Ali Albarghouthi – Softeners of the Heart #03
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The speakers discuss the negative impact of older people's plans to reach 60 and the importance of taking risks to grow one's love for life. They stress the need to stay in a room until age 75 and learn to live life without fear. The prophecy of the Prophet sallalContinues a woman in distress and warns against regretting past experiences. The speakers also emphasize the importance of being patient and not losing loved ones, planting seeds for long lives, and not living long enough to achieve goals.
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When hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Ernie he or sahbihi wa sallam
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And hamdulillah will Ira mean if you remember life last week,
where we talked about the chapter that we talked, the last chapter we talked about baboon family will totally there's a chapter about having extended hope. Right, having extended hope, in a long life and we talked about the dangers of that.
The fact that yes, Allah azza wa jal instilled that in us, that all of us how to live,
and let live, you know, for a year or two, but for extended time, and that has its benefits. But if it's not contained,
then it could delay a lot of good things flowed in repentance and whatever Allah is happy with. And that is corrupting. It's very corrupting. When you continue to believe that I have tomorrow, and so you postpone all the things that Allah azza wa jal loves for the sake of that false hope that there is always a tomorrow.
So I'll Bukhari Rahim Allah continues. Along that theme in the next chapter. The title of it is Babylon man bellava. See Tina Sana for other Allahu alayhi Phillimore This is a chapter regarding Oran, he who reaches 60 years of age then Allah azza wa jal had removed his excuse when it comes to his age. Meaning that that person will not or cannot have an excuse with Allah Xeljanz saying, I didn't have time
I didn't have time to repent, I didn't have time to pray I didn't have time to understand and reflect. I didn't have it is Have you reached 60 and beyond Of course, then other Allahu Allah here there are a as Allah Adora, other Amin, Allah hottie moved all excuses.
says why lit holy, He Subhana Allah to Allah because Allah said, Well, I'm no I'm miracle, Maya to the Kofi himanta Khawaja Akuna there this other Buhari he and he shaped is because Allah said in the Quran, our lamb nor a miracle did we not let you live a period of which may at a coffee him and he attacked the car, a period of which that if one wanted to remember he could remember
that as we gave you enough time for you to remember for you to reflect did we not give you that enough time.
And then in addition to it was a kimono there and also another year the war nurse came to you. Elbow hurry Adze Annie means a shaped gray hair.
So another year, it doesn't say in the Quran, what is this the year that comes to us. So some said it's the prophets of Allah, He was a prophet is an ideal.
So people living at his time or after his time because they know what he said, he is an idiot.
So there's a puja that had been established. There is proof that had been presented to you that there is a day of judgment and there's a grave questioning and and so, all this is a reminder. So, some said another is the prophets have always said some said and there is people dying around you, that is a sign for you. Because you could see death, someone is alive and is you know, full of life and athletic and then they dropped it
and another person drops dead and another person drops dead and then what does that tell you? That those who are alive are dying and I also will face the same consequence that also is an idea and a third thing a third interpretation is a shape gray hair.
So when gray hair comes to your head and beard, it means that what remember, this is a reminder. So, Allah azza wa jal considered, considers it to be proof or considers it to be a
an establishment of
proof against a person if he gives him a time to remember and he doesn't remember then Allah will ask you didn't you have enough time?
You did? Why didn't you reflect and think and change. And then
the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said either Allahu ala Marian, that's the first Hadith either Allahu Allah Marine, a Hara. jolla who had a lover who sit in a sauna is Allah had removed the excuse of someone
that he delayed his death until he reached 60 years of age
had removed his excuse. Now, you may lose the your excuses before that age. But when you reach 60,
then you can come to Allah azza wa jal, and you say, I didn't have enough time.
I didn't see signs, because by that time, what's happened, what has happened.
By that time, when you reach 60, your body has started to weaken.
