Ahmad Arshad – Companionship Matters
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The importance of finding people who have a connection to Allah's teachings is discussed, as it is linked to a "monster" or a person in a hospital. The wayibles of the way they work, which is called ya'll, are also mentioned. The path of the Holy Prophet Muhammad PBUH is also mentioned, as it is the path of the wayney of the Holy Prophet Muhammad PBUH.
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Alhamdulillah wa kaffa wa salamun ala ibadihi al
-lazeena astafa amma ba'd fa'udhu billahi minash
shaitanir rajim bismillahir rahmanir raheem wal-lazeena jahadu
fina lana hdi annahum suwa lana subhana rabbika
rabbal izzati amma yusifoon wa salamun ala al
-mursaleen walhamdulillahi rabbil alameen Allahumma salli ala sayyidina
Muhammadin wa ala aali sayyidina Muhammadin wa barik
wa sallim In today's world, there is a
common complaint that children are getting out of
hand, children are not being brought up properly,
children are not getting the value system that
they need.
In other words, a society that is being
formed is not looking the way we want
it to be.
Now there are many reasons for this, and
if we find out from different people, we
will tell you many treatments for it.
One of these treatments is that it is
seen that very few role models are seen
in the lives of our children.
That is, such personalities who can inspire a
person, can motivate a person, because every person
needs it.
Every person, whether he is worldly or religious,
sees a person above himself.
For example, if you want to play a
sport like basketball, then you will not see
such a player who does not even know
how to dribble.
Certainly, you will see such a person, you
will try to follow him, you will try
to find a person who has worked hard
in his field, you will find a name,
you will find a rank, you will find
a person who has an art, abilities, capabilities.
Now he will become your role model in
basketball, that I want to be like Mike.
In our time, there used to be a
Michael Jordan, every person used to say this
all the time.
So a person fundamentally, psychologically understands that a
person who has beauty, goodness, a person who
has art, a person who has abilities, capabilities,
a person wants to be followed.
Similarly, if we want our children to become
religious, and that person prays that our children
become the saints of Allah, become the saints
of Allah, become good, become righteous, become honorable.
So different people try different things for that.
For example, taking a child to the mosque
is a very good thing.
That a person is attached to the mosque,
a person takes him to school on Saturdays
and Sundays.
It is better than nothing, if not every
day, then one or two days a week,
at least we are getting education and training.
But if we look at the Holy Qur
'an, Allah wants something different from this.
Allah says, O you who believe, fear Allah,
be mindful of Allah, be with the truthful
and the truthful.
Now this Sidq is a name of quality.
What does Allah want?
To be with those with qualities.
Now to be with those with qualities, one
has to find those qualities.
If a person is lacking in righteousness, then
find the righteous.
If a person is lacking in truthfulness, then
find those with truthfulness.
If a person is lacking in modesty, then
find those with modesty.
If a person is lacking in the love
of Allah, then find those who have a
connection with Allah, who have the love of
Allah.
This is what we need to look for.
When a person is ill, doesn't he look
for a good doctor?
Doesn't he look for a good cardiologist, nephrologist,
etc.?
Let's go and see where he studied, where
he did his residency, where he became a
doctor.
Let's go to the person who has the
best ratings, even if we have to wait
a little.
Similarly, we will have to find such people
in the religion.
Because a person's psyche is special in that
it is more influenced by the Nafus than
by the Nukush.
Nukush means Naksh.
Instead of reading books, one has to read
the books, the stars.
Instead of Nukush, it is easier to follow
the Nafus.
It is easier to follow.
That's why if you look at the languages
we have learned since childhood, now we didn't
bring any language from Allah.
But Allah has put a special feature in
every child that he acquires the language.
Now what do they do?
They follow.
Those who have Koonu, those who have Jura,
i.e. mother or father.
Now if the parents speak Punjabi, the child
will start speaking Punjabi.
If the parents speak Pashto, the child will
start speaking Pashto.
If they speak English, the child will start
speaking English.
