2018-4-8
Adnan Rajeh – Tafseer Surat AlAhzab #16
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The transcript describes a man on a mission to marry women in the Middle East, but was warned by Islam to be a woman. The man was on a mission to marry women, but was sent on a mission to marry men instead. The benefits of healthy lifestyle, exercise, and the use of a fitness tracker are discussed, along with a recent event and a study on smoking-related outcomes. The man was warned to stay healthy to prevent cancer.
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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen Allahu wa Salatu was Salam ala Sayidina whenever you know Muhammad in one early he was a bad. So inshallah Today we start from a number 49
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probably up to 52 for lucky shoulder. This is a new chapter now within the sewer.
I'm going to talk about something new, just to kind of quickly recap and remind everyone of what this is about. So that was the beginning of a cluster of sewers. Starting with Lhasa, ends with suitors drummer, they all talk about submission, they talk about obedience, we talk about obeying Allah subhanaw taala, he sort of looks at it from a different angle, the angles are the very, and they're extremely, significantly different. Each one is important. The most important sort of all is the first one. And it's the longest. And it talks about the most interesting part or the most interesting angle regarding submission, talks about submitting to Allah subhanaw taala as well and
following his commit come out command and obeying Him subhanaw taala, when it's extremely difficult to do so, when the circumstances are very hard, and they're not comfortable, whether it's physical, or financial, or aesthetic or social. Whatever it is, the topics of exam are always Prickly, they're always difficult to discuss. They're not one topic that we've talked about so far and suited, hasn't been uncomfortable for those who are listening to it. Even for the person who was talking about it, there's always a certain level of
difficulty to discuss the issue. Started out with the story of it as the story of the Confederates, the 10,000 people who marched their way to Medina trying to annihilate the Muslim community and the fear that the Muslims went through the Sahaba and the prophets like Selim himself and how they reacted to that differently based on how they, you know, they had they viewed their own Dean and how they dealt with their own personal problems towards the dean. The second chapter that moved on to talk about the profits of advising them as wives and the difficult choice they had to make in terms of living a life that didn't have financial future, they were going to make more money, they were
going to become
wealthy, wealthier, they weren't going to have a bigger house, the way they were living with him. It was the way they're going to continue to live with him until the rest of for the rest of their lives. That was a hard and difficult choice to make for them. moved on to the third chapter talking about issues of women within the deen something that is even till this day difficult to talk about and people sometimes misunderstand and misinterpret. The fourth chapter, chapter talks about something very personal to him, civilize them an extremely uncomfortable situation for the prophets unless and if not the most uncomfortable situation for him some advice, where he was commanded to
marry Xena or the hola hola. I know the pre the ex wife of Zaytoven harita, who was adopted son now everything regarding that story regarding the Kiani the Prophet so when I send them following that command, was there's a lot of the word how to use at least three times within those is the word halogen means distress, when when you're going through discomfort. There was something that was very discomforting to him. So Allah Allah Salam, he did it, but Allah subhanaw taala talked about the topic anyway. Allah subhanaw taala pointed out that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam yeah and he withheld something in his heart that did not feel comfortable. Yeah, he did not feel comfortable
doing what he knew was going to happen with Dr. NASA. Well Allah who are hardcore and Daksha, over 250 NF seeker Mala hooba de you hide within yourself what you know Allah subhanaw taala is going to expose and you fear revere people in their opinions and, and what's going to be said, and Allah subhanaw taala is more worthy of your of your reverence.
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and talked about two things talked about how we get rid of that meaning as a Muslim, if you don't want to struggle with the commands of Allah subhanaw taala if you don't want to find distress, if you don't want to find discomfort, when he commands you subhanaw taala to do anything at all. And the best way to do it is through the ticker you live in Manu Corolla the current cathedra. Remember Allah subhanaw taala a lot. And this is not just this talks about two things. Whether it's remembering hymns of high notes either as you go through your life, every time you make a decision or a choice, you remind yourself of Allah subhanaw taala what would please Him what wouldn't please
Him whether what you're doing right now is something he would want you to do or something that he would not want you to do jujitsu making that decision is extremely important. If you can do that throughout your life every time you come to a fork in the road, and then you ask yourself, would Allah want this or not? That's thicker. That is the remembrance of Allah subhanaw taala and it's practical form. And then there's the literal form the linguistic form, where we do they could have Allah subhanaw taala we, we repeat his name, exalting it in different ways. Subhan Allah and hamdulillah now, Allah Allahu Akbar, Stouffville Allah has to be Allah Hanuman, rookie, la, la La
Quwata illa. All these are forms of invocations, as we remind ourselves of Allah subhanaw taala each one has a meaning that is significantly different from the other than if you repeat it enough times and you think about it and you
And you contemplate upon that meaning it will, it will cause a mentality shift for yourself and you'll start, you know, your your perspective of Allah subhanaw taala your perspective of yourself towards Allah subhanaw taala will change throughout time as you repeat these words, and as you think about them, and we discussed that in detail a number of Holika before
is something that will definitely change your life if you're capable of taking small footstep, baby steps within this I, I gave everyone a suggested way to do it every morning.
It starts with 100 times, suddenly Allah Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam 100 times and data in the law 100 type and then do it again 300 times before you go to sleep, and just stick to that for a month or two, until it becomes extremely easy, and you don't find any difficulty doing it. And then after that will tell me that you did and I did another one for you, I'll tell you something extra to do. And keep on adding to it until you come up with a number that previously sounded impossible to you. And then after that is much easier, much more easier. And you are repeating these words and they're being engraved into your mind into your subconsciousness. And now your perspective of life and
perspective of God is very different. And the way that you accept His commands subhanaw taala is much easier.
