Adnan Rajeh – Sunday Tafseer- 66 Part 3 Surat Al-Tahrim- 7-8

Adnan Rajeh
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The speakers emphasize the importance of protecting oneself and family members from potential hellfires and avoiding harm to achieve a better life. They stress the need for a culture of avoiding harm and prioritizing reward over harms to avoid future mistakes. The speakers also discuss the emotional impact of regret and the importance of protecting oneself and family members from consequences of a failed exam. They give a brief history of a door being closed and how it will last until the soul reaches a throat, highlighting the importance of acknowledging mistakes and rethinking plans to avoid them. They emphasize the importance of regretting one's actions and rethinking plans to avoid regretting them.
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The time switch is in November and it

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will become after Isha.

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I had it on Monday in the summer

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because I wanted my weekends to be a

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little bit more free.

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But for now, inshallah, it's already winter so

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we're going to just move it back into

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the weekend again.

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So, we had stopped at ayah number 6.

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I had recited the ayah with you and

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I had started explaining it and then we

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ran out of time.

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So today, inshallah ta'ala, I'm going to

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kind of go over the meaning.

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It is, in my opinion, of course, when

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it comes to tafsir and I do a

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thematic tafsir approach.

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So, it is my understanding of things, obviously.

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I use what the scholars have talked about

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in the linguistic meanings.

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When it comes to the themes, I do

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offer my insights on stuff.

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So, you're welcome to disagree on certain things

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if you think they're different.

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I think the main ayah in the surah

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is number 6.

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It is this first call upon the believers.

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After Allah told us the story of the

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Prophet with his wives and we talked about

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the lessons or the 3 or 4 lessons

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from this story that he had.

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Knowing that Surah Al-Tahrim's purpose is the

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final surah in this juz'ah from Nujadilat

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Al-Tahrim is to talk about organization of

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the family, of the household.

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Talaq talked about organization of marriage, which is

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a little bit different.

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Obviously, they overlap, but it's not exactly the

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same thing.

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The difference between entering into a marriage and

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maintaining it and then if needing to leave

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it and then maintaining the household where there's

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an actual family involved.

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There is some distinction here that at least

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the shari'ah sees.

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And this first ayah encompasses this meaning with

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what it says.

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يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا۟ O those who believe,

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قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ And I talked about the word

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قُوا.

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It comes from وَقَى.

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وَقَى is to protect or to prevent or

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both.

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And it's the root that taqwa comes from

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anyways.

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And when you use it in the form

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of a command in the Arabic language, it's

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just one letter.

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It's قِي.

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If I'm telling you to protect or prevent,

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I'll tell you قِي.

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قِي نَفْسَك.

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That's it.

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If I'm going to talk to a group,

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I add the vowel of جَمَعَة so it

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becomes قُو.

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And there's a number of words in Arabic

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that are just one letter when it's a

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command.

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To understand something is وَعَة.

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So if I want to tell you to

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understand something, I'll tell you عِي.

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That's the command of understanding.

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It's just one letter with a كسرة, that's

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a command.

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So there's a number of words like that

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in the Arabic language.

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And قُو is one of them.

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So protect or prevent.

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قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ Protect your families, yourselves.

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وَأَهْلِيكُمْ And your families.

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نَارًا A hellfire.

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And then Allah describes it.

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So this is where the command ends.

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The command is not very complex.

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It's just those words.

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For those who believe, قُوَ أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا

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You're responsible for protecting yourselves and your families

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from a hellfire.

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And then he describes it just so that

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this command has more meat to it for

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you.

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So you have more reason to listen to

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it.

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This hellfire, نَارًا وَقُودُهَا It's fuel.

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الناسُ والحجارة Human beings and boulders, rocks.

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That's the fuel of it.

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عَلَيْهَا Upon it, gatekeeping of it.

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مَلَائِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ Are extremely stern, firm, difficult.

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مَلَائِكَةٌ They're not welcoming.

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They're not kind.

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They're not pleasant.

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They're not smiling.

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As the Prophet ﷺ told us in the

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hadith in the Sahih, Sahihin actually.

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When he ran into, in the journey of

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Mi'raj, and some relate this story to

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one of his visions ﷺ during sleep.

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So the story is kind of unclear.

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But he would be given a tour ﷺ

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of the hereafter, and he would come by

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Jahannam.

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And he would run into a Malik.

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As in Surah Al-Zukhruf وَنَادَوْا يَا مَالِكُ

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لِيَقْضِي عَلَيْنَا رَبُّكُ قَالَ إِنَّكُمْ مَاكِثُونَ And the

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people of the Hellfire will call upon Malik,

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the gatekeeper of Jahannam, the main gatekeeper, the

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responsible one.

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لِيَقْضِي عَلَيْنَا رَبُّكُ May your Lord end us.

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We don't want to exist anymore.

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قَالَ إِنَّكُمْ مَاكِثُونَ He said, indeed, you will

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stay where you are.

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As he says in Surah Al-Muddathir that

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we'll come to at some point.

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قَالَ عَلَيْهَا تِسْعَةَ عَشَرَ وَلَا تُبْخِي وَلا تَذَرْ

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عَلَيْهَا تِسْعَةَ عَشَرَ Upon Jahannam is 19 of

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Allah's angels.

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And the gatekeeper is Malik.

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The Prophet ﷺ would say, قَالَ مَرَرْتُ عَلَيْهِ

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فَإِذَا هُوَ عَابِسٌ I come by him and

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he was frowning.

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And the Prophet ﷺ, every time he came

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by one of the people of the Hereafter

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or the skies, they would be in a

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position of smiling.

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They would be kind to him and very

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welcoming.

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This one, he wasn't.

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So the Prophet ﷺ asked, فَقَالَ أَلَا إِنَّهُ

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لَمْ يَبْتَسِمْ مُذْ خَلَقَ اللَّهُ النَّارِ He has

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not smiled since the day Allah ﷻ created

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Jahannam.

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He has failed to smile.

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And this is obviously the result of what

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he is witnessing, what he sees of what

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the Hellfire is.

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نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَائِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ

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لَا يَعْصُونَ اللَّهَ مَا أَمَرَهُمْ They do not

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disobey Allah ﷻ.

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Whatever it is that He commands them to

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do.

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وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ And they perform the tasks

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they are commanded to do.

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Why is he saying this here, subhanAllah?

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Because your thought may be, well, it doesn't

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make any sense that Yawm al-Qiyamah, people

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get punished.

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There's too much mercy.

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The mala'ika wouldn't do this to human

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beings.

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Allah says, no, no.

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Upon Jahannam are very stern, difficult, unwelcoming mala

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'ika that stand there.

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They never disobey their Lord.

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And they will absolutely do what it is

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that they are told to do.

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The reason that this piece exists in the

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ayah is to make, in case you and

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I are living this fantasy, it absolutely will

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happen, is what this ayah is saying.

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Just in case I'm living this illusion.

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No, Yawm al-Qiyamah, most likely, there will

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be no punishment.

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Allah ﷻ.

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No, no.

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Protect yourself from the hellfire.

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A hellfire that is fueled by human beings

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and by rocks.

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What fire is fueled by rocks, Yaqi?

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What type of fire is this that can

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extract energy out of a rock?

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Fire needs to extract energy and it needs

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to have oxygen.

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In order for it to burn, it has

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to extract energy.

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It has to be able to burn something.

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What fire can burn rock, Yaqi?

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You want to turn off a fire, you

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throw rocks in it.

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It's only things that have less density that

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it can only burn.

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But the fire of Jahannam will burn rocks.

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Meaning it extracts energy from rocks.

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It defies the logic of the fires that

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we understand in dunya.

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As the Prophet ﷺ would tell us that

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the fire of Akhirah is 70 or 80

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fold of what you see in dunya ﷺ.

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Fueled by human beings and rocks.

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Upon it are mala'ika that are very,

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very difficult.

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That obey their Lord.

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Would never disobey.

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Always do what they're told.

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No matter how difficult or how painful it

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may be.

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That being the case, protect yourself and your

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families from the hellfire.

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This ayah, it summarizes really what the story

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is.

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It's very simple and it makes things very

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simple for us as well.

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Look, there's a possibility of punishment.

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It is there.

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It is real.

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It will occur.

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If you understand that there's a possibility of

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punishment.

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Of you losing yourself or losing your loved

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ones to it.

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Then your primary goal must be that you

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protect yourself.

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And you protect the people that you love

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from ever falling there.

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See, if the equation was different.

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If the equation was either you are rewarded

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versus you just dissolve into infinity.

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Like you just cease to exist altogether.

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It's a different discussion altogether there.

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Like it's a different discussion.

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Yeah, you want to listen to me and

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make it to the reward place straight.

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If not, it was nice knowing you.

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It's just nice.

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Well, you're done.

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But that's not the options here.

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The option is either reward or it's وَالْحِجَارَةُ

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عَلَيْهَا مَلَائِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَاتٌ This is the alternative.

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So if this is the problem that you

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truly love.

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If you love your family members.

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Then your primary goal is to protect them

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from what the possibility of this is.

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There's a possibility of it.

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It can happen.

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InshaAllah it doesn't happen to us.

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Allahumma ameen.

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InshaAllah we're not amongst these people.

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But is it possible?

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It absolutely is.

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And if it is possible.

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Then it would be insane of me.

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To prioritize anything else.

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Aside from making sure that I and the

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ones I love avoid it.

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That doesn't make any sense.

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What else?

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What other goal could there possibly?

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What other goal could trump this in priority?

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What other goal could actually find itself higher

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on the priority list.

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For me and my family.

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Aside from this.

