Ali Hammuda – The one time not to believe your parents

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah Bismillah Alhamdulillah. Wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah. Allah and he
was a happy woman who Allah brothers and sisters, for those who have lost a parent will tell you
about there are many regrets towards them.
		

			But one particular regret gets me every time I hear it, the regret of when you used to ask your
parents, do you need anything? And they said to you, no, no, sir, not at all. We don't need
anything, thank you. And then you believe them. Having satisfied you're conscious that you've done
what you should have done towards them.
		

			So let's be clear on one thing, when your parents say, I don't need anything, thank you don't
believe them for a split second.
		

			Because more often than not, they're saying that, in order to spare you any trouble to save you
money to save you time.
		

			This is part of the parental fitrah the parental reflex forces them to choose you over themselves
every single time. Give your parents what they need, and what they love. Without them needing to ask
you have it or prompt you.
		

			You see many of us have gotten older and become parents ourselves. And one of the very first things
that we come to learn is the lie that our parents told us when they used to say no thank you, son,
daughter, I don't need anything. Or perhaps we can rephrase this. And we say, one of the very first
things that we learn as parents is our utter foolishness. When we used to believe our parents when
they said, No, thank you. I don't need anything.
		

			Beware, dear brother, dear sister,
		

			of allowing your self centeredness to convince you that your parents have actually lived their life
to its fullest. And they've eaten all what they want. And they've drank all what they want. And
they've worn over all what they've wanted. They've owned all what they want.
		

			And now you and your children or family and are now somehow worthy or of life's offerings, and that
which is new than they are.
		

			Now this is not correct. So here's a suggestion without asking them if they need anything. Why don't
you for example, buy them a brand new luxury mattress to give comfort to their weekend weakening
bodies.
		

			You think they're going to bother you with request? It's not going to happen?
		

			Why don't you and your siblings come together to renovate their bathrooms or their kitchen? You
think because they're all they don't long for these things anymore?
		

			dedicate time to go and speak to them. I need which many parents are often too shy to nag their
children for.
		

			I go even further.
		

			Go and check on their clothes.
		

			Open their drawers, without them knowing what do they need? What needs changing? What's worn out?
Check their socks? Do they need a new bunch? Open up your eyelids be vigilant Be observant. Keep
your eyes peeled observe their carpet. Is it time for a new one? Do their banisters needed? A good
dusting? Does their wardrobe need rearranging? Do they need a new wardrobe? Does your mother need a
new pair of comfortable shoes have to have the curtains changed color? Has your dad's favorite
aftershave run out. They're not going to ask you for any of these things. Don't wait for them to
prompt you. Honestly. Don't be fooled by the age of your father, or the perfectly mature demeanor of
		

			your aging mother No, because within the heart of every parent remains a child that yearns for
attention, care and special treatment and to be spoiled. Shame on us. If our parents need to prompt
us and remind us to fulfill what they need to carry out the wishes that wishes as long as you live,
your parents or your life, your ambition, your expenditure, your pride, your enjoyment, even if your
parent or both of them are working. They're making a handsome wage, and to paradise yourself by
living with this habit that we are describing now. Pre empt their needs and give special attention
to the things they love and rush to fulfill them before they even have a chance to realize their
		

			need for it. Let alone ask you for it.
		

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