The group of ayat after that talked about the status of the prophets of Allah Salam described him Shah, he didn't move a ship on when a VLAN would end in Allah He isn't he he was he Elijah Munira five, five, extinct in different characteristics. And the reason that they're there is because the two stories before were specific about his life, some nights I'm talking about his wife and talking about something happened to him. And the stories that are going to come are also going to be specific to him, It is sad to see him talking about issues that are very unique. The uniqueness of his status, Alia Salatu Salam is going to be presented in the coming yet. So there had to be a part
somewhere in the middle of to remind us of his tireless rallies. So to sum in case you read these ideas, and then imagine for a moment or your next tells you for a second that maybe he thought it was time is not of the status that he is of, for whatever reason, you question it in your mind in your heart for a second, Allah subhanaw taala puts the end as it happens the front a lot. Whenever there's an area that talks about a mistake or something at least some did, they should do something else instead of it. I've Allah who
are always talking about his status and the same suit on the Surah Surah after it. And that is extremely significant. And very important. Today, we start a new chapter in the Surah. This one is one that also talks about something very specific to him similar, but this is literally very unique to him Ali Asad to us and we know that in his life, it has led to Islam. There were a number of rulings that applied to everyone but didn't apply in the same way to him
or rulings that applied to him. So Allah Hardy was something that did not apply to us things he was required to do, that we were never required to do, or limitations that we were given that he was not given to myself or limitations he was given that we were not given any thought to some of the examples of that many examples I laid out to stand up for example, when it comes to pm Elaine was a variable upon him he would pray at night and this was considered a freebie it was it was an obligatory action towards him yeah even Muslim mu formula in Korea and I mean close Minho. kalido Allah He on a table Karatedo go or go to the end of the journey, the
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then I mean, through the lady when you struggle with Ruto or even Domina Dena muck. So the prophets Allah Selim was given the obligation of doing pm late we were not celebrate Alia. So it was just an obligation he was given that we were not a limitation he was given we were not he does not eat from sadaqa if it was given as a charity does not take at some of the highest and I'm not know do his descendants Alia so to say, but we would enter examples like that as we go along. And he would not eat, for example Foom or bustle ever, he would never eat garlic or onions ever because he was asked to call in new analogy, or not be vocally melodic, I'm in continuous communication with Monica. And
it's something that is bothersome, and I don't think it's fun, like something wouldn't eat it. We eat it, he just told us when you eat it, please don't come and break them out immediately then burped in front of everyone and caused them to lose their consciousness, just do that at first and then come later or take a minute or something. But that, as I said, would never eat it. So if there's any food that had it even there was no pair coming. So you took him home after Isha and he was going to sleep that night. Even if there's garlic and onion, he would not eat it. So limitations that were specific to him. There are many examples and restrictions that are on us, not on him. So
the example of a restriction that is upon us and not on him. So the law he said, as long as the SUTA is talking about how to judge now there should not be knowledge in the Command of Allah subhanaw That there should be no distress to the Prophet. So I said then when he is given a command that is different than everyone else,
when he's told to do some things, right, no distress for him. It is slow. So I'm just gonna talk about his wives. I need salatu salam a very clear distinction between rulings that were made obligatory upon us and obligatory and not obligatory upon him some lesson was the restriction of number of wives a man could take within a lifetime. Ali sought to survive many not
Khadija, Allahu Allah had passed away. Where do we? How is that possible and we say that they're coming forward.
Before we do, I'll just make one one simple introduction just for the concept to become clear.
I didn't give thought to a synonym the man married one woman. The man married one woman. Married Khadija are the low on the man. He loves Khadija he lived with Khadija. And you continue to remember her the Allahu anha. Till the day he died some of the audio Salam, which was around 13 to 14 years later, he lived with her 25 years. They had kids together, they lost kids together, they lost at least two within their life. Two boys died during their time as a married couple. She was a number of a few years older than him some of the audio so then there's a common misunderstanding misconception that she was 2515 years or 25 years older than she was only a couple of years, two or
three there's a historical mistake sometimes and in calculating ages.
And he was very happy with herself. Allah Hardy was telling me she and she was a unique woman, someone who had no no, no equal with within the cielo the prophets Allah and talks about her. He says come along that journey cathedral, American women and he said a lot of biomedical Khadija, that from from the women who are reached perfection within their character within their level of piety. And he talked about Khadija and other Hadith let's say you get to he said to me, in a hadith I've been to Hawaii did the best of all women was Khadija but to Hawaii speaks for us and Allah He was telling them and that is on a religious level on a personal level. Ali Asad lucidum always
remembered her with a tear in his eyes always spoke about how great she was, and how much he loved her and how much he missed her and how nothing was ever the same since she since she died. And people would die and sometimes by mistake, remind him some Allah Allah Allah Salam of Khadija, and then they would regret doing it. Because they will see the effect it would have have on him some of those in him even though she had passed away 10 years before and he had a number of other wives at that point in life had changed significantly but you always remember the days of Khadija then sometimes just quick reminder on a Sunday or quit Gani but story they were coming back from me from
a battle or you saw to someone stop the army and say okay, we're gonna take a break at a time that usually aren't they wouldn't take a break. And he would go and he would take his value and they would put it on the ground. He would sit with three elderly women
and he would sit there for about an hour and a half and people be watching they're taking a break but also seeing him some of them do something very awkward or uncommon. So once that was over he gave them some things with them and they these ladies went on their way and then he came back for so Informatica mouse on it. I don't know, I'm just What were you doing in Whom are we were sitting with for Carla Quinto who Jalisco Sahiba Khadija I was sitting with the Friends of Khadija. So they said well, why why are you doing that anymore? For Karla Desna, that Corolla Yamil Janila Yamaha DJ, we sat together, it was hard to remember the good old days, with beautiful days, the days of Khadija
when he was around. He wanted to reminisce. And he said he wanted to sit down and have someone who remembers Khadija well, to speak to him about Khadija because he was living in Medina sallallahu alayhi wasallam at that time, and in Medina, most people were unsought. And so I've never met Khadija she passed away before before he Jolla, so he didn't know who she was. So maybe it's that Allah, Allah you and he was telling him was feeling
lonely, towards the DJ needed someone to kind of, maybe have a conversation with him on a salad with them. Now, the Prophet Muhammad, the Prophet, married a number of women, the man it was one, but the prophet, a number of women. And these marriages made a big difference for a lot in a lot of different fields. It made a difference in terms of the alliances that were created because of these marriages.