This is a common thing.
It is understandable.
Allah has put it in our nature to
follow.
And we do.
The person who says that we don't follow
anyone.
No, this is not true.
Every person follows someone or the other in
everything.
Yes, he will innovate something or the other.
He will improve something.
However, he does follow.
Someone has made new clothes or fashion.
He will also improve on the previous fashion.
Someone has made a new wallet.
There is no revelation from the previous wallet.
According to the previous wallet, he will improve
a little, change the design and make it.
So we follow in everything.
Whether it is worldly knowledge or religious knowledge.
Now we go to universities and spend thousands
and millions of dollars.
Why?
If you could get all the knowledge from
books, you would get everything on YouTube.
But going to a university, going to a
college, taking admission, learning with teachers, doing research,
this is a whole process.
Then you go and get a bachelor's, master's
or PhD.
So you will see a very small lack
of this in religion.
We do not pay attention to this.
Allah wants us to be connected with good
people.
He did not tell us to meet once
a week.
He did not tell us to meet once
a month.
What do we do?
On a Friday, we go and listen to
the speech of the Maulvi.
With great difficulty, we try to go on
the occasion when the prayer is about to
start, so that we do not have to
listen to the entire speech.
This is a very superficial connection.
You do not see this in the companions.
You do not see this in the followers.
The companions were not with the Prophet.
That is why they are called the companions.
Ashab-e-Rasool.
Because of the companionship.
They understood that that if you want to
get a position, you will get it through
companionship.
You will get it through connection.
And after connecting, what was their nature?
The Holy Qur'an testifies to this.
That they used to listen and act.
So first of all, connection.
After connection, listening.
And after listening, acting.
Today, first of all, we do not connect.
If we connect, we do not listen.
We do not listen.
Do you understand the difference between listening and
hearing?
Listening means that the voice enters the ears
and enters the heart.
Hearing means that only one ear comes out
and the other comes out.
We do not make a place in the
heart.
That is called hearing.
So, listening.
Meaning, listening to something, listening from the heart,
and acting on it, obeying it.
So, this is a temperament.
In this temperament, you are searched for.
In this temperament, you are searched for.
In this temperament, you are entrusted.
This is a temperament with a lot of
trust.
Now, look at me, if you go to
a doctor or surgeon, I remember, two and
a half years ago, I don't know, or
maybe before that, I had to go to
the hospital.
Now, the doctor, the surgeon, I didn't know
him.
Neither did I know him, nor did I
know him.
I just knew that this person is in
this hospital.
He is lying here.
And, he is board certified.
Meaning, this person was certified.
Now, if that person faints, we are there
for him.
If that person puts something in the breathing
tube, we are there for him.
If he takes a knife and cuts through
it, we are there for him.
This is called complete trust.
Meaning, with our heart and soul, with our
life, we have a trust relationship with the
doctor.
We never even question him.
Meaning, before fainting, we don't say, no, doctor,
I don't trust you.
We question him.
We answer the question.
And, we are usually satisfied.
So, this is what a person should do
in this world as well.
When you see a good friend, when you
find a good friend, then, you should also
trust yourself.
You should connect with that friend and with
the intention to gain something from him.
A person does not go to a doctor
without a purpose.
Nor does a doctor allow a patient without
a purpose to come to him come and
have tea with me.
He knows that my time is precious and
I don't want to waste his time.
Similarly, when Allah the Almighty grants a good
friend, then, connect with the purpose.
Try to achieve the purpose.
The eyes, the prize, whatever it is called,
should be there.
Then, Allah the Almighty gives you complete benefit.
So, for the children and for yourself as
well, you should take special care of this
thing that you should have good company and
get along with good people.
If you this one thing, then, you will
see that there are a lot of diseases.
There are a thousand kinds of diseases.
There are psychological diseases, lustful diseases, satanic diseases.
Allah the Almighty protects you from all of
them.
There is so much benefit in this.
A community is formed, a support structure which
is called like-minded people.