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There's nothing else.

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Even reward doesn't trump it.

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Like even when you talk about Jannah.

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Jannah doesn't come first.

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No.

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It doesn't.

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If you have the option.

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Like Jannah is important.

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Obviously.

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But it doesn't trump protecting yourself from the

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fire.

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Neutrality is one thing.

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This is different.

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The choice is not between reward and neutrality.

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It's between reward and punishment.

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So the priority has to be.

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الضرر يزال.

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That's the قاعدة تقية that we'll be explaining

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in the upcoming course.

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You have to avoid harm.

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You have to make sure that you don't

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get in harm.

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And then if you can focus on reward.

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Then that's a second priority.

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But you have to make sure you're not.

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You cannot prioritize reward over harm.

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It's not.

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That's not.

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Like in medicine for example.

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And I pull from whatever it is that

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I do.

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The fundamental law is what?

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Anyone know?

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Do no harm.

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I can't offer you a medication that will

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do more harm than good.

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Even though it may do something good.

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But if it does.

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Which is why my specialty is a specialty.

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The only reason that there's a specialty of

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oncology.

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Is because the drugs that we use cause

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so much harm.

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That's the only reason.

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They cause so much harm.

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That it requires a full specialty.

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Years of study.

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To figure out.

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Whether I can give you this drug.

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Where the benefit will actually outweigh the harm.

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Like that's all this is.

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Just making sure.

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Because the number one priority is not to

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make things worse.

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Is not to put someone in harm's way.

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This is a law for a simple discipline.

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Of science and knowledge and practice in this

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world.

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It's a generic logical law that exists everywhere.

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If you know that there's a possibility of

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a punishment.

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Of this status and this rigidity.

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Then it makes no sense at all.

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For your priority to be anything aside from

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protecting yourself and your family.

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Which is what taqwa is.

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If you really think about it.

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That's kind of what taqwa is.

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Taqwa is just preventing harm.

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Preventing harm in dunya and in akhira.

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If you have the right mentality.

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You end up making choices where you prevent

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harm.

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From afflicting yourself in this life.

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And also in the hereafter.

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You're not just thinking short term harm.

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You're thinking long term harm.

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Whether that long term is at the end

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of your life.

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When you're old.

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Or whether it's in your grave.

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You're trying to avoid harm.

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When we build our families.

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We have to have taqwa.

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Taqwa regarding your family.

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Is making sure that they don't end up

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in jahannam.

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That's it.

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If you did everything else right.

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But not that.

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What's the point?

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What's the point?

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If you made sure they had the best

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experience of life on this earth.

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They got to go to all the Disneyland's

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in the world.

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And they went and they saw all of

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the attractions in Europe.

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In Africa.

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In Middle Asia.

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And they got to study in the best

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schools.

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And they had all the wealth in the

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world.

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And they had no trauma at all.

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But they ended up in jahannam at the

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end.

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What's the point?

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How is that justifiable?

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How can you justify?

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How can someone who loves these people actually

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justify that?

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Is that conversation a reasonable one to have

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in jahannam?

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What type of conversation can a father or

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a mother have with their children?

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Or a family can have with one another?

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Where the end result is that one of

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them or all of them or some of

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them are in jahannam.

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What's the point?

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What are they going to say?

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We had a good time.

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What good time?

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What are you talking about?

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He says in the hadith in connection with

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Ibn Majah in Al-Tabarani.

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It is an authentic narration.

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And also Imam Muslim has a wording for

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it too.

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يُعْتَى يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ بِأَبْعَسِ أَهْلِ الْأَرْضِ On the

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Day of Judgment, the most miserable soul that

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ever lived is brought.

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The most miserable soul.

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It's not you by the way.

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I know you think it's you.

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It's not you.

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You're not the most miserable soul.

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People have lived through worse.

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But the person who had the most miserable

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life.

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In every aspect.

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Everything went wrong.

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All the time.

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All throughout his life.

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Just misery.

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Just one misfortune after the other.

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Bad upbringing.

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Bad parents.

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No education.

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No wealth.

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Ongoing illness.

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War.

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Loss of loved ones.

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Never catch a break.

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Whatever.

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Just complete misery.

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فَيُغْمَسُوا فِي الْجَنَّةِ غَمْسَةً And then they are

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dipped in Jannah for a moment.

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فَيُقَالْ هَلْ رَأَيْتَ شَقَاءً قَطَّةً Have you ever

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seen misery in your life?

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فَيَقُولُوا مَا رَأَيْتُ شَقَاءً قَطَّةً I've never seen

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misery in the entirety of my existence.

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ثُمَّ يُعْتَى بِأَنْعَمِ أَهْلِ الْأَرْضِ And then the

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most spoiled, golden shovel in the mouth.

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A person has brought يوم القيامة.

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A person who just everything went right.

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It was just an easy ride all in

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all.

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Nothing, no difficulties.

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It can happen where the difficulties that you're

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running through are beyond first world country problems.

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The latte didn't have the right amount of

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foam.

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Something stupid.

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Something that doesn't even qualify as a pet

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peeve or a bother.

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But someone lived a life where almost everything

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that they wanted kept on going right up

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until the day they died.

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يوم القيامة they're brought.

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فَيُغْمَسُوا فِي النَّارِ غَمْسَةً And then they are

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dipped in Jahannam for a moment.

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فَيُقَالَ هَلْ رَأَيْتَ نَعِيمًا قَطَّةً Have you ever

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seen a good day in your life?

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فَيَقُولُوا مَا رَأَيْتُ نَعِيمًا قَطَّةً I've never seen

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a good day in the entirety of my

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life.

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The experience of both Jannah and Nar erase

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the emotional experience of anything that came before.

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I'm going to break this down for you

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so you understand what I'm talking about.

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In life, you have emotional experiences that leave

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you with different outcomes.

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Very, very traumatic experiences can leave you with

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PTSD, for example.

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You can be left with severe anxiety and

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depression.

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It's an emotional problem where you can't regulate

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your emotions properly.

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You can't regulate your self-value.

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You can't regulate your perspectives because of how

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hard something was.

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The opposite can occur.

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You go through such great experiences that it

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also leaves you with an inflated self-esteem

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or inflated understanding of one's self or self

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-value or even an understanding of the world

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that is not appropriate.

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You see things in a delusional manner that

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are way better than they actually are.

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So this can happen.

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But no matter what type of emotional experiences

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you went through in dunya, one experience in

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either Jannah or Jahannam will erase all of

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it.

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It's not going to be there anymore.

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Whatever loss someone experienced in this world, a

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loss that is embedded so deeply in their

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soul that no amount of medication or therapy

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could remove, one dip in Jannah will remove

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it.

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It's not there anymore.

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The person doesn't have these problems.

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And vice versa, no matter how fulfilled, no

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matter how arrogant, no matter how confident, no

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matter how happy someone was, it takes one

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dip into Jahannam for all of that to

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be gone.

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For you to lose all of it.

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That stability is completely removed.

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And that's what Jannah and Jahannam really represent

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for us.

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At a certain level.

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There are obviously many other levels to both

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of them.

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But at a certain level, it's an experience

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that will basically erase the quality of the

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experiences that happened before.

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So in Duniya, I'm trying to help you

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with the rationale here.

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In Duniya, if you're having great experiences, it's

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not great experiences that don't help you grow,

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that don't teach you anything, that have no

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ajr at the end of them.

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They're just great experiences.

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And they're not leisure that is helping you

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unwind.

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Obviously, there are things that are helpful here

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that you need as a person.

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But you're just going through experiences that are

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just joyful, just for the sake of just

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ongoing joy and leisure and fun and partying.

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It's not helpful because Jannah is going to

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erase that too.

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Jannah is going to be so much better

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that none of that is going to be

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stuck with you.

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You're not going to remember any of it.

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Then I sit down and reminisce on Duniya

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in Jannah because Duniya was great.

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It wasn't.

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It isn't.

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With comparison, with one dip, that was a

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waste of time, wasn't it?

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The whole thing was a waste of time.

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It meant nothing at all.

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That's what Jannah looks like.

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What's the point of stacking all of these

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experiences that are solely or exclusively designed just

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to bring joy?

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They're not offering you some stress relief from

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a difficult time.

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It's not something that you're growing from or

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learning from.

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And all these things are important.

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You need your time.

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You need to take a vacation every once

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in a while so that you can detox

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and think and reflect.

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That's totally understandable.

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I'm not arguing against that.

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I'm talking about just stacking fun.

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It's not helpful because Jannah is way better.

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You're going to forget about all this anyways.

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That's if you're lucky enough to make it

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that way.

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And if you're not, and you make it

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the other way, then these experiences aren't going

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to be remembered.

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They're going to offer you no solace at

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all.

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No consolation at all.

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Nothing.

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The fact that that entity exists, an entity

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that when you experience it, it erases all

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of the good, all of the good that

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happened before.

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That has to be a priority.

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I can't go there.

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I can't let a loved one go there

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either.

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Because I'm building all these great memories with

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them.

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It's for nothing because once they're gone there,

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it's all going to be gone.

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They're not going to remember any of it.

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It's not going to justify.

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They're not going to say, well, no, no.

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If you truly loved me, you would have

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made sure I wasn't here.

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If you truly loved me, you would have

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made sure that I didn't make it here.

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And when you think of that, you understand

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why the Prophet ﷺ was the way he

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was with the people around him.

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Why he mourned the mushrikeen when they died.

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It's always hard to understand when you don't

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think about this.

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When you do, you realize or you remember

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that the Prophet ﷺ in the Badr and

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Uhud, he was fighting his own people.

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Humanity is our family for sure.

