Ali Albarghouthi – Heart Therapy 14 – The Thankful Heart

Ali Albarghouthi

The Messenger salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam said: (A thankful heart, a tongue that remembers Allah, and a pious woman that helps you in your worldly and religious matters are the best that people treasure)
Reported by al-Bayhaqi in Shuab al-Iman (4116) and declared to be sahih by al-Albani (Sahih al-Jami 4409)

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The importance of avoiding giving money and allowing others to waste it is crucial for success in life. The Prophet's trial requires individuals to provide a certain amount of money to reform and change, but praying on time is crucial for achieving success. The "haste [The moment, where a woman is forced to decide whether she wants to continue a relationship with her former partner, is a crucial indicator of healthy relationships. It is a disjointed and difficult to follow conversation, but the speakers acknowledge that love and satisfaction are important indicators of healthy relationships.

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			Bismillah Alhamdulillah
		
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			wa salatu salam,
		
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			ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallam, alumni, alumni and so on. And finally marlington I was in
		
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			the cricket, cricket.
		
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			So, tonight insha Allah we delve into the Hadith, the 14th Hadith, in the series, and this hadith
inshallah is going to be talking about the things that we need to collect in this life
		
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			isn't
		
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			the best treasures of this life
		
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			and only read this hadith and inshallah also I've added another extension of that Hadith that helps
us understand it, and the context where
		
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			it was discussed. So in this hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,
		
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			called Boone, Shakira. What he said and when that was happening to me juniata de Nika Cairo
McKenna's *.
		
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			So he says, three things here he says,
		
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			a thankful heart.
		
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			So we know what sugar is right? so called Woonsocket a thankful heart.
		
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			what he's done on that we know what Victor is the son that listen that remembers Allah has Vicar on
it all the time, was
		
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			a pious wife.
		
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			When was thought to be pious though? Sorry, how pious wife to me. dounia codina Dini helps you and
supports you and we're in your worldly and religious matters.
		
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			Caillou McKenna's in us is the best that are the best thing that people treasure and collect and
keep
		
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			okay.
		
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			Clear and shallow.
		
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			So, the context here as is reported from activity D, and we will see in shallow this area that they
discuss. So, when the I will Edina you can assume that there have been those who treasure and hoard
gold and silver when this ayah was revealed.
		
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			They said we were we were with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in one of his travels. And
some of the Sahaba asked, this was revealed about golden silver,
		
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			about collecting and keeping and not spending golden silver.
		
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			What didn't analemma united
		
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			we would wish to know what is the best of wealth, because a lot in that area is criticizing
something so they want to say what then is the best of wealth that we can take it and keep it and
collected. So here a prophet sallallahu Sallam said of Buddhism that will have been shocking was
meaningful to him and it says the best.
		
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			That wealth that they're asking about is a or is an Eastern that is that that remembers Allah and
convert is thankful Allah and Amina a wife that is not Amina has a man that supports his email, this
is the best thing to have.
		
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			So you see, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is directing the Sahaba and directing us from
one state to another. It's a substitute and a better substitute. Why is that the case
		
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			is because all of us in this life are gatherers. We are collectors. We spend our life collecting
stuff, all our life, we're doing that. We're collecting information. We're collecting friends. We're
collecting money. We're collecting cars and houses, we're collecting all the stuff that we can get.
And the more expensive and the more beautiful, the more attractive The thing is, the more that we
desire it.
		
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			The more that we desire it, and we want more and more of it, then we don't have enough of what we
have. It's never enough and sufficient. We always want more and more. So we are all collectors. So
the prophets of the law he was sitting on here is saying all of you are collectors there. He has an
underlying understanding of our nature, all of you are collectors and all of you want something you
want gains for yourself, for your families, for your children, you want all of that, and you will
find that a lot of people are gatherers and protectors of this dunya.
		
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			That's why it was made very attractive as a test for us. It's very attractive. It's very beautiful.
So we naturally find ourselves collecting more and more of it.
		
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			Problem is of that or with that is that when we collected,
		
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			we never have enough. And then when we collect it, we don't want to let go of it. We don't want to
spend, we don't want to give it.
		
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			We don't want to alleviate the problems of other people around us with what we have. We want to keep
it all to ourselves.
		
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			And that will suit we put it before our friends. So sometimes, a lot of times we're willing to lose
friends over what we collect over money.
		
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			We put it before family, and we neglect our children, we neglect our spouses, we never neglect our
extended family. For the sake of them money, we also put it
		
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			before our own cells before our own health.
		
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			I would worry about what I have, and it will make me sick, I will lose sleep over it and it will
make me sick. I'll spend time devoted to it and I will not eat well I will not sleep well and you
will make me sick, I will die younger, because I'm trying to collect all of these things. So I'm
even putting it before myself before my own health. That's the danger of it.
		
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			And Allah subhanho wa Taala began recognizing the power of this dunya in so many eyes of the Quran
warns us about it. And we discussed some of these ideas. And in here pertinent to what we were
talking about gaining but not giving. He says Allah subhana wa Dallas's how to hold it down the only
thing people feasibility for me.
		
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			He says here you're being called to spend for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. But then among of
you, are those who hold back are stingy with what they have.
		
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			And he's saying that if you are stingy, and you have this book,
		
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			you're only stingy with yourself.
		
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			the harm of that stinginess and holding that only comes back to you, not to the people that are
around you. Ultimately, why? Because Allah is the honey, Allah is the Richard independent, he can
make everybody sufficient and rich. He's doing this for your sake, he's asking you to get for your
sake. So when you hold back, you're stingy with yourself. You could have reached those higher levels
of Jenna when you say I don't want to.
		