Every person has the same purpose and is
connected to the same thing.
Sometimes, a person procrastinates or feels lazy, then
another person picks it up.
When a person starts falling, then another person
supports him.
So, there is a lot of benefit in
this.
You can get a practical example of this
in the Tablighi Jamaat.
Our Mufti, Rafi Usmani Sahib, may Allah have
mercy on him, when he used to come
here, once, in his speech, he explained the
meaning Koonooma Sadiqeen.
He said, look, the lowest level of this
is that which a person does in the
Tablighi Jamaat.
What happened is that a person went to
the mosque and the effect of sitting in
the mosque for 3 days, for 10 days,
for 40 days, etc.
A person goes for 4 months.
So, it is the company of pious people.
So, the environment of the mosque is the
company of pious people.
So, a person starts seeing So, at the
very least, keep this much.
He said, above this, what the Shariah wants
from us is that a person has a
reforming relationship.
A reforming relationship is that a person good
and bad, halal and haram with a person
about these things.
Usually, the teachers in the madrasas or the
imams of the mosques are there because if
there is a question, a person goes and
asks it.
This is a reforming relationship.
All the teachers in our madrasas, we used
to reform all of them.
We used to talk about reforming or by
scolding or lovingly.
They were good people, Mashallah.
So, the highest level of this the Qur
'an wants is that a person should in
someone's hand and establish a spiritual and spiritual
relationship with someone.
And like a dead person who supports himself,
a person supports himself.
There is a complete submission state.
A person says that a person spiritual relationship
with someone.
Whoever gets this is very good.
So, there are levels.
There are levels in If a child wants
to go to a community college, that is
also a level.
If a child a four-year public school,
that is also a level.
If a child a private university, that is
also a level.
If a child goes to an Ivy League
college, that is also a level.
There are levels.
Similarly, there are levels in At least, a
person should have a with the mosque or
Tablighi Jamaat.
A person a relationship with the mosque A
person should a relationship with the or Tablighi
Jamaat.
should have a relationship
with or a Hazrat Ma'ruf Karkhi, Hazrat
Abdul Qadir Jilani, Hazrat Shahabuddin Soharwardi, Hazrat Khawaja
Muinuddin Chishti, Hazrat Ali Hajweri, Hazrat Bahauddin Naqshband,
Hazrat Mujaddad Al-Afsani, Hazrat Shahab Waliullah, All
of these names were chosen by Allah to
give the role of Murabbi Muzakki for the
Ummah.
Those who are fortunate enough, Alhamdulillah, should also
try to have this sohbat with them.
The more the sohbat is fixed, the more
spiritual progress it will have.
This is a very simple thing.
The more the sohbat is fixed, the more
spiritual progress it will have.
Sohbatul Muazzam.
But the sohbat does have an impact.
This is why the Hadith of the Holy
Prophet Muhammad PBUH states, Al-maru ala deeni
khalilihi A person has an intimate relationship with
his Khaleel.
In our Punjabi language, it is called Yaarbali.
Yaarbali is on the path of Khaleel.
The way Yaarbali works, we will work in
the same way.
This is why it is important to have
good Yaarbali.
Sometimes, Yaarbali makes us do bad things.
This is why it is important to have
good Yaarbali.
Those who have good Yaarbali will have a
good impact.
Those who have good friends will have an
easy path.
You are understanding the degrees, right?
In your life, you should have at least
one of these degrees.
You should have at least one of these
degrees.
If you have a high degree, then you
will have a good impact.
This is a gift from Allah.
A person should take advantage of this.
Now, how do we take advantage of Mashayikhs?
There is a light in the sohbat.
This can be seen from the Hadith.
A person sitting in the sohbat of such
people is never doubtful.
The Holy Prophet Muhammad PBUH said, that he
is not rejected.
So, this is how it is.
His Zikr has its own impact.
Allah puts His Zikr's impact on others.
So, his silence also has an impact.
