Abu Taymiyyah – Sensitive Issues Late Night Instagram Q&A Ust Salahudeen & Jubed
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One cannot be afflicted with a calamity or
a punishment, should I say, right?
More than being afflicted with
his heart becoming so hard.
We always start by praising Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala because he is the one who gave
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Alhamdulillah. It's a pleasure to have you astad.
First question, we're gonna dive straight into the
deep end insha'Allah. Yeah. Okay. So today in
society, in social media,
a lot of the men,
they're trying to become men or whatever society
calls us men.
And you hear this term that's been, you
know, battered around everywhere, high value man. I
wanna be a high value man. I wanna
be in the top 1%. Or whatever it
is. See this a lot with the youngsters.
So my question to you from an Islamic
point of view, what is a high value
man or is there such a thing?
This topic of being a high value man
and a high value woman
is indeed a very, very deep topic, right?
I tried
recently to do a lecture
on the qualities
and characteristics of a high value man in
high weaken,
right? But,
I only managed to go through 3 out
of the
9 characteristics that I had written down. So
this requires a very in-depth lecture
for us to give it its due right.
However, one thing I will definitely say is
that,
what really really matters at the end of
the day
is how Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala perceives you,
right?
You can be somebody who is praised by
society,
right, seen as the high value man by
society,
but then you are absolutely
nothing in the eyes of Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala,
right?
Today you find individuals who do things for
the sake of people,
forgetting that it's Allah
who raises an individual.
Right? Remind me of something that Ibn Jazir
Muttalai mentioned when he said,
It amazes me how an individual
really goes out his way to please others,
right?
And in the process, he displeases Allah He
enrages him, and he
forgets,
that the hearts of these individuals
who he is really going out his way
to please, right?
Their hearts are in the hands of Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
right? So if you're somebody who
is high value, right, in society, in the
eyes of the people, but in the eyes
of Allah
you're a sinner, you're somebody who enrages him,
you're somebody who displeases him,
does it really
make a difference,
right? Does it really make a difference,
right? And as I mentioned before it's Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala who raises,
right.
You may think to yourself that these individuals
that you see who are extremely muscly
and wealthy,
right,
they have
happy satisfying lives.
But the reality of the matter is, as
Malik Medina rahmatullahahi
mentioned,
right? Ma'aduri ba'Abdun.
Bishayin A'avam and Qaswatul Kalb. SubhanAllah.
1 cannot be afflicted with a calamity or
a punishment, should I say, right? More than
being afflicted with his heart becoming so hard.
All these people that you see all of
these people that you see, they have the
cars, and they have the women, and whatever
have you, right? Just ask me. Sometimes I
speak to rappers.
They message me on Instagram.
Quite, you know, a few of them.
And, and subhanAllah, at times they are, you
you know, extremely sad and miserable, and they're
asking for advice. Some of them, you know,
cry themselves to sleep, and they have all
the money.
They are what they call today
high value
men,
right? With the money and the girls and
the cars and whatever have you, but subhanAllah
they've been afflicted with that hardened heart,
that spiritual emptiness,
that money can't buy.
Right? And we forget this, wala, we forget
this. You can have all of these materialistic
things, but if your heart is empty,
right, then
what are you guys actually gonna do? How
many rich people are actually killing themselves, commit
suicide even though they are
wealthy professionals?
Mhmm. Does that make sense? And I always
mention this, Ryan. I'll mention it again for
the sake of the viewers because I know
the audiences are very different,
especially to those Shabaab
who idolize
and glorify and venerate
these YouTubers,
right? You have the likes of Logan Paul.
I think everybody knows Logan Paul.
It's Hadid and Logan.
Because of the works in those
KSI, Justin Bieber, FouseyTube. FouseyTube, the other day
came out. What did he say?
Because I started praying. I left off *.
I left off,
mother. What else did he say? He left
off drinking, girls, dinner, and whatever have you.
He left off all of that, and he
started praying.
And he goes, The way I feel, I've
never felt like that. Something along the lines
of what he said. So prior
to this
statement that he came out with,
right, he was every now and again speaking
about how depressed he is, how miserable he
is, and how they all are on antidepressants
and whatever have you. So some brother, I
think you guys know him, Smal Toujana, he
compiled a video,
like, small little clips of all of these
very well known famous personalities,
where they were all admitting this, confessing to
how they really are behind closed doors. I
remember sending this video to my little brother
and I said to him, what do you
think?
He was like, ah, they they lived double
lives.
Right? It's a face in front of the
camera. What we see on Instagram and TikTok
and Facebook and other media,
allahi brothers and sisters, all fake.
It really is all fake.
Yeah.
Remember that woman, on there's some woman on
TikTok, and she,
she got caught. The camera kept like, it
was Oh, yeah. Yeah. I remember that. Yeah.
She was telling a kid or something to
carry on crying and makes you cry like
this and stuff like that. SubhanAllah.
Even though Surah Al Khurr SubhanAllah, somebody showed
me this, right? I think it was my
cousin or something, right?
That it was this girl who was on
just normal class. I think that's what they
call it, right? Normal class on a flight.
Oh, right. Okay. Economy. Economy. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah. She was on economy class. However,
she managed to sneak into,
what do you call it? Business. Business. Business
class, sorry. Yeah.
Business class, right? And she was taking pictures
on
there while she's in business class, showing the
world that she is a high class flyer,
if you wanna call it that.
Right? And then SubhanAllah, there was somebody on
the flight that I think followed her on
Instagram.
She ended up taking a picture of her
while sitting on economy class, and then they
exposed her.
So a lot of that which we see
brothers and sisters on social media isn't actually
real.
And we tend to sometimes compare our lives
with the lives of those that we are
so glued to on social media,
right. Even subhanAllah I'll tell you guys this
right.
When I was in Medina, he spent hours
in the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam's masjid,
just sitting there in the same place.
And sometimes I would I would sit near
you know the the corridor if you want
to call it that or the passageway through
the
Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam's masjid.
How many times did I see an individual
looking miserable? Wallahi, you could see on his
face it looks miserable.
He'll take out his phone,
I think it's Snapchat, right, or whatever else
it is,
and his face completely, he smiles like that.
Allah,
Allah, he takes out his phone,
and then as soon
as he's finished recording that 25 second clip,
he puts his phone down.
And one time even, SubhanAllah, there was eye
contact between me and one of these individuals
and you could see that he felt extremely
embarrassed.
I'm sure you guys remember also the,
the biggest,
should I call it, you know, quote in
quote out Muslim
scandal on Instagram.
Guys remember, you guys know what I'm talking
about, I don't like name dropping. From London?
From London. Yeah yeah yeah. Right? Walaheed you
know I was at times
being invited over to arbitrate between husband and
wife.
And there would be times when the wife
would say, look at that brother,
how he treats his wife. You know, they
would post small little clips of them jumping
up and down the bouncy castle, right?
And on the bed.
And and the women are looking at this
thinking, my husband doesn't do that.
Yeah. Yeah. Yep. Look, why can't you be
like him?
And then you had brother saying, oh, look
at this,
what do you call it? A three way
relationship, right?
That makes sense. Oh, he's letting his well,
his wife is letting him best friends. No,
no, no. His wife is letting him be
polygamous because he ended up getting married after,
and then they all made it look like
that they are they have this perfect
Marriage.
You know, three
way or triangular
marriage, right?
Only for one of the co wives to
come out and say how depressed she was
and it was the worst time in her
life and whatever have you. The point is,
brothers and sisters, what you see on the
world wide web, and that's what ww for
those who don't know, is maybe just a
moment
of people's
day to day lives.
You see just a moment, we can't even
say it's a minute. So maybe what?
A fake 5 seconds.
People see and think that this is how
they're living
and it makes them so ungrateful. Allah has
blessed you so much.
Allah has blessed you so much. There's a
reason why Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam says,
Look at those who have less than you,
don't look at those who have more.
It causes you to become thankful of Allah.
You keep focusing on that which other people
have and you forget what you have.
That's so ungrateful.
You know there are people in Africa, in
other parts of the world, just look at
what's happening in Pakistan. Well I just a
couple of hours ago I tweeted, Make dua
for our brothers in Pakistan and sisters in
Pakistan.
A third of the country apparently,
is underwater.
It's flooded.
People are going through that and you are
sitting in the UK, right, complaining about your
council house.
Why there's so many people who wish to
have a council house,
right? So be grateful, sit down and count
your blessings. And when you do that, you
won't be right,
you won't become affected,
right, by that which you see on the
world wide web, which is a huge problem
and it's a huge mechanism
for depression.
So
I've got a question.
Just going back to the kind of double
lives, people living double lives and stuff like
this.
What do you think, in your opinion,
is the cause of that?
Obviously, I'm sure there's many causes,
but what do you think is kind of
the main cause as to why people kind
of live double lives? They come out on
the world wide web showing a particular face.