You're not that youthful, vibrant person that you were once. See, you have problems with your body. What does that tell you? Now,
if you're driving a new car versus a car that has got it getting old, when it gets old, you see like noises coming from the engine, right? And the tire and this and that, what does that tell you? That it's about to die, it's about to go away. Those are the signs that a thing can give to you to tell you that it's leaving, or it can function. So same thing with the body. It hurts here, it hurts there. It's not functioning as it was, see, see signs? What do you also see when you're 60 the shahada has dimmed a little bit, the desire that you have is not as intense the desire for a woman or the desire for this so that it's not as intense. So that also had subsided. What also do you see
or happens when you're 60? You see other people around you who have died? And you have time to reflect on the signs of Allah as though did you have time to learn? You have time to think so that is enough time. So if a person dies, and they are 60 and above, they can't when they face Allah as though did sia Allah, I didn't have time.
And maybe a person who's who was 20 years of age, and it goes to Allah and he says, Allah, I didn't have time. Maybe Allah will not accept that from him. But it's worse when you're 60.
You understand what I'm saying here that even if you're young, and you may die, Allah azza wa jal may not accept from us the saying that I didn't have time.
Or maybe he would.
But it's much worse when you're 60 and above, and still wayward still away from Allah azza wa jal because why what's left?
What is left? You've left the dunya behind you because your body though, right, it's not as we said, is not accepting of its desires as it was. So you love the Dunia behind and you know that what lies ahead is less than what has passed. So what are you waiting for?
So either Allah number in a Hara jello Hatha Bella Husi Tina center, and so it does tell you that 60 years is a milestone.
60 years is a milestone. And also add to it that the prophets a lot of them said Mr. Almighty Medina serotina was surveying what are called Lumenier Jews with Alec, he says the age of my mama
is between 60 and 70. The lifespan of my OMA members of my ummah is between 60 and 70 and few among them will surpass that. So the Prophet sallallaahu Selim died when he was what 63 Right. So, you understand that most of the time of Muhammad Ali was alone will be between 60 and 70. So when you reach 60, in your mind, what is left? Few years maybe, and then what? So you have to rush back to Allah azza wa jal right.
Now there is of course, a problem with this. Right the obstacle. The next Hadith explains what that obstacle is.
So he said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
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he says that the heart of the elder, elder man or woman continues to be youthful, meaning strong, youthful, in loving to things or into things in loving the dunya and having hope and an extended life. So when you're older, your body is what gets what
weaker, but not your love for the dunya are not your love for extended life to live more is that that does not subside, doesn't go down, remains youthful, like just a young person remains youthful in loving the dunya and loving the dinner here is love of money and everything else that advice. So it continues to love those things. Right?
And in another heady that you know follows it, so it's exactly the same, but it just adds a little bit he says, Yakubu Adam he says the Son of Adam ages are the child of Adam ages or grows up. Well Yakubu Roma, who and what grows with him is her bull, Molly will total Omar and grows with him love of money, and a long life.
So it doesn't only remains youthful actually grows with you. As you grow. You also develop what increased love for life, and increased love for money.
So that's an obstacle. And when the prophets iclm says this, it means that this is something in us. But we should never surrender to it. We should struggle and strive to conquer it. That No, I shouldn't be like that. Or why does this happen?
Because when you know that you have just a little bit to live
your love life more.
Right? And when you're young, you take risks, right? Plenty of physical risks even why? Because you don't think that you're going to die. You haven't experienced physical pain. See, you will take a lot of physical risks maybe. And you think that you're going to survive it. When you're older, when you know what pain is and what it can do when you see pain and other people you know, take that risk. Because life is precious.
Similarly, right? If you think that you want to live forever,
it's fine.
You can risk life a little bit. But when you know that you only have few years to go. You can hang on to every second and you want it to continue and never end. And because also you need money to enjoy your life. You will love
money more. So you will love money more and you will what love life more.
And there's a
kind of verse of poetry that says in belcarra in the saga, he'll table He's asleep is sweetest. Just before you have to wake up.
Right?
