Abu Taymiyyah – SHOCKING Cheating Husbands, Filthy Fathers & Free Mixing Ustaadh
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Alhamdulillah As salam o alaikum brothers and sisters, what you're
looking at right now is a camel, the whole dropped dead. It dropped
dead due to thirst. This camel was from a region called Cholistan. In
Pakistan to desert there's been struck by an trout. It's
excessively hot right now, and the water has not come. And the
animals are dropping like this all over what you have to understand
about this place, that it is a community that lives off the
cattle they live off the elements when the animals start dying, know
that the humans are going to start dying next, the way these animals
are dropping on the streets are thirsty dropping dead humans will
start dropping dead like this very very shortly if they do not get
the aid and the help with the permission of Allah. We're
currently raising funds on behalf of humanity care relief to set up
filtration plants so that this community can get water for the
animals and for themselves to drink from and to do to harder
from tomorrow because these children have mentioned this
animal died of thirst because it had no decent water to drink.
Please allows you to donate as generously as you can for Allah
sake the link below so we can make a change for these people's lives
in the long term. And I asked you to do this quickly before you
watch the video. Just pause make that donation and then carry on
watching and Sharla Thorne inshallah Tada today's class will
be very mellow down and I'm going through inheritance.
I want to inshallah inshallah today conducts I want to conduct
today's class
a very, very different way in the night on
hamdu Lillahi wa Kapha or salatu salam ala Nabil Mustafa and
whichever put your hand up if you have a sister
Wow, that's Everyone
put your hand up if your sister is younger than you
as 99.9% of you guys
put your hand up if you're protective of your sisters
what is being protected me
having laid off like what would some of the
practical steps that you take be in being protective of your
sisters
nonlinear sister go out
so you go out but you let you make your sister stay at home
you're a smart guy
praising yourself
by anyone else
so to basically monopolize and control them right
so if they're mingling with the opposite gender
you have to let them know that this is not how you should do
things.
Educate them. Okay. Anyone else
giving them giving them advice.
What happens when you catch your little sister talking to boys? On
a phone? How would you react?
Smash the phone off.
We have a very different personality with us today. Yeah.
What's your name?
Within
the scene.
I see SIEM.
May Allah bless you see
when you catch your sister doing something that she shouldn't be
doing, what would you normally do? I can tell you that
mom
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Do you guys believe in something called What goes around comes
around something
funny to us are asking. Okay, I'll push it.
Guess believe in something called What goes around comes around.
Isn't that the what the kuffar to us when we are nursery
You're going to see
it come in and see where you go.
Next time when you want to leave
your hand up and you go here these are from the attic yourself class.
When you put your hand up you don't shout put your hand up and
the teacher sees you and then we'll let you go Yeah, I haven't
let you go yet.
Like
I believe in something called What goes around comes around
it is something that is Islamic based.
Just think is something based
or is it just the rhymes they taught us in nursery? What goes
around comes around
Morocco.
So nursery rhyme.
I'm a brother.
I'm asked a question for you sit down. What goes around comes
around. When did you first come about? Uh, when did you first come
to know about goes around comes around.
Very young. I remember I was in nursery and we asked you know, the
question, do you think this is an Islamic concept?
Allahu Allah sokola that's half knowledge. When you don't know if
somebody should say Allahu Allah we should all say something Sit
down. What's the name of brava
Edward, welcome into it.
What about you?
What do you think about what goes around comes around? Is that just
the nursery rhyme what goes around comes around? What
is this an Islamic concept?
What is the first thing we came to know about this whole concept of
what goes around comes around
nursery
Please say the teacher
is
pleased to link it with karma. By the way karma for those who don't
know, is a Hindu
belief.
So Hindu belief,
however it may sound similar to what we're going to be speaking
about. However, that was very different because they attribute
that which happens in the occurrences that take place to
other than Allah
to the universe.
Is that clear?
However, what goes around comes around
accident and what's coming to that life, the headache, librescu
Who can give me an evidence from the Quran that proves this concept
Hi, Jessa Cerny in Lesson
Allahu Akbar, which surah is that?
Surat Rahman Al Jazeera Sunni in the lesson right? Will one be
rewarded with good except good? Any other evidences?
man Yeah, man, so and you deserve it.
Whoever does evil, he'll be rewarded with that.
You do evil, expect evil.
You're good trip goodtherapy will expect to be treated in that way.
I'll just mention ceramill
Jessa omen? gentiana.
Whatever kind of treatment
you decide to use with others
expect that back.
Right. Also, there's another verse in the Quran
where Allah subhanaw taala in Surah Nisa
talks about the orphan
what he says what are the actual learning Hello, Tara Coleman,
hello fame duniya it and they are often halfway around him and you
can also say, Pay for are they home?
For the Taboola when your whole golden city that
you know how an infant when his father or mother passes away.
Who's not going to look after him? Someone else has to look after him
right? This is the individual now that is what the guardian of this
force
And Allah subhanaw taala addresses in, in our law system, the one
who's now looking after the orphan.
Be extra careful and cautious how you deal with this orphan.
Because remember,
you are going to be leaving behind your own children
and then there will be someone else that comes along
and my treat them the same way you are now treating these orphans
that you are responsible of.
Be extra careful brothers and sisters. When you oppress others,
it will come back to haunt you. Sooner or later.
It will come back to haunt you sooner or later.
Three types of peoples do as or not rejected one of them is data
to another room. Right? The supplication of the one who has
been oppressed
the DUA that he makes it paces
to the skies The heavens are opened.
Heavens are opened. And then Allah subhana wa Taala says lon Soren
Nikka went over the head
I will come to your aid and assistance even with his after
some time.
By the way, for those who walked in late we're speaking about the
concept of what goes around comes around because heard of that
before.
When When did you first hear about it?