in Arabia, before Islam time, before the time of Islam, marriages were the way for you to create an alliance. If you wanted to make your tribe and alliances with another tribe, then you would get the leader of that tribe to marry a daughter of yours or someone from your tribe. And that would be immediately some form of an allegiance immediately would turn into some form of political alliances. And this is how it is not something just Arabia did, all through Europe, if you if you want, if you're interested in learning about history of Europe, they did it all the time, the kings and queens of the land would marry it and out of their other families of different kings and queens
trying to start alliances between the royal families and families. And if it weren't started, either, they would send the lady back if there are some things you would execute the person that they had within their, within their chambers. And this was something that is you will find a lot of evidence to support it's not it goes without saying. So for the provenance of the lights and them to marry a number of them who came from different backgrounds from different tribes, even from Deer
even religious backgrounds like Sofia Mitai, even after, even after by far one of the worst,
meant, who stood against the prophets of Allah SLM in his life, one of the people who did the most harm, and he was also Jewish. Now, you would think that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam would want to have nothing to do with this man or anything regarding him. However, he married his daughter, Sophia, and she was a wife of the prophets of Allah. He's I mean, she lived with him, and she married adores me a hadith. So you'll see examples like this, another Abu Sufian saw from the hub, the man who only led the Confederates within the story that we read, The man who led the Confederacy, annihilate Medina, he married at the time he was married to his daughter, his daughter
and Habiba around them and Debbie Sophia, and, and there are many, many examples like that the prophets I sent him as he married these, these women, not only form alliances with other people, he solidified the concept of
individuality and the religion of people not being held accountable for what other people did. It's always bringing people together, it was bringing tribes and backgrounds together and uniting it all in one. Another thing is that the ladies he married, some of them were very unique. When you read you study their, their their life stories. So when you look at what they went through, when you take almost Selma, for example, if you look at what she had to go through all the Allahu anhu, as a Muslim, as someone who accepted Islam early on, and then she lost her husband and your kid for a year in Medina, and Mecca, stranded, she couldn't go anywhere. And then she finally was able to take
her Sunday and come and do Hijra on her own as a woman without a husband. And she lost her husband, Yaniv, a few years later, a very great lady, someone who was a very unique woman with a very unique mindset. I need this.
When you take the wives of the Prophet someplace and you study them individually, you see that you're dealing with people of great status. Another thing is that they were given a name they were called Google Mini Mahajan. What meaning right, we recited that at the beginning of the story because he this was very connected, there was Raju or Mahatma, in the first page of the Surah, the wives of the Prophet alayhi salam, or their mothers of believers. That was a not just a social status. That was a religious status as well. It gave him religious authority to and almost immunity towards others after he passed away. So the lies and then we're going to see that in the future. You
may not get to it today. But at the end of the page after this, you'll find that it'll become much more clear to you that after he died from some of the Harley's, like we said them, they will continue to be called Omaha didn't mean he was the only meaning. And she was not to marry after him I saw to Sudan. And that would give them this, this, this aura, this this status that they will continue to carry. And I used that status one day to claim the dumb the blood of Earth's mantle, the low angle, and almost enemy did the same thing. On the opposite side, no matter what me we're a place where people would go learn and learn Hadith, they became known scholars and figures at a time
where when women didn't have that luxury, they weren't given that level of respects back in the sixth and seventh century. Imagine what we mean they broke up, they broke a social norm. The concept of human meaning broke the social norms almost forever, that now these ladies carrying status, the Khalifa couldn't speak to them. In the Khalifa, whoever he was, didn't have the ability to transgress against wonderful mountain Momineen. The Quran would be written or gathered after it was written on different pieces of Yanni of bulking of bark. It would be written in one book and put in the house of Hafsa. Me matomo HUBZone one woman in the province was employed HUBZone would be in her
house. And you'll see that their effect on the
when you take the people who narrated Hadith you'll find amongst the highest for his Ayesha really low I know. She narrated a large number of prophetic narrations and a hadith we otherwise he wouldn't have. If you know the Allahu Allah was not trusted as a scholar of Islam as a hobby that was that we don't question her knowledge and we don't question her integrity, then this wouldn't matter. In some way. Some people misunderstand these things with the Quran when they read that talk about testimony business testimony needing one man is up to women. What does this mean? Well forget about that. What about the Hadith of the prophets lie Selim, I actually didn't need two women to
testify with her when she was telling us what he said some of the audience and then a lot of that we have is built on things she told us and no one else told us by her or the loved one how Allah and others Oh, imagine living the same thing. The Quran was entrusted with the hands of Hazza it was in her home, she could do anything. You're saying the idea here, there's sometimes misconceptions towards these things. So what we're going to read is a breakdown from Allah subhanaw taala. For the prophets Allah sent him and for us to say that this is this is unique about him. And this uniqueness, there is no halogen this uniqueness.