It is not necessary that he would always
sit and speak about some reformation.
You will find a lot of Mashayikhs like
this.
They were very quiet.
For example, Hazrat Khawaja Baqi Billah, who was
a sheikh of Hazrat Mujaddid Alif Thani, was
a very quiet person.
He was a very quiet person, but his
attention was very strong.
So, Allah had given him something.
So, Hazrat Khawaja brought Hazrat Mujaddid Alif Thani
to his students.
He was quiet.
Now, if someone came to him and said,
that Hazrat, you should keep narrating, it will
be very beneficial for the students.
So, he did a very good thing.
I really liked this thing.
He used to say, those who have not
learned anything from our silence, will not learn
anything from our words.
This is how it really is.
Because words are the actions of the tongue.
It is the action of the ears.
Listening to words is the action of the
tongue, and the action of the ears.
Taking advantage of the company is the action
of the heart.
It is like a magnet, which is attracting
the effects.
As it is, someone said, I live my
heart's world in this way, I remember the
silence of the tongue in my heart.
And love is the action of the heart.
The picture of the beloved is in the
heart, the one who is bowing his head.
There is no action of the tongue, nor
is there any action of the tongue, nor
is there any action of the ears.
This is the different part.
The senses, which we call, the five senses
do not have any action.
Neither to see with the eyes, but the
eyes are bowed.
Neither to speak with the tongue, nor to
listen with the ears.
Do we know the habit of the Prophet?
The habit of the Prophet was that he
used to have very long discourses.
We have to have long discourses.
The Prophet used to have very short discourses.
But as it is said, to close the
ocean in a cocoon.
Those discourses used to be very short.
So short, that they would go straight to
the heart.
And the companions, they had made up the
temperament to listen and act.
So Allah used to do it according to
their temperament.
So it was just a little discussion.
There was not much of a long discussion.
Because it could have been a very long
discussion.
But the parents who are contemplating what to
do with their children.
Especially here, the environment is such that you
see filth everywhere.
Filth in the environment.
Because of which, there is filth in the
mind.
The eyes become impure.
And the ego moves towards evil.
So when we are living in such an
environment, then we may have to work hard
to protect ourselves.
If someone was in Afghanistan, it is a
pure environment there.
So it is possible that they may not
have to work so hard.
They may have to do what is needed.
We also remember that when we were growing
up in our society, it was a good
thing.
We did not have to do much extra.
But now, as the generations are coming, we
need more hard work.
We have to change our tactics.
So now that person says, we did this
in our childhood.
That was our childhood.
The society was different.
The environment was different.
That person did his work.
According to today's society, according to today's environment,
according to today's people, we have to adopt
similar tactics.
Our children who go to school, we have
no idea what kind of filth is there.
There is an invitation of sin from all
sides.
It is an open invitation.
No one is asking.
No one is saying.
No one can say.
In such a situation, if they are saved
from sin, then they are the true saints
of Allah.
So, we should not put extra burden on
them.
We should bring them into good company.
A place where they are inspired.
A place where they are motivated.
A place where they feel that we also
have to change.
We also have to become something according to
our religion.
We should draw their heart to this.
Some call it taste.
Some call it taste.
To become the taste of Allah.
Meaning, the taste of something that one is
addicted to.
That is called taste.
If there is a desire to taste something,
that is called taste.
I am very fond of eating ice cream.
If you eat ice cream once and then
eat it again and again and then you
feel like eating it again and again, then
it becomes a taste.
So, in order to create God's pleasure and
God's taste, one has to sit in the
company of God's people.
So, InshaAllah, try and work hard for this.
And the young people, those who are not
married, they should also think ahead, InshaAllah.
Those who are married, those who do not
have children, should also think ahead.
And those who have children, should also pay
attention to this.
I personally hope that God will protect the
faith of my husband and I.
May God grant us a life of goodness,
righteousness, and purity.
Ameen, Rabbul Alameen.
And finally, Alhamdulillahi Rabbil Alameen.