Growing up growing up somewhere I heard it when I was in nursery I
think
so Allah azza wa jal the same to that individual is in charge of
the orphans. Be very careful
how you treat them tomorrow you will leave your own children
behind and someone will come along
and perhaps he will deal with them or treat them the same way you
used to treat them
where am I steering this discussion to
also there's a narration that states come out to dinner to done
I will be treated people expect me to even though it's a weak like
there's also a very powerful statement of
balance boosting
and he mentioned this turbo the turbo kala
he says ma ye to Adam to Kembara them and we're doing ELLIPTA
Allahu Allahu Gillooly livanova I never ever
saw someone
treating those who are less than him
in an arrogant way except Allah subhanho wa Taala tested him
with someone who was greater and higher than him to deal with him
in a similar manner
elliptica who along with Lululemon or Forca
right?
He would be in the state of desperation right humiliated by
those who are worth higher than him.
I came across a statement I was not a moment Elia Lee said
on bike Elena's on by HCA
Allah Nursey de hecho la
whoever makes fun of others is going to be laughed at
for all the statements and things to recite because witness to
notice things like that. Today he may have been treating someone a
certain way and then he ended up happening to
write
that which I'm mentioning is it outside of the reality that we
face from time to time
is a far fetched is it something that you guys are alien to?
Because I've come across situations like that
the reason why I asked you guys about whether you have sisters or
not,
is because of something that I really want to mention now.
And I asked you guys how would you react
if
a sister fell into something they shouldn't have fallen into
something that's inappropriate and whatever have you
one of the machete one time that taught me when I was younger,
Tommy's story.
I don't think he told me that for a reason. This is when I was
growing up. Very young. I think I was maybe what?
year four year five?
Sorry, not year four, year five, maybe a seven
At the time, I
came down to Leicester
to participate in this Quran, school as Quran some school.
And I love stories just like everybody loves stories, right?
Hey, we enjoy it.
Especially if these stories have a benefit, it's worth mentioning.
And I will share the results and better have it all out out is from
our teachers. And
when he's teaching
a lesson at times, right, you will mention a story for the sake of
benefit. Because these stories people can relate to
told me a story of a group of brothers
who went out to travel however, they had a sister,
the sister
and before traveling, they went to a chef and they said, We're
extremely zealous and
protective of our younger sister we're leaving behind. Right? We
have this fear that someone may seduce her,
entice her
What is it that we can do?
You know, when the chef said to them,
just make sure you safeguard
the boundaries that Allah subhanho wa Taala has set for you.
Make sure that you safeguard the boundaries that Allah subhanho wa
Taala set for you
in terms of how you should treat women, or how you should deal with
the opposite gender.
Now that God is that it and my sister will be protected. Okay,
cool.
So they got off
so what happened was, they got off.
They settled at wherever they were planning to stay in.
One of them decided to go to a shop
came across this woman that was extremely, extremely attractive.
He couldn't hold himself except to reach out to her hand.
And she said,
Stafford really shouldn't be doing this. And he said, Oh, yes, I
shouldn't be doing this. And he went back to his home.
What happened after that? Later on the car, very long story short,
they came back to their home.
And their sister
was extremely distraught at something that happened and she
kept on saying like, I'm extremely distraught. And I don't know how
to explain to you guys and whatever.
She said, somebody knocked the door. I opened it. I thought it
was you guys who came back.
And then he reached out to my hand and grabbed me.
And he asked me to have a relationship with him.
And I told him fear Allah.
I told him fear Allah.
So they went to the shell.
And they were like, sure, you said kava, Kava Kava, that if we right,
save God, the boundaries that Allah subhanaw taala set for us.
In terms of how we should deal with women, then our sister would
be safe, and nobody would do anything to her.
So Russia, he looked at all three of them. And he could see in the
eyes of one of them. He was the guilty one. They were not we
didn't do anything.
I should have looked at that brother. Is that true?
Did you guys not do anything?
And then he related incident.
And they looked at each other in shock. And then it began to make
sense.
It began to make a lot of sense.
Is that clear brothers and sisters.
Come on to Dino to that.
A lot of brothers they want to mess around with sisters. Right?
They want to have these inappropriate
discussions with the opposite gender. But the moment someone
does the exact same with their own siblings becomes upset.
She asked me that.
While I was in Milan, I was having discussion with a brother in the
Harlem in front of the camera
it was
Tell me about how we sisters this and she started. Honey, every
brother would be hurt that his sister would turn out like that.
And at the same time, he's telling me how he has a relationship with
maybe four girls.
Is it surprising brothers? He's telling me how he became
extremely, extremely upset and also upset the family that she one
time came on Snapchat, and then she was the guy or something. I
think it was the guy himself, you know, recorded her on her birthday
or whatever. And I really made him feel a certain way.
Do you guys have an incident that my mom told me about? True story.
You know, in
places like the Holige,
Gulf golf areas that are so much more conservative, right?
It's not as straightforward as
somebody's not going to the club, taking a woman out to the hotel.
So they do right or to the club pics ago or upticks throughout
others all types of fascia with her, and then pays for her taxi
and they go back home. So
it's not as straightforward. There's so much more conservative.
Right? The sooner the reputation
is extremely valued.
Right, valued the tribe, they care about the reputation. So if one
steps out of line, it goes wrong very, very quickly.
So if he wants to commit a sin, he's not going to do it in the
open.
So my mom was saying to me that if you wanted to commit Zina with
another,
there would be ways to get in contact with people, they would
set it up. You'd walk into a building, the girl would be in
sight. The lights would be what switched off, you'd commit Zina,
and then you'd walk out. And then she would end up leaving as well.
And that's how they would commit to
you might not necessarily even
come to know who that person actually is.
Just wants to relieve himself committed to Zina, and that's it.
You brothers with me?
A couple of months go by
they find out that his sister is pregnant.
What do you mentioned earlier come out to dinner.
And of course, now the reputation of the family is on the line.