Right? And that is because people live off
praise,
of likes.
I'm sure you guys have heard of dopamine,
Yeah. Right? It's no it's no different to
the drugs that people consume today. The more
likes that you get, the more better that
you feel.
Are you getting a lot of views, that's
what keeps people ticking today,
right? To be perceived a certain way, subhanAllah,
to a lot of people is more better
than actually feeling the power.
Malasif al shadeeth. Because they see all of
these people getting attention,
I want that as well. They receive a
little bit attention, it makes them feel a
certain way.
But though you don't realize this is all
extremely artificial,
alas fashadeed.
And
it's the love of praise, right? Which is
a sickness at the end of the day.
Even you know the sharia
speaks to us about
loving praise and whatever have you and what
you could do to an individual.
That's why
the Messenger said,
If you see those who constantly praise,
then get dirt and throw in their face
because of the kind of impact it could
have on the one being praised.
It can be extremely dangerous.
And here's your answer, right, it leads to,
this kind of outcome.
So
would you say there's a connection
between
sincerity
and living a double life? Without Sharav Dua.
Yeah. Right. What is sincerity?
1 of the scholars mentioned istiwaalmadhi
with them,
being praised and also being criticized,
being equal
to one another,
right? SubhanAllah, somebody criticize you,
it pulls a bone with inside of you,
right? But then when you get praise, you
get excited, even though you know that what
you're being praised for isn't actually
existent within you,
right? What we need to,
or the kind of individuals we need to
live as my brothers and my sisters,
is
caring
mainly about what Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala thinks
about every single one of us. Today people
praise you, tomorrow they're going to drop you.
That's the nature of people,
right? Today they say good things about it
and tomorrow they're dropping you. That's why Imam
Malik
mentioned,
Aslihamabeinakwabein
Allahustihullahabeinakwabeinanas.
Rectify that which is between you and Allah,
and Allah is the word you rectify that
which is between you and the people.
You want to be looked up to, you
want to be somebody who is high value,
Right? Welcome your relationship with Allah
It's as simple
as that,
right? Even didn't the messenger sala'ali
Allah raises people
because of their adherence to the Quran and
other people are actually lowered,
right?
SubhanAllah, look how Allah honors
the memorizer of the Quran
on the most glorious,
right?
Days of the or should I say nights
of the year. It's what? Month of Ramadan.
The most glorious nights
later till Qadr.
You have a brother who doesn't most likely
have
a PhD or
a degree in,
you know, being a medical doctor or whatever
have you, or engineering and He's the one
that goes past everybody and leads them. The
Quran has already raised it,
right? And the professionals are praying behind and
looking up to him and thinking SubhanAllah, right?
But this young man who comes and leads
us, well they are not the ones who
have been chosen.
Even subhanAllah, the sins that an individual commits
in his private life can really cause you
to drop in the eyes of the people.
And this is a piece of advice to
those who have
high statuses on social media, they have a
huge following.
All of that could be taken away from
you if you use your platform now to
disobey Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
You come out into the public to show
faith and then behind closed doors, you're a
completely different individual.
Sayyidina Muttalahi will say, Latakun.
Don't be an enemy of Allah
in private, and then you're a saint
in front of everyone.
And here we're speaking about those who choose
to live a double life. We're not talking
about the one who, you know, falls short
and then comes out in public and of
course he's not gonna show off his shortcomings,
right? We're talking about people who think they
can continue to deceive Allah. He got away
with it once, twice, thrice and he keeps
on
trying to get away with it, showing a
people when he stands on the minbar that
he's a completely different individual, and then behind
closed doors
he's watching Netflix and all sorts of adult
content.
A lot of people are saying so many
people on TikTok need to hear this.
And
he says
I saw
many of those,
or should I say some of those who
ascribe themselves to knowledge,
right? They stopped being conscious of Allah as
we're watching them in private.
So what did Allah do? He caused the
good that is mentioned about them in public
to disappear.
And that is because
of how their private lives were. And And
that's for everyone. I'm not just speaking about
a shaykh. It could be
someone who is looked up to in the
community,
right? To be an individual of goodness and
righteousness and whatever have you. Okay? People look
at him as certain, and then behind closed
it is a completely different individual. Allah will
expose that in visual.
So Muhammad
so He says,
So when they are present, it's like they're
not there. There's no joy in wanting to
see them, and in the heart stop yearning
to meet them.
You wonder sometimes, right? Why is it all
of a sudden this person is so beloved
to us and then all of a sudden
that just disappears?
So many people that used to be looked
up to and then all of a sudden
they dropped.
So I just tend to sometimes go off
on a tangent and over. Like I said,
it's relaxed it's relaxed anyway. Yeah. One more
thing I'll just kind of elaborate on as
well. So obviously brothers on Instagram, the the
sheikh is coming to you guys, Shaba'a.
By the way, there's there's a good question.
How do I know Allah is punishing me
or testing me? But ask your questions, yeah.
Just just just last thing, yeah, and then
we'll leave it to the people on Instagram
and the brothers in the back there as
well. Just said Ben Zakir and them as
well. Inshallah, I know they got questions. Under
the back. Yeah. Yeah. Just said, Jonah, Jonah,
Jonah, Jonah,
come on. Are Are you scared of being
canceled?
The Daily Mail is coming off you.
Right? Abu Tamia speaks too much about, LGBTQ,
so if you wanna be on the Daily
Mail, it's from them.
So, you know, again, going back to the
what do you call it? The subject of
living a double life and stuff.
So would you agree that the defining factor
kinda between
the person that does commits a sin,
you know,
privately,
is different to the one who kind of,
you know, intentionally
changed their entire life when they go,
private. And when they're outside of people, they're
totally different. Would the defining fact to be
kind of that one does tawba and one
doesn't?
You know, there are those,
okay,
who got away
with certain sins
behind closed doors and they think they can
continue deceiving Allah
while they keep their
persona in public.
That's what I'm specifically talking about. However, everybody
sins,
right? Even SubhanAllah
Ibn Taym Rahmatullahi is so powerful. He says,
right? Indeed there are sins between you and
Allah that nobody knows about,
right? If you want Allah to forgive you
then be somebody who forgives others.
So So there are so many sins that
we have, that we repent from,
that we try our utmost best not to
persist on,
right? So as soon as we fall into
it, we make tawba to Allah Subhanahu wa
Ta'ala. However, there are those who had their
own Allah, wawakha their They think they can
deceive Allah.
And this is what a hypocritical
trait, right? They had the hypocrites of the
past, they would come behind closed doors,
right? They're a different person and I mean
in front of everybody,
yeah? As Allah says,
When the hypocrites come to Muhammad
they testify that you are the Messenger of
Allah.
Allah testifies that the hypocrites are liars,
right? So the way you think in your
mindset of right, I got away with it
once, I think get away with it again.
That kind of mentality is so dangerous. I
suppose somebody who the shaytan, you know, gets
the better of him, and the repents and
his remorseful, regretful for what he's what he's
done.
It's one of those it's one of those
questions that you can it's one of those
topics that you can just keep going deeper
and deeper and deeper, man, subhanallah. But we'll
leave it to the people on Instagram. I
can't see anything. So,
so I should not forget the call. You
pointed out. So how do I know if
Allah is punishing me or testing me?
That's a very very good question. Right? We
have evidences,
from the Quran and the sunnah of the
messenger salallahu alayhi wasallam
which states that let's just say for example
when Allah says,
Never is one struck with a calamity
except due to what he has earned with
his own hands.
Also when Allah says
Corruption
has become rampant and prevalent on the face
of the earth, right? Due to what people
have committed
with their own hands.
Someone may take these 2 verses and say,
right, what's happening in Pakistan is due to
that,
because of what they've done with their own
hands. The thing is, can you say that
with surety?
It could be but we can't actually say
that with surety.
And there are other texts like for example
when the Prophet
said,
If Allah
loves an individual, He tests him.
So how do I know if it's this
or it's that?
What do you guys think?
I did see something today. I saw something
today,
of someone in the floods,
and he just someone sent it to me
a couple of about 2, 3 hours ago.
And he's actually saying that the where the
area I mean, again, don't no one quote
me on this. This is a video. The
guy speaking Urdu or something like this anyway.
Yeah. And he's saying, look. You know, this
area was been flooded.
There were a lot of idols. There were
a lot of shirk.
Loads of things taking place here. And he
goes he believes that it's, you know, a
blessing from Allah
that he's cleared all of these idols.
So literally just 2 hours ago someone sent
it to me. So Allah knows best.
You've seen that as well. Yeah? Yeah. You
know what that reminds me of?
A statement of a poet when he said,
Right? It might be something
that you dislike,
and it drags
along with it that which is going to
bring you pleasure.