Isn't it? So when you go to bed right in the beginning of your sleep, you go to bed, maybe your sweetness suffers as you sleep at 10. And you find something interesting or whatever, and you stay till 1020 10 3011 o'clock. You think that you have plenty of time to sleep, right? And then you go to bed whatever time you go to bed you're supposed to wake let's say at seven, you wake up at 630 You will not look at the clock at 630 Yes, no, no, no, I want to sleep. That half hour is the most precious and sweetest time you want to sleep in. It is not me just like give me just five minutes, please just and you go back to bed, right? Because this is a common experience. Why? Because now you
can't sleep anymore. And you have to wake up. That's exactly that feeling. I can have leave this life. No, no to every minute is precious. And I love it. And I want it to continue, because I don't have a lot of time. And for that to be enjoyed. I need money. So I love money more. So that's a struggle.
And that's a warning for all of us. Because if you're young and use a new seat yourself, I'll wait till out till in order to repent. You're going to find an obstacle because you're going to find your heart even more attached to the Dounia not less. Right? So if you want to be close to Allah azza wa jal you do it right now not when I'm up when I'm when I grow up, when I'm old when I retire, because when you retire, you will have your own struggles different than the struggles that you have now. And you're going to look back at the time that you could have done something about it, and you will regret it. Right? Just like a person who didn't study before an exam would say, I wish I would have
studied.
I wish I had one hour just to study for this exam. I don't can't answer anything now. So but regret at that moment is useless and fruitless.
Now, so,
we do not lose hope, because after that chapter, a person who has reached 60 years of age
hasn't done much or 70 and hasn't done much, they would say or they could say or what is left?
Am I done for that's it, what is left for me? So that there is no despair and OHare or Rahima hula
brings another chapter the next chapter that says baboon family led up to her behavior Jolla, this is a chapter about the actions by which you seek the pleasure of Allah Azzawajal
meaning that there is always something that you can do Allah fie sad, meaning like under that chapter, there's the hadith of sad and the Hadith of sad part of it when he onside as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he or rasool Allah who Allah for badass Javi he says, O Messenger of Allah because Saddam no of your past was sick.
And he wanted to give all of his money in donation and the prophets autism told him no, don't give all of your money in donation. The maximum that you can donate is the third
holla Allah and you'll ano Tula Baker Omar, he says maybe you will live in Don't give it away, maybe you will live. So he asked a prophet of Allah Allah for badass hobby. Well, I continue to live after my companions
because he thought he's going to die and the Prophet was telling him maybe you are going to live he says, Will I live even after my companions? So you said in the Quran to her love is if you continue to live in the Quran to her love of Adama Ramadan tiptoe, maybe he was Allah in the OjB it says if you stay behind them or after them, whatever you do, to please Allah azza wa jal, Allah will elevate you because of it. In the Quran to khalifa Tamela, Avalon, Dr. LaVey Allah, Eliza, the Kola, Hui Dada, Jetta Norica, whatever you do to please Allah azza wa jal after maybe the death of your companions, Allah will elevate you with it, meaning that every day that you live, if you do
something to please Allah, Allah will bring you closer to him because of it.
Meaning what? As long as you're alive, there is what
hope.
You can go and say I'm 60. And I'm done for
there are people who started to memorize the Quran at 60.
And they finished it
right
at 70, and they finished.
So there is no reason for you to say and it's not just I'm not just saying just the memorization of the Quran, I'm saying that as long as you're alive, it doesn't matter how old you are. As long as you're alive, there is hope. Because the only thing that you need to do is today I have only today, start doing the things that you're supposed to do today and have an intention, that if Allah maybe I'm 60 now if Allah were to extend my life, until I'm 65 and 70, I would finish the Quran I would finish this or I would finish that, but that gives you hope and Allah's forgiveness. So he says fee sad, so the hadith of sad should be included here.
And
the Hadith here that follows.
