Adnan Rajeh – Tafseer Surat AlKahf #09
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The transcript discusses the importance of money in creating society and creating a community, as well as the significance of it in building society and creating a community. It describes the importance of being clear about one's own values and avoiding giving opportunities for others to change their own views. The transcript also touches on the importance of being clear about one's own goals and personal relationships, as well as the need to be clear about one's own values and not allow others to change their own views.
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So the Cavs theme is a very unique one in the Quran because of itself as a very unique positioning in the Quran, not just being in the middle of the Quran, but also it's the only sort of that we have any any evidence at all that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam specified reciting it on a weekly basis on a certain day like that's the only sort of we have, everything else is doesn't really have that level of, I guess,
importance. And throughout the generations and centuries, scholars of Islam have given a certain kind of a certain level of attention, probably more than any other surah in the Quran. And it's a long one, because usually sources that are given that level of attention are shorter stories that are a bit easier for people to kind of memorize, like yes, even says, done, whatnot. But it's just over 10 pages, which is just around him, which is only half of us. It's a long, it's a long surah. When it talks about, again, the way that it's very systematic sutra, and it talks about a very important concept. It gives us the tools that are needed
for building societies or communities or starting something. That is, the closest word I can come up with is a civil civilization. And so to have talks about the four elements that you need, in order to build something that's beyond yourself, or beyond the individual. Now,
funny enough for how Allah subhanaw taala. But as at these four tools, are the tools that the individual needs as well, personally to help build himself, but they are the same tools that when using on a communal basis, you also build something that can sustain itself. And these are the four things that the prophets of Allah is seldom taught, and you know, brought forth
to the Sahaba into the into the Arabic world into the Muslim world.
But he did do it in the same sequence that the Quran teaches it and sort of guff meaning Alia salatu salam brought forward the first element, which was the element that is spoken of within the story. And the students called by by the story itself, the idea, the theology, the ideology, the set, or the, the the number of values and principles that the society is going to stand for, and they're going to going to carry in their minds and in their hearts. Now, that specific part, that specific element at the beginning, is by far the most unique of all of them, because the next three are things that all people around the globe, participate in, in different in different ways. I've always
have number two as wealth, money, materialism, possessions, number three is going to be knowledge. And number four is going to be power status, social status, or political even, or military will. Now when you look at all these things, every single civilization on the planet has, has a different level of of obtaining these things. But what makes one group or one movement unique from the other, is not just how much money they had, or how much knowledge they had, or how much power they had. It's the idea that fueled it all. Because as a person, if you have wealth, and you have knowledge, I mean, you have social status or political status, you have power, what is it going to do for you, if
you don't have a proper idea that guides at all, if the idea is not there, then you cannot guide all this? It has, you have to have something to begin with it. And that's why we have a problem today with you know, as a race, our youth grow up with the idea of obtaining all three, you have to go to university, you have to have knowledge, why so that you can have money later on? They could have status, okay, why? Why am I going to have all these three things at the end, and when there's no clear explanation of what I'm going to do with it, or the point of having it or the intention behind it, or I'm going to guide or I'm going to challenge channel, you improvise. And when people
improvise, they sometimes do it right. And sometimes they don't, it's very easy. And sometimes they you know, they end up using it for a completely different reason. Or it's doesn't have a reason at all. And it just, it's just there. And then you just repeat the same thing. You have kids, if that's the culture that you come from, and you tell them to do the same thing. And then it's this vicious circle is endless loop. It's a world whole well, it never ends. But at the end, nothing's being done. All this energy is being wasted, because it doesn't have an idea to fuel it. And that's why the story that we'll catch at the beginning is the most unique of all, it's the most important of
all of them, because you have to have the idea. You have to know what you stand for. Why are you here? Why are you breathing? Why are you going to go out there and get knowledge and get up
To gain wealth and power, what's the point of all of this? If that's there, then sha Allah, you will be successful. No matter how little the possessions you have, no matter how little, how little wealth or knowledge or, or power you have, if you have the right idea, then you are going to use it for the best purpose, and you're going to optimize its efficiency and effectiveness. Why? Because you know why? That's why because you know why you're taking it all. And if you don't know, then it's just a basic, you're shooting in the dark, or you make it up as you go along. Or you have to understand your own understanding. And I think that's what makes total comp so unique. And that
makes the first story so incredibly important that we all take time to look at it. We go through in Sharla. And we went through the details. Now the second story, which is the story of the two men and two men and two orchards. And it talks about wealth, possessions and materialism, it looks at it from a number of different different angles, and it shows you what money can do if you don't have the right idea. If you don't understand what money is for, or why Allah subhanaw taala gives you more money, and sometimes doesn't give others or why some people have more than than others. And how how that's supposed to affect or does it affect to begin with? And if it does have an effect on the
person, whether he has too little wealth, or too much of it? What effect should it have? And how am I supposed to view money? And how am I supposed to view myself with the materialism with my materialistic possessions that I have? And how do I put that in the equation of success? Is money is money success, and how much money is success? And what to do? When does it all end? Right? So we looked at the story, the story is very deep in that sense. So we got to see how you know, there were two different people, one of them who saw money to be the pinnacle of all great achievements in life and he viewed himself to be better than his brother anecdotal, Minka Madden lives whenever I have
more money, and I have more data. So I'm better than you. Like, basically, don't give me advice, based on what are you giving me advice, you have nothing, I have something, because that's how we viewed success. And then he walks in and he talks, walks into his orchard, as he has oppressed himself and he started saying what he actually believes. And he shows me shows us as we're listening, because we're listening to this because we're this is for us to learn. And he shows how he feels entitled to what he has. He feels like he deserves it. He looks at the money and he sees it as a reason for him to have
absolute financial security and safety. Me he does not have any Tokota Allah suppose he doesn't understand how life works. He thinks that he has enough money for him never ever to need anyone ever again. And that's how that's how he lives his life. He feels good. I'm never I'm always going to be fine. Another another problem. He doesn't necessarily believe in Allah subhanaw taala anymore. Right and he's doesn't believe in judge and accountability. He explains very clearly what happens when you have a lot of money, you don't know what to do with it, or you made all the money and you didn't have the proper idea to begin with. And now this money is sitting there and it's causing you a lot
of mental problems or intellectual issues because you don't know how to deal with it. And that's why the longest commentary see the way it sort of works is there's introduction and then there's a story and then commentary is the story then commentary is the longest commentary we have is on the story of the two minute portraits even though their story's not very long it's pretty pretty short. It gets a few conversations one guy is speaking to his friend and one guy speaking to himself and then two guys speaking to each other it was over quite quick and not mention it
and nothing nothing amazing happened like and sort of things in the story of Alka huff and he went on to say that the I need
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does our one hook meaning that the sun itself at Slate would would be would be bent so it wouldn't enter the cave. Something that is a physical change of the laws of the universe. That's amazing when we listen to that yeah some people find that hard even to to deal with but but the story of these two men there's nothing there it's just two guys one viewed money one way the other one viewed money the other way differently and then the other person lost it or whether Indonesia or Africa or we lose it or whatever it is that you possess today you will not possess you possess the opium you wouldn't have not even the clothing that you're wearing right now the glasses that you have so you
can see it's not going to be there nothing's going to be there you'll you'll lose it all on the day of judgment so if you in any form in any way build some of your self value or you can some of your self value and your self importance on money then I need you're gonna be it's gonna be hard for you and Nokia because nothing is left nothing not let there's no land there's there's nothing the status isn't there either. You can't pull strings your milky armor you can't go to someone say Do you remember like years I took care of you now I need you today and Allah He is not willing to look at you.
