Ali Albarghouthi – The Disease and the Cure #29 This is How Shaytan Conrtrols Your Tongue
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So when Ibnu Kayim Rahimahullah
was explaining
how the shaitan deceives the child of Adam,
how he attacks him
and gains access
to
his soul.
He explained the entry points,
if you remember.
The last time we talked about how the
shaitan
gains control
by controlling the self,
right, and
marrying the self to its desires.
So it's hard to separate from it
until he can direct it whatever way he
wants it.
So that's the first,
let's say, line of attack.
Then he talked about another entry point, which
is the eye or the eyes.
And then he talked about the ears, and
we talked can explain that last time, and
how he
gets into the heart through them and then
ruins it, and how he tries to spoil
any good thing that can come to you
through them.
So in a sense,
vacated of all righteousness,
block any righteousness,
and then flood it with falsehood,
flood it with sin
until it destroys and ruins the heart.
So
he's gonna continue, Insha'Allah, now by talking about
the last of those,
entry points,
and that is the ton.
So he said,
he's speaking here,
picturing the shaitan addressing
whole his whole
squad soldiers helpers,
and how he is gonna try to convince
them to attack the tongue and also what
to do with the tongues. Then says,
He says, and then position yourself
at that outpost
or the entry point.
That is the tongue because this is the
greatest entry point.
This is the greatest position that you should
take control of.
It is right in front of the king.
So here, he's trying to kinda bring an
image of the position of the tongue and
its importance. Because
if a king is sitting on his throne,
the one sitting right next to him or
in front of him is quite important to
the king and very influential.
Wouldn't you agree?
Right?
So he's telling you that's the position of
the tongue,
meaning it is so close to the king,
and the king is the harp.
It's so close to the king that it's
absolutely
important and integral to the
doings or the actions or the health of
that king, the decisions of the king.
So he says,
flood that entry point. Let that tongue run
with things that harm it, not benefit it,
and stop it from engaging in anything that
benefits it, such as remembering Allah and asking
Allah for forgiveness,
reading his book, giving people advice,
or
spreading
useful knowledge.
So he says you have this tongue,
flood it
with harmful things,
and stop it from saying
useful things.
Right?
So seems pretty
basic,
pretty obvious.
Right?
Though we actually
don't seem to realize this.
So if Nuqayim
is gonna make what is plain even plainer
so that you realize it.
But how does he ruin the tongue and
through the tongue the heart?
So he says,
He says,
by being positioned in that location, try to
do one of 2 things. It doesn't matter
which of the 2 you'll be able to
do.
He says, let him engage in falsehood. Speak
falsehood
because the one who does that, he's one
of your brethren, and he's one of the
greatest
soldiers and helpers you have. So he's your
brother. If he is able to spread falsehood
with his tongue, he's a shaitan just like
you.
Because what does the shaitan do? Spreads falsehood.
So if you can convince him to spread
falsehood like you, you made him your brother.
He says, but if not,
If you can't help him to engage in
falsehood, then I want you to try to
at least stop him from speaking the truth.
Right?
Because the one who is silent and does
not speak the truth, he's a mute brother
of yours. So he's a brother, but he
just can't speak, but he's also your brother.
That one the first one is a speaking
brother. This is a mute brother, but both
of you them are brothers.
And maybe the second one sometimes is more
beneficial than the first. Like, because he does
not speak the truth when he's supposed to,
he can actually help you more.
Right? He's very passive.
He doesn't wanna endanger himself. He doesn't wanna
risk anything.
He doesn't wanna be criticized.
So he lets things go. He says, he's
your brother as well. He says,
have you not heard
the saying of this wise counselor who said,
the one who speaks the truth is a
speaking devil,
and the one who is silent, he's a
mute devil.
So here the shaitan is trying to say
or nukayim, he is trying to say that
whichever of the 2 he convinces you to
do, you're one of his helpers. Because
the basic
essential mission of the believer is what?
That he should give advice.
He should stop evil.
He should recommend what Allah loves
and dissuade people
and convince them not to
follow what Allah hates. This is how the
truth is spread.
This is how he becomes stronger.
You cannot be strong if everybody around you
is weak, Can you?
You can't.
So in order for you to be strong,
you need everybody around you to be strong.
Right?
How do you strengthen those around you if
you do not push them to follow the
truth?
So if you fail to do this, then
you have been weakened.
So if you cannot convince, let's say, your
spouse, your children, your parents, your neighbor
to be
righteous and they follow the opposite path,
then you are weaker because of it, and
the shaitan is stronger because of it. So
a believer, as a believer, has this obligation
to speak the truth and denounce falsehood.
And if you don't, whether
you're part of the first or the second
categories, you you know, promote falsehood or you
don't say anything against it, then you're aiding
and helping the shaitan.
Right?
Now
here is sometimes a dilemma because someone may
ask me,
and it's a very legitimate question.
Do I have to speak the truth all
the time?
I mean, it's very hard to do that.
And is is it always wise to speak
the truth no matter what?
We say no.
Sometimes
being silent and being quiet
is the wiser thing.
Sometimes speaking the truth
leads to greater harm than good.
So you can tell me then, how do
I know?
You see, that's the dilemma.