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But the Prophet ﷺ for Quraysh, that was

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his direct family.

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That was the tribe he came from.

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He didn't want to fight them.

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He didn't want to actually draw a sword

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on them.

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He didn't want this to happen at all.

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He tried to avoid it to the best

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of his ability for as long as possible.

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But they refused.

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And this is how you understand that moment

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after Badr where he stood ﷺ looking at

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Abu Jahl and Abu al-Bukhtari ibn Hisham.

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...

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And he starts talking to them.

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Why did you do this?

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Did you go find what I told you

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to be the truth or not?

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Could you have not?

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And Umar al-Khattab and the Sahaba are

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saying, Ya Rasool Allah, they're dead.

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Maybe this was a long day for you,

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but they're dead, Ya Rasool Allah.

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...

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You don't hear me better than they do.

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They hear me just as good, just as

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well.

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Just as you hear me, they hear me.

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But why is he doing this?

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Because he's upset.

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Why?

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Why did this have to be the outcome?

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This didn't have to happen.

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This didn't have to happen.

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I never wanted this to happen.

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I never wanted to see any of you

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under the ground as a mushrik.

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This was his mentality.

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That's why the bloodshed during his life is

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very, very low.

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It's very, very low the number of people

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that died in all of the battles that

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he was involved in.

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It doesn't go over 300 people in all

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the battles.

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Very, very few people would pass away.

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Because what's the point?

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Once they're dead and they've gone to Jahannam,

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it's a loss for everyone.

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Everyone lost.

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Jannah is big enough for everybody, and why

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did you have to go there?

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Why did you have to be that way?

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Why did this have to be the outcome?

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It didn't have to be.

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And that's on a bigger scale, right?

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A larger scale.

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On a scale of a family, this is

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the advice you're given.

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...

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Protect yourselves and your families from this fire.

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Protect yourselves from just punishment.

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Because if you end up there, nothing that

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you ever did in your life will justify

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that.

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Nothing will ever make up for that.

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Ever.

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There's no reason, there's absolutely no reason, why

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this would be the outcome.

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If you truly love your family, and you

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care for them, you care for yourself, then

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you make sure, your priority is to make

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sure they don't go there.

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So you plan accordingly.

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And you behave accordingly.

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You start behaving that way.

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Now, the problem with what I'm explaining to

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you, and this is as a side note,

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so they can move on after it, is

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that because people listen to this and they

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feel it, they're like, yes, yes, I want

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to make sure that my family doesn't go

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there, they become rigid.

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And they become aggressive.

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And they become difficult.

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Thinking that if they do that with their

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families, then this will protect them.

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Forgetting the basics of how human behavior functions.

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That just because you force someone to do

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something, or you're strict with them, doesn't mean

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that you're actually providing them with the tools

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and the skill sets that are going to

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allow them to protect themselves from the hellfire

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and their children later after you move on.

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It's not about you forcing people to put

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up a certain front during your time in

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front of you.

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If that's what you're looking for, then you're

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looking for the wrong thing.

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You're looking for a show.

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You're not looking for the essence.

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The essence is that these individuals that you

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love live a life of genuine obedience and

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love for Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that

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qualifies them to go to Jannah.

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And an understanding that they will have from

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doing that will allow them to protect their

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families after them, and then their families after

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them.

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For you to force behavior on someone young,

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so that it looks good in front of

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others, is not, قُوْ أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِكُمْ نَارًا It's

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you making sure that you feel good about

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yourself.

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And it allows your conscience to be less

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of a problem for you.

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But it's not actually fixing the problem.

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And he uses the word قُوْ He used

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the word to protect and prevent.

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You have to prevent this.

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You have to think, what would possibly allow

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my family to end up in Jahannam?

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What could take them in that direction?

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And you start analyzing that in your mind.

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What is going to cause them to end

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up going in the wrong direction?

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What could cause that?

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And you start figuring out what it would

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be.

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And you start preventing it from happening.

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Most fathers and most mothers, they start intervening

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with their children well after the child has

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already been engaged in a problem for a

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long time.

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Like most parents who come to talk to

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me about their high school student, son or

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daughter.

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This kid has been lost for a very

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long time.

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It's been a couple of years at least,

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that this person has almost no interest in

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Islam.

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And you just noticed it now.

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Because the front fell.

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Because this person is no longer interested in

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the front.

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The kid gave you the front that you

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needed.

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Wore the mask that you wanted.

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But then after a while, it gets tired.

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People get tired.

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People get sloppy, honestly.

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Not only do they get tired of wearing

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a mask, they get sloppy and then they

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forget to wear the mask one day.

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And then you actually see for what it

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is, and you're like, what the heck is

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happening here?

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And you want to fix it, but it's

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too late?

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You didn't do Qoo.

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You didn't do the Taqwa, preventativeness.

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You didn't prevent something from happening.

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You're coming to try and fix it after

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it already happened.

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That's not the Qur'anic teaching.

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The Qur'anic teaching is you prevent it

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from happening.

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I'm going to tell you a known Syrian

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proverb, that I don't even believe, but I

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think if you listen to it, you understand

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how they looked at this.

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A man, I don't believe this is actually

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true, but I just think it's symbolic, and

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you may take something from it when I

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say it.

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That a young man came to his Shaykh,

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with his one day old baby.

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And he said, Ya Shaykh, I want you

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to protect this child from the hellfire, and

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I want to raise him from day one.

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He told him, you're late, you should have

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come to me before you chose his mother.

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This is what he told him.

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This is a very known Syrian proverb.

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I don't even know if this is true,

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I don't necessarily even care.

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But I want you to understand the idea.

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That Islamically, you're thinking preventatively, as early as

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possible.

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So when you're single, now, even before you

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think, how will I protect myself and my

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family from the hellfire?

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What is that going to require of me?

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What type of person do I need to

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be?

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What type of husband do I need to

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be?

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What type of father do I need to

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be?

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What type of Muslim do I need to

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be?

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What type of professional?

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What type of knowledge seeker do I need

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to be?

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So that I can protect myself and my

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family from this hellfire.

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And if you're thinking that way, you'll do

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well.

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At the end, you can't force people.

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You can't force people.

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As the lesson of next week will explain

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in Surah Al-Tahrim.

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You can't force sometimes.

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It will go the opposite direction.

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You have no control over it.

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It is what it is.

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But you have to have the right mentality.

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This feeds indirectly with what we talked about

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in the story with the Prophet, peace be

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upon him, where, عَرَّفَ بَعْضَهُ وَأَعْرَضَ عَن بَعْضٍ

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Where he told Hafsah and Aisha a part

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of what he knew.

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The part of don't, when I tell you

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it's a secret, don't spread it.

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But he didn't tell them that he knew

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about their conspiracy.

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And their plotting.

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He didn't say that.

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Why?

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Because the Prophet, peace be upon him, what

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is his goal?

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His goal is to protect himself and his

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loved ones, his wives, from Jahannam.

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So what purpose does telling them how wrong

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they were serve in achieving that goal?

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What purpose does pointing out to someone how

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wrong they were and how right you were

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serve in achieving that goal?

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Absolutely nothing.

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If you continuously seek out being right and

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pointing out the other person being wrong, then

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you will eventually end up living with a

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defeated person.

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And if you're living with a defeated person,

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then your family is by default weaker.

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They are weaker, and your children are weaker,

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and your union is weaker.

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And you guys have more of a chance

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of ending up in the wrong place.

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Being right and pointing out being wrong is

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one of the most overrated things in the

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world, and in life in general.

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It almost means nothing.

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It's not helpful.

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It doesn't do anything.

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It does fulfill a very selfish need of

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the nafs.

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Oh, don't get me wrong, it's delicious.

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It is absolutely, it's better than, it's the

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best dish on any menu.

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By far.

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No matter how hungry you are, there is

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nothing that tastes better than I told you

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so.

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I've held on to I told you so

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for 15 years of my life.

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I held on to it.

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Knowing that a point, a moment will come

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where I'll be able to tell this person

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I told you!

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And it tastes amazing.

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Wallahi, it's the best feeling ever.

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It serves no purpose.

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It is not helpful for anyone at all.

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It defeats people.

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And it makes them weaker, and it makes

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the whole point of doing this.

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There are other ways for you to educate,

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and teach, and encourage, and guide, and get

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closer to Allah aside from this.

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This is just a selfish, self-serving aspect

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of being alive.

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Try not to do it very often.

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Or at all, if possible.

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But that is the command of this.

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In the middle of the surah, talking about

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families, yep, this is the one you need

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to know.

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Your job, as a wife, as a mother,

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as a father, as a husband, as a

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son, as a sibling, as a daughter, your

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job is to make sure that you and

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your family don't end up there.

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Go.

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Run with that.

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How?

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Figure it out.

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I don't know.

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You'll figure it out.

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Just prevent this from happening.

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Prevent this outcome.

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This is a bad outcome.

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Nothing ever justifies this outcome.

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Make sure that none of you go there.

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Figure out how you're going to do it.

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Learn and take experience.

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I don't know.

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Whatever is needed to make sure that that's

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not the outcome.

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And that's really what's missing, I think, in

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families, where we stop focusing on that piece.

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The focus shifts over time.

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Especially if people are fighting a lot.

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It shifts over time that this is no

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longer the goal anymore.

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Our goal is that we protect ourselves and

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each other.

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We're families.

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We protect each other from Jahannam.

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We make sure that that's not the direction

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that we're going.

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If you have that mentality, I can tell

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you, as a husband, as a mother, as

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a wife, as a father, as a mother,

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you will always land on your feet within

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the problems that you experience within your household.

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You'll always find a way to fix problems

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and deal with them appropriately when that's your

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mentality.

