Adnan Rajeh – Monday Tafseer- 65 Part 3 Surat Al-Talaq- 6-7
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Charlotte, it will continue from where we left off last week and
the Tafseer of supaloc. And we completed the first page of that
surah. And today in sha Allah Tada, we'll start with the second
page of it, there is a slim possibility that we actually get
through the full page is very connected. But I've never actually
come through with any of my promises regarding that before, so
don't hold me to it. So Paluch
is the not the final surah. But before final sutra within this
juicer, which is also a cluster with a group of students from
Abuja, to the Hareem. And this group of students is all about
organization. It talks about organizing the Muslim society or
Muslim community, and looks at different aspects of of organizing
Muslim behavior, in groups, as individuals, with spouses with
fellow Muslims, with citizens with non Muslims with those who are
your enemies with those who have betrayed you with those who are
hypocrites who aren't carrying their weight, with your leadership
with your society itself. So every suit, I talked about a different
example, and I went through those examples throughout the last seven
to seven months or so. And so the top one in the middle of the mall,
was a sewer that reminded us of why we're doing all of this,
organizing the intention for us and organizing the collective, the
collective why or the collective purpose of why of why we do what
we do and why it is that we commit to anything that we can do. And it
talks about organizing, family, or spouses,
relationships among spouses, family is gonna be talking about
intuitive Darim, which is what start building now, if not next
week, the week after, which is the final soon within this cluster.
But it talks about talks about marriage and talks about
relationships within within marriage. And
the reason that he's going to talk about this topic within by talking
about but often is because block is the worst case scenario, the
worst thing that can happen within a marriage is for it to end in
divorce. Obviously, there's worse things as an abuse. But these
aren't seen as marriage problems. They're seen as they're seen as
legal problems. Like when you talk about domestic abuse, it's really
you can call it domestic abuse, but it's it's abuse, and abuse is
abuse and someone who's abusing someone else needs to be taken to
a court of law and and then held accountable for that. So
standards, look at that as its own entity really looks at marriage as
an institution where you have rights and you have obligations,
and there is a basis for what the relationship is, is is built upon.
And then the reason why this relationship may cease to exist
all together as well.
When we talk about domestic abuse, where someone is abusing someone
else that doesn't necessarily fall under the current, the context of
marriage Islamically speaking, it falls under the context of void or
do one of transgression or mistreatment where the person
whether they're your husband, or your wife or not, is going to be
held to the same to the same laws of the land that will apply to
them if they are if they are mistreating someone, and a lady
just for the sake of of this piece of information. If a woman was to
go to a Muslim judge back in the day, and show that she had a
bruise anywhere in her body that she was hit by her man, he will he
will put him in jail. He will put him in jail. And that is that is
simple. That is simple Islamic one on one historical Yanni judiciary
system, like the symbol of jurisprudence, if he goes, the
lady goes and says Romney and she shows any form of of evidence
meaning he leaves any any bruise of any sort of any any actual
evidence on her on her body. He goes to jail. The verses that talk
about Yeah, he felt that people don't know what that means he has
no space in when he actually strikes her physically to leave
any form of of a of a mark on it. That's not what these verses are
talking about at all. And we know that because that's how the
Islamic judicial system carried its its verdicts and rulings all
throughout the history of the Ummah we are Busey and Osmani
theta alpha. And you can just go back and read these things if
you're interested in understanding a little bit more. So that the
end, but in marriage itself, and I told you that the beginning of
every session, I'll talk a little bit about about certain aspects of
of marriage and what is required within it tonight, and I covered a
little bit as much as I could not least what the what the rights and
the obligations are of spouses when they enter into this union.
Demand is the by default, the man is the protector provider. He's
always the protector. You can't take that away. There's no There's
no clause in the contract of marriage that will take that piece
away. You're a man, you're a protector. She can say she doesn't
want it. It doesn't matter. You're a silver protector. That's how
it's going down. If I need to someone breaks into the house, you
go down, she stays upstairs. You're the one who's going to die
that night did so if you're they'll be the first to expire. If
someone's going to expire that night. That's how it is. Even if
she wants to take that clause out of the contract saying I don't
want you to protect her. It doesn't matter if she's asking for
that you probably shouldn't marry her to begin with. But that's what
that's what you're obligated to do under Islamic law.
As a man, you're responsible for the, for the safety of the women
in your family, whether it's your mother, your your daughter, your
sister, your aunt, your grandmother, your granddaughter,
or your niece or your wife, obviously, which is your highest
priority, you're responsible for her well being, period, and all of
the rulings that you find in Islam, that today are used to
point out the mistreatment of women. And it comes from just this
very simple concept that you're responsible for their protection.
When men misused when these rulings are misused, they can turn
into good they can turn into ways of limiting people's
participation of life, meaning men are not allowed to use their
position as protectors to control women's ability to participate in
life and to live like babies. Because using the Muharram doesn't
mean that you get to control where how she's going to live her life
altogether. No, this isn't an aspect of you figuring out a way
for her to be safe and where she's going because she, she has a
family, and that's your job. So this is a it's a family matter.
And it has to be seen and run as such. Not necessarily attached to
the marriage, but to some degree it is because when we one of the
aspects of the dynamic of marriage, and I thought I thought
bringing this up may be a benefit is that the when when men and
women slam men and women marry, there's always an especially
today, there's always this lack of clarity. Well, what do I ask have
to ask is permission for this is this question I get a lot from
this is what do I have to ask is permission for anything that is a
reasonable safety hazard, you have to run it, but you have to bring
it to your intention of your husband, you have to bring it to
his attention. So he can
decide how we're going to go by these things. That's, that's
that's what you have to bring by your husband.
It's best that the details of this aspect is discussed before
marriage, especially the daily ones, especially the daily aspects
of what's what is considered a safety hazard and what isn't. So
this discussion is what happened before marriage, not after, if you
don't have this before marriage, then you are very naive, the both
of you are very naive, and you go back to the earth. So it's not,
it's not actually doesn't default to what the man wants, it defaults
to the earth to the norm towards what is what is considered to be a
safety risk hazard versus not amongst the normal people. And you
go back to the family, or you go back to the MLMs to kind of
establish that. But if you don't want to do that you actually have
a discussion with with your your significant other before marriage,
for example, some in certain places of the world, men aren't
comfortable with their wives going outside of the neighborhood on
their own. And I lived in a place where that was actually a
reasonable thing to ask for, like I lived in a place and a time
where that was reasonable where it was she leaves without a Muharram
this area, she is not safe anymore. Like she can be abused
and mistreated by people. So it's not safe for her to go. And that's
an example where she has to make sure that she takes permission
from the husband and the husband provides either protection or the
provide some way where she gets to go. And he is there out of his own
time to make sure that she's protected. Or she goes with a
group of women, for example, or she goes with another minimum,
there has to be some agreement.