That which is so beloved is hidden,
right?
That which is so beloved to you is
hidden.
However,
that which is beloved to you will, inshallah,
eventually become apparent.
SubhanAllah.
Right?
And that sometimes tends to happen,
right? How often in a minimal position we
said to ourselves, right? If that didn't happen,
I wouldn't have this today.
Anyways, going back to the question, unless you
want to add anything Sheikh. No no
no.
Going back to the question,
subhanAllah,
and how do I know if it's because
of my sins, or if it's because
Allah loves me? Can anybody say we're sure
it is either because of this or because
of that? I don't think it matters, does
it ultimately?
It's not your reaction. Exactly. So what we
should do is we should put ourselves in
win win situations.
What is the win win situation?
You repent to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
If it's because Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala loves
you, you've only increased
in the eyes of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
If it's because of your sins?
Allah loves those who constantly keep going back
to Him, He loves those who are pure.
Right?
SubhanAllah even
If you see an individual now retaliating after
he's struck
with some harm,
right? And he doesn't Yani hold himself to
account, he doesn't place any blame on himself
maybe because of what I, you know, earned
in my own hands because of the sins
that I committed.
And fa'alimannamusiba2umusiba2alhaqihyah.
I know this individual is going through a
huge calamity.
He's going through huge issues.
Then he says, if you see him not
repenting and going back to Allah, then things
will take a turn for the better.
Right? So how much is happening in Pakistan?
Is it because of their sins? Is it
because of
right? Because Allah
wants to expiate their sins, he wants to
purify them. Only Allah knows best, so it's
important for us to return back to Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala in these kind of,
situations, and may Allah
make it easy for them. Honestly, Wala, it's
heartbreaking to see that which is taking place.
Do you know what? I just remembered something.
Yes, subhanahu wa ta'ala. I was talking to
a brother a couple of days ago. He
doesn't live in England,
and he wanted to discuss something. So we
get your opinion on this as well.
In regards I know he's listening right now
as well. So in regards to,
the akhawat who are kind of they used
to be TikTok famous.
Yeah? You know what TikTok is about? Dancing
and etcetera and all that kind of stuff.
The music app. That's the way I look
at it. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And
by the way, can I just point out
for you? Carry on. Right?
Those who say that I go into TikTok
in order to benefit
or increase on my Islamic knowledge
Let me make this very clear, right? You
know, if a house is burning,
if a house is burning, would you walk
into the house to get a cup of
water to quench your thirst?
Even though water is a benefit, right? I
honestly look at TikTok like that.
Anyways, yeah, it's for the talk.
Everybody get off TikTok.
I won against TikTok.
Yeah.
I do think some of my videos are
going viral on TikTok. Yeah.
Laila of Sam.
So yeah. So, there's a sister, for example,
who's
she was very famous on TikTok. This is
not an actual person or whatever, but it's
just a question.
And she does tawbatullah as of a jal.
And then she decides that she wants to
now fix her entire entire life up. Well,
I can she has
she's known by everybody. She can't get rid
of those videos because they're all over the
place. Right?
So what does this sister do when it
comes to marriage? In fact, what does the
brother do that who's you know, he's interested
in that sister now.
What what's his stance on this? How what
what does he do? Like, she's done Tawba.
Inshallah, you know, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has
forgiven her, but
what what should he do? Should he now
look at,
you know, way up the
I think a balanced way of looking at
this
is without a shadow of a doubt, if
somebody now makes tawbah to Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala,
right, then and as a messenger, salallahu alayhi
wasalam said,
you know, past sins are forgiven. Just like
al Islam, when somebody now becomes a Muslim,
you Jibbuma
right? Everything before it is expiated and removed.
So you can't hold somebody to account now
for something that they've repented for. Then you
have of course the whole baggage that comes
with everybody knowing who your wife is,
right?
The question is, are you able to deal
with that?
Is that something that you're personally okay with?
Like I personally wouldn't be able to deal
with that. Not that I'm taking anything away
from the sister, I'm not saying that you're
a sinner and you're this and you're that.
No, she's repented and you can't hold her
to account now for something that she has
repented from,
right. Like we know that the companions, the
lives that they came from, it was extremely
extremely
filthy,
right.
And some of the companions, they were murderers.
Women used to walk around the cabin naked.
You see my point?
So,
after Alissam, all of that was expiated,
right. However, at the time there wasn't any
like cameras that would record everything and whatever
have you, but today there is. So this
is a decision you would have to personally
make. Are you okay with your wife being
all over the internet?
Honey, I don't know how you guys feel
about that,
right. And it's a decision that you would
have to make. And I think it's important
that we make it very clear. It's one
thing saying to her, oh, but you're like
this or bringing these things, actually repented from
it. Allah Azzawajid forgives kufar. And
then when it comes to,
naman, it's entirely a decision that he would
have to personally make. So what so what
about this here, for example now?
Like, obviously, everything you said is understood,
but
maybe
she lives in the west or she lives
in America or something like that where people
will recognize her. So do you think that
maybe hijrah for her moving away from that
land to a different place where she's not
known will be better for her? I'll tell
her to a niqab.
Walk around niqab. If you have an issue
with,
men just stopping
in the middle of the road and looking
at your wife because they know her from
TikTok,
tell her to maybe wear a niqab and
it might be even a good idea for
her to do so. I know here in
Lestar,
right, brothers would say this to me that
their wives in jahiliyah weren't the best.
Everybody kind of knew them, however they married
them for x y zed reason.
And some of the reasons they mentioned Allah
Mubariqiyani,
good for them. It's amazing, honestly.
However, they came to a mutual agreement that
it's better for her to wear an iqar
because
otherwise he's going to struggle to deal with
it. We are men with gaira, protective jealousy.
Why would I have a random guy stopping
me or just looking at my wife? She's
no longer that person from before. You see
what I'm saying?
So what about a brother that was,
famous on TikTok?
We have to make it fair for the
sisters as well. It's a decision she would
have to make. Do you want
any I know at times my wife,
she's, you know, she she has a bit
of a difficulty dealing with,
I'm walking and then at times sisters are,
you know, just walking past them smiling and
it's that guy, you know, it's not easy.
Honestly it's not easy. She's a woman at
the end of the day.
And sometimes sisters come up to me
and they start asking questions and of course
they don't necessarily conduct themselves the best ways
and I understand because you know
they they don't know any better. So they're
asking a question a certain way and moving
themselves a certain way.
And it's very hard for the sister to
for the wife to deal with. You see
what I'm saying? So may Allah
make it easy for them, it's a decision
you would have to make,
right? Are you able to deal with that?
You may not be able to deal with
that. And it might be something that you
don't see much of an issue,
and may Allah is what you make it
easy for you. And if you do happen
to be in that position,
and you're struggling with it now, right? Akhim
make dua to Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala
that Allah
brings peace to your heart, makes it easy
for you to go through this because it's
not easy. Salaam, in the night ask Allah
to remove this
pain that you experience.
I think sometimes what it is,
is the sins that we commit, especially the
ones we do in public,
we have to
be expiated somehow for them. So sometimes Allah,
subhanahu wa ta'ala, may give that sister or
brother that difficulty for whatever period of time,
and that will be an expiation. If you're
trying to look at it in a positive
way,
yes, you are struggling, but ultimately that is
from Allah. And you gotta be as patient
as you can because, you know, you need
expiation for certain things that you do.
It's definitely the society we're living in as
well, innit? Like Yeah. Yeah. 100%. We've understood
that when once a person does tawba to
Allah,
you're not allowed to mention that sin again
anyway. We live in such,
an unforgiving society, especially on on Twitter. Wallahi
ala'udim.
Sometimes
that which surfaces on Twitter
is an issue that an individual has repented
from, but they're so unforgiving.
It's that council culture that's come from, and
I'll say this clearly inexplicitly, right?
The people of Loth,
this is how they responded,
right?
The moment
there was a descending view
of what they were pushing as a narrative,
what was the response?
Their response was drive them out of their
homes,
kick them out.
This is exactly what we see today, cancel
culture. I know what we're talking about is
a little bit different, but this is how
people are today, right? Cancel him and there's
no way back for that individual.
Habibi, the door of repentance is open. Imagine
we dealt with you in that particular manner.
Wallahi, these
keyboard warriors are dangerous on Twitter. Honestly, Wallahi,
the way something, subhanAllah,
spreads
so virally,
in
a short space of time,
Lamstan. Yeah. I think that's that's the big
problem is, aren't it? Yeah. 100%. And also
I think it's to do with someone's intention
as well. So you're not speaking about you,
but just generally speaking,
If someone is so afraid of being canceled,
what's their intention in the first place of
being on social media? So I remember when
we had Uthmanim Farooq on,
a few months ago now. He was saying
that, you know what? If I get canceled,
alhamdulillah, it is what it is. I still
do my dawah, I still do still got
my halakat here and there.
