Alpha-Him Jobe – Family in Islam 10
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Check the sneakers, and you know that these
sneakers, they are you are killing the sneakers.
These sneakers, they are very expensive, but they
don't treat the cities at best. Because when
they wear it, they have a way to
to work.
They have their own way to work. That's
why the sneakers is is just terrible.
So it's expensive. We have to give them
some kind of break and give them some
kind of sympathy by wearing the sneakers better
and adjusting the pants and, you know,
look something probably sometimes.
But that that is the that is the
situation. You have to give them this. And,
you have to remember that one of the
arise case to get portion of your wealth,
prophet
said, your you and your wealth
belong to your parents.
Oh, I I can help them if I
want. No. You have to help them.
Oh, I don't want to help them because
they have money. No. Still you have to
help them. Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said,
one Sahabi,
as Raul Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam,
Who deserve
who deserve more?
Who deserve my companionship
more than anyone else?
Prophet
said, umuk,
your mother
deserve your companionship more than anyone else.
They ask even in jihad, they say even
in jihad.
If your mother
wants you home,
the Jihad
wants you out.
Prophet said follow your mother.
Even Jihad.
Prophet
said that. And the and the man said,
who's else? Prophet
said, repeat the same thing. Your mother. Who's
else?
Your mother.
Then who's else? Then your father. Even father.
He said, then.
He didn't say, and your father. He said,
them. The conjunction is different.
The conjunction of and is parallel,
but then is after effect.
Then your
father. That's why why? Because you you are
here. You are the one who come down
here.
So you're gonna take, you know, second position.
But it's not a problem. It's not a
problem, inshallah.
Prophet said,
the greatest
major sins,
when they asked him what are the
greatest sins in life, he said,
To associate
anything or anyone with Allah
is one of the greatest sins in war
in the in the world. The second one
is to boycott your mother.
You see that?
To associate something, to accept someone as Allah,
is the same thing as boycotting your mind.
And I'm talking about any mother. Don't even
think about because a lot of times I
said parent, not just Muslim parents or guardian
parents
or very arrogant parents or very, you know,
good parent. No. Parent
peer. Your parent, you have to respect your
mother. Whether it's a carpenter or it's a
Muslim, doesn't matter. You have to go to
your mother. You have to sit with her.
You have to listen to her. You have
to listen to some stories nobody can tell
you but her.
Sometimes you feel proud about yourself. You are
45 years.
She can tell you when you are just
45
hours. She's the one who can tell you
that.
She's the one who can tell you the
first moment to you in life
how you look.
She can tell you that.
She can tell you that your story as
a baby.
What you like, what you don't like, what
time you get sleep.
Your mother is getting
up the whole night for your own pleasure.
Allah give them that nature.
So this person have to we have to
respect this person.
So that basically
those are the the,
the rights of parents in in in grief.
When you come to relatives,
which is the uncle, the aunt, your grandmother,
your grandfather, all of them, they are under
the same category.
You respect your father, you respect his father,
you respect his great his great you have
to respect everybody.
You respect your mother, you respect your grandmother,
you respect the grand grand, great grand you
have to respect everybody.
The same thing, your aunt, all the branches
of the family, you have to respect them
as you respect your parent.
That's why when you come to the African
structure of a family, you can see the
aunt is raising all the children because they're
gonna see they're gonna see the aunt as
the mother.
Why? Because that is family. Family is not
just you,
your wife, your children, your car, and your
dog.
It's not like that.
That is the American way, That the White
House way. White House want to teach us
that your parent is just your dog first.
The dog is first before the child.
Then the child. Then your wife.
So this is the the kind of life.
That is not life.
Now all these people, they are in life.
Now let me give you the rights of
children.
The rights of children.
The first life of the child
is to have a good mother.
As a father, you don't have right to
come downhill and pick anyone
as a mother.
Don't even focus on marriage is just to
get a a a wife.
Marriage is to get a mother for your
children. That you have to think about that
too.
Then choosing
good person as a wife will benefit the
child. That is the right of the child.
Which is a very very fundamental right.
The second right
is the child to live life.
It's the there's a right for a child
to live life. Life is his right.
You cannot
make any abortion.
Abortion is haram,
period.
Any stage
of procreation,
if you cut it, that's abortion.
Don't tell me life, 40 days is not
abortion. Maybe 3 months is not abortion. No.
Abortion is abortion. It's cutting life.
It's just cutting the process of life that
is killing.
No matter what kind of value you're going
to give that particular person,
but it's killing life.
Allah said, tumajalal nahu fil kharal makin. Majaal
nahu fil kharal makin.
When Allah sealed the air
in the womb
with the sperm
to fertilize it, that is the beginning
of the progress of life.
So take it from there is destroying life.
And these children,
you don't have the right.
It's their right to live life.
But you don't have right to take their
life.
This is holocaust. This is really it's more
dangerous than the holocaust we have for the
Jews and Africans.
This is a real holocaust.
So we don't have right. Oh, if we
bring the children, we're gonna feed them. Who
are you to feed children?
You are not going to be here when
they reach the age of puberty. You're gonna
die.
You're gonna die with your own programs.
They're gonna have someone who gonna take care
of Allah. He's he's taking care of people
a lot.
Bringing children to life without taking care of
them for sure in Islam is a crime.
But as soon as they exist, taking their
life is the higher crime.
That is their right.
The lower life is a name.
It's the right of the child
to get a name.
Meaningful,
beautiful name. It's not any name.
People, they are giving children
very, very, very ugly names.
Janku.
He said, okay, father. What does miss Janku
mean? Oh, it's just African name.
But what's the meaning of Jengkoo?
Oh, yeah. No. I just went to Ghana,
and I picked that name.
It's not enough.
You have to make sure that name is
very meaningful.
Yes. Name.
The second is education. It's the right of
the child.
It's the right of the child to get
education. You have to give the child education.
Yes.
And as you know, education is the most
important aspect
of human society.
And it's the right of the child to
be disciplined. You have to discipline the child.
It's one of the rights the children, they
don't want. It's their right, but they don't
want it.
You're gonna give them the rights, and I
don't want that. But it's their right to
be disciplined.
Because when they grow up, they're gonna end
up with jail,
and they're gonna blame you.
They're gonna turn back to say, my mother
didn't raise me properly.
Now they are attacking you.
Maybe mother is gone,
but still they have that in their diary.
What happened to me is coming from my
mother.
So now raise them and discipline them. I'm
not saying punish them. Don't confuse between punishing
and disciplining.
Punishment we don't have punishment in Islam, we
have discipline.
Punishment is the is the attitude of what
they call,
mothers in the caves
long time ago.
When human cannot talk,
they have to beat you
because they cannot talk. They cannot express themselves.
What you want