Right? What family sometimes tend to do is as soon as they find out
that the daughter is pregnant they do
in order to conceal
this bad reputation and family
to get them married very, very quickly.
I think it's somebody they call it the
what you call it, like black marriage, and then get it done
very quickly.
They are begging the sister for the sake of the family's
reputation.
Please tell us
who impregnated you?
And she's honestly saying I don't know.
Because I told you guys the situation. These conservative
countries at the time, right.
And then because the brother had a very good relationship with his
sister
as she's about to give birth,
he enters upon her and he begs her, I won't tell anyone. I'll
make sure I can see it. We'll try and make up a story. Let's just
try and you know, protect the reputation of the family. As she's
saying I honestly don't know. So he tells her told me what exactly
happened when where what
so she begins to describe
it was on that day in that place, you know across the road from love
I said yes.
It was around this time
the brother walks out
and he commits suicide.
Why do you think he committed suicide brothers?
Because he was him are impregnated
was him or impregnated his own system?
Before I left Saudi Arabia
mean family we took a taxi to Jitta.
And you know, normally when you have a taxi driver you begin to
start talking to him. Right? Just start having a conversation
with the taxi man
setting when he told me the situation here in
the Kingdom
have a lot of youngsters you have a lot of Shabaab like because I
had a lot of things that takes place.
And he said to me, listen, as a taxi driver, we see things that
many people don't.
Because we are the guys who will drop people off
you brothers and sisters with me,
says we as taxi drivers. We see things that many people don't.
And some of these countries brothers, we have compounds that
people are not given access to unless you have a code stack where
people are rich people live, rich people live if you want to get
into the compound where all of these very big huge, lavish
mansions are you need a code to get in.
So the taxi driver is carrying a sister in the back of his car.
Allah had brothers. He told me this as we assist this. He told me
this as we were on our way to gender
I'm the one that's dropping her sister off. Where am I dropping
her off to a party
so we drive up
to parked the car in front of the mansion. There's a party going on.
Right.
So the system knows dropped off.
As the taxi driver is about to
drive off.
They call them say Come back, come back. Sora come
and then they say to take this go with you.
Take this go with you. She was in another taxi. However the taxi
really drove off.
What happened? She walked into the party.
Who do you think she saw?
Saw brother?
She saw her brother.
Of course now the way she's dressed up she's now arrived at
this mansion in order to do it.
Just have a cup of tea.
It's parties that happened behind closed doors. You think male and
men sorry. Male and men
we're in Pride Month by the way.
We are in Pride Month.
We do have men and men
do you think when men and women get together
just have a cup of tea guys.
Especially in a mansion that's closed off and then you have rooms
in these mansions? Everybody basically has the
the relaxed moment to do whatever they want. Think that they just
have a cup of tea with one another. My mom used to say,
right?
Men and women are like that is so
what does dip and soft mean for you Somali brothers? What's that
mean?
Firing cotton.
What happens when you take a lighter and you
put it right next to cotton. Why was the cotton
How long does it take before there's cotton now?
Second,
milliseconds.
Somebody quarter eight milliseconds, how
many seconds later the second minute goes off.
Men and women are like that.
She can agree.
Every single person here and don't try and act like some tough guy.
If I put a woman in a room with you, right alone, there's no one
else there. How long do you think you're going to last?
Brothers, an attractive woman who's not dressed appropriately. I
placed her in a room with you hunted me last
night
A lot of brothers and I'm not saying this strength to be humble,
right? I don't think any Derya right would feel safe in that kind
of environment. And I'm the first of them. That's exactly what
prophesize said. mattock, definiton I never lift the fitna
that is more great up on my own mother what women
will lie and Eileen sweater probably somebody else will say EF
will the whole Anessa be extra wary when entering upon women.
Right
don't do this year come with the whole island so you're being
prohibited from doing so.
So the messiness allottee, was was asked about the hammer.
Who is the brother in law, afraid to handle messages to lie to
themselves and have
a brother in law who's the closest to his brother's wife, messenger
salon, he was himself his death.
He is dead
mingling with one another is like what that is so
make sense?
Guys know the police office now. That means fire. Safe means
cotton.
What happens when you put cotton and depth alongside one another?
Fire and cotton? What happens brothers?
Is that clear?
So she gets back into the taxi, the sister
and she starts talking to the taxi driver and the taxi driver told me
this a couple of months after because what happened? was like my
brother was in there.
My brother was in there and he has two kids and a wife.
He's there to mess around with women. And I'm shocked
and he asked her well, what are you doing then I just went you
know, my friends and whatever have you I didn't know this that.
And she doesn't even live in a city.
Both him and her. They traveled out with their own independent
journeys to this house in Jeddah to commit towards.
Commit to filth and evil.
What goes around comes around.
You want to mess around with other people's daughters, right? And
other people sisters.
Don't get upset when it happens to your sister. Don't get upset when
it happens to your daughter. Don't get upset when it happens to your
wife.
You want to go to work right and you let your guard down.
Become extra comfortable with the women around you because you think
no one's going to find out.
Remember, we are living in the era of millennials.
When one can easily slide into the DMS of your sisters and also your
wives.
Some of your female relatives.
So I always say to some of my relatives.
If you want your little sister, right, shallow to Allah to remain
safe. Make sure you take extra care with how you conduct
yourself.
You think you can just have these easygoing, flirtatious according
flirtations conversations with my friends from school?
You really think men and women can be friends?
Guys know Steve Harvey
just came across that video
get a chance when you go home today. type of Steve Harvey can
male and women be friends?
It's very powerful.
It's a very very powerful clip
that is off fire and cotton. That's how men and women are.
swayed the message Fulani was some he also said
Mahajan, I'm writing it like NFL is misshapen.
Never does a man seclude himself with a woman except that the third
is who Shavon
even at a marriage meeting sometimes even a parents they let
their guard down. Right?