And one of the narrator's here says was that Imam Muhammad on Bharani Mahmoud of Nairobi,
Nairobi stated or told me was the AMA, and he said, Matt, this Muhammad, and no, I thought, rasool Allah, he sold a lot. He was a lemma, aka lemma, Jetta and Majah. Hamid de Lune, cannot feed at him. So one of the enumerators of the Hadith, right in the Hadith in the chain itself, he said, and Muhammad claimed, or said, stated that he remembers the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And you remember that the Prophet sprinkled water on his face from a bucket that they had in their home? This is was something in the Senate in the chain. So we're saying that what is he saying that he narrated this hadith and he's saying what I was very young
is not the narrator of the Hadith he heard from somebody but he said, I do remember the prophets a lot. He was in them he was five. He says, I remember that he came to our home and we had a bucket of water. And so he took some water into his mouth and then from that water he sprinkled on my face, says I remember this when he was five. This is why he did that. So Allah Allah wa salam, they said Either he was playful. He was playing with that boy, or that was for Baraka.
Okay.
So what is the first Hadith here? The prophets Allah Allah wa sallam says, then you are FIAP Daniela Malkia Matea coluna ina in Allah, you have to really be How would you Allah in the Haram Allahu Allah He na. It says of a person arrives on
The Day of Judgment, saying La ilaha illa Allah, meaning have said, La ilaha illa Allah seeking only the face of Allah with that, except that ALLAH will forbid his entry into hellfire.
The Hellfire, okay, well not touching.
So this hadith gives a lot of hope. But of course it has its conditions. So a person arrives on the day of judgment. And he says La Ilaha illa Allah, he believes it.
Okay, but there's another condition for it. What's that condition? Its loss, that you do this, for the sake of Allah azza wa jal that this is from your heart for Allah.
That that word La Ilaha illa Allah that believe that statement La Ilaha illa Allah sincerely from our hearts will save any person from hellfire. Now it has two types of safety or offers two types of safety that Illa illa Allah. The first one is, it saves one from being permanently placed in hellfire, meaning that if you say La ilaha illa from your heart, then you will not be in hellfire forever. Even though even though a person may be punished, temporarily inhale fire and then take it out. So now we know that anyone who says La Ilaha illa Allah will not be in hellfire forever. But it depends on the strength of la ilaha illa Allah, the strength of Islam, the strength of love that you
have, if it's not very strong, you will have some other sins that you have to pay for. unless ALLAH forgives, of course, but you have other sins that you have to pay for. So some Muslims will enter Hellfire do they say that you know, Hey Lola, right? They will enter Hellfire be purified and they leave and they enter Jannah so that is one part of the Hareem that they will never be in hellfire forever. Another part of the Hareem is that some people will say La Ilaha illa Allah
so sincerely, that itself will burn any other sin that they have though they will have Simba will burn any other sin that they have. That Hellfire will never touch them.
Not ever touch them.
So do they have sins? Yes, they do.
Okay, famously saw haibun be thought that the hadith of Sahib will be thoughta the person who comes to Allah azza wa jal on the day of judgment, and he will have
so many sins, okay, we don't know what those sins are, but he has since the records have sins in them. And so that person when he sees all that thinks that he is doomed. So Allah says, Do you have any other thing that you can present to counter this? So the person says, No, I don't.
Then Harry says then a card or a bill Farka will be brought. And in it, they will be La ilaha illallah para Baraka lofi. In it, there will be La Ilaha illa Allah and will put on the scale and will be heavier than all those roles and roles of sins that he had, will outweigh all of that, and he will go to Jenna because of it, because of la ilaha illa Allah. So that's an example of a person whom La ilaha illa helped him so much that he'd never entered hellfire.
But of course we know that not all Muslims will have that because some Muslims will still go to hellfire. So this hadith can be understood in both ways. And that the more that you love Allah, rely on him, call on him. And this is done from your heart the more that your heart is a slave of Allah indeed, your sins will not matter as much you will commit fewer sins and the sins will be forgiven by the will of Allah xojo But that gives you hope, it doesn't matter. If you're 60 7080 100 it doesn't matter. You can always come back to Allah Zoda right.
So here you want to strike a balance between having so much deceptive hope that I have forever and losing what losing all hope together. Right.
The next one the next hadith
is when Allah as the Prophet sallallaahu Selim says that Allah azza wa jal says Yahuwah Allahu Taala Mallya Abdullah many indigenous on either Kabak to Sofia who mean added dunya Mata Saba lol Jana, he says Allah azza wa jal says so the
Prophet says that Allah is saying, My slave my believing slave.