And you're standing with the problem is for us, at least it was in August, he had a number of wives after Khadija. So do you have halogen
Watch this. When you are confronted with disinformation by someone who doesn't believe in Allah Subhan that was done a Muslim. Do you find how much talking about this as a man or as a Muslim woman, you'll find her explaining this and saying what the problem is? Well, you shouldn't is the decree of Allah subhanaw taala there should be no halogen. This is what Allah subhanaw taala predestined to him. This is what He commanded him to do. Why are you finding difficulty? Are you saying daddy, so this is what teaches? When Allah subhanaw taala gives a command there should be no homage to be no difficulty. The fear the Yani the awkwardness, the uncomfortable none of this, none
of this should matter. If he gives a command supine on time, this is what Allah subhanaw has asked for, or has told us to do. Whereas made halal or haram. We accept it with open hearts where there's something that we necessarily enjoy or don't enjoy doesn't really matter. And I think that's it that is of course explained in the center I have the whole Surah which is a number 36 one that can any movement in one minute in either Kabbalah who are Zulu emmalin and Hakuna Allah whom we'll hear about two min Emery him was never permissible for a believer, man or woman when Allah subhanaw taala gave a command or a decree for them to have the option of saying yes or no towards it. If this is
what he said, Julia Gillard, who then you accept exempt, whether it's something that you fully enjoy, or whether it's not, okay. So we're gonna start in sha Allah reciting a number 49. And like I said, here are talking about something new, it's going to be very personal to him some advice, and I'm talking about his wives and his relationship with his wife, and then the HIV that we'll talk about his home, will enter his house to the lights and we're literally within it with the Crown will take us into his house and he started talking to him about something happening in sight. And these are of course, no one likes anyone to know about what's going on inside and all these details, but
he is excited to listen to music and when he rallies. So,
we know who we are, we know why this is happening is for us to learn. So that we always have an example to follow. So we started with a number for the man who will be he Nina che on your body
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so that's the first I'm going to explain each one on its own because they're very The second one's quite long, it will take us a while to read we'll probably read it in
stages. So yeah, you are living in mono. The introduction to this chapter is a command to the to the Muslims. It's regarding marriage and and and divorce either and I got to mean it. If you marry
a muslim or a movement or believing woman don't love to move and then you have a divorce you divorce them bodily and tennis soon before you have a physical physical * with them and this is like as as Frank as it can be with the meaning the monsoon means whether for what to offer for something to happen between the man and the woman which happens between a married man and a married woman. So if someone divorces their wives before this happens before this type of intimacy occurs,
it can mean that in data doona then they You have no right to ask them for the waiting period. Now the in Islam is a period when a woman is divorced that she waits
He waits for a certain amount of time when mobile lappato does not be unforeseen, that I set up a rule. So they have to wait for three cycles to finish. After three cycles, they can do whatever they want, they can marry whomever they want, they can go back whatever they want to do. But
if someone, for example, good examples of this, understand what this is talking about, so you want to get married, so you go with your parents, and you visit the family, you get to know them, and they're happy. And he's like, Okay, we'll get to know you for another month or so you get to know them for another month. And they're like, Okay, come and do some ketchup or do the opposite of Corona data Dominica Dominica contract. So you bring the chef or you don't leave the gym, by the way, but you just say you bring the shear, and you're going to do it, and you have the witnesses and you write the contract and the sign it, but you're not going to go have a wedding. And you know, so
she's not going home with you, you guys don't have a home yet ready anyways. But you'll be able to sit with her more often. She doesn't have to bring your hijab anymore in front of you. certain physical contact is okay, because this is what the adopted now, if, after within this period before you guys actually have the wedding, let's say it comes to the point where you don't want to continue anymore, or she doesn't want to continue anymore, and a divorce is going to occur. So they don't want to continue. So he divorces her. Now this is a divorce that happened before intimacy actually occurred. So this is before that. So what happens here? There are two rulings you need to know. The
first ruling is here, we use that there's no read up on her there was no waiting time that she has to she has to give the second one from a dear Luna.
From a dear one, no. Material One means give them the amount of the dowry that is deserved for them. It is time that they are paid that they're not paid, but they're given.
To me they're given an amount of the dowry. Now if you married if you got married Michela soon, and then you write on the contract a certain amount of dowry. Now what they do today is that they write something called macadam and mockery do this a lot. Now, upfront and later, right? I don't know if it has a different name in English, but there's an upfront amount of dowry and a later amount of dowry. Of course, this didn't exist back at the time of the Prophet. So I said, then it was people came up with it based on the need of of societies. So what we don't understand is that we think that the second amount of dowry is only, we only give it to the lady if we if they get divorced. No, this
is something that you owe them. This is their dowry, you're just not paying it because you don't have the money right now. That's all the only reason that you haven't given your wife the full amount of her dowry is because you don't have it, the moment that you have it within your life, you're supposed to give it to her. It has nothing to do with divorce, or death. This is a Dane, this is Yaniv a debt that you owe. If you pass away before her then the first thing that is done with it with your inheritance is that we take the rest of the DOD and we give it them a home and we give it to your wife and then we cut all the inheritance up after we give her the remaining amount of the
money.