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			Because I want this money now. So you fail to reach those higher level, see being stingy with
yourself.
		
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			You're being stingy with yourself, because you could have escaped from the punishment of the Fire.
But he's being stingy. And you say I know I want this money. So you endanger yourself and your next
life for the sake of few dollars.
		
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			And Allah Subhana Allah says I'm Alderney I am the one who is rich, so I don't need you and I'm
asking you to spend. I want you to purify your wealth. I want you to purify your heart. Why, to
exterminate that shift that we talked about this greed in your heart, when you do it, you will be
better but we don't do it. So Allah subhanaw taala tells us in another area, that there is
punishment for this
		
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			holding back and not giving.
		
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			And Allah says Allah Dena, you can assume that they have over fit, but this is the idea of the
Sahaba were talking about, and what autonomy, the narrative when it was revealed, we asked the
prophets a lot he said, What is then the best of wealth, because Allah says what levena can is doing
as they have all
		
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			been adding those who hoard, keep collect, don't spend golden silver.
		
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			Those centers for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala give them the news of a great punishment. Allah
says, yo, Maria, pinata Johanna, Big Bear who
		
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			has a mechanism, the NPC comfort
		
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			zone,
		
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			on the day when their wealth will be heated in the fire of *.
		
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			And their foreheads, their flanks, their sides, and their backs, will be seared will be burned with
it, and it will be set to them. This is what you have hoarded and treasured for yourself to taste
what you used to vote.
		
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			So this is something that you love so much,
		
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			that you kept it so close to you. Right? And monitor Do I have it? You know how, you know, I don't
know if it's comedy or not when people used to steal
		
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			money under their mattress. And that's the only way that they can sleep on top of their wealth.
That's how they feel safe. That's how close it has to be. So here, they kept it very, very close,
give it night, I will never let this go. It will never leave man I will never leave it. So let's say
you bought it so close to you. And you thought that this is the cause of your comfort and cause of
your security.
		
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			So Allah subhanho wa Taala says Now you will see the reality of this and more
		
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			You have collected for yourself, it will be taken it will be taken.
		
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			And then it will be branded on your foreheads on your sides on your body. This is the reality of
what you've collected to yourself. And if you look at things I'm Allah has a nice comment on it, he
says anyone who puts anything that he loves, ahead of the obedience of Allah subhanho wa Taala, that
thing would be a cause for his punishment.
		
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			So it's not just gold and silver, you put another human being, because you love them so much ahead
of Allah subhanaw taala and his obedience, that person will punish you in this slide before the next
slide, you will see that person punishing you
		
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			by their disobedience by their neglect of you by how much you love them, but they hate you.
		
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			Allah will punish you because of it. And again, when I say that Allah subhanho wa Taala will punish
you because of it. It's different than our punishment. When we punish, sometimes we punish because
we're vengeful,
		
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			I just want this person to her. Allah subhanaw taala. When he punishes you, He wants you to reform.
		
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			He wants you to change, there's a purpose and reason behind it. So the panel, there's a difference
between the two. So this will happen so that you can see that this is what you have done. This is
what you have put before Allah, and that's the fruit of it.
		
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			And another AI Allah subhanaw taala says or talks about a different type of punishment, he says.
		
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			He says those who are stingy and they hold back what Allah had given them, of his blessings, let
them not think that this is good for them.
		
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			To us again, right? I didn't donate I didn't give my zeca so I'm richer. 501,000 $5,000. And
Richard, this is better for me. Allah says, Don't think that this is better for you, this will be
worse for you. The thing that you did not spend will be wrapped around your neck on the Day of
Judgment.
		
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			And then the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he tells us exactly how this
happens. This is in that book. He says, men are men and for them you.
		
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			If Allah gives you money, and you did not give it to the
		
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			man who should
		
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			be beaten up,
		
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			Yamaha piano, he says that money will take physically in reality, the image of a snake of a great
snake on the Day of Judgment. He describes it that sugar on
		
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			the head is white. So the description here as they say in the commentary, that's a description of
the most venomous and poisonous of snakes, white head, loads of B button two black dots on top of
its eyes, you talk to my PM, I will wrap itself around his neck. Yeah, who believes in bellisima
Jani we should play it, we'll go and bite him in his cheeks, and insert that poison inside. And it
will say an America Anna qinzhou I am your money, I am your treasure.
		
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			And then the prophets a lot he was in them read the ayah that we just read. Don't think that it is
better for you, it is worse for you. So that is the reality, in fact, of the money that you keep,
and you don't get for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala that is its reality, you don't see it now.
But on the Day of Judgment, or everything will be clear and will take this form that it deserves.
You'll see this money as something that is has injected poison in your life. So as on that day, it
will inject poison in your body.
		
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			on this earth, it will also inject poison in your world, and in your family relations, and in your
Barker, and in the future of your children and in your in the world and in the blessing that Allah
Subhana Allah has given you.
		
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			So it's not a pain. Only in the next life, it's also a pain in this life. So that is the nature of
hoarding and collecting this dunya. So the prophets of Allah He was sitting here saying, Now if you
see people competing for the dunya compete for this.
		
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			If you see people collecting the dunya collect like this, why is he saying this? Because there is
something natural and again, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam understands this very well. There's
something natural about us. That when you see people interested in something,
		
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			you will become interested in it as well. Just by the fact that a lot of people are interested in
it. If you see them competing over something, you will have the desire in you to compete for it as
well
		
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			because
		
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			There must be something valuable in it, we imitate each other, we collect where the crowd is. That's
where humans are. And if you haven't seen it, I think to myself, if you haven't seen it in yourself,
you see, for instance, if you're walking in the mall, for instance, are there you know, shopping
stores, lining up the street, and people collecting around a particular store, what's your reaction
		
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			must be a sale over there, right? giving things for free, metal go and see what's happening. There
may be nothing, but your reaction is they're competing, they're trying to get something must be
valuable. So you go there.
		
