugh. Think about a person you like and smile. But also I seldom used to smile all the time, of course has to be a genuine smile, not one of those fake
ones. A genuine smile. Smile to your kids smile to your spouse. You know they say in science that if you smile, it gives you
epinephrine sorry, not epinephrine. It's endorphins. It gives you endorphins and dopamine when you eat chocolate. When you chocolate, it gives you dopamine and endorphins as well. And when you smile, it gives you endorphins and dopamine as well. It's the happy formula, the thing that makes you happy. So you know when you go home and you see your spouse or you see your parents or your children or your friend and you're sitting down after a long hard day. Just say to them, give me some chocolate. Give me some chocolate. Now not that chocolate, like you know the smiling chocolate and maybe there's more chocolate after that inshallah that will happen. Oh, there's a lot of chocolate
after that. If you're married. And with your friends, there'll be more chocolate insha Allah in a good way.
Brothers and sisters and lastly, hug your children.
They say you have to hug your children seven times a day for 15 seconds if the children's still wants their teenagers just you know what's up man? What's up even to your daughter? A
but they still love it. Your daughter might go
so Come on mom, your daddy Allah. All right. She'll love it. She thinks about it. Your son Habibi, and Dad. Come on man. And then you then he'll probably ask you for something say hey, this hug is because I love you so that you can use me. So talk to them. Open up that conversation. Let your children know their families their you know my little daughter. Once she goes to me I go to her how do you feel that your grandparents are around you and your uncles and aunts you know all this family. I want to know how it feels. She said I feel like I'm more than just myself.
I'm bigger,
I'm more whole, I have a bigger existence in his life. She sees all of our ancestors in her family. That for me helped me a lot to be close to my family, my sisters, my brothers, my cousins, my parents,
Allah, He, they're really there for you.
And be careful with social media. Don't think that social media is, you know, validation from people is nice, but you will know that these people, they've got their own lives to live. Someone gives you a little emoji. I mean, it's nice, but it doesn't really last long. Then you want to go back on again to get more of those emojis because it's just hormonal reactions. Just a little bit of dopamine coming out and then you want more. But social media is not the place to get your solutions. It's right there in front of you, my dear brothers and sisters, they're around you already. your children, your parents, your family. They are a huge blessing. Try to connect your ties with them
and connect your ties with Allah. And you'll see insha Allah happiness inside of you that you haven't witnessed before. May Allah Subhana Allah ease all your problems and your hardships in mind and every Muslim around the world? If you are going through any hardship with your family mental loss pantalla is it for you? May Allah Samantha, connect your Thais May Allah Subhana Allah forgive the hearts may Allah Subhana Allah guide our parents and our children and our family and our relatives, May Allah guide us may Allah Subhana Allah bless you and only bring the best in your lives and I wish for you and and I ask Allah Subhana Allah for you, and all my brothers and sisters
around the world happiness and goodness in this world. And in the next Joseph Molo, hate Rasul Allah on Anabaena Muhammad was salam ala this q&a Is it?
Yes, go ahead and sha Allah
I'm happy to answer any questions that you have brothers and sisters, please don't be shy. If I'm not able to answer I'll say I can't. If I can insha Allah. I will say whatever I can help you with.
It doesn't have to be related to the topic can be about anything inshallah.
Chef Habib,
question earlier.
She said, Is it okay to support
charities that are run by almost like guidelines association or any charity or should we favor those options?
Islamically it's always Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran, Allah Subhana Allah will Morrow. The ones who are closer to you are the ones who are more in favor of your assistance. So the Muslims are the closest ones to us, the relatives are closer, they have the priority, but helping non Muslim charitable organizations is permissible as well. There is nothing wrong with helping non Muslim organizations because so long as you know that it is truly going to those who really need it. In Islam, there is no difference between a needy Muslim or a needy non Muslim, if they are needy, they are needy, but be careful which charitable organizations you choose some of them that they're not
trustworthy, so you've got to make your research inshallah some charitable organizations they take our money in order to support and promote a religious propaganda for example, so you gotta be careful about that insha Allah as for helping non Muslims and sending it through non Muslim charity organizations, once you've done your research, there is no harm in that and insha Allah you will get rewarded, and my evidence for that is what the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, he said, before I became a prophet, I took part in something called Helfand for dawn, the Hadith in Bukhari and helfen Fatone helpful for the whole was when all the people of Makkah wanted to get together,
wanted to get together to help the needy, the oppressed, and those whose their rights have been taken. The widows also the orphans, the poor, and all of them came together regardless of their religion, to help the people who are in need and destitute regardless of their religion. But also I said, I'm took part in that before he became a Prophet when he became a prophet and he was in Medina that time and Islam Islam was established. And he knew that there were Muslims also in need. He said, No, dare to lie. Buddle Islam, ILA Egypt. If I were to be called to this pact, this group that helps the needy and the poor, even after Islam after I became a prophet, I would have also taken
part who would have taken part after Islam. So this is our, but obviously we favor those who are more in need. Our Muslim brothers and sisters are more in need because most of the charity goes to other people, and there's less that goes to them.