The mom might go upstairs to watch EastEnders
there's a case find out what happened. Mom said listen I'm
going upstairs that is a problem is
and she left and both downstairs.
shaytaan is the third one
Before you knew it brothers and sisters, they were very intimate
with one another.
Allah hymnody like
he was telling me himself and they are well I don't know about her he
was a righteous brother
practicing righteous brother
even though when it comes to what the DMS and Instagram and whatever
have you sometimes the shaytaan comes under the guise of I'm
getting down with her
brother she's giving down to you
honestly going to agree with that
you saw a big shark she looks attractive.
When he came down with I'm gonna call it the sun and marry her.
The hacker had a shimmer shape on life. And
so we started the traps with the shaytaan right.
traps of the shape on
control women.
This is a lady with some said, when a woman leaves the house in
the garage is in beta is a surefire Shavon the shaytaan
beautifies her
that's why she needs to take extra care and how she goes about
adorning herself the kind of clothing that she wants.
Even if she's wearing a niqab and Ginzburg shaitan is still what
purifying
I read it relative one time said to me Listen Oh, my Pfitzner is
seeing the Gobi women
are like was my fitness in our view?
That makes even more mysterious thing was behind that, huh?
So you shouldn't even be looking at the Nickleby.
He has with me.
So the Chateau is beautifying the woman.
Here's what beautifying the woman.
Even if she's wearing a cop,
so I need to solo your gaze, because then eyes can be
dangerous.
And I'll put this out as well. If you're in an epod my sister last
thing you should be doing is putting all types of mascara and
stuff and eyeliner and whatever heavy on your eyes.
She gets rid of that. Sometimes that can entice her
eyelashes
her
so hey brothers
I actually had what was the point I was trying to make this
shaytaan beauty before that.
Men and women being what alone with one another.
Men and women being alone with one another is a recipe for disaster.
It's a recipe for disaster
that's why some of the scholars they will say if you entrust me
now with a mountain of gold I'd maybe take the trust However, even
what a slave girl that is so unattractive
I wouldn't feel what's safe around her.
I wouldn't feel safe around him
I'm sure Ron has told you guys many many stories right?
About these kinds of situations and whatever have you that's why I
just wanted to deal with it differently.
was the first lesson that we're gonna walk away with today. You
have a system to
control yourself in order to control your system
safeguard the boundaries of Allah azza wa jal and shallow Tyler
right.
You are working towards protecting your sister as well as the main
thing
but this assistance is the main thing
it's extremely hypocritical Don't you think?
You don't want anyone to do anything to assist them you're
messing around with other people sisters.
Today I want to read something out to every single one of you
and it is on some q&a
Free mixing
can go on about it all they give you guys evidences from the Quran
and the Sunnah or the self have mentioned whatever happening.
However, these true stories can sometimes have an impact on an
individual. Right? I've been meaning to mention this in a video
just to read out for the sake of benefit
some
times that which is written down isn't always looked at especially
by the millennials. The millennials the Millennials don't
read they just watch what do they watch? Too many clips no sorry
stuff online leaving too many clips 32nd clips. You guys agree
with that even to midnight has become too long
that's why you have reels
all the social media companies they came to realize attention
span is getting lower and lower. You want to grab somebody's
attention or maybe go through the rules because was just flicking
all day long. All day long. All day long. All day long.
Some q&a, my brothers and my sisters, let me just clarify
something right.
I don't know of a website that has given service to the English
language.
Sorry, that has given service to Al Islam in the English language
and it's actually
a lie.
And I say this with hands on heart. At times that helps me
translate certain texts in Arabic language. And may Allah azza wa
jal reward the founder.
However, do we take everything that the chef has mentioned? No,
of course not.
I will share for the married man the car some of you may know him
some of you don't. For he passed away in Manchester. I remember in
our brother setup, Lubbers was a witness to it. I asked him because
there's a lot of Kalam,
even one of the things that
our brothers being refused for,
as he praised, shall Salah manage it. Or he said benefits from his
some q&a.
jeisman
One of the things that refuting in forms. I think it's important that
I mentioned this chef fella, we asked him should we benefit from
the site? He said yes. But just when it comes to someone, the man
has issues, then maybe refrain from that. Not everything that's
on the website is perfect. Like these issues pertaining to men
hedge or maybe what is 0.0 0.1%
think I said the decimals correctly? Right? Maybe
it's very small portion. Right, that you shouldn't take from
however 99.99999
is issues pertaining what Flipkart and whatever have you should be
benefited from? And then because of that small percentage, right?
Why would I hold website now be disregarded?
But we don't take everything that the chef may say. Right, fair, and
just Yeah. Anyways, I came across this page a very, very long time
ago.
And whenever someone wants to argue, or should I say, condense
the seriousness of free mixing? I just send them this. And I never
get a response back.
Victims of mixing true stories.
lost hope.
This is what it says here. Oh, Muhammad, a mature woman over the
age of 14 tells her story.
Sometimes we have this the circle right?
Taking it lightly where one says Ah, he's just your uncle.
So hey,
he's your uncle.
Who's an uncle last time I checked the box who's an uncle brothers.
That's brothers.
As the paternal uncle then you have the maternal uncle. So hey,
my daughter, no, brother saying hey, Ibrahim.
He's her paternal uncle. So
is he allowed to take Tamia with her and spend time with her and
she needs to wear hijab when she grows older in front of
her uncle Ibrahim.
She's ready to
compromise the season guys know that.
She doesn't need to wear it a summer home. Right?
In some communities, especially and I'll say this right in Somali
community.
The mama say some Edgerunner the guy, right? He's not a relative
Lamin curry when I'm married. He's not a close relative. And he's not
a formative. Just because they grew up with one another. Right?
The mom says oh, he's your uncle. How's your uncle again? If
somebody
have T I said, What up T Gaga? Don't worry. Why is it so corny?