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			So we imitate each other. There was a psychological experiment, right? where a person,
		
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			recent psychological experiment, I mean, 23 years ago, where a person did what they just went out to
the street, and they just stared at the top of a building.
		
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			There's nothing there. They just stared at the top of the building and stayed staring at it like
this. And you know what happens? The next person comes in, he looks at it looks at what he's there.
And he also starts staring at it. And you have two people now. And then a third comes, and then of
course comes and then eventually you have a crowd that believe that building everybody's staring at
nothing, right there. Right?
		
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			That's, that's reality. That's what we do as humans, we imitate each other. So we must be looking at
something interesting. So I'll just wait and see. So all of us do this. So the Prophet sallallahu
Sallam says, and knows, if you see people competing for this dunya you're likely to do this. So you
have to have a counter plan.
		
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			You have to have another path, another choice. What is that choice compete for something else? So
what is this thing called prophet of Allah that I should compete for and get, which is better than
gold and silver. So he says, Get the central heart and remembering tongue and this pious woman that
will aid you in your email? This is better than anything that they are collecting. Right? And it
hasn't Rahim Allah and this is beautiful Lee, and he wants you to remember it.
		
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			All the time. He says, either either Raja unifi suka dunia
		
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			he says if you see someone competing with you in the dunya, compete with him where they are
		
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			you right? Don't Don't let him you know, attract you to worldly competition
		
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			that you don't need, get what you need from the dunya. But beyond that, is saying Don't let him drag
you into it entice you into it. No, you see him getting more money because he says only you know how
much how much I earned last year. And you know how much you know, my investments have returned. And
you know what, I'm gonna travel in the summer and you look at yourself and you say, Oh, I better be
I better do better than what I'm doing right now. Work harder, take another job, do this, do that
invest better, whatever. You're saying, don't get money and don't have money. But don't make that
your obsession to say, if he starts competing with you. And some people do that, right. They just
		
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			really want to make you feel worse about yourself, and they want to compete with you. So if he wants
to compete with you there, take that spirit of competition, but compete somewhere else. If you're
doing this, I'll do more of the Quran and the Sunnah and the hedge and the oma and all of that.
That's where I'm going to invest myself and my time and my money. So but from an FSA official. So
remember this, it's helpful sometimes when you remember it, you say, Okay, I'm not going to do what
you're doing, I have another path and an alternative. So first, inshallah, we'll be talking about
the thankful heart.
		
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			And everything that you can have in this dunya This is the best to have a thankful heart. Because
the person who has a thankful heart is living in Ghana, before he has entered the actual gender is
living in gender on this earth.
		
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			And some of the other night I've said and maybe I have said this before, he said that there is a
gender on this earth. The one who does not enter it first does not enter the gender in the next
life. What is this gender is the agenda of Riba to be content with Allah subhanho wa Taala and happy
with him
		
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			and to be thankful what he has given you.
		
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			And the believer
		
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			is always thankful. If he has email the believer is always thankful. Thankful for Allah gives him
and thankful for even what Allah takes away from him. Because he knows that whatever Allah gives or
takes is the best for him. And if it is the best for him, there is no reason for him not to be
thankful to Allah subhanho wa Taala so his heart is always happy.
		
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			And the Hadith of the Prophet SAW the law he was telling tells us that which is reported in Muslim
when he says the Unreal moment you know how wonderful
		
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			And how incredible the affair of the Mormon is.
		
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			In Ohio, Lacedelli Kelly had an Indian woman, all of his matters, all of his affairs are good for
him. And this is only reserved for the believer.
		
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			In assata, Shakur
		
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			was something good happens to him, he Thanks a lot. And this is good for him. Why not? sobre, todo
sobre la hieronder. And if something bad happens to him, he's patient and this is good for him.
		
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			So what is he telling you so the law and he was in here,
		
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			he's telling you that everything that is going to happen to you from now on, if you have email is
good for you.
		
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			And nothing that is happening to you is actually in reality, his battery.
		
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			Now imagine if someone were to come to you and tell you, I guarantee you that from now on, you can
only face what's good for you.
		
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			And you believe them? How much comfort will this bring to your heart,
		
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			there's nothing that I'm going to face from now on is bad for me, everything is going to be good for
me.
		
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			You'll be happy.
		
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			Not only happy will be ecstatic, you'll be like happy as never been happy before. Because I don't
have to worry about anything else now. Because everything that will happen, when I wake up tomorrow,
everything that's gonna be on I'm gonna find it will be good for me. When I go back, go to bed
tomorrow, everything that will happen throughout that day will be good to me. And every time that I
wake up and go to bed, everything that I will find will be good to me or for me Why? Because what he
says a lot, because you are either confronted with two choices, either something that is pleasant to
you. And you think a lot of this is good. Or either something that is not good or something that
		
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			this pleases you. But you are patient. And ultimately this is good for you. So everything is good
for you.
		
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			So when you think about it's a panel law.
		
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			When you think about it,
		
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			the moment you know how people say that? Are you a glass half full or glass half empty kind of
person, a glass half empty, your pessimism, a glass half full, you're an optimist, right? depending
on how you look at the class, do I have money? Boy, does it? Is there enough water in it? Or I don't
have enough? What do you focus on? For the more minutes he has? The glass is always full, because
you haven't lost anything. There is no emptiness.
		
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			Because whatever you think Allah Subhana Allah did not give you is waiting for you in general.
		