My no one told I didn't make you you didn't have to my I said no drama hasn't you go fight someone else's speak to your own mother is not willing to offer you anything. You know, when your father no one your children that you raised no one cares, because things have changed. And that important concept within the story itself. We cited a number of talking about the comment on this on this story. And we've arrived at number 49 I think no, we stopped it number 48. So we missed
out with a number 49 Today is where we are right now we're in the middle of a snapshot of your myopia. Now, every student, every sort of the most students of the Quran, have one or two or more snapshots of your milky way there is no surah in the Quran that tells the whole story of the Day of Judgment. There's no story that tells you everything is going to happen. Every soldier has a small snapshot, just showing Oh, this is this is something that's gonna happen, I think, and the story here are the snapshot in this sutra, or regarding this story, the story of wealth specifically
starts by you when he says to paint with I know a woman who say you will do Birla What are elderberries, ye shall know whom for them to hold your main home. And when we cause the mountains to lose their solidity and they are moving forward fluidly and they are destroyed in their crumbled and they're no longer you no longer carry the same characteristic that they always did. The Rock isn't rock anymore. It's you say you're just move forward with total elderberries and you look at the Earth you look at the ground and it's all and it's all the same levels all leveled it's all clear you can see everything on it there's nowhere for you to hide that's that's it there's nowhere for
you to hide there's no Sahara and there's no gerbil there's no Valley there's no mountain there's nowhere for you to go run away from people and just hide behind something waiting for it no no, it's everyone's exposed because it's all
leveled and leveled land ye shall know whom everyone is brought forward
every human being from demolished and everyone diverse intellectual person until the last day for them nobody had a minimum a Haida and we did not leave anyone out. No one is going to be accepted from this not one person will get the exception from that day. Well, who do you do Allah Rob because of and then they are put in lines and they stand in front of their Lord. They're being presented to their Lord in lines and there'll be called upon to Munna come out for Laconia come when you have come to us today, the way we pray to do the first time around. But as I'm to Allah Naja Allah Allah, to be honest, you actually made the allegation, you claimed that there would be no appointment for
you. And this was not going to happen that there was not going to be a moment where you'll be brought back to the One who created it to begin with. Now when he says subhanaw taala, that you come back to me today, the way I created with the first time, what is he talking about?
See what he's talking about is on that day, you go back to the basics of who you are as a person. Because who we are as people is pretty similar. If you break us down into our simple elements, I'm not talking about the physical ones, I'm talking about what we're made of just that who we are as people are pretty similar, but because there's all this adornments that surround us we look different, right? You you have you have these certificates, you have these Shahadat, right, you you studied something, you sell you a bunch of stuff. So you have all these, you know, degrees that you have on the wall, you own you have a lot of possessions that you own money, you have a lot of money,
and people are known to be a CEO of something or you know, you're president of this or Associate of that, something like that. And you know a lot of people so your networking skills are high and people see you in a certain eye. So right now you're sitting, we're sitting amongst each other, but everyone has a bunch of things that you know, identify that identify him differently, and put him in a certain places based on what they've done. So far. younger, younger people don't, don't have much. So they're still just kind of making it up as they go along. They're developing it slowly. But older people they've already established a certain certain degree of parameters for themselves of who they
may be. On the Day of Judgment, it's all gone. Your Will pm and nothing none of that matters anymore. Your degrees mean nothing. Your money means less. Your status and power is something you actually hate now because you feel so you feel like you're ripped off, because you never got to cash in with all the networking skills you had and all the people you knew and all the good things you did you couldn't you didn't cash into the with any of it. So you're back to your basics. Just you just you and what you stand for, and what you did, period, nothing else matters. Nothing from the you know, the president of the planet, if one day this may have to the person who had who who the
history books never even mentioned
lived and died without a piece of documentation to say that he was around. Right, left no trace anywhere. They're all the same thing. They stand together right now on the day of judgment and they're presented to Allah subhanaw taala totally equal. Cara halacha como Well, Amara that we are created the first time, completely quality. And that's and this is the point of the story of the orchards. That is temporary. It's remember the I the first i o that a blossom methanol hayati, dunya, right? Give them the example of this worldly life. What is it? It's water that came from the sky. Hence the soil where there's some potential life comes out of it because the stalks are green
and high and strong and
And then they, they're not anymore. And they, they become dry and the wind takes them and they've, they're scattered into nothing. Again, don't take it personally, there's nothing here to be offended by this is how life works. It's a very simple circle cycle, you're here for a very short period of time, and you're going to move on, you're just here for a short period, make the best of it, because it's going to end soon. It's not about you. It's not about me, it's not about anyone. There's nothing special about us. When it comes to this. Everyone goes through the same, some of us have longer cycles than others. Some of us are green for a bit longer. Some of those dry up a bit