For example, living here in this city, the norm is that know, a
lady can move around the city very freely, very safely. It's not a
risk hazard for her to go out the house and go to a mall or drive a
car within the city. Right? What about outside the city? What about
the that is not agreed upon. So if you go to the oath, they're
offered the norm is that she's safe anywhere in this in Canada,
basically, to move around. But the husband can point out that I'm not
comfortable with I'm not comfortable, you aren't on the 401
the Highway of Death, I'm not comfortable on their loan, and I
am not comfortable going to try I don't want that. That has to be
established beforehand. But before we get married off to establish,
I'm not comfortable with that. And she has to be okay with it or not
before they get married, where he's gonna be okay, I'm not I'm
not gonna be okay with you. She may be someone who's going to have
to commute every day to a different city, because that's the
nature of her work, for example. So these things have to be agreed
upon. But when the husband establishes with reasonable
evidence that where you're going is not safe for a lady to be there
alone is not ruled by law, or there is a high incidence of
mistreatment, then she has to actually she's not You're not
allowed as a woman to go without a haram or without that. So for
example, if my wife decided today she's going to go to Syria or to
Lhasa right? I can I can say no, you're not going, you know, I have
the right as a husband to hinder that and say no, you can go, Well,
if I'm able to provide a Muharram for her, myself or someone else
then yes, if not, then she shouldn't be going. This is
important pieces within marriage. The issue is not that the man gets
to control when you leave the house. That's not That's not a
part even though that may be the culture
In certain parts of the world, that's not actually what Islamic
law is about. The man does not get to control where she gets to go.
But he does get a say when there's a risk hazard involved in order
for him to be able to protect her. So if he feels like you're going
to a place where you're not safe, and I can't protect you, that she
has to listen to them. And if she feels that his standard for that
is not reasonable, then that either is talked about before
marriage and agreed upon or disagreed upon, or you bring it to
the Imam and the quality or the judge actually offers what the
norm is of that time, what the norm of that time isn't under oath
when it comes to marriage is very important. When people don't talk
about things you default, you default to Islamic law, you are
default to Earth, and sometimes Islamic law defaults you to the
norm, what's the norm? What are how do people what is what is
considered reasonable amongst the majority of functional couples
within that area. And that usually is found out by OR is known to the
Imams, or the people who who hear the questions are involved in the
ongoing, I think I started the Imams today, I think it's probably
marriage counselors or divorce lawyers, I think I think they're
the ones who can offer the most insight on what exactly people
agree upon prison, what they don't agree upon.
But a lot of the laws that exist in Islam are not designed for a
woman to when she gets married, loses her freedom, or she goes
from the dictatorship of father to dictatorship of a husband, but
rather, she goes from the protection of one person in the
direction of someone else. And you can argue that maybe she doesn't
need it, and you wouldn't be wrong. And that will be a very
dumb argument. And I'm not going to actually entertain that at all.
Because when the world that we live in, there's always some
degree of need protection for any human being. Actually, we all need
protection, men included, it just men don't get it. I'm just not
offered that protection, I have to figure it out and protect myself.
And if I don't, then I die. And that's my problem. But you are
obligated as a man to protect the women in your life. And the women
are obligated to accept that protection within what is
considered to be reasonable. So spouses before they get married,
should have these discussions. What are you comfortable with?
What are you not comfortable with? So that we have clarity so that
there's no so there's no, there's not a big point of dispute.
Because there's a big point of dispute, it becomes hard to live,
either she feels like this is not reasonable. This is there's no
safety hazard here. I've been doing this for a long time, I
don't see why this is not acceptable, and why he's making a
big deal. Or the opposite. She is doing something for him, he is
always worried he's always uncomfortable. No, neither of
these people should feel like that you should never be in a marriage
where you feel that way. Because there's when it comes to
protection. This is subjective, it's not objective. There aren't
rules Islamically this is what you're allowed to know, this is
subjective, this is going to be based on norm culture, what people
are accustomed to, and what their background is. So this may differ,
some men may be more comfortable with certain things, and others
may not. Women will have the same have the same thing. A woman also
has the right to say I'm not going I need to go this place, I'm not
going because I'm not safe, you need to either provide them a home
or come with me. And I have the right to go here. So he has to go,
for example, if he's going to visit her family, or if she has an
appointment somewhere that for her health, for example, so that he
has to go, he has to provide their mom, and she's like, I'm not
comfortable going to this part of the city alone, I need someone
there she has, he is obligated to offer some degree of protection
one way or the other. Now, understanding that the Prophet saw
that you saw this and his vision for the world would be the day
were of a violent meaning a lady on a camel would leave Iraq to
perform Angelo. This isn't quite a Muslim, where he where he led us
towards them envision the time when a lady would leave it off on
her Campbell alone to go perform Hajj and come back with no
Muharram and not required not being fearing not fearing for own
safety. So we envisioned that I was at a time where it be safe,
where law would rule and where people could could move around and
safely and a woman would need the protection. So the concept of
Muhammad protection is based on necessity, based on the necessity
not just not based on control. The idea here is not to give the man
the ability to control her movement. No, that's not what what
what the purpose of these rulings are, is to keep her safe. And I
don't think I need to explain why that's a very important thing.
Because Because one breach of that is one example of a breach where a
woman is not safe. And she and she does get that it's not worth it.
It's not worth running the risk of that happening one time, because
this type of experience is life scarring. It ruins life. It ruins
life completely. So so we Islam is very strict on that, making sure
that this does not happen that we do whatever we have to do to make
sure this does not occur to a to a woman in any in any sense or form,
which is why these rulings are there. So that's a piece of I just
want to add that because I didn't talk about that last time. But the
man is the protector provider.
That is the default of Islam. You can always default to that a woman
at any point in your life and marriage if she's working in
Say, I'm done.
Where's the house, I'm stuck in here, go work that Harnack I don't
care, sell a kidney, you go to work three jobs, I don't care,
you'll go provide I'm not working, I'm staying in the house, I'm
taking care of the kids, I'm taking the household, she has the
right to do anytime, right? And the husband who may take on
certain responsibilities within the household can always default
and say, No, I'm not doing this anymore. I'm gonna be focused just
to providing protecting, I'm not gonna do this piece anymore. So
you can always default to these things. However, you can always
have an agreement at the beginning of marriage of the provision 5050
and do housework in the household maintenance 5050, that's totally
fine sign of this, there's nothing wrong with that. There's no right
or wrong answer here. It's just, it's allowable to always default,
it's allowable to argue, if the man defaults, I'm not doing my 50%
in terms of the household, then the woman pulls her 50% Of what
she's contributing to the household in terms of finance. And
she uses that 50% to the supplemental, whatever is left in
some of that, it works out either way. It works out either way. Like
if I'm if I'm doing 50%, I'm working, I'm putting all the money
in the bank account all of my money, and she's putting all of
her money. And at the same amount, we're making the same, right. So
it's 5050 in the bank account that we're all pulling out for to take
care of ourselves. She's doing 50% of the housework, I'm doing 20% of
housework. At one point, she's like, I'm not contributing 50% of
my money anymore, she takes her money out puts in her own account,
she can do that anytime. And the household continues to be taken
care of through the mountain. We don't do that anytime she wants.
