Abu Taymiyyah – ‘s Emotional Advice To Me
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The speaker discusses their desire to meet and pray for their partner, but also struggles with their past job and personal issues. They also talk about their friend's recent death and how they encourage them to stay humble. The speaker emphasizes the importance of avoiding regret and reconcile evidence of evil behavior to avoid future regret experiences. They stress the importance of working on one's own relationship with Lord and working on one's own relationship with reality to avoid negative experiences.
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I wanna, I wanna say something to you
before.
I really love you for the circle, man.
You're a big
you're a big inspiration to me. They're a
big
3, 4, 5 years, like, when I was
in college, and then I used to go
watch your videos, especially the one where you
don't eat, where you're too reminding them about
death.
And it really even make me feel emotional
and made me cry one time, and I
just wanted to really start praying more. And
I really mean
again.
I'm sorry to hear, brother. I
mean I mean I mean I mean
I mean And, Hassan, like, like, where I
really wanna meet you on day. I really
don't there there are times where I could
have met you because you came to East
London where I'm from,
But,
I couldn't make because, I had, other things
at the time to do
and other,
tasks to do then. Things just came up,
but really started looking. I really wanna meet
you. And I
personally. Like, probably, how many job is more
know. And the and the thing is, you
tell us a lot by reminding them
what what to do and about and about
following the self assault and having correct manners
and wisdom and etcetera.
But not many of us I really ask
you, how are you? Because I know you
had, like, a rough
couple of months, and I feel like I
can relate to that. And because I had
a friend of mine. He died about a
year and a half ago.
He died of, I think it was leukemia.
I'm not sure.
But, yeah, I I will ask, how are
you? I know you're talking about a little
bit of dark times.
And I've been asking.
And, I really appreciate you asking.
But alhamdulillah, I'm really, really good.
May Allah honor you. And may Allah reward
you for your good thought.
May Allah
forgive
us for what the people don't know and
make us better than what people think.
As Abu Bakr
used to say. Make them think that I'm
better than what they think of me. Yeah.
Alhamdulillah.
You know, it's it's been rocky alhamdulillah. You
know, but there's always light at the end
of the tunnel.
You see?
And,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is the best of
planners.
Sometimes things happen which lead us
to maybe doing particular things or for us
to think a particular way or, you know,
to head towards a particular direction.
Like, it's been really rough even I remember
this semester that it went past,
it was it was so difficult to even
just, like,
study uni studies. You know?
And also would you call it kinda like
doing my own studies because of everything that
was happening, it became very, very tough.
But hamdulillah, I just finished of my some
of my exams today, and it went really
well.
And, if it wasn't me before that which
had happened to my brother, Allahu Anam, would
I be in Egypt today?
Because the plan was when I come back
for the COVID 19, was meant to be
leaving back to Saudi Arabia in the in
September.
SubhanAllah, it never even crossed my mind, you
know, in
a in a 1000000 years, I would basically
be coming to Egypt while still studying in
Madinah. Right?
Yeah. And, you know, the opportunities that Allah
gave me while being here to be able
to read
some,
on
some sheikh's here.
It's not something
that, you know,
I I really, you know,
thought about or thought that I could actually
get at this moment in my life. But
I'm really, really good.
And everything is going. You do you do
a lot for us, and you do a
lot for the you know, as much as
you wanna be stay humble, and may Allah,
you know, make you remain humble because, you
know, that the the I mean,
we have a humble and Allah will elevate
their rank. I mean keep the book. So,
Allah, it's that that you don't you don't
have a love person.
I've I really appreciate with you, then they
moved me and they touched me in a
way. I just can't really explain it to
you. Like, they made they motivate me and
you're a big inspiration to me. You know?
I have a few questions. I just have
a few questions with us, and I hope
I don't take up too much of the
time.
We'll we'll take one question. Yeah. Okay. Because
everybody else have one question, and,
inshallah. Alright. That's fine.
By the side, no. One of you I
always see one of your friends around who
you who you who you studied with, brother,
Abdul Ababal Aziz. He lives near my area.
Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Yeah.
We will do. We will do. Yeah. My
question is that I
I do okay. It's not specific to what
we but it's general, like, you know, when
we a lot of us, we always fall
into sin and some of the sin that
people don't know about us, that people think
that the way we come out of our
house, we're all righteous, and we try to
be pious, and we try to be humble,
but we always have shortcomings.