Hmm. We grew up together. Oh, no Somali brothers can get by.
We grew up together. We were from the same place. It's fine.
This online Harley. How many cases have I come across because of
this?
that whole
There was sexual abuse that took place. Sexual abuse
there was another question. I think there's a benefit worth
mentioning, right?
My dad's wife, I'm not allowed to travel with him. Shima Maha.
So
that's why I'm here Maha
Imam Malik Rahmatullahi. Li
took knowledge from the likes of naffaa.
The tambien, long time ago.
Has a fatwa saying that it's not appropriate.
Imagine I lived at that time for me to travel with my dad's wife he
sent it then why?
In the Shadow facade,
because corruption became widespread, because some of the
cases they were having, especially if she's young
especially if she's young. Is it haram is nothing is haram, I think
it should be avoided.
Sometimes offentliga can change linty Sharon facade? Well, that
field where the DNA,
people becoming weak in their religion, you need to sometimes
put words,
barriers in place.
In order to prevent that, which is far worse.
When I was collecting examples under the reason as to why a photo
may change, I wrote under it for K for era. What if le my Malik
Rahmatullah Lee was to see what some uncle's are doing with their
nieces? What would he have said?
Anyways, going back to the point that I was making, we have this
Sahil amongst some of our relatives, right, saying, he's
just your uncle. He's not a paternal not even, not even a
second uncle. He's a random guy that the mother grew up with when
back in Somalia, and she had it.
And then what takes advantage of her?
And perhaps, this has happened because we let our guard down
pertaining to the Sharia.
Should he be alone with her brothers and sisters? As random
guy shouldn't be alone with her. Even if he spent 20 years he saw
and one of the things that he's mentioned that
he was there when you were a child when I used to clean your backside
he was there.
Is that really a suburb now? Is that a valid, valid excuse?
And the shaytaan gets to the sick guy's head.
Anyways, Ahmed Mohammed, let's go back to Mohammed.
A mature woman over the age of 40 tells her story. By the way, look,
she's old is old. Sometimes they say what you hear both through
them. Both these things mentioning, you're just young.
You're just young. I did. I said, Oh, he's an old man. Oh, man, I'm
gonna do this.
We have Sharia. When it comes to cultural practices, brothers and
sisters. There's nothing wrong with cultural practices. As long
as the cultural practice doesn't go against
religion.
The other day when I was in Sheffield,
right when a Somali province was saying it's a cultural practice
that the guest doesn't get up to wash his hands.
What do they do? They bring
broccoli, so they call it right. Broccoli? Have you seen an
English? A bowl of water even a soap in it? They come they wash
his hands for him? That is mashallah top notch hospitality
and they are commended for that is anything wrong with that brothers?
Nothing doesn't go against Sharia. That's one thing
by cultural practice where they say he just you cousins you're
like brothers sit in the room together watch a movie together go
upstairs together.
Yeah, so does that happen? Does it happen brothers? Of course
happens.
This type of either this cultural practice. Is it okay brothers and
sisters? Because it goes against the Sharia, police as well as to
VI that you know EBA had to do Saliba. The base ruling when it
comes to our ad that our cultural practices is that it is
permissible until proven otherwise.
It's not mixed the two together
just because some of our relatives have normalized and become
desensitized to some haram. Right? We shouldn't think that this is
Dean
and be easy with it as well. No
So anyway, let's go back to Mohammed
Omar Muhammad. She says, I lived a life of modest means with my
husband.
There was never any closeness and harmony. And my husband did not
have the kind of strong personality that a woman with
hopeful
by the way, this is one of the characteristics that women look
for in men have a strong character.
Most women, they don't like yes men.
Everything she also Yes, yes, yes, it does stop respecting you.
It will stop respecting you
to know that some of you listening to it, but
had the what is the reality.
She's basically saying he didn't have a strong personality
that a woman would hope for in a husband. But his good nature made
me overlook the fact that I was the one who was responsible for
most of the decision making in the family.
My husband often used to mention the name of his friend and
business partner.
And he will talk about him in my presence.
Already see red flags,
swipe messages a lot he was telling me said that a woman
should not
describe a woman to her husband.
Behind it was the Heckman behind it. He says fantasizing about this
woman that you're speaking so positively about. She's like that
and she looks like that and ahead, it's like that.
It's not a good idea.
So this is what he now will do about his friend tables are turned
out normally would be a feminine thing to be doing. However, now
this man is doing this.
So used to often mention the name of his friend and business
partner, and he would talk about him in my presence and I often
used to meet with him in his office, which was originally
originally part of our apartment.
This went on for many years, and to circumstances led to us
exchanging visits with the person and his family.
These family visits were repeated and because of his close
friendship with my husband,
we did not notice how the number of visits increased
and how many hours a single visit would last.
He often used to come on his own to sit with us
and my husband he
he often used to come on his own to sit with us me and my husband
for long visits my husband's trust in him knew no bounds
you know what this reminds me off as the same
right?
Don't trust another man with three things.
One of them they say is the car
just guessing
the way you look after a car it's very different to how someone else
was right.
Normally when brother buys a new car and you see these Uber drivers
like that as well right? They say listen when you close the door
close it with what is
say
and in the moment just do this makes a little noise I told you
we doing it starts becoming confrontation and that's when you
end up giving him one star
or the five by second thing is they say the cashier
yesterday or yesterday a couple of days ago I went to gravitate with
and then I don't know the discussion
led me to saying the same
I said
they normally say and I think my dad is the one who said this don't
trust another way these three things one was your car and said
yeah I agree with that second was what
the car sorry they said it the car a cashier
you know the cashier
say don't trust another with that as well. You see some very wealthy
men at times sitting at the cashier have their own business.