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			So what did you lose?
		
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			He has taken money away from you. It's waiting for you in general and a lot more. If he has taken
someone that you love that he loves from you. That person even though he is more money will be in
general, or someone better than him. Anything that you did not get, you will find with a loss of
Hana what Allah so you say to yourself, when I look at this last, I don't see anything empty.
Because everything is full, it's either now or there.
		
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			But it's completely full.
		
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			And who says
		
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			that he had in
		
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			the anila de la rue FEMA, FEMA.
		
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			He says, I don't care what state I will be in when I wake up whether it's something I love or I
hate. Because I don't know whether good lies in what I love, or good lies in what I hate.
		
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			If I find when I wake up something that I love or something that I hate, he says I don't care. I
don't worry about it. Because I know as we said, I know that it has come from Allah subhanho wa
Taala and the benefit is in it. Whether it's something that is good or something that is bad. So he
has taken this story out of his heart. And when you take the story out of your heart, you're able to
see in everything that Allah has given you, a chance for you to be close to Allah Subhana Allah to
Allah if it's good, Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen he had given me something you thank Him and you
come closer to Allah something that displeases you there's some hardship there's some difficulty in
		
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			it. Allah is taking my sins away. Allah is cleansing my heart Allah hi wants me to be closer to him
and there's benefits and Rama in it. So you have patience. And you see the Nam Ola in its you also
start thanking Allah subhana wa tada for so you chase all of this story away.
		
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			From you Omar also affirming what his father Robbie Alomar says in a radula La La Jolla. You he says
indeed, a person asked a last panel to Allah for the best.
		
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			Asking or this speaker is to ask for the best ask for the height.
		
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			So we ask Allah and Allah gives him something.
		
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			After Allah gives an accurate ask Li Allah gives me Give me the best.
		
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			Whether it's in his heart or not, Allah give me the best. Allah gives him something. He says,
		
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			he becomes obsessed with Allah. When he gives him something that he doesn't want.
		
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			Though he asked him, yeah, Allah give me the best, but like gives him something, it becomes absurd.
So he says, that is one young Buddha.
		
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			That he after he becomes obsessed, he used to look and examine the outcome and the conclusion, and
he will find that it is best for him.
		
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			Whether it is actually thinking about it or living it, you'll find out that the conclusion was best
for him. He was just impatient. He didn't see it.
		
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			And if it was, oh, there'll be a low.
		
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			And again, if you can remember this in sha Allah The next time you become disappointed with not
getting what you want, try to remember this in sha Allah.
		
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			He says in a modular usually for an emery minute try to a model.
		
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			He says that a human being is about to attain his objective of wealth, business transaction, or a
leadership position. And he thinks he's about to get it.
		
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			It's within reach, almost guaranteed.
		
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			When this happens, the current focus of smls for cooling minute, it has been at the heart for in
		
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			between.
		
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			Then when Allah subhanaw taala, when he's about to get it, Allah Subhana Allah mentions him from
above seven skies speaking to the angel on he says, Go to My servants, so and so and stop him from
getting this thing. Because if I let him get it, I'll put him in hellfire.
		
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			So the angel goes by God.
		
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			The more angel comes, and he stops them from getting it and that opportunity goes away.
		
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			For a couple years, that man don't do big Ronnie in the hood, honey Sudan savani funan
		
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			illallah.
		
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			So for about a year when this thing goes away, and he loses, he thinks are the my neighbors were bad
luck. You know, maybe I like this morning before I want to get it. I saw this person's face. He was
bad luck. That's why I lost it. Or he says Danny Poulin this person outsmart outsmarted me, and he
took it away from me, or 71. And this person was quicker and more clever than I was. And he says,
well, Masato uhnwi Lola, the only thing that stops that thing from coming to him is a lot.
		
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			So we want this thing, we seek this thing. We think that our life depends on it.
		
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			I only need this thing. And the law says, I know that if he takes it if I allowed him to take it, it
will corrupt him.
		
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			It will corrupt him and ruin his heart, in his marriage, ruin his family, ruin his life. He can't
take it. He can't take this job. There's a lot of more. There's a lot more money in it. But he can't
tolerate it. He can't marry this woman. He can marry this man. It's not good for him.
		
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			You know, him over the
		
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			years, he was the son of the Elisa came and he wanted to marry his daughter. He said no. So one of
the people around the state of New Aria said can I go and ask for her hand?
		
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			He said he refused me you're going to ask
		
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			for her hand if you refuse me. So just let me give me permission. And he's a nobody. He says Yes, go
ahead if you want to. He goes ask for her hand in marriage. He gives it to him. And he is from a
Muslim, Indian insignificant people know the
		
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			average Muslim. So when they asked, Why did you give your daughter to this ordinary person and not
to the son of the halifa? He said, What do you think? I want to enter that palace and see the
servants standing while she's sitting. And you see everything shining around or what happens to her
religion?
		
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			I can trust her. I mean, trust that she will keep her religion inside that palace with all of that
money. That's why I protected her from it. This is without a doubt with his daughter.
		
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			What do you think with a loss of power with data with his slave and servant that he loves? He knows
that if I give you this it will ruin your religion. I'm not gonna give it to you. So you think Allah
denied me and didn't give me a lot doesn't love me and this and that. And you rebel against Allah
subhana wa tada and it is because Allah loves you that he didn't give it to you. So whenever you
lose something, you have a chance
		
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			Or you have a choice you can say, Allah did not treat treat me fairly Allah took something that I
deserved or you can say, Allah has loved me. And that's why Allah subhanaw taala took early for me
and have been endowed with Allah mean that he did not let me take it, because it wasn't good for me.
And you will start thanking Allah Subhana Allah for the things that you lost, not only the things
that you gained, the things that you lost
		
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			another, you know, also incredible saying from Ibrahim teeny, Rahim Allah He says in the miracle in
a hiring team and let me explain a high growth team and he says if there is no good for us in what
we hate, there would be no good for us in what we love.
		
