Ali Albarghouthi – Virtue Of Silence
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The importance of learning to speak confidently and not say anything to avoid causing harm is highlighted, as it can lead to unrest and behavior. The danger of silence in society is discussed, along with advice on being aware of one's actions and not giving out information until one's heart is clean. The importance of being quiet and listening to others is also emphasized, and the need for control and monitoring one's speech is emphasized. The speakers emphasize the importance of being selective in speaking and not overflaming people with small talk, and advise listeners to avoid speaking until they have all the information available. Finally, listeners should avoid words of disbelief and control their tongue for prayer and forgive opponents.
AI: Summary ©
Allah,
Ali.
He
was Sahabi. He was
in hay al Hadi, Abu lahita Allah Wah Muhammad in SallAllahu, alayhi
wa sallam Washa to her, wakulu be The A Team Walla Allah, Wakulla,
Allah bad
fakala Rasulullah, he SallAllahu, alayhi wa sallam. Man samatha
Najah,
he said Alayhi Salatu was Salam,
the one who is silent will be saved
very few words,
but they explain, illuminate the path of salvation.
Man samatana, if you are silent, you'll be saved.
And this
skill,
this ay Bada
of silence
is one that is seldom followed today.
It is important to understand
that it is Ay Bada and that is a skill, because in another Hadith,
the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam said, aquhata, abuni, Adam,
afili Sani,
most of the sins of the child of Adam are in his tongue.
Most of the sins
of the child of Adam come from his tongue.
And he said In another Hadith, wahali akubunasa
finari, alamena hirihim ilahasa idu al sinati him, what else
throws people in hellfire on their faces, except what their tongues
bring back the harvest of their tongues.
So this tongue, this small instrument in our body, is so
dangerous.
How come we have not learned how to restrain it?
You see us on the one hand learning, not only learning, but
paying money to learn how to talk.
This is how you can conduct or pass an interview.
You learn what to say.
This is how you could be a better public speaker. This is how you
can convince people. This is how you can win friends. This is how
you could influence others to believe what you believe. So we
actually pay money to learn how to talk, how to be eloquent, how to
choose our words, but we don't learn how to be quiet. We don't
learn how to be silent. We don't appreciate silence and what it
brings to us,
and we have no control over it, and we don't understand how
catastrophic it could be, specially today, because the
easiest thing today to turn on your phone, face your camera, and
say whatever you want to say, whether you understand or not,
whether you know or not, whether it's beneficial or not. You record
it, you broadcast it,
hundreds, 1000s, millions of people potentially could hear
that, and you're responsible for it, and these things could cause
tremendous harm. They could incite riots. They could cause the
killing of other people. They could assassinate their
reputation. You could do a lot of damage with your tongue,
especially today, much more than at the time of the Prophet alayhi
wa salatu wasalam. So if that tongue was dangerous, then it's
much more dangerous now.
And if you look at non Muslims in particular,
you will see that they have lost
the.
Virtue of silence, the motivation is to talk and keep talking. If
you have something to say, just say it, whether it's beneficial,
whether you're ignorant or not, just keep talking. And the more
that they talk, the more that they cause splits and friction in
society, the more that they cause harm. They've lost the idea of
silence.
But it is right there in the Quran, and it's right there in the
son of the Prophet alayhi wa salatu. Was salam Allah says,
Mahal fidomim, kaulin, ilalahi bonat, he says, Whatever thing he
says he has a tied, watchful ready Angel, recording what he is
saying. And if you understand that, that you are being recorded,
and you'll have to answer for everything that you have said,
You'll monitor what you say.
Someone came to the Prophet alayhi salatu wasallam once, and he said,
Ya rasulallah. He Ani. He
says, our messenger of Allah advise me.
Kala Awa talikudi, Sana.
He says, Do you have control over your tongue?
Qala wama Ali KU Ilam Ali klisani. He says, What would I have control
over if I cannot control my tongue.
He
says, Do not say with it, except what is good.
That's the advice. But the response from that companion to
the question of the Prophet Allah Ya salatu wasallam is very
telling.
It's not just give me advice. I'm going to go with the Prophet alias
salatu assalam. Wanted to know, are you ready for it? And look at
the question, do you have control over your tongue,
because you're supposed to,
because who controlled it other than you?
Do you have control? And the sahabi vehemently said, If I
cannot control that, what else can I control?