We have a question here it says,
oh, says how do you differentiate between a mistake and a hardship? That requires patience? My dear brothers and sisters there's no differentiation and must
Take knees patient patience and hardship needs, needs patience. Both of them needs patience. But I think I know what the problem is. Many people have, there's a common mistake in the understanding of the meaning patience. A lot of people don't know what patience means. My brothers sisters, patience has three meanings.
One or all of them. The first meaning of patience is when something that is forbidden to do, you're not meant to do it.
But your your desires, your temptations, your urges tells you to do it. The patience here is to work against your desires, and your temptations and your whispers not to do it. That's the first meaning of patience, fighting and wrestling with yourself. That's patience. And that's the highest form. The second one, sorry, that's the middle form. The second one is when Allah has told us to do things, there are commandments that Allah gave us, there's obligations, like a five daily prayers, the first thing, these things you have to do. That's also patience, meaning to struggle against yourself to keep doing it. This is also called perseverance, meaning not giving up. That's another form of
patience that we all do. And the third form of patience, which everybody
has no option but to do it, and that is when hardships befall us. When things happen to us. Even when we make mistakes, some hardships are made outside of our control. And some hardships happen to us because of our own mistakes. Some of them are dumb because of our deliberate mistakes. So there's three types, the ones that we had no control over, they happened, the ones that we made a mistake, and the ones which we knew they were wrong, but we still did them and now we're suffering.
What do we do about these three? All three of them? Your patient, my brothers and sisters, if you did a deliberate mistake, what do you do?
You repent to Allah subhanho wa Taala if it was a sin, if it was not a sin, learn from it. It's a learning curve. It's a score for you. That's why you made the mistake. Humans been making mistakes even deliberately sometimes. Learn from that mistake. If you've taken the rights of someone, try to make it up to them. Ask forgiveness for them if they won't accept your apology, give back what you took from them if you have taken something from them. If you can't even do any of that you can't remember who you made the mistake with for example, the rights of people make a sadhaka and say you're up this charity is on behalf of everyone that I've ever harmed and, and made a mistake
towards if it's a mistake against yourself, you made a wrong plan, you made the wrong decision. Learn from it inshallah and do better next time. If it is a mistake that you didn't know about and you're suffering from it, it's okay be patient with an Allah subhanaw taala will still reward you. Because you know Adam Alayhis Salam he ate from the tree. Was that not a mistake? demolays Salami ate from the tree that Allah forbid. And Allah says fantasy he forgot. What did he forget it forget how serious it was. And he went and believe the show time when he said Wallah, he the tree is good for you. He trusted him because he said, Well, he fell into it. And Allah told him did I tell you
the shaitan is your enemy. But what did you do about it for Robbie kalavantin feta van, he took words from his Lord, which he used to ask Allah to forgive him and Allah says, I will still be with you in the caviar uni now I'm watching over you don't worry, no problem with that. So my dear brothers, sisters mistakes are normal, and you'd be patient with them. And even when you're patient after them, you get rewarded for it. The reward is tremendous, especially after you make mistakes. Lastly, we have how do you help someone raise their Deen when they seem helpless, or don't actually engage in what is advice? Well, brothers and sisters, here's the thing. I can advise you.
