Adnan Rajeh – Achieve the Balance Between Leadership and Abuse of Power
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The speakers discuss the responsibility of women, caregivers, leaders, and individuals to take care of loved ones' well-being, including domestic violence and domestic abuse. They emphasize the importance of respecting privacy and privacy concerns and bringing people who are qualified to fix problems. The speakers also emphasize the need for effective communication and engagement to prevent negative consequences and address privacy concerns. Additionally, they mention a video where a man named Mr. Weaver talks about his success in meeting God and his struggles with alcohol and drugs.
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the Hotbird. Today, it's actually a hotbed that's going to be given or has been given all across the city and all major centers is something that was organized by the Council of Imams,
and is going to address the current the issue or the problem of domestic violence. And within the series of what was that I started a number of weeks ago, maybe actually two months ago now a little bit more is the 16. Kottbusser is more than that.
The series that I began is the goal of it is to achieve the balance. And honestly it's a little bit of a
trick series because I can fit anything into this. You can I can I can ask you give me the topic and I'll fit it into the series no problem at all. Every aspect of Islamic law, every aspect of Islamic practice is subject to the concept of achieving the balance of achieving the concept of moderation or Martin vasa. Everything in his time is subject to that nothing in his time is actually outside of that scope.
The concept today I think, is best addressed to the following form at least here's how I'm going to address it. Allah Subhana Allah to Allah and sort of the Nyssa and in many other parts of the Quran and throat the Prophet, the prophetic tradition, tradition that we have meaning the wording and things of the prophets of Allah Allah Islam us
LM Regina a woman men are responsible Allameh the concept of Kawana is the fact that you are put in charge. You are responsible, you're the caregiver, you're accountable for the family that Allah subhanaw taala has entrusted you with. That's the concept of Allama within the Quran, and this is not debatable. This is how the deen works. This is a part of Islam. This is what the Prophet alayhi salatu salam preached, this is more importantly, what he practiced Ali Asad twisted him. And this is what Allah subhanho wa Taala has made very clear in the Quran, as a man, you're responsible, you're accountable, and you use the word a one and it comes from the concept of a museum, a car masala,
what kind of solar mean? You establish something you do it well, you feel you understand that you're accountable for it, that you're responsible for it, it's not just you do it and you walk away, you expect things just to fall in their places on their own, someone else would be taking care of that? No, you are, you're the one who's responsible to make sure everything actually falls into places.
That's where the Prophet alayhi salatu salam and the very famous Hadith that everyone here is very much aware of and knows and memorize as a child, go look Amala and he will say Alia Sato something to say, Hey, call Luke O'Brien were called Local Misool.
You stick to that first, just those four first four words and you'll understand the depth of this hadith you are all RWA ally in Arabic is not really a shepherd even though that's how we use what we use it for. Because it's just became it became the use the most common usage of the word. But that's not the actual meaning of it, the meaning of his caregiver, right is a caregiver a sponsor. That's what it means go look, I'm Ron, you're all caregivers, well could look homeschooled, and you're all responsible, or you're all going to be accountable for those who are put with interest you're entrusted with, to care for and take care of.
And the Hadith actually, just to make this and hopefully easier for me, the Hadith actually addresses this topic specifically, we're gonna look at you are all responsible for those who you're entrusted to take care of. And then he gives the example for Roger, Lulu, and Lily, almost a Yeti.
Yeti until the end of the Hadith, and Amanda is responsible within his family and responsible for their well being, He is their caregiver, the moment you get married, your life is significantly less valuable than the people in your home. You don't like it, don't get married. That's your problem. But if you're a man, man, and you're gonna get married, that is the agreement that you're walking into. Now, they're more important, now you're tying your wealth, your energy is deserved them is to take care of them. That's why you're a man. That's why That's why you're overwhelmed. That's the point of it. And the lady is also right, she is responsible for
for other parts of the of this of this equation. That goes without too much. I don't need to spend too much time talking about that piece. The fact that a man is a worm, the fact that the man is responsible is accountable. He's the caregiver.
