The benefits, harms, etiquette, and responsibilities of social media.
Ali Albarghouthi – iSocial Media
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The speakers discuss the benefits and harms of using social media, including the impact on personal and family life. They emphasize the importance of learning from and being aware of the negative impacts of social media, trusting and being aware of one's options, and finding the right information. They also stress the importance of avoiding wasting time on negative activities and limiting exposure to false information. The speakers also encourage people to use their time online to pursue their interests and not let anyone control them.
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All praise and thanks belongs to Allah, the Most High, the Most Merciful. We thank him and we seek His help and aid and we asked him to forgive us. And we seek His protection from the evil of ourselves in the sins that we commit. Indeed, who serve Allah guides, no one can lead astray and who serve Allah leads astray no one can guide
and a bear witness that there is no one worthy of worship except Allah alone. And then Mohamed Salah Allahu Allah, he was in them is his prophet and messenger. The best of speech is the book of Allah. And the best of guidance is that of Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And the words of religious matters are those that are innovative, and every religious innovation is a bit every bit is misguidance. Every misguidance will be in hellfire.
One of the things that had become so common in our lives is social media
had become so common, that would only lead sometimes think about how many times we access it
and how much it had influenced our lives and the lives of our families and communities.
That we receive, although it is one strata one part of the internet, the worldwide
Whether it had dominated our use of that invention, it had dominated so much of it, that we receive all of our news from it.
Most of our interaction with the outside world happens through it.
And it changes so much about us without noticing.
And this foot by insha, Allah, what we want to do is to note
some of the better benefits, but also some of the harms of this
and lay out some principles that a Muslim needs to live by.
so that they can regulate how they use
the internet in general and social media in particular.
And to begin with, we have to remember, then whatever platform we are using, once you go online, once you start texting someone
tagging someone liking it responding, commenting on any platform, you have to know that that service is not free.
This is a business.
And the best business boy is not charging you that asking you to pay money is charging you in a different way.
Because they do collect your information and preferences, and they sell it to advertisers. So this is not a free service.
And because it's not a free service, you have to think about it as a business as a vendor, as a salesperson, trying to sell you something. And it's not always to your advantage, not always to your benefit.
A vendor who sometimes may be duplicitous less than honest,
or try to pass on to you things that will get them the highest profit, even if sometimes may harm you. And they will not share with you that harm. Just think about yourself going and trying to buy a car from a car salesman.
or trying to buy any kind of routine dyes from someone that you expect, may not be very honest with you. Your responsibility as a consumer is to do what to trust them completely.
Or to be savvy and investigate and to be aware about the harms and benefits of what you're buying. So let's consider think about some of the benefits and harms.
And so panela, you will find that as it brings some benefits, it will go on to bring the opposite
the harm.
So first of all, one of the benefits that you've seen is that it had brought people closer together, it has bridged distances, you can be living in one country and a relative living in another country. And you can be communicating with them live, you can talk to them live, you can see them. And in that there is an advantage there is
actually that could be a good deed with a proper intention, I want to be closer to my family, I want to be taking care of them, I want to know how they're doing. So that could be something that lots of Hannah Montana rewards for. It had brought people from different parts of the world problem very close to each other. And you know that already.
But at the same time, it did the opposite.
It created distances between people.
It broke up families. People can be sitting in the same household in the same room on the same table.
And they'd be talking to other people in different overseas, but they fail to talk to the person sitting right next to them, failing to communicate, failing to realize their problems, listen to them, respond to their needs. And that had led to the breakup of families.
At least some emotional distance that people feel between children and their parents, between spouses between extended families, they're not as close to each other because they're only interested in this phone and it can bring them or not. So there is a benefit, but there is also a harm. And that is a result of an unregulated use of this NEMA that Allah subhana wa tada had given us.
One of the benefits also that it's hard is that at your fingertips, you have the entire world.
All the information that you need
is right there for you. You can access it, you can learn from it, you can benefit from it, it can educate you, you can grow with it, so much to panela in it and it brings you even closer to the people of knowledge if you want to learn your Islam. You can access this lecture sometimes live sometimes you can ask questions and get the answer live. So had made learning easy
had made information much more accessible, much more available.
But also at the same time it did the opposite.
It flooded us with information,
flooding us with knowledge. That is sometimes beneficial. And sometimes that is not. Because everybody has the platform to say and speak in common, whatever they want.
That flood without a filter confused us, and still is confusing. So we stop knowing what is right and what is wrong, where to go and what not to go what to trust and what not.
And with this flood of information, came the tribal trivialization of information.