You can you can control your behavior, you can't control their behavior. First of all, get that into your mind. Because if you think otherwise, you're going to start pressuring this person and putting more pressure on them when they're not ready for it. You know, I go with this. I'm sure for those of you who are parents, you probably go with it with it, you probably go through that with your own children, I'm going through it with my own children. Sometimes it's most mistakes, sometimes it's their mistakes, sometimes I could have done it a better way. But the point is sometimes if I do too much, you know ever heard of tough love, you've got tough love too much, you might do the wrong
thing. So what you do is Insha Allah, all you can do is advise them in your best way. Talk to them in secret, talk to them between each other, if it is a child walk with them outside, walk to go go let's go for a walk and talk side by side. Sometimes you can sit down and you there's something called the sandwich effect everywhere the sandwich effect is an approach with people so you praise them then you say their problem then you praise them again, or you praise them then you advise them then you praise them again make sure you start with the praise and with the praise that with a compliment end with a compliment. So you've got to show your love you've got to show that you
acknowledge and then say and please let me know if you need my help. If they don't listen, make dua for them. They will come round Inshallah, but you plant that seed there
Today it is with Allah subhanaw taala. But in sha Allah you've done your part as much as you can. And at the end of the day if there's someone who really precious to you someone who responsible like a child or you know a parent or a cousin or relative or a spouse, at the end of the day brothers sisters, you've done your part. And the rest is on Allah subhanho wa Taala as much as you can.
You can give them with a talk you can give them with a main but people don't like that and saying, some some one brother, he said, bro, all you do is just keep sending me all these talks. I don't want to listen to them. I don't want to listen to I put you on mute. said Alright, stop, stop, stop. Don't pressure the person.
Sometimes you just gotta be have a good relationship with them. Just be good. Just joke with them. Just laugh with them. Sometimes your character speaks louder than your words.
Right? If you can't talk to them, you can't advise them. Well, then maybe someone else insha Allah can invite them to an event of yours invite them to something that is human between you and them. You know, we don't always have to give Dawa and talk talk talk sometimes just being friends with them being nice to them, being there for them. And always wait for that wait for that call when they call you because they probably become in need. And that's when insha Allah you go and help them in sha Allah. A lot of people react in different ways. So these are some pieces of advice that I can go share. We got a question over here, Gilda young girl.
Yes, I'm Masha Allah. So
I have a question for you. What is it? That would make someone else's life easier? What is a dua that can make someone else's life easier? Yes. Oh Masha, Allah,
you know, I can tell you a DUA, that the Prophet peace be upon him taught us I can tell you from the Quran, but I guarantee you're going to forget it as soon as I finish. So, I'm going to tell you that easy way.
Ask Allah in the way that you want to ask him.
Ask Allah in whatever way you can. So like this, if I was in your place, I will say, Oh, Allah, make that person better.
Oh, Allah. help that person to be on the right path.
Oh, Allah, let that person see something nice. That will open their brain and open their heart. Say in English, say in Turkish, say in gibberish, say in any language you want.
Because brothers sisters, let me tell you something.
The best type of dA is the one that comes out from your heart. And the one that comes out from your heart is the one that you mean. And the one that you mean is the one you understand. If I tell you a whole lot of Arabic and you don't understand what I'm saying, is that gonna work? No, Allah wants the DUA that you understand. Even in prayer Dodoma agree that outside of the compulsory Salat, you can make dua in any language. And some even said that even in sujood in the normal salah the the follow up prayer you can make dua in in any language. Therefore, Allah subhana wa Taala wants to hear what you say from your heart.
That's the way the dot works in sha Allah who died. Just before you leave we got one more inshallah so facist over here,
Santa Monica, why Lake Como Salama? You mentioned that we are here for a purpose. My question is how can we go about finding that purpose in addition to our ultimate purpose of worship, my sister to find the purpose is by reading and understanding the Quran. That's where you find the purpose. This is how I found it. And then when you don't know something that said in the Quran, you have to go to either the local masjid or somewhere where they can help you to explain what is being recited are what is being read. Sometimes you might have someone in your family who knows Arabic very well that can help you to understand what the Quran is saying what the Muslim what the words of Allah is
saying. You want to find the purpose it's all in the Quran, my dear sister, it's all in the Quran. And I love it a lot of the young people I see a lot of this parents even yesterday someone came up to me and said My, my son is memorizing the Quran. I said mashallah, that's beautiful, but there's always this little thing I I always think okay, so you're memorizing it, just like a parrot, which is amazing if you memorize the Quran, but there's also the other side we need to try and understand what we're reading. Now brothers and sisters, nearly every part of the Quran is repetitive in its own way. It doesn't matter where you read in the Quran, it teaches you the purpose of life in a
different way.