They'll get everyone to do everything but the cashier
or someone that they trust like their brother or their you know,
someone who's heavily involved like you guys go and harvest with
it and but to just let a random individual
because he might not necessarily be on a wage like you
He starts taking things out of the cache.
Is that clear? Brothers? What do you think the third is?
Your wife, guy looked and he goes, No, no.
My wife
trust me.
And I trust that
I finished I asked him, Are you married? He goes, No. So talk to
me when you get married, inshallah.
Talk to me when you get married.
What's happening here,
he has now begun to trust this individual.
So she says,
he often used to come on his own to sit with us, me and my husband
for long visits, my husband has trust in Him, you know, bounce.
And as days passed, I got to know this person very well.
And saw how wonderful and decent he was, I began to feel a strong
attraction towards this man.
And at the same time, I began to sense that the feeling was mutual.
Things took a strange turn after that, when I realized that this
man was the kind of person I had always dreamed about. So
why had he come along now, after all these years
shaytaan.
The more demonstate is increasing my eyes, the more my husband
status diminished.
It was as if I had needed to see the beauty of his character, in
order to discover how ugly my husband's character was.
The matter between this person and myself did not go beyond these
persistent thoughts, which were occupying my mind, night and day.
Neither he nor I ever voiced what we felt in our hearts
a love that's maybe consider Teddy pasa
until today,
and despite that, my life is over. And my husband is little more than
a weak man with no self esteem.
I hate him and I do not know what all of this hatred came from.
Or how all of this hatred towards them started to boil over.
I wonder how I put up with him, oh, disease, burden, bearing all
these burdens myself, facing life's problems on my own.
Things got so bad that I asked him for a divorce. And he divorced me
at my request. After that he became a broken man. Even worse
than that is that after my marriage was wrecked, and my
children and husband was devastated,
problems arose in this man's family.
His wife, with her feminine intuition, realized what had been
going on in his heart of hearts.
And his life became *. She was overwhelmed with jealousy to the
extent that one night she left her house at 2am and came to attack my
house, screaming, weeping and hurling accusations. His marriage
was also about to collapse.
I admit that the lovely gatherings which we used to enjoy gave us the
opportunity to get to know one another at a time that was not
appropriate at this stage in our lives,
his marriage has been wrecked so as mine I have lost everything.
And now I know that my circumstances and his will not
permit us to take any positive steps towards coming together.
Now, I am more miserable than I have ever been.
And I'm looking for illusionary happiness and last hopes wala
Hussin
well law Willemstad.
Well, no unknown fact Aloma you algo levy law can hire unknown why
should the Vita even Latina homie Laguna Algernon Halima wala de
Nahum, Surat Akima. If only they did what they were commanded with.
Right? Then they would have seen a lot of good, right. You know, it's
when I read these kinds of
real life stories that causes me to really appreciate the
knowledge.
guys agree with that. Can you see how these ahaadeeth that generated
could have prevented a lot of problems.
So in knowledge isn't just about I need to become a scholar. It saves
you from a lot of problems
from a lot of headache, saves you from heartbreak,
grief brothers.
The next incident, by the way, how long do I have to ruin
know how long is normally gone for
like
the next incident is called tit for tat.
Now we have washlet she tells us,
my husband had a group of married friends, and because of our close
friendship with them, we used to get together with them once a week
in one of our houses to enjoy an evening of chat.
Deep down in my heart, I was never really comfortable with the
atmosphere, in which we would have dinner, sweets, snacks, and drinks
of juice, accompanied by waves of laughter.
Because of the jokes and chit chats, that often went beyond the
bounds of good manners.
In the name of friendship, the barriers were lifted up every now
and then one would hear suppressed laughter between a woman and the
husband of another woman.
The jokes were too much dealing with no sense of shyness
dealing with no sense of shyness and when you get comfortable my
brothers and my sister with the opposite gender what tends to
happen to your shyness diminishes.
It diminishes
all the way up until it disappearing altogether. Agreed.
This is why they say Hadith of the prophets Allah is LM tester Hey
first timesheet. If you don't have any shyness, then go and do what
you want.
Right? The scholars they talk about this hadith and he say
that shyness is like the salah. Shyness is like the salah. What
happens when you leave the salah your life will go what downhill
expect everything to start crumbling down into the ground.
The Salah removes the filth and even from your life as long as
you're praying shall absolutely
right it's like the evil that is pushing up against the wall the
Salah is holding on to it. What happens when that wall gets
knocked down, you will be knocked down. That's how I look at the
issue of the Salah agreed brothers in the Salah Tana And fascia or
Mocha, there's so many people when they talk about their misfortune
and why they went downhill it was from the point they left a smaller
group of scholars they say when commenting on this Hey their
shyness is like that as well.
For both male and female
once that shyness disappears brothers to go to lose control of
yourself
what was insane now becomes a norm and you become desensitized to it.
There's no boundaries whatsoever after that for both men and women.
Is that clear brothers? Right? So also when you look at you know the
the misfortune that fell on to some of our sisters, it was
because of what becoming too comfortable with the opposite
gender. Some I saw that
the shyness started diminishing One thing led to another and
before you know it, she was naked
and him as well.
Cena with one another.
So with no sense of shyness, he says they were joking and laughter
and there was no sense of shyness, with sensitive topics such as *
and woman's private matters being mentioned.
This was usual and was even accepted and regarded as
desirable.
Although I indulged in these things along with them,
my conscious made me feel guilty.
Then the day came when it became quite clear just how ugly and
filthy this atmosphere was.
The telephone rang and I had the voice of one of the friends in
this group.
I said Hello Tim, and apologize that my husband was not home. He
replied that he knew that the husband wasn't home. However, he
was calling to speak to her.
He was calling to speak to her.
Have the suggested starting a relationship with me.
I got very angry and spoke harshly to him and cursed him.
All he could do was laugh and say, don't try and show me these good
manners.
Go and check on your husband's good manners and see what he is
doing.