I know that sometimes in marriages, we know because we're buying our wives a lot of things and that we think okay, I probably given her No, no, I don't care what you probably given her throat. Did you ever give her amount of money and say this is the remaining amount of the mahalo No, then you still owe her the MO You have to give her the amount of money after you do that. You can do whatever you want. When I buy her gifts and get her cars and clothes and take her places, that's fine. But the amount of money has to be very clear. She is owed that amount of money and it's her rights. You don't get to ask her to forgive you. And another thing that's nothing to do with Isabel say this
anyway, you can ask her to forgive you for this. Don't do that. Of course he's gonna forgive you for it. She's your wife, she loves you. She doesn't want to make a big deal. But don't this is Allah, Allah subhana gave her a right. This is you owe her this in the eyes of Allah subhana wa Tada. You owe it turned out because she asked for it. But because Allah subhanaw taala decreed it for her. So give it to her. After you put the money in her hand. If you want to forgive you, she'll give it back. I guarantee you that 99% of the time, she won't give you back the whole amount. All right, and that's nothing wrong. No, no, I'm not. I'm not I don't mean this as a joke. Because that's her
right? She'll forgive you because she's embarrassed because he feels shame because there's social pressure. But if you actually gave her the money, and if she wants to forgive you she'll give it back she won't give you the whole thing but it is there right this is Allah is about God's right with him upon you. It but not only that, we say you will hire EVO Hallum if you take something using the sword of shame and embarrassment that as haram eating something is not yours. You owe her this give her them a hug and then whatever you want to do after that is fine. Everybody told this to someone he almost had a heart attack. He's like I just bought her a car yesterday. You couldn't tell
me this yesterday that I could have given this as no no, no, this you gave this as a gift, give her a hug. Then after that whatever you want to do is up to you because this is her right? Now if you divorce your wife before this intimacy happens, then there's no definite commodity hidden I mean that in data donor You have no right to ask her or to require her to have a waiting period for net 01 And you're supposed to give her a certain amount of them but most of them allow you to give her some amount of the dowry which is how much half of the dowry May she
is owed a half of the debt not 100, the beginning the first part of the whole thing. So if you had once I went in, I don't do credit, ever I don't do this. So never ever asked me to do it. I don't do it. I don't do the acapella. I was asked once I was put in a bad situation, we had to do it, I had no choice. So I went, then I remember that I was when I was doing it. The first
part of the DoD was one gold coin or something like, what is that worth? What is just one gold coin is right one gold coin. But what is it worse that you have to have some something to have a weight to the gold, you have a weight, how many carats whatever. And then the second part of the dowry was 25 gold coins. And then if we did the math, it was like that was like a $300,000. Tell them if you if if I if you signed this and then divorce or before you actually have a wedding you owe over $150,000 You owe her that within Islam that gave me that has to be unless she of course he does. I mean, she asked for the divorce. And then she said, Okay, keep whatever you want, just get I want to
get rid of you. That's a different, that's a different thing, meaning Islamically if the woman asked for the divorce, there can be negotiation. But if he initiates, like, I don't want this anymore, that he owes her that unearned 50, which is a lot of money. I don't know, I think mahalo shouldn't be that. If you're looking to
preserve the right of your daughter, I mean, you want to make sure that you've taken care of it don't it doesn't it's not done through money.
You think about it for your own in your own case, it the reason that your wife is preserved is because of the money. That's why she's been living a nice life with you. If she's living a nice life, she's happy and she's injured. Is it because of money because of the murder? Or is it because I linked up completely different. So if you want to preserve a right look for someone who has the right ethical code, someone who has a good code of conduct someone who was raised with with good value, someone who who embraced good values in their lives, a person who has a proper holding property and someone who has ambition, someone who respects it will respect his spouse, and it
understands what he's actually getting into. And what way more important than money actually. And when you when you increase the amount to a point where the person feels the financial pressure, though, they'll resent you deep inside for a long time because of it. They'll never no matter how close you come to them, they'll never really let you in. Because like, Look, if you trusted me you wouldn't have you know, made me write half a million dollars for it figured out if you actually trusted don't act like it. Trust me now. I owe your daughter five, and then where am I going to get half a million dollars in my life. And sometimes you will write amounts upon themselves that they
can they can project themselves ever making in a lifetime. Like if you're if you're working for $20 an hour, you only from eight to five, and you're barely making you know, 3500 a month or 4000 and you have a Mahoto have a quarter of a million. What are you doing? When are you gonna make this money? You owe her this is not about whether you divorce or not. This is money that you owe her. And I think a lot of people don't understand you think it's just based on divorce no has nothing to do with divorce. This is a hug. If you die in the diner, there's not to 20 $50,000 within your your inheritance. This is money now that
means you passed away and there's debt upon you. And that is something no one wants to do try to find a way with no debt upon you will not hire them. So if someone divorces their wives before there is that physical contact, then they owe them half the dowry from a dear Luna. And then the final command was Saturday when Sara and Jamila and then make sure that the divorce happens elegantly. And how many times have we said the same thing now?
I mean, I don't know. So it's been three times so far within the sutra. So 100 meter, you have it your divorce and your divorce elegantly. And it makes sure that happens with beauty happens with with a certain level of respect, we don't divorce and then Jonnie destroy one another, and we destroy each other's families. Why this idea here? This is a very difficult type of divorce. By the way, that's why this is so worthless, that is more difficult than a normal divorce where people are married for 10 years, maybe seven years. They have a few kids, and then the divorce. Now it's a typical one. But when they divorce before they actually do anything, the people start speaking and
asking questions, and there's a lot of question marks that are that are put around this divorce and sometimes regarding the girl, the lady specifically, right and this becomes problematic. But I have seen from Allah Komali when they don't, they don't owe you a timeframe. You owe them half of them or her and you do it elegantly with somebody or witness or engineer specifically in this situation where there's a lot of social pressure upon both parties that are involved. So that's the first idea that is a ruling as an introduction before what Allah Subhanallah is gonna tell the prophets specifically the next area is specific and unique to him summarize him as a messenger of Allah
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Allahu attic, and the wives that you took Melaka chemidoc is just a phrase that means a wife that is not free. So he's a wife was still in slavery, or has not left slavery yet or just left slavery. Recently, well, Melaka Cimino come in Allahu it from what Allah subhanaw taala has blessed you with meaning your wives, your wives who are free, and your wives who are not so every time you eat in the pie, you'll see is OGE Zoda Monica Cimino because it's just two phrases for two different things. A wife who is free is Dogen, a wife who is not as called Melaka Jimmy mymaths, Allahu Allah, from what Allah subhanaw taala has blessed blessed you with. Okay, that's the first thing he was given some
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unique in a unique matter regarding comparison to everyone else, meaning that we don't we were restricted with the numbers still. Alessandro Sam was married at that time four and five and six, Mary, you're going to because this is going to be something that later on will be it will become clearer in terms of their meaning. That's why I started this with introduction, that there's something the Prophet sallallahu sallam was doing. Now when you look at it. Ali Hassan said that when he was married, he wasn't marrying 18 and 19 year old girls, Sodom and zemana Below I know was around 85 When he married her. Oh, have you been? Yeah, she was very, very old. I mean, some of them
were so old, that she got he didn't even want it the day that he would come to her like cars go go to and he gave her the time. He was a very, very old lady. She was the elderly lady, the first widow within Islam in the first day to lose her husband within within Islam was was soda. At least after so the prophet sent them in honoring her and she has a long life story of sacrificer he married her and Omaha diva was a lady in her 50s and soul was Yanni Bozhena. Because a man and so on so forth. So so it wasn't a demographic of young individuals. But Allah Subhanallah made this * out for him. So a lot he said.
