Alpha-Him Jobe – Family in Islam 5
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The importance of establishing peace and security on Earth is crucial to marriage, a social institution that is adopted by human society for inspiring relationships between families. Marriage is a social institution that is not purely economic, and individuals must manage finances in a affordable way. It is crucial to avoid dangerous diseases and avoid starting life on small amounts of money. The speaker uses the word only for that, citing the importance of love and p VP in marriage, not purely economic factors. The speaker also talks about the importance of family structure and beauty in marriage, using the word only for that.
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Not just you yourself.
He said you and your wife.
Okay. Dwell in Jannah
for time.
But my focus of creating you is
to establish peace and
and security on Earth.
That's why he said,
Go down
all of you together.
Not all of you 1 by 1, all
of you together.
Then if you want to go to Jannah,
if we are in family,
going to Jannah is to raise the entire
family to go with you to Jannah,
is uphill,
which is not easy to do
because you are climbing up.
So when you drop down, it was very
easy for you. As a bachelor, you have
just little money, yet you drop down,
down now looking for someone.
Listen, you're like, oh, I'm here. Who want
me now?
Someone came out.
You don't have nothing. You don't have even
family. You don't have nothing. You just have
the only thing you have is your jacket.
Sometime it cough.
Who warned me?
Someone said, well, let me check you.
They start checking you.
Then you start now having the oil, making
subhanallah
too many times.
Have the kufi, be good so much.
But still they are they have to check
you.
They have to check you because
you're gonna dwell here.
Yes.
Marriage is a social institution
as old as human race itself.
Marriage is the way adopted by human society
for regulating
the relations
between families. It's not just regulating relations
between one man and one woman, nor is
regulating
relationship
between the families.
That's why we have to open the doors
of marriage, not just keep money in one
family, like what they call Jewish
process of marriage.
They are separating what they call recycling.
They are recycling money. Just the Jews marry
Jews.
That's why if they have any disease
among themselves,
the disease is going to be very dangerous,
very serious to them because the disease is
spreading
so much.
Though as much as you open the doors,
as much you give
human family health
and strongness.
So
then,
marriage is that
is adopted
by human society for regulating
relations
between families.
Marriage is not
a purely
economic.
When you come down,
don't just look, don't just think that the
whole thing is
economic. Oh, let me just,
save money. How many years? Maybe 10 years
before I get married. Don't try that way,
brother.
That cannot work. Because maybe the 1st day
of my even the celebration will finish everything.
Everything you put in the bank, the ceremony
will finish it.
Why doing all this? It's good to manage,
you know, and then just have some cakes
and laddoo and
have some some biryanas there, lemon rice. Everybody
enjoy. But you have $20,000.
Then you go on big hall, you you
rent the hall, you rent the cottons, you
rent the sunroofill, you do this, take limousines
about 2 miles long.
You know, all these kind of things. You
pay all this money for just maybe 3
hours program.
It should wear it very expensive jackets. But
nobody, you know, look at the jacket because
you're gonna talk.
And I'm telling you, if you matter even
your wife is not looking the jacket. No.
No matter how beautiful it is. The the
the your wife is gonna look at you.
You're just thinking about you.
No matter how the dress is beautiful, you
are not looking the dress of your even
wife. You are looking to your wife.
You are not looking the dress.
But 1,000,
you know, rob 1,000 with betrayal,
you know, inviting more than 6 girls handle
it
like alligator.
Can I work? Islam says simplify,
hand the dress
and come to the marriage contract and marry
them and get out get out from here
and go and enjoy yourself.
Because the that is not a value, No
matter how much you put it. Then the
next day you start going to your father,
your mother, can I borrow $1,000?
Why? Because we have to start life.
Start life like that?
No. This is not a bachelor life.
This is real.
This is serious.
So marriage is not purely economic. No.
Marriage is not that.
Yes. It's not purely economic.
Because
economic factor
is the least focal
in marriage according to Islamic point of view.
Economic factor
is the least focal in marriage.
When you are focusing on the characteristic
of marriage,
economic is the least.
There's nothing absolute
to focus on how much going to be
the dowry.
$1,000
and a ring. Doesn't matter?
Yes.
It's count,
but it's not
the basics.
Yes.
But marriage is love
and piety.
Not the economic, it's love and piety.
Do not marriage
only for the sake of beauty.
Let me marry her why she's so beautiful.
Okay, brother.
Beauty is not permanent.
We are talking about family structure,
dwelling, staying forever.
Then beauty is not a permanent something you
can take as a permanent value.
Because if Fatima is 15 years old,
She's pretty.
15 years old.
Oh, I want to marry her wife. She's
so beautiful. Okay. She's young. Alright. You marry
her because of that? Now we're going to
give you about 50 years later.
50 years after marriage, what's gonna happen? You're
gonna see not a Fatima.
You're gonna see Fatima
who cannot talk.
She's old now.
You're gonna Fatima without teeth. Fatima cannot listen
to you. Fatima cannot even make a cup
of tea for you because she's old now.
Where's that beauty? It's gone.
It's gone.
So then the beauty
is not a fundamental base in marriage.
Do not marriage only.
That's why I use the word only. Only
for that.
Nothing wrong with marrying because of beauty, but
don't marry only for that.
Don't marry
only for the sake of beauty
or for the sake of wealth.
Wealth is not permanent.
Or for the sake of prestige.
Oh, the family. The father is this. The
mother is this. Let me marry her because
the father is the governor of so and
so. The father is the imam.
Doesn't matter?
He's like, let me marry her because the
father can't drive a car. Maybe she cannot
drive a car. That's it. She must learn
how to drive. If the family is the
father is the imam, the father is imam,
their father learn how to be an imam.
If she want to be a good person
that cannot
have any connection with the father in that
particular point,
then the goodness is not the father or
the mother. It's herself and yourself.
Because sometimes, oh, I want to admire the
son of the imam. Why? Because he went
to Pakistan and learn Quran and come back.
Sometimes he come to be the worst boy.
Come to be the worst
because he doesn't mean he didn't learn even
how to live life.
Doesn't matter. Don't ever think that Hafiz is
is a basic
value to man.
No.
Hafiz, they are beating their wives.
They are somehow, they are just beating their
and they're heps Quran but they are beating
their wives.
Why would they they have sit here but
that is not here. They can be their
wife, kick them out, and all that could.
It's not wealth. It's not beauty. It's not
prestige. But on the grounds of religious devotion.
Character,
that's the beauty.
Every every sister in this world
has her own beauty.
There is no ugliness in this world. Everything
is beauty.
Beauty is in everything.
It's up to you what you define as
beauty.
You cannot beautify the whole thing,
you just beautify part of the thing.
And beauty is like that.
Every human being
define his own thing as beauty.
So then everyone
has beauty.
So then, like some people,
they have what they call natural beauty features.
Some people, they don't have that. When you
see that you think that they are coming
to fight you.
And they are good in the heart. The
heart is good. But if you say, assalamualaikum,
you say, can I help you? Because you
think that it's coming to punch your face
or something wrong.
And nothing else is wrong. He's happy, but
he's like that. He just look like that.