But definitely, it's something that's rife in society.
You can say anything,
and they can twist your words, and they
can make videos of it, and you'll be
gone by next week.
SubhanAllah. You know, it reminds me the statement
of Muhammedullah,
which has become one of my favorite statements.
You know what he said?
Going against
what the majority opinion is.
Okay, I'm talking about that the majority opinion
that is false,
okay.
Don't see it as a burden, don't see
it as something that is difficult,
right? And also siding with Allah and His
Messenger
even if you're by yourself
and that is because
will be with you, He will be by
your side. And if you have Allah
by your side, why would you be scared
of being canceled?
Honestly,
when I started speaking about all this LGBT
Q stuff, right?
The shaytan is whispering, you will get canceled,
you'll be on the daily mail and this
will happen. And what's that, TV called memory
TV?
They cut everybody out and they put them
on, right? They're gonna take you out. But
I kept on reminding myself,
I'm doing this in order to enlighten our
Muslims. I am terrified that the UK will
become like America.
Some of the horror stories that I heard
that you would walk through a university campus
and you will struggle to find a hijabi
that is not wearing the rainbow colors on
her chest.
Allahuha that terrified me,
Right? And the leaders they have something to
do with that because of the watered down
position they took with the Rasul, the LGBTQ,
which is Al islamic.
For example, like we agree with it politically,
but we
disagree with it morally.
And this caused a lot of confusion. It
caused a lot of confusion.
So anyways, point of the matter is
shaytan would whisper. Shaitan would whisper.
And,
however I would keep on reminding myself
that if Allah is with you,
right?
He will protect you from any evil that
comes your way.
And
I'll emphasize Akhiv, they want to cancel us,
let them cancel us.
Canceled
in the eyes of who? Some feminists and
some,
you know, because, feminists, they always have an
issue with what I say. And he will
tell you, what are they gonna do like?
That's true. They're gonna come out on Twitter
a couple of hours and go crazy a
little bit and then what?
Right?
Wow, it's so much more than feminists. It's
a raindrop compared to everybody else or this
minority group.
Okay. I've got a question. Yeah?
Someone's, sent it DM'd us a question. So
it's
it's a good question. So the question was,
if you have committed an act that harms
another person and you confessed to this act
publicly,
how do you go about asking a person's
forgiveness for the act?
They're very very good. So,
we made mention of
how there are 3 conditions
when it comes to Tawbah
and for an act that it's between you
and Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala, right. First one
is that you have to stop the sin
there and then.
Number 2, that you have to be remorseful
and regretful about it, right. And you have
to make the decision with yourself
that
I'm not going to do that again.
However, if you have now wronged another individual,
you've oppressed another individual, there's a 4th condition.
That 4th condition is that you have to
seek his forgiveness.
Like if somebody may say if I was
Sangha and tell him that I backbited him
or that I wronged him,
this may
cause everything to spiral out of control.
So what do you do in this kind
of situation? If you fear that this will
be the case,
you can make du'a for him,
ask Allah to forgive him, and whenever his
name is mentioned Speak good. You speak good
of him. And now so long ago, brother,
message me
apologizing. I don't know who he is. He
was from the University of Al Madinam, may
Allah reward him.
And
and he started telling me that, he used
to hang around with the British.
And he goes, I used to partake in
backbiting you, slandering you, and saying things about
you. Something along the lines he said that.
And now
I always speak good about you whenever,
I'm in a gathering or something along the
lines of that,
right?
So I thought, mashaAllah, the brother,
and he he's got the conditions on on
point, right, on Barik.
So, inshaAllah, you do that,
and everything should be fine, biddhi, later on.
So what I'm gonna do now, inshallah, as,
we kinda just wrap up for the next
15, 20 minutes inshallah,
I'm gonna start reading some of the questions
because a lot of people are asking a
lot of questions.
Someone keeps asking the same questions, so we
just quickly answer that inshallah.
They're saying, can can a Muslim go to
water parks?
So obviously, the person is asking, can you
go to a water park which is mixed?
You know, you're gonna be seeing half naked
women.
If that is the case, of course, you're
gonna be seeing half naked women, then of
course that's going to
affect your heart.
And if you if you
need to go because, you know, for whatever
reason, go out a time when it's a
lot more rainier.
And,
it's very less likely that it's going to
be half naked women walking around.
I think summers are extremely dangerous.
Yeah.
It's not it's England's not too hot anyway,
so Greetings. Should be alright, inshallah.
Another question.
It's a good question. Someone said the revert
brothers have to get circumcised.
No. The asin is that they should. However,
Yani, it's something that is circumstantial.
Right? If you know what I mean. Mhmm.
You would have to weigh the masalaalayhan the
Mefasid.
The pros and the cons when it comes
to
the kind of impact they could end up
having. I think as of something that a
sheikh told me
when I was in the Medina.
He said that there was a
and he was trying to point out to
me that some really lack wisdom.
Okay. So this Riva brother who came to
the borders of Mecca,
and one of the questions they asked him
is, are you circumcised?
In order for us to let you in,
are you circumcised?
And he eventually got sent back.
And of course those who are sometimes at
the border, they might not necessarily be
people of fiqh, like people of understanding. And
apparently that brother who ended up leaving
or going back, he actually apostated.
SubhanAllah.
Right?
SubhanAllah. That doesn't need to be taken into
consideration.
But you, sir, next question from her sister.
She said,
is it permissible for women to visit the
graveyards?
It's
a bit of a controversial one,
I think that's a very good question actually.
Yeah. According to the majority
of the scholars, and this answer may surprise
a lot of people,
And also this is a position
in the madhab of Al Imam Muhammad that
she can.
Providing 2 conditions on that. Number 1,
when she does go to the graveyard,
she holds herself together,
she doesn't start wailing and ripping her clothes
off and crying
excessively and whatever have you, and
if that's going to happen, she's not allowed
to you. Go to the grave,
And this is someone also that has been
prohibited,
right.
You cannot be well over the deceased and
whatever have you. The second condition is
that she doesn't do this excessively
because there's narration which the messenger salallahu alayhi
wasalam said
Allah azza wa jal ask those who excessively
go to the graves,
right, excessively go to the graves.
Does that make
sense? So if it's going to be excessive,
this is not something that is allowed. There
is a narration that says
may the curse of Allah be upon the
women who go to the graves is actually
weak.
What's my evidence for
women being allowed to go to the graves?
When the messenger salallahu alaihi wa sallam said,
I initially prohibited you from going to the
grave, and I say to go and visit
it.
I fa'ina to the Kiraqum Al Akhirab and
the reason for that is
it reminds you of the Hereafter, like only
in need of being reminded of the Hereafter.
In fact, it may well be that they
are more in need because,
you know, at times they are
on their menses and they tend to remember
Allah Azza wa Jal much less in that
period. They don't go to the house of
Allah
as often as men do,
right? And the other evidence is that
one night the Messenger salallahu alaihi wasallam sat
in the house and Aisha went to Radiallahu
alaihi wasallam went to look for him, right?
And then she found him in the graveyard.
So then she asked the Messenger sallallahu alaihi
wasallam, when I visit the graveyard, what should
I say? And then he taught the dua.
Had it been a monkar, had it been
evil or wrong,
then as the principle goes, you cannot delay
the clarification when it's needed there and then.
And he didn't say that. In fact he
actually taught her the dua.
And there's other evidences as well,
with regards to this. Also when the Messenger
Salaam one time walked past a woman who
was
crying excessively at the grave,
Messenger salaarius advised her, and then she goes,
You don't know what I went through.
Right.
And later on, you know, she realized it
was Prophet who came running to the house.
And he could have easily clarified it to
her now that she's calmed down a lot
more, that she shouldn't be visiting the graves.
So,
providing these two conditions are met,
it is,
permissible for her to go someone may ask,
Tabe, why is it when you go to
certain countries
that they are not allowed to visit? It
may well be that
the country or the government sees it befitting
that they don't allow them to go there
because of what may potentially happen,
right? And sometimes a fatwa can change. In
Tishaar al Fassadi
Because of fasad corruption becoming so widespread,
right, and people's religion becoming weak.
Imagine now, let's look at Medina, right, imagine
if you were to open the gates for
women to go in. What do you think
will happen?
Honestly like they're struggling to control,
especially the Shi'is who come there,
who
are threatening from time to time that they're
going to dig Aisha radhiallahu ta'ala Anha out
of the grave.
May Allah deal with them accordingly. This is
what we keep hearing from time to time.
This is what they want to do in
their videos, Yaani, the clerics. This is what
they say.
So,
Yani you know,
Allahu alausthan
so especially women tend to be and and,
you know, a lot more
difficult to deal with, especially if men are
in charge. So because of that, they may
take the decision that we're not going to
let them in.