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also made Hallel for the Prophet sallallahu Sallam to continue to marry cousins who are his uncle's daughters or his aunt's daughters or his uncle from his mother's side his daughters or his aunt from his mother's side his daughters and he wasn't talking about their his direct aunts and uncles he's talking about here and this I am those
women of Arabia who are really to do from your father's side or your mother's side because all of Arabia because they they had their genealogy, and heritage all memorized. At the end every every one is either a distance been time or been damaged or have been tolerated in Canada. So the idea here wasn't to marry his cousins because I usually never actually did. He only the only lady who was a cousin who he married was Xena. I've been to Josh and there's two in there.
The story right before everyone else, we're just ladies who are related from a very, very far from a very, very far I need perspective in terms of in terms of heritage, but there was still called Banana. I'm in banana. I'm a Banana Cronenberg, Carla, because that's how that's how it works in Arabic. So if you find out that, you know, if you meet someone who is your Jani, who you meet, and the fourth grandfather, from your mother's side, then there she has been called to COVID. And that's what, that's what you'll see if you come from big families, or you come from villages that you This is very, very, very common. And even though sometimes you can't even trace how exactly you're
related to that person, because it's so far. But if you can trace that you're related, then there'll be you'll use that.
That terminology. And this is paired with this sort of thing. That also made a lot of people, all the ladies, all the women within Arabia that are about American magic, when I Tronic, metadata quality, you're gonna mark the ones who have immigrated with you, the ones who have accepted Islam and emigrated, marry them and bring and bring the tribes together. And it sounds to them did the ladies that he married me more than half enjoy it, but the head of each one from from from a different tribe, a different, crucial and critical tribe group that had a lot of alliances when she was married to the Prophet satellites. And then she was called on minimal meaning. This made the
tribes Yanni and actually there was a study done by show people where he showed how every time within the timeline of the marriages he had someone with his wives, how he would marry a wife. And then a couple of months later, the tribes come Muslim, mean the tribes that they were that these wives came from would come would emigrate to Medina show showing their Islam every time he did some nice element this brought brought the tribes and brought Arabia together. And the concept of unity was important for a bunch of people who had been fighting for at least Yanni three centuries, if not more. Yeah, the trip the tribal system that existed in the peninsula was so embedded in rooted with
hatred, and racism, and that for Islam in any forum to be able to bring people together from these different backgrounds, and make people forget that hatred or forget the words or forget the blood was something almost and imaginable that this would never happen, because there's so much like today. Maybe like today, maybe like today, maybe maybe like today, you can think about it that yeah, right now we have something similar. And we look at it. Yeah. And he maybe the hatred that exists between all these small countries now it's no longer tribes, it's more countries, whether you're a Syrian or Palestinian or Lebanese or Iraqi or Jordanian or Yanni maybe I don't know how it works in
other parts of you I think is pretty similar. Now within these countries, whether you come from the north of the south of the east or the west and then within the South, whether you come from this part of the side of the river, that side of the river, if you come from this side of there, maybe you're living on the top of the mountain or the bottom of the mountain you're on the bottom and multimedia living beside this say I need to replace that but he keeps on getting smaller and smaller. And there's more and more of this age and you think is impossible to end however it did only a start to Islam with the will of Allah subhanaw taala for big enough to be him. He brought
hearts together right using different methods on a sudden Salam and Allah subhanaw taala blessing this with different ways in a way one of the ways was the marriages he has to lay them to these different individuals for came from different parts and different tribes.
So that's the second group are they so Sam was told, was made hideout for him to marry the third one when Walton Amina in rabbits Neff Salim Nabi in Ahmad and maybe you as a year Stankey ha ha ha yester gap so any given believer woman Woman believer who offers herself in marriage to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam if the prophet would like to marry her or would like to marry her off yes thank you haha does not mean to marry her for himself and this is a very interesting I'm not gonna say Mystique but it kind of something that was overlooked by a lot of them for sitting yes thank you haha doesn't mean to marry Yong ki haha needs to marry yes thank you haha means to marry her to
someone. And the examples of that are many the Prophet sallallahu Sallam did this many times, meaning a woman woman comes to yell at Allah I would like to get married. Now she's hoping maybe he would marry her someday so let me know she's a woman what we need or he would but every time this happened he would marry them off to one of the Sahaba and then one story when he tells us a lady came to Yellowstone Allah Yanni in New Orleans George I wanted to get married for political asylum Fernanda fuller He called this man Okay, you cut down marry him
she wanted to marry the profit slice and then but she he said him so she's okay with that. Because 13 Habima her go get Dell refer five when he when he came back for karma as you do mache in yellow. So the lab nothing
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one will ever do this after you we are Muhammad Rasool Allah. So I said and there's something pure and specific to your status of Allah, Allah Muhammad Salah Salem, we don't do this. After that. No one comes into no woman comes into a man and say I am offering myself to you in marriage with and then he takes her marries or just someone with no dowry. None of none of that happens. It happens by the way.