So to know the purpose of life is to recite the Quran and try to understand what it says a good
a good interpretation of the Quran that I like reading I don't know how good your your English is in your level. It's an odd Ellmau dude, it's called tough him Al Quran tough him Al Quran
or you can type Islamic Studies dot info l Modi and you you'll get a modern type of translation that's really close with examples and things like that. So that's all it really is brothers sisters, you want to know the purpose read the Quran that's how
and the more you do it the more and shallow coming into into it. That's how people convert to Islam. They said we read the Quran and we found the Quran is reading us, it's telling us so that's the best advice I can give you in sha Allah, Allah have just two more questions here very quickly. If your parents pass away and you feel that you didn't treat them the best, very good question, or done enough. What can you do now to make up for it and be forgiven by Allah? What a beautiful question these questions I love as well. So a companion came to the Prophet peace be upon him and asked him the exact same question. He says, yah rasool Allah, my parents passed away.
What can I do for them after that they passed away. And he said five things, remember them a DUA or Lahoma. Constantly make dua for them. That is obeyed that is dutifulness to them. Number two is still refer to Allah Houma. Not only to ah so you might say, Oh Allah grant them paradise. Oh Allah unite them with the righteous Oh Allah send my message to them that I love them. Dua number two is still far asking Allah to forgive them. There's a little bit of difference between the two. Oh ALLAH forgive their sins, oh, ALLAH forgive their shortcomings. Oh, Allah,
pardon their shortcomings. That's number two. Number three, if they left a will, or something that they want to do to do, try and remember, if there's anything they would have loved you to do, but you didn't do it in your life. Do it now. If they've written something, a lifter will do it. If you remember them, they used to advise you to do something and you're able to do it. Now go ahead and do it. Number four,
is it's probably hard on some people, but I'm going to say it and you try your best Inshallah, try to connect your ties, or at least do good, a good service or something nice to the people who are related to you through them.
So your uncle, your aunt, your cousin, so your mother, or your father who passed away the reason why they're related to you.
Even if you don't get along with them, or you do maybe you haven't talked to them, whatever. Try to figure out something good that Allah would like, and you do it for them. Try something good that Allah Samantha rewards you for.
For those of us who it's hard on you, I know a lot of people that always open this other set, how can we do it people are toxic people are these people that for those types of people.
It doesn't hurt
to even send a text message As salam o alaikum. That's it. And the minimum that a person can do is at least one of six. If they say cinema, they come to see the Y equals cinema or you say cinema they come if they sneeze, and they happen to be next to you. And they say Alhamdulillah, say or humko Mala. If they ask you for advice, give them sincere advice, then shut them down. If they invited you for a wedding or some big family event, go to it, even if you just show up and leave so long as it's halal, of course, number four. Number five is that if they are ill, or sick check on them. Even if a text message even if you visit them, even if you just call them even briefly, no matter what was
even if they say bad things to you, if you're not getting along with them, you've done your part. And number six, if they die, go to their funeral. So this is the minimum that we can do. And you would be good to your parents by doing that. And the last thing that you can do for your parents, if they had friends in this life and you knew their friends, do something good for them, even if they were non Muslim. Even if your parents had non Muslim friends, we're not saying that you have to go and live with them. And you have to go and out and come back. No, do something nice to them, send them a gift. Make dua for them. Say something nice to them, smile to them when you meet them. So
these are the five things that you can do for your parents. And there is a last one of course and that is gift charity and sadaqa on their behalf. So there's another Hadith was SOHCAHTOA on Houma, give a charity and the best type of charity that you can give for a person to pass two passes away. Number one is water, a fountain a well because it's ongoing. And there are other types of charities and the last one if a person didn't go to house during their life, and they die. Can you do hosts on their behalf? Yes, of course you can. You can do hajj on their behalf on one condition
on the condition that you've already done your Hajj already.
Now if you haven't done your has already, and you want to do the hush for them. There are other options. You can send your money. There is a way if you know anybody in Saudi, you've got a relative or a friend, you can go to local mosque and ask them you can go to a charity organization. I don't know if MIT W does that as well, where they've got people over there you've got sometimes students at Medina, you've got other people over there.