Abu Taymiyyah – To All Those Who Stab Me in The Back

Abu Taymiyyah
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The speaker discusses the difficulties of forgiveness and the importance of striving for personal development. They share a personal story about a successful marriage and the difficulty of forgiveness when faced by others. The speaker also talks about the importance of forgiveness and how it can lead to healing.
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Some of us might still be holding grudges

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because of maybe some tribal issues back home

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that happened with the great great grandfather,

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and then he was passed down. And because

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of this we still have what?

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Some bad feelings in our hearts,

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some grudges that we're still holding.

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My brothers and my sisters,

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Wallahi if you wanna be forgiven, we really

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really have to start with ourselves.

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I'm not going to stand here

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and talk like as if this is an

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easy issue, wallah it's not.

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I personally really really struggled

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and sometimes I still struggle

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to just forget about those who smile in

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my face and they're stabbing me my back.

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That's the type of individual who comes to

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you

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and he doesn't like you. And you know

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this guy speaking about you because he doesn't

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like you.

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And then the other guy who smiles in

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your face, and it is so so difficult

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to forgive that individual.

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But you have to do jihad on your

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nafs,

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strive against it.

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And if you really really wanna do something

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about it, Allah is going to help you

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do something about it.

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Allah says,

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Those who strive in my way, then I'm

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going to guide them to that which is

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correct.

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Allah then says in Surat Al Anfa,

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If Allah sees

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you trying to change something about whatever is

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in your heart. He is going to give

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you the khair that you really really want.

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So it starts with the nafs. My brothers

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and my sisters,

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just to show you that this is not

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an easy matter and you wonder to yourself

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why this was one of the 3 good

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deeds that doesn't have a limit

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on its reward.

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One time the mess sallallahu alaihi wa sallam

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was sitting with his companions

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and he said,

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They will now come on onto you guys

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a man

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from the people of Jannah.

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And this happened my brothers and my sisters

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three times.

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The same individual ended 3 times when the

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messenger

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said that.

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So Abdulai ibn Hamri Naa as the great

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companion that he was.

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He wanted to be from the people of

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Jannah as well. So he went to this

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individual.

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He said I wanna spend the night with

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you.

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Thinking maybe he's somebody

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who stands up a lot in the night

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because we know Piyam ul Layl is one

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of those actions that is going to get

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you into a Jannah.

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So he became surprised.

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In the end he said to him, I

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didn't see you do many actions.

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As he was about to leave, he called

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him again.

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And he said something very very powerful to

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him.

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After he said to him,

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It is only that which he saw when

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he asked him, what exactly do you do

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different from everybody else?

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Then he said to him,

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Muslim.

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When I go to sleep,

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I go to sleep not having any grudge

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for my brother.

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And I also have no envy

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towards an individual that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

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has blessed with some khair.

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You know Abdulai ibn Abdul ibn Aza said

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to him,

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This is what caused you to reach such

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a high position.

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And this is that which we find so

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so difficult with.

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My brothers and my sisters,

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faiza afa baaghuhum and baaghil. Aamalahuwalahu

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be aafwih as if Nurrajabal hambil he mentioned.

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If they forgive one another, then that's when

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Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

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is going to pardon and forgive them.

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