It's not always easy,
but the way that it becomes easier to
understand all of it is through what? Through
'ilm, knowledge,
meaning knowledge of Allah's revelation. What did Allah
say? What did the prophet alayhi salatu wasallam
say? The more you know of that, the
more that you'll be able to know when
to talk and when not to talk. So
that type of knowledge. Also, knowledge in terms
of knowing the benefits and the harms of
speaking or not speaking.
And the third is having taqah of Allah,
that is you fear Allah.
And also you fear him enough that Allah
is guiding you to know when to talk
and when not to talk. Then
that's how you know. And when you're in
doubt, you consult those who have knowledge.
You Sheikh, you imam, so and so. I'm
in this situation. Do I talk all the
time? And then you understand from him when
it is good and when it's not, when
it's beneficial and when it's not. But overall
overall,
if speaking the truth leads to more good
than harm, then yes.
If speaking the truth or denouncing falsehood leads
to more harm than good, then no.
Right?
But then that estimation
is not always easy. It does take knowledge
and
insight into reality
and into
consequences.
And if you make a mistake, that's forgiven,
But you should at least do your best
and consult those who have knowledge
so that you understand when it's best to
talk and when it's not. And not sometimes
rush
and accuse others who are silent
that they have betrayed Islam, betrayed Muslims, that
they are cowards, and what have you just
because they don't talk
while you don't really understand their circumstances
and their conditions.
Maybe they cannot talk.
Maybe they'll face more harm than they'd be
able to endure.
Maybe somebody else talked. Maybe they did that
in secret. Maybe and maybe so you give
a Muslim the benefit of the doubt, and
you don't rush to say you have betrayed
Islam, you are a mute devil, you are,
you know, an assistant of,
the enemies of Islam by being silent.
It may be in some cases the case,
and in other cases, it is not.
So it's always better to be safe and
not accuse a Muslim of something like that
until you are absolutely sure, especially the scholars,
right, especially the scholars of Islam.
So he said he continues. He says, Faribaata'ala
hadathaghri.
He says, you be stationed
in that outpost
so that he does not speak the truth,
and he does not stay away from evil.
And try to decorate and entice him. Decorate
falsehood to him. Entice him to
follow it, and frighten him
from the path of speaking the truth.
Tell him about its
grave consequences.
You are gonna be fired. You are gonna
be banned. You're gonna be censored. People will
hate you. So kind of magnify the consequences
of speaking the truth until he's absolutely afraid,
terrified of it. And then what's sweet and
falsehood to him until he wants to follow
nothing but that? So he keeps playing with
his head
and keeps playing with reality
because what they're trying to,
alter here is reality.
So the truth that is in itself weak
becomes strongest
because of the whispers of shaitan.
And,
falsehood that is,
by itself weak becomes what? Great.
And the truth that is by itself strong
becomes weak in his eye because of the
whispers of the shaitan.
So he alters reality.
If you speak the truth, you're gonna be
killed. If you speak the truth, your,
children will be orphaned. Your wife will be
widowed. You will lose your house. You will
look so
these losses
will always then justify
being silent
and being safe.
Alright. But as we said,
there comes a time
when you would have to speak the truth
to save yourself
and speak against evil to save yourself and
your family, you have to.
Right? Of course, with wisdom
and speaking in ways that
are most attractive, not repulsive, that's another way
also.
Is supposed to be also in the most
attractive of ways because you want the person
listening to you to actually accept,
alright, not to run away.
Right?
And he says, and know
that this tongue is the thing that destroyed
the children of Adam and throw them
in hellfire on their faces.
So how many captives,
how many killed ones,
how many injured ones I was able to
get because of that ton,
and he's here quoting the hadith of the
prophet, alayhis salatu wasalam.
Yeah. And when Mu'adh asked him, you Rasulullah,
he says, are we responsible for what we
say? And he said, alayhi salatu wassalam, what
else throws people in hellfire
on their faces but their tongues?
Just imagine. Right? Like it drags a person
into hellfire,
throwing him on his face. What is the
thing that brought him to this end?
It is the tongue. And if you think
about it, why the tongue?
Because we like to talk.
Right?
We like to talk, and it's the easiest
thing to do.
The tongue often does not quit moving.
You always are talking. And if you're not
talking, you're typing
something, which is the equivalent of speech.
So you're always talking, expressing a point of
view, expressing an opinion,
reacting to something,
whether you know or not.
Like, ignorance
was never a deterrent that stops people from
talking about an issue.
Alright. Even if we don't have enough information,
you'll make up
things about
what you've heard and what you've seen.
Conspiracies here, conspiracies there. Maybe there is this
hidden fact here, hidden fact over there. Nothing
stops you from talking. And sometimes it is
so serious
that Allah Azzawajal
will condemn you because of it. So that's
what the shaitan is talking about. Get them
into hellfire through their tongues.
Right?
And he said and Jesus, subhanAllah, also another
thing that is kind of very wise. He
says,
and I give you this advice, so remember
it.
He says,
let your
brother, human brother,
speak a word
or a sentence, be next to his tongue,
to urge him to guide him into speaking
a, a word or a sentence,
and another bee
next to the tongue of another
another human being,
and let him
express his admiration
for what that person has has said. Let
him glorify it, aggrandize it, admire it, and
tell him to repeat it again because of
how good it was.
Here, he's talking about enforcement.