earlier. But at the end, it's still the same idea. It's a simple cycle. If you can't see that what exists right now, regarding you and me is temporary, then your vision of the world is clouded isn't clear. I know you're thinking, Oh, we all know that. No, take a moment right now, who you are right now, this is not actually who you are. This is the vision, this is the person that you think you are, this is the person you've been able to build so far right now. But your milk, Iam is not going to be the same thing. None of that is going to matter anymore, what's going to be left and here's the thing it's like, it's like we're putting layers, right on a cake, we're just putting one layer
over the other. But nothing matters except one small ingredient way down in the bottom. Now you can't see it anymore, because you put so many layers on top. And how you identify yourself right now is through this big thing that you've made. And you have all these layers and all this all this complexity around you surrounding yourself this how you identify, but the thing is, when he's trying to tell you some I know data is all of that doesn't matter, it's all temporary is going to be washed away, they're going to come back to that simple basis of who you are the foundation of who you are, that's all going to be left with all of it is going to go if you are carrying any hope on it, then
you're really mistaken. You're going to be left with your character, your idea and then what you did what you actually did for the sake of Allah subhanho That is all that's left. It's all of this and that's why you will come up with a lock on outcome or whatever you're gonna be created the way we created your list like that with the simple needs of who you are as a person and then you decided to you're gonna have to that of course you're gonna have to bet no one's not telling you not to do that anymore. That's not to try and get knowledge and trying to get money and try to get power No, do all of it you need it in order to survive in this world and to make a difference but however remember
that all of it is just temporary it's all just a mask is just a show is just an appearance. It's not really who you are and it's not who he's going to look at so pilot with Donegal multicam because he all of that is going to go away Alright, so now this is a snapshot of your camera's not done yet now the eye after it will kind of sum it all up so we're tight from a number 49 of swords of guns with page 299 If you're carrying a
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So the final part of this, you have to imagine these things, meaning whatever you're talking about a snapshot of your work, I mean, it's not very useful. Unless you take a moment to imagine it. Actually think about it. Actually try to put yourself on that date in that position, and then see what you feel like and see it and see, are you ready for it? Are you okay with it, you feel like you've done enough and you've you behaved in a certain manner that allows you to feel comfortable with with what is going to come on that day.
What will the Al Kitab. Now, scholars differ on what is meant by what will the Al Kitab
because some cannot see this YouTube
or I believe so. All that is different presentations for this for this is specifically so it couldn't mean that the book itself was presented or
Put in a place where it could be accessed. Or it also can mean that the books themselves, all the books, all the records of the human beings were brought and presented. So this is talking about the moment where the Sahara is starting to fly. I mean, there's this, there's a moment on the Day of Judgment, where all the records and all the books, everything that we've all done in our personal records will come flying down, and we're going to, we're going to be handed our records records, now we're gonna, you're gonna get some time to look at it. Why before you do your history, you get to look at it all so that you can prepare your defense, because a lot of this stuff you're gonna be
asked about. So you better have your, you know, your story straight to explain, you have to explain a lot of this stuff, meaning when Allah subhanaw taala asks you okay, I see here that on this day you did this. So why was that the best use of your time, or money or effort or whatever, it is something that I told you to do it, you do it for the right intention, why? So a lot of these things are going to be asked about so you need to prepare your defense, it's as simple as it's a court of law. But the judges Allah subhanaw taala. It's as simple as that. So the book was, is put or it's presented, and this is referring to his symbolizing the moment when we all get our records, federal
imagery mean, machete in Murphy, and then you see, and we really mean the Muslim. And the Arabic language means those who break laws or break norms, norms have goodness, or norms of issues that people view to be superior or to be of righteousness. Now, that's why the word itself has a legal term meaning now and also if you if you're, if you're talking, if you're within a legal setting, then the word MoodGYM in Arabic means someone who breaks the law, right? Because the law at the end, what is it? What is Allah, Allah is just basically the norms that human beings see to be good, or as you know, see, to be something that we have to abide by. So when would you demean are those who
broke the norms of goodness, meaning Allah subhanaw taala told them to do the right thing, and they refused, and they broke those laws, and they did what they wanted anyway. So this is an ethical term. And what do you mean, and why is it ethical term? It's not specifically a religious one. Now, you may say, Well, you know, ethics is religion. And that is true. But the word Muslim is more of an ethical one that it is specifically earliest one, because it could be from any religion really doesn't matter. Someone who steals or kills or breaks into people's houses or takes his possessions or miss treats them that doesn't doesn't really have a
religion attached to it. It's something people do, or they don't do. Many non Muslims don't do that. Right. But who do you mean? So you see the people who did all that, who broke all the laws, Allah subhanaw taala gave whether they believed in or they didn't wish, 15 ilish FARC is a very high level of fear.
It's a level of fear that shows physically. So hope is just fear. And it's just a shock. I mean, that you're scared to the point where there's some physical amount of manifestation to it, meaning you're shaking, or you can see you could see the person, he's paled, right voltage. Falck means that there's a physical manifestation of fear. So you'll see those who broke all the laws, Allah subhanaw taala, put for them in extreme fear, and physical fear Murthy from what they find within the book.
When they're given the book, and they look into it, they get physically afraid, I want you to take a moment, I think we should all do it. And think about, think about your book.