The problem with this concept, and this is a problem that's not just specific to domestic violence. This is a problem that I find all across the board in general, outside of the dean, it's just a problem that we have, where we confuse responsibility and leadership. With control. We can't seem to understand that they're not always if you own a company, it's your company, then yes, you control it, it's your company, you own it. You don't own the people who live in your home, you don't own your wife, you don't own your children. You don't own the people who work under you at your school or whatever educational institution you work at. You don't own the people who you're put as a
manager of within the company that you work, you don't own the staff as a physician working in a clinic, you don't own them. It is not yours. You are responsible for them. Yes, you are in charge, you are the leader. But leadership does not mean ownership and does not mean control. And I've spent so much time of my life talking about this, that I'm tired of it. I'm tired of talking about it. I don't know if we're ever going to come to the point where we fully understand that they're not the same thing. The one who controls is Allah subhanaw taala he controls, he controls everything. He is the one with the kept very gentle, gentle, gentle Hazel Kahal he coerces everything to his will
however he wants, whenever he wants some I know data why? Because he is God. You and I are servants. We are not. We are not in control of other people we are there as caregivers and caregiving without control is actually the conundrum that if you don't understand you understand what it means to be a human being, which is one of the which was supposed to be the final hope of that I gave him the series. By the way, if you're gonna understand stewardship is to love and or booty or service, if you can understand them together, no one without the other than you can be a Muslim. And if you don't understand them together, then you will always fail. It's just a matter of how you're going to
fail. If you're just a servant, and you don't feel responsible, you're not a caregiver, then you're weak, and you're not actually making things happen, and everything will crumble around you. And if you're in McDonald's, if you feel responsible if you feel that you're a believer, if you're a steward, but you don't understand that you're there to serve you become a control freak. And all that you care about is everyone doing exactly what you want and you struggle as well and you ruin things anyways.
This is the balance that we have to learn to achieve here. And the reason that
there's hope. And he needs to be given across the city is because for us people who sit in my session, and whether we like it or not whether we are qualified or not, for that matter, and I'm not qualified, so please don't come to me with your marriage problems. I am not qualified by any means by any stretch of the imagination to give you ever any form of advice on what to do with your marriage at all. I am not qualified at all. You need to go to people who are but what, regardless whether we are or we were not, people come and say things to us, and I have to listen. And the prevalence of domestic abuse and domestic violence in homes has in my just in my 10 years of being
here has skyrocketed, meaning I hear more of it every day. And I have to deal with more of it every single day. I didn't I didn't see maybe I wasn't, maybe not as many people came to me at the beginning. So I may be wrong with giving this statistic. But that's what I felt over the last number of years, there has been a change in the prevalence, the frequency of these problems coming coming to light, which is why I think this clip was actually very, very important that we talked about.
I don't think men is just taught being a one moon No, because that's a Quranic concept. You have to be alone. You have to raise your male children to understand the kalam you're responsible. You're a caregiver, you're accountable, you have to be a leader. But you also have to explain that doesn't mean the following. It doesn't mean that you control it doesn't mean that you're allowed to abuse your power or abuse. Whatever power differential exists in your life. You're not allowed to do that piece that piece. You're actually which is the whole point of us talking about this 2018 Hopefully I'm hooked by Murphy Medina to London kulula M. Murphy Jamia and masajid Celeborn I must admit in
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is shed the light a little bit on how maybe this has been misunderstood and mis practiced by Muslims over the years. Let's take a look at the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam for a moment. The Crusader actually the hadith is generated in the collection of old old Barlet Merle barraba Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa early he was a llama che and Brd he cooked lamb Ratan wala heard him and he learned Yuja he the visa vie de la brava Allah he says I've never ever in his life ever raised his hand and hit anyone, anyone at all. Not a woman, not a child, not a serpent no one except if he is standing in battle and he's fighting his enemy. Otherwise his head never was risen and hit any
banana. Anyone at all. So Allahu Allahu alayhi salatu salam, his sunnah Farah
Lee I mean, what he does in his life audio is much more important and it's much more descriptive than anything you will hear he's him say Alia salatu salam, this is the reality of how he lived. He would say Alia salatu salam, Hadith Imam Timothy and it's also so how Eurocom how you will commonly Ali, he went to hydrocone Ali, the best of you are the best of you towards their families. Actually, he is not his parents.