Right? SubhanAllah. I mean, like, it's it's a
plan, and it's really
orchestrated plan
that even the devils among humanity, they follow
the same plan.
1 person speaks, he says for the shaitan,
you be here and you be here. Let
him speak, and then you push the other
to admire and praise what he had just
said.
Because if it's just one person,
you may be forgot forgotten,
but another person recommends it, admires it, then
you may say to yourself, maybe there is
something to this.
It spreads. It's augmented. It becomes strong.
So humans do the same thing because they've
learned from their masters.
So when they wanna spread something,
he says it, she says it, but they
have people ready to come and register their
admiration.
What a wonderful thing you've said.
Share.
Like.
I share. Like, that's what they do. Right?
So they augment it. They spread it.
So he's saying both
as the action of the devil.
Right? So don't think that the person who's
admiring it is less of a devil. No.
He's with him.
This is a conspiracy that has happened
behind closed doors. And even if it's not
behind closed doors, the shaitan is behind it.
Because you only admire falsehood if you are
a proponent of falsehood,
and the shaitan is the one who's pushing
you to do this.
So
recognize.
Right?
Recognize beyond titles,
beyond numbers,
that if falsehood is spreading,
It's because of the action of false,
lovers of falsehood, and the shaitan,
of course, is behind them all.
And he says, and
he says,
work against humans,
using every path, every method,
and try to attack them from every path
from every door,
waq'udulahum
kullamarsad,
and sit in their path.
Any path that they're gonna take,
wait for them.
He says, did you not hear the oath
that I've taken
when I spoke to Allah, Azza wa Jal,
to their Rabb, and I said,
he says, I swear by the fact that
you misguided me.
Or you could also translate it as because
you misguided me. But here, Bilqayim is saying
this is an oath.
So I swear by the fact that you
misguided
me, I'll sit on the straight path
waiting for them.
And then he said, Then I will come
to them
and attack them, meaning
from between their hands
and their back, the right and the left,
and you will not find that most of
them will be thankful.
That's a complete assault.
So he says, I swear by you I
will do this,
And he's determined to do it. He's serious
about
it. He says, I swear by you, I
will do it. I'll stand between them and
the straight path.
The straight path that leads to
you, I will put obstacles there,
and I will come to them from every
direction,
front, back, right, left.
And you will not find them most of
them to be thankful, which is the truth.
Most of humanity is not thankful.
Right?
And he says,
do you not see that I
have blocked the paths of the child of
Adam?
If he tries to escape from this path
to the other, I also try to block
that
until I get what I want from him.
He says, wukhathadharahumdalika
rasooluhum.
He says their messenger,
Rasulullah,
he says he warned them about this.
So here you have information from the Prophet,
alayhis salatu, wasalam, that you understand what the
shaytan is trying to do to you and
how he's trying to block you and stop
you. He said,
he says that
the shaitan
has sat
in the paths
of the child of Adam, in all of
them.
The shaitan is sitting in all the paths
of the child of Adam,
meaning whatever path you want to take to
Allah, you find the shaitan sitting there. Now
he explains it.
Waqaadalahubitariitil
Islam. He sat on the path of Islam,
and he told him, will you accept Islam
and leave your religion and the religion of
your parents? Khalafakalafahuwa
Islam. He says, but he disobeyed him, and
he accepted Islam. So that's the first one.
When someone wants to accept Islam, the shaitan
stops him.
That's him sitting in that path. He doesn't
let him do it. He says, wait a
little bit. Are you gonna leave everything that
you know, the religion of your mother, the
religion of your father, your grandparents,
everything that they had, you wanna leave all
of it, begin something very new.
Let go of your culture, your habits, your
routine, your house, everything,
and start something new?
You can think about it. Someone who wants
to take Islam today,
consider the amount of change that they have
to go through. You have to let go
of all of your friends. Maybe you will
lose all of them.
You're gonna upset your parents.
Co workers may not accept you.
That's a complete disconnect from your past.
And you're coming into a people whom you
do not know.
The Muslims, when you come to the masjid,
you know none of them. Almost none of
them. You don't know if they will accept
you. You don't know if they will be
nice to you. You'll not be you don't
know if they're gonna be you'll be able
to find friends.
You don't know if you'll be able to
you will be welcomed
maybe in the beginning, but then what happens
after?
You may find yourself alone.
So the shaitan is gonna keep sitting
on that path,
trying to convince him to go back.
So if he disobeys him and he accepts
Islam and he's solid on Islam, he moves
to another path. I can't
trick him this way, block him this way,
then the next one.
So he sat on the path of hijra,
and he said,
He says, are you going to migrate
and you will leave your sky and your
land?
Meaning everything that you know and you're used
to. You can leave everything,
your language, right,
the places that you are used to, your
food, your friends,
Hijra?
How difficult is this? Everything that you are
used to is gonna be gone. You can't
go back to it. So he's gonna try
to keep whispering like that to this person
until he quits. But if he disobeys him
and he migrates,
He says he will sit in the path
of jihad for him. And he said,
He says, you are gonna go to jihad
and then be killed, and then your money
will be distributed among people.
Your heirs will take it. It's no longer
yours. And someone will marry your wife after
you.
Right?
So
the person will start saying, my money and
my wife and my children,
I don't wanna be killed.