Babe, so what we do now, inshallah, because
there's
hundreds of questions,
so may Allah reward every single person that's
eager to learn about their religion.
Unfortunately, we won't be able to answer answer
everyone's questions. So how many questions do you
wanna do now,
I don't mind. I can go on.
Joseph, how long?
Yeah.
Yeah.
Look. Zach, how long? I think Joseph is
enjoying it because he's hearing,
answers that are normally not mainstream.
So should we say 10 more questions? 10
more questions. 10 more questions. Yeah. You like
the grave one, isn't it? Because it's very
common amongst the Asian community. Yeah. Here in
Leicester, innit. So now ten more questions. Wait.
So 10 more questions here. I'm gonna choose
forgive me. I'm gonna choose the ones that
I see and whatever I think
is the is is appropriate.
So there's another question.
It's a very good question. Someone said and
they keep writing as well. And everyone's kinda
saying, yeah. This is a good question. Someone
said, when someone starts to seek knowledge,
is it wajib upon that person
to now spread
it? Oh. Mhmm. Good question, ain't it? Good
question. Like,
Somebody has just started seeking knowledge. Is it
wajib upon him to spread that which has
lent? You know the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam
said to hadith?
Convey from me even if it is an
ayah.
This is the part of the hadith that
is always quoted,
and we forget what the end of the
hadith is. What did the messengers say after
that?
Whoever
lies upon me intentionally,
let him book his seat in the hellfire.
Sometimes what happens is you happen to be
in a setting where you're being asked questions
after you started studying the deen a little
bit, and you don't know how to answer
it
or you don't have the resources to answer
this question.
So because of an ego thing, right, out
of fear of being called someone who doesn't
know that question or someone who's ignorant about
something in particular,
he ends up speaking about the religion
without knowledge.
That's very very dangerous.
Allah, we have to know our levels.
We have to stay in Our lane,
right? You learned a verse and then you
heard an explanation with regards to this verse,
you are just conveying
that which you had. However, the moment you
start adding salt and pepper to it,
and whatever
comes to your mind and whatever have you,
this is when you're playing with fire. It's
extremely extremely
dangerous.
Right?
Even Al Imam Malik,
he says something along the lines of
kafabil maraisman and you had this no. It
was
No. He said,
Right?
Indeed the one who
speaks to the people about everything that he
hears, indeed he's crazy.
I think it was Abdullah ibn Sood radiAllahu
ta'ala. He was mentioned by a righteous individual.
You don't have to
always say everything that you hear.
I mean you double check, you look into
it and make sure that it's actually correct
information. Today on WhatsApp you find, you receive
something and you send it out straight away
without fact checking.
It's important that you know that this is
what
authentic
and the correct meaning,
comes alongside it
before you pass it on. Otherwise you will
bear the sin
for spreading that which is false.
So we tell people to take it extremely
easy,
right, not to rush before the time has
arrived.
And InshaAllahu ta'ala that time will come be
the lahi al bari.
Right? Yeah. Even,
recently someone came to me,
and they've just started studying. He doesn't even
know the Arabic language yet,
or anything at all. Just started studying a
couple of weeks or whatever, months. I guess
he jumped on TikTok. Yeah. And he's now
he ain't jumped to TikTok. He's just
answering people's questions. And I just overheard him
and I said, SubhanAllah,
you know, how could you be answering questions?
Do you know what you have just answered
that question incorrectly?
And he said, how? How? It just came
to my head and I felt like that
was the correct answer. I said, subhanAllah,
you know, this is why we study hilis,
talibanilim, stuff like this, for example. So we
can understand, you know. But, subhanAllah, it's crazy,
the situation. Now people are talking about on
here saying,
you know, people are on TikTok and these
places there, but they're not even tulab I
ilm anyway, are they? No. No. They're just
people who just wanna talk about Islam, have
a little bit of experience or something like
that. Just yesterday, I was watching
there are some brothers that literally they they
were on a very bad path and they
were doing all this madness.
And then, Alhamdulillah, they feel like they're guided
and they start listening to Quran and listen
to like 10 different speakers on YouTube. And
they put on a TikTok. And one brother,
he was giving advice, Nasiyyah,
and then he completely just he's talking about
zina. He's he said, Allah says
like, completely mashed up the verse. Okay. SubhanAllah.
And then everyone in the comments,
beautiful, so amazing.
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Said not even one person
correct him, said you said incorrect. Literally, there
was about 2, 300 comments. Not even one
person correct him saying you've read the verse
incorrectly. That's normal. I I saw someone post
up a child
reciting a Quran. Yeah?
And I can't remember where it was, it
was a quite a while ago, maybe about
a couple of months ago I heard it
and immediately I thought okay, he's made a
mistake.
Let me just see if anyone's kind of
said, hey. He's made a mistake. And you're
talking about 5, 6, 700 comments. Yeah? It's
alright. And there was only one person who
said, oh, he's made a mistake here. Roman,
you're so Everyone else is like, wow. If
you put a comment on, they're like, why
don't you just leave him alone? He's just
trying to practice. He's trying to do good.
Yeah. That kind of stuff. What have you
been a hater for?
Like this is the situation that you find
yourself in, man. You know, it's a very
beautiful statement that became one of my favorite
statements, right,
When Hazrat Mahutullah mentioned,
How beautiful is silence when it comes to
sensitive issues?
How often have we seen one destroying himself
because of what he
says? We've never ever witnessed an individual destroying
himself for being quiet.
Right? Even the Arabs that are saying is
first make yourself solid and then start debating
and start discussing.
Right. And this is the speech of Allah
azza wa jal, like I know you're not
intentionally trying to distort him and saying walatarkabuzina.
You have to just change the meaning.
Could maybe say
the root letters are
you have
muraqaba, right? He's on the words in Mufaa
Allah.
Raqaba,
can that maybe mean the same thing as
well, which basically means to overlook something or
it's not to overlook but
to watch over something.
When we say muraqabatullah,
muraqabatullah
means to be conscious of Allah as a
wajah watching you.
Next question. Again, that's been I'm just kinda
looking at the questions that keep being repeated
and everyone likes it.
There's someone who said, if a person becomes
a Muslim,
then should they make a hosul?
Should one make hosul? According to the Hanabi'lah,
they said that also there's wajib.
And that is due to the hadith of
tessat,
in the in the story of
commanded him to make ghusl.
Right, so Al Hanamulillah took from the day
it is mandatory. However,
many of the other scholars they say it
is not mandatory.
The reason for that is because
many of the companions,
they would enter into Islam in huge numbers,
and it wasn't reported that they,
were commanded to do also a purification
bath. However, one thing we can all agree
to that it's recommended.
In fact, it's highly recommended because
a lot of the time when you
move away from Kufrin to Al Islam,
because of what has been so normalized by
the non Muslims,
they tend to maybe
have impurities
over their private parts and whatever have you.
You could have maybe had sexual * and
it might be in the state of jannahbah.
So because of that,
anyone should take a purification bath,
and,
inshaAllah ta'ala, that's the best thing to be
doing.
And even, obviously,
from
there's no one here's reverse here, but, myself
when I became Muslim,
I took
a Muslim straight away, to be honest with
you. And,
you know,
this is You felt like a new person,
though? The
feeling right now just gives me goosebumps.
Like,
when I became Muslim, I went home straight
away, and I went into the bath and
had a hussar. And when I felt like
I was floating in the water,
literally floating in the water. Like, it's something
that you can never like, I've asked many
Reavers as well.
You know, how do you have you did
you feel the same thing? Everyone says, yeah.
They all testify to it. Like, you feel
extremely light. Like, the whole burden
of that whole entire,
sins and everything just gone. SubhanAllah, literally. And
I was like and even my mom at
the time, my mother, she wasn't a Muslim
at the time.
And when I was in the bath, I
was just like I was just laughing.
And then she was like, listen. What have
you done? What have you done? You you
got crazy or something.
So I just told her. That's what I
told her.
But, yes, it's it's it's something you you
subhanAllah, if if there was a sign of
it being the truth
in that way, then definitely a 100%, 100%.
Well, a 100%. I became a Catholic from
being a Christian even though they're kinda similar,
and I felt like there was more things
added to me.
I felt heavier.
So, the next question,
someone has asked us. Excellent question.
How to answer a person or how to
answer someone when someone asks so let me
start again. How to answer when someone asks
you about your sinful past? What kind of
response should you give? How should you act
to that person?
They when somebody asks you about your sinful
past, do you really have to answer that
question?
No, you don't.
Allah
has forgiven it,
He has concealed it, and keep it concealed.
Right?
And I think that's a sufficient answer.