Is there something in it, that when you see it, you'll will PM, it will physically bother you? It happens a lot. If you have a bad cash balance, right, you don't want to look at your your bank account. And when you do you physically bothered, because it's not the numbers you want to see. So you avoid looking at it until you have some money, so you can pay it off. So you feel better about yourself, it's a normal thing, to normal human response towards situations that you know, the person does not want to deal with in life, we don't want to see we don't want to talk about it right now. Sometimes certain things you don't want to talk about. If they bring it up, you want to get up and
walk away. Why? Because it's just it's bothering you physically, you can't handle it right now you have too many problems, which is normal. So what's gonna happen is when you open this book, you have no choice because your hisab is coming up and you have to be prepared one way or another. You start going through this book, and then physically, you are bothered by the things you're seeing in it. Because some of it you forgotten. Right? So you know, some of it you did when you were 19 or 20. And you never did proper Toba from you didn't fix it. You didn't You didn't take the time to
to get closure with with these issues. It didn't repent from them properly. And now you're reading it and it's written in there and there's no forgiveness stamp beside it. There's nothing you get physically bothered. Because you start wondering, why didn't Why didn't I fix this? What was I thinking? Right, and you started, but you can't run away from it because it's right there. So they're almost 15 and Murphy.
Were cool. And is what they're saying? Yeah, well, you let her know. Now. Yeah. Well, Atlanta is a very specific Arabic term. If you come from an Arabic home, you know, you said it at least once or twice in your life, especially if your dad is preparing to give you what you've had probably very well deserved that day. You'll say yeah, Wally. Yeah. Even then it means I'm in such such big trouble. Meaning I know that right now. I am what's awaiting me is a horrible punishment. Yeah, well, you let me know
It means we are in trouble. And we're going to get punished. That's what it means. Yeah, well, you let Anna Marie handle kita What is wrong with this book? There's literally what the what the word means Malli handle keytab what is the issue with this book? What is it? What is this books problem? Basically
this person is still physically bothered he's talking to the book. Murli had to get that was wrong with this book as if the book is the books problem is the books mistake. Now you got you sorry, rotten. So go back to the word you're either in the eye before. I mean, number 47. When he says phenomenological minimum, I had no one got an exception. Everyone was brought. We didn't leave anyone else. So here's the word Euro. So the Euro I mean, this book is not giving anything in exception. Nothing in this book is being overlooked. I mean, do these melodica? Who are the ones who are writing this book? Do they not take coffee breaks? Do they not have lunch hour? I mean,
everything, everything I said everything I did is in here? Like why do you do study Latin is not leaving out a small thing, what Acadie era 10 or a big action, meaning a small deed or a big deed? Something that I didn't think was that important? Just a quick glimpse. It may be a
smile that was in the wrong place, or use of the eyeballs that wasn't proper or anything, anything anything simple, something that you didn't even think about after well, that can be rotten or anything big me none of the big stuff that I did wrong or accepted from this book in. Except this book has numerated it
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when they do census, right, you know, census when they go into count how many people that are in the community and the age groups and what their profession is what they do when they're sick. And if they're healthy, and they're educated, and they're married or whatnot. So it's a census, you know, who was there? Counting? Yeah, good counting, razor, counting, sorting. So it means that you're looking at this book, and here what's wrong with this book? Does it not have exceptions for anything small or anything big everything is numerated. Everything is written down to the to the to the detail, no, nothing, nothing is generalized. It's all there. Well, what do I do, I need to help you.
And you'll find what they did
present, how the light will be presented in front of them, we present right there, they can see it all. Whether you're with him or a book, and your Lord will not oppress, he will not treat with injustice, anyone know is going to be treated with injustice on that day. But it's all going to be there.
One of the biggest ways or the best way, starting one of the best ways as a Muslim or as a person, for you to start fixing your way or, or straightening out your path is thinking about that moment, thinking about what you want to find written in the book.
Why is it here because a lot of the stuff is going to be based on money. Because many of the things you're going to find in that book, whether they're good or bad, are going to be related one way or another, to your wealth, to the blessings that you were given, and then how you dealt with them because they weren't wealth does not mean cash. I know that's how we view it. It's not just cash. It's everything. Everything Allah subhanaw taala materialistically gave you he gave you a lot of material, many blessings. A lot of these things, Allah subhanaw taala will ask you about your milk.
And now we all know the story. And I'll just kind of
narrate it here just for the benefit of thinking about of seeing how the prophets of Allah Islam would deal with something like this, right? So it started on one day would leave his house with and he was hungry. He would walk out of his own. The only thing reason that he's walking out of his home, his hunger, and he left at home at a time that people usually stay home. They have their lunch and they sleep for an hour. So after a little horror, it's extremely hot. Like like like today. Not sure. Could it be as hot as it was today? Probably.
So he left his house and he was hungry. And then he meets him
and tells him that Allah Maharaja coffee Elisa, why are you this time? They'll call Mark Rajani LMS rajuk. What made me leave the house is when you leave the house is hunger and because of luck. And also it was the same, the same problem. So they meet our mama and he asked him the same question. So they tell him the same thing. Yeah, we're out because same reason you're out for. So all three of them are standing in front of each other. There's nothing to eat. So what do we do? We're hungry. Well, like they said, We know about Valhalla and Farah he's very very generous Sahabi and he usually has lunch at around this time. Let's see if we can go visit him maybe we can get something to eat.
So they go and they knock on his door. I will talk to her opens up who's opens the door who's standing in front of him? I don't know sudo Allah so I sent
him an economic boyfriend minion if you had a Liam Who on earth has better guests than I do? Like I have a suit Allah. Allah what is what is this blessing of what any understands the idea so wisdom in
the chat and there was meat was prepared and rice and food and
and they eat
and then when they eat the Prophet sallallahu Sallam sits back and
He has a cup of water in his hand.
They drink the water and then tears run down his face. Nobody sees him and no bucker cries as well. Now mine says Allah He has anybody will kick them out with that, can you kill the Buddha equal? Now, I don't know why you're crying, but I'm gonna join him because I don't see, I need no point of me doing my own thing. I'll do whatever you're doing for commerial Kike Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam, and he recited at least from tomb to saloon, yo, ma even and in Nicaragua, and they started repeating the idea. And then on that day, you will be asked about all the things you were given the final certificate authority
that the prophets of Allah seldom left his home hungry. Now, I don't know if you know, this has happened to you in your life once before, if it doesn't, you understand it more. I don't think I think most people who have never actually done that, maybe you walked out of your home hungry because you didn't like what your mother cooked. Maybe Maybe if you didn't like the you know, the dish or you didn't, you know, you don't feel like eating whatever it is that your parents put in front of you, or wherever you had, wherever you had in the house that was edible good food, there's nutrition in there, you could you could have you know, but to leave the house because there's
nothing edible within your home doesn't happen very often. And to leave the house because there's not much food in the home. And you don't have enough money to buy it means you're not going out to Wendy's or to where to Costco, you're not going anywhere to buy your food. And it also doesn't happen very often either. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam left his home for both these reasons, hunger and the lack of food and the lack of money to buy it. And when he hired a meal, filming your maiden name, this is what came to his mind. And then one day you'll be asked about this nine. Because I like these, the one the one like the one we just recited.