So, subhanAllah,
he's gonna try to convince them in whatever
way
to
forego of Allah's obedience.
So he's gonna keep
blocking and blocking and blocking and blocking every
every path. And he says so he continues
in Al Qaymi. He says, and so sit
and block every path of righteousness.
And so if one of them, he continues,
if one of them wants to donate,
so block the path of donation and say
to him,
He says, you're gonna donate
and become like this beggar who is asking
you for money.
So he says, did you do you not
hear what
I have whispered
to the tongue of so and so, a
man, when somebody asked him for money for
sadaqa, and he said,
He says, this is our money. If we
give you our money, we'll be like you.
He says, you see the whisper of the
shaitan over here, Which is what? He says
and he's telling him,
this person who's trying to ask you for
money, what's the difference between you and him?
He says, the money that you have.
Otherwise,
you'll be a beggar like he is. So
if you give him your money,
you will be the beggar. Why should you
give him anything?
This is to look at that whisper
as if really the only thing that is
stopping you from becoming like him is just
the money that you have right there. That's
your protection,
not Allah.
Right? It's not Allah who's protecting you. It's
not Allah who's giving you, but what you
have in your hand.
So when he convinces you to love this
money more than anything else, you will never
give it up.
Whereas the believer is supposed to disobey him
and say no.
If I give, Allah gives me more. If
I give, Allah blesses me.
Both of us win when we when I
give him that money. He wins
and I win, and I am the greater
winner, not he.
I am the greater winner. Why? Because when
I give, Allah blesses me in both ways,
in the akhirah and in the duniya.
This poor guy, you know, he takes money
for the duniya. He satisfies his hunger, satisfies
his needs.
He's blessed, alhamdulillah,
but I am receiving the greater blessing in
the akhirah and in the dunya as well.
So if you are smart enough, you'll be
able to
repel the whispers of the shaitan. But if
not,
he will block you from following anything that
pleases Allah, azza jid. And he says, and
also stop him from going to Hajj and
tell him that this is a
frightening,
dangerous path that you may lose your life,
you lose your money.
And he once upon a time, Hajj was
like this. It was risky.
If you travel,
first, it's a very long travel, hard travel,
arduous travel,
so you may die on the way.
And it's not only that, it's also unsafe.
People may rob you. People may stop you.
You may actually may may die.
So some of these journeys in the past,
when you go to Hajj, you may actually
not come back. So he'll say to himself,
you know how hard it is?
And today he'll tell you what, it's not
about safety today,
but it's about what? You know how expensive
it is?
You know how hard it is? You know
how hard it is?
Why should you do
it? So we'll convince you to delay it.
At least delay it. If not reject it,
delay, and then delay, and then delay, and
then focus on other things, and
spend your money money elsewhere so you don't
have enough money to go to head.
So that's his plot. He says, and so
try to do this with every path that
takes him to Allah, Azza wa Jal.
It says, now also,
sit on the path of every sin,
but here not to block it, but to
invite them.
It says beautify it, decorate it, entice them,
show them its benefits, makeup its benefits,
show them how
happy they'll be
once they take this sin, once they drink
it, and eat it, and look at it,
and engage in it. Just try to convince
them that they'll be happier,
that they'll be entertained,
then they'll have great company.
Again, advertisement.
And he said,
and he says, and elicit the help
of your greatest help, which is women. He's
talking about women against men. So the greatest
helper will be against men will be women.
He says,
from that entry point, from that door, you'll
be able to
enter their
fortifications.
So a person could be very strong, but
his weakness is the female.
So the female is the door. Through that
female, you'll be able to enter that fortress,
enter his heart,
and misguide him. He says, fani'al qomi,
hunda lakum. They'll be your best helpers
against them.
So
he might be here referencing, you know, several
of the hadith of the prophet, alayhis salatu
wasalam. One of them where he said, mataraktuba'adhi
fitnatan atharraalarajali
minan nisa. He said, alayhis salatu wassalam,
this is both narrated by Bukhari and Muslim,
I've not left behind me a fitna of
greater harm to men than women.
Right? And this is not a condemnation
of women,
Right? But this is what to
point to men and to women
the effect that women have on men
so that they could do what? Save themselves
from it.
So men could save themselves from it, and
women
make sure that they are not a source
of fitna.
It's a dual responsibility.
It's not all men. Women are a source
of fitna, and then women do whatever you
want.
Then how are me Muslims?
How are you brothers and sisters?
How how are you watching out for me
and I'm watching out for you? How are
you supporting me? If when you leave your
house,
you beautify yourself and decorate yourself as if
you are a bride.
Right?
How is this helping
other men and other women?
Then now
by doing that,
you know,
dressing up,
putting on makeup,
perfume,
high heels,
tight clothes, revealing clothes, and you leave the
house
and that's a description of some woman who
wear hijab, by the way. I'm not even
talking about women without hijab. No. No. No.
Some women who put on the hijab and
they do all of this. A lot of
makeup,
okay,
and perfume
and tight hijab, tight clothes,
high heels.
And even that hijab that they're wearing, it's
not really covering the whole head, not the
whole neck, not the whole
body, not all of the hands, not all
of the feet, nothing. You could see. You
could almost tell the shape of the body.
That's not a hijab.