You don't need to necessarily speak about it,
unless of course there's a mustlaha, yes, there's
companions at times they would sit together,
they would reflect and ponder upon their jahiliyah,
which would make them thankful
to Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala, and this would
make the Messenger salalized them smile.
Right? Even when Allah says,
Remember the favors of Allah of Allah as
a wajale upon you?
It's Kuntum Adan used to be enemies,
right? It's Kuntum Adan. FaAllafaBaynaqulu
bekumvaasbaha2miniamatihuwana
Allah has brought your hearts together
and through His favor upon you you became
with brothers.
You
were on the
edge of the hellfire. SubhanAllah.
You are on the edge of the hellfire
for Anqada, kumma Allah has already saved you
from it.
So, yani, if it's not necessarily for that
purpose then
just being asked what did you do in
your Jahir? There's no need to
answer that,
right?
Another question that keeps popping up again.
Wearing black at funerals,
should this be done? Is it culture? Is
it a urf? Or is it something which
is from the sunnah? That's a question. To
wear black at the graveyard or at funerals.
I think that's a, Christian practice, right? Yeah,
a 100%.
It being Islamic, then I don't necessarily know
of an evidence
I want you to wear black. If anything
the messenger salallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
wear white.
And just like that wear
white inshaAllahu ta'ala.
As mrs Allah said, it's the best of
clothing,
and you should use the color white to
shroud
the deceased,
right.
So that's what we know.
As for it being black or any other
color, then we need evidence for it. Right?
So let's not imitate the Christians who
normally wear black. Let's be different. The best
salaarius would always try to be different.
Even there's hadith of prophet salaam,
he said, wear your sandals
because the Jews don't wear it.
He would try to be different from the
people of the book, and other narrations are
there as well with regards to okay.
You know, they would be wearing trousers and
the mess of Allah will say to them
not wearing Izzan on top of them. Just
to be different from them.
There's a brother here called Hakkud Din or
something.
But I don't know what question you're talking
about. So if you can just quickly write
it now so I can see because I
guess everyone's saying that question is really important,
but I haven't seen it. If you just
write it now, please, Aki.
But whilst we're waiting, inshallah, there's another question.
Someone said,
is it permissible
for men and women to go on Instagram
lives and stuff like YouTube lives and whatever?
And I think it's a good question. I'm
not trying to men and figure you out
here. Men men and women? I'm like or
you mean husband and wife going on Instagram
together? I don't know. They just said men
and women. That someone said non mahram anyway.
So Yeah. Like, for example, a woman interviewing
a man on Instagram live, a Muslim woman,
something like that.
Because you see it you see it a
lot. You do. You see it a lot.
There's even like I've seen I'm not gonna
name anyone, obviously. I've seen recently,
you know, women who wear in the club
and stuff like this, and they're going on
lies of other guys and stuff like that
Making jokes and laughing. You know, brothers and
sisters, let's now, just take this issue
back a little bit. Right?
Aisha radiAllahu ta'ala Anawam, we have the best
of women,
right? She's Givda'wah. She was very very knowledgeable.
Even Masruh, he said,
I saw the
scholars from amongst the companions
going to Aisha radiAllahu ta'ala Anha
to ask her questions about some issues they
had difficulty in understanding.
So Aisha radiAllahu ta'ala was an alima.
How she was she had we always have
to ask ourselves when we do something in
today's day and age, was it possible for
it to be done in that time? Didn't
she have the ability to come out openly
and start giving dawah?
Why it never happened?
If anything, it is praiseworthy
you know, inside of her room
is better than her praying in the living
room
because she's more concealed.
Does that make sense? And it's better for
her to pray inside of a house than
inside of the masjid. As the Messenger Salaam
alayhi wasalam said,
Don't stop the one from going to the
Masjid.
If they seek your permission, I'm not allowed
to stop my wife or my mother or
my sister from going to the house of
Allah
However, there was a condition that was mentioned:
walyahrujna wa hunnatafilat when she does leave, she
should leave unbeautified,
unperfumed, and so on and so forth. And
then there's another narration that says, wa biuutuhunna
khairunna.
Their homes
are far more virtuous for them,
right? And then subhanAllah her chamber,
her praying inside of a chamber is more
better than her praying inside of a bedroom.
Hadith
A woman hasn't worshipped Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
in a way that is better than her
coming with a taqwa and also being inside
of a house, remaining inside of a house.
Meaning that she's what? Closed off from everyone
else.
And I mean by that closed off from
the eyes of people.
The shari'a didn't say to her that she
can't give Dawah to women and they can
come visit. She can go to the Masjid.
In the women's section. She's teaching, she's propagating,
she's
calling and inviting. No problem whatsoever.
However, coming out on the World Wide Web
or on the Republic,
Aisha rather could have done that. Why did
she do it?
Right? She was from the most knowledgeable.
Always ask yourself the question, I want to
do something in today's day and age, right?
Someone may turn around and say,
but you know the times have changed, there's
technology and whatever have you, and but you
guys are coming out on Instagram.
They didn't have Instagram then,
and there's no problem with that as well
because it's just a method to deliver the
deen of Allah
Taib,
let's not go back to the issue of
the woman. The woman could have come out
into the public but she didn't. You see
the difference now?
So always ask yourself, could it have been
done in the time of the Prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam?
And if it was possible,
but it wasn't done like Aisha radiAllahu ta'ala
didn't do, then don't do it today.
Just a few more left. I think 4
questions left now, Insha Allah.
Another good question.
I think this is kind of what do
you call it? Resonates for me because obviously
this is what I do.
Someone said, do you think there needs to
be more Muslim therapists,
to help the youth?
I think you can answer that question.
And honestly, I'll answer that question. Muslim therapist,
yeah, I believe 100%,
but more kind of specific,
Muslim males.
When I was studying, I think there was
probably only
there's just one brother with me,
and he didn't finish.
You can maybe tell the viewers that what
does the actual what does your work actually
involve? Oh, yeah. Yeah. Sorry.
Yes. I'm a counselor.
That's what I do by profession.
The the modality that I use is called
person centered,
which is predominantly just basically listening to people,
listening to their problems, and then kind of
just asking questions to prompt them to try
and find out what the issues the underlying
issues are.
And surprisingly,
it actually comes from the the founder, Carl
Rogers, who's a non Muslim,
but he actually believed
that every single human being
is
born upon fitra.
He believed the exact same thing. This is
why I did to this one as as
opposed to other ones,
because, you know, we we agree with this
anyway. But, yeah, in terms of,
Muslim counselors, there are a lot of female
counselors out there.
But in terms of males,
I only know personally
of, I think,
3.
And we're talking about the whole of England.
I mean, I don't I haven't searched everywhere.
So somebody who's going through mental health issues,
is that what you deal with? Yeah. Yeah.
So we deal with mental health.
Obviously, different things, alcohol, drug abuse, and all
that kind of stuff.
I kinda deal with,
you know, mental health. Let me ask you
a question. Right? Because, of course, you're you're
you're an expert in that field. Right?
How much does this now
overlap with
what Islam teaches?
Because you know, sometimes we hear that mental
health issues are very different too.
Yani, sometimes what happens is someone may be
going through mental health, somebody says it's because
of his sins.
Right? It's because he does x y and
z due to that he's going through mental
health.
Yani, what do you think of that? Yeah.
I agree. Because for example,
I feel like always Dean related that he's
negligent in his religion and due to that
he's going through all these problems?
No. Not necessarily. So the cause of the
problem for example, depression. Yeah. Ifta Afin, that's
what you're referring to. We know that Ibn
Taymiy, radiham, waltta, a'la, said that it's the
cause of it is because you've been negligent
of your religion. Mhmm.
But how it starts is it can start
from anything. It can start from a childhood
trauma, for example,
but you didn't deal with that in the
correct way.
That's the issue here, isn't it? So,
you know
yeah. Yes. And it was being abused at
a young age and Exactly. Dealt with. Yeah.
Like what Joseph was saying earlier. Exactly. You
know? And, if you look at,
what just happened in the Masjid,
recently
with, you know, the one of the teachers
there, you know, playing with the kids and
he raped all of the kids and stuff
like this. I shouldn't have said that word
actually, but,
you know yeah. So yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So,
you know, I I know the kids personally,
and they're getting counseling now. But it wasn't,
you know we had to take them
to a Muslim counselor because no one's gonna
understand your what you really need. It turns
out. And even, you know, I don't wanna
go on for too long. Even when I
was studying at the same time, I was
telling someone this the other day, actually.
Our tutor,
she said, you know, she sat with someone,
a Muslim sister who wears hijab,
and she said to us, look. I'm gonna
show you how to,
counsel properly
and how to get to the, you know,
how to
delve into people's emotions properly.
And, you know, by the end of that
session,
that, you know, 50 minute session with the
sister, the sister broke down
and she was crying.
