Abu Taymiyyah – The 6 Conditions of Joking

Abu Taymiyyah
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The transcript is a jumbled mix of unrelated and joking segments, including a discussion of TikTok's parents' recording and parents' posting on social media. The conversation touches on the importance of choosing a time to be joking with parents, and the use of parents to make jokes during funeral celebrations. The segment also touches on the use of parents to make jokes during funeral celebrations, and the importance of choosing a time to be joking with them.
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This is now the juicy part of the

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lecture,

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the conditions of joking. Now that we've established

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that

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Masin salaam did

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make jokes with his companions, did play around

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with them.

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He wasn't a moody type of person that

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we may think,

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or how the media portrays him to be.

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A bloodthirsty

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barbaric individual who never smiles, and and when

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they do draw him, and he looks all

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dejected and angry and furious,

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Jareebna Abdallah al Bejari said never did a

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messalay or some ever look at me except

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they were smiling.

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So what are the 6 conditions?

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Condition number 1, when you do joke,

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you don't mock the Deen of Allah Subhanahu

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Wa Ta'ala.

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This my brothers and my sisters

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takes you out the fold of Al Islam

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Even if you are joking, don't turn around

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and say I was only joking. He knows

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he's wrong but then he turns around and

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says I was just joking.

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Why does he take you at the Deen

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of Alissam?

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There was an incident that took place,

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I believe the Ghazwa

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of Tabuk,

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expedition of

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Tabuk. But one of the

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participants of this battle

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began to make fun of the Messenger sallallahu

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alayhi was and his companions. You know what

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he said?

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I didn't see anybody like them.

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Those who are,

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or anyone more than them who is or

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should I say, anyone who is more cowardly,

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lying,

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and who want food so much,

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or more cowardly

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lying,

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and who

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love to eat more than them people.

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Is that a joke brothers and sisters?

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To say that about the medsulal alaihis companions?

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That's not a joke.

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One of the companions heard and he got

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he became furious

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and went running to the messenger salal alayhi

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was, and by that time, the messenger salal

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alayhi was already informed

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by way of revelation and the verses came

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down.

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What were the verses?

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If you ask them

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why they did that, they would say it

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was only joking, it was only playing.

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We only said whatever we said

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to pass time.

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And Allah says,

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Was it that you mocked Allah?

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His verses,

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His signs,

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and

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His

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Messenger?

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Don't make any more excuses.

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Indeed you have disbelieved

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after iman came to you, and they were

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joking,

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and Allah is telling us they've left the

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fold of Islam.

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Who got away?

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He's become a kafir.

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And we might sit around

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spectating,

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laughing and joking, and maybe even forwarding it

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to others.

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I remember, SubhanAllah,

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very very long time ago, right?

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I was playing football,

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Leicester, Spinal Park,

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and then there was his brother.

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I still see

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walking around from time to time,

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and

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every time he scored, he would turn around

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and he would do this,

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pointing to Jesus, he goes, thanks to Jesus.

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And he would also say every time he's

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called, the Quran is a Harry Potter book.

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Quran is a Harry Potter book.

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This is an example of someone,

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right, when uttering such statement would

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expel his own soul from the Deen of

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Allah Azza wa Jal.

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People are mocking the salah in the,

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and videos that are spreading on TikTok.

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It's sad. I'm sure every single one of

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us have come across these kind of videos,

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right?

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Second one

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that when you do joke,

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you joke truthfully.

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Prophet said in hadith,

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Woe to the 1.

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When he jokes,

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he lies in order to make people laugh.

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Mess Allah has made dua against him.

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And what did Jaimna Abdullah

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say to the messenger Allah that I mentioned

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earlier? Oh Messenger of Allah,

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you play with us.

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He said, Naaam, yes I do, but I

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don't say other than the truth when I

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do

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joke and play with you.

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He spoke the truth.

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The reason why I'm very, very passionate about

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this topic, my brothers and my sisters, many,

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many years back,

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one of my relatives came up to me

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and he told me that my grandmother, she

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fell from the balcony.

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How do you think my reaction is going

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to be when somebody says that to me?

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He'll be shocked,

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sir. And then he turns around and he

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says, oh, April fools day, and he walk

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runs off.

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Is that really a joke?

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3rd condition was,

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we haven't taken it

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yet.

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When you do joke,

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you don't terrify the one that you're joking

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with.

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How many times have I seen at the

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bus stop?

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People are standing around, maybe even classmates,

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The bus has come in, grabs him, does

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this, and then pulls him back.

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Sahir?

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Witnessed that before? And he says, I was

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just joking, don't get angry. What you mean

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don't get angry?

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He just

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terrified me.

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And the time when the messenger sallallahu alaihi

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wasallam, as Abdulhamani ibn alaihi wasallam, he mentioned

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that they were traveling with the messenger sallallahu

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alaihi wasallam to war.

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One of the companions went to sleep and

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he had a habil,

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he had a rope.

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Right?