If he loses his beloved,
his chosen beloved from this dunya for Magnus Abaddon, he is patient with that awaiting the reward from Allah azza wa jal my reward for that for him is Jenna
that I have no reward for him if he does this except Jenna.
So, here Allah azza wa jal is telling us through his prophet Sallallahu wasallam is that if you lose Sophie Yuka
who is the Sophie? Sophie is your beloved chosen special one.
So, who could this be could be anyone could be one of your parents. If they are what close to you could be your wife or husband if they are close to you could be your son and daughter when they are close to anyone who is chosen
and beloved and you lose them for MATA Saba What is it does have a home mean okay, the word has ABA or he sap comes from what from counting I yeah that's that's familiar from to count
numbers it does server is what you want rewards from Allah oxygen for it CB patient decibel who mean I want rewards from Allah for it I want this and this and this for the sake of my patients. So that your patient because of it two matters ABA
and that is the reason why there is this up
because you could have two options you have two options you can panic
and it's easy at that time to panic because that what the tragedy is heavy. You lost your loved one.
So you could panic and you can curse and you can be angry. The question is will it do anything?
Does it
doesn't doesn't change the fact that it happened. So if you can keep it together, when this bad news happens is in keep it together. And remember Allah xodus As soon as this happens as soon as it happens in the Leela he will in a Raja Hoon like say it but mean what you are saying in early law he were in a year Rajon Allah Hama Jordan a few more see but he was literally higher min higher Allah, reward me for my will Sieber and replace it with something better stuff that allowed him to learn he keep remembering Allah azza wa jal and someone reminds you that's why it's important to be around people who would remind us is no Be patient, for Allah sake. Be patient. This is something that
happens to all of us. Be patient for Allah sake, I know the loss is difficult, but just be patient and expect the best from Allah azza wa jal heaven from Allah azza wa jal if you are patient,
he says, if that's the case,
then Allah azza wa jal will grant that person, Jenna.
So that that is one of the things that if you live
and Allah extends your life, you will lose loved ones. There are other sets of Hadith or another Hadith where the Prophet sallallahu sallam said that if a person loses three kids
and of course he's patient with that if he loses three kids, and Allah will put them in Jannah
than the Sahaba asked or prophet of Allah and two, he said, and two,
so that narrators of the Hadith right later on, they've asked,
you didn't ask him about one. If he loses one. They said no. So they said, I think that if you were to ask him about one he would even say yes, that even if you lose one child, and you're patient with that, that Allah will reward you Jenna for it. I think if you'd asked about one he would say even Yes. Is that I think so.
He said, I think so he would have said yes. And this hadith confirms it because a Sufi is the chosen, beloved one. So if you lose one child,
and they are so close to you, and you're so close to them, and you are patient with this, and how would you say how can I be patient with something like this, if you know about it, and this hadith really settles and enters your heart, and you get ready for the fact that if Allah azza wa jal decides, and he could decide that I were to lose someone. We're going to be patient for Allah sake.
I'm going to be thinking about the fact that if I'm patient now
I'll be in January in Nilla, Zota. It's worth it. And I'm going to remember, try to remember that their departure is not permanent. I lost them now. But in few years, I'll need them again.
So that makes it easy in the last episode.
Yeah, for a year or two or five or 10. It doesn't I'm not going to see them. But they're not.
They did not disappear. They're around, right? Of course, you can contact them, of course, but I mean, they're around in the sense of what they're alive. And I will get to also see them again, we'll be reunited. And if you want to be permanently reunited with them, right in Jannah, then be patient and you make dua for them.
And that is the thing that gives you hope, and support and patience. At times were at the seams very bleak.
So, as we said, if you live long enough, if Allah azza wa jal gives you life, one of the things that will happen is that your dear ones around you will start dying. So if you get ready for that, and you're patient, and Allah azza wa jal also, that'd be one of the reasons why Allah azza wa jal will forgive you,
Allah Allah. So, if we start the next chapter, it will take us
too long. So I think Inshallah, we will we will stop here and see if you guys have any questions
or any having,
having hope Allah xojo had, as we said, has instilled in us that desire or love to live for a long life.