Then he said, Then don't say with it, except what is good.
And subhanAllah today, if you were to ask us, do you have control
over your tongue. What would we say? No, it controls me.
Our Iman is tied to our tongue.
He said, alayhi, Salatu was Salam mankina, Billah, he will yamilah,
kulhahiran, Abu asmaath, he
says, If you believe in Allah and in the last days, say what is good
or Be quiet, be silent.
So here you see a very explicit link between your iman and what
you say.
Your Iman needs to control it.
And another Hadith, the Prophet alayhi wa Salatu was salaam said,
la ist akimu Iman wa abdin Haya. It
says a person's Iman will not be straight until his heart is
straight,
and his heart will not be straight until his tongue is straight.
And this hadith is important for those who say, Well, my tongue is
pure. It doesn't matter what I do on the outside. Doesn't matter
what I look at, doesn't matter what I miss, doesn't matter but
what borders that I transgress, my heart is clean. He said, The
Prophet sallallahu silam disagrees,
because he is saying that if your tongue is crooked,
then your heart is what crooked.
Can't hide from this. If your tongue is crooked, if you lie,
that's a crooked tongue. If you back bite, that's a crooked
tongue.
If you mock people, that's a crooked tongue, then your heart is
crooked. I don't need to open your heart to find out what's in it.
The Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam said, so you have a crooked
heart, because if your heart was clean, your tongue would be clean.
And if you want to clean your tongue, you clean your heart, and
if you want to clean your heart, you clean your tongue, then your
iman will be intact.
So as a believer, silence is established by the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as a pursuit, as a goal.
Someone was sitting in a gathering once, but he was quiet.
Someone leaned and he said, Why don't you talk?
And he said, Listen,
I found that if I want to say something, it brings benefits and
harms.
It's better and prudent and wiser not to engage in it.
And if it's an unknown outcome, it may bring benefits and harm, but I
can't calculate. I don't know what's going to bring. It's also
safer not to say anything.
And of course, he did not explain that if it brings more harm than
benefit, of course, I need to avoid it, because this is
understood.
So another person leaned in and he said, I see that he had dismissed
75% of what people talk about.
75% of what people talked about was dismissed by him, and that is
what the scholars have said. Funny Akun khairan Abu Asmaa him say
what is beneficial or be quiet. He said, only talk when you know what
you're saying brings benefit more than harm. If you do not know,
keep quiet if it brings more harm. Be quiet if you're going to say it
in the wrong way to bring more harm. Be quiet and only speak when
you know what you're saying is beneficial.
That is Iman, and that is wisdom.
That is wisdom.
It was said Al hikmatu Ashra to Aza this Atul min have his son. He
says, wisdom is made of 10 parts. Nine of them is silence. If you
want to be wise, you be silent. Because when you're silent, you
listen to what people are saying, you digest, you absorb your way
the benefits and the harms, the merits and demerits of everything
that goes through your ears into your mind, and then you select the
best of it. And before you talk, you select the best of it, and
then you speak by that you will be wise.
Wakanua in min Ali San huara, akal beh, well. Muna, munafi Ku,
listen, who Allah tarfe me. They said that the believer his heart
is behind his tongue.
What do they mean by that? They mean that whatever he wants to say
something, it has to pass through the filter of his heart, he thinks
about it, and then he decides, I will say it or not, and then he
speaks. That's the believer,
whereas the hypocrite, his tongue is in his mouth, whatever he feels
like. He says,
That's hypocrisy, that's foolishness,
that's not wisdom,
that's not resolve,
that's infantile.
And you look today at how many people run their mouth
and with it, ruin their lives and they ruin their families.
He said Alayhi Salatu was Salam in a hadith
in naradu, lakalamati, la you'll kill Aha
yahui Be a finari severe in kharifa. He
says a person will say a word or a sentence, does he pay no attention
to but by which he will descend into hellfire the distance of 70
years.
I want you to contemplate the fact that he will not pay attention to
it
Allah. He will say it and move on.
It's not a big deal,
but to Allah azza wa jal, it is. And he because he did not save his
tongue, he did not guard what he is saying, he will fall in *
fire 70 years.
So this one person is angry and they renounce Iman, renounce
faith. Speak against Allah azza wa jal. Speak against Islam when they
renounce or attack something that Allah Azza has revealed, impugn
it, put it down
when they talk
and they attack other people,
especially when it's done collectively.
