Amjad Tarsin – Seeking Support As New Muslims Yasir Fahmy

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The speaker discusses the importance of finding inspiration from people who are new Muslims and finding people as legible as Khadija oriators. They also mention the practicality of having a spouse and serving people in a way that is unrealistic. The speaker emphasizes the mutuality of giving and the importance of serving people in a way that is unrealistic.

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			Our Prophet saw in his darkest
times, right? Had this incredible
		
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			supporter in Allahu, anha, right?
So for our members of the Muslim
		
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			community who are new Muslims, or
Muslims who are unable to find
		
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			that support in an individual
who's just going to be them
		
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			through thick and thin, what are
your recommendations in helping
		
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			them find that support, like, how
do they get started in finding
		
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			someone as incredible to them as
Khadija, Allahu Anhu to our
		
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			Prophet, salallahu, alayhi, wa
sallam.
		
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			This is your this is your session
for listen to you attentively,
		
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			mashaAllah. So Masha Allah, first
and foremost, I think, just
		
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			Realistically speaking, there's no
one like Sayyidi Khadijah.
		
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			So I think even for someone who is
a new Muslim, to have maybe
		
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			several people, whoever it is,
that they saw the beauty of Islam
		
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			and the light of Islam through
they benefit from those people.
		
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			They have a community. And I think
it's important for us, even with
		
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			the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa
salam and the unique and distinct
		
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			rank that say the Khadijah, that
there were many of the Sahaba who
		
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			supported him in a variety of ways
that Sayyidina, Abu Bakr Al sad
		
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			support him in a unique way and so
forth. So really, just to have
		
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			multiple people in our lives who
we seek inspiration from and
		
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			benefit from in a number of ways,
and ultimately recognizing that we
		
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			should seek that support from
Allah subhanahu, and ask him to
		
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			give us the steadfastness to keep
us inspired and and Really
		
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			surround ourselves with good
people and to actively seek out
		
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			good and uplifting environments,
which even the nest eventually
		
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			will try to get in the way of, and
the shaytan will try to get in the
		
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			way of, and recognize that it is a
marathon, and that in many cases,
		
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			it is an uphill battle. But even
as Sheik Yasir said that as
		
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			Sayyida Khadija in her commitment
to the Prophet, she went through
		
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			all different types of of
difficulties, and she was able to
		
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			bear them patiently. But it wasn't
easy. It wasn't easy.
		
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			So those are just some things that
come to mind
		
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			for sharing. Check, is there
anything to add? I have a question
		
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			from the audience as well.
		
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			I mean, Miss Mila. I mean, I think
just to just embellish on those
		
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			beautiful points, the
		
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			the question about searching for
those that we can that can support
		
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			us and we can support them
		
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			is a practical question. It's a
practical question about how to
		
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			and there's no one who gives us
better guidance in the
		
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			practicality of how to than Al
Habib, salallahu, Salah. And by
		
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			the grace of Allah, Al Habib, so
as gave us. And as you know,
		
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			instead of Amjad noted that, you
know, there is a network of
		
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			support that's required. And so
each being in your orbit will play
		
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			a critical role in in that
supporting aspect. And so when it
		
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			comes to a spouse, that is one of
a cadre, right, not everything,
		
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			because very often what happens is
we put everything into we need, we
		
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			need our spouse, then to become
our mother, our father, our
		
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			sibling, our cousin, our best
friend. And it's a very tall order
		
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			that is remarkably unrealistic,
right? The spouse will always play
		
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			a a part of a greater story. So
when you choose the spouse you
		
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			choose by the prophetic
prescription, you know mental
		
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			Donna, Dinah hula, the one who
comes to you and you are pleased
		
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			with their deen and their Hulu and
their character when it comes to
		
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			women, Apostle seven says, Father,
be that Deen, you know, to move
		
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			forth and choose the one of Deen,
you know, the one of good
		
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			character, the one of good
comportment. And that's, that's
		
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			the prophetic prescription that,
if you notice, is not heavily
		
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			weighing in on emotions, because
very often we're pushing very
		
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			qualified suitors away for
considerations that may not be the
		
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			primary consideration. So we have
to be practical about What did the
		
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			Prophet tell me that I should be
looking for in people? Because if
		
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			we like the choice of Al habis
Allah and ladies say the Khadija,
		
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			then we have to follow how a.
		
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			He guides us. And then similarly,
we have to look to the people in
		
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			our orbit, our parents, our
siblings, our aunts, our uncles,
		
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			our cousins.
		
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			And if we want people to support
us, then guess what? We have to
		
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			support them. We have to serve
them. Very often. We because of
		
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			the nature of our modern era, we
become very entitled. We assume
		
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			people should just be doing for us
because we want and then we we
		
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			have a problem with people around
us, like, how come people aren't
		
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			calling me? How come people aren't
giving? How come people are
		
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			serving? Well, what am I doing for
people? Why do i Why do I assume
		
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			I'm just owed
		
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			no jubile in San WA, Allah,
hobiman, Asana ile, that we are
		
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			naturally predisposed to love the
one that is morsin ilaya That is
		
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			caring and giving and kind to me.
So a big question of this support
		
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			is the mutuality of it. How much
am I giving to then truly be
		
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			deserving of receiving Allah?