And it has its benefits, advantages and disadvantages. So the advantages are, what the advantages is it allows you to do something allows you to build to start projects, to plan and through that planning, you can benefit a lot of people, good scholars, write books, if they thought they're not going to live until they finish them. No.
Good scholars collect the Hadith of the thought if I started traveling, I'll die in this travel No. So Allah as little as this as some scholars have said, Allah azza wa jal sometimes removes the remembrance of death from you, so that you can do something beneficial. Otherwise, if it's constantly on your mind, you won't be able to do these things. You won't be motivated. So it has advantages. And there is that saying, which is not a hadith. It's a good
opportunity to mention it. Emily Dunia aka Emily erotica and Nikita Mootoo hada, what Amala dunya caca anakata issue Abba, it says work for your akhira as if you're dying tomorrow, and work for your dunya as if you're living forever, that is not a hadith.
And some of it is accurate. Okay, so work for your akhira as if you are dying tomorrow, absolutely true.
Work for your dunya as your as if your living forever, has two sides to it.
One side is right and one side is wrong. The right side is what as if you are living forever meaning plan
and plant good seeds. And try to think about ways that you can maintain those seeds for as long as you live. So like plan big.
So I want to memorize the Quran as we said, I want to build a school for the sake of Allah, I want to educate 1000 people, you know, for the sake of Allah as a real plan big things that may take years and decades for them to continue. But you plant this seed, and you work on it. Hoping that if Allah extends your life, that you're going to see this project through and you will finish it in Illa as so that's a good side. The other side, the wrong side of it, you know, work for your duty, as if you're living forever might indicate that what collect as much as you can, because you will be living forever and ever. That is the wrong side. That's why it's not a hadith. But it's also good to
plan big for the sake of Allah azza wa jal so then think about what is it that you want to leave behind when your life ends? What is it that you will? What is your project your life project?
That could be anything that Allah as it enables you to do? I want to plant seeds, and I want to have the seeds to continue to grow even after my death. So what is your life projects? For some people as they said, it could be a Quran for other people, it's volunteer work, or they're helping orphans and widows and the refugees and all of that. For other people. It's teaching for other people it is raising their kids and making sure that their kids are going to you know, be righteous and they will have
righteous Kitts, and so on and so on, what is your project in life, pick one, and work on it. And as long as you're living,
ask Allah as it have to give you the strength to continue, you know, developing it. And as I said, plan as if you are going to be living for 10 2050 years, it doesn't matter. But also on the other side, on the flip side of it, don't let that distract you from that that you may not live. So your akhira needs your maximum attention right now. So if Allah azza wa jal blesses you with a long life, with a lot of righteous deeds in it, you'll be among the best of people. But if Allah as it gives you a long life, and you fill it with a lot of sins, and you'll be among the worst of people, so long life again, could be a NEMA, or a disaster, just like money could be a NEMA or a disaster.
So inshallah you have questions about anything that we said today.
So I don't see any I'm sorry, yes.
No.
It's mistaken sometimes as a hadith, right? Some people even I don't know if they caught it, or they mentioned it or when they hear it, they think it's a hadith but it has no basis right in the Hadith literature, but maybe it's a saying that somebody had said I don't know who at one point and sometimes people mistake it to be as a hadith
I'm not sure its origin was I know that when they check it they say that it has no basis as a hadith, but sometimes you know, Allah Adam, like I'm not talking about this in particular, but a lot of Athar a Sahabi sometimes says it a tad bit he sometimes says it Debbie Debbie some says and gets mixed up row into a hadith Some people claim to be that it is they it's just they forget. So that that's what I think that this thing may be although I don't know who said it.
But sometimes it could organize your head right? So.
Uh huh.
Yes, yes, yes. No, so it's good. It's good that we talked about it at least so you would know. So all of us would know, Article Luffy. Fear insha Allah so we'll see you in sha Allah next week at the same time about a low V communism law Hara Szczepanik Lomo, behind the shadow Allah either, and it's the fear of God, nobody could have to rely on