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After he woke up, he was shocked. Where

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has he gone? He started looking for it.

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And then the messenger when he saw this,

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right? He told the companions who took it

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for a joke,

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It is not lawful for a Muslim to

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terrify another Muslim.

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Sometimes you find,

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guys running behind you,

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making these dog noises,

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or scaring you while you're asleep.

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Or today, what do they do? He takes

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water

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while somebody's sleeping and he pours on his

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face, and then he walks up in shock.

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He wakes up in shock.

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TikTok.

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TikTok.

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This is a reality, brothers.

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We're not here to speak about generics. We're

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here to tackle current issues.

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These are some serious things

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that does not fall in line with what

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pleases Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

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The 4th one brothers

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and sisters is

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not to be excessive

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in the jokes that you make. Prophet said,

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to me it's alqalb.

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Don't be excessive in joking, don't become known

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as a joker, as a clown.

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Excessive joking, it kills the heart. See how

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you feel at times when you're sitting around

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and you're just engaging in false talk,

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making jokes about others, and,

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ridiculing this one, that one.

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See how you feel after that. I felt

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like that before.

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I didn't know or understand the reason why.

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Didn't think that it was haram, but we'd

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feel that kind of, like, emptiness in our

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hearts. Right?

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Perhaps maybe because of that.

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Even Amr Khattab radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu he said,

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Whoever is excessive in making jokes,

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people will never take him seriously.

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People will never take him seriously. You'll always

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be the class clown,

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the joker.

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And when you want to be serious, they'll

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start laughing at you. Number 5,

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not mocking and ridiculing others when making jokes.

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What did Allah Azar say in Surat al

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Hujurat, which teaches a lot of

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etiquettes? Oh, you who believe, do not mock

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and ridicule and make fun of one another.

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They what if that individual doesn't mind?

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Do you mind if I make jokes on

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you? Because, well, I don't mind.

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Allahu Akbar.

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He doesn't mind.

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We're living in that kind of society that

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if you can't take jokes,

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they make even more of a joke out

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of you. Sah,

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I can't take jokes now.

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Making jokes about his weight or her weight,

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that's not funny.

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Even then he's saying to me, Allah, I,

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you know, I don't mind, you can say

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whatever you want. How do you know he

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doesn't mind?

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Allah, he's probably really suffering inside hurt,

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he's going to go into depression when he

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goes home,

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feel insecure about himself, but he just doesn't

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want to make it apparent to you

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that

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his joke is hurting him.

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Even if he doesn't mind, you have been

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commanded by Allah as a way not to

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make these jokes

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and not to ridicule him and make fun

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of him. Wallala, Allah told you all who

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believe. Are you not somebody who believes?

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Hadulai Musa'udu say, right,

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whenever you hear,

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make sure you listen attentively,

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Because you're about to be told of something

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extremely important, something that you're going to be

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commanded with and that which you're going to

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be prohibited from. You know what's even more

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worse than that brothers and sisters?

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Mocking someone

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and how Allah created him.

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The way his nose is,

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the way his nose is, is he in

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control of that?

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The way his eyes have been created, the

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way his ears are,

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making jokes of him saying dwarf ears.

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Or he looks like this or he looks

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like that. That's how Allah created him.

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Why did the messenger say,

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don't curse the wind? Who

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can

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tell

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me?

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Sorry?

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Yeah, honey, it is Allah that created and

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sent it.

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It's ma'mura, umirat.

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Been commanded,

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to destroy this and to leave that.

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Sometimes it's unbearable, the wind. See trees flying

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around.

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It's Allah azza wa jal

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that sent it. So if you're not insulting

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something that doesn't have control over itself, who

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in reality are you insulting?

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Allah is the widget, right? That's how deep

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it is.

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That's how profound it is.

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Also,

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the messenger of Islam told us that to

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sub with dhar,

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do not insult the time. Let me ask

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you guys a question.

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The last day

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before the 1st January

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2022

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kicked in, what were the people posting on

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social media? What were they saying about the

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previous year that has just gone by?

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They

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were insulting it, they were,

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you know,

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using profanity,

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speaking ill.

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The corona that was sent, who sent it?

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It was Allah azzawaj that sent it.

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You know insulting what the I shouldn't even

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say like what the corona caused. It's Allah

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Azzawiyah who caused it and he just used

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this as a means

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to either bring good to people's lives,

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or to test them

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in many different ways.

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Number 6,

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last one,

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to choose an appropriate time to joke.

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Is it appropriate for one to be making

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jokes while you're walking towards the funeral?

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And I've seen it before.

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Someone just passed away, and these guys are

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making jokes with one another.

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This is not an appropriate time,

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Right? You have to choose also a time

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to be joking with your parents.

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Again, on TikTok,

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young says are recording their parents,

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making fun of them.

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Some even trip up their parents, and they

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post on social media because they know they're

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gonna get hits. How's that joke?

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A parent?

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SubhanAllah.

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