I was devastated by what he said. But I put myself together
and said to myself, This person is only trying to cause the breakup
of my marriage. But he succeeded in planting the seeds of doubt
concerning my husband.
Shortly after that, the major disaster struck. I discovered that
my husband was cheating on me with another woman.
It was the matter of life, or death, as far as I was concerned,
I found my husband.
And I confronted him saying, You are not the only one who can have
a relationship.
I have received a similar proposition. Remember that phone
call?
And I told him
about his friend. He was stunned and absolutely shocked.
I said, if you want me to respond, in a similar manner,
to your relationship with a woman, right, and this is tit for tat.
This was a huge slap in the face for him. He knew that I did not
intend to do that in reality, but he realized the great disaster
that had before in our lives, and the immoral, the immoral
atmosphere in which we were living. I suffered a great deal,
until my husband finally left that loose woman
with whom he was having a relationship with, as he admitted
to me. Yes, he left her and came back to his family and children.
But how can I ever feel the same towards him? As I used to,
you will restore respect for him or who will restore respect for
him in my heart. This huge wound in my heart is still bleeding out
of regret and rage at that filthy atmosphere. It still bears
testimony to the fact that
what they call innocent get togethers are in reality, anything
but innocent. My heart still begs for mercy from the Lord of Glory.
How do you guys feel after hearing these two incident brothers
it's heartbreaking right? pierces through the heart.
I share a couple of my experiences in sha Allah Tala.
This next one has been titled intelligence can also be a
temptation.
Of deferred taxes. I worked as the head of department in one of the
big companies for a long time, I admired one of my female
colleagues, not for her beauty, but for serious attitude towards
her work, her intelligence and excellent achievements. In
addition to the fact that she was a decent and modest person who
focused only on her work.
The admiration turned into attachment and I'm a married man
who fears Allah
and never misses any obligatory prayers. I cry I expressed my
feelings to her, and she rebuffed me Jani. She tried to move away
from anything that I was calling her to she is married and has
children as well.
She sees no reason why should have any kind of relationship with her.
Whether it be friendship, as well colleagues, or based on
admiration. This is sometimes excuse Right?
Which is work colleagues. How often have I read an article?
Right? The sister when she's now caught out, she says, Oh, we just
work colleagues. They're just making stupid jokes.
They're just making stupid jokes.
Why should the individual even have the audacity to make jokes
like that with me? But with the kuffaar there are no boundaries.
So here
are no boundaries. Right? Even when you look at
what is the bad moral and what is the bad was whatever was a bad and
a good moral. Right? Everyone has their own word.
evaluation on that.
Subhan Allah, evil thoughts came to me sometimes.
Our evil thoughts come to me sometimes and deep down. I wish
that their husband would divorce so I can become the husband
I started to put pressure on her work and put her down in front of
my bosses. Perhaps this was a form of revenge on my part, but she
accepted it with good manners and did not complain or comment. She
works and works her performances speaks of a quality and she knows
this well.
The more she resisted me the stronger my infatuation grew.
I am not a person who is easily tempted by woman, I women, because
I fear Allah and I do not overstep the mark with them
and go beyond what is required to my wife with this woman
attached to me. What is the solution? I do not know.
What is the solution I do not know.
The next one
is called Baby ducks know how to swim.
Baby ducks know how to swim.
A 19 year old girl tells us
at that time I was a little girl. My innocent eyes, watch those
evening get togethers when family friends would meet in the house.
What I remember is that I could only see one man who was my
father. I watched him as he moved about the room, how his glances
would devour the women present, looking at their thighs and chests
admiring this one's eyes, that one's hair, the others hips. My
poor mother had no choice but to take care of these get togethers.
She was a very simple lady.
Among the women present, there was one woman who would deliberately
try to attract my father's attention.
Sometimes by coming close to him, and sometimes were making enticing
movements.
I would watch this with concern was my mother was busy in the
kitchen for the sake of our guests.
These gatherings stopped suddenly. And I tried as young as I was to
understand and make sense of what had happened, but I could not.
What I remember was that my mother collapsed completely at the time.
And she could not stand a my father's name mentioned in the
house. I used to hear mysterious words whispered by the adults
around me. The trio bedroom, she saw them with their own eyes. She
saw them with their own eyes, despicable woman in a very
shameful position. These were the key words, which only the adults
could understand.
I grew up and came to understand
and I bore a grudge against all men.
Look how this child brothers and sisters has become psychologically
affected.
mentally disturbed
and she begins to see all men the same way because of a experience
with the Father.
You are her role model as a father right?
It is you that she looks up to
it is you that she looks up to
and takes us the ideal father the ideal husband the ideal man.
And you know children brothers.
They learn with the eyes and not necessarily so much with the is
guys agree that
what they see is what they tried to implement.
My little daughter Salah zody Allah may Allah azza wa jal, she's
one year and two months.
She didn't have that wearing this hat.
Samantha had
to sometimes picks her up and she puts it on and then she goes
running to the mirror we say
most recently
because she would see people in the house praying and what happens
when you pray you're in the silent prayer state.
Now when we say Allahu Akbar she goes down into sujood
she's one year and two months may Allah Hazaragi protector Allahumma
barik
I never taught her how to pray.
She's one year and two months but this because she sees the people
around them praying. Right? The hekman behind.
Praying your Sunnah prayers at home is what is my salon is that
of the
recite and manipulated in October, the most virtuous prayer that one
can pray is in the house other than obligatory ones. So the
people around you can get used to you praying, and they normalize
it.
Right? So sometimes we say to Allahu Akbar, and she goes down
this route. And then she lies down. She does it
because she sees a father, right? Recite. She doesn't know he's
reciting. just imitating.
She sees the jilbab. She puts it on. She looks in the mirror. She
smiles. As a mom, where is it?
They pick up like that.