But he has the right at that point also to pull out his 50% and what
he's doing in the house,
he doesn't have to, doesn't have to take care of the household in
terms of work, not talking about wealth, it's your wealth is going
to be put, what do we spend to take care to clothe and feed and
maintain the household I'm trying to work, for example, or the time
that I spent with the children at home, cooking, the cleaning, they
made that type of work, you can divide it American say at any
point, I'm not doing any of this anymore, I'm not responsible the
household anymore, I'm going to be only outside. At that point, she
doesn't have to contribute financially any more to the
household. So she holds on to her money. Well, the house, the work
is too much while you can pay from your own money as a woman who's
working for a maid or someone to come and help you with whatever,
whatever's left, honestly, it's a better deal for the lady. It's a
better deal. If he does that. Honestly, it's better. Like if you
if a lady just keeps her own money to herself, and uses whatever she
needs to pay for someone to come and help with the housework. I
think it's a better setup, I'm actually encouraging it, I'm
encouraging it, I'm encouraging it. Alright, if you're working as
a woman, hold on to your own wealth, put it aside, don't put a
note don't have a joint account, make your own account, but it
alone, he has nothing to do with the household at all. Whatever
money you make, you take care of the house and you use your mind to
take care of whatever you don't have time to take care of. From
your own wealth, you can bring someone to do it, right. And then
he is responsible for taking care of you financially and the
children and the household. Why? Because it just works better. It
just works better. i The number of messes that I've seen, because
they're both working and putting the money together, it becomes
very, very, it just feels very messy. And women contend the wives
tend to be much more disgruntled. When their wealth is being put
into, like when they feel that they are contributing that a lot
of their wealth is being put in to the household where the man's
wealth should have been put in and he's he's controlling the money
more than she is even though she's contributing 50% That she ends up
starting starting a lot of have bad feelings, and it begins,
people start to drift away from one another. So I think it's a
better way of being done that way. Because when you hold on to your
own wealth, if he needs money, he can ask, you can give me cup, we
keep track, we keep track, there's a Dane in the middle of that. You
keep track, when you put it all into one mush. It's one big pot,
you can't keep track anymore. People are putting money out and
he went and bought with the 90 this is the joint beta bank
account while putting money in it. He went and bought the expensive
car for himself. For whose money? Was it just from his money? Or was
some of her money to the she had owned some of that car? How are we
going to actually keep calculation of all this?
And then then things start to get messy. And then she does the same
and then it just gets ugly. So it's better if you if it's if it's
separated? Like I know people like no we're in love. Bye, good. Good,
have separate bank accounts. So you stay in love inshallah so so
you stay. It's okay. No, but I love him. I agree. I get it. Hold
on to your money and you hold on to his. And then you guys help the
household in ways where there's someone's keeping track of things.
So it's fair. So it's fair. Because Islam sees that the money
they're working outside and bringing the money in to take care
of the household financially, clothe, feed and protect is equal
to the work that is required to maintain the household. That's why
because Islam sees them to be equal. Like the woman is staying
home, cleaning the house and doing the laundry and cooking the
cooking the food and taking care of the killed children that is
equal to all the work that you're doing outside. Islamic leads are
the same. You don't come
homie say, What are you doing? Oh, no, she's been working probably
equally or more than you are is the same thing, right? Because
that makes it clear in terms of what the responsibilities are. And
that clarity will help everyone function better. Because that way,
we're appreciative of one another, I see Islamically, you're being
told us a man, you see that the fact that she stayed home and took
care of the house and to care for the kids, that that is a job that
you had to be grateful for. Because it's very hard, just like
you want her to be grateful for the eight hours you spent with
your boss spitting out at you all day long, and using us to stay
there till you get paid at the end of the month to bring a paycheck
and take care of her. So it becomes an issue of gratitude,
when there's no clarity what the responsibilities and rights are.
And it's one big mush, and no one knows that there's lack of
gratitude, everyone starts thinking, I think I'm doing more,
I'm probably putting more money, I'm doing more work, everyone
seems to think what they're putting in and what the other
person is not putting in. And then it becomes an issue of who's
working more and who's not pulling their weight and, and it turns
into something that's very negative, and it goes in the wrong
direction. And want to keep it positive, keep clarity of
responsibilities, and rights, all right.
And that's just some advice on how to stay married if you want to.
So we continue to follow from it. Number six is told stories only
told versus not very long.
And the fifth, and ends I in number seven, like the verses that
have felt in them that have rulings and then the next, the two
verses we recite today, that's the end of the fifth that exists in
the Surah. The rest of the surah is just a lot of warnings, that
you better follow these lessons properly. Now, or else you're
going to be in trouble. And the reason that's the case, I'm going
to point out to you and Charlo some degree of clarity over the
next over this holiday next halacha is that what was the is
what the norm was when these verses were revealed. So these
verses that came in establish very clearly what the rights are, when
it comes to divorce. Let's start start from the beginning just to
go through them quickly. So first of all, the Fallout has to happen
for California, the entity hinda. And it has to happen. And there
has to be there has to be someone who oversees this, yeah, you have
to be you. If it's if it's not the profit, it starts with him himself
as a judge, someone has to oversee this process. It's not something
that happens that you can just socially figure out, do whatever
you want. No, there has to be someone who's responsible has to
happen at the right time. So as to be at a time of purity where that
no * occurred, it can happen during her menstruation
period, or during a period where they've had *, they get
you guys, you have to wait until it fill until it's the beginning
of a purity cycle. And you have not had any but that's when you
can perform the loss if you're going to do it. Four times in the
first page, he said what tabula rasa come in different ways. And
I'm gonna point that out because it's all throughout the page, he
keeps on saying, what the cola or manga tequila, and he actually
does a lot of explanation. It's not really just a quick duck, what
no full explanation, when we get the color hedge Allahumma kraja.