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			And that's sort of an amazing saints upon a lot more one on more than one level.
		
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			There is no good for us in what we hate, there will be no good for us and what we love on more than
one level how that is. If you don't trust the last panel, what to add, when when he gives only gives
you something that you hate, that he's doing this for your sake and for your benefit? How can you
trust him that when he gives you something that you love, that this would be something for your
benefit and for your See?
		
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			Especially that you can trust your own judgment? You know, a lot of things that we think that are
good for us, and I need to get it later you find out that it wasn't good for you. Have you ever
experienced that? Something good? That is good for me? You get it isn't? I don't think so this this
is wasn't wasn't the thing I thought it would be that it would be for me, and just let it go after
there's harm in it.
		
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			So our judgment sometimes is very flawed, very limited. So he's saying in one way he is saying in
one way. That is the thing that Allah is giving you and you hate, and you fail to appreciate and you
think you must trust Allah for it. Even the thing that you love, you will be able to trust Allah for
it because there might be harm edits as well. In other words, if you trust Allah in one, you have to
trust him in another. You have to trust him completely. And the central heart trust Allah subhanho
wa Taala completely more than its own judgment.
		
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			More than it was more than what it sees.
		
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			My sight is limited, my experience is limited. A lot knows more than what I know sees far beyond
what I can see. So that that temporal hardpressed Allah subhanho wa Taala completely. Another
meaning of this will lo Allen is that if you are unable to extract the benefit from what you hate,
you'll be unable to extract the benefit from what you love.
		
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			If you are unable to see Allah wisdom and what you hate, you will not be able to fully see Allah's
wisdom and what you love, because what you love is distracting.
		
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			What you love is distracting. And it's harder to be thankful that pay than patient. So when
something bad happens to you, that is a time when you truly go back to a lie and you remember him
and you pray to Him. If this does not happen, and you fail to appreciate it was never upon you in
adversity. It's also hard to appreciate that wasn't Mr. panya when he blesses you.
		
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			So Subhana Allah, this is something you need to ponder and to reflect upon. That whatever Allah
gives you, you have to give yourself completely to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And as a youth says,
Sophia, and he says, is Ella Mia could not read my account.
		
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			It
		
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			cannot read ferried my account, if what you want does not happen, then want what happens.
		
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			And again, those are, this is one of the things that I hope you can remember.
		
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			I want something I really needed to happen, I really needed to materialize, it doesn't happen. He's
telling you instead of focusing on what is missing,
		
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			and longing for it, and wishing that it had happened rather focus on what Allah decided that it
should happen and one debt and desire that as long as it's not a sin, we have to qualify it as long
as it's not a sin and something that displeases Allah. But otherwise, focus on what Allah wants, and
make your happiness and your pleasure in what Allah wants, and you will be happy
		
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			because the last plan is better than my plan. And one of the people who in fact,
		
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			demonstrates this very well is Omar Abdul Aziz
		
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			Rahim Allah. So, it says here that and this is his response to the passing of people, dear people
that were around him is Islam mahalik Abu medikament Omar Abdulaziz Abdul Aziz Rosa Mola
		
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			Omar He is
		
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			the son of Omar, Abdul Aziz Abdul Malik, and then his brother
		
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			and then his servant Musa him. All of them passed away in short days, consecutive days and few days,
one after the other.
		
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			And each one of them was a jewel was a general.
		
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			Abdul Malik was incredibly dramatic. His son was incredibly pious. You know, I kind of stunned that
when you lose, you will cry over not only because he was because he's your son, but because he
believes to push his father Rahim Allah to be our last panel.
		
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			And Musa him was like that. And he was he also lost his brother said so Arabi abou sobre todo sobre
he came to visit Amara he was the honey fan he says
		
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			ameerul momineen.
		
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			See, but we will see baetica tabea
		
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			He says, any prince of the believer yo yo Khadija May Allah increase your reward for the adversity
that you are facing. I haven't seen anyone facing such difficulty as you losing all of them one
after the other in few days. I haven't seen a son, like your son or a brother like your brother or a
servant like your servant.
		
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			So Omar Abdulaziz Rahim Allah he lowered his head when he said that. So the person sitting next to
Arabia, he said, You've renewed the sorrow and pain of the halifa. And why did you do this and say
all of this,
		
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			then him online because he lifted his head and he says, repeat what you said. And he repeated it.
And he said, for
		
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			one or the
		
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			other, he will note No, she and Canon in Delhi, Columbia. He says by Allah subhanho wa Taala, the
one who decreed that they should die, I do not claim that any of that did not happen.
		
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			That is in my heart. And he was sincerely saying this. In my heart, I do not wish that any of that
did not happen or did not take place. Because he is one of the people who used to say Allah make my
pleasure and happiness in what you own what what you decide, and what would you agree that what you
degree becomes my happiness, and my happiness becomes what you decree. So he says, though, that they
have passed away, I know that this pleases a lot that they would pass away and die at that
particular moment. And that also pleases me is not saying that there is no pain, it's natural to
have it. But that pain, when you know that this is something that Allah wants, decreases,
		
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			decreases in amount and decreases in duration,
		
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			which is different than a person who does not remember this, that this is the decree and the federal
law, but this is alized happy with this. There is reason behind that there is benefit behind it. The
only thing that they can see is their loss and suffering.
		