And I'm sitting there with the brother thinking,
subhanAllah, what is this? She's crying because she's
saying, you know what,
I need to be
something other than what I am now.
And I sat there and I said to
the tutor, I said, listen, do you know
what? Yeah? I said, if you gave me
that 50 minutes, she would have been a
lot happier
because you know the difference between me and
you is that we share the same religion
and you don't. So you've now told her
that stuff that from when she was a
child, for example, she wanted to be a
dancer.
Yeah. When she was a child, now she
knows that's haram.
Right? But this, you know, non Muslim,
counselor, and she's good at her job or
whatever but just not for Muslims.
She said to her, look, you know, there's
something called the organismic self and this is
you right now and this is what you're
supposed to be and what you really want
to be so anything you like doing then
this is you and anything on what you
are right now then this is you know
this is if it doesn't go like this,
overlap, then there's a problem here. So,
she she broke down crying. So we had
to say to her, look, what are you
talking about? What are you what are you
crying about? Like, you know dancing is a
sin. You know you can't be that. Yeah.
What it is is that you're negligent of
your religion. That's what it is. You don't
understand your religion properly. So we just advised
her to seek some knowledge and etcetera. But,
yeah, that's that's that's a good question, alhamdulillah.
But, yeah, anyway,
just to answer that, I think there should
be a lot of males getting into this
role. You know, obviously, there's a difference between
an imam.
There are many imams, ima from different masajid,
who counsel
people. And I don't think they always do
it in the best way. Not saying anything
bad about them. I'm sure they have good
intentions, but
I think they kind of misunderstand
Nasiha
and giving, you know, count counseling to the
person listening to them. So they're just giving
loads of advice to that person, but they're
not actually listening to what that person has
to say. Do you know? You see what
I'm saying? There's a big difference between the
2,
and Allah knows best.
So What about that which relates to suicide,
suicidal thoughts? Do you do you deal with
that as well? Somebody's been going through that.
Would you kind of like,
you know, have these sessions with them?
I have never dealt with someone who has
suicidal thoughts. I've had anything can be touched
and understood from Islam. Whereas from a counseling
perspective, not everything can be. So as long
as it you know, it's like science in
it. As long as it kinda coincides with
Islam, then it's okay. And when it doesn't,
it can be very detrimental. People always say,
you know, psychology, it's not just psychology. Counseling
can destroy a person. Like, example I gave
you, a sister who, you know, wearing hijab,
praise all of us salaamhs crying out saying,
I don't I don't even wanna wear this
anymore. Why? Because she went to a non
Muslim woman who told her that's not really
who you are. And there's something called,
interjected
values, which is basically they call it in
in simpler terms, it's breathed in. So it's
what your parents have told you is good,
what your parents have told you are bad.
So she's saying to her, look, not everything
your parents told you is good. Not everything
that your parents told you is bad is
actually bad. So she's sitting there with that
understanding and thinking, okay, So maybe them telling
me that I should be a Muslim
isn't good.
SubhanAllah said, this is easy as that. Yeah.
And this is why, you know, this is
why some of the questions about seeking knowledge
and stuff like this is very important
because you can't she didn't know how to
deal with that because she had great knowledge
of counseling but no Islamic knowledge at all.
So that was it, Khilas. If we weren't
there, she may have, you know, left her
religion that day. SubhanAllah. I understand.
But, yeah, we'll go back to you now,
Insha'Allah.
There's another question. Good question.
How to overcome whispers
while doing wudu? Keep
keep thinking. Oh, yeah. The person keeps thinking
that their wudu is broken.
So
nakayd is
right. And this is a leading legal maxim.
And Yaqeenu laiizul bishak.
That That which has been established
through certainty,
cannot be removed due to some doubt,
right, that has emerged.
So if you know 110%
that you've done wudu,
all of these different,
how can I put this right, disturbance that
you feel inside of your stomach or whatever
have you, And
and it just doesn't affect the validity of
your wudu because Adi Yaqeen, aizur lishek that
which has been established with certainty,
cannot be removed due to some doubt that
arises?
It's the very very handy
leading legal maxims, min from the 5 leading
legal maxims
that are mentioned by the fuqaha.
So inshaAllah whenever you have these feelings and
these disturbances,
then you can just cast that to the
side. Don't worry too much about it, and
keep it moving, right. The other principle that
the scholars normally mention is lahtiyatalil
muswas,
which basically means you know how somebody who's
not someone from muswas, you will have to
make sure
that he's done it properly.
You don't.
Do your wudu and get out of the
toilet, you got nothing to worry about inshaAllah.
It's accepted by Allah
make it easy for you guys? I mean
I mean Final three questions inshallah. Yeah.
Another question.
My Mahram isn't knowledgeable.
How can I go about finding a husband
in a halal manner?
And this I thought this would be good
because there's sister asking this, by the way,
obviously. Mhmm.
Very good question. Not so long ago, I
made a video for some of the brothers
on Sunnah match.
And the reason why I did that was
even though I was extremely skeptical at the
beginning, I was very, very,
unsure as to whether I should get involved
in any way, shape, or form.
Right?
And then one thing really registered to me,
and that is we as lecturers,
students of knowledge,
you know the masha'ikh
are constantly warning the Muslims from that which
is a faisha,
that which is evil,
right?
It's one thing identifying the problem, it's another
finding the solution.
We've got people messaging us saying, Oh shall
we use Tinder?
Shall we use singlemuslims.com?
What's the other one called? Muzmatch. Muzmatch, that's
the one. Habibi, these
social media apps are no different to Tinder.
And some of the apps that have been
created by the kuffat to date.
So
when we tell someone
stay away from something, it's always good to
provide alternatives,
right? It's always good to provide alternatives. I
remember how Sheikh Salaman Rahayla HaVidullah Ta'ala mentioned
something that stuck with me from the moment
he said it. And I think I memorized
it as it was coming out of his
mouth. He said
If you want the people inside of your
household to listen to you, then always provide
them with alternatives.
Give them enough permissible alternatives.
Otherwise they just look at us as haram
police, right? It's like everything is haram to
him. Have you told
your little sister not to go to a
restaurant that plays music? Okay you take out
another one.
You're told that don't go to this party
that everybody's going to, okay you go and
you know provide them with an alternative, go
out with them. There's so many places that
you could go to, a theme park, whatever
have you,
right? Do something in that place. Does that
make sense?
So
if I want to be warning against all
of these different apps that are no different
to dating apps, then let's provide an alternative.
There are some very good ones,
I don't know all of them and the
reason why I say, you know, sunnahmad is
because the brothers sat down with me and
they broke it down to me from A
to Z, and I can see sharia compliant.
You can't directly speak to one another. If
you do want to be able to have
a marriage sit down with the sister, you
would have to request her profile and she
would have to accept, and only then you
can contact the wedding.
And then the wedding sets up
Hey, marriage, sit down,
in the house or whatever,
and they see one another and they discuss
whether they are compatible for one another, and
this is what is called sharia compliant.
Right. So also educating the world, making them
understand
that this is how things should be done.
Can maybe, inshallah, go a long way as
well?
Right. So of course, you know, these are
just modern day ways of finding a potential
spouse.
Of course, you know, you could always
write up a profile and
ask your sister friends to
maybe send it out or ask their brothers
to send it out to different you know,
every now and again I send it to
you guys, right? Whenever a Bengali sister
messages in looking for a Bengali brother, because
I know as soon as a Bengali sister
messages me,
she's not necessarily
interested in someone other than a Banggali.
Because I know all of the pressures and
the difficulties that our Banggali community goes through,
and how difficult the older generation is,
right? Extremely extremely difficult.
And I know it's almost,
you know, you get close to being disowned
if you desire someone who's not not Bengali.
So I just send it to you guys
straight away.
Right?
Even though you guys are
moving a lot slowly.
So
serious Ihuanan, serious Ihuan. How many of you
guys are listening? There's quite a few Wangalis
in the room.
It's not I know. It's just The one
behind the camera there.
I hope that makes sense, InshaAllah.
So it's
a Yani, you think sometimes, you know, the
profiles can go round, you can ask people.
There's no harm in saying, look, you know
my sister friends,
you know, sister Saint Claire, sister friends, yeah,
honey, I'm ready to get married. You guys
know any potential like brothers do. You know,
they ask for another, you know, do you
know any sister?
No.
But you inshallah, 2 more.
I've just chose whatever I saw. Forgive me
again inshallah to Allah.
A sister asked,
can you go against your parents who do
not allow you to pray
because you've changed your Manhaj?
They don't allow you to pray? Yeah. They
don't allow her to pray. That's what the
question said. I think I'm gonna answer this
question from 2 different angles. First one is
be obedient to the creation if it means
disobedience to the Creator.
Does that make sense?
So they're now telling you to stop
doing that which is pleasing to Allah as
you're not allowed to listen,
right? Allah takes priority over your parents even
though your parents have a huge status in
society.