It, I think it stuck with with that first generation a bit more than it sticks with us. I think we don't actually deal with these is the way the way we're supposed to deal with them. Are you supposed to do is they're supposed to read this is at 1015 times, each time thinking, imagining yourself on that day, imagining everything happening, imagining the mountains being destroyed, meaning all Earth is going to look different now that you don't own a home anymore, wherever it is that you used to live doesn't exist anymore.
And Earth is level meaning everything is equal. So the symbol and the symbolism of the earth being leveled is also everyone also being on the same level who are equal. And that you're brought forward and you're not accepted from the rule. And you're presented in front of Allah subhanaw taala the way that you were created with your bare minimum needs not even clothing, you'll milk me where I've been dressed. Why? Because you're back to the just the basics of who you are as a person. All that's left to views is what did you do? What did you stand for? Tell me what you stood for. You're here for 8090 years, 200 years? What did you do? Tell me swing? Sum up for us quickly? What is that? You did?
Are you worthy of what what are you worthy of? What are you hoping for after the life that you lived? What are you hoping for? If you break down your life to its basic elements? What are you worthy of and what are you hoping for from ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. And then you're given the book that has the details. Now here's the thing, here's the interesting part of this sort of be the story being with the money. You don't have money when you're standing there reading the book. But now all of the money that you had is in that book.
Now you have to deal with the consequences of having it all right there, you don't have anything. You don't have a nickel, you don't even have a pocket. You don't even have a pocket to have something in it. You own nothing. Wealth doesn't exist. But when you're reading this book, and you're looking at, you're saying why does this book, not accept anything small, big, everything is in here. Everything is prison. A lot of is attached to all the wealth that you used to have that you don't have right now. And you may even feel ripped off a bit. Maybe for a moment even inside you feel is this fair? And why? God I don't have any of the money right now. But any I'm going to be
asked about all of it. I miskeen. You didn't understand the whole you didn't understand how this all work to begin with. You didn't understand that this was just something Allah subhanaw taala was going to give you very, very for a very short period of time there's been a takeaway and ask you about it. And you couldn't carry it with you to the other side. You couldn't buy yourself out of anything with it your milk Yama, yet you're going to be asked him what every nickel.
Now you see the difference?
This is a difference. Now this is what your mind is slowly as I speak, shifting from viewing money one way to viewing in a different way. This is not something negative about wealth. No, not at all. It's not about negativity towards wealth. It is about practicality. It's about being realistic about what it represents in your life. It is with you for a short period of time, use it wisely. Because when you open your book, you're going to be asked about everything you did with it. Even though you don't have it, even though it's not there anymore for you to enjoy. You're going to be asked about it without the ability to enjoy any of it and that stings. Not stings really badly. That hurts.
Because you you maybe it comes to the mind of the human being is this. That's why they're objecting,
like don't dare object to Allah subhanaw and down on the day of judgment, but they want to object one way or the other. Because they're like, look, I don't have any more degrees. No one respects me anymore. I don't have any money. I have no more numerous status, no wealth, nothing. And yet this book is is asking me about everything. It's asking about all the stuff that writing
I don't have any more that were taken away from me.
And you're saying the problem here and the human being doesn't like it. So objects, at least leave out the small stuff? No, it's all there. It's all going to be there. And it's something that, you know, the more we think about, the easier it is to detach yourself from possessions and materialism, it makes it easier, the more you think about I'm not telling you to walk around with nothing, you should have no one. And then no one does that. And that's not required of you. And it was never it's not nowhere in the Quran. Just make sure that when you look at your wealth, and whatever Allah subhanaw taala gave you the risk that he offered you Subhan Allah Tala, you know, whether it's a lot
of it, or a little of it, they understand what it represents for you. It's just a gift from him. subhanho wa, taala. But also, responsibility at the same time, that's going to come full circle all around. On the Day of Judgment, you're gonna find it number for number numerated. See, there were numerous gonna be by numbers. On that day, this is how much you had to the cent. Would you spend it? You spent it on this? And this? Was this the best way to spend it? Were there people who needed it more? Was there a better way or a better place for you to put this wealth? And you have to answer I'm gonna give you something to think about.
A good way to deal with with wealth is being generous, the more generous you are without numerating meaning you give, and you don't sit down and count how much you gave, because you're hoping to okay, this how much I gave this, you know, you're just giving for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. And once one of the automatic Mothers of the Believers, one of the prophets some of my sedums wives, she was wants to give sadaqa so she was counting how much exactly it was all. She wasn't counting because she wanted to know how much she was counting. She was feeling good about it, like look, mashallah I put 100 Dean out here. So the prophet Ali sort of looked at her and say, Yes, I think it
was for Xena, Xena, glad to see that you're saying that, while he don't count, not numerator DOS, so that Allah Subhanallah doesn't count it all upon you either. Maybe be a bit easier when it comes to, to being generous, maybe be a bit more open. Don't waste too much time. Right? Don't be someone who's very difficult when you deal with them financially be a bit more generous, and Allah subhanaw taala will be much more generous with you. A good way to deal with wealth is making sure that whenever you will make money, there's always a percentage of that is always some of that that you're going to use for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala with an open heart, knowing that in sha Allah
Jana, by I give this away. And then I don't get asked about everything in detail, because we think about it, isn't it almost impossible? can you defend every cent that you spent? No, I can't. And I'm pretty sure you can't either. It's very hard to do. So how do we make up for this? How do we get out of this problem will be more generous.
