Ammar Alshukry – Domestic Violence

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			Lima, my bad, All praise is due to Allah we seek His guidance and his forgiveness and we seek refuge
in Allah from the evil of ourselves and the whispering of our desires, whom Allah guides no one can
misguided whom he allows to be misled, no one can guide and I have ever witnessed that there is
nothing worthy of worship except Allah alone, having no partners and that Mohammed sobre la Heidi
was Ella Mrs. slave and His Messenger, and his perfect worshipper. Oh you who believe Allah says in
the Quran, oh you who believe fear allies, he deserves to be feared and do not die except in a state
of Islam. And Allah says, all mankind fear your Lord who created you from a single soul and produced
		

			from that soul it's made and made from their combination many men and women, so fear your Lord whom
you ask each other by and by the ties of kinship, Verily, Allah is Ever watchful over you. And Allah
says, Oh, you who believe fear Allah and say that which is correct, he will correct for your deeds
and forgive you your sins and whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger than they are indeed Victorians.
As for what follows.
		

			In every community, there
		

			may be a person who if you were to ask a handwritten message, the people of the masjid who is the
best amongst you, who do you think of when you think of the most righteous people in the masjid and
you may be able to come up with a list.
		

			And there may be a brother who comes near the top of that list, that brother is always in masala,
that brother is always helping people, that brother is always walking up and smiling. And when they
shake your hand, they always shake it with two hands. They're always beaming, they're always so
gentle and so pleasant to be around.
		

			And you think of this person as maybe one of the best the community has to offer. And he may even be
someone who many people consider.
		

			And he may even be someone who is unanimously considered in that community to be of the best, he
makes the top of everybody's list.
		

			But there are some people who though they may make the list of everyone in the community, they make
the list of the Imam, they make the list of
		

			the people of the front row, they make the list of everyone.
		

			There is a person whose list they would not make as the best in that community. And that person is
important because he is also lost on Lola hardy who said no, they do not make his list.
		

			The problem is some of them was approached by a group of women who came to his family.
		

			And they were complaining about the actions of some of their husbands. And the complaint that they
were complaining about was their husbands striking them hitting them and Rasulullah sallallahu
Sallam he comments on this as was reported by Buddha, Allah subhanho wa Taala. And the Buddha said
la tasa or Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam he says as reported by
		

			Mohammed Nisa on casilda Nichkhun, as well as your laser like the article, he said, a group of women
have come complaining to the family of rasuluh loss on the line to send them many men, many women
complaining about their husbands. They are not the best of you. They are not the best of you. They
don't make that list of being the mess of that community. And so today,
		

			I wanted to speak about domestic violence. The month of October is the month of Domestic Violence
Awareness. And I wanted to share five points with you in this book, but five brief points on on this
notion of domestic abuse. The first is that it is not what the righteous do. The first is that it is
not what the righteous do. How do we know that it's not what the righteous do? Because the prophets
of Allah do send them who was the Imam of the righteous he did not strike his wives. In fact, I
shall not be Allah and he says as was reported by a Muslim ma she says, The Prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, she says that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		

			never struck anyone with his hand. Ma Ba ba ba
		

			Rasulullah sallallahu SLM Shea uncut Beardy. What am ra y la la mujer de la. She says that a pseudo
loss on the lightest, and I've never struck anything with his hand. He never struck a woman with his
hand. He never struck a servant with this and the only time that he ever raised his hand to her and
she said Shay and cut so Shay, is anything you could extend that to a child, you could extend that
to an animal. The problem is the light is and I've never struck anything with his hand, except when
he was in jihad in the path of Allah subhanho data, the only time he ever raised his hands towards
anyone, and Allah subhanho wa Taala he defines the relationship of the believers with each other.
		

			Allah subhanho wa Taala he says when you know when not to go home? Oh, yeah, about that the
believing men and the believing women. They are the protectors, the defenders, the partners of one
another. Yeah, Miranda went home it Moncada. They command the good and they forbid the evil and they
obey Allah and His messenger. And so that relationship is defined for us by Allah subhanho wa Taala.
Before a person is your spouse or before a person is your child, even that person is has the
sanctity that Allah Subhana Allah gave them, that sanctity extends to them from Allah, that they are
a believer in a loss of Hannah to Allah and so your role and our role together is to protect each
		

			other, not to harm one another. The promise of the law to send them or the second thing actually
that I would like to share is that it is not just not what the righteous do, it is not what the
rational do. It is not rational the promise of a lie they send me says Be my LD boy hadoken m rato
barbell family sumela Allahu, he says, Why is it that one of you strikes his wife like the striking
of a, of a of an animal, the striking of a beast from Malala, who you are.
		