Yes, so that's clear, it is happening because these weren't revealed for nothing. This does happen. But it's something very specific qualities of the Lika Mindomo. Meaning this is something specific and unique to you mean to me that no other believer will ever be ever given this only to you, we are sort of, they did this many, many times some of the Hadees like this. By the way, he never married himself, any of the ladies who said this
is awesome, never actually took in marriage, or in any other form. Any lady who said who came and said this. Now you may be you may be thinking in your mind saying, Well, why would this even be something that the Quran will talk about? Okay. Maybe you
remember, with a, there was a talk once about men who have fame.
And that all the men who don't have fame, don't really understand the difficulties of that men who are vain actually have until you have faith. There's no booklet waiting for you when you have faith in terms of the fitna that you're going to be dealing with on a daily basis. So the province of Lexington had reached a level of fame at his time that is unparalleled. There was nothing like it. His name was on every person's tongue. Everyone knew him. He was not only a political leader, you're not only a social reformer, he was also a prophet and messenger of Allah subhanaw taala. Yeah, I mean, imagine.
I don't know what to tell you. Now. I don't think there's any way for explaining the number of people who want a piece of Him every moment of every day sort of people are trying to talk to him all the time, there has to be a lot of regulations in the Quran, and rulings towards asking him questions towards something like this when it comes to marriage when it comes to entering his home when it comes to home, Talk Talk calling him during the time when he's sleeping, they stand behind his house and start yelling, his name is getting an hour or two hours of sleep and they're coming in disturbing him during his hours of sleep.
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was dealing with a level of fame that was very difficult to hide, to be honest in the Quran that specified in in specialize in talking about God specifically. So he sought to send him in a time where people were dirt poor, almost had nothing at all, the commonality of a lady coming up and saying Allah so Allah marry me, because before Islam, men could marry any number of women.
Any number they wanted, you're talking to hundreds and men who were very famous would, because the woman would later on enjoy the status of the man she married, meaning she was able to walk around and say, I am the man, the wife of this man and he was was very famous or was a king, or he was a leader of a tribe that that would actually help her and help her family if she came from a poor family would help her parents to help her siblings help her daughter her sisters later on to get married and her daughter's. So this is the system that existed at the time. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam got this commonly, this wasn't something that never happened. Allah subhanaw taala
didn't give them a command to something that he never dealt with. It was happening all the time. So he was told you're allowed to marry them off. Or marry them if you'd like he never did some of them. The beauty of a lot of these guys we're gonna read is that even the things that were made halal to him, he never did some of my salon, it was said you're allowed to do it. He didn't do it. You didn't do it, you had no reason to. And this shows. And the reason for these shows the father of Rasulullah saw I said, I was not looking for something for himself. He was told by Allah clearly in an eye and a sauna that talked about nothing about distress, nothing but distress, telling us that there should
be no distress when I tell him, it's okay for him to do something. And he was given something. And he said, No, he didn't take it. And he every time a lady would come and do that he would marry her off to someone else.
And if she refused, then that would be the end of it. And he would say no, there'll be no end. There's examples of names of ladies who came. And we don't know if that's the by the, by the decree of Allah subhanaw taala or by his own choice that Allah Allah said, I'm just not clear, but he was given to us on this. He was given this, this context of a ruling in order for him to be able to do something within Arabia that was hard to do to build these relationships and bring people together to honor to honor the Omaha or mothers or mountain Momineen in a way that they deserve to be honored, so that we could remember their name
To remember their lives and then Arabia would see women in a different light for the first time probably in the history of the of the of the area.
Alright, so that is what columns are the lack of meaning means this is something that is very unique to him. So mycelium he was made, it was made halal to him I saw to Islam to marry the wives that he married that when he gave the dowry to and to continue to marry the ladies from Arabia, who are distantly are closely related to him, and for him to marry off the ladies who came to him, civilize them. And he could be the Willie and could marry her off to someone, whether with mode or without it, and that is something very specific to him. And this is the specificity that we know from the self dot something that we just made up because I think it was asked at some point, how do we know I
think you asked me right, how do we know that something specific to him? Some of them are now right. So this is how we know is when the Quran actually words it out and says it very clearly clearly. So they're like, there's something for you. We also have Allah Mindomo meaning the other believers believers will not be granted the permission or the ability to do
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those words and we know what we gave but we gave you this specific to you became a Hakuna Anika how much the lesson to distress upon you in your life so that you don't find distress in your life this ruling is specific to you yeah, Mohamed Salah Allah Muhammad Salim and the word has come yet to get your gun comes yet again. Yet again. There should be no distress upon you. And it should be no distress upon you either or me as we talk about this already explained it is very very normal within the context of the place and time very, very normal. All you need to do is go get just fine shallow yeah even find a time machine and just go back and then experience living in in those times with
people at the time you find this very very normal or they did not do anything out of the normal and every time and like I said he was given things that were highlighted that he did not practice so to center a future practice and he was offered to do this this is Mobile for you this is highlighted for you doesn't take it but the eye is very cute clear why the que Hakuna alayka how much the ruling within this area that you do not find upon yourself yeah Mohamed Salah is like this, you'll find no How do I know the stress upon yourself is to make your life easier make the job that you're going to do easier How is marrying more than one woman within this sorta going to make his life easier like I
explained to you, the man easy marriages, formed alliances amongst tribes that have been fighting for a very long time. And as he marries Elijah Lindell, the ladies that he married, he brought them together. And these tribes stopped fighting and allegiances were because now all our daughter is the wife of Muhammad. So I said, I'm with the ruler of the whole area now. He was the undisputed ruler at a certain point for the left. And most of the marries by the way happened within the last three years. Most of the marries happened after from 60s 63. At the end, as the strength of the Muslim country was being solidified and established
earlier salatu salam, when you think about it, he also not only did he marry Arab, wait, ladies bring that bringing the tribes together and force people ride these women we've talked about that have high status, we're individually on a different different skill. But you also married a lady who used to be a Jewish woman, Sophia, and a lady used to be a Christian when mareel Complete. Yeah. So basically, all three faiths, now we're with them, so most of them, right, so now Jonnie from bringing bringing as they say, bringing the the Abrahamic faiths into one Ali Asad was under the unity that this was causing was important, and it had and it had symbolic meanings to those who
later on carry this message into the world. What kind of Allah who go forward? Well, Haman and Allah Subhan Allah has always been the most forgiving and the Most Merciful. Were married. Maria and Sophia.