He said Allah to assalam in a hadith in namin, Awa minasi,
Raju lun Haja, rajulan, fahaja Kabila, 10 biases
of the greatest crimes,
or lies with Allah azza wa jal for someone to be insulted or put down
by another. So in retaliation, he puts down and insults his whole
tribe.
The poets used to.
Do this in Arabia,
and we do it today.
You have a bad experience with someone from another race, from
another geography, from another nation, from another tribe, or you
grew up with this. So everybody there is colored by the same
brush. All of them are this? All of them are that just because one,
two or three people have crossed you the one way, everybody's like
that, and you whisper it to those who will agree with you, but you
spread that disinformation. You spread that falsehood. The Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa said to them, what did he say about this? You're
a great liar.
And again, that is childish,
because you know that you're
lying.
And not everybody is like that. And even if it were to be true,
what is the benefit of speaking like that?
We simply just want to talk,
and we have not learned the essence of check what you want to
say before you say it.
How many people ended their marriages? How many men rushed to
divorce because they were angry and couldn't control their tongue.
And once that happens, they come and they say, How do I fix this?
You could have fixed this easily by being quiet.
How many women provoke their husbands into divorcing them
because of the way that they talk to them? How can I fix this if you
just had learned to be quiet, silent, if you have just control
over your tongue, then
you would not be in that predicament.
How many people speak about others
backbiting, which is of the easiest sins today,
and they don't restrain it, and no one corrects them. And you have to
understand that these people, all of them, will be your opponents on
the Day of Judgment,
you're increasing the number of cases against you. When you meet
Allah as a judge, you think it's going to just be easy. I just
committed this and that sin, and then I'll pass but then you have
50 100, 200-500-1000
people are saying, Yeah, Allah, he said these things about us. Let
him pay us back.
And that is an ultimate stupidity
by someone who wants to be saved on the day of judgment to increase
his opponents before Allah, Azza wa jal,
if you do not control your tongue, then you control nothing.
So silence is a ibadah.
If you know the truth, speak it. But otherwise be quiet and listen
Abu Asmaa,
Rabbi Alameen, Hamdan, kathiran, tayakan, fahimil, asmaati, omelda
omel, she mean Shay in bad o Salli wa Sallim Allah, Rasulullah, WA
alaihi wa ala Ali. He was a happy he wasallam bad. Silence was how
the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wa sallam
was, he was described as can tawila Santi Khalid, the Hadith UN
has
they described them. Alayhi Salatu was Saddam as lengthy in his
silence and seldom in his laughter. He seldom laughs. He
smiles a lot,
but he doesn't laugh, and
when it comes to silence, he's often silent.
What can you UK, through of your Hadith in a car. Cana, you through
the raw Kailua.
He used to remember Allah a lot, but engage in little idol talk, or
none of it. Laho is useless talk.
He would remember Allah a lot. If you were to sit next to him,
sallAllahu, alayhi wa ali wasallam, you'd hear him
remembering Allah a lot, often, but not useless talk. He would
control his tongue,
and Aisha described him. Alayhi Salatu was Salamu Kalam in Bayen
in foslin, no Asha no Shah and yah. He
would
speak Ali as Salatu was Salam. He was not verbose.
He would speak in clear, definite words, if you wanted to count
them, you can if you wanted.
To memorize it, you can. He
wouldn't just keep talking.
But with that, he delivered the greatest message. Alayhi Salatu
was Salam and produced the best of students and teachers. Alayhi
Salatu was Salam because that is the essence of wisdom. The essence
of wisdom is be selective in what you're saying, not to impress
people with how funny you are, not to impress people with your
exaggerations, with faking it until you make it. It's to be
genuine, to be authentic and to be quiet and to listen and to process
and then produce the best of what you have received. That's what it
is today. When you
are with your friends, you can easily lie to make them laugh, and
you think there is nothing wrong with it. And the prophet Ali as
Salatu was Salam, he said, Wailua, Allah, the Yak the bud NAS, he
says, Woe to him. Woe to him. Woe to him, the one who lies to make
people laugh.
You lie, and you cannot trick them into believing something, or you
prank them and you get them you're being funny, you're being smart.
Prophet said, Woe to you.
You cannot be a good Muslim. You cannot be a person of good
character if that tongue is not controlled.
