Alpha-Him Jobe – Family in Islam 3
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The speaker discusses the importance of love and happiness in building a family, citing the historical backdrop of cultural crises and the need for unity of purpose. He emphasizes the importance of the "outer of love" and the importance of maintaining laws of the Bible. He also mentions the importance of women in the family and the need for men to be the mother of their children.
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Part of the building is kindness. I'm not
talking about the building like the what they
call maintenance
and and and shelter. I'm talking about yourself,
to build yourself. This is the building of
the family.
Before we think about the home, let's think
about the character of those who are in
the home.
So, cycle,
emotional stability,
love and kindness.
Without kindness, there is no
family.
Yes.
And that kindness, psycho emotional stability and love
must be for the entire family.
Don't just love yourself,
but you have to share love.
By loving Allah,
I love everyone for Allah.
So that will give you the proper cycle
emotional stability. Because if you give love to
anyone without Allah, you're gonna misuse love. You're
gonna abuse love.
You have to love Allah, then you start
loving for Allah. That's why when you want
to hate, you have to hate for Allah
too. You cannot hate for your own self.
I hate him. For what? Oh no, I
just hate him.
Why?
That is just me that I hate. No,
you don't have the right to hate anybody.
You hate the person for Allah.
The person is doing wrong, you hate what
he's doing.
So then prophet
said, if you love love for Allah, if
you hate, hate for Allah.
Then hate, love, kindness, and psycho emotional must
be established in the family as a family
building.
Yes. We are living
in a period of cultural crisis.
We have a lot of cultural,
cultural crisis.
And you can see
community life today founded on race, blood, tribe,
and geography.
That is the problem of human race today.
People, they want to establish families
based on color,
race, and language, and geographical position.
Arabs, they just want to marry Arabs.
African Americans, just African Americans.
Pakistan, just Pakistanis.
Iranians, just Iranians.
I don't know about anybody. Italian? Oh, no.
No. Just Italians.
Latino community, just for Latino community.
Every man want to go to his own
little circle
and keep it as family.
This
is our cultural
crisis.
But if you check
Al Islam,
community life is based on unity of purpose,
not based on color or race.
Most based on
unity of purpose.
Not just we are coming from the same
race,
we are speaking the same language. Now, it's
unity of purpose.
Love and faith, these are the 3 fundamental
basis.
Unity of purpose,
love, and faith.
Faith must be 1.
That's why you cannot marry anyone
who didn't have faith in Allah.
If the person reject the faith in Allah,
he's out. You cannot marry him. Men and
women.
Maybe you're gonna ask Aroketa, we'll talk about
that later.
But remember that what I say is, if
the person don't have love,
no faith in Allah that you cannot marry
that person as a Muslim.
Yes.
So law of faith,
because race,
language,
and place of birth
are rational in nature, is not
fundamental
base
for building the family.
No. Not at all.
He's not.
In order to build the family base
on race
or color or place of birth,
Then the man have to prepare himself very
well
by establishing
that character
or that kind of building
for the family.
Yes. Women.
The role of the women
in the family is extremely important.
Extremely important.
Because
a good wife
is considered to be the best thing
man ever
ever can achieve in this life. If
you come down
the hill,
you are looking in this area
for someone
you want to live life with
in this circle here.
When men
drop in this area, you are looking for
someone in this area.
You move from your own personality as one
because you cannot be 1.
You are looking for your half because if
you declare that you are a one, you
come to be half. Allah slice you as
half. Allah is the only
one who can stand by himself.
If you remain at the top,
you are half. If you come down looking
for another half, now you are struggling to
complete yourself.
But to complete self,
the second half have to have connection with
the first half.
If you put the second half,
and the second half
doesn't have the same nature with the first
half,
that is not
compatibility.
You're gonna cause damage in the family.
That's why you are looking for someone
who can
feed you half. You are looking for companion.
A
half. It's the best thing man can get
in this world.
Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
made women
integral into his plan for Muslim education.
Why? Because of the importance of the position
of women when you come to building the
family.
He was setting a special program
for educating
Muslim women.
Why? Because the building of the family
must
be on
the capability
of women.
If she's on capable
to kind this jury,
there is no family. Going to be internal
destruction when he has been there.
Then learning, prophet
All
Muslim women to learn
and to search for their deen and to
understand
how to build a family.
And Mohammed Ali Salam
declared
that. Seeking knowledge
is an imperative duty upon every Muslim,
male or female.
Yes.
Then moment
I encouraged
to study Al Quran and Sunnah in the
time of Prophet Muhammad salallahu alaihi wa sallam.
Aisha radiAllahu anha says
in the time of Prophet Muhammad salallahu alaihi
wa sallam
whenever any ayah, any verse
was revealed to him,
we used to memorize
the lawful and the unlawful
contained in that particular ayah.
Even if we didn't memorize
the exact words of the ayah.
Before
they memorized even how to read it, they
memorized first what is the subject matter of
the ayah, which is the missing part of
Quran today.
People, they love to be hafiz.
Alright,
be hafiz.
But if you are a hafiz,
you have to maintain the laws of Al
Quran, not just to recite. Wonderful.
To recite Quran, the whole Quran, to claim
it, that's very good.
But you have to maintain the laws,
which
was the way of the Sahaba, Ridwanullah.
Before they made the hifs,
they comprehend
the subject matter of the ayat, as Aisha
has said.
Ayesha used to praise the women of Al
Ansar.
In the following words, he was all she
was always saying this.
He she was saying,
how good
were the women of Ansar
that they did not shy away from learning
and comprehending
the matters of their deed.
They never shied away from learning.
They never shied away from asking.
They never shy away from taking the responsibility
of understanding this thing.
So women have to stand that position. Why?
Because they are the mother.
They are the mothers of