Alpha-Him Jobe – Family in Islam 7
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The speakers stress the importance of goodwill in marriage, as it is essential for building integrity and maintaining a healthy marriage. They also emphasize the need for legislation to ensure it is permanent, and the importance of fearing Allah. The principles of marriage include knowing one's ability, giving oneself the right to take care of one's family, and treating their spouse like a companion through their name.
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Nothing?
Why are you sick for marriage?
Well, I wanna get married, but I don't
have nothing. Now you have 2 people, they
want to get married.
But this the the thing is this guy
run
down the
hill without
the packet is not ready.
Nothing's in the packet. Prophet said, do you
have nothing? He said, nothing absolutely. Okay, give
me your shirt. He said, that's the only
one I have.
I don't have another shirt home.
He said, alright.
Well, you have nothing. Do do can't you
read even the portion from Quran? He said,
yes.
He said recite whatever you want to recite.
Then for him to recite that Quran, Prophet
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, I admire you based
on that.
Based on enjoying the recitation,
that is your doubt.
Then they're married.
Why we want to pick this very
little event for all the sisters? Anytime you
talk to the brothers,
within a minute the brother go back to
the hadith. That hadith is well known very,
all of them.
Sisters, they are tired about that hadith.
The hadith is Sahih, that hadith is Allahu
Buhari, Tilmizim, Nimaydi, of course,
but the hadith is not practical here. We
need something else. We need the dawg of
Aisha. You don't ask for the dawg. You
don't ask for the dawg of Fatima.
You don't ask for the dawg of Rokayah
and Umulkansu.
Why don't you ask for the dawg of
the dawg of Rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam?
These sisters, they are in that position.
If they believe in Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
and following the new life subhanahu wa ta'ala,
they deserve to have the highest doubting in
the world.
But brothers, I'm telling you one day gonna
come, these sisters,
they're gonna ask you my dawy is to
help the whole Quran.
Going to be a trouble.
You're gonna come to the sister and say,
okay, I want to marry Bayou Quran. He
said, okay, my my dawy will be simple.
Do you do you memorize from Ahmed to
Saloon to Suratul Nas? That's my dawg.
You're gonna go to Philadelphia and carve yourself
somewhere
for years to have stuff before you get
It's not that the word is Quran. No.
Sahih Bukhari. I have just ironing even. No.
No. No. No.
Must be
reasonable doubt.
5,
which is the last one is,
goodwill.
Goodwill is one of the fundamental
basics of marriage.
You come downhill, you have to have goodwill,
ability,
capability,
strong to reign and to do
it. Because if there is no ability,
there is no matter.
Yes.
So these are the fundamental 5 fundamental
basics of marriage commitment.
This have to be established.
When the parties enter into marital contract,
the intention
must be clear
to make
the union
permanent.
Marriage have to be contract. You have to
contract the marriage.
What they call midnight marriages
and then or pick 1 brother, your friend,
and to be the wally and immediately you
come to be your husband.
All these things cannot
play a role here in this downhill hill.
Downhill hill, we have to have legislation.
It's like Capitol Hill.
When you go to Capitol Hill, White House,
they have legislation.
The same thing here.
If you come down here, you have to
face the legislation
of Al Islam.
When the parties enter into the marital contract,
the intention
must be clear to make the union permanent
and free from temporary,
designation.
They call it murtak. It's haram to establish
life. You're gonna marry for 2 years, then
you divorce. No. Cannot
work.
Recall in mind that marriage
is a decent
human
companionship
authorized by Allah
You have to have that in your mind.
That will build the sincerity.
Always you have to think that. Allahu Tabarakhutale
is the one who authorized the marriage.
Yes.
Allah said,
fear your Lord.
Be mindful
for your duty towards your Lord.
Then in the marriage this is principle.
I want to tell you the principles of
marriage. Number 1 is Allah, Say it up
Allah. Fear Allah. Then fear Allah is principle
in marriage.
If you do not fear Allah, you cannot
maintain marital home.
Don't fear your your husband.
Fear Allah.
You want to reduce the tension of jealousy?
Just fear Allah.
If the sister fears Allah,
there's no need to have what they call
crazy jealousy. You have to be jealous.
Nothing wrong
being jealous,
but don't be crazy.
What they call crazy jealousy. You wanna be
picky, like you wanna concentrate where you are.
You go to supermarket. Why you stand there?
I show you at the corner after sunset.
It's Haram, Sister. Well, Sunset, you are home.
No, you have to give the sis a
chance to take a breath.
You know,
you can't be jealous, born, not crazy jealous.
The same thing applies to the sisters.
Why you came late?
He's a man, he must take care of
outside businesses.
But he's going to control home. No. He's
downhill to take care of business.
If not, he gonna go uphill again
and head over there not taking care of
any business.
Then if he's downhill, he's taking care of
business.
So we have to fear Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala. Men and women, fearing Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala is an is a principle. If you
fear Allah, there is no problem in the
house. Because if your wife fear Allah, she's
not going to
destroy the marriage because she fears Allah. If
you fear Allah, you have to give her,
you know, her rights because you fear Allah.
You are not giving her right because of
just you fear your wife. Nobody I don't
think so.
Somebody here, you know, fear the wife.
As the the guys in Egypt, there was
a contest.
They they go to the hall. They they
open a big hall. They said, today, we
are going to make a contest for those
who fear their wives and those who don't
fear their wives. They're gonna come to make
a contest. They separate the hall into 2.
They have a sign board. They said, those
who fear their wives will sit this side,
and those who do not fear their wife,
they will be in this side.
Now,
everybody
sit in the side of they don't fear
their wives.
Except one person.
Except one person. That person sit in the
side of those who fear their wives.
Those who don't fear their wife, what happened
is everybody fear their wife. They just go
to the other side, except one person.
When that happened, all the journalists went to
the person, oh,
you are so strong. You don't fear your
wife. Thank you very much for coming here
today.
Why you what makes you not to fear
your wife? He said, no. My wife forced
me to be in this side.
He's so okay. His wife
his wife
go ahead now.
So there's no need for all that. We
just fear Allah. Don't fear your wife. Don't
fear your husband. But fear Allah. If you
fear Allah, your husband is in paradise.
Yes.
There's no superiority. This is principle.
Allah created you from one single soul. That
indicates
what they call
equality.
No
superiority
or inferiority, but equality.
Allah created all of us from one single
soul.
Then he created
the companion from that particular single soul. Then
your wife is part of you.
Then when you have your wife, you treat
your wife like your mother,
like your sister,
like your daughter,
like
your wife. You have to treat the wife
like that, like a companion.
But, oh, not. I don't care.
No. You have to care.
So then,
no superiority, no inferiority, but equality. Allah says,
We have to fear Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
whom through his name we are asking for
our mutual relationship.
Because through the name of Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala,
we come to the marital home.
Prophet