Yet tequila,
tequila Jalla, who mean I'm gonna use from a tequila you Catherine,
who say,
he keeps on talking about if you just have that one, because of the
importance of doing this in the in the right in the right way, the
right method, she is not to be removed from her home. When the
when the divorce happens, she stays in her home for the time
unless she performs a function during that time. In that case,
you can remove otherwise she stays in her home, you leave, if you're
if the house is not designed where you can live separate within the
same space, and it's just an apartment and it's all open. If
you perform a divorce, you'll get out she stays for the for the time
being. Right. And then when the time ends it at the end of the 33
cycles, you have to make a decision, either you reunite, and
it's considered that you made one bump to one pull off, but you just
reunite with nothing. You don't require anything but two
witnesses, or you end the marriage and the marriage ends, you'll need
witnesses for that as well. Now, once the marriage ends after, you
can only get get married to this lady with a new motor, like you
have to remarry all over again. It's as if you guys were never
going to before. Right? If the three cycles of dead ends, and you
guys don't reunite, you don't decide to go back together again.
Then this is considered a divorce, you're done. You're divorced, but
you're like I want to, I want to I want to get together again, then
you have to go and ask for her hand for parents all over again.
And you have to do a full mode and a full Niigata whole thing has to
happen all over again. Because you didn't do it within the period of
and you can only do that twice. So if someone divorces and they spend
the three cycles, and they don't come back together, a full divorce
occurred, right? That's Strike one. He wants to get married
again. They won't get married again. He goes he asked for her
hand, they do another Nikka another and another everything
right? They're married, they divorce. And a full cycle goes
over and happens now I will strike two. And if they want to marry
again, they have to go through the process again a third time or they
have to go do more and he got but this time, if they divorce, that's
it.
This time of the divorce and it's Oh class, we're done. Now you
can't really get back together unless you go. You got to have to
go live your own lives. She has to go live get married again and then
somehow being divorced or widowed or something and then sort of like
later in life. If you guys want to come back together you can try it
again. But not immediately after because you've already established
that you are immature.
You're not compatible, and you're not getting it making it work and
you're causing yourselves and other people a lot of agony. And
this is a ridiculous cycle that should not continue to happen. So
it's twice and then the third time philosophy, everyone goes into a
new direction. You need, we need proper witnesses, because divorce
is marriage should be a decision, not a moment of anger. Right? No
one gets angry and find themselves married.
And then no one no one gets passionate for a moment and find
themselves married. No, it shouldn't happen for divorce. You
didn't at a moment of passion, just find yourself divorced. No,
you decide to get married and you decide to get divorced. You need
the proper, it's occurred to enter and it's awkward to get out. So
it's a contract to get into marriage is not a very complicated
one. Just two people, the least important person in the room at
the time is to share
the least important person at the time of marriage if you don't need
him at all. He's completely useless. He is not important at
all. You just need the the groom, the father of the bride, the bride
and two witnesses. That's it. Everyone else is just the I need
the hush you just people's filling up spaces, their MP hours they
don't they don't mean anything. The whole game that they
specifically is completely he just did a document he's not important
don't need to shift if officiate your marriage, you just need to do
this Islamically speaking obviously, you have to go down to
City Hall and do and do the whole run around. But But Simon has
begun it's all you require.
And then he pointed out though, what is the idea for those who
don't have? Well, let us let me on my head those who are
postmenopausal, or those who have never had a cycle that is three
months, it is full three months is there if they don't if they're
postmenopausal, so they don't have cycles, or they never had a cycle
in their life, then it's going to be three months. And if someone is
is Hamid if they're if they're pregnant, then the days until the
end of their pregnancy, whether the end of their pregnancy is in
12 hours, or whether the end of their pregnancy is in nine months.
It doesn't make a difference. So there's a period there a period of
time for someone who's pregnant is going to be until the termination
or the end of their pregnancy whether that is a couple of days
because she's at the end of her pregnancy or it's close to a year
because she's at the beginning of her pregnancy. It doesn't make a
difference all right. But those what are the rulings that have
been explained so far? I'm gonna go through it number six and
seven. I'll tell you why these these these rulings are explained
and what why they why they were tough luck came so many times once
we're finished it number seven will recite the verses after that
that are spiritual and there is warnings for all of us and I'll
tell you why in children who will be left in a shame on your Raji.
Bismillah here, man you're walking
a ski no one in high school second to me you would God calm
so beware, men hate to second tomb. Mu Wuji decom whoo, whoo.
decom so the GM is second. And the VA has Obama? It's not very
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because they are talking about women and their rights and their
rulings you have the noon and missa a lot at the end of the
words. So when I told all ruhuna the noon here is to refer to
ladies lead to a boy you Isley Hiner again for ladies, so I lay
him works for men and men and women. I lay him with the new one,
right that means only women so in Islam, whatever whatever the
rulings are specific for sisters, you'll have the noon and this sort
of petered that's why it was a block was filled with it with this
because a lot of the rulings here are specific for for sisters and
women in Islam.
We're in Khun Nakula at Hamlin
Wylie in
so when you see the word Gulati you see on the Whoa, right you see
on the wall a circle so that circle tells you that the letter
undred is never recited or it's never pronounced within our
citation at least within Helston awesome these signs mean this the
circle on top of the well these are signs that were added later on
they weren't within the most half that the Sahaba wrote just like a
lot of the letters on the lot of the dots on the font and the
coffin and the noon they don't they didn't exist because they
didn't require any of these things to recite Arabic appropriately
they're added here to make it easier for any modern Arabs and
non Arabs to recite to Yanni and understand how to do it well so
the wow there
because the Ferrari citation for Hassan alstonville political
shelter but we don't pronounce it we say we're gonna qulaity Gulati
we don't say Gulati. We don't give a while
We just picked just Obama there's other citations that may have that
in this but ours doesn't and the ways you know that we don't is by
that circle on top of the world to tell you about under it is not
pronounced when when you recite alright Hi yah born amla one
in our learner like whom to whom who are one
what Danny you Boehner can be mad when
we're in the cell to first to be ruler who Hello
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women booty early here is all
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law you can live long enough and eat lamb
so yeah, long who bad? Oh sorry you slow
so the explanation of the verses here a skin Hoonah Men hate to
second tomb mewn would you decom a skin Ohana is when you put them in
a place to live? Man how you through second term? Meal? Would
you decom l would who Issa? Look, we'll talk about meaning what is
your ability mean? How you do second term? So have them live in
a place that is similar man how you do second term to where you
live in general, I mean, would you come to the extent of your ability
to put them in. So when divorce happens, they either stay in the
house that they're living in, or they have to live in a nicer house
that is similar to the one that you are living in. Because
sometimes, like I said, the financial agreement is that you're
both putting into this home. And once the divorce happened, it
breaks. So you can't pay the rent for this for this specific space
anymore. But you still have to keep her in a proper house for the
duration of the data for the duration of data just to stay
there. So it's not going to be in this house has to be a house that
is similar to where you or your family is living to the extent of
your ability meal would you decom to whatever it is you can bring
forward you're not required to meet a standard that you don't
have the money to pay for. But you can't put her in a Yanni in a
garbage can is it well that's why I can only afford this you know,
this the slum somewhere down with no one lives no, you have to put
it in a place that is similar to where you're living in terms of
space and safety and also luxury so as to be similar. If the space
that she's living in is not for her and you you don't want to
leave so if the man doesn't want to leave the home for reasons
sometimes that house is where he does his work, for example, this
is the meaning he can't get out of the house, that he he's
responsible for putting her in a space that is similar to the one
that she was living in before or similar to the one that you are
living in to the extent of your ability to do so. Alright, well,
today ball Runa to law ruhuna comes from the root of borer
Vallauris is harm when I told all ruin me Do not cause harm to them
lead to like Ebola, you know, to make it more difficult for them to
survive it the lead is to make things slim or make things
uncomfortable.