I held us in Arabic does not mean your parents. Those are why the deen is your wife, specifically your wife and anyone who's descended from your wife. That's what the word means. Go to any part of the Arabic world, especially in the college and say they understand what you're talking about their wives, you're not talking about their parents. So this hadith is specifically talking but the best of you or the best of you towards your spouse is and I am the best of you towards mine. So Allah Allah Samuel Selim as I would explain, guide me and at early he was like when I know who you are Kurosu Delgado you haven't seen it was all about yellow car with elbow alley. It's awesome
throughout the time that he was not in domestic teaching or out there struggling or striving for the sake of Allah. He was in his house, he was cleaning his home. He was sewing any any, any openings in his in his in his clothing. He was fixing shoes, he would take care of his family on a hillside to us and this is how he lived his life. He passed away out of here salatu salam. And the last thing that we have recorded is the last thing we have recorded in the collection over there as well and this has been measured and others. The last thing we had him say this is not the hazratullah even though in these Farewell Sermon, he said it too. He said it in the Farewell Sermon as well. When he
spoke to 100,000 people he got on the member and he's talked about this concept as well. But he said it again meaning three days before he passed away, he was too tired and too sick to actually get the action carried him and put him on the member. So he could say a few words in amongst the things he said but it is still so Ben Nisa Hira that's in the for him by the way that those two wordings specifically from that hold above the rest are have less authenticity. But still Zubin. Nisa is clever, meaning my final request to you, my will see you. I'm going to be quizzed something I want you to do something I'm not leaving money. I'm not talking about the distribution of wealth. What I
have to leave with you is that treat your women and the women in your life to the best of your abilities call you with the best that you've got. What's the best that you have? Treat them with the best you have? And then he was explaining the Farewell Sermon, you would actually go beyond that. The thought of no no I won in the calm ladies that am lacuna. This is what he said Lisa totally cool. I mean when she and hyaluronic hears the words he used to hear Serato so they are there they stand by you. They support you they aid you. You will own nothing of them aside from that that's what he said lady said to me, can you own nothing? You don't own them? They're not yours. They're
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in number two Munna became became Atilla was deathly ill tomorrow, Johanna the Adela. You have taken them into your lives with the Word of God. And they are now you're highlighted with the covenant of God,
your wife in your house. The only reason you have access to this person is because Allah subhanaw taala through Allah's word and through Allah's covenant, and you're going to be accountable to his word and to His covenant SubhanaHu wa Tada Wow, she wouldn't have been my roof. Wow, she wouldn't build a model for inquiry to Munna fossa and Takara. Who che wager Allah Allah Who fee hailing cathedra and treat them with my roof. Treat them with the best of behavior that you have. And if you dislike them, if you're married to someone who you don't like them. Well, you know, the verses that come after that we use it all the time, but never for marriage. Oh, god forbid we ever use it for
marriage. God forbid a man come and says I don't like my wife. And we'll be willing for him to use that idea for marriage where it was actually used. No, no, no, he'll use it for something else. Use it for nothing. But now for his marriage for his marriage. No, no, I have no, it's very weird. This IFRS and Tuckahoe che You may hate something. But Allah put a lot of hate in it. We'll use it for everything but not for marriage, where it was actually used to begin with.
Men come to me so I don't like my wife. I don't care. I don't love her don't care either. We don't get along. Doesn't matter. We don't have the same I love that piece where we don't. We don't connect physically. Philosophically. What are you talking about? What is this? You don't connect? What do you tell? What is it you don't connect?
What you need, you're just looking for a way out.
You're looking for a way out at least be honest about it. At least we know she's your wife, keys your wife. Allah has covenants and put her in your house, take care of her, suck it up and take care of her. And if you decide to be abusive, it's done allows zero abuse in this world zero. If you abuse somebody you go to jail. If a lady goes to A to A to an Islamic judge in shows any sign of being physically harmed, the man goes to jail. When you read the verses of the Quran that talk that have a part of it. That's what this is talking about.
something very specific. The context here is for most people completely lost. It is not a green card to beat on somebody at all never has been and never will be. This is talking about the final way to hold on to a marriage that is falling to pieces because of lack of loyalty.
When there's no shoes, when there's lack of loyalty, you do whatever you give the best piece of advice you can with the most tenderly doesn't work, then you leave you leave the room. And then if not, then felt the evil one. And when you use the word in the Quran, how did how did you buy some practice this will have to be ethical dilemmas and he took a few pieces of grass, the Prophet said with his luck with the miswak it's a top it's a reminder that this we're going to end the marriage, the measure will end do you want it to end because you're not allowed as a man to abuse verbally, if you look at the verses, whereas it allowed for you to raise your voice on your wife, or to mistreat
her to call her names or to call her family names to say things that are demeaning, Nowhere. Nowhere you say a lot, which is the nicest and easiest. What I'm doing right now is not my way. I'm being way too aggressive for this to be more or less easy. It's simple, it's open hearted, and if you can't get it done that way you close your mouth. You don't say anything else.
We have a lack of understanding of what Allah subhanaw taala actually is asking us to do. Hola. Hola. Hi, that was toasted. Hola. Hi, Lea welcome. First of all, we have para la comida Fosun mustafina stockfeed Omar.