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When that's not your mentality, you'll lose sight

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of your goal and that's where people start

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focusing on nitty-gritty stuff.

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Because they lost the bigger picture.

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The bigger picture here is these are my

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loved ones.

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We have to make sure that we don't

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go there.

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And that we find ourselves in the right

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destination.

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And if you do that, if you are

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able, you were able to make sure that

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you, your spouse, and your children made it

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to Jannah, then that is the biggest victory

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of the entirety of your existence.

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Then you achieve something beautiful by making sure

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that they made it to where they needed

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to go.

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So that's the ayah number 6 that we

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started reading, that we read a few weeks

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ago.

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We'll start with number 7.

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Today we'll do 7 and 8 inshaAllah ta

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'ala and maybe even 9 and then we'll

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recite the last piece of the surah next

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week inshaAllah ta'ala.

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أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم بسم

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الله الرحمن الرحيم يَا أَيُّهَا

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الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا لَا تَعْتَذِرُوا الْيَوْمِ إِنَّمَا

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تُجَزَوْنَ مَا كُنْتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ So we'll just

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read this first and I'll explain it because

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the ayah after is very long.

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So let me just talk about this.

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So you're going to find in this ayah

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in this surah four nida'ats meaning four

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callings in a row.

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يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تَعْتَذِرُوا الْيَوْمِ All

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four in a row.

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The first one calling the believers and we

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went over that one.

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The second one calls upon the disbelievers or

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those who aren't adhering to what's being explained

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here or those on the other side which

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is very rare in the Qur'an.

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It happens but it's not very common.

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If you were to go through the Qur

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'an you don't find that Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala often will call upon the disbelievers

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especially when the Qur'an is not addressing

00:31:54 --> 00:31:55

them.

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The Qur'an is addressing the believer.

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So why would the Qur'an call upon

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the disbeliever or Ahlul Kitab when they don't

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really read it?

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It's more for us to reflect on.

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Remember that the Qur'an is not addressing

00:32:05 --> 00:32:06

the disbeliever.

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He's a disbeliever.

00:32:07 --> 00:32:08

He doesn't read the Qur'an.

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How is he going to ever receive this

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piece of information when he doesn't read the

00:32:11 --> 00:32:12

Qur'an nor believe in what's being said?

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So the Qur'an doesn't address النصارى واليهود

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والكفار والمشركين It doesn't address people that don't

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believe in the Qur'an.

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So when the Qur'an calls upon them

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it's usually something for us to reflect upon

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in our own selves.

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Something that we all have in common or

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something that will affect us as well if

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we are not careful as Muslims.

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This is a very helpful piece of thought

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if you hold on to it.

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When you read the Qur'an you can

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always take it whenever you see the Qur

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'an talking to a different group just remember

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this.

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That the Qur'an when it does that

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when Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala speaks to

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those who aren't reading this to begin with

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usually there's something there that's in common between

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you and them.

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Like something for you to be aware of.

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Or a piece of information that you have

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to share with them but before you share

00:32:57 --> 00:32:58

it with them you're going to share it

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with yourself because there's something there's a commonality

00:33:00 --> 00:33:02

here that you carry with them or like

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them.

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So يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا O those who

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disbelieve لا تَعْتَذِرُوا اليَوْم This is the bottom

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line for someone who made it in the

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wrong direction.

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Someone who's going to go to جَهَنَّمُ الْيَوْدِ

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وَلَا they're in their families what is said

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to them is لا تَعْتَذِرُوا Don't offer your

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excuses or your apologies today.

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Don't repent today.

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تذار has multiple meanings in Arabic and here

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all three would work.

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لا تَعْتَذِرُوا اليَوْم Don't offer your apologies or

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your regrets or your repentance إِنَّمَا إِكْسُلُوسِفْلِي تُجَزَوْنَ

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مَا كُنْتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ You will be compensated.

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الجزاء is compensation really it's not really reward.

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It could be punishment too.

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جزاء وفاق is punishment actually in the context

00:33:47 --> 00:33:48

of that verse.

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So الجزاء is compensation.

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You're going to be compensated for what you

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did in whatever way Allah سبحانه وتعالى sees

00:33:55 --> 00:33:56

fit for you to be compensated.

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So exclusively you'll be compensated on the Day

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of Judgment for whatever it is that you

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did.

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ما كنتم تعملون Whatever deeds that you performed.

00:34:05 --> 00:34:09

What he's telling us here سبحانه وتعالى is

00:34:09 --> 00:34:11

that once you end up when someone ends

00:34:11 --> 00:34:13

up بِعِيَدُوا بِالْيَوْمِ الْقِيَامَةِ on the wrong side

00:34:13 --> 00:34:13

of things.

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Going in the wrong direction.

00:34:15 --> 00:34:17

They will come and they will offer many

00:34:17 --> 00:34:18

excuses.

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Many apologies.

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Many regrets.

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They will come with all of that.

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They will feel that there's a million reasons

00:34:25 --> 00:34:27

for this not to have happened and it

00:34:27 --> 00:34:29

happened anyways and they will feel very bad.

00:34:30 --> 00:34:31

And they will regret it to their core.

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To their core they will regret that this

00:34:34 --> 00:34:35

happened on the Day of Judgment.

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Full regret.

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And this is important because we're talking about

00:34:37 --> 00:34:39

توبة in a moment in the verse that

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comes later.

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They will fully regret it يوم القيامة but

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they'll be told don't do that now.

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Today.

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There's a context.

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اليوم.

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Don't do it today.

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This had to happen before today.

00:34:50 --> 00:34:52

This needed to happen before today.

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It would have been very valuable.

00:34:54 --> 00:34:55

It would have served you.

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It would have taken you far.

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But today?

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Don't do it.

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Don't waste your time.

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Don't waste your time.

00:35:01 --> 00:35:02

No one's listening anymore.

00:35:03 --> 00:35:05

The ongoing recording of your deeds and of

00:35:05 --> 00:35:07

your words and of your thoughts and of

00:35:07 --> 00:35:09

your feelings and of what you were it

00:35:09 --> 00:35:09

stopped.

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It's not being recorded.

00:35:11 --> 00:35:12

It doesn't mean anything anymore.

00:35:13 --> 00:35:14

It's not on the scoreboard.

00:35:15 --> 00:35:16

The game's over.

00:35:16 --> 00:35:17

It doesn't matter how many times you take

00:35:17 --> 00:35:18

the ball and kick it into the net.

00:35:18 --> 00:35:20

It's not going to add anything to the

00:35:20 --> 00:35:20

scoreboard.

00:35:20 --> 00:35:21

It's done.

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Whatever the result is, the result is.

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And يوم القيامة they're going to come and

00:35:25 --> 00:35:27

they're going to have that regret and they're

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going to apologize and they'll be told don't

00:35:29 --> 00:35:30

apologize today.

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All this is إنما is for exclusivity.

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All this whole story is is just compensation

00:35:37 --> 00:35:38

for what you did.

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You make choices in دنيا and then we

00:35:41 --> 00:35:43

compensate you for them يوم القيامة as the

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Prophet عليه الصلاة والسلام says يقول الله في

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الحديث القدسي المشهور في الصحيح يا عبادي after

00:35:48 --> 00:35:51

a long حديث of Allah سبحانه وتعالى explaining

00:35:51 --> 00:35:53

to us the حرمة of ظلم and the

00:35:53 --> 00:35:56

importance of توبة and it's a very long

00:35:56 --> 00:35:57

حديث in Bukhari and Muslim that I'm not

00:35:57 --> 00:35:58

going to share the whole deal.

00:35:58 --> 00:36:00

At the end of it قال يا عبادي

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إنما هي أعمالكم أحصيها لكم ثم أوفيكم إياها

00:36:07 --> 00:36:13

يوم القيامة فمن وجد خيرا فليحمدني ومن وجد

00:36:13 --> 00:36:17

غير ذلك فلا يلومن إلا نفسه Allah سبحانه

00:36:17 --> 00:36:18

وتعالى says at the end of this long

00:36:18 --> 00:36:21

حديث Oh human beings all this is is

00:36:21 --> 00:36:24

just your deeds I collect them and count

00:36:24 --> 00:36:27

them for you and then I compensate you

00:36:27 --> 00:36:28

for what they were on the day of

00:36:28 --> 00:36:31

judgment those of you who found something good

00:36:31 --> 00:36:34

may they continue to praise me and those

00:36:34 --> 00:36:36

who found something that was not good then

00:36:36 --> 00:36:38

they have no one to blame but themselves

00:36:39 --> 00:36:41

they have no one to blame but themselves

00:36:41 --> 00:36:43

that's all the story is the story is

00:36:43 --> 00:36:47

very simple you and I are making choices

00:36:47 --> 00:36:50

these choices are being documented they will be

00:36:50 --> 00:36:52

collected يوم القيامة they will be counted and

00:36:52 --> 00:36:55

then they will be compensated and whether they

00:36:55 --> 00:36:56

are good or bad it will be added

00:36:56 --> 00:36:58

up and then if you find that's it

00:36:58 --> 00:36:59

it's just here let's see what you did

00:37:00 --> 00:37:05

it's really not that emotional I'm not sure

00:37:05 --> 00:37:07

if you're noticing this the verse is these

00:37:07 --> 00:37:14

two verses really removed any sense of emotionality

00:37:14 --> 00:37:16

from what's being said why?