Shafi says,
right, if I could live in you, hopefully he can clean the whole cover your your, your sins, and all the all the issues that you're ashamed of cover it with, with generosity, because every every every shame, and every sin is covered, as As the proverb says, By by generosity, generosity will cover it all. Someone could be, you know, he could have every body characteristic in the world. But if he's generous, it'll you can forget about all of it. And isn't known human traits. Yani generosity is one of those characteristics that help people Yeah, and people will love you for whatever bad things you do you do will be forgotten. Because this person is known to be generous, and generosity is a
beautiful thing to have. But how can you be generous, if your heart is holding on to everything that you own? If money is the most important thing that you have in life, and you can't view yourself without having it and you need, if you if you view it as a source of financial security, if you feel entitled to it, you have that you worked hard for it, and other people don't work as hard as you are, so you shouldn't be giving them. If you view it like that, if you don't believe if you don't believe that, on the day of judgment are going to stand there and you got to look at the book and you can see everything in it.
Then, if you don't believe any that you're going to meet Allah subhana talk to begin with, then it becomes much more difficult. Imagine this snapshot of your monkey and you'll find yourself to be much more open, much more generous to you we need as humans, we need that little push to be a bit more generous than we usually are. We just need something revised. Yeah, you can do it, you can do it, you can afford to be a bit more generous. I'm not. Again, none of what I'm saying right now is asking you're pleading with you to be wasteful with your money, or not to take care of yourself or your family. None of that. None of that. Of course the prioritizing is something that I believe is
clear to everyone here you need to take care of, of the well being of yourself and your family. That's a given. But then then what but then what? See money, the whole point of this sutra and the whole point of the story in the sutra, it's telling us that money the reason that you have it is so you can build with it. So you can build something great with it. You can build a society within a community so you can put it back you can pump it back into the into the world so that people can benefit from it that everyone can. So it's not just for you. It's not just that you can enjoy it and just just for you and just
for your family and for your descendants no it's not that's not the point see Allah subhanaw taala gave you and didn't give others it wasn't the distribution wasn't fair to begin with if that distribution was fair then I could tell you just hold on to what you've got. Because if everyone does then then we're gonna be fine. If we were all given the exact same money to begin with the hollows, why would I give Why would you give, just manage what you have, if you if you end up messing up is bad management, you just you don't know how to manage. But when the distribution to begin with was not fair, and we weren't born with the same quality, we were not given the same
amount to start off with. That means Allah subhanaw taala is telling us look, I didn't give it fairly, because the point is not just to sustain yourself, it's not just for you. The point of money is to you build something great with it, you only need enough to survive you only need enough to to meet your basic needs. Even though sometimes there's a lot of basic needs and it costs a lot but everything beyond that is for the HMR is for the midterm as for the communities for the civilization that you're hoping to build as for it's for helping others and that's that's the point and that's the message of understanding this now we continue in Charlotte reading the
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and the difference and the difference between them. Now, the significance, the significance of this story coming here and the commentary on wealth is because of what bliss ended up doing, and what a bliss was given. And then I'll leave you with it. You see bliss was treated differently. With coronelli Mela egotist Julie then when we told them alayka to prostrate for Adam and that was in sick in a symbol or a symbol of respect or a split symbol of superiority. So you Allah subhanaw taala wanted them to understand that Adam Alayhis Salam was a superior creation that he made, and for them to accept that that's why he made some high note with that, and he gave him this ranking,
he gave him the superior ranking. Now the monadic of course accepted that immediately. Now bliss however, had a different problem or had a different view. Why? Because if Bruce was not from Dominica, in this sort of here at con me know the gin, he was from the gin. You see, this was so good. He was so such a great gin that Allah subhanaw taala l
evaded his status to the point where he was in Jannah with them at Aika he was up there with them he was a part of, you know, I'm gonna realm. And when Allah subhanaw taala gave the command for all of them to prostrate and he gave the command to police as well as police couldn't do it
faster. And Mburo be faster by means when you go astray the words first is when you when you break, when you break the path that you're on and you leave something you leave, you take a right or take a left and you go in a different direction. That's very fast. I've got till habitude in an hour. So when the seed breaks loose from the moment, when life breaks loose from the seed, if I socket, meaning broken, went in different direction, but that's not gonna be when a stray from the commander of his Lord.
See, at least was given a lot
of the problem was what at least was given is that as sometimes we do with wealth, he felt entitled to it. He felt that he had deserved it, that he had done enough to deserve this status, and that Adam had done nothing to deserve the status, meaning he was being told to
show obedience or show respect. Alright, let's put it that way, show respect to a creation that hadn't done anything Dumanis, Saddam, the concept of a demise. He hasn't done anything yet. Nothing. He has done nothing at all.
And yet it believes the guy who spent all his life worshiping and showing obedience, he needed it so well that Allah subhanaw taala decided to add him to the Malika didn't make didn't make sense. How am I, after everything I've done, being told to show respect to something that hasn't done anything yet. I don't accept that. That's one of the problems that bliss had, or at least had a number of other problems that I had them. It wasn't always one thing, never one thing, right. It's never just one thing is always more than one problem that will cause someone to make a mistake. But this is one of the problems is that he felt that what he had, he was entitled to. And we do that a lot as well.
If you view wealth, if you view what you have, if you're someone who has a certain level of
wealth in this world, or you, you own things, you have positions, if you feel entitled to it, you deserve this somehow. This is not something that Allah subhanaw just gave, you know, you worked hard for your money you may have you may have worked very hard. And I've met a lot of people who started it who began very, very humble beginnings, very, very humble beginnings. And they worked very, very hard. And Allah subhanaw taala. And they were given, let's let's leave that word out, because they don't believe it. And they made a lot of money. And now in their heart, like I and they sit down and they lecture people, right? They lecture people. And I think it's I think it's worthy. I think it's
important, because obviously they have a number of skills. And they did a few things that were right, obviously that allowed them to achieve. But if they believe that they are entitled to this, they believe that they've actually done everything right. That's why they have the money that they have, is that Allah subhanaw That couldn't have easily changed that quickly. If they don't, don't believe that, then then that entitlement, that feeling of deserving something, it plays with, with with the mind, it makes you view things improperly, you start giving yourself status, that Allah subhanaw taala did not give you, if he Allah subhanaw taala did not give you the status, he just
gave you the wealth. If you view wealth as a symbol of of greatness and success, that's your problem. But until Allah subhanaw taala looks upon you and tells you, you are great. You are the you know, the biggest success of all human beings. And then until that happens, you don't know, having money is just basically having more responsibility. It just being given by Allah subhanaw taala is something that he's going to ask you about more human PM. Now this could be used potentially for raising your status in his eyes, but easily could be used in the opposite direction to it could go either way. Yeah. Every time. This is mentioned.
