Abu Taymiyyah – To All Those Who Stab Me in The Back

Abu Taymiyyah
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The speaker discusses the difficulties of forgiveness and the importance of striving for personal development. They share a personal story about a successful marriage and the difficulty of forgiveness when faced by others. The speaker also talks about the importance of forgiveness and how it can lead to healing.

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			Some of us might still be holding grudges
		
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			because of maybe some tribal issues back home
		
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			that happened with the great great grandfather,
		
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			and then he was passed down. And because
		
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			of this we still have what?
		
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			Some bad feelings in our hearts,
		
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			some grudges that we're still holding.
		
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			My brothers and my sisters,
		
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			Wallahi if you wanna be forgiven, we really
		
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			really have to start with ourselves.
		
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			I'm not going to stand here
		
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			and talk like as if this is an
		
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			easy issue, wallah it's not.
		
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			I personally really really struggled
		
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			and sometimes I still struggle
		
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			to just forget about those who smile in
		
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			my face and they're stabbing me my back.
		
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			That's the type of individual who comes to
		
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			you
		
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			and he doesn't like you. And you know
		
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			this guy speaking about you because he doesn't
		
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			like you.
		
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			And then the other guy who smiles in
		
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			your face, and it is so so difficult
		
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			to forgive that individual.
		
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			But you have to do jihad on your
		
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			nafs,
		
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			strive against it.
		
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			And if you really really wanna do something
		
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			about it, Allah is going to help you
		
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			do something about it.
		
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			Allah says,
		
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			Those who strive in my way, then I'm
		
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			going to guide them to that which is
		
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			correct.
		
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			Allah then says in Surat Al Anfa,
		
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			If Allah sees
		
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			you trying to change something about whatever is
		
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			in your heart. He is going to give
		
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			you the khair that you really really want.
		
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			So it starts with the nafs. My brothers
		
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			and my sisters,
		
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			just to show you that this is not
		
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			an easy matter and you wonder to yourself
		
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			why this was one of the 3 good
		
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			deeds that doesn't have a limit
		
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			on its reward.
		
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			One time the mess sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
		
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			was sitting with his companions
		
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			and he said,
		
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			They will now come on onto you guys
		
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			a man
		
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			from the people of Jannah.
		
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			And this happened my brothers and my sisters
		
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			three times.
		
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			The same individual ended 3 times when the
		
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			messenger
		
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			said that.
		
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			So Abdulai ibn Hamri Naa as the great
		
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			companion that he was.
		
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			He wanted to be from the people of
		
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			Jannah as well. So he went to this
		
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			individual.
		
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			He said I wanna spend the night with
		
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			you.
		
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			Thinking maybe he's somebody
		
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			who stands up a lot in the night
		
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			because we know Piyam ul Layl is one
		
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			of those actions that is going to get
		
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			you into a Jannah.
		
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			So he became surprised.
		
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			In the end he said to him, I
		
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			didn't see you do many actions.
		
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			As he was about to leave, he called
		
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			him again.
		
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			And he said something very very powerful to
		
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			him.
		
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			After he said to him,
		
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			It is only that which he saw when
		
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			he asked him, what exactly do you do
		
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			different from everybody else?
		
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			Then he said to him,
		
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			Muslim.
		
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			When I go to sleep,
		
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			I go to sleep not having any grudge
		
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			for my brother.
		
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			And I also have no envy
		
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			towards an individual that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			has blessed with some khair.
		
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			You know Abdulai ibn Abdul ibn Aza said
		
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			to him,
		
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			This is what caused you to reach such
		
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			a high position.
		
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			And this is that which we find so
		
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			so difficult with.
		
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			My brothers and my sisters,
		
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			faiza afa baaghuhum and baaghil. Aamalahuwalahu
		
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			be aafwih as if Nurrajabal hambil he mentioned.
		
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			If they forgive one another, then that's when
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			is going to pardon and forgive them.