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			So they began to condemn this and to condemn that and you know, wish that it did not happen and wail
and cry, and their sorrow extends and it could ruin their life and it can ruin their health and all
of this.
		
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			So this is a sorrow that has not been tempered and mollified by the love of Allah subhana wa Tada.
But when you love Allah subhanho wa Taala
		
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			you will love what Allah loves, and you will hate what alight. So
		
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			the thankful heart
		
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			is the heart that sees or looks at the blessings of Allah subhanho wa Taala all the time. Because
this is the way that you can gain a central Hollywood shock or a thankful heart. And you see that in
every second a minute, hour and day we are swimming in the eyes of the last panel with an even in
the adversity right that we face. You can imagine that it could be a lot worse, but Allah saved you
from it.
		
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			But even if you're not facing adversity, right, and you're handling there, you are still you know,
in happiness and in the health and all of this, try to count all of that, and you won't be able to
and when you see the many blessings of Allah subhanho wa Taala around you that will push you to love
Allah and to thank Allah and to be happy with everything that he has given you. And when you know
that when Allah says that
		
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			when you send to me I will add an increase my name upon you, that will even make you more joyful of
what Allah has given you, y'all. I'm thanking you so that he can give me more and more. That is a
thankful heart. That is not resentful.
		
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			When it doesn't get what it wants, because it knows that in this life, there is no loss. But I want
you to underline this one.
		
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			Right? You don't lose anything in this life, because Allah compensates you for it in the next slide.
And it will make you live such a life that he will ask you, did you ever face any pain? And he will
say, No.
		
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			He will compensate you to the degree that you will not remember any sadness. So how can you imagine
that you have lost anything in this life, you haven't lost anything.
		
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			Everything that you have is with a lot of you that you want is with Allah subhana wa Tada.
		
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			And you can reach such a stage
		
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			where you can come close to what the prophets will allow you to send them as reported to have said,
and though this is not 100% authentic, but the meaning
		
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			is, sound is authentic. You know, what is reported that what he said when he left five, and people
pelted him with snows and they insulted him and all of that. And he was, you know, praying to Allah
Kanagawa to add alone. One of the things that he said, When Aamir Khan, because
		
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			if you are not angry with me, then I don't care about anything else.
		
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			If you're not angry with me, if you're not displeased with me, then I don't care about anything
else. What I gain and what I lose of this life was happy and was angry with me, that all does not
matter. Because you are sufficient for me. You were enough for me. I knew that you were enough for
me. If I need love, I can find it from you and you can make other people love me, I don't care about
that. If they're angry with me, you can take their anger away. If I need help, you can give it to
me. If my if I if there is some harm stopping me You can help me overcome it. I don't need anybody
else but you.
		
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			There is the thankful heart that doesn't need anyone but Allah and when it wants to thank thanks
Allah subhana wa Tada. You can reach that stage. When you when you want, when you want to thank and
think about the first person, the first one that you will find the first one that you want to think
about. And ask would be a last panel with Anna. And I just conclude this section about the thankful
heart with this really incredible saying again from you.
		
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			He says,
		
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			He
		
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			says if you're not happy with Allah subhanho wa Taala How do you ask him to be happy with you?
		
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			So if someone really asks you,
		
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			what is in your heart, are you happy with a law or not?
		
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			no law says most of humanity when you ask them that they're really not happy with a lot.
		
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			That includes Muslim, because everybody thinks themselves, he should have given me something but he
didn't give it to me.
		
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			100% happy with Allah, I deserve this. But he didn't give it to me. He gave it to someone else.
They're so focused on the dounia that's what we are. You know how that's how we inside judging Allah
based on the dunya gave it or did not give it to me. So he says you're not happy with Allah
performance with you? How can you be happy with your performance
		
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			with Him
		
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			He will can only be happy with you if you're happy with him. But all the allow
		
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			their content with a lot less content with them.
		
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			So the way for a lot to be happy with us for you to be happy with the last panel what to add.
		
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			The next thing is the remembering tongue. The tongue that has Vicar on it all the time.
		
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			And when the prophets have a lot of audio, send them you know lists things and Hadith. We should
understand that there are connections between them, they lead to each other somehow they are
connected. And you will be able to have a remembering tongue when your heart is thankful.
		
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			When your heart loves Allah Subhana Allah and sees his blessings upon you, your tongue automatically
will express that at hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen Subhana Allah, May Allah increase this, may Allah
bless it right, you will find yourself immediately connected to a last panel. And if you want to
have a thankful heart, one path to it is to have a remembering tongue. The Vicar of Allah subhanho
wa Taala is a way for you to remember a lot inside and for your heart to be thankful. Because
whenever you will remember a lot, it brings a change inside of you. Right.
		
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			When you own you're walking, and you see something wrong. And you remember to say how do we learn
ministry done? What do you what does that bring to you? What is that telling you immediately? Well,
the shaytan is involved. Now standing, looking at me looking at that the shaitaan is involved, and a
lot tells me that he's my enemy and that I should disagree.
		
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			And when I say I owe the villa he runs away. So the influence wanes and decreases. And now he's
looking at me all of these things you will remember when you say I would have been lying in a seat
on the road, you see, we'll take a different path, you will look the other way, and alone will save
you from it, and your email will increase. And that one of the Shakedown that he had planned, I will
now trick him and this particular hour through this how long that will be foiled.
		