00:37:16 --> 00:37:18

because families are very emotional there's a lot

00:37:18 --> 00:37:19

of love in families you love your spouse

00:37:19 --> 00:37:21

you love your children you love your offspring

00:37:21 --> 00:37:24

they love you this love is almost unparalleled

00:37:24 --> 00:37:25

there's no love that's similar to the love

00:37:25 --> 00:37:27

of a mother to her children or a

00:37:27 --> 00:37:29

child to his parents it's just a very

00:37:29 --> 00:37:31

very special thing that never dies off it

00:37:31 --> 00:37:34

just continues forever so it's a very emotional

00:37:34 --> 00:37:36

thing family the loss of family so the

00:37:36 --> 00:37:39

verses spoke about the topic of yawm al

00:37:39 --> 00:37:42

qiyam in a very emotionless manner saying look

00:37:42 --> 00:37:44

there are mala'ika that are sitting at

00:37:44 --> 00:37:47

the gates they are ghaleed they are shadeed

00:37:47 --> 00:37:50

no emotion no emotion they don't have they

00:37:50 --> 00:37:53

don't care you love I love him she

00:37:53 --> 00:37:55

loves me they're crying they don't care they're

00:37:55 --> 00:37:57

ghaleed and shadeed ghaleed is someone who lacks

00:37:57 --> 00:37:59

emotion wallahi that's the meaning for it in

00:37:59 --> 00:38:01

Arabic someone who is ghaleed is someone that

00:38:01 --> 00:38:03

no matter how much you try and touch

00:38:03 --> 00:38:06

into their compassion and empathy there's nothing they're

00:38:06 --> 00:38:08

just they're just very they're just very difficult

00:38:09 --> 00:38:11

and the verses are saying la yasoon allah

00:38:11 --> 00:38:13

they never disobey they do what they're told

00:38:14 --> 00:38:16

they will see families in tears and in

00:38:16 --> 00:38:19

pain families that are crying people that are

00:38:19 --> 00:38:21

losing their loved ones they don't care they're

00:38:21 --> 00:38:23

ghaleed and they're shadeed and they just do

00:38:23 --> 00:38:24

what they're told and this person going to

00:38:24 --> 00:38:26

jahannam it's your problem you should have protected

00:38:26 --> 00:38:28

them that's your problem it's on you why

00:38:28 --> 00:38:29

is this person here why are you here

00:38:29 --> 00:38:30

why don't you protect yourself it's not my

00:38:30 --> 00:38:32

problem it's not my business I've told to

00:38:32 --> 00:38:33

throw you you're going to go in and

00:38:33 --> 00:38:34

the day of judgement same thing all those

00:38:34 --> 00:38:37

who disbelieve you're going to come back imagine

00:38:37 --> 00:38:40

the apologies someone trying to someone trying to

00:38:40 --> 00:38:42

save a loved one from jahannam or save

00:38:42 --> 00:38:47

themselves imagine the emotion in those apologies don't

00:38:47 --> 00:38:50

apologize it's too late right now it's very

00:38:50 --> 00:38:53

simple it's extremely technical what you did you

00:38:53 --> 00:38:55

get paid for it done you get compensated

00:38:55 --> 00:38:57

for what you did that's it don't waste

00:38:57 --> 00:39:00

your time don't waste the tears it doesn't

00:39:00 --> 00:39:01

matter that's your job that emotion that you

00:39:01 --> 00:39:03

had it should have presented itself in dunya

00:39:03 --> 00:39:05

that emotion that you had that love that

00:39:05 --> 00:39:08

you had should have presented itself in a

00:39:08 --> 00:39:10

form of doing whatever you needed to do

00:39:10 --> 00:39:12

to protect yourself and protect your loved one

00:39:12 --> 00:39:13

from jahannam that's how it should have come

00:39:13 --> 00:39:15

forward it didn't I'm sorry today it doesn't

00:39:15 --> 00:39:20

matter we know that in life anyways don't

00:39:20 --> 00:39:23

we like if you fail an exam where

00:39:23 --> 00:39:25

you go cry to the professor does he

00:39:26 --> 00:39:29

change the mark maybe in school when you

00:39:29 --> 00:39:31

were younger you had a soft hearted teacher

00:39:31 --> 00:39:33

who actually didn't do you a favour when

00:39:33 --> 00:39:34

he gave you a better mark after you

00:39:34 --> 00:39:36

failed no it didn't do you a favour

00:39:36 --> 00:39:37

because it taught you that oh I can

00:39:37 --> 00:39:39

actually change the outcome of something after it's

00:39:39 --> 00:39:45

already been established rightfully and justly we know

00:39:45 --> 00:39:48

in life that once you reap what you

00:39:48 --> 00:39:50

sow and if you didn't do a good

00:39:50 --> 00:39:52

job and the outcome is not then you

00:39:52 --> 00:39:53

have to live with it you have to

00:39:53 --> 00:39:55

live with these consequences they're not nice but

00:39:55 --> 00:39:57

your consequence is what you did if you

00:39:57 --> 00:39:59

are led in your life and this is

00:39:59 --> 00:40:00

a peeve of mine that I'm not going

00:40:00 --> 00:40:01

to talk about right now too much because

00:40:01 --> 00:40:03

it will take away from the meaning of

00:40:03 --> 00:40:04

the surah but I have a problem with

00:40:04 --> 00:40:07

how a lot of our youth are growing

00:40:07 --> 00:40:09

up they are being a little bit in

00:40:09 --> 00:40:14

my opinion protected from consequences Baba is always

00:40:14 --> 00:40:15

there to come and bail them out of

00:40:15 --> 00:40:18

something you don't do your son a favour

00:40:18 --> 00:40:19

when that happens by the way when they

00:40:19 --> 00:40:21

fall into a problem and they're in trouble

00:40:21 --> 00:40:23

you come and bail them out you're not

00:40:23 --> 00:40:26

helping them you're actually teaching them subconsciously a

00:40:26 --> 00:40:28

very bad lesson that yeah there is a

00:40:28 --> 00:40:32

possibility there isn't there isn't in life you

00:40:32 --> 00:40:35

will always have to you always have to

00:40:35 --> 00:40:37

own your actions you have to live up

00:40:37 --> 00:40:41

to your consequences always this is like the

00:40:41 --> 00:40:43

fundamental law of being alive and it's going

00:40:43 --> 00:40:45

to really bite you yawm al qiyamah if

00:40:45 --> 00:40:47

the person didn't understand it because yawm al

00:40:47 --> 00:40:50

qiyamah it doesn't matter like you would think

00:40:50 --> 00:40:51

I want you to imagine the amount of

00:40:51 --> 00:40:54

emotion that exists on the day of judgement

00:40:55 --> 00:40:57

just think about that the amount of emotions

00:40:57 --> 00:40:59

that are that are flying on the day

00:40:59 --> 00:41:02

of judgement you know the verses are very

00:41:02 --> 00:41:07

very plain very bland innama tujzoona ma kundum

00:41:07 --> 00:41:10

save the apologies today is just whatever you

00:41:10 --> 00:41:16

did compensation but I have a specific situation

00:41:17 --> 00:41:21

no just save it I don't care no

00:41:21 --> 00:41:24

one is listening it doesn't matter that piece

00:41:24 --> 00:41:25

in my opinion hurts but that's why these

00:41:25 --> 00:41:28

verses are so strict they're telling you now

00:41:28 --> 00:41:30

the emotion that you have think of it

00:41:30 --> 00:41:32

think of the emotion wa la yadu billahi

00:41:32 --> 00:41:33

may Allah protect all of our families see

00:41:33 --> 00:41:34

I mean but think of it think of

00:41:34 --> 00:41:36

the moment think of seeing something like that

00:41:36 --> 00:41:38

it's very hard by the way if you

00:41:38 --> 00:41:39

do it you will be in tears I

00:41:39 --> 00:41:41

promise you I promise you when we learn

00:41:41 --> 00:41:43

this ayat and we were asked to do

00:41:43 --> 00:41:46

this I could you will 100% go

00:41:46 --> 00:41:47

home and do this at home I don't

00:41:47 --> 00:41:49

want people sobbing in the masjid do it

00:41:49 --> 00:41:51

at home go home and think and think

00:41:51 --> 00:41:53

about the moment in yawmul qiyamah and if

00:41:53 --> 00:41:54

you have a loved one if you have

00:41:54 --> 00:41:55

a child for example a 3 year old

00:41:55 --> 00:41:56

or 4 year old or 2 year old

00:41:56 --> 00:41:58

someone that you really love and think of

00:41:58 --> 00:42:00

the judgment of that moment you will be

00:42:00 --> 00:42:03

in tears for sure you will generate emotion

00:42:03 --> 00:42:05

in dunya before that happens use this emotion

00:42:05 --> 00:42:07

that you feel right now to make sure

00:42:07 --> 00:42:08

you protect them from that ever happening by

00:42:08 --> 00:42:11

doing all that you can doing everything within

00:42:11 --> 00:42:13

your power to make sure that they learn

00:42:13 --> 00:42:15

what is right and what is wrong and

00:42:15 --> 00:42:16

that they have the tools so that they

00:42:16 --> 00:42:18

can they can help you make it to

00:42:18 --> 00:42:20

a higher status in jannah and they can

00:42:20 --> 00:42:21

take and they can protect their families later

00:42:21 --> 00:42:23

and they can teach their kids to protect

00:42:23 --> 00:42:25

their families and on and on and on

