Adnan Rajeh – Issues of Marriage 10

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The speaker discusses reasons why men will pursue a woman in marriage, including her wealth, beauty, and religious status. They also mention that men will not look for a woman who has a chastity or ifa, because these are just general ways of saying she is. The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding the meaning behind certain phrases and using it to determine the best reasons for pursuing a woman in marriage.

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			There are four reasons for why men will
		
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			marry another marry a woman.
		
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			He is stating
		
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			that these are four valid reasons.
		
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			He is stating that these reasons these are
		
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			the reasons that why a man will pursue
		
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			a lady in marriage. He just at the
		
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			end of it tells us which is the
		
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			best reason.
		
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			The one that you should for sure look
		
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			for. But the rest are still reasons.
		
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			The rest of these, the rest of the
		
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			other three are still reasons that men will
		
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			pursue marriage when they look to get married.
		
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			So the first one,
		
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			if she is wealthy, she has wealth.
		
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			If she has comes from good family, good
		
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			lineage or she is Sharifa from a great
		
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			family,
		
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			great background.
		
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			Jamariya,
		
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			if she's beautiful. Walidiniyah, and there were diniya,
		
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			not really, Yani, what religion she is, it's
		
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			more her character.
		
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			This is important,
		
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			As I narrated at the beginning of this
		
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			series, the Prophet said,
		
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			Someone comes to you and you accept their,
		
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			you know, their deen and their huluq. And
		
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			this is basically the prophet alaihis
		
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			salam putting together putting together something. He's packaging
		
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			a person's character or ethics or the way
		
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			that
		
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			they
		
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			live. So, with idiniha,
		
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			he's referring to alaihis salam her character,
		
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			to what degree she is religious and how
		
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			her religion actually presents itself.
		
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			So these are all reasons that men will
		
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			pursue
		
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			marriage.
		
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			Now, the scholars
		
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			have said that
		
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			this is not talking about her ifa and
		
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			puhara.
		
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			That is understood, it's implied.
		
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			Meaning the fact that she has chastity
		
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			is not talked about here because that's implied.
		
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			Because a man who is a Muslim man
		
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			will not look for someone who does not
		
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			have chastity. Like he will not go beyond
		
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			behind for marriage, a woman that does not
		
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			have ifa and puharaba.
		
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			That makes sense? So, he's not talking about
		
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			it here because
		
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			that's understood.
		
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			Of course, if you're a man, you're looking
		
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			for marriage, that's what you're going to look
		
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			for. But after you filter that first piece
		
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			where she is,
		
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			she is someone who has her chastity,
		
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			she has a respect of her hayah and
		
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			her ifa,
		
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			these concepts, the Islamic concepts of preserving yourself
		
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			from haram or from faisha,
		
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			then these are the reasons either you're looking
		
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			her advantage is that she's wealthy or that
		
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			she comes from a great family background or
		
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			she is gorgeous and beautiful and you love
		
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			the way she looks, or she is religious,
		
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			I mean she has the proper understanding of
		
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			her dealings to practice it. So he said,
		
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			is when you win something.
		
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			It's like when you * something for the
		
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			win. It's like we're all running after something
		
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			and whoever gets there first snatches it and
		
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			they won they won.
		
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			There's not a second prize, it's the only
		
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			prize. So is basically going for the win.
		
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			The one that has
		
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			better character,
		
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			better deen.
		
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			This is the dua that exists in Arabic.
		
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			So, okay. So this is what it means,
		
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			but this is not what he meant
		
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			It's important to understand that these are phrases
		
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			that are used in Arabic that are used
		
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			even till this day like
		
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			What it means is may
		
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			you die and your mother mourn you. That's
		
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			what it means. Nobody says that to the
		
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			other person hoping that happens, but it's just
		
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			a it's a phrase saying
		
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			that
		
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			Turn your brain on. Act according, act appropriately.
		
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			It's just a way of sweet. So
		
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			meaning is from is from is from your
		
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			hands. So may you become so poor if
		
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			you don't do this, if you don't do
		
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			the right thing, may you become so poor
		
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			that your hand are stuck to the soil.
		
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			The only thing you can eat and you
		
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			can pick up is the soil of the
		
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			earth. You're so poor. Right? So it's not
		
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			a dua against the person. It's just a
		
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			way to say, this is a big deal,
		
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			turn your brain on, act accordingly.
		
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			So again, it's understanding sometimes the phrases that
		
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			that the Arab use.
		
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			He
		
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			will he will use the phrases of his
		
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			people that people understood. So this is a
		
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			big deal because people read for example, a
		
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			hadith and they read the translation like, What?
		
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			Why is he saying this? Again,
		
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			you need context. You need to understand
		
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			why, how people spoke back then. He spoke
		
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			like people spoke and they understood him.
		
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			So this is an advice to us alaihis
		
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			salaam
		
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			That when you're looking to get married, you
		
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			will choose based on one of these things.
		
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			If you want to be wealthy,
		
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			actually have wealth in your life.
		
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			When the one who understands your religion,
		
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			who
		
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			attends to it or adheres to it and
		
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			has the proper character.
		
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			You will have other reasons to get married
		
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			and some people that's fine. But this is
		
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			the best one. This is the best one
		
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			to do. Understanding before that that chastity and
		
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			and if it's already been established,
		
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			it's already there. You're not going to look
		
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			for someone who doesn't have that, obviously. It's
		
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			not worth pursuing marriage with someone like that.
		
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			But after you do that, there's different reasons.
		
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			The best one is the one that has
		
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			the best character in it. I think that's
		
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			a worthy,
		
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			piece of advice that's worthy for all of
		
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			us to,
		
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			to follow.