But but but you feel like hypocrite. How
do you not feel like hypocrite?
You know? Like, how do you, like you
know, I'm not explaining like that. No. I
know what you mean. No. I know what
you mean. I know exactly what you mean.
Like, you always and you always try not
to question Allah. Would Allah actually forgive me.
You try not to question that, but it's
like you question that.
Well, how can you still be doing the
same thing, guys, if you're not even self
developing? You're just doing the same repetitive thing
over and over again. If that makes sense,
I think Yeah. Yeah. No. I know what
you're saying. The
max. Yeah. No. No. No. Baraklava.
What we need to understand is that the
messenger
was telling me, he said
Every single son of Adam,
okay, is a sinner.
He never just said that he sins, but
he said he's a continuous sinner.
What
is it? It's siratul Mubalaka. There's a difference
between saying
and. Okay?
Is somebody who what?
Sins all the time. We tend to hear
this word of
kadib and kadab.
When somebody tells one lie, we call him
a kadab straight away. Kadab is somebody who
is a compulsive liar, somebody who's always lying.
A kadib is somebody who has fallen into
the sin.
So, there's a difference between these two terms.
Kadib and kadab.
Kati and kappa.
Right? So the messian of salallahu alaihi wasallam,
he said that he's the son of Adam
is somebody who continuously
and consistently
always is sinning.
This is something that is universal. You can
bring me the biggest shaykh in the world,
right?
And the biggest sinner, that which they have
in common is that they both sin.
But you know the difference between them both
is?
Messenger sallallahu alaihi wa sallam here he said,
The best of
those who continuously make mistakes are those who
always return back to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
He never said again,
Those who are continuously
all the time,
going back to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. Allah
says in Quran. But even that being said,
but even when you do that, right, but
how come you always still feel that regret?
Oh, I've done this already even though you
repented. And people always call you asking, oh,
you know, because the you know, there's this,
like, this misconception.
People think here that the minute you start
growing at the beard, the minute you start
trying to be a tiny or to love
with him, they call you and say, oh,
and they put you in such a high
pedestal. They think that subconsciously you're meant to
be perfect, but you're not perfect, and you'll
never be perfect.
And the thing and it puts and it
puts you down even more. Like, how do
you Yeah. This is basically the,
you know, the,
conceived notion that many people have of practicing
brothers.
Like, if he's not
gonna make any mistakes.
It's just basically what society has become. However,
the companions, they made mistakes.
Right?
They fell into
shortcomings.
These are the companions,
right? The companions had a past, Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala guided them, some of them were
murderers,
some of
them were highway bandits, some of them were
doing all sorts of crazy things by Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala guided. So everyone's gonna have
a past. Right? Everyone's gonna make mistakes, but
the most important thing is that a person
repents to Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala. SubhanAllah, something
that Imam mentioned.
He says,
even if he ends up falling into a
sin a 1000 times.
Okay? That still shouldn't stop an individual from
making torment to Allah azza wa jal. So
let's now come to your question, you sometimes
feel like a hypocrite, what I'm basically
assuming is that okay, you do sins and
then you see other people doing sins, oh
the shaitan is basically playing mind games and
whispering, how you gonna tell people what they're
doing is wrong when you yourself are a
sinner.
Is that right?
And also,
like, the feeling of you, like, you that
you feel like you're a fake because,
you know, the man you know, you try
you try and learn about the deen and
how he did and man and then try
and get close to Allah as much as
possible. Learn about the salaf, the sahab, and
the prophet
but you feel like you're a fake because
you've been you're still going to sin,
and you might be doing the same silly
mistakes again. And it's just like okay. If
somebody you can discuss.
What we need to understand and accept is
that,
when
you see somebody sinning,
okay,
okay, when you see somebody sinning,
you not saying something is a sin in
within itself.
You're seeing evil taking place and you keeping
silent, that's a sin,
okay?
And
so if one wants to also take that
burden
of taking that sin as all, then he's
gonna get an extra sin. You can basically
reduce that by even if you're somebody who
does that. That is between you and your
lord. However, you seeing that sin and not
doing anything about it is a sin. Okay.
So do something about that. Say something about
that. Whoever sees an evil, let him change
it with his hand. Can't change it with
his hand? Let him change it with? Speech.
His speech. No.