That is, instead of focusing on what really benefits us,
we started to focus on the trivial.
The superficial,
ask yourself, most of us, a lot of us a lot of humanity. When we go online, when we go on social media, what are the things that we are checking? What are the things that actually catch our attention? Is it the important fundamental foundational things that are happening in the world today, or the latest fashion, the latest model, the latest spy, the latest argument, the latest superficial thing that is happening to this very famous person or that famous person. So there's a lot tons of information coming our way. But we don't have the filter to decide what is good for us and what is not. So a lot of us actually gravitate towards what harms us or not what towards what
benefits us.
One of the benefits also is that it had given every single human being who has access and access is easy, has given them a voice.
You can go online, you can comment, you can actually produce something, audio, video, whatever it is, and it's out there. And potentially millions of people can see it and can access it. So I've given people a voice given them some power.
But at the same time, I've given the people also a platform
to be very abusive, and insulting. A lot of times without feeling a feeling, or fear of the recollections of all of this. Don't you see that sometimes so Pamela, in person, will hesitate to say things that we say online,
will be cautious, because we're afraid of the consequence. What would this person say? What would these people think about me over there, because we are hiding behind the keyboard behind the screen, behind miles and miles.
Because of that, we feel empowered or emboldened to say whatever we want. And that is what that's why one of the reasons, you find some of the nastiest things that are said or communicated or done online. Because people feel that they are secure. And they are not, and they cannot see the other person. So they do not relate to them as a human being
benefits and harms.
And these things were not created and not marketed or not developed by Muslims. So as a consumer who wants to please Allah subhanho wa Taala, you have to ask yourself, How do I use these things? Before I go on, and use them before I allow my children to go on and use them? What do I knew about them? And what should I have, even before I start using what is my intention? So we want to lay out some principles that should help us understand how
to use them, and how not to use them.
So first of all, we have to understand that our loss of Hannah who was Allah had given us this life
and the time that we have in it, and the help that Allah had bestowed upon us as a trust as an Amana as a Nana, that needs to be thanked.
And one of the ways that you think all of this is how, in the way that you use it, and how you spend it, what do you invest it?
So lots of Panama
is going to ask us,
Oh, come on.
Your feet are not going to be moved from before Allah subhana wa Taala during the questioning until Allah asks you, how did you spend your life and how did you spend your youth?
I've given you all these hours and minutes and days, and they're only either a given
New time.
I've given you another gamma, which is the name of health
and Yama that we always waste. So long will ask you how did you use this? So if I go and I spent hours and hours online,
wasting it not getting anything back from it, nothing that benefits me in this journey. Oh, but gossip.
Someone fought with someone I just want to know why.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says in a beautiful Howdy, ministry Islam in bonito, Kumara Jani of your perfection of the beauty of your Islam, when your Islam is strong is for you to leave what is not if your concern, meaning does not benefit you.
So rather than
going after what this person said, Oh, this person had did, which is in itself superficial and very trivial and does not add to your email does not add to your knowledge does not add to your life, you have to ask yourself, either that my time online on social media is beneficial will count for me when I meet a loss of Hannah who, or at least at minimum, it's it's harder, all I do not go there, how to waste my time there. And rather, I invest my time doing something else, much more beneficial. Consider that in a time that will take you some time a lot to check few messages online, few messages on Facebook, on WhatsApp or whatever, you can spend these few minutes finishing a page of
the last
page of the Quran will finish in about few minutes. The one that you check in what this person said in this comment and that comment and trying to respond to it. So you can read one page and almost have two of them from the profits of the low audio, or at least put this down and do something beneficial outside of the confines of this device.
So you have to ask yourself, now these this time that we're gonna spend on it, is this for me or against me?
Can I be doing something better? Or is this the best thing to do at this particular time.
And if you approach it this way, then a loss of Hannah who will bless Your time will bless your time on it and will bless your time out of it. So Allah will alert you Allah will guide you enough of this, your family needs you, your wife needs you, your husband needs you.
Your children need you leave this those people subpanel have spent hours and hours every day, and families get into fights. And children get neglected. And they do not get guided in their life. Why because the mother or the father, the children, they're all busy doing something else.
And that is not what Allah Subhana Allah wants from me, this is not the obligation on you at that particular moment. So understand your priorities and leave what is not beneficial.
So Allah is going to ask us about our health allies and ask us about our time, so we can't waste it and be so frivolous with it.
The second thing is that a loss of Hannah who
also wants us
to be careful about what information we receive, and what we disseminate.