Why this is being explained because men would use the fact
that they are they were the sole breadwinners back then to make it
extremely difficult for the ladies to survive throughout their adult
as a way of getting back as I said a lot of divorces don't usually
happen because people are happy together and that they like each
other a lot. No two people who are you know in love and happy decide
to divorce it's usually they're not getting along so there's some
just there's some there's some resentment that's going on. So men
would use their wealth to make it difficult so they remove their
wives from their homes and they wouldn't give them their their
enough aka for the for the time of the day. Or if they did they would
give them a very small amount not enough to live in a place that is
respectful or safe.
or the one that they were living in before. So this verse is saying
a skin wound I mean, how you feel so again to me would you become,
you put them in a house to live in, that is similar to the one
that you're living in to the extent of your ability.
When not to borrow one do not harm them or cause harm to them with
the intention of trying to make it difficult for them to survive over
whatever money that you're giving them, trying to get them to leave
or to, to give up on on what their rights are, when couldn't know
that you handle and if they are pregnant, for me and people why
they hidden hatha yoga and Nahum loan, then you're going to
continue to take care of them financially until they give birth.
Why is this here? He just talked about that a second ago, because
what is there, generally speaking, that was explained to us is going
to be said, I said, total, right, three cycles, if postmenopausal or
no menopause, no administration three months. But what if the lady
is second or second month of pregnancy? Then the end date is
going to be seven months? Right? So is the man only responsible for
the first three? No, he's responsible for the full duration
of the pregnancy. So that's why these verses here, say you're
responsible for all seven months, it's not, it's not just three,
because well, that's the longest No, you're responsible had a BA
and now hum lagoon, until they give birth to whatever they're
carrying in their bellies.
So that's the first piece of filth here. And this is simple, I don't
have to give you a different method and what they agree upon,
or they talked about, because this is technically mostly agreed upon
amongst all four schools of jurisprudence, that the man who
responsible to put his wife in a house if he's not going to leave
her in the home that they were married in, for some reason that
the because he's supposed to leave as the verses at the beginning
said, but if he can't, and he needs to stay in this home for for
spiritual reasons, then he has to put her in a house that is similar
to the one that he's living in, to the extent of his financial
ability, and he's not allowed to use his wealth. And to use an
apple pie as a way to harm or to or to lessen the amount of money
he gives her or to hold back or to be late on payments to make her
life difficult like that. Someone will follow in follow up on that.
And he's responsible for her enough, aka, you're responsible
for her for her financially until she gives birth to her child, even
if it's more than that. Even it's more than the three cycles with
three months that the verses before talked about. Alright, the
second piece Fenella and Anna come now that they're divorced, if the
mother decides to Breastfeed the child, for our two who know
Georgia Hana Bill mouth, then via Windows Ron, then you're
responsible as a man to compensate her for that. Most schools of
jurisprudence don't see this piece of the verse to be specific to
divorcees, but rather in general, the man is responsible for the
feeding of his child. I am responsible financially for
feeding and clothing my child, the wife, the mother is not. So if she
breastfeeds, that's something that she's doing that she can be
compensated for the majority of madonn, the majority of feet,
three out of forest schools have your spoon and see that the man
must compensate his wife for the breastfeeding mean that nothing is
a little bit higher. There's a little bit more enough that goes
in goes into this.
When they're divorced, for sure, there's no there's no disagreement
at all, that if she's going to breastfeed her child he owes for
that. And if she decides that she doesn't want to,
that he has to go find someone who will, like he will pay for someone
to take care of this child or he will pay for the back then there
is no formula
which is better for them. But honestly, it's It's garbage. But
they would have to find someone who's willing to Breastfeed the
child for the child to survive. So you would have to well, Daniel
Rubino couldn't be my roof. If I had to who knows your I mean, you
compensate her you give her a jewel a jewel for for
breastfeeding. Well tell me a little bit in a combi model and
decide what the amount is going to be amongst you by asking those who
know about this beam out of meaning do it. This word model
keeps on coming up models means with kindness, with good ethics,
with ethics and morals that the society know to be good mean
continue to continue to stay within the green lines of societal
ethics. So tabula will be in a Columbia Melrose meaning figure
out how this is going to work, what the amount is going to be,
what the proper amount of compensation is, the amount of
what is acceptable, through norms, and to what people are doing, when
tasks are done. And if you come to a dead end, meaning he is offering
this much, and either the wife is like I want more for doing this,
they just don't agree, sometimes isn't going to happen. Obviously,
if there's a lot of resentment. First, I totally agree with okra
that he is responsible to pay someone else to breastfeed his
child or to pay for the formula for example, that is that is going
to be used.
The only use it means that it is a command. Leon flip the lamb here
is the Lamb of amar in Arabic. So it's a command. So may someone do
this as a command to them.
Leone FIP, to spend Leone federal Dusa those are the one who is
comfortable Minister it he from the comfort of his, of his of his
finances, Leone's took May the man who is comfortable spend from the
comfort of his wealth, meaning you are going to spend upon your wife,
not a specific amount, but a percentage that makes sense to
your comfort of wealth. This is what this is explaining. It's not
about a fixed amount. It's about how much money you have, and what
you're capable of providing for for the person in front of you and
for your child and for the person who's taking care of your child
while I'm at his school, but here it
is, it doesn't it's not from Bhadra is ability or potency.
Or it means to leave meaning when something is less than something
else when pudiera it hit is cool. And the one who is risk their
provision put it on it has been lessened for them. I guess not a
lot and this is an important word to understand because you'll find
it like in the Quran among a number of times if you don't
understand what it means you think it means potency or ability you'll
recite something and you will completely misunderstand it for
example in sort of your
family in Santa Clara Hora boo for caramba who when Amma who for your
food or be acraman Who Amma either maybe Taylor who Takada la here is
Coco. Takara, Ali risco. He lessened His provision for him.