00:42:26 --> 00:42:28

that is what you need to do or

00:42:28 --> 00:42:31

else those who don't do that don't come

00:42:31 --> 00:42:34

with apologies today save it we are not

00:42:34 --> 00:42:38

listening alright let's do ayah number 8 this

00:42:38 --> 00:42:39

is a beautiful ayah and inshallah you will

00:42:39 --> 00:42:44

find it very helpful يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا

00:42:44 --> 00:42:56

تُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ تُوبُوا

00:42:56 --> 00:43:07

إِلَى اللَّهِ تَوْبَةً نَصُوحًا عَسَىٰ

00:43:07 --> 00:43:20

رَبُّكُمْ أَن يُكَفِّرَ عَنْكُمْ سَيِّئَاتِكُمْ so

00:43:20 --> 00:43:21

watch out for the fatha on the ra

00:43:21 --> 00:43:26

يُكَفِّرَ because now the upcoming verb will also

00:43:26 --> 00:43:28

have a fatha so it's important to pay

00:43:28 --> 00:43:40

attention وَيُدْخِلَكُمْ جَنَّاتٍ تَجْرِي مِنْ

00:43:40 --> 00:43:50

تَحْتِهَا الْأَنْهَارُ يَوْمَ لَا يُخْزِي اللَّهُ

00:43:50 --> 00:44:02

النَّبِيَّ وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا مَعَهُ so

00:44:02 --> 00:44:05

whenever before the name of Allah subhanahu wa

00:44:05 --> 00:44:07

ta'ala has a kasra before it the

00:44:07 --> 00:44:10

name of Allah becomes raqiq so يَوْمَ لَا

00:44:10 --> 00:44:15

يُخْزِي اللَّهُ so it's not يُخْزِي اللَّهُ no

00:44:15 --> 00:44:17

it's يُخْزِي اللَّهُ and that's just because of

00:44:17 --> 00:44:22

the haraka that exists before the name of

00:44:22 --> 00:44:25

Allah so the name of Allah here the

00:44:25 --> 00:44:27

haraka before it is the kasra and the

00:44:27 --> 00:44:30

zay that comes before it so يُخْزِي is

00:44:30 --> 00:44:32

a kasra so it becomes يُخْزِي اللَّهُ it

00:44:32 --> 00:44:36

becomes a light pronunciation of the name of

00:44:36 --> 00:44:49

Allah نُورُهُمْ يَسْعَىٰ بَيْنَ أَيْدِيهِمْ وَبِأَيْمَانِهِمْ يَقُولُونَ

00:44:49 --> 00:45:04

رَبَّنَا أَتْمِمْ لَنَا نُورَنَا وَاغْفِرْ لَنَا إِنَّكَ

00:45:04 --> 00:45:14

عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ يَا

00:45:14 --> 00:45:23

أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ جَاهِدِ الْكُفَّارَ وَالْمُنَافِقِينَ وَاغْلُضْ عَلَيْهِمْ

00:45:35 --> 00:45:45

وَمَأْوَاهُمْ جَهَنَّمُ وَبِأْسَ الْمَصِيدِ so he says subhanAllah

00:45:45 --> 00:45:47

in the third verse where he calls يَا

00:45:47 --> 00:45:49

أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا again back to the believers

00:45:49 --> 00:45:51

after kind of having that quick segue of

00:45:51 --> 00:45:53

what the outcome would look like but people

00:45:53 --> 00:45:55

will come the disbelievers will come with regrets

00:45:55 --> 00:45:57

but that regret will add up to nothing

00:45:57 --> 00:45:58

and amount to nothing and will be of

00:45:58 --> 00:46:00

no value to them so how do we

00:46:00 --> 00:46:02

get this done يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا all

00:46:02 --> 00:46:04

those who believe تُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ the way

00:46:04 --> 00:46:07

to do this if you want to protect

00:46:07 --> 00:46:10

yourself and protect your family from the hellfire

00:46:10 --> 00:46:11

and make sure on that day you're not

00:46:11 --> 00:46:13

coming with empty apologies and regrets that don't

00:46:13 --> 00:46:16

go anywhere then do it now the regret

00:46:16 --> 00:46:19

that the person is going to have يَوْمَ

00:46:19 --> 00:46:21

الْقِيَامَةِ where they come and say they come

00:46:21 --> 00:46:23

and offer their اِعْتِذَار where they come and

00:46:23 --> 00:46:26

apologize and they're told لا تَعْتَذِوا don't apologize

00:46:26 --> 00:46:28

that same regret that the people come with

00:46:28 --> 00:46:30

on the day of judgment just bring it

00:46:30 --> 00:46:32

in dunya which is what تُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ

00:46:32 --> 00:46:35

means you see تَوْبَة or repentance when you

00:46:35 --> 00:46:39

repent to Allah سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى and the

00:46:39 --> 00:46:41

linguistics here are quite interesting but I'll spare

00:46:41 --> 00:46:43

you from them just to get to the

00:46:43 --> 00:46:46

point inshallah because the usage of إِلَى اللَّهِ

00:46:46 --> 00:46:49

is actually very important from a linguistic perspective

00:46:49 --> 00:46:52

but to make sure you understand تَوْبَة تَوْبَة

00:46:52 --> 00:46:54

is the act of repentance is when you

00:46:58 --> 00:47:00

what are the elements of تَوْبَة right so

00:47:00 --> 00:47:02

if we get rid of when you harm

00:47:02 --> 00:47:04

someone you have to pay them back or

00:47:04 --> 00:47:05

you have to give them back what you

00:47:05 --> 00:47:07

took because that obviously is a no brainer

00:47:07 --> 00:47:09

it's going to happen anyways you have to

00:47:09 --> 00:47:10

figure it out if you harm someone go

00:47:10 --> 00:47:12

figure that out go do what you need

00:47:12 --> 00:47:12

to do to make it up to them

00:47:12 --> 00:47:15

but aside from that when you perform تَوْبَة

00:47:15 --> 00:47:17

you need three elements you need the element

00:47:17 --> 00:47:20

of not doing the sin as it happens

00:47:20 --> 00:47:21

and that's another no brainer for me because

00:47:21 --> 00:47:24

who repents as they commit the sin that's

00:47:24 --> 00:47:27

dumb so at the moment of repentance you're

00:47:27 --> 00:47:29

not committing the sin so really what repentance

00:47:29 --> 00:47:32

it comes down to are two things the

00:47:32 --> 00:47:35

regret of what happened before and the plan

00:47:35 --> 00:47:39

for it not to happen again that's that's

00:47:39 --> 00:47:41

what تَوْبَة is and what this verse is

00:47:41 --> 00:47:43

saying is in order for you to protect

00:47:43 --> 00:47:44

yourself and your family on the day of

00:47:44 --> 00:47:46

judgment then you're going to need the regret

00:47:46 --> 00:47:49

that comes on that day to exist prior

00:47:50 --> 00:47:53

and then the plan to prevent the hellfire

00:47:53 --> 00:47:55

to exist with it because تَوْبَة is both

00:47:55 --> 00:48:00

الندم على المعصية والعزم على تركها it's for

00:48:00 --> 00:48:01

you to regret it and then for you

00:48:01 --> 00:48:03

to have the proper intention we use the

00:48:03 --> 00:48:05

word intention I use the word plan because

00:48:05 --> 00:48:09

it's actually more accurate because we loosely use

00:48:09 --> 00:48:11

the word intention these days we loosely use

00:48:11 --> 00:48:13

it the way I know you're not coming

00:48:13 --> 00:48:15

is when you say Inshallah I know you're

00:48:15 --> 00:48:16

not coming for sure are you coming Inshallah

00:48:16 --> 00:48:19

yes okay he's not coming he's not coming

00:48:20 --> 00:48:22

you use it too loosely we don't respect

00:48:22 --> 00:48:24

like the concept of having an intention for

00:48:24 --> 00:48:26

something intention for something means that you are

00:48:26 --> 00:48:28

going to do everything within your ability to

00:48:28 --> 00:48:29

make sure that this actually happens that's what

00:48:29 --> 00:48:33

intention means or else it's a wish a

00:48:33 --> 00:48:37

wish that's for fairy tales and that's for

00:48:37 --> 00:48:39

something different for life when you have an

00:48:39 --> 00:48:41

intention that means you're going to make sure

00:48:41 --> 00:48:43

this occurs you have put in the plan

00:48:43 --> 00:48:45

you have started you have initiated the movement

00:48:45 --> 00:48:48

towards this goal with all your might if

00:48:48 --> 00:48:49

that's not what you're doing then you just

00:48:49 --> 00:48:51

you just have a wish a hope or

00:48:51 --> 00:48:52

a hope these are nice words they're very

00:48:52 --> 00:48:56

cute very light they're bubbly enjoy they don't

00:48:56 --> 00:48:57

mean anything they don't actually add up to

00:48:57 --> 00:49:01

anything Islamically so repent to Allah subhanahu wa

00:49:01 --> 00:49:03

ta'ala means that you're going to end

00:49:03 --> 00:49:05

up having two things you're going to regret

00:49:05 --> 00:49:10

the actual sin that you performed and you're

00:49:10 --> 00:49:11

going to have a plan to make sure

00:49:11 --> 00:49:13

it doesn't happen again one of the biggest

00:49:13 --> 00:49:15

problems with tawbah is that there's no plan

00:49:16 --> 00:49:18

so I repent to Allah subhanahu wa ta

00:49:18 --> 00:49:21

'ala astaghfirullah ya rab I will never do

00:49:21 --> 00:49:24

this dhamb again alright what is your plan?

00:49:24 --> 00:49:25

what do you mean?

00:49:26 --> 00:49:27

like how are you going to not do

00:49:27 --> 00:49:27

it again?

00:49:28 --> 00:49:29

I won't do it again like how?

00:49:30 --> 00:49:31

what do you mean how?

00:49:32 --> 00:49:33

what are you changing?

00:49:33 --> 00:49:35

like what are you going to do differently

00:49:35 --> 00:49:36

in your life?