You do not go if you are sick, kill something anybody you see on the street about what medicine you should take, or medicine you should give your children
the internet social media will give you will bombard you with a lot of religious information. Some of it is verified and some of it not authentic and some of it is not. And what happens sometimes is that a we don't have the filter to know what is right and what is wrong. And then also the problem is that we also starts reading,
we start forwarding, liking, sharing this information, not aware that if we are not
careful about it, we are partners if this is a lie, we are partners and this is a fabrication against the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam, or fabrication in the religion of Islam. So you have to verify you have to know So the second thing you have to remember your sources.
You don't consult anyone for medicine. You don't add bring anyone to build your house and you don't consult every and each one online in your religion.
So who can you trust? Who is reliable, you have to know and you attach yourself to these people or these institutions or these websites and then you visit them
You share what they have, and you limit your exposure to other
other sources that will create doubt in your mind, or use unverified information, or at least waste your time with baseless religious advice, sister Pamela, you have to be careful, don't accept everything and be selected, choose the best of the best and share the best of the best.
Also,
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam tells us
when he was in LA,
and he saw people being punished. One of the people that he saw being punished is one with a hook in his mouth.
And it gets dragged from his mouth all the way back to the back of his head. And he has jabril Allah He said Amira jabril, who is this person, and he says this is the person who lies tells the light, you have difficulty.
It reaches far and wide,
reaches horizons, all new horizons, the west and the east. Meaning of this is the punishment for someone who lies.
And that Clyde's spread so far,
and affects so many people that our last panel data punishes him for it in this way, a hook in his mouth that rips his face repeatedly, not once or twice, repeatedly until the day of judgment.
If this was possible, and it was possible at the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Think about it today. Where you can lie, you can fabricate you can help spread a lie. And few minutes, a few hours, it can actually reach the horizons, the ends of the earth and who would be responsible for it.
Me and you?
And we think it's something like trivial doesn't matter. But what do you think that this is like? The law it is great in the sight of Allah azza wa jal
so if you like, you, you transfer or you transmit what you're not sure of, you can be a partner in transmitting a line. And if you do that a loss of power to Ireland a question you Why didn't you verify this? What did you check this? So many people were deceived by it? verbis guided by it? Why didn't you check? So if you know it to be true, share it with others if you do not, do not share it, do not propagate it until you can say to yourself, this is something that I can meet Allah azza wa jal with and if he asked me he says yes, see Allah I've asked I verified at as far as I could know, it is true.
And will continue in
laying out some principles be there not in the second.
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one of the things that you will learn when you study Islam, the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallaahu it was in them and how people pious people had lived and applied this Islam is that pain?
recognition phrase is not our objective should not be our objective.
So when you're posting something, when you're sharing something, you have to note what is really your intention is my intention is the number of clicks the number of likes, the number of comments.
If this is what pleases me, and the opposite is what displeases me, then you have to understand that my intention is corrupt is not pure.
your intention should be the spread of truth.
For the sake of Allah subhana wa Taala regardless of how many people listen and how many people don't, yes, we feel happier when other people or more people accept the truth. Not for our sake, not for our own glorification. But because they are guided or they are there to receive something from Allah subhana wa tada we believe to be authentic. If this pleases us been handled in
our own fame. Our own glory is what is pleasing to us. And Subhanallah you have to think and rethink whether you should post or not. One of the setups to handle
While he was asking another consulting him, he said I have had aka Allah Subhana Allah see how sensitive This is, I have halaqaat. And I feel happy when more people attend. And I feel sad with few people attended. He said, don't go back to that.
Meaning don't teach again. And this is what you're feeling, then don't teach again. Because you're supposed to be neutral as to how many people are attending or not do it for Allah azza wa jal, because if you're not doing it for a lot, you begin to do it for the people. And then your message starts changing because the people and there are studies that have shown
some some studies, some studies have shown that what people post and the more that you post, the more that this will happen, what people post, and the reaction that they receive, changes their personality
changes their personality, because they will post and they won't wait for the reaction. And then the reaction is positive, they adopt that attitude, those words that style
that dress. And if it's not, they'll cancel it, and they'll try something else. So they're continuously testing their personality and changing their personality to fit what people want.
Because this is why we're posting. So if you fall into that trap, you're thinking that you're going online, you're going and posting something, and it's not affecting you, but in fact, it is affecting you. And it's even more dangerous when it's happening to children, whose personality has not matured yet.
Young People's personality has not matured yet. So they're all receiving their cues from other people. This is funny, this is interesting, this is cool, not something else this is so they start shifting, they start shifting their beliefs and their practices and their lifestyle, without them noticing.