No, not all the time, Mike for a different problem that the best 100 Yeah, so there's different problems. So Iblees had a number of different problems. But this is one of them. He felt entitled because you can immunogen That's why here is the only place that it says kind of in Elgin is the only place in the Quran, where he actually says that he was from God was different from them, because that difference that he had gave him this feeling feeling of entitlement, and he just couldn't do it. And he and he went astray. Now can you imagine yourself going astray from Allah subhanaw taala, his direct command to you? I don't think you can but believe it is. The whole point
of this story is that if you build enough entitlement, and if you feel like you've deserved what you have enough to the point, you will, there will be a point where Allah subhanaw taala may ask you to do something, and you'll say no, because you feel that you've worked harder than everyone else, and I'm not going to do it. I'm not going to do it because I don't deserve it. I mean, could you start to view wealth differently, you view it as a marker of your greatness and your success. And you view other people without it as a marker of their laziness and their you know, lack of motivation and lack of Mac proper management.
And you can never look at money like that. You can never eat hamdulillah if Allah subhanaw taala you know, blessed you with a with a strong mind and he open
The pathway where you could make money handler, that's a beautiful thing. That's something that you feel good about Hamdulillah. But you cannot allow that to cloud your judgment on the status that you have as a person. And what that means for you, all it means is that there's more responsibility upon you that there's going to be more haisa upon you. You're welcome. That's all it means. That's all it ever will mean. Now, it really is didn't see it, at least couldn't he couldn't see it. And he was told us to do them. And he said, No, I can't do it. Like, and he didn't do anything yet. Why he believes Did you do something? Yeah, I've worshipped you or really, you've worshipped me. So this is
something you believe that makes you that you deserve with that you deserve to be here. Yes, I deserve to be here. No, you don't. You don't deserve anything. Nothing you've done yet Bliss has ever helped me in any way. Allah Subhana. Allah subhanaw taala explained to him, nothing you've done has made me stronger. I don't need anything you've done. Anything you've done, you've done because I didn't stop you from doing it. I could have easily made this much more difficult for you, out of my own generosity created you out of my own generosity, I gave you the chance. And out of my own generosity, I elevated your status. And now you're telling me that you deserve this. And you do
deserve that and you listen to the command gave based on what
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Maha Shula, meaning if Allah subhanaw taala punished prophets, he wouldn't oppress them, and he would never do it. subhanho data, but the concept? Why? Because? What do you deserve? As far as Allah subhanaw? Taala is concerned? What have you done? Really? Nothing? What have you offered him? Nothing? How could he oppress you? If everything that you are, belongs to him anyway? You can only oppress someone, if you take something that doesn't belong to you. Right? If you touch something that is his possession, not yours. What do you believe? What do you possess that Allah subhanaw taala doesn't own? If your own soul is in possession of his eulogy levels, how could he he can't, he
can't pray, he can depress you, because the concept doesn't apply doesn't apply at all, because He is Allah subhanaw taala and we are his creations as simple as that. And that's how you need to view things. And money is the number one factor that will take that away. Money can easily play with the way you view yourself, and then you can start to see because because when money comes, people start treating you differently, speaking through differently, catering to you differently, and they may even convince you that you're better than who you actually are. And the opposite happens as well. When you don't have money and you struggle all your life, you started feeling less about yourself.
And people make you you know, the add to that as well. You may even believe them that because you don't have money you're not as good as this person as good as that person. It's just worth you work hard for it. If you get it handled. If you don't get it, you you you continue you continue but it doesn't have to do anything with your status as a person not in this dunya and not in Africa. And that's where the story of abuse is in this in this part of the
of the sutra affected just before he makes it his own show where the reactor who only I mean do any homework on it, what do you take them you'll take your bliss and those who stand by him, only your protectors and your allies Minh Dooney exception to Allah subhanaw taala instead of Allah subhanaw taala Well, whom luckily I do when the truth of the matter is that they are your enemy. Beat suddenly volley Nina but what a horrible alternative for those who oppress themselves What a horrible alternative for someone who expresses himself to take a bliss and those who stand by him as, as the willie as the protector or as the ally instead of Allah subhanahu wa Todd, is it time in
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with a realtor who the realtor means his offspring, right? But I don't believe I'm not really I don't think what they mean by this is the physical offspring. I think it's more of the intellectual offspring. Meaning if you take the bliss and everyone who thinks like a bliss who came after him who felt like him, who took whatever they were given by Allah subhanaw taala as reasons to see themselves in a different status and they actually are in that took the blessings in the wealth that Allah Subhan Allah gave them instead of seeing that as being an additional responsibility. They took that to say, we're successful, we're better and we're not as you know, the other people aren't as
good as us. If you take those people to be your allies, if this is what you're going to be like, if you're going to be like them more instead of Allah subhanaw taala in the way that he told you the way he wants you to do things. They are your true enemies, that type of person is the enemy. Now I'm not saying that you have to fight them no, but being them understand the idea is not it is not an opposition of one group finding the other if one person or a group not trying to make sure that they're not going to do what another group did. This is the true enemy. This concept this way of thought this can ruin your day.
and this can ruin your life. This can ruin this life and the hereafter, if you view things with that fundamental mistake, if you believe for somehow some way that wealth makes you something more than you actually are, or any any materialistic position that Allah subhanaw taala gave you is going to elevate your status more than what he already put you in Savannah with the study of volume in a better what a horrible alternative for those who impress themselves. He is the worst alternative ever, for you to go from understanding things, understanding what the way Allah subhanaw taala wants you to understand it, to understand it, like your beliefs and those who come
who followed him intellectually and thought like him. That is the true enemy right there. Well, I do.