			And then it may be that after that, after a person punches his wife in the face after he hurts her,
then after that he wants to be intimate with her. It's not it doesn't make any sense. It doesn't
make any sense. You do not abuse someone, and that extends to children as well that a person harms
them, a person punishes them, and then after that they seek that love to be reciprocated. That is
not the actions of a person who is rational. And so number two is that it is not something that is
rational. And this statement that I just quoted of the province of Allied a synonym is reported
Bible hottie number three
		

			is that the victims of abuse are obviously the spouse and
		

			it is not just the wife that suffers abuse. Sometimes it is, although it is rare. Sometimes it is
the husband who is the victim of abuse in the relationship. But the victims are also the children
because they are incredibly confused when they see someone who they love their father, in most
circumstances. Their father is the one who's abusive towards the mother and they have an innate
desire to love their father, and they have an innate desire to love their mother. And so it creates
this confusion for them, it might create hatred towards the spouse that is the abuser.
		

			But also the victim is the abuser themselves.
		

			The victim is the abuser themselves. And so there's a verse that is so controversial that it can
simply be referred to by its number.
		

			Chapter 434 of the Quran. And chapter 434 of the Quran is Surah An Nisa where a loss of kindness to
add gives license. A person may argue back and say I don't care if you're on the road, I don't care
who you are. I don't care what you have. You are Allah Subhana Allah says that He gives me license.
Allah subhana wa Tada. He says, that if you fear new shoes from your spouse's then do what? For what
you
		

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			God Bowman.
		

			Allah Subhana Allah says that if you fear new shoes, this conflict
		

			that the scholars defined in many different ways, but if you fear new shoes from your spouse, then
Allah gives you license to what he says a little when he says admonish them, rebuke them, try to
correct them with your words. And then after that, if that doesn't work, then what? Why don't you
feed them a budget that you separate your sleeping quarters from your spouse to indicate again, the
severity of the of the harm that's being done by their actions? And then if that doesn't work, a
loss of Hannah ties us well, then he would strike them
		

			to strike.
		

			And some they try to alter the meaning and they say no, it doesn't mean strike or what have you, but
let us agree on something. And that is no abuser who abuses their spouse is doing it out of
fulfillment of Quranic injunction.
		

			There is no one who is abusing their spouse.
		

			And they are doing so because of the verse. No, the motive is not the verse. The motive is their
rage, the
		

			motive is control. The motive is many different things and then they come back after the fact and
they say, well look, the Quran gives me license. But then we have to finish the verse because
finishing the verse will introduce us to a threat. And finishing the verse, Allah Subhana Allah says
for in
		

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			Allah says if they obey you, then do not seek authority over your wife. And then Allah subhana wa
tada ends the verse with two names of his and many times the names of Allah we don't pay attention
to why does Allah and this verse was Semyon Aileen, why doesn't wash the kind of data and this verse
with ID one Hakeem Aziz and Hakeem Allah subhana wa tada at the end of this verse, he says, In the
Lacan, ID and kaviraj, that if you seek authority over your spouse,
		

			when you have no right to do so, because you are deluded by the fact that you outweigh her by 60
pounds or 100 pounds, you're bigger than her you're stronger than her, Allah subhanaw taala is
bigger than you.
		

			And if you are diluted by the fact that you have some sort of seeming authority over her seemingly
you have some authority over Allah subhana wa tada is IE Yun kevita Allah, Allah is higher than you.
And Allah is bigger than you greater than us stronger than you and all of that. And this is a
mechanism this threat is a mechanism to control the person who otherwise would not be controlled.
And the promise of the law I didn't even send him he used this mechanism. abou Miss route, not even
miss route. But Mr. Rhuddlan, Swati is from the unsolved.
		

			He says that one time
		

			he says we're gonna have to reboot, then Lee. He was being a servant that he had sent me to salt on
him in healthy Yeah, Paul Elam, yeah, Obama's route. Lama, who after ya come in Cali, he says, I
heard a voice from behind me. I was in the middle of beating my slave and I hear a verse of voice
from behind me. What was that voice saying? He said, I heard a voice from behind me saying no
Obama's route, no way. And he says, I look behind and I saw that it was a little less on the line to
send them what was the province saying? He says no Obama's route, that Allah has more power over you
than you have over your sleeve. Do not be diluted by this relationship that you have. Husband versus
		

			wife, slave owner versus slave Do not be diluted by that Allah has more power over you than you have
over your slave. And so I'm almost rude because he's also hobby. He's not someone who's gonna
respond with arrogance, yada, blah, blah, he did this and he says Jada's will law who knew he loved
		

			his friend free for the sake of Allah and the progress on the lightest and then commented and he
says, low lambda phi lemme set can now he said if you did not free him for the sake of Allah in that
moment, because of your abuse, you would have been touched by the fire.
		

			You would have been touched by the fire. And so I person should not be diluted and do not think that
they are not the victim of that relationship as well.
		

