Abu Taymiyyah – The Sisters With Their Husbands Eid Prophetic Advice on Eid

The Prophet Sallallahu Wa'alehi used to dedicate

a specific khutbah for the women.

To appoint.

After he was done, he went to the

women, and he said to them,

Oh women,

pay the sadaqah. For indeed I saw that

the majority of those in the fight are

women.

So a woman, she stood up and she

said, you Rasool Allah,

why?

2 things they mentioned.

And the married men, they're going to know

what I'm talking about.

You excessively complain.

All the time complain, some of the brothers

are smiling.

Took Thirn al Shekat,

constantly complaining and you are ungrateful to your

husband.

And you Why? What does this mean, ungrateful

to your husband? There's another narration that explains,

hadith

If you was to be good to her

for the whole year,

she sees one little thing from you, she

goes, I haven't seen any good from you.

You spend time with her,

you spend hour with her, no no no

no, you don't give me any time.

You give her money, you never give me

any money.

You're good to her, you're never good to

me.

A lot of these negative

they call it indefinite. In the negative context

in the Arabic language, it indicates generality. You

land in Surfah.

That indefinite

took me ages by the way, and Nakirafi

syakneft to

translate that in the English language.

Indefinite,

if it comes in a negative context, those

who studied English,

you know.

If an indefinite now comes in a negative

context,

it indicates generality. And you learn this and

it's very very handy. Why? Because you see

sometimes statements from the hadith and you know

how to put into context.

Okay. Some of the sisters, they tend to

say we don't mean it.

And

they don't mean it.

When they say, you don't give me any

time, they don't mean it. But

it's a form of dul. It could be

that one word that you don't mean it

and you don't take into consideration,

why you get chucked into the fire for

70 years. One kalima.

It's a form of dulm. Someone who's been

looking after you. He's been good to you.

Then all of a sudden he just come,

you break his heart, you know, you don't

do anything for me.

It could really hurt the person.

Why the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallamih said,

and why is this statement so dangerous?

This statement is so dangerous. Why? The prophet

said,

A person, he says one word, one word.

And when he says it, he says it

inconsiderably,

out of consideration.

He doesn't give you any consideration when he

says that word.

And because of that, he gets chucked into

the 5 or 7 years.

When they are saying the word, do they

mean it?

You can understand now how serious it is

and how common will lie the majority say

this.

And why is why the majority of those

nafai are women?

Using these kind of words which might you

might take very very lightly, but it is

very very dangerous for your own good.

Why would the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam

specify this on a day of Eid?

When I was having the sisters class,

a discussion that I put out to them

Let's just say for an example now, a

person has been given the opportunity to address

1,000 of people on the day of Eid,

what topic should he choose?

Why would the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam

dedicate on the day of Eid,

with all these people there,

when he can pick so many topics,

this thing pertaining women at the end.

Because, of course, it's an important thing.

In a congregation where you might not get

another congregation to address a certain situation,

It shows how great and important this issue

is.

That we shouldn't just take lightly.

And even if the men hear it, it's

important that you explain to them the danger

that you could put them into.