I believe that this
this concept today, especially today, again, in the time that we're in Killeen, look at the Sahabas time, it was different. There wasn't as much wealth anyway. And you know, whatever you possessed, it was, there was no security in it. Because you know, you have trees trees, one year can give in one year can die off, and you never know. So it's hard. But today, today, there's an illusion, there's an actual illusion, you look at that bank account, and you see the number in there, and it can offer you that. Right, you can even have a company that under your name, and it's worth a certain the stocks within then it's it's hard for you to view things normally after that, again, it's much more
difficult today, because everything's materialistic today, because everything is measured based on money, every success and every failure. Today, unfortunately, one way or another goes full circle comes back to Money itself, we can show for the unknown and that we continue.
We're not the father of them. No, no, he's not the father, he was just just a gin. That's as far as we know, we don't have any evidence that he's the father of anyone. And we already understand how it can work. And a lot of a lot of stuff out there. We've talked about like how we don't know, we really don't know how Jin function within those societies, there are sayings here and there. And certain like scholars have talked about it, what we really don't understand or understanding of it is very limited. And we don't, we only do if you know a few things.
So the the final part of that is important. If you don't know how to react to earlier I mean, doing your homework, when you take them will take you bliss, but to react to who and those who follow him earlier, I mean, Dooney you take them as allies instead of Allah subhanaw taala people who will follow will be like, Well, I'm not gonna do when the concept that they carry is the true enemy of you, what they do, what they think how they thought, how they think, how they function, how they view themselves through what Allah subhanaw taala gave them it is the truth. This is the the true enemy of the human being, this is a true enemy of the Muslim. Yeah, when he when you when you can't
see it any other way, when wealth, clouds your vision of who you are, and what what you're here to do, be sad volley mean, but there are there couldn't be a worse alternative for those who decided to impress themselves by actually doing that. And I think this is a very, very worthy of taking some time to think about an understanding. Because you always think, what is it that needs to be changed? How do I need to change personally, what needs to change? What What should I do that will make me a different person or a better person, this is the biggest thing that you can do. Make sure whatever comes your way, whatever how you know that Allah subhana sends you right? What other wealth whatever
materialistic possessions, whatever he sends whatever it is that you get, do not allow it to cloud your judgment and change your perspective of who you are as a person and who others are around you. As simple as that. That will every time you're given something by Allah subhanaw taala what you view is more responsibility. Now we have to do more clear for people around me now we have to give back more.
Not anything else. Not that I am better. I'm more successful. I am more worthy. I'm no no, none of that. Do not let it that is the true enemy. Well, I'm not gonna do this is this is what you want to walk away from. This is what's going to destroy you. That's why the I after a mirage had to him, I did not make them witnesses, meaning I did not involve them. Now I had to
involve them in the creation of the skies and the heavens and the earth, the skies and the earth the cosmos. I didn't make them in but I didn't put them witnesses. They didn't see it. They weren't a part of it. What else was even not even in the creation of themselves? What are you saying that is based on what are you are you entitled to anything? Based on? What do you feel that you deserve? Anything? You weren't here for the creation of anything? Nothing? The creation of yourself?
What are you talking about? How How is this small amounts of of worldly possession that is going to be wiped out completely omit the AMA? How's it playing around with your self value? Based on what you weren't here for any of it? And this is not the first time that the story has talked about it like that, right? kind of bring you back to the perspective that it's just a cycle. It's just you weren't here for any of this? Why is this playing? How is this clouding your judgment? We're not going to move on to mobile Nina Buddha. And Allah Subhan Allah says, and I did not take those who lead people astray. I know that although this is the odd Hello, this is your forearm, what it means
in Arabic, symbolically or figuratively. So in English, we say he's my right arm. Obviously, you don't mean that he's actually your writer, you actually means that they're there to help you that they are there to you know, that they're preaching your message. They're standing by you that they have the same way of thought.
But they're walking down the same road with you. We're not going to Motoki then will the Leonardo da Allah subhanaw taala, saying I did not make those who drive and take people astray, that my helpers are the people who to preach my words, meaning he believed
in what he did and everyone who follows them. Don't preach the word of Allah subhanaw taala. Allah subhanaw taala did not they're not involved with anything. They're not involved in the creation of the skies and the earth and the cosmos, were involved in their own creation. And Allah subhanaw taala does not need them. And they're not his helpers, and they're on his site to begin with. So what are you doing? How could you stand by them? How could you take them out to be your allies? How could you take them as those who you're going to follow and be like,
What are we supposed to be like? Well be like the second guy in the story. Be the person who views wealth properly. The Islamic perspective and malleable by noon Xena to hey, I think so we talked about last time, it's just adornments. You don't need them. They're nice to have. They make life look nice, but they're just additions. He doesn't owe you anything subhanaw taala they don't make you better Xena doesn't make the actual merchandise better, makes it look better, but it doesn't make it better. It is what it is. You can you can decorate it with whatever you want to decorate it with. It's not gonna make it any better. It is what will appeal to Solihull to Highlander because
what you spend for the sake of Allah subhanaw That is what stays. And I'll end with the known story of the prophets. I mean, Asia, when he asked her about the Cubs that they had, they had slaughtered the sheep. And he in they gave away a lot of the meat. So he asked you Heisha mancha about who what what happened Bacala Yeah, and he didn't have a clue about everything is gone. And all that's left is the shoulder of the the animal Bacala Ayesha, Bucky, who know, all of it, steed and all of us going to be lost as the cutoff is what we're going to eat. Because that part is what we're going to be asked about your monkey Emma. Now that part is really going fine in the book. But the the rest of
it that we spent for the sake of Allah, that's the that's the good, that's what stays because we're going to stay for us in sha Allah till the end. And that's how you view wealth if you take what you need and the rest of it that you pump it back into the Gemma that you live in. And don't let it cloud your judgment. We'll start with on the shoulders of Michael. I should have learned to talk to someone