So, yes, of course, it's something defamed for
you to tell people to fear Allah that
you and yourself
are not fearing Allah
So this is something that you need to
change
in your private life between you and your
Lord. However,
that still should not stop you from
changing that which you see from evil in
front of you. And this is how we
reconcile between when Allah says in the Quran,
Allah says in the Quran, You command the
people with good but you forget yourself. And
also when Allah says,
Oh you believe, why do you say that
which you don't do?
Most hated to Allah Azzawajal
is that you say that which you don't
do.
Okay? So there has to be reconciliation between
all of these evidences.
Allah told you to enjoin the good to
forbid the evil, and he called them the
best of nations.
This is what makes the people the greatest
of them. This is an obligation on your
neck, so you can't just leave an obligation
because of something else that you've done. There
are 2 things that are what? Separate from
one another. Even though you need to kind
of like work on that relationship between you
and Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. What I'm also
gonna mention insha'Allah, and I think this is
very important and the attendees can benefit from
this.
If somebody constantly keeps going back to that
same sin.
Okay.
And I think most people can rely, they
make tawba and they regret it and they
feel bad inside.
Okay. He's doing well couple of days, and
then he falls into that same sin again,
whether it's him watching something he shouldn't have
watched, being addicted to that particular sin under
his blanket, whatever it might be, it falls
into and then he feels dead inside again,
spiritually dead as they call it. Wallahi guys,
if you keep sincerely repenting,
even if you keep falling back into that
sin but you keep sincerely repenting and you
show Allah Azza wa Jal that you want
to change this and that you wanna get
rid of this, Wallahi Allah is gonna help
you. Allah says in the Qur'an,
If Allah sees that goodness in your heart,
He's gonna give it to you.
Shaitan,
the way do you really guys wanna know
what he's really accomplished
in his plots and his plans?
Is the moment
he makes you feel like a hypocrite and
you stop making tawbah to Allah
That's when he's gonna be pie.
The moment he gets the better of you
and he makes you feel like that which
leads you now to not repent to Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
then this is basically what the Shaytan wants.
And,
no. So, my brothers.
Say, for example, let's say, like, you forget
about Allah for, like, come and have a
long breath. Will Allah still remember you?
Have you?
Let's say, for example, like, sorry. Sorry.
No. It's fine, sir.
You forget about Allah. Let's say it's like,
have a long. Right? Will he still remember
you?
So the question that you're basically asking is,
if you turn away from Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala, will he turn away from you as
well? Will he,
keep remembrance of yourself?
Without a shadow of a doubt that if
a person now turns away from Allah azza
wa'ala is gonna turn away from him as
well. However,
with you repenting, you're actually running back to
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
You're
running back to Allah azza wa Jal
As the messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, Allah
becomes extremely happy and rejoiceful when His servant,
what? Repents it.
Yes, as much as you might turn away
and Allah
distances himself from you, taman,
okay?
You can run back to him and that
door is always open, that door is always
open.
We don't need to go through
a human being to get to Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala. We
have Allah Azza wa Jal who is ready
to open his doors of mercy at any
time of the day,
in any place, any time.
Right?
But it's down to us.
If we really think about it, we sin
sometimes.
And do we actually repent?
Days might go past and we've totally forgot.
As long as we keep that tie, right,
between us and Allah Azza wa Jalal, I
was constantly running back to him and insha
Allah ta'ala we're upon khair, and it's only
a matter of time before that individual
gets rid of his bad habits.
I remember those one of your talks, and
it really moved me. And I was on
it was, like, a few years ago. And
I was, like, 2, 3 years ago. I
remember you said that
I can't remember which talk it was, but
I remember you said something like,
no matter what happens, if you take many,
many steps away from Allah, it only takes
one step to come back to you. I
remember you said that. And then you said
to in a in one of your, like,
public, like, street
that the agent of death will send you
a WhatsApp message or a Facebook Messenger or
DM. And so always turn back to Allah,
and he meant you to a customer.
It really moved me and touched the heady
pressure.
I'm sorry if I took much of it.
No. No. No. No. Exactly. And I think
everybody else benefited from this. These are topics
that, just about everybody who's attending today
can benefit from, So you
for asking this very important question. And may
Allah unite us in this dunya before the
hereafter.
And if you don't meet, you know, hopefully,
we'll see in the hereafter.
Yeah. Well, thank you so much. Habibi. Habibi.
Habibi. Have your time. Saving this, life. We're
gonna we're gonna try and save