They're both Muslims. Yeah, there wasn't any philosophy in the origin. They were both the one anyone
Jewish and one on one Christian. So unprotected, I don't think we have enough time to continue. The chapter of is not over yet being the three ideas that are coming next are a continuation of what we talked about. So there's still more inshallah to continue with. But in 90 with intention and shall have explaining the second wisdom, that piece of wisdom, they did not have time enough time to explain last week and Sharla will stop and with that.
So what we're doing is at the end of each
HELOC, I'm explaining one of the pieces of wisdom that even our secondary Rahimullah left behind, he looked around 264 pieces of wisdom.
And they were taken care of by scholars throughout the throughout centuries, many scholars took time to explain these pieces of wisdom and comment upon them, they're very, very deep within their meaning and I talked about the first one
a number of weeks ago, and that last week, I started talking about the second one but it was enough time to finish it I'll try to finish it today. So what he says is in order to get read by Parliament Illa he I can feel a superb militia with your coffee, where your order to kill us bob my apartment in LA he I can read and hip hop on Unlimited, Aliya, what this means is the following, for you to want to indulge yourself in isolation, or in the form or in the situation that is called to read. And I'll explain that in a second. When Allah subhanaw taala has placed your position you and in, in, in a circumstance that requires you to make a living or to take upon yourself the rules of the
universe that you live in. That is a hidden passion, that is a hidden desire, is it time for that hindered Should I wait a minute, and for you to want or for you to pursue making a living or using a utilizing the laws of the universe when Allah subhanaw taala puts you in a state of isolation. That is you falling from a higher from a higher status that Allah subhanaw taala put you in. So there's two states state that is called the juried industry that is called a suburb. What they are to make it very simple, is the state of labor and shahada vibe is the unseen, to read means isolation. Or if isolation of what isolation from the laws that dictate everything within the universe that we live
in a god we're isolated, we're talking about something that is isolated from the laws that we are capable of measuring the laws that are capable of dealing with in an observational or scientific matter. And then you have a suburb, which is basically a sure heard of the scene, the scene world, where there are rules that are very clear that if you follow them properly, you will achieve a certain goal we live between, there's a perfect balance that as Muslims, we live between these two worlds, meaning we acknowledge what is dictated by this, we acknowledge what is dictated by that. And when we're in one of these situations, we have to follow the rules that apply. And we cannot
switch it when we switch, the imam in his in his, in his wisdom calls them different things. One time he called the shower coffee, it's a hidden desire, meaning you have something wrong with your knee. And the other words in hip hop on in heavy metal, it means you are given a higher status and you decided to drop to something that is lower, and that has its own like symbolism. But the concept is very simple. As you're going through life, when you're trying to make a living, you're trying to educate yourself, you're trying, I need to achieve any accomplishment, anything at all, then you need to use the laws of the universe that you live in. And for you to shy away from those laws. And
to ask Allah Subhana Allah to grant you something without you actually following those laws is a SHA Coffea. meaning for you to try and get something that requires you to follow certain laws that you know apply here in this universe. If you want to become successful, you have to study hard, you have to work hard, you have to have certain qualities, if you you expect to be given what you want without actually doing that, that is a problem. Because now you're asking Allah subhanaw taala in an isolated manner to give you something that he made achievable through the laws of the universe itself. So you're running away from this state that he you're supposed to be into another state. And
then the opposite applies as well. When Allah subhanaw taala blesses you with something that you did not work towards or you are tried, trust, tested, or trialed with something that you could not have any, any way to actually avoid. And then you try to understand it logically. You're trying to apply the laws of how I should then you're also running away from one thing to the other, you're running from the cudgel if
you end up developing a disease that you didn't really do anything to to acquire disease. You didn't we weren't smoking. You never smoked. You never got any eat unhealthy food. You're always someone who's healthy and you played any sports every week and you took care of your health and then you ended up less I'm Hala, may Allah preserve everyone's say, I mean, insha Allah from a terminal disease that is in the lungs, maybe. Right? But there's nothing there. There's nothing logical because it right. So what do you do? You're in a forum now of isolation. This is something Allah subhanaw tested you with, deal with it as such. don't deal with it as something else. Don't run away
from that and start looking into what you did right and what you did wrong and then and then you're completely confused. Because now Allah
There has been a different situation he is testing you on a level that is not following the laws of everything else that you're used to. So when you're when you as a Muslim living in the balance of these two things, you have to know when you're required to follow the laws of logic and the rationale of the of the world that you live in. And when things are being are happening, where that doesn't exist. When you need to work to make a living, you work, you don't pray, you go to work. And when it's time to pray, you pray you don't work.
It's just out of balance. Right now, should I be working? Or should I be praying which one it is? Which one is it? Praying is something that God does isolation is praying and it's in its actual form does not gain any any financial or physical benefit for the human being from a logical perspective, you want to again, think about it like that. Working is more beneficial financially, but which one do we do at the time that we're in? So it's just a balance of when you do this, and when you do that, when you went away from one to the other, and when you don't go to work hard and work and you spend time making dua instead, there's just a hidden desire inside and when you don't pray and say I
have to work I have to work I can't come to Jamaica, this is just you falling from a higher state to a lower when unless somebody made you a human being who can get the agenda, you decided to put yourself in a lower position, but it's just that perfect balance. If you can achieve it mentally and practically, then you will shall achieve what Allah subhanaw taala has commanded us to achieve. I'll end with that. Inshallah. We'll continue next week. sabbatical you haven't because you still feel go to Buddha.