Why are they upset? This is another thing
that we need to really,
speak about in-depth. Is it maybe because
the moment you started practicing, you started dealing
with your parents in a very rough and
tough harsh way?
And which tends to happen sometimes amongst
young, zealous,
passionate,
practicing, you know, brothers and sisters.
It'll take you very very easy. Just the
other day when I was speaking about the
effects of sins in East London, Newbury, Masjid,
well, I really loved going to the area.
And he was it was it was filled
with Mongalis, by the way. Those who don't
know Jubett
is one of our Bengali brothers. Alhamdulillah. Like
I honestly saw I was in in Leicester
or in Bangladesh or something, right.
Like every Quran you see you just see
Muslims, mothers wearing everyone's wearing hijab, Fobbes, you
know. So
it was amazing going to Newbury,
mosque. I think it was, where was it?
It's London somewhere.
It wasn't Ilfed.
What was it Ilfed?
Anyways it was somewhere in East London.
Shayidun al kalam. I was speaking about a
brother that contacted me, I It was a
couple of years ago.
And he's a practicing brother,
right. And he's saying to me that he's
tried everything,
Okay?
And he just doesn't seem to be able
to get up on his 2 feet
to generate money and finances and whatever have
you, nothing seems to be going right for
him.
So I started asking him questions like what's
his private life like?
He said everything's fine, alhamdulillah I don't watch
any of this stuff and this and that,
and because he has since have an effect
on your
on your financial situation.
I said what's your relationship with your parents?
And this is where
a penny dropped.
Because Wullahi, you know I have a huge
issue with them, I started doing raf'ali adayin
in the salah. We know that raising your
hands in the salah is a sunnah
but many parents don't know that, especially those
from the older generation, the Asian community, they
think the moment you start raising your hands
in the salah, you're on your way to
ISIS. It's sorry to say this guy's on
his way to become an extremist.
So the brother goes, I started practicing,
you know, I became, you know, followed the
sunnah, and he's now rubbing it in their
faces.
And they're getting angry, they're getting into arguments,
like I got so annoyed with the brother,
I said to him, as soon as you
get off this phone call, go and kiss
them on the forehead.
You are not going about it the right
way. We know it's a sunnah.
It's a sunnah.
However,
do you think, Jibed, right,
if you said to a parent, look dad,
I came across as hadith and sahih al
Bukharim, show him. You think outright he's gonna
take that kitab and throw it and reject
the Sunnah of the Prophet
Most won't behave or react like that.
They won't.
Sometimes us, the way we go about
certain things especially when we start practicing,
it's really not the right way. So you
need to take it very easy.
They shouldn't hate that you started practicing. If
anything, the moment you started practicing, you should
be dealing with them in such a good
way
that softens their heart
and you are maybe able to feed them
with some information when their hearts have become
softened.
Why is it that we only advise people
when they've done something wrong?
When's the last time you invited your sister
to go out for an ice cream or
your mother took her out to the restaurant?
This guy will only hear him when we've
done something wrong.
It's not the right thing to go you
know to be doing, right?
So I think it's important that we take
that into consideration.
Take it easy brothers and sisters,
when you first start practicing I know you
want to guide the whole world to
Islam and the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam, but remember the Eiffel Tower
wasn't built in 24 hours, it took time.
Okay, so,
it's been a long one, Alhamdulillah.
I think I was gonna ask a different
question what someone wrote but I think just
from watching and you kinda see in the
life, there's been quite a few arguments and
stuff like this and people speaking What are
you arguing about? Loads of different things. Some
people making jokes as well.
So I think what we should talk about
now maybe is the last question is what
are the manners
or just give us some manners,
some etiquettes of,
being on Instagram on the Instagram live and
the Instagram live chat or whatever you call
it, whatever this is. Yeah. People are answering
each other's questions. Yeah. People are answering questions.
I don't know
if they're qualified to do so.
You know, brothers and sisters, someone asked maybe
we should go through the conditions of joking.
I'll quickly mention the 6 commandments of joking.
That's what I call it.
Commandments.
I'll comment on that inshallah to alibayf. What
I think is extremely important is that when
the speaker is quoting ayaat from the Quran
and the hadith from Prophet salallahu alaihi wa
sallam,
the last thing that you should be doing
is chit chatting amongst yourselves. And you have
a question, post your questioning, remain silent.
Right? Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala in the Quran.
Oh you believe,
don't raise your voices above the voice of
the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
If you were now sitting in the Masjid
and then a speaker, the lecturer
Sheikh, student of knowledge, and he's given a
lecture, would you behave like that? Would you
be speaking amongst no, you're gonna listen attentively.
When the Quran is recited,
right, listen and pay attention,
sit there attentively
listening to what is being said. And we're
not sitting here speaking about Bani rabbis and
rainbows, we're speaking about what Allah said and
what the Prophet said.
So speaking amongst yourselves my brothers and my
sisters is very very dangerous especially when
Allah is being quoted and when the messenger
of Allah is being quoted.
But then Allah 'Azza wa Jalal said,
Imagine all of your good deeds
becoming void, becoming nullified.
SubhanAllah.
You know from where you don't expect. And
that is because you raise your voice over
the
voice of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam.
I'm not a Prophet of course, SallAllahu Alaihi
Wasallam. However I'm quoting him. That's in his
lifetime but also after his death. The hadith
is being mentioned and you're sitting around chit
chatting or arguing amongst yourselves,
imagine all of your good deeds are now
becoming nullified because of you doing so. So
So listen attentively unless you have a question.
Right, you shouldn't even be commenting 'that was
great' or no, just ask the question and
leave it like that. Does that make sense
to my brothers and my sisters?
I think I think we need to do
a whole podcast on this, you know, because
Yes, sir. Well, I guess people are having
great questions in here, really good questions,
but some of the etiquettes are not very
good. Maybe we'll do it from time to
time. Yeah, inshallah. I think this because you
know one of the things I've really really
struggled with, honestly,
is getting back to Instagram questions.
Akhia, I wouldn't you know when you go
into my Instagram it says 99 plus
of messages that I still haven't answered, and
every time I answer it it still says
99 plus
and because it doesn't show 100,
The amount of questions and messages are coming
in
and I'm very bad
when it comes to writing down so I
tend to normally
respond back with voice notes,
and even that I really struggle with because
of how much it is,
right. So InshaAllah Allah, we'll try and do
that which is
be the light to Allah beneficial for everybody
in the near future. We have some
Sheikh Saladin and we've got, Brother Jubebed,
right, and
we've got a setup now, Omayy Allah, we
have to give a shout out to the
main man himself,
Hamid Jus that was sitting
behind the behind the wall, right, if it
wasn't for Allah Azzawajid firstly, and then our
brother Muhammad Jusab secondly,
for facilitating this for us, whom we're sitting
here
being able to partake in this khair, in
this goodness, right.
So we'll try our utmost best inshaAllah ta'ala.
And I hope you guys really understand that
I don't ignore people intentionally, I really don't.
It's just so so hard,
It's really really hard. Even sometimes on WhatsApp
a brother messages me saying why are you
not answering my questions? But I don't think
you guys understand how hard it is. I've
got over I think it's 400 or so
messages that I haven't even opened on WhatsApp.
I try my utmost best
right. I have commitments as well. I have
a family,
right.
I I still seek knowledge. I've got dawah.
It's so, so, so difficult.
So, InshaAllah Ta'ala, it says cooperation upon good
and piety.
God Muhammad Jussab who's got all of this
equipment with him here in Leicester right here,
and inshallah wata'ala we've put all of this
on YouTube as well inshallah. It will be
uploaded onto my YouTube channel. We've got some
very good quality cameras and shout out to
the brothers behind the camera.
And that which they do always goes unnoticed,
but InshaAllah it is accepted by Allah
They put in a lot of hard work,
so normally the guy in front of the
camera that gets all the plaudits.
But these brothers are doing amazing work, may
Allah bless them, try and do that which
we can, inshaAllahu ta'ala,
more and more.
Just
Happy to have you,
Lesta. You brought
honestly, you know, Sheikh Saladin, he moved to
Lesta.
And he's very active in trying to bring
the youth together by organizing programs and
right?
So yeah. JazakAllah Khayr for everyone who watched
and asked questions. Forgive us for not being
able to answer all the questions Next time,
inshaAllah, barakkalahu faykal. It's a lot of brothers
asking, come to London. I just spent a
whole weekend.
I had 8 programs
from Friday to Sunday. 8 programs brothers and
sisters.
8 programs.
I was in North, South and also East.
And because I'm on I'm in West every
Monday, we decided not to go to West.
Literally, 8 programs we had over there,
Right? And then you guys are saying come
to London. I'm actually tired of London.
Come to
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