00:49:36 --> 00:49:40

what environmental or personal changes are you going

00:49:40 --> 00:49:42

to apply to make sure it doesn't happen

00:49:42 --> 00:49:42

again?

00:49:43 --> 00:49:43

none?

00:49:44 --> 00:49:45

if I were a betting man I'd put

00:49:45 --> 00:49:46

all my money on the fact they're going

00:49:46 --> 00:49:48

to do it again I would bet all

00:49:48 --> 00:49:48

of my money they're going to do it

00:49:48 --> 00:49:50

again and very soon by the way too

00:49:50 --> 00:49:52

because there's no changes where's the plan?

00:49:53 --> 00:49:53

what did you do?

00:49:54 --> 00:49:55

what adjustments did you bring in?

00:49:56 --> 00:49:58

this is a big problem in understanding tawbah

00:49:58 --> 00:50:01

where we're not willing to actually tawbah requires

00:50:01 --> 00:50:03

a plan like you have to have something

00:50:03 --> 00:50:06

you have to have sat down and analyzed

00:50:06 --> 00:50:08

a little bit of why this sin is

00:50:08 --> 00:50:11

occurring why this mistake is happening you have

00:50:11 --> 00:50:12

to perform tawbah why is this occurring?

00:50:12 --> 00:50:13

why is this going on?

00:50:13 --> 00:50:15

what are the elements that are playing into

00:50:15 --> 00:50:15

it?

00:50:15 --> 00:50:17

what are the mistakes that are being made?

00:50:17 --> 00:50:18

when is it happening?

00:50:18 --> 00:50:19

who is doing it?

00:50:19 --> 00:50:21

in whom's presence am I?

00:50:21 --> 00:50:22

when this is happening?

00:50:22 --> 00:50:24

what times of the day or the week?

00:50:24 --> 00:50:26

if you analyze these things you find out

00:50:26 --> 00:50:28

we're very simple creatures by the way we're

00:50:28 --> 00:50:31

not very complex you'll figure it out the

00:50:31 --> 00:50:33

pattern will be very clear it's fulan whenever

00:50:33 --> 00:50:34

I hang out with fulan I end up

00:50:34 --> 00:50:37

doing this or fulan or whenever I'm at

00:50:37 --> 00:50:39

whenever I do this during the day or

00:50:39 --> 00:50:41

I stay up all night or whatever it

00:50:41 --> 00:50:43

is you'll find a pattern if you have

00:50:43 --> 00:50:45

no intention of changing that then your tawbah

00:50:45 --> 00:50:48

is not ghaniful and that's not even talking

00:50:48 --> 00:50:51

about the regret piece how do you regret

00:50:51 --> 00:50:53

something you don't believe was wrong in the

00:50:53 --> 00:50:54

first place?