So if you're someone who leaves your house
like this,
they know you are harming
every person who's looking at you,
and you're harming yourself.
Every person who is looking at you
and is being tempted because of it, every
man,
you're carrying his sin.
Right?
You're carrying his sin. And that's why he's
saying you are the best helpers against men.
You are you you are an agent of
demolition
in society. You are demolishing society when you
do this. You're destroying it.
And when other women will see this, you
are tempting them as well.
And you sometimes you don't pay attention to
the fact that you are also a source
of fitna to other women as well. Why
is that?
Because when you're that beautiful,
and that is supposed to be reserved for
your husband,
When you're that beautiful publicly, other women who
are trying to be closer to Allah, when
they see this and how you attract attention,
the shaitan will whisper to them, you also
want attention, isn't it? You also want to
be beautiful.
You also want to get married. You also
wanna feel like a female. You also wanna
also be appreciated.
So the hijab and the niqab and the
jilbab and all of these things,
they are restrictions. And she starts feeling that
there are really restrictions.
Or when you go out without makeup, you
look old, you look pale, you look this,
and look how beautiful she is. And everybody
acknowledges
it because they keep looking at her. Nobody's
looking at you. And that's, again, the Shaytan
working against you
and using you when you're like that, using
you to undermine people's iman
and undermines people's practice, people's faith, so you're
an agent of destruction when you do this.
It's better that you stay home
because it's haram for you to live like
this, even to live to the Masjid.
It's haram for you to do it.
Right?
And so many I mean a lot of
women, not so many, I don't know. A
lot of women who come to the Masjid,
they're guilty of this.
Even those who come to the Masjid, they're
guilty of this.
And we say, alhamdulillah, at least Allah, Azzawajal,
spurred you, motivated you to come to the
house of Allah, Azzawajal, but at the same
time,
what are the manners of coming to the
house of Allah, Azza, Azza, what are the
manners of leaving your house? Do you want
to come to the Masjid and have Allah
be displeased or pleased with you?
And these are things, if you just think
about it, are easy to let go of.
It's easy not to put makeup on. Is
it that difficult?
It's easy. You just
take the first step,
and then it'll be easier the next time,
and then the next time, and so on.
Akhalas, Allah will make it easy for you,
and ask Allah to make it easy.
Do you have to wear tight revealing clothes?
No. Do you have to put perfume on?
No.
But leave your house righteously
so Allah Azadul could bless you. So Ibn
Qayyim is saying here
it's important,
right,
to
preserve the tongue first, and it's also important
for you not to spread falsehood.
And before we leave here the tongue, because
he's gonna stop talking about the tongue now
and move to something else,
It's important to here to realize that
your tongue and how you talk, what you
say reflects the state of your heart.
Right?
So there's a hadith in the prophet, alayhis
salatu wassalam,
that says that
or that emphasizes
the soundness of the heart
and tying it to the soundness of the
tongue.
It
says,
He says a person's iman is not straight
until his heart is straight, and his heart
is not straight
until
his tongue is straight.
So
we are we often see the connection
between the heart and the tongue in terms
of what is in my heart would be
on my tongue. That is true.
But we fail to see that
what I say on my tongue or with
my tongue affects my heart.
We don't see that reverse direction.
So the first direction, which it says is
absolutely true,
they say about it that the,
the tongue is the spoon of the heart.
You know how if you have
plate of rice
and this you have a spoon, the spoon
a spoon can only scoop what is in
their plate.
So if you're speaking righteously, and we're assuming
here
sincerely, not hypocritically, you can be a hypocrite
to pretend to to say things that are
not in your heart. I'm not making that
assumption.
You're talking naturally.
You're not trying to pretend.
Whatever you say is being spooned from the
heart
because that's the only thing that you have.
So what you like, that's what you talk
about.
What you hate, that's what you talk about.
What you worry about, that's what you talk
about.
It's a must.
Right?
So that's one direction,
And your tongue will reveal to people who
you are
and what matters to you, and what you
like and what you hate.
But the opposite is also true. How you
talk or you choose to talk will come
to corrupt or guide your heart.
Like what, for example,
if you choose to engage in dhikr of
Allah, a za'udal, even if your heart is
not ready,
doesn't this come back to reform and fix
your heart?
If you read the Quran and your heart
is not close to Allah, but you insist
on reading it, doesn't it come back? Doesn't
that bad come back and fix your heart?
So
now if your heart is filled with iman,
but you
decide to engage in obscenities
and backbiting
and badmouthing people,
won't this come back to,
ruin your heart?
So it's important here
to understand the gravity of what you're adopting
or letting go of.
So if you're starting to if you start
adopting obscenities,
things that are common on the tongue of
non Muslims,
either because you're around them
At school, coworkers,
you hear them talk
this way.
So you're so used to it, you start
adopting it. Start talking like them. And because
you hear it off and you think there's
nothing wrong with it,
so obscenities run on your mouth just like
water.
Or you're watching movies or series or songs,
and you hear that being repeated so much
that you think there's nothing wrong with it,
or maybe you think it's gonna add something
to your personality when you adopt it. You
will be
somehow more accepted or somehow
more better as a person, so you adopt
it.
It is going to ruin your heart,
and it's going to change your personality.
And it's gonna make Allah
hate you more, not love you.
