Adnan Rajeh – Patience and Self-Control 4

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The transcript describes a hadith that emphasizes patience and self-control, as well as the concept of morality. The transcript uses a hypothetical scenario where someone is selling something and is asked for
the rights of the person who bought it. The transcript also uses a hypothetical situation where someone is being
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			Ya rabbi al-imam al-tirmidhi fi jami
		
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			'i bi-sanadin al-sahih An-Jabir ibn
		
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			Abdillahi radiyallahu anhu qal Qal al-nabiyyu salallahu
		
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			alayhi wa sallam The hadith tonight, a collection
		
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			of Imam al-Tirmidhi in his jami'a
		
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			with an authentic chain narration narrated to us
		
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			by Jabir ibn Abdillah This is the final
		
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			hadith within the short series of a hadith
		
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			that talks about patience and self-control which
		
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			we need more of, inshallah, in this community
		
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			in general, in almost every setting And just
		
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			to point out, I think I narrated I
		
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			made a few mistakes in the hadith that
		
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			I narrated before So I think the one
		
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			I narrated on Friday I said it was
		
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			narrated by Abdillah ibn Mas'ud It was
		
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			narrated by Abdillah ibn Sarjas al-Muzani radiyallahu
		
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			anhu, so that was a mistake And then
		
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			the initial hadith that I narrated on Tuesday
		
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			laysa al-shadidu bil-sura'a I said
		
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			bil-sara'a Now the difference between the
		
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			two words is just the derivative So al
		
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			-sara'a is the action of wrestling and
		
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			al-sura'a is the person who beats
		
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			in wrestling So the meaning is the same
		
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			But I didn't find an actual narration I
		
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			think Abu Bilal pointed out to me I
		
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			didn't find a narration that actually had the
		
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			one that I used So I corrected it
		
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			So I may delete this whole series and
		
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			repeat it in a couple of months since
		
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			it seemed to have provoked a lot of
		
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			questions and it was requested that I repeat
		
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			it as many times as possible So I
		
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			will, inshallah, in a couple of months maybe
		
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			talk about it again But the hadith tonight,
		
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			the Prophet says rahimallahum ra'an samhan idha
		
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			ba'a samhan idha shtara samhan idha qtada
		
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			It means Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A
		
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			'la have mercy and show His compassion to
		
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			someone who is samha samaha is the action
		
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			of being easy going is the concept of
		
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			not being caught up on details of forgiving
		
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			of letting things go slide stuff that don't
		
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			matter stuff that don't necessarily have to become
		
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			a big deal you can just let it
		
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			go just let it slide and not make
		
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			a big fuss about it and that's what
		
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			samaha means samaha wa laa tarju samaha min
		
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			bakheerin fa maa finnaari lidh wa maa lima
		
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			'u as Imam Al-Shafi'i would say
		
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			and don't hope for samaha from someone who
		
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			is stingy or someone who is bakheer who
		
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			finds it difficult to give whether it's from
		
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			their wealth or from their compassion or from
		
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			their love or from anything don't hope to
		
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			find samaha from them and samaha has the
		
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			concept of generosity in it but really it's
		
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			not generosity of wealth it's generosity of ethic
		
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			of character where you don't get caught up
		
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			on you let things slide if someone says
		
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			something in a way that's not the nicest
		
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			or behaves in a way that's not the
		
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			kindest you let it go you find an
		
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			udr for them you think of an excuse
		
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			of why they may be like that today
		
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			so the Prophet says that there are three
		
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			moments where samaha is really beautiful rahimallahu rajulan
		
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			samhan idha ba'a he is easy he
		
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			is open when he is buying things in
		
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			a transaction of buying because in the transaction
		
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			of in a samhan idha shara' when you're
		
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			selling or you're buying those two specifically because
		
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			in the world of business I don't think
		
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			are there ethics left in the world of
		
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			business?
		
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			I don't know I don't think there are
		
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			like I honestly don't think that that ethics
		
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			actually carry any space in the world of
		
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			business and transactions anymore aside from what is
		
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			legal aside from what the law forces you
		
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			to hold to and aside from that no
		
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			it's an eat or be eaten type of
		
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			mentality and you can't imagine that there's a
		
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			discipline or there's a way an aspect of
		
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			life that is that big and that dominant
		
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			and prominent which is selling and buying which
		
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			is the world of trade and there's no
		
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			ethics in it and there's no samaha there's
		
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			no ease there's no ease when you're selling
		
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			and ease when you're buying to make it
		
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			samhan idha qtada easy and generous when they
		
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			are trying to get their rights when there's
		
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			qaba'a when someone is accusing them of
		
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			something or someone is demanding a right from
		
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			them or they are demanding a right from
		
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			someone else because those are the moments where
		
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			people get the most they become the most
		
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			vicious that viciousness that can come out of
		
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			us when we are buying or selling or
		
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			asking for our rights and I'm not talking
		
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			about asking for rights in the form of
		
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			war or you're being oppressed by a different
		
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			nation I'm talking about day to day transactions
		
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			when you're living within a Muslim community people
		
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			that are your brothers and sisters and we
		
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			need samaha we need those who are that
		
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			have that patience and they'll let things go
		
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			and they will offer the ease that is
		
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			needed to allow life to continue to move
		
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			forward this is how he was and this
		
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			is what he taught the sahaba to be
		
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			like and the more I watch people I
		
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			find that this is not there that patience
		
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			that is required and that ease and that
		
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			openness and generosity of the heart that should
		
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			exist when you're engaging in a transaction of
		
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			any sort buying or selling or you're claiming
		
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			a right asking for something that is yours
		
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			have that samaha have that generosity that is
		
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			done with the proper ethic because you can't
		
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			the reason he's saying this is because it's
		
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			not it's not unreasonable for you to be
		
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			upset or for you to have your guard
		
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			up or for you to be vicious when
		
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			you're buying, selling for you to be thinking
		
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			that this person tried to rip me off
		
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			or thinking this person tried to take and
		
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			getting upset allowing that to upset you and
		
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			allowing that to make you behave and speak
		
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			and do things in a way that you
		
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			wouldn't do have samaha don't be a doormat
		
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			not one of these hadith that I've explained
		
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			to you am I saying that you should
		
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			allow people to walk all over you and
		
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			take your rights but can you claim that
		
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			which is yours and can you you do
		
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			it with samaha and with ta'uda and
		
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			with samt hasan and with sabr with hilm
		
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			with ana can we do this with the
		
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			ethics of the Prophet's character with patience and
		
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			with openness and generousness and generosity and that's
		
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			what he taught us