00:50:55 --> 00:50:57

try and do that go ahead try and

00:50:57 --> 00:51:00

regret something you didn't think was wrong if

00:51:00 --> 00:51:01

you don't believe that what you did was

00:51:01 --> 00:51:03

wrong then you can never regret it and

00:51:03 --> 00:51:06

without regret it's not a tawbah it's not

00:51:06 --> 00:51:08

really a tawbah you can stop doing something

00:51:09 --> 00:51:12

anyone can stop doing something you can stop

00:51:12 --> 00:51:14

doing something for a lot of reasons because

00:51:14 --> 00:51:15

you don't have enough money to do it

00:51:15 --> 00:51:17

anymore you can't there are people who don't

00:51:17 --> 00:51:19

gamble not because they regret it and think

00:51:19 --> 00:51:20

it's wrong it's because they don't have any

00:51:20 --> 00:51:21

more money they're in so much debt that

00:51:21 --> 00:51:22

if they ever gamble they'll be thrown into

00:51:22 --> 00:51:25

jail so they don't do it anymore someone

00:51:25 --> 00:51:27

doesn't perform haram with the opposite gender because

00:51:27 --> 00:51:28

they're too old they're too tired and then

00:51:29 --> 00:51:32

none of their nothing works anymore so there's

00:51:32 --> 00:51:35

no point it's not tawbah tawbah is different

00:51:35 --> 00:51:38

tawbah means that you identify you acknowledge that

00:51:38 --> 00:51:41

that was in disobedience of the almighty and

00:51:41 --> 00:51:42

I should have never done it and there's

00:51:42 --> 00:51:45

nothing that justifies it and I had no

00:51:45 --> 00:51:46

good reason for doing it and I am

00:51:46 --> 00:51:48

at fault for doing it and shame on

00:51:48 --> 00:51:50

me for doing it and I feel bad

00:51:50 --> 00:51:51

about it and I will never do it

00:51:51 --> 00:51:54

again that's what tawbah is that those feelings

00:51:54 --> 00:51:56

but those feelings can't exist if you don't

00:51:56 --> 00:51:59

actually acknowledge that this was a sin if

00:51:59 --> 00:52:01

somehow deep down inside you're like it's not

00:52:01 --> 00:52:04

that big a deal it's not a good

00:52:04 --> 00:52:06

thing but it's no big deal there's other

00:52:06 --> 00:52:08

people doing worse stuff I'm probably not going

00:52:08 --> 00:52:09

to be held accountable for this and I

00:52:09 --> 00:52:10

have my reasons Allah sees me He'll give

00:52:10 --> 00:52:12

me an exception I have all these other

00:52:12 --> 00:52:13

things going on I needed to blow off

00:52:13 --> 00:52:17

some steam you know the garbage that we

00:52:17 --> 00:52:19

shovel into our minds and our souls to

00:52:19 --> 00:52:22

convince ourselves that something is okay if that's

00:52:22 --> 00:52:24

the case then you'll never regret how do

00:52:24 --> 00:52:27

you regret I've seen people who claim tawbahs

00:52:27 --> 00:52:29

and they talk about they stop doing this

00:52:29 --> 00:52:30

sin but when they're like oh but those

00:52:30 --> 00:52:34

were the days oh well great I don't

00:52:34 --> 00:52:36

do it anymore but that was that's not

00:52:36 --> 00:52:38

tawbah there's no tawbah there if you look

00:52:38 --> 00:52:40

back at the time that you performed this

00:52:40 --> 00:52:43

sin you're like that was living life I

00:52:43 --> 00:52:46

stopped doing it now I'm boring and useless

00:52:46 --> 00:52:47

because Islam told me I can't do it

00:52:47 --> 00:52:49

anymore that's not tawbah you just stopped doing

00:52:49 --> 00:52:50

it it doesn't help it's not going to

00:52:50 --> 00:52:52

fix the problem really in yawm al qiyamah

00:52:52 --> 00:52:53

you're not going to get the ajr for

00:52:53 --> 00:52:55

doing this because you didn't actually fulfill the

00:52:55 --> 00:52:59

criteria for what tawbah is tawbah requires a

00:52:59 --> 00:53:02

proper understanding of what actually happened an acknowledgement

00:53:02 --> 00:53:04

of how wrong it was and then a

00:53:04 --> 00:53:06

plan for it not to happen again even

00:53:06 --> 00:53:08

if and then it still will happen again

00:53:09 --> 00:53:12

but at least you fulfilled the criteria and

00:53:12 --> 00:53:15

that's ok it'll happen again what'll happen at

00:53:15 --> 00:53:17

that point you'll revise again do I fully

00:53:17 --> 00:53:20

regret this and you'll analyze yourself again and

00:53:20 --> 00:53:21

then you'll look at your plan and you'll

00:53:21 --> 00:53:23

say well I failed in this part of

00:53:23 --> 00:53:25

the plan so I'll change add something to

00:53:25 --> 00:53:28

my plan that's new so you'll improve your

00:53:28 --> 00:53:30

plan and next time when you fall into

00:53:30 --> 00:53:32

the sin it'll be later it'll be it'll

00:53:32 --> 00:53:35

take more time because you have more protections

00:53:35 --> 00:53:37

now you're more aware it'll happen again then

00:53:37 --> 00:53:40

you'll analyze again that's what tawbah does tawbah

00:53:40 --> 00:53:42

allows you to prevent this from happening because

00:53:42 --> 00:53:44

you're you're aware of why you did it

00:53:44 --> 00:53:45

you're aware of what you did and then

00:53:45 --> 00:53:47

you're planning for it not to happen anything

00:53:47 --> 00:53:51

else is just is game you're just saying

00:53:51 --> 00:53:52

something you don't mean it you don't have

00:53:52 --> 00:53:56

any understanding of it it doesn't how do

00:53:56 --> 00:53:58

I know this because we didn't read what's

00:53:58 --> 00:53:59

the word that comes after it he says

00:53:59 --> 00:54:02

tawbah to Allah tawbah to what repent to

00:54:02 --> 00:54:06

Allah a repentance that is nasuh nasuh comes

00:54:06 --> 00:54:09

from the word nasuh which is offering advice

00:54:09 --> 00:54:13

right offering advice again a really a really

00:54:13 --> 00:54:17

bad translation for a word but nasuh is

00:54:17 --> 00:54:19

something we use it to offer advice but

00:54:19 --> 00:54:23

really is to influence that's really what nasuh

00:54:23 --> 00:54:25

is it's influence and I I do a

00:54:25 --> 00:54:28

long linguistic study on this in my hadith

00:54:28 --> 00:54:32

course in some degree of depth because nasuh

00:54:32 --> 00:54:36

is not just advising it's really influencing that's

00:54:36 --> 00:54:37

really kind of the core meaning here so

00:54:37 --> 00:54:42

means a repentance that is influential it's a

00:54:42 --> 00:54:45

repentance that will not only help you stop

00:54:45 --> 00:54:48

the sin that you are repenting from but

00:54:48 --> 00:54:50

will help you stop other sins as well

00:54:50 --> 00:54:53

you see when you truly repent from something

00:54:53 --> 00:54:57

you end up cleaning out majority of the

00:54:57 --> 00:55:00

garbage that you have on the inside one

00:55:00 --> 00:55:03

good repentance will get rid of 80%

00:55:03 --> 00:55:05

of your sin 80% of just one

00:55:05 --> 00:55:07

if you repent properly from one sin properly

00:55:07 --> 00:55:09

you will get rid of 80% of

00:55:09 --> 00:55:11

your problems because when you repent properly you

00:55:11 --> 00:55:13

have to do two things you have to

00:55:13 --> 00:55:16

regret regretting requires you to revise and analyze

00:55:16 --> 00:55:19

your understandings your comprehensions the way you see

00:55:19 --> 00:55:20

things what you really believe when you do

00:55:20 --> 00:55:22

that you'll find out a lot of problems

00:55:22 --> 00:55:24

you'll find that I don't like I I

00:55:24 --> 00:55:25

say that I believe in Allah but not

00:55:25 --> 00:55:27

really I say that I believe in Al

00:55:27 --> 00:55:29

-Akhirah but not really I say that I

00:55:29 --> 00:55:31

think this is Haram but not really so

00:55:31 --> 00:55:32

you have to revise all of that and

00:55:32 --> 00:55:33

fix it and when you do that that's

00:55:33 --> 00:55:35

going to help you in every aspect of

00:55:35 --> 00:55:37

life and then when you plan not to

00:55:37 --> 00:55:39

fall into sin you'll find well what caused

00:55:39 --> 00:55:40

me to do the sin all of these

00:55:40 --> 00:55:42

bad habits these bad habits are not just

00:55:42 --> 00:55:45

influencing this sin these bad habits are influencing

00:55:45 --> 00:55:47

all the other sins so when you fix

00:55:47 --> 00:55:50

them you end up just it's one good

00:55:50 --> 00:55:52

repentance it will get rid of the majority

00:55:52 --> 00:55:54

of your sin you'll be stuck with a

00:55:54 --> 00:55:56

couple of crumbs here and there you'll clean

00:55:56 --> 00:55:58

them up on your own no problem one

00:55:58 --> 00:56:00

good repentance and that's why this ayah is

00:56:00 --> 00:56:02

so beautiful in the Quran he's telling you

00:56:02 --> 00:56:04

how to do it because he gave you

00:56:04 --> 00:56:08

this extremely scary warning protect yourselves and your

00:56:08 --> 00:56:12

loved ones from a fire that is absolutely

00:56:12 --> 00:56:15

ruthless that's what he told us and a

00:56:15 --> 00:56:18

day that is absolutely ruthless where there is

00:56:18 --> 00:56:21

no there is no care about your emotion

00:56:21 --> 00:56:22

and what you thought and how you feel

00:56:22 --> 00:56:24

about people you will be thrown in just

00:56:24 --> 00:56:26

based on the merit of what you did

00:56:26 --> 00:56:27

no one cares how you feel about your

00:56:27 --> 00:56:30

family on that day a very very heavy

00:56:30 --> 00:56:32

warning for us honestly it's very difficult when

00:56:32 --> 00:56:33

you think about it it'll take you to

00:56:33 --> 00:56:36

tears but he never leaves you subhanahu wa

00:56:36 --> 00:56:37

ta'ala without like something to do like

00:56:37 --> 00:56:38

he won't tell you protect and then go

00:56:38 --> 00:56:44

go figure it out no start repenting the

00:56:44 --> 00:56:47

only door that never closes is Bab al

00:56:47 --> 00:56:50

-Tawbah every door opens and closes the door

00:56:50 --> 00:56:52

of provision of rizq one day you get

00:56:52 --> 00:56:54

a lot one day you get none one

00:56:54 --> 00:56:55

day you get little it's a door that

00:56:55 --> 00:56:59

opens and closes Al-Wahhab sometimes he gives

00:56:59 --> 00:57:01

Yahya Bakr and sometimes he does not every

00:57:01 --> 00:57:05

single door will open and close except the

00:57:05 --> 00:57:08

door of Tawbah in the hadith of the

00:57:08 --> 00:57:12

Prophet a.s. that Allah subhanahu wa ta

00:57:12 --> 00:57:15

'ala tells us with the Prophet a.s.

00:57:15 --> 00:57:15

that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is telling

00:57:15 --> 00:57:18

us the order of creation the hadith is

00:57:18 --> 00:57:20

in Imam Ahmad so he talks about khalaqallahu

00:57:20 --> 00:57:22

ya'ni al-ma'a wa khalaqa al-'arsha

00:57:22 --> 00:57:24

wa khalaqa al-sama'a and then in

00:57:24 --> 00:57:27

the hadith he said wa khalaqa baab Tawbah

00:57:27 --> 00:57:31

qabla khalqi al-insani bi khamsina alfa sana

00:57:31 --> 00:57:34

and he created the door of Tawbah of

00:57:34 --> 00:57:36

repentance before he created the human being by

00:57:36 --> 00:57:39

50,000 years the door was created before

00:57:39 --> 00:57:41

you were and then it was opened wa

00:57:41 --> 00:57:45

la yughlaqo hadha al-baab hatta tuhashrija al

00:57:45 --> 00:57:48

-nafs or ruh or hatta tatlo'a al

00:57:48 --> 00:57:51

-shamsu min maghribiha and this door will continue

00:57:51 --> 00:57:53

to stay open until your soul your spirit

00:57:53 --> 00:57:57

reaches your throat meaning it's been removed from

00:57:57 --> 00:57:59

your body and all that's left is whatever's

00:57:59 --> 00:58:01

left just in your head just before you

00:58:01 --> 00:58:05

die if it's literally just before you die

00:58:05 --> 00:58:07

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says no just

00:58:07 --> 00:58:10

a little bit before that's too easy obviously

00:58:10 --> 00:58:12

just before you die you have nothing left

00:58:12 --> 00:58:14

you have nothing left to lose if nothing

00:58:14 --> 00:58:16

left to lose might as well might as

00:58:16 --> 00:58:17

well no no don't do that that's what

00:58:17 --> 00:58:19

Fir'aun did Fir'aun continued and then

00:58:19 --> 00:58:22

he just before he died amantu annahu la

00:58:22 --> 00:58:26

ilaha illa lazee amalat bihi banu israeel now

00:58:26 --> 00:58:29

what are you doing now after you've drank

00:58:29 --> 00:58:32

half of the sea your lungs are filled

00:58:32 --> 00:58:35

with salt water and you're doomed you're going

00:58:35 --> 00:58:38

to die now aal aan wa qad aasayta

00:58:38 --> 00:58:41

qablo wa kunta minal mufsideen fal yawmanunajeeka bi

00:58:41 --> 00:58:43

badanik no no no today we'll bring out

00:58:43 --> 00:58:45

your body for you to become an ayah

00:58:45 --> 00:58:47

for everyone for everyone to watch and see

00:58:49 --> 00:58:51

or when the sun comes from the west

00:58:51 --> 00:58:52

once the sun comes out from the west

00:58:52 --> 00:58:54

khalas the door of tawbah is closed aside

00:58:54 --> 00:58:56

from that whatever you go back to him

00:58:56 --> 00:58:58

he accepts you subhanahu wa ta'ala anytime

00:58:59 --> 00:59:01

right now you are sitting here no one

00:59:01 --> 00:59:02

sees it no one knows it no one

00:59:02 --> 00:59:04

even senses it you will perform tawbah to

00:59:04 --> 00:59:05

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and he will

00:59:05 --> 00:59:08

accept it from you and this is something

00:59:08 --> 00:59:09

that you always know he will accept from

00:59:09 --> 00:59:11

you but it's about you it's on you

00:59:11 --> 00:59:13

to continue you know he'll accept your tawbah

00:59:13 --> 00:59:14

it's on you to actually stick to it

00:59:14 --> 00:59:16

but he will never send you back he

00:59:16 --> 00:59:18

will never send you back subhanahu wa ta

00:59:18 --> 00:59:20

'ala he always wants you to perform tawbah

00:59:20 --> 00:59:22

they talk about the Prophet alayhi salatu wasalam

00:59:22 --> 00:59:24

they say inna rasoolallahi salallahu alayhi wasalam kana

00:59:24 --> 00:59:28

yatoobu ilallahi wa yastaghfiruhu fil yawmin mi'ata

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marra the Prophet alayhi salatu wasalam in one

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day would perform istaghfar and tawbah a hundred

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times what does he what does he possibly

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have to be be repenting from alayhi salatu

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wasalam like tell me what exactly I've always

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thought but what is it that he's repenting

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from what does he do if he's doing

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this alayhi salatu wasalam then what what the

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heck am I doing I'll end with this

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well actually I can't it's too long so

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we'll stop with that inshallah ta'ala next

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week I'll continue we haven't finished really talking

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about tawbah we'll continue the explanation all I

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thought I had in the ten minutes subhanallah

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that was 9.20 it's getting so much

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quicker so quickly so we'll continue to explain

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ayah number 8 and 9 and then I'll

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actually I'll conclude the surah next week with

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the three stories that the surah has and

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we'll move on inshallah after that to the

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juzah after I hope that was a benefit

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to you subhanallah alayhi wa sallam la ilaha

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illa anta astaghfiru watubu ilayh wa salallahu alayhi

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wasalam wa baraka ala nabiyyina wa habibina muhammad

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wa ala alihi wa sahbihina

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