Alhamdulillah wa sallahu wa salam, O Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah de vida, while early he was so happy he or Manitoba home? Well, if I had
one of my teachers once was sitting, and a student of his I was doing I was reciting the Quran, a student of him should really be a little humble. He came by him and just to complain to his chair about his wife. He was maybe a year into his marriage was complaining to him and complaining about problems and this and that. So they asked him a question. I'll never forget this because I was young at the time. He said, Yeah, if we learn, does she say La Ilaha illa Allah, Muhammad Rasool Allah, did she say that, but
he said, he said something worse than that, get lost, get up, get up and go home and go figure it out with your wife. She says that, you know, while you're lucky, you have someone in your house who believes in Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, you're You're lucky that you have someone who still believes in that same has that same mentality has the same values working out, we are not doing a very good job at this. And this is not the point of this hotbar. The point of this talk was to talk about abuse, abuse, whether it's verbal abuse, whether it's emotional abuse, whether it's financial abuse, whether it's physical abuse, and his time is completely unacceptable. undisputedly there's no
balance for this one. For this one, there is no balance, you are not allowed to abuse the anyone, specifically not the person that Allah subhanaw taala has put in your home as a covenant between you and him to take care of, you're going to be responsible, you're welcome. I mean, us? Did you take care of this person? You're gonna come and say, What?
What are you going to tell him? subhanho? wa taala? If he asked you, are you You take care of them. And you have you spent most of your life abusing them, mistreating them, how are you going to defend yourself on the day of judgment, but if you don't care about the Day of Judgment, you can do it anyways? Well, then that has to be addressed in dunya. Because no one should be living in an abusive relationship, regardless of anything. Just like you would not want your daughter to be in abusive relationship to be in an abusive relationship, make sure that you're not a part of an abusive relationship to just like, you wouldn't want it for you. And if your children just like you wouldn't
want it for your mother, just like you wouldn't want it for your sister or anyone else. Why would you allow it for yourself, I'm gonna give five points that I think are worthy of remembering. Number one, we just spread awareness on the problem of domestic violence. It is there, it exists in our society, we are not the only society that has it. Every society has it. And we don't have a higher prevalence in our society, by the way than other societies. I don't care about other societies right now I'm speaking to my own, I'm speaking to my own community, I think this has has to be this has to be something that is addressed within our own community, every society will find a way to address
their problems. But for us, we have to find a way to address it. Because it's something that is there. And if you are not a part of it, then hamdulillah that's a big blessing, but it exists around you. And I'm pretty sure everyone sitting here knows at least one relationship where some form of abuse is occurring. So we need to raise awareness on this issue. Number two, know the signs, know the signs and the symptoms of someone who's being abused. Make sure you learn about these things, make sure you can see them. Make sure you can pay attention because people who are living in abusive relationships, find it difficult. Most of the time, we'll find it difficult to come forward and talk
about these things. We'll find it hard to actually come and bring it up because there's a lot that goes into this. This is her family. This is her household. These are her children. This is her future. It's very hard to bring these things up. So if you're someone you're a friend and you see it, then you have to learn to read the signs to see them so that you can offer the number three, we're offering help, you must offer help.
Help does not come in the form of ruining a family. It doesn't come in the form
Have going personally after the other party, it comes in the form of bringing this to the attention of those who can actually fix these problems, who can address them professionally, whether it's governmental facilities or as the MRC, you hear, for us, you need to find people who can actually help others, I find that a lot of individuals who get involved in these problems make it personal, and becomes a personal vendetta. That's not what these that's not what you're supposed to do. If you, if you observe a relationship that has some form of abuse, you are not allowed to go around and actually, and return the abuse or start ruining, you're supposed to bring this to those who can
address it appropriately. And we have those parties in the city. And in the country, there are those who can help people who are living in distress and living in difficulty. Quite often, when people who are not qualified, don't have the knowledge and don't have the expertise, try to mingle or put themselves within a domestic dispute only make things worse. This is this is just the reality of the matter. If you don't know what you're doing, you're most likely going to make the situation worse, it's important that you respect people's autonomy. And it's important that you bring people who are actually qualified to fix problems. Number three, number four, sorry, the people who suffer the most
with domestic violence or the children not to take down or not to be little or to run down or to wash down for water down the impact domestic violence has on the receiving or the recipient of it. Not at all. Obviously, that is horrific. But what we don't realize sometimes in households, when domestic abuse or violence occurs in any form, or manner, if it's not physical, and it's just if it's verbal, or financial or emotional, that children suffer with this. You don't know that though, because children are very good at hiding their emotions. Children are very good at zoning things out just putting some white noise between them, but it affects them, it affects them to their core. And
it affects them so badly that you can only see it maybe 1015 years later, and their relationships and their social relationships and their ability to actually thrive in life. This is a fact this is not we don't need it, we have statistics on it, but you don't need them. This is a fact of the matter. When a when domestic violence of any sort occurs, the children pay the heaviest taxation for it, obviously, the person who's being abused as being mistreated, but the child is the one who's paying for it, that the silent. They're the ones in silence being being being hurt by this.