Right? So now this Myskina
from a very young age would witness her father behaving in
this way.
psychologically affected, and she begins to work, paint everybody
with the same brush.
You're responsible for that. And of course, it's not right for her
to say every man is like that. But you have a big role to play.
As to why she's not thinking like that, right.
My mother was a broken woman, and accused every woman who came to us
of being a man snatcher. Or wanted to make my father fall into a
trap. My father hasn't changed. He's still practicing his favorite
hobby of chasing women. But now he does it outside of the home. Now
I'm 19 years old. And I know lots of young men, I feel great
pleasure in taking revenge on them.
Because every one of them is an exact copy of my father. I tempt
them and entice them without letting them get anywhere near
them, or sorry without them. So I'll say that again. I tempt them
and entice them without letting them get anywhere near me.
They follow me in gatherings and in marketplaces, because of my
movements and deliberate gestures. Sometimes my phone never stops
ringing. And I feel proud of that.
I feel proud of what I do to avenge
* of how
I need a woman who done whatever she did with
and my mother, sometimes I feel so miserable, and such a failure,
that he almost chokes me. My life is shadowed by a huge dark cloud.
And his name is my father.
Last story
This one is called before it's too late.
The one sharing the experiences, I never imagined that my work
circumstances would force me to be in contact with the opposite *
journeyman. So a woman now that's sharing this experience
that this, in fact is what happened.
In the beginning, I used to cover and screen myself from men by
wearing the niqab, the face veil,
as some of the sisters advised me that this dress was attracting
more attention to my presence. And it would be better for me to take
up the niqab. Especially since my eyes are somewhat attractive.
So I removed the cover from my face thinking that this was
better.
But my continuing, but by continuing to mix with my
colleagues, I discovered
that I was the odd one out because of my anti social attitude.
Sister she's trying to remain modest shrink to avoid mixing with
the opposite gender.
But then this is when they start saying why you're so antisocial.
Always killing the mood
when you're doing good when you're not engaging what in what everyone
else is doing.
Always killing the vibe
the mood
so I discovered that I was the odd one out because of my antisocial
attitude. And my insistence on not joining in the conversations that
was happening between them. Me chatting with others. Everyone was
wary of this lone wolf.
That's how they saw me. And this is what was stated clearly by one
person who affirmed that he would not want to deal with * a
smooth T and stand offish character.
Do you know what I mean? I think you guys get the gist, right?
Big words being used.
But I knew that
I was the opposite in fact, and I decided that I would not oppress
myself and put myself in a difficult position with my
colleagues. So I started to join in the chats and exchanges of
anecdotes. And they all discovered that I could speak eloquently and
persuasively, and that I could influence others.
I could also speak in a manner that was determined yet at the
same time was attractive to some of my colleagues.
Can you see how everything we mentioned earlier is actually now
what coming into
it was not long before I noticed some changes in my expression of
my direct supervisor of some embarrassment, he was enjoying the
way I spoke and moved. And he would deliberately bring up topics
in the conversations where I would see that hate for looking in his
eyes.
I do not deny the fact that I started to entertain some thoughts
about this man.
I found it astonishing, that a man could fail so easily could fall so
easily into the trap
of a woman who has religiously committed
so how must it be the case of a woman who adorns herself
and invites men to take part in immoral acts.
In fact, I did not think of him in any way which went beyond the
bounds of Sharia. But he did occupy a space in my thoughts for
quite some time. But soon my self respect made me reject the idea of
being a source of enjoyment for this man in any way, shape, or
form.
Even if it was only psychological in nature, and I stopped getting
involved in any kind of work, I would force me to sit alone with
him.
In the end, I reached the following conclusions.
Number one, she says attraction between sexes can occur in any
circumstance, no matter how much men and women may deny that the
attraction may start within the bounds of Sharia
and they end up going beyond those bounds. Even if a person protects
himself by marriage, he is not safe from the snares of the
shaytaan even though a person may be able to guarantee himself and
he works with the opposite * with reasonable limits, he cannot
guarantee the feelings of the other party finally there is
nothing good in mixing and it does not bear fruits as they claim on
the contrary, it corrupts sound thinking
what now we may ask what comes next after discussion on the
matter of mixing
these are some real life
experiences
of people who breathe just like me and your brothers and sisters
May Allah subhanaw taala help every single one of us
in protecting our hearts from fitten
I know I'm probably going to get a whole herd of questions
right people saying my workplace like that
I have no other option except to work here.
When it comes to workplaces brothers and sisters in this
country
it is very very hard to find a job that does not have women working
together agree with that
there are some
and I know there is an increase also in working from home which is
also true so
if you could try to find a job where you work from home and we're
like brothers try to find
try to find that
it is more safe for your heart for your well being
right I'm not going to give you guys a fair to say that you have
to leave your workplaces unless of course you work in
some more quote
Westfield
as a dangerous place brothers,
sisters.
Three relays guys agree that
blasting music 24 hours a day.
24 hours maybe throughout the whole eight hour shift. And it
just keeps pacing and pacing and pacing into your
life has brothers I know work that
lie the Eman
diminished.
Right?
You know Joseph Lai Allah he says,
he knew some devout worshippers of Allah azza wa jal
right
their faith, the Eman
right
was lost. He lost the EMA and you know why, because of it the law
upon another not lowering the case.
And in Westfield that is extremely extremely hot.
This is where the people come to, to dress to impress the hey
a come there to dress or to impress.
There are some workplaces
that are less problematic to others to agree with that.
As a reason why the markets are the most hated Praise to Allah has
always been
a bother they are in a lie as always JAL saw right markets,
city centers and malls, exactly the same as the market or maybe
worse No.
One should only go to these places to do whatever he needs to do and
live
shouldn't just be standing around in these kinds of environments.
And bows maybe we try to look for an alternative because you want to
protect your religion. Allah azza wa jal will make that easy for
you.
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