Whether knowning is the hub of all lieben fell one I learned naka de
la Li. For now that I feel guru Murthy Allah, Allah Allah, Allah
Subhana Allah in the consuming of volume with a known mean the one
the the man of the whale, you speaking to him talking about Joe,
in our unit study, he said, is that have a move on even when he
went away in a state of anger for one and he thought a LAN naka de
la la he that we would not knock at the MIT he so if you understand
Nokia here as an ability, then diverse means and he thought that
Allah couldn't get him it's insane. He's a prophet of God. You
know, a customer wouldn't think that you know someone who's in we
should equip knows that Allah subhanaw taala is potent so you
can you can capture him anytime he wants for a prophet of God nothing
and there's no story here anymore Alia and Sophia would come to the
hospital OMA to the great scholar of our OMA ibis, at least some of
the low iron who came to him and said yeah dollars yo Mandela Quran
terlato Macnee Quran Millbury ha first epiphany is that oh
translator of the Quran for us the waves of the Quran smacked me
around last night I didn't know what to do. So I told them what is
it said i Although no you're an Allah lejana de la Li, you will
use the prophet of God thinks Allah can capture him, but God
have no Ibis had, you know how did He mean lamb you know, this is
from Kargil from from lessening something not from capturing or,
or having having sovereignty or ability over it. But when Allah
Nakamura Allah and he thought that he was not going to be punished
for it, he was not going to be listened to his his his love and
status was not going to be lessened because of the fact that
he left his people in a state of anger. But he left his people
without permission. Prophets aren't allowed to leave their
place. Allah sends them without permission. He left when Allah
told him that his people were going to be punished in three
days.
Cause punishment is coming like law police and I'm told his people
like, like, who told his people lixada Like, shall I? So he told
his people that you want to be punished, and he was so upset with
them. It's like any What idiots you are. I've been talking to you
for years, you had to bring upon yourself punishment. Oh, I'll take
him off. And he left. Like he like he was like, I can only look at
your faces anymore. Like, Well, why would you do this to yourself
to be left out of anger because they wouldn't respond to Allah
subhanaw taala but you had no right to leave. I didn't tell him
it's okay to leave.
So he was punished and he was engulfed by the whale. But because
of that Allah subhanaw taala extended the chance to his people
and for ourselves. And now who eats the elephant Oh big when he
was sent back to the 100,000 people of Muslims of Nainoa. And
they and they all repented in the end, they believed in money. So it
was them. So it works for everybody, but just wanted to give
out the concept of audio here. So women will go to law school, the
one who was raised their provision, our lesson for them is
not high, slower. value. In fact, may they spend me tell hula from
whatever it is Allah Subhana Allah gave them
now you can leave Allahu nevsun in. Allah does not hold you
accountable for more than what you are. You weren't given. You can't
give from what you were not given.
It sounds like so. Sounds like it's common. Sounds like it's
common sense, isn't it? Right? Yeah, it isn't. There's most
people don't have. You can't give from something you weren't given.
If you don't if you were not taught something. You can't teach
it.
If you don't know something, you can practice it. If you understand
something, you can talk about it.
Quite simple. If you know it, if you're taught it, if you
understand it, if you are educated about you can get from it. So
common sense. If everyone followed this rule in life, like 90% of
conversations wouldn't happen 99% of disagreements and arguments
wouldn't occur. If you don't know what you're talking about. Yeah.
Just
Just be quiet. You don't know you're talking about just be
quiet. Wallahi yesterday, like, the world would be much less noisy
pay at place. Like the noise levels in the world just come
down. You don't know you're talking about unit study this talk
about?
Someone seems to be barking that they know. Okay. I don't know
much. I think they're wrong. But I don't know anything about this.
I'll go find someone who does. You find someone who knows what
they're talking about? With a few words, they silenced the person
who's barking about somebody don't know what that we're done. We
don't need 50 people yelling, doesn't do anything. Islam, for
example, is not a topic of discussion. Right? This is for my
friends. It's not something to discuss. Islam is something for
you to learn. You're gonna come and learn it, you know, sit around
and discuss them. Discussions happens amongst happen among
scholars. You sit down, and they discuss because just like you
don't just sit down and discuss medicine. You don't discuss Islam,
either. Unless you are properly educated to sit down and discuss
the law. I don't talk about the legal issues. I don't know. I
don't know anything. What Who am I based on? What am I going to sit
down and talk about what is I don't know. I can have questions.
I can have any other pet peeves. But I don't have the ability to
discuss this because I don't know it.
Maybe Maybe if you don't come from an auto background. This sounds
weird to you. But let me speak about my auto people. I am a
physician and I am Isha like no brand. I sit within my family
gatherings. They talk about medicine and they don't go to
Islam. I am never involved in those conversations ever. They
talk about it. No one is interested in asking me anything.
Like they'll sit down with it. Take out all of their medicines.
Try this. Try this. Try this. Tonight. They're all doctors
except the actual doctor. And they're all humans except the
actual person who studied this. So I actually find it now amusing
used to bother me when I was younger. I love it. Now, I
actually say Please don't ask me. Go on. Where's the popcorn? Let's
enjoy. At least you know, make it fun. But there's this problem with
with we are where we want it. I don't know if it's a doozy.
Awesome. Or I don't know what it is. But people talk too much about
things they don't really understand. Whether it's politics,
whether it's the law, whether it's religion, whether it's medicine,
whether it's almost anything, look, learn things, educate
yourself appropriately, then go ahead and throw your hearts in the
in the arena and give your opinion on so but if you have not been
properly educated, yeah, don't throw find someone who knows what
they're talking about. And then, you know, refer to their opinion
on the matter, life would be much easier to live if that was the
case, much easier to live. Why now you can live Allahu nevsun Ilana,
you're only responsible in your life for that which Allah gave
you, give you from what you were given? Were you given this? No,
don't give because you don't have it to begin with. Talk to the
Shakila Jana, you don't have it. You can't give it maybe don't
don't talk to me Don't make things up as you go along. I sometimes
watch people make things up. Like they walk up in the machine to ask
me questions. And I ask them, you know, and they make something on
the spot. And I think it's amazing because now you can watch the the
swiftness of the human brain working quickly to have no debate.
It's something they're getting smarter, because they they know
now not to give silly numbers that are too brown give numbers that
are kind of broken, give like 76.3% It sounds more believable
than saying 80 or 90, right? And if they but then they just pull it
out of the pocket. There's no, you just made that up that they made
up, we became so good at this 90% of Facebook,
you'll find a study, a Western study or study from Harvard
miskeen Harvard will law he miskeen Harvard the number of
studies that Muslims have
decided that he has made that this version has made way more than the
papers that they've actually made. Every time someone wants to prove
something. There is a study from Harvard that just said where's the
study show me the study I dare you to show me the study or anything
close to it or any study from any anyone and it will cross the world
that talked about this never it just we we need a way to to make a
point you don't need to make it stand doesn't need that. By the
way. Islam does not need you to make false points to convince
people of anything. If you need to make false points to convince some
of the Hawk then it's not hot. It's not hot, or the way you
understand it is not. It couldn't be but you don't get it. Like you
don't get it. Yeah, it's helpful. You just don't understand it.