And so we need to learn silence. And some of the early generation,
though, this is acting is not a sunnah. The way that he controlled
his tongue is that he took a pebble and he put it in his mouth
and he wouldn't take it out, except for eating and sleeping
just to control the movement of the tongue that. Now that's not a
sunnah, but the idea behind it of restraining the tongue is valid
because of numero the Allahu Anhu said, mashay unawa do Iraqi, sijin
in milisan, nothing deserves lengthy imprisonment more than the
tongue. Nothing, so yeah, we need to control it. How do I control
it? He say, you control it by avoiding words of disbelief and
things that anger. Allah Azzawajal,
you avoid it by recognizing who you are, being humble, knowing
that you do not know and not talking until you have all the
information available
today, especially when it comes to politics, but even when it comes
to Grand issues that involve the Ummah, everybody has an opinion.
Are all of us right? Are all of us well informed who is listening and
who is talking? If we simply have the ignorant among us, and I
include myself in that if we're just quiet and we listen, there'll
be less noise around us, and then we can hear with greater clarity
the truth where clouds the truth today is intentional or
unintentional, obscuring of the truth by everybody talking,
whether they understand or not, whether they need to talk or not
listen,
so you avoid the Haram and you don't engage in it.
And he also said, alayhi wa salatu assalam. When someone came to ask
him, he said, Ya Rasulullah. He says,
oh, Messenger of Allah, advise me, but be brief.
He said, either Punta Illa saw that if
Asmaa me, mata atadi, rumin,
Wajima, Al iya, Sammy, mafi adenas,
look how beautiful this is. This is your prophet. Oh prophet of
Allah, advise me and be brief. He says, When you stand up to pray,
stand up as if you are bidding farewell to this world. This is
the last thing that you're going to be doing.
And if you're going to speak, don't say something that you have
to apologize for later,
and despair of what people have in their hands.
Don't long for it. Don't wish for it. What people have is theirs.
It's not yours. You don't want anything from them. You don't need
anything from them. You're going to die soon.
So don't look at what they have when you want to pray. This is
your last prayer. But in the middle, what did he say? If you're
going to say something and later you think that you're going to
have to apologize for it, don't say it. Don't lie.
So if we simply follow the sun of the Prophet alayhi salatu
wasallam,
if we avoid unnecessary talk, if we engage in greater remembrance
of Allah, Subhanahu wa, if we know that we cannot enter Jannah except
by controlling our tongue, if we know that.
That our hearts will be at peace, our minds will be at peace. When
we are quieter, then we will do this. So this is a call for all of
us.
Control the tongue, control what it says, Let it produce the best
of what you have, not the worst. Think before you talk
and say a thing that will please you when you meet Allah subhanahu
wa, and
if you want to really control your tongue greet the Quran, and
if you really want to control your tongue praise Allah subhanahu wa,
then your tongue will be filled with what pleases Allah, and
shaytan will have less control over it. Why Allah, Rabbin
rahimin, to make us of those who save their tongue from sin and
engage in what pleases you a Rameen. We ask you a rabbin to to
make our tongues a vehicle for us to enter Jannah, not a vehicle for
us to enter hellfire. Make us a rabbin of those who say the best
and refrain from the worst. We ask you a rabbin to increase our Imaan
and purify our hearts. We ask you to forgive us all of our sins and
grant us a sincere repentance from the sins that have troubled us.
Was ya rab al alame To make us of those who are guiding and guiding
of others, of those who are guided and guiding of others. Ya rab al
Alameen wala mean to bring relief to Muslims throughout this world,
especially in Gaza and Palestine and the rest of the Muslim lands.
Ya Rameen, Ya Allah, repel their enemies and their plots. Ya Allah,
come to their aid. Ya Allah, come to their aid. Ya Allah, come to
their aid. Ya Allah, bring quick relief to them, ya rahimeen, and
bring us back all to the fold of Islam, to the fault of the son of
the Prophet Aliyah, Salatu was Salam so that we become worthy of
your victory Our hamara, Amin, Allahumma, ama wa sallam, when Abu
kamin, sharima, stamin, hubdu, Muhammad, sallAllahu, alayhi wa
sallam, Allah mean rabbal. Alameen. Allah mean hafiq. Ali
Sana Hu ILA Min hayribal, Alameen Allah, amalayan, fauna, rahimeen
ya Hayo, ya Hayo muy bior matika nastarith,