So you have to cleanse. All of this
is to say what? You have to cleanse
your tongue, clean it like you clean your
body.
And notice if you're saying something wrong,
stop.
Like this f word that everybody or not
everybody. A lot of people use it whether
there is need or not.
Right? It's part of every sentence.
You can't use it.
You can't use anything that is haram that
is obscene
because if you do this, you will downgrade
and denigrate yourself, and your heart will follow.
And you will be like those
whom Allah hates, not those whom Allah likes.
So instead of that,
you populate, occupy your heart with Allah's remembrance.
Astaghfirullah,
subhanAllah,
la ilaha illallah. And that is the thing
that will come back to fix your heart.
If not, then the shaitan will convince you
to adopt things that will ruin it.
And you are around
people,
most,
right, in a society that is
not righteous,
so you're likely to pick up from it
unrighteousness.
So you have to
be careful not to do this.
Alright?
And go back and protect yourself
and protect your tongue so that you could
protect your heart as well. And that is
also,
you know, a good lesson for those who
say, it doesn't matter what I do. It
doesn't matter what I say. My heart is
good.
As if the heart is immune and nothing
affects it. We say that is absolutely
false. What you say affects your heart. What
you do affects your heart. Where you are
affects your heart. And Allah, azza wajal, is
the ultimate judge.
Right?
We're not qualified to judge ourselves.
Allah is the one who judges us. If
we are the ones who are gonna judge
ourselves,
all of us will be where on the
in the last day?
Jannah.
Everybody will be in jannah, including the disbelievers.
Right? Isn't it?
Even the disbelievers,
if if Allah will say, oh, you judge
yourself and tell me where you want to
go, everybody will be in Jannah.
So we are not qualified to judge ourselves.
Allah did not leave it to us,
And we're not qualified to judge other people
as well. Allah did not leave it to
us.
He is the one who is gonna judge,
and if we are to judge in this
dunya, he gave us the guidelines. This is
how you're supposed to look at things. Not
the way you want to, the way that
Allah wants it from you. Right?
Okay.
Now we can
just take a a little bit of
the following,
section insha'Allah.
It says,
Says, and know that
if you want help
to continue to occupy those outposts
and have command
of the eyes and the ears and the
tongue
and the soul.
If you want to do that,
then reconcile
yourself or reconcile with
the nafs that commands evil.
So assist it and seek its assistance,
and supply it and seek supplies from it,
and be with it,
and wage war with it against an nafsul
mutma'inna,
the assured self
or the contented self. So he's here talking,
Rahima Allah, about
the different
nafs,
stages of it, or conditions of it.
So a nafs moves between being a Mara
Bissu,
commanding evil,
to being Lawwama,
one that blames itself,
to being al mutma'inna,
the one that is in tranquility,
at peace,
contented.
So the one that is contented
at peace, al mutma'inna,
is the believing nafs,
is the nafs that is happy with Allah
and Allah in return is happy with it,
listens to Allah, Azzawajal.
Alright?
Disobeys the shaitan.
Allah is the best thing for it.
Right?
Allah, Azzawajal,
is the,
king
of its heart.
That is al mutma'inna. Why is it mutma'inna?
Because it adds it's at peace.
If Allah tells it to do something, it
will do it. Stay away from something, it
will, and it's happy.
If Allah decrees that it's gonna gain something,
it thanks him.
That it's gonna lose something, it's patient
and praises Allah, azza, so whatever happens
in this dunya,
it's happy with it, and it's waiting for
the ultimate happiness when it meets Allah, azza,
That is in Mutma'inna. It's at peace. It's
not agitated.
Alright.
It's not attracted to the dunya and running
after it.
No. It's at peace,
and that is the greatest prize a person
can get
when they follow Allah, Azza, to be at
peace.
Alright. Nothing disturbs him.
The dunya, of course, is going to make
you sad and happy, and you're going to
lose stuff, but you will regain your balance.
That happens, but you come back to your
balance, and you'll be at peace.
And that is the greatest nima.
But, of course, that is what one state,
and that is a state of iman that
a person needs to climb to before it
comes to other types of nafs.
The nafs as a nafs by default.
By default, it commands evil.
You have good in you, yes, but you're
attracted to the dunya, and you are greedy,
and you are selfish,
and you are ignorant.
So what can you expect from someone who's
greedy
and ignorant and selfish?
What?
I want this dunya, and you don't know
what what do you want from it, but
you just want more of it,
and nothing will satisfy you.
And you are willing to break the law
and hurt other people to get it. So
what do you expect from such a person?
Now this person is every human being around
you.
Everybody
around you by default, that's the person.
So now look at the world around you
and tell me that that surprises you, the
condition that we're in, because this is what
a humanity is.
So that's that is what Al Amara.
Now he's now if a person
graduates and disobeys the shaitan and Allah listens
to Allah, Azzawajal,
he migrates into nafs,
that is lawwama, blames him.
Why did you do this haram? Why did
you not repent? Why did you not take
advantage of this good opportunity?
So keeps blaming him for the good that
he had missed and the wrong that he
has done.
And then from that, he can graduate to
become mutma'inna.
And you could go up and then slide
back and then slide back even further and
then climb again and then climb. You can
do this,
but usually you will occupy one more than
the other. Right?