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			So you want that battle for the remembrance of Allah subhanho wa Taala. When you say, last, last few
law, what happens? You remember all of the sins that you've committed, and you begin to see yourself
humble, very humble, not proud before Allah looking at what you've done, right? But humble before
Allah Subhana Allah because all of the wrong things that you've committed, and you don't know if
Allah have forgiven them or not. So you see yourself desperate for Allah's mercy. So the more that
you will see a specialist
		
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			that will increase your Corrado. You look at the people right next to you and you will say I'm the
worst person right here. And I'm not the best and they're worse to Allah make me better Yeah, Allah
save me and see how your connection with Allah subhanho wa Taala improve just by remembering Allah.
		
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			When you see something glamorous, very attractive. And you say the bacon I should, I should.
		
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			I am here on responding to your Kalia Allah. So living is the living over here.
		
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			Now this living, which is attractive, very attractive when we collect this, buy this earn more so I
can buy something better and more expensive and more extravagant. No, Allah TRUE LIVING is the
living
		
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			in Israel mentioned in the Hadith that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that said that
this statement in his home, only out of humility to Allah.
		
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			And that dwelling of the prophets or SMM is very humble,
		
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			is very humble, Danny, all in the most miskeen among us today.
		
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			Even a person Subhanallah who may not have a home today would have more than what the prophet
sallallahu Sallam had in his home. So his home was very, very humble. Even though he said in his
home, along with Elijah, true living is a little over, reminding yourself, this all is going to go
away. Invest in your app.
		
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			So Pamela, when you say something, it just awakened something in you? Oh, now I shouldn't I
shouldn't pay attention to this I should pay attention to something else, something better,
something loftier and more noble.
		
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			In another Hadith of the prophets of Allah, how are you sending them he says, which is similar
somewhat to the hadith of our chapter tonight. He says the asset data, either items or the external
value and feedback factor. In Kalamata such as the property he said, I'm selling him. If you see
people collecting and hoarding golden silver, then repeat these words and sentences frequently.
		
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			What should he repeat us? He says, say these words alone in the US.
		
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			He ally asked you for steadfast steadfastness in this matter in Islam meaning what as a matter of
Russia, and the resolve to for guidance to stay upon guidance. So the first one allow me
		
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			to make me steadfast and strong in Islam as well as the Medina rushed to give me strong
determination to commit what is virtuous was a Luca Mooji batura hermetic was the mmf erotic and I
asked you for what will make your Rama YG. But for me, what will make your Rama deserved? For me the
reason for your Rama? In other words, and the reason for your forgiveness, that is allow me to
commit the acts that will bring your Rama and forgiveness upon me. And to me was Lucretia
chronometric. And I asked you the thankfulness of your Nana was diabetic and that I will worship
You, as you would like me to was a Luca convince Salima, I asked you for a soundbar when you signed
		
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			on, and for a time that is truthful, was at Madonna was and I asked you of the good that you know
will be coming shortly my dad and I seek refuge from the evil that you know was the the man in the
country
		
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			and I asked you forgiveness for what you know that I have committed because you know the unseen and
what is hidden.
		
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			So consider
		
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			This didn't leave anything
		
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			that you need to protect you
		
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			and to benefit you in this life and in the next.
		
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			So that's why he was telling him about the law and the prophets of Allah was telling him
		
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			if you see them running after this life, if you see them collecting silver coins and gold coins,
Don't run after them, and don't do as they are doing. But instead, repeat these words and turn to
Allah subhanho wa Taala. And as to ask him for these things, because these things will last for you.
That
		
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			says,
		
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			Steven from its name, that say that the gold will leave you.
		
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			They don't leave you.
		
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			But these will not leave you and will stay with you. When you standing before our last panel with
the HANA. So remember that when you see people competing for this life, compete with your time. And
what pleases our last panel. What's the last thing in sha Allah, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam
talked about the last can the last treasure is having this pious wife that will support you and aid
you, especially in your hereafter in your email, but also in your dinner. This is the type of wife
		
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			that will be the best companion that you could possibly have.
		
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			The best friend that you could possibly have.
		
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			This is the wife that will nurture your email
		
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			will see that when you need help, she will help you.
		
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			When you need comforting and solace, she will comfort you.
		
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			When she when she sees that you're in pain. she'll try to take it away from you. When she sees that
you need support and encouragement she will encourage you
		
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			when she sees that you need to be pushed on the path of email she will push you
		
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			and that is the type of companion to have and to cherish and to look for.
		
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			And we all know that the prophets of Allah How do you send them says I want you to Allah Dini
Khalili vogliamo
		
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			that each one of you will follow the religion of his close friends. So pick your close friends
carefully, as the meaning of the Hadeeth right. You will follow the religion, the habits.
		
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			The how they talk, how they behave, their interests, their moral view, you will follow it.
		
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			You know, your habits will steal
		
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			from other people's habits, the more that you stay with them, you will steal the war the words you
will steal their actions and how they act how they react, you will steal it. See if you haven't seen
it through yourself, see it look at other people and how they do the longer that they stay in
contact with some people, the more that they will look like them, act like then talk like them
right.
		
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			So he says you will be like this person this close friend. So who is closest to you than the wife
who is always with you at home.
		
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			So this is your closest companion.
		
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			And the messengers of the law you're sending them says in another Hadith
		
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			dounia mata, this dunya is a provision
		
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			something that you can take to support you on your journey to the hereafter you know how the musafir
the travel takes provisions with him so he can eat and it can support him till he reaches his
destination. So he says dunia all of it is
		
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			the best of the provision of this world is a Morocco Scalia, the pious woman.
		
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			That is your best support of the industry. That will take you to Allah subhana wa tada and help you
on that path is a pious woman.
		
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			Because it is this highest woman that will help you when you forget Allah subhanho wa Taala she will
notice and you will do the same thing. But she will notice
		
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			that he's not praying on time. So and So Stein,
		
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			why don't you pray on time? To remind you gently?
		