Well, if you need to make something up or lie or exaggerate.
Now to convince someone of something that is true that either
is not true or you don't understand it to be true. Like you
don't your comprehension of it is not truthful. It could be the
truth but you just understand it right? And that's important to
kind of comprehend here I know not much to do with this. But I find
this idea to be like so the Quran is filled with wisdom. It's filled
with wisdom after each time it gives us a very specific
jurisprudence ruling and gives us a little bit
Wisdom.
Now you can't live alone if son in law, you're only responsible,
you're only accountable, you're no camera for that which you are
given what and where you don't just do well with that hand, even
though it may not win a lot more than may not win as much as
someone else's hand will win. But did you do your best with your
hand, like if you play your pen to the best of your ability, tell us,
that's all you're ever asked to do. Yeah, that's all you're ever
asked to do, you're never asked to have the best hand, you're just
asked to do the best you can with what you were given. And if you're
able to add to that you're able, if you're able to be ambitious,
and move, uh, go ahead and do that. But don't make things up.
And don't try don't live outside of your means. And don't be more
than not act like you are more than what you are, we all have to
learn to be this. This comes from a simple the simple comprehension
of humbleness really are you just don't, don't. Don't try to be
don't try to impress why you try who you're trying to impress.
Let me tell you this, no one is impressed. No matter what you do,
no one is really impressed. You understand that people were
impressed by you are actually hoping that you follow some point.
impressed when you're impressed by someone, it's a reflex of weakness
most of the time, most of the time, not all the time, not all
the time, if the proper relationship is there of element,
Corbin Allah subhanaw taala properly, can be different. But
most of the time, it's a field of weakness, where you just you
couldn't beat them in the you tried every trick in the book that
you got, you couldn't you couldn't prove to yourself that you're
better. So you have to submit to the fact that you're they're
better than us. You don't want actually say that. So you're
you're impressed by them, but you're just hoping at some point
that they
they slip and fall so that you don't have to feel that way
anymore. So just stop, stop the whole thing. You just feel, look
at things differently. And if you if you stopped doing then you stop
trying to impress and try to be better and try to be ahead and try
to be more than you are you live a more healthy lifestyle you stop
like it's very tiring, very tiring, to always be comparing and
trying to it's not helpful. And then you actually have the mental
space and the mental clarity to look at someone who is who can
help you who can teach you can educate you can bring you closer
to Allah subhanaw taala and you can be impressed in a good way as
the Sahaba were impressed with the Prophet alayhi salatu salam not
like them when I 15 were impressed by the Prophet alayhi salatu salam
someone obviously they're impressed by him but not for the
right reason. They just couldn't beat him. So they but the Sahaba
who loved him know they they saw Him as their way to heaven. So
they wanted to be like him they want him to be for him to fall
would be a big problem for him not to do as well would hurt them
would make them sad. Locally Paula Hoon Epson Ilana sagia alula
biodiversity user when it comes to money Allah will make after every
difficulty there will be ease there's not a general law within
life right. Now. Every difficulty in life will be followed by an
ease unless you call death ease.
Then yes, sometimes some some difficulties are terminal. Some
difficulties are terminal gonna die at the end of it. So if you
call death ease, then yes, this like this law applies, but not
really, it's more attached to the concept of what you were given. If
you don't have a lot today. Allah will time. Life is a cycle. You
don't have a lot today a little bit more later. It doesn't stay
like that you don't. People who are functional, they don't stay
for all their lives, they get opportunities, they get things
change a little bit, they make money, it's their job to Allah Who
bothering you. So so good from what you got, this was the icing,
give from what you've got. If you have a lot to give from the alot
that you have. So give a lot because you have a lot. And if you
don't,
if you don't have a lot of provision, then give from that
which Allah gave you. You are not required to give from more than
what you have. Don't go take out loans. Like if there is what you
got, you get it. That's why another point for marriage here.
Financial compatibility, and marriage is important. It's very
important. Just like religious compatibility and social
compatibility, financial compatibility matters.
Actually within the books of Philip, it is one of the reasons
the lady can absolutely refuse her the person who's coming to us for
HANA and the father as well. If he cannot have her live at the same
standard the father is that he does not have the right to ask for
her hand.
We we like those movies where Johnny the poor guy asked for the
No, no, the poor guy shouldn't go ask for the lady who was living in
a castle because they don't tell us what happens after they get
married. They end the movie they're conveniently the end the
movie when they get married. Yeah, they go 15 years later, when she's
like took it up into Krakoa Kobe took off. Yeah, this is I am
living I believe in like a dog and my pet my dad would take care of
me there's a lady but she's fed up with him and his poverty and the
lack of the standard of living that you live in. Don't show us
that piece. Because it's not appropriate. If he is the
provider, then he has to provide for her a living that is standard,
the sharper image and the Hanafi madhhab. They specifically in
their books point out that if she had a maid he has to bring her a
maid by word like in the book by word. If she had a maid in her
house, he has to bring
Number One. And if you can't then go look for someone who has
financial, it's not people being better and lesser no issue of
compatibility, because it makes no sense. If she lived like this all
her life, why do you why are you okay to expect that she's going to
live much less than this for the rest of her life?
To think that love is enough, is, again, naive and dumb. And it's
not worth the argument. It's really not worth the conversation
outside of preschool and maybe any teenager groups, we're not going
to have that as as functioning adults. It's not enough. You need
to actually have some plan where she's going to live, or she's
living in a house where she has a little bit, but she's a minimalist
by nature. Like she's not living on much like cheat. Yeah, she's
living in a very lavish ship,
a very rich, home and a customer. She's not like she's a minimalist
person where she doesn't want that, well, she wants to live
simplistically, that's a different story. But if this is what she's
living, she's used to, then you have to make sure there's some
financial compatibility. That's why and the concept of nataka,
which is what I want to end with today, when he says, Do you want
to miss it? This verse, the scholars did not understand it
only for the concept of nataka during the Edda, even though
that's what obviously it's talking about, during the end of the
mandate responsible to take care of his wife, he has to put her in
a house similar to his he has to she has to live similar to what
she was living before, he has to take care of her financially,
clothe her, feed her and keep her safe. So he has to do during the
three months of the bed, and if she's pregnant until the end of
her pregnancy, he owes her that. But the concept of nataka and
Islam is also important to marriage. Now, to go back to the
default I talked to you about when we talked about the default being
the man is a provider, he his wealth, he makes it it goes to his
household to feed and clothe and put a roof on their house and take
care of their needs. And the wife takes care of the household. But
what about the wife herself, she gets something called enough aka
Islamically speaking, she gets enough AKA, which is around
roughly 10% of what the man makes roughly 10%, a little bit less a
bit more depending on the norm of the time, that wealth is not for
her food, or her clothing. No, that is just extra wealth that
goes to her pocket, so that she builds wealth. Now, if you come
from a traditional Muslim background, go ask your mother
father or your mother about this, they will tell you, the Sheikh
will tell you this idiot, we've never heard this in all our lives,
we've been out living happy for 50 years, it's never been the case.