So here he is saying what Ibn Qayyimhe
says,
get to that nafs
that commands evil.
You that is gonna be your ally.
So use it to wage war against a
nafsul mutma'inna.
The other nafs, the possibility of
iman. No. Tell him,
wage war against that nafs. You don't want
it. You don't want what leads to it.
It's too difficult. It's too risky, like we've
taught.
So he said,
festahidu fika sriha. He says, you do your
best to break it. That nafs,
that is, mutma'inna
try to break it, the assured nafs.
And,
exhaust its strength. Anything that gives it strength,
stop it.
So here you have iman.
Okay. The shaitan says, okay. I'm gonna see
what gives him that iman. Try to stop
all the things that inject iman to him.
What does he do? He comes to the
masjid,
stop him. He reads Quran, stop him. Dik,
stop him.
He gives advice, stop him. Whatever whatever is
giving him that peace,
whatever is bringing him closer to Allah, stop
him. And introduce opposites, introduce obstacles,
introduce distractions,
and get the help of the Amara that
will tell them, yeah, yeah, let's drink this.
Yeah, let's go with this. Yeah, let's try
that
until you break the other nafs. Right?
So he said,
I'm gonna stop here, insha'Allah. He says when
it becomes weak
and the command, the nafs that commands evil
will become strong,
then the rest of the body will become
your helpers.
So get the heart down from its fortress,
and put the nafs, that is amara, that
commands evil in its place. And now if
you ask it to do something, it will
tell you, yes, it will never resist you
and will never oppose you. Right?
That will be your greatest ally. So we'll
continue, insha'Allah, this, bi'imillaha zawjal,
next week,
And we'll I'll remind you insha'allah of what
we have said so far
about the 2 types of nafs because we're
gonna, pick that up next week and then
continue talking about inshallah.
So let me know inshallah if you have,
questions,
before Asia inshallah.
Okay. So the question here isn't Allah Azzawajal?
Doesn't he have control over everything? Why is
Allah giving shaitan the power to mislead Allah's
creation?
Right? So
you're right in first noting that Allah
has control over everything.
Now,
Allah, if he had wanted, he would not
have even created shaitan.
Right?
So
the the existence of shaitan is by Allah's
permission,
and the actions of shaitan are by Allah's
permission,
And there is wisdom behind it, because where
is the test if there is no alternative?
You you are being, you know, you are
in this dunya. Doesn't Allah,
Azza Wajal, said,
so that he could test you who among
you has the best of deeds. So this
is very plain in the Quran
that your existence on this earth is a
test.
Right?
Where is the test if there is no
temptation
and if there's no alternative?
So Allah will say this,
if there's no competition, then what?
We're gonna do what Allah wants.
Where's the test?
So the test has to be there because
there's an alternative way
and there is a tempting path away from
Allah, azza wa jal. And that's why Allah
created the shaitan,
and that's why he gave him that power.
And that power, by the way, in nakaydesh
shaitan, he can't, the plot of the shaitan
is weak.
Because even though Allah
gave him the power to mislead, he told
you exactly about what he wants to do
and how he's doing it. And he told
you about the consequence of what happens to
you if you follow and what happens to
you if you disobey shaitan.
So he told you everything.
This is how he will attack you, and
this is how he gains access to your
life, and this is how you protect yourself
from him.
Right. We know how to protect ourselves from
the shaitan, right, in detail.
So
that's the test.
So it's not that he does this in
opposition to Allah Azzawajal.
No one can.
But it is part of the test that
Allah Azza wa Jal wanted everybody to go
through. And
this is Allah's wisdom. I don't have time
to go through. Why is it that we
have to go through a test?
You have to submit to Allah, Azza wa
Jal, whether you understand it or not.
Right? And if you don't, and if this
is really troubling you, ask again and I'll
answer it inshaAllah azzawajal later. But in your
mind it should be Allah azzawajal is wiser
than me. Right?
Right or wrong?
Is wiser than we are.
And Allah, azzawajid, must have had a reason
for this test. Otherwise, why would he do
it?
That would not be possible without that test.
Right. That's why Allah put us on this
earth and put opposition.
Okay.
And if you know that, then, alhamdulillah, you
submit to Allah Azzawajal,
and
you,
follow his commands rather than engage in why
and how. Right? That takes you nowhere. So
I just have,
okay.
In Nasul Lawwama,
the nafs that blames you.
Lawwama can't continuously blame you.
So they said in his explanation, wallahu alam,
he says you will ever you will forever
find the believer blaming himself.
Why did you say this, and why did
you do that?
So nafs al Lawwama is a nafs that
does things
and comes back to blame itself for doing
it,
or does not do things and blames itself
for not doing it.
So the believer is always in that state
also asking himself, why did you or why
didn't you? So this is Allahwama.
Through that, ultimately, he will reach a level
where there is what? That that peace and
mutma'inna,
but that usually
is the end.
Somebody yeah. There are nafs that command
you to do righteousness.
So
suggest, yes. Yes.
So
if that nafs is,
listening to its fitra,
then yes,
because it's inclined to the fitra.
If it's enough that is righteous enough
to have an angel next to it,
then the angel will inspire you just like
the shaitan will inspire you or whisper right
to do evil.