It's very selfish when we don't figure out ways to fix our problems, very selfish when we seek when we find ourselves in a relationship or being abused. And we don't take action, because it's not about you anymore. Sometimes sisters will say, Well, you know what, if it's just about me, I'll put up with it. It's not about you. If you have children, it's not about you. It's about the children as well. So if you're putting up with something that you shouldn't put up with, by the way, realize that you're actually subjecting your children to a lot of trauma and a lot of an icy it's and I can easily I can easily tell you, a child who has been through it not hard, I work with children all
day. All I have it with them for half an hour, I can tell you which one has seen trauma, it comes off in the way they speak and the way they sit in the way they carry themselves, the way they walk. It affects their potential, it affects their ability to solve problems, it affects every aspect of their development. So be very careful about this. And number five, families are the cornerstone of any society, the Muslim ummah, is just collective families. That's all it is. The most of them are just all the families, the moment the family stops existing, the moment the family is not strong anymore, the moment the family is no longer functional, there is no man anymore. Just simple to
simple as that. So this is something we need to address, we need to bring back the wellness of our families. One of the most important things we need to remove in order for families to be well, we need to remove any remnants of domestic violence that exists within it. It's very important. If you are struggling, or someone you know is struggling, this is a good time for you to bring this forward. It's important for you to go and seek help for others or yourself and learn so that you don't fall into this trap. Because the moment you fall into it, it's hard to get out. And you can ruin your life and the life of others as well. And it goes against everything. The Prophet Allah
yourself, Sam did, it goes against everything the Prophet sallallahu wasallam taught and it goes against the Quran itself. It goes against what the client is teaching you, as you want to beat him out of that is your command, you're commanded to treat them with the best of behavior, that was the best you've got. That's what you bring forward. Why? Because you're a one because you're responsible. You're not here to control. We're not here to control. We're not here to force and coerce people to do anything. We are here to serve them to take care of them and know that we're responsible for their well being at the end. And if that can be understood by Muslims, male and
female, then we may have still have a chance. If we can understand that as Muslim, the shallow you can still get, oh, what do we have? What do we really got going for us aside from our families,
as Muslims, what do we really have going for us besides the strength of the unit of the family, the moment that becomes weak, the moment we allow it to be destroyed? That I don't know. There's much
left for us as Muslims. So this is a very this is the final frontier Wallahi I swear to you, this is very important. Families, I can't do anything. I can't teach people who come from, it's very hard to teach people coming from broken families very hard. It's almost impossible. It's almost impossible. All of the efforts that Muslim institutions put towards trying to educate the youth inspire them get them to become if they come from broken homes almost impossible. If they come from homes where there's domestic violence occurring, its own, it's not, it's not gonna work.
90% of the job of what the home is going to look like in 50, or 100 years comes from your home, is what you're doing at your house. It's how you're treating your wife, how you treat her, it's how your son will treat his it's what your daughter will accept when she's older. What you do when you sell your house, how you behave, is how your children will behave later. What we do here is that an extra 10% That's it, you do most of the heavy lifting. There's a lot of blame that goes around from massage. Honestly, honestly, whatever blame you want to throw massage is just maybe not educating people how to treat their children at home more, that's maybe maybe you can blame us for that, that
we're not taking enough time to make sure that husbands and wives know their rights, know their obligations, and behave accordingly at home so that the families can stay what they're supposed to stay.
We offer very little outside of that.
This is a real problem.
And it needs real solutions. The five points I gave you or not, won't solve them. But I think we start out that way. Spread some awareness on the issue. spread awareness, it's important to know the signs and symptoms of someone who's being abused. And then make sure you reach out for help. Whether it's happening to you or having someone that you love, reach out. Don't put yourself into the middle of something you don't know how to deal with because you can only make it worse.
understand very clearly that the people who are harmed the most or the children in the family when these things happen, and that without families we have nothing we have nothing to go for. We have nothing we have no hope we have no future if our families are not rock solid and if we're not willing to invest time and energy and effort and knowledge and wealth into building our families then we are basically bargaining are ruining our future we are we're heading in the wrong direction when you are what you often will hope to be sold on
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