So you have to think about it.
Allah fissara This is
the day of judgment, who seeks it, who wants it, who gets it, those who do not want elevation on the face of this earth, this is not easy.
I'm not telling you that this is easy for you or me. But that should be our objective. We do not desire shouldn't desire elevation on this earth, I want to be better than you. I want to be praised higher than you. I want to be more recognized than you. I want to receive more followers than you I want to receive more comments then it shouldn't matter. And if this is the intention, it corrupts your other work as well. If this is what you're going online to do, you have to quit until, until you have the intention of I'm doing this for a lawsuit and I'm posting this for a loss though. I'm posting this to spread the religion of Muhammad Sallallahu he was setting them to defend the prophet
of Islam, to defend Islam and other Muslims. That is a noble goal. That is a noble intention. Not I am doing this so that people will know who I am, and recognize and praise and respect me. It's not about us. It should be about the cause. It should be about Allah azza wa jal
And finally,
the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had told us and the Hadith
in Arabic, Arabic
Farsi
This is he said it in the context of someone who was worshipping Allah subhanho wa Taala so much that he neglected other neglected other rights and other people in his life. So he said
to him, yes, Europe has a right upon you, but also your self has a rights upon you and your family has a right upon you. So give each their right that belongs to them.
So Allah subhana wa tada is not going to ask us how much time we spent online. It's not going to ask us you know, how did this post before or not? How many people liked what this we posted? A we did not like it, but a lot will ask us about the right. Our spouse is half of one is the right that our children have upon is the right that our parents have upon us. It's not how to go online. It's not how to be part of social media as long as you are avoiding the harm in it. But then you have to limit it because you know, they could have been stopped before it starts affecting your family, your relationship with your wife, your relationship with your husband, and stop it before it goes into
the harem. There are marriages that break because he gets to know this other lady online. She gets to chat
This other brother online, and marriages break because of it, because this person is listening to me. But why Mike doesn't she's busy. This man listens to me, but my husband does it because he's busy. So these two start having another relationship with another person, unreal.
And that is because you're neglecting her and she's neglecting you, you're neglecting your responsibilities, and she's neglecting your responsibilities. And the kids of course, are lost completely. So I will ask you about this. So do not neglect the amount that Allah subhana wa, tada has given you, the amount of your family, the amount of your children, and before they go online, you have to choose the appropriate time for it, to educate them so that they know what is allowed and what is haram in it what to do and what not. and limit the time limit the time. So Pamela, one of the CEOs passed away other people who have propagated made the use of all this so popular and you
know about this, when they asked him, your children, how much time do they spend online? He's the one who's selling all of these devices to you. He's the one who would giving you the phone and the pads and whatever, so that you can watch all of this. How much time do you spend, do children spent on the system we limit their time, we don't let them spend a lot of time online. He didn't invent it, he propagated this. Yet, he recognized that this is not something that they should be doing all the time or most of the time. In fact, humanity shouldn't be doing more that most of the time. There are other activities, better activities you should be using. So you control it, don't let it control
you. Let your children be in control, don't let it control them, and let them develop other activities. Because when you are so attached to it, especially at a young age, you will develop antisocial behavior, you will not be able to communicate with other people, you will have less ability to focus and concentrate and carry on a normal conversation, you withdraw and prefer to be alone because this is how you grew up. This is what you are used to. And this is not what a human being should be like. So these things are changing us without us noticing.
And so Pamela, there's probably a lot more that can be said about them. But the important thing is to know it's a business, to be a savvy consumer and use it only as much as you need and leave the rest beside, use it only as much as it's gonna benefit you and don't let it harm you. So we ask Allah subhana wa tada the most merciful to protect us from the evil of all of these things, and to allow us to gain the benefit from it and allow us to use it in what pleases Him and stay away in it from what displeases him to Allah we ask you that you will give us all of our sins, the sins that we know about and the things that we do not know about the sins that are public in the sins that are
secret, and forgive us and conceal them in this life into the hereafter. We ask you your hammer what you need for heaven for the highest levels in heaven and protect us all and our families and the rest of Muslims from hellfire. We all like grant is all the good in this life and in the Hereafter and protect us from all evil in this life and in the Hereafter.
And we asked you for gender and everything that brings us closest to it and we seek protection from Hellfire and everything that brings us closest to it and we asked you for the best that you profits on the love audience and them have asked you for and we seek your protection from the words that your Prophet sallallahu wasallam had sought your protection from alone is enough to do what we love
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