			Number four,
		

			is that abuse? abuse is not just physical, but it is emotional. It is psychological. It is
financial. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked by Maria Khushi
		

			he says Yasser Allah Maha poo JT Idina LA, what is the rights of any one of our wives over us? And
the prophets of Allah do sending them says, unto him, or her daughter ain't what to her is actus
eight. He said that you feed her when you
		

			are when you eat, and that you close yourself or that you close her when you buy a garment for
yourself,
		

			and that you don't strike her face when I totally been watch. And then he says Who else to add. And
he says and that you do not say you that you do not say back in law, right, which is an insulting
phrase that you don't do what we would call verbal abuse, that you would not call verbal abuse and
the scholars they talked about so much of what we use in our common day to day language, the promise
of the lightest synonym, forget verbal abuse, the province little light is sent me says there has
been many, many
		

			Muslim, it is enough of an evil that a person belittles their Muslim brother, but one of the
challenges is that many times when we're in this familial relationship when they're in this very
intimate relationship, we do not see our family members as having the same rights that our Muslim
brothers and sisters outside of our house enjoy.
		

			And so it's okay if I insult my family, they're my family. No, it's not okay. Why? Because they have
the sanctity of being a being a believer and a loss of data from the first place and hence the
province on the lightest enemies advice to a husband and wife. He said, la mina Mina. He says a
believing man never hates the believing woman. And this is
		

			Talking about the context of a husband and wife, meaning that if you have to zoom out, beyond
looking at her as just your wife Look at her as a believing woman.
		

			Either carry him in her head open, or the I mean, haha, that if he hates one attribute attribute
that she has, if you dislike an attribute that you that she has, that you see the goodness that she
has, there are many other qualities that are positive. And that is something that can be applied to
everybody that you look at the positive and you don't look at the negative. I want to just share my
last point. And that last point is that the community must be concerned. It is a
		

			you know, there are some statistics that are actually I just want to share with you some statistics
about this country here that we live in today. And we make up that two to 2000 to 4000 women are
beaten to death annually in the US 2000 to 4000 women are beaten to death annually in the US. Nearly
6 million women are battered every single year, are battered every single year. Battery is the
single major cause of injury to women exceeding street rate muggings or auto accidents. And so I
want you to think about the amount of stress that you have over you know, your family members. We
all worry about each other. When the person is outside, you're worried that they're, they might be
		

			harmed, don't come home late, come home early. Why? Because I'm afraid of these things. I'm afraid
of the * and the street muggings and all of that type of stuff. Yet, the single major cause of
injury to women are none of those things. It is battery. It is from their domestic partners. It is
from those who are intimate with them, it is from their husbands, it is from their wives, that is or
for women in particular it is from their husbands and their boyfriends. This is the number one cause
and so this is a communal, a communal concern, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in a hadith that's
reported by Eben imagine and I'll end with this this hadith is very beautiful. The prophets little
		

			line is Adam Javid even Abdullah he says that a group of companions had come back from un habitat
they had come back from Abyssinia and when they came back to the province, the ladies and me asked
them and he said what is the greatest or the most amazing thing that you saw in Abyssinia? What's
the strangest thing? What's the most? And so one of the many said Jada's a little while while we
were in Abyssinia, there was a nun she was walking down the street. She was minding her business she
had a well she had a bucket of water on her head. And while she was walking, she had the bucket of
water and a man came up from behind her and he pushed her to the ground. Just a young man he just
		

			pushed her to the ground for no reason. And so this woman she then got up and she looked at him and
she said to him, you will come to know
		

			oh traitor, on the day of judgment when Allah subhanaw taala sets up the footstool and the hands and
the feet they talk about they what they used to do. You will come to know
		

			this affair between you and me very soon. So she threatened him with your monthly on
		

			the Prophet sallallahu de salud he commented on this and he says sada Sadat, k for you but this law,
home and law you
		

			add him. He said how can it last? She spoken the truth she spoken the truth. How can a law purify a
community where the poor or the weak do not have a mechanism to secure their rights from the strong?
		

			How does Allah bless a community where the weak are harmed and they are injured and they are and
hence the profits of the lie they send them says or how do they do if you have to buy a Fein? Allah
team one ma the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said I invoke I shame over the rights of two
people. The two weak ones he called them, the woman and the orphan.
		

			We asked Allah Subhana data to allow us to hear the speech and follow the rest of it. Hola Massimo
Mustapha de la Christopher window for him.
		

			hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah. So have you seen him? And for those of you
who are just joining us, we spoke in this book, but about five points with regards to domestic
violence. Number one is that it is not what the righteous do. Number two is that it's not what the
rational dude number three was that the victims extend beyond the spouse. And number four is that
domestic violence is many different ways. It's not just with regards to physical violence, and
number five it is that it is something that the community should be concerned about. Because Allah
subhanaw taala will not bless the community in which the poor and the weak do not have a mechanism
		

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