Abu Taymiyyah – The Sisters With Their Husbands Eid Prophetic Advice on Eid
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The speaker discusses the negative impact of negative language on women, including complaints and embarrassment. They also mention a statement from a prophet about women being "ugly" and being "ugly" for a long time. The speaker warns against taking lightly and not explaining the danger of putting women into a situation.
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The Prophet Sallallahu Wa'alehi used to dedicate
a specific khutbah for the women.
To appoint.
After he was done, he went to the
women, and he said to them,
Oh women,
pay the sadaqah. For indeed I saw that
the majority of those in the fight are
women.
So a woman, she stood up and she
said, you Rasool Allah,
why?
2 things they mentioned.
And the married men, they're going to know
what I'm talking about.
You excessively complain.
All the time complain, some of the brothers
are smiling.
Took Thirn al Shekat,
constantly complaining and you are ungrateful to your
husband.
And you Why? What does this mean, ungrateful
to your husband? There's another narration that explains,
hadith
If you was to be good to her
for the whole year,
she sees one little thing from you, she
goes, I haven't seen any good from you.
You spend time with her,
you spend hour with her, no no no
no, you don't give me any time.
You give her money, you never give me
any money.
You're good to her, you're never good to
me.
A lot of these negative
they call it indefinite. In the negative context
in the Arabic language, it indicates generality. You
land in Surfah.
That indefinite
took me ages by the way, and Nakirafi
syakneft to
translate that in the English language.
Indefinite,
if it comes in a negative context, those
who studied English,
you know.
If an indefinite now comes in a negative
context,
it indicates generality. And you learn this and
it's very very handy. Why? Because you see
sometimes statements from the hadith and you know
how to put into context.
Okay. Some of the sisters, they tend to
say we don't mean it.
And
they don't mean it.
When they say, you don't give me any
time, they don't mean it. But
it's a form of dul. It could be
that one word that you don't mean it
and you don't take into consideration,
why you get chucked into the fire for
70 years. One kalima.
It's a form of dulm. Someone who's been
looking after you. He's been good to you.
Then all of a sudden he just come,
you break his heart, you know, you don't
do anything for me.
It could really hurt the person.
Why the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallamih said,
and why is this statement so dangerous?
This statement is so dangerous. Why? The prophet
said,
A person, he says one word, one word.
And when he says it, he says it
inconsiderably,
out of consideration.
He doesn't give you any consideration when he
says that word.
And because of that, he gets chucked into
the 5 or 7 years.
When they are saying the word, do they
mean it?
You can understand now how serious it is
and how common will lie the majority say
this.
And why is why the majority of those
nafai are women?
Using these kind of words which might you
might take very very lightly, but it is
very very dangerous for your own good.
Why would the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam
specify this on a day of Eid?
When I was having the sisters class,
a discussion that I put out to them
Let's just say for an example now, a
person has been given the opportunity to address
1,000 of people on the day of Eid,
what topic should he choose?
Why would the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
dedicate on the day of Eid,
with all these people there,
when he can pick so many topics,
this thing pertaining women at the end.
Because, of course, it's an important thing.
In a congregation where you might not get
another congregation to address a certain situation,
It shows how great and important this issue
is.
That we shouldn't just take lightly.
And even if the men hear it, it's
important that you explain to them the danger
that you could put them into.