Adnan Rajeh – Patience and Self-Control -2
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In this hadith, Ibn Abbas tells us something
the Prophet said to someone else.
He was speaking to a man called Lashaj
Abdul Qais, and he was one of the
leaders of the neighboring tribes.
And he had come to visit with his
tribe, the Prophet, and in a long discussion
that happened between the Prophet and this man,
he said the following.
Indeed you have two attributes that Allah loves.
Al-Hilm is patience, and Al-Ana is
taking things slowly.
It means someone who is not in a
hurry all the time, not making decisions in
a hurry.
There is a continuation for the hadith in
another collection where the man asks the Prophet,
Are these two attributes things that I brought
for myself or did Allah just put them
in me?
He said Allah just put them in you.
He was looking for some extra credit.
He didn't get it.
He just got the basic credit.
He said there are two things that you
have that Allah loves.
You are patient and you take your time.
You are not slow.
You are not hasty.
You are not going to make decisions in
a manner where you end up making more
mistakes.
Patience is different than perseverance.
Sabr which is perseverance.
Patience is Hilm.
Hilm is when you are patient means someone
tries to provoke you and they fail to
provoke you.
This is Al-Halim.
Al-Halim is someone who when another person
comes to them and they do something to
offend them, they mistreat them or they provoke
them, they are patient.
They don't overreact.
They don't react in a violent manner.
They don't lose their temper.
They don't say something.
They don't lash out.
They are able to control themselves.
Al-Halim is one of the most respected
attributes for Arab.
Before Islam, Arab used to see this attribute
as one of the most respected attributes of
all.
Meaning it is second only to generosity for
the Arab in Jahiliyyah.
In Jahiliyyah it was generosity and then it
was Hilm.
If you are a Halim, if you are
someone who when you have the ability to
punish someone or you have especially someone provokes
you or mistreats you or says something to
you and you are more intelligent, you are
older, you have more status, meaning you have
the ability to completely destroy this person.
You can completely dismember this human being.
You have every mean to do so.
This person is much weaker than you on
every front.
And then you show and then you don't.
That's Hilm.
That's a beautiful thing to have.
The ability to be patient.
Let it go when it happens.
And Al-Ana is just making decisions in
a way where you are planning things appropriately.
You are not making decisions in a manner
that you will later on regret.
وَبِمَن تَحْرُمُوا عَلَيْهِ النَّارِ Should I not tell
you whom the hellfire is prohibited to touch
them and they are prohibited to ever enter
the hellfire.
So it's a mutual relationship of exclusion.
They are not going to enter and the
other is not allowed to receive.
فَقَالَوا بَنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ فَقَالَ عَلَى كُلِّ
هَيِّنٍ قَرِيبٍ سَهْلٍ Upon everyone, every person who
is hayyin, qareeb, sahl.
Someone who is patient, who is close, he
is humble.
And sahl is easy going.
This is what he said alayhi salatu wasalam.
If I made this up, if I told
you this you wouldn't believe me.
But he said alayhi salatu wasalam so you
have to listen to it.
The person who now is prohibited to touch
and they are prohibited to enter now themselves
is every person that is patient and humble
and easy going.
They don't get upset quickly.
They don't get offended quickly.
They are not always you know the prototype,
the prototype of a person.
Every time something doesn't go good, the person
is ready to fight, ready to yell, ready
to scream, ready to put an obstacle.
Always everything is wrong, everything needs to be
fixed, everything.
And yes I am like that on the
minbar, I know.
But I am not like that outside of
the minbar.
That's the only time I do it.
Outside of that I am not like that.
InshaAllah, at least I hope I am not.
Someone who is easy going, they are humble
and they are easy to communicate with and
they are patient.
They don't lose their temper and they are
not people who get offended quickly.
He is teaching us something of value alayhi
salatu wasalam.
Of just this beautiful attribute of just being
patient, controlling yourself and taking things slowly.
Don't allow people to provoke you.
Don't allow people to push you into a
position where you behave in a way that
does not represent your ethics and represents who
you are, represents your upbringing, represents the values
that you carry.
Don't let that happen.
Because there is almost never a situation when
you let that happen and you don't heavily
regret later on.
And you will regret not for a while
but sometimes for the entirety of your life.
You will regret a moment where you let
your anger, you let your hastiness get the
best of you.
And you weren't able to control yourself.
And he never allowed that alayhi salatu wasalam.
Not only did not allow it, some of
the stories that we have about him are
absolutely, they don't even make sense.
I don't know how is he able alayhi
salatu wasalam to control himself in moments where
people were being so belligerent and so rude
and so physically abusive and psychologically abusive at
times where he was absolutely exhausted.
And he was working day and night for
the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
to serve these people.
It's like you are serving someone who is
spitting in your face.
How much time do you have to, how
much can you be patient and you find
him alayhi salatu wasalam in a position of
just showing that patience alayhi salatu wasalam.
The examples are abundant but he also taught
us the ethic.
Not only did he practice it but he
also reminded us it's important to have that
attribute.
There's a benefit to it.
Alayhi salatu
wasalam.