The angel will will inspire you, will put
that thought into you or that urge into
you to do something good.
Nam. So how do you attain that? An
nafs that helps you
is by,
being close to Allah, Azza Jel, by dhikr
and by du'a and by the Quran,
then he will bring the angels closer to
you, and they will remind you to do
good.
So the influence of the shaitan is weaker
and the angels are stronger,
but you will never, never escape the influence
of shaitan.
The test is always there.
Yes.
So if a person utters obscenity and obscenity,
not because of an intent,
but because of,
what he had picked up from people around.
So when he's really angry and agitated,
he just says this but without really meaning
it. We say if it's a mistake and
if it's an unintentional, Allah doesn't hold you
accountable,
but he has to kind of catch himself
as soon as saying it and then apologize
for it, ask Allah for forgiveness, and then
try to stop himself
from repeating that word because now he understands
that it's part of his
vocabulary.
This has entered his head now, so it
is so part of him that he can
use it.
So he has to say, okay, I need
to, kind of, purify myself of it, cleanse
myself of it. I should never consider it
to be ever a suitable word that I
should say. So never will I
say it and every time I hear it,
I should actively reject it.
What an ugly word this is. Astaghfirullah.
Kind of like work against it so that
you there will be a barrier between you
and that that word.
No. They don't. No. They don't. Because that
is talking about conscious and conscious This is
not about the subconscious
Or they're not at time. They're not talking
about something primal.
They're talking about things that you are aware
of
but things that transition between,
lack of iman to some iman to strong
iman.
So they they don't correspond to that. And
these are just things that,
are theoretical,
the
the
ego and the superego and the ed and
all of these things. They are just
theoretical
to understand the self, but they're not
had not been demonstrated
scientifically.
No.
Just theory. Not. I'm sorry.
No
Right. No. So I mean,
your question is is, can I repeat kind
of the gist of your question? The question
is about
how do attain balance from,
listening to Ibnulkayyin because
it would seem that he is emphasizing the
power and the plot of the shaitan may
be perhaps too much that it seems that
we are too weak in front of him,
and he may not have mentioned, at least
so far
has not mentioned
that
those who have sincerity
escape the plots of the shaitan.
Inna
Ibad, he says my Ibad, you have no
power over them except the misguided who follow
you. So Allah
has said you have no power over them.
So
Ibn Khayyim here, he is
talking to a specific,
if I understand
your question and what he's trying to do
right, and Allah knows best ultimately.
He's trying to talk to humanity or a
group of humanity
that has drowned in sin so much
that
they're captives,
and they don't
appreciate that they are captives. They don't understand
the plots of the shaitan and the severity
of what is happening to them, So he
has to scare them.
He has to wake them up,
and he has to shake them, right, in
order for them to realize that this is
something that is really serious.
And once they realize that they need this,
and they are
have been tampered with, and plotted, and against,
and all of this, then he offers the
solution, but not until
they panic,
not until they realize that something
bad is happening and the Shaytan is attacking
us from all fronts and we're asleep.
And then if then when they panic and
when they wake up, then he offers them
medicine.
Yes. So every shaitan is from the jinn.
Yes. So you have righteous
believing jinn
and you have disbelieving jinn, and the disbelieving
jinn is what we call the shaitan.
So everybody will have the disbelieving
one assigned to him, disbelieving jinn, who is
the shaitan assigned to him.
Who's
they are the children of Iblis, So he
procreate.
He has children just like Adam has children,
and it is these children that are the
jinn,
and from them the shayateen come.
So he is Abu al jinn, the father
of jinn, just like Adam is Abu al
ins, the father of humans.
I'm sorry. If what? When you are praying.
Uh-huh.
Yes. Yes. Yes. There's another shaitan.
So there's the shaitan that is your companion,
and there's other shaitan as well. So not
shaitan 1.
So this one will be coming because of
salah or
some others because of wudu or some others
with you on hajj or
right.
Yes.
Right. Right.
You're saying one is enough. Right?
One is enough.
Let me see if someone who did not
get a chance to ask a question.
Okay. Just let me look at the questions
we have online.
To pray in congregation in the masjid if
he and others complain to the masjid. We
pray, or must we pray individually?
So can someone pray in congregation in the
Masjid after the first jama'ah?
There's disagreement of opinion about this. So after
the first jama'ah is over, can you have
a second jama'ah? This disagreement of opinion about
this, I would say ask the imam and
the masjid that you're in allahu alaam. That's
the safest
easiest
this one,
subhanAllah,
I have a Muslim friend and she has
a daughter and she wants to marry an
atheist.
Must she disconnect from her daughter if this
happens?
She doesn't have to disconnect from her daughter,
then she does have to disown
her. Because if she disowns her,
what's gonna happen is that she's gonna be
worse and worse, but she has to put
some distance between her and the daughter. And
they say, if you marry him, this is
not marriage. He's an atheist.
So I can't I won't visit you. I
will not bless this marriage. I will not
accept it,
but don't completely disconnect from her because hopefully,
if there is some
communication between you and her, you could pull
her back. Right? But if you completely disconnect
she could become an atheist and she can
completely forget about you So some distance but
not complete distance. Oh lord
And last question, Shah.
Yeah. It's the love of the dunya that
gives them power. Like,
We'll see you with next
week,
same time.