And because people were living so poorly in the in the middle of the
last century, meaning the 50s and 60s and 70s and 80s and got
married, they are bores, they are both dirt poor, they had nothing.
So they built from the ground up, and all the money was put in one
place. And everyone pulled out the money and felt me now just fine.
The problem with that system. The problem with it, is that what
happens if a divorce occurs, and she's been not home taking care of
the kids all this time, and he's been making wealth. And there's
actually more wealth now than there was before. What does she
get? Aside from her mom out of them out? When it comes to his
mom, by the way, he's not even Jonnie an authentic Islamic idea.
Muhammad is one thing, here's them out, because people were poor,
it's like, okay, you can't pay it all up once here, pay half of it
upfront, pay the next half throughout your life, you owe it
if you if you die, it's a Dane. And if you divorce you owe it to
her at the end of the settlements, you owe it. Mostly there's no
money there. And he wants them out of Mosa go go back if you're if
you're my age, ask what your mother's mother was like what I
don't know, a feather. And I just thought there's something
something, something has no Well, yeah, nothing at all. So it's very
simple. So when she gets divorced or something, hello, then what
happens? She ends up with nothing. Now the reason she's ending up
with nothing is because the father, the husband never gave her
enough AKA, because the wife is like I don't need to have a call
we're happy and Hamdulillah I don't want to I'm where you know,
you have to have, if you're not going to take the Nevada then that
has to be something that's understood is going to be
calculated at the end of the marriage. So what the Canadian law
does, or the American law does here on either the Western law in
terms of divorce, where they they break it down into 5050. It's not
that off of what Islamic law is, it's not that off. It's better
than nothing. But it's not fair either. 50% is obviously a little
bit too much. But But at first to be nothing is I've no 50 is better
than zero, because at least you're not there's actually occurring
here, but there Islamic way is for there to be enough in Africa
roughly is 10% of what he makes. So if he makes 100,000 10,000 goes
to her and that 90,000 Not his that 90,000 is for the mortgage,
and the clothing and the food and the trips and all that stuff and
whatever, whatever extra ends up in his pocket, which is usually
nothing, which is usually almost nothing the man, you'll end up
with nothing. And that's just the normal of things. Unless you're a
big earner, you're earning a lot, you're
gonna make a lot of money. That's a different story. But for the
majority of us, there's not much is going to be left. But that NEFA
is like is a is for her. I mean, how was he going to live if he
ends up being divorced? Because if we don't make it if he doesn't get
enough, okay, then what happens is that his her marriage to him
becomes a leverage chip in his hand. He has a chip to bargain
with now that you have nothing. You've been married to me for 15
years you have three kids that need you. You have no skills you
have been working for all these years. You have no money. I have
all of it. So now
Now you need me. And because you need me now I will mistreat you.
And that's not how it's supposed to be. That's not how we're
supposed to be styling it. There's enough AKA, there's another car
that he owes her if she's not working, she's not making her own
money, even if she is, by the way, like even if she's working, right,
and the money that she makes is hers. And the money that he makes
us for the house, and she's taking care of the household with her
work with her own physical presence. And with her wealth, He
still owes her enough AKA, and that's a part of Islamic law. This
is not a disputable part of Islamic law where different metabo
different opinions No, no, it is a fully agreed upon. It's just
people don't do it. Because they were too poor. Like the guy was
making barely enough money to feed him her and keep a roof over their
heads. There was no there was no space for enough aka like, you
can't have enough. If the amount of money the man is making is not
meeting basic needs. Right? If the amount the man is making is not
meeting basic needs, then there's no place for enough aka obviously
because they're not me. But once they have more than their basic
needs, then the network was a part of this agreement. If he's going
to forfeit her enough, that she has to have, she has to be someone
of wealth or she's working herself meaning a will ad can afford to
fit her enough aka she's I don't want enough aka from you because
she has her own wealth or she's working. But if he's not,
what should happen at the end, if there's a divorce that occurs is
that it should be calculated. And it should be removed from his
wealth and given to her so for example, they divorced less I'm
Hala. And he owes her maybe $2,000 from them all of them or they give
her that $2,000. But he cheated. She didn't work all throughout her
marriage. And he didn't give her enough. Ah, it's not that hard.
How long we made for 15 years. All right, what was how do you make
How much are you making the first year? I made 65,000? All right.
What's 10% of that seven, you calculate. And you give her that
wealth, in my opinion is more fair than nothing. And it's more fair
than, you know, dividing 50% of the wealth, especially if he's a
bigger like people who are men who are making the hundreds of
millions of dollars, we have to be reasonable with what it is that
people are getting, they should still a percentage wise, but Islam
doesn't seem to be zero, as many of our marriages end these days,
which is why a lot of women like I don't want an Islamic end of my
marriage. But the reason that they say that is because the Nevada is
not being talked about, because we're not discussing this piece at
the beginning that she Oh is old enough, aka, if she forfeits it,
that's her choice. But she has to be very, she has to verbally for
finish, it has to have some other way of making her own wealth, or
he has to be so poor, that there's nothing, you're not making
anything and in addition to what's covering their basic needs. But if
they're covering their basic needs, she is old enough. And
that's why I want to end with that peace in Charlottetown in terms of
understanding the rest of the verses and philosophers will
recite Charlottetown and next week, we're are very spiritual.
And the reason that they're spiritual and they're filled with
warnings is because of the norm of the time, meaning the verses or
the Afghan the rulings that you listen to me talk about within
this sort of up till this moment, you don't, you're not able to
actually appreciate them, unless I explain to you what the norm of
the time what they were revealed was. So when I explained to you
next time, the norm of the time, and then that these rulings did,
you'll understand why these verses are like you either follow this or
you're going to be you're going to be punished. Because that's not
how the the norm was the norm was not women did not get any of the
rights that were explained in sort of philosophy at all. So if you
look at to the prophets in the sutras in terms of the theme, the
theme, it could be marriage or it could be the rights of women in
Islam, which is why I think is probably even a better a better
way to put it all in with that insurance. Michael panics will let
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