Adnan Rajeh – Issues of Marriage 10
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The speaker discusses reasons why men will pursue a woman in marriage, including her wealth, beauty, and religious status. They also mention that men will not look for a woman who has a chastity or ifa, because these are just general ways of saying she is. The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding the meaning behind certain phrases and using it to determine the best reasons for pursuing a woman in marriage.
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There are four reasons for why men will
marry another marry a woman.
He is stating
that these are four valid reasons.
He is stating that these reasons these are
the reasons that why a man will pursue
a lady in marriage. He just at the
end of it tells us which is the
best reason.
The one that you should for sure look
for. But the rest are still reasons.
The rest of these, the rest of the
other three are still reasons that men will
pursue marriage when they look to get married.
So the first one,
if she is wealthy, she has wealth.
If she has comes from good family, good
lineage or she is Sharifa from a great
family,
great background.
Jamariya,
if she's beautiful. Walidiniyah, and there were diniya,
not really, Yani, what religion she is, it's
more her character.
This is important,
As I narrated at the beginning of this
series, the Prophet said,
Someone comes to you and you accept their,
you know, their deen and their huluq. And
this is basically the prophet alaihis
salam putting together putting together something. He's packaging
a person's character or ethics or the way
that
they
live. So, with idiniha,
he's referring to alaihis salam her character,
to what degree she is religious and how
her religion actually presents itself.
So these are all reasons that men will
pursue
marriage.
Now, the scholars
have said that
this is not talking about her ifa and
puhara.
That is understood, it's implied.
Meaning the fact that she has chastity
is not talked about here because that's implied.
Because a man who is a Muslim man
will not look for someone who does not
have chastity. Like he will not go beyond
behind for marriage, a woman that does not
have ifa and puharaba.
That makes sense? So, he's not talking about
it here because
that's understood.
Of course, if you're a man, you're looking
for marriage, that's what you're going to look
for. But after you filter that first piece
where she is,
she is someone who has her chastity,
she has a respect of her hayah and
her ifa,
these concepts, the Islamic concepts of preserving yourself
from haram or from faisha,
then these are the reasons either you're looking
her advantage is that she's wealthy or that
she comes from a great family background or
she is gorgeous and beautiful and you love
the way she looks, or she is religious,
I mean she has the proper understanding of
her dealings to practice it. So he said,
is when you win something.
It's like when you * something for the
win. It's like we're all running after something
and whoever gets there first snatches it and
they won they won.
There's not a second prize, it's the only
prize. So is basically going for the win.
The one that has
better character,
better deen.
This is the dua that exists in Arabic.
So, okay. So this is what it means,
but this is not what he meant
It's important to understand that these are phrases
that are used in Arabic that are used
even till this day like
What it means is may
you die and your mother mourn you. That's
what it means. Nobody says that to the
other person hoping that happens, but it's just
a it's a phrase saying
that
Turn your brain on. Act according, act appropriately.
It's just a way of sweet. So
meaning is from is from is from your
hands. So may you become so poor if
you don't do this, if you don't do
the right thing, may you become so poor
that your hand are stuck to the soil.
The only thing you can eat and you
can pick up is the soil of the
earth. You're so poor. Right? So it's not
a dua against the person. It's just a
way to say, this is a big deal,
turn your brain on, act accordingly.
So again, it's understanding sometimes the phrases that
that the Arab use.
He
will he will use the phrases of his
people that people understood. So this is a
big deal because people read for example, a
hadith and they read the translation like, What?
Why is he saying this? Again,
you need context. You need to understand
why, how people spoke back then. He spoke
like people spoke and they understood him.
So this is an advice to us alaihis
salaam
That when you're looking to get married, you
will choose based on one of these things.
If you want to be wealthy,
actually have wealth in your life.
When the one who understands your religion,
who
attends to it or adheres to it and
has the proper character.
You will have other reasons to get married
and some people that's fine. But this is
the best one. This is the best one
to do. Understanding before that that chastity and
and if it's already been established,
it's already there. You're not going to look
for someone who doesn't have that, obviously. It's
not worth pursuing marriage with someone like that.
But after you do that, there's different reasons.
The best one is the one that has
the best character in it. I think that's
a worthy,
piece of advice that's worthy for all of
us to,
to follow.