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			You know, why did she go to the masjid right? still early, you can make it we can
		
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			look up, you know, 2030 minutes before Federer and pray to push you in that direction. There are
others who won't do that, which is not a pious and when others who will not do that. will say I
don't have enough money, earn more. My neighbor has more money. Why not us? No. Fine, take this job.
How about what can we just say just bring more money. There are those who will do that. But the
pious woman is not to say before you
		
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			Leave the home. Only Halla. We don't want to go to * fire. Even if it's less that's fine. But
don't take your kids and don't take me to Hellfire she will say that. That's how the pious woman
will take you and help you to go to Jenna.
		
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			In
		
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			a Hadith of the prophets of Allah and he was sending them.
		
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			He said,
		
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			he said a config agenda Should I tell you about? Who of your woman will go to Paradise?
		
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			Sula, he said, Oh, yes. Oh prophet of Allah tells us. He said, The cooloola do denude. Every woman
who is first he says What do what do these affection gloving when it comes to her husband?
		
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			What do you know, she's a rustle. So use the word birthing. Female, she gives birth to children.
		
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			Right. So she gives him gives him children. And she's also affectionate to him.
		
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			See, listen to this, either Holly. But I will see how the bizarre
		
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			he says, If she becomes angry, she gets angry. or somehow she's wronged.
		
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			or her husband is angry. She goes, puts her hand in the hand of her husband. And she says this is my
hand in your hand. My I will not be adorned by any sleep until you're happy.
		
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			This is this is your woman that will go to Paradise.
		
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			Now this is not easy to do, because he says, So allow it your salon right?
		
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			We'll see. Even through sometimes she's wrong. She's in the right, you're in the wrong. Right. But
she's sacrificing see the goal is going to Jenna is not easy.
		
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			And you have to sacrifice and compromise sometimes.
		
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			You know, and I know a lot of the brother scenarios and they're gonna memorize this, how do you can
go to the woman and say, you know, I learned this Teddy Bear, apply this right? Apply it? Well, if
you want to go to generate the blackmail horror every time. Yeah, that's not the attitude to have.
You know, I don't know if you're gonna go the agenda now. So
		
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			but it's, it's setting a standard, right? Or setting the bar and saying, aim for this. Aim for this,
right? So she's looking at it. And yeah, she maybe she's in the right and he's in the wrong and
maybe see who has to come and apologize. But sometimes, you know, male ego, right? I'm not going to
come in apologize, you know, why should I do this and whatever, or anger. So she knows no, I get to
put a loss of power to Allah before my own ego. I'm going to put in before my own Next, I'm going to
put in before this anger that I have. And I'll make this person for the sake of Allah subhanho wa
Taala make him happy tonight. Not gonna make him go to bed angry. Right? When it is for Allah
		
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			becomes easy, by the way. When it is I in him and my right and his right and he started it. No, she
said this nasty thing. It's very difficult. No one will apologize. But for a lot. When they both do
it for a lot becomes very easy. So she will go to them. And she will say I'm sorry for what
happened. I will not let go of your hand. I will not sleep until you're happy. And what happens all
of his anger just will go away. fight him, you know, he's angry. He overstepped the limits a little
bit. He said have the little kid hamdulillah she apologized, I don't have to apologize. She saved me
from this. But hamdulillah now the problem is behind them. That is the woman of gender, the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu sallam, when you get someone like this, hold on to them.
		
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			So when our women read this or hear that she should aspire to be such a woman, or when our men
		
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			hear this and read this, first of all, they should not set the standard so high that when it
doesn't, when she doesn't do this, he resents her and she becomes he becomes angry with her and he
says, You're not doing what you're supposed to know, look at what you're supposed to do. And you
will be this person. Sometimes he goes through and he says, I want you to be happy. Don't do
something that displaces a law for instance, if that's what she's asking for, but
		
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			I want you to be happy. How can I make you happy? I'm sorry if I said this, that is so this and that
that will angry. You become this person.
		
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			And then she made me laugh, then she will become that person for you. Right? So we don't want to
make it only the burden of our sisters or our woman you do this and you become the person who saves
the family and I will not care and I will not pay attention and I will not compromise compromise
should come from both sides. But here the focus is on
		
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			In our heads tonight on how this pious woman
		
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			is a treasure that Allah subhanho wa Taala talks about. So if you are not married yet ask Allah
Subhana Allah to Allah for you are married and your wife is not that yet as Allah Subhana Allah to
Allah to make her that if she fails to be
		
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			also thanks Allah subhanho wa Taala for it because maybe Allah Subhana Allah to Allah is taken away
your sins, by whatever you are experiencing. And Allah knows more than you know. So even remember,
go back to the first one a thankful,
		
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			be thankful for whatever Allah subhanho wa Taala gives you, because then that is the heart that has
made hedgerow to Allah, Pedro, where it has migrated to gender already before your body has migrated
to gender. That's how he has inhabited gender as well. Whatever it looks, it sees a loss of Hannah
what to Anna and his care and his guidance and his love. So it's never angry, never resentful. Never
he never hateful, only sees the care of Allah subhanho wa Taala around it. And Allah subhanho wa
Taala will bless you will you have that heart So the most important thing is have this thankful
heart as Allah Subhana Allah to Allah for Allah, ask Allah for this remembering tongue and try to
		
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			have it and work on having and becoming this pious wife of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam has praised
whereas the last panel was,
		
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			in conclusion to make those who compete for the Hereafter, and to have this thankful heart and to
have this remembering tongue and to have this pious spouse that will remind us of Allah subhana wa
Allah when we forget your lawmakers of those who hear these things, and follow them the
		
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			satanic alarm or a shadow