Abu Taymiyyah – Prt3 Social Media sending nude pictures in the husbands absence

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The conversation discusses the impact of recent incident on the rise of "day" and the use of social media to advertise oneself. The speakers touch on the issue of marriage and how it is difficult to avoid social media, as it is often a common problem in society. They also touch on the difficulty of avoiding certain ways of marriage, such as referring to certain ways outside of marriage.

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			As more time goes on, as the year
		
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			goes on, you find that the hijab changed.
		
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			How the guys are towards the women changes
		
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			altogether.
		
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			The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, he told
		
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			us about the day
		
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			youth. The day youth.
		
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			The prophet
		
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			said,
		
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			3 people,
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will look at them.
		
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			One of those that were mentioned
		
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			was that they youth. That they youth is
		
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			the guy that has no hira over his
		
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			women.
		
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			He has no protective jealousy
		
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			over
		
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			his
		
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			women.
		
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			He's from the worst of the people.
		
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			And the jannah on
		
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			him. Coming out with your wife on YouTube,
		
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			you're making videos together. A 1000000 guys can
		
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			see her.
		
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			This this bro who who was he mentioning?
		
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			There's this YouTube channel. I think it's called
		
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			Dina or Weber.
		
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			Now everybody watching, they tell you,
		
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			we've done this today.
		
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			She rips off his wallet
		
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			and then he goes and maybe breaks her
		
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			makeup
		
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			and they're recording this, and how many hits
		
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			are they getting? 400, 500,000,
		
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			for for for each video.
		
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			Who are we following?
		
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			Why where is like the world coming into?
		
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			The people that we're following.
		
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			Well, I understand if the people are following
		
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			a scholar.
		
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			But today we're following guy who says, this
		
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			how I do my imamah. I walked in
		
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			the toilet today and I came out.
		
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			People are tweeting and retweeting a tweet. I'm
		
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			currently sitting in the toilet.
		
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			People are following these kinds of people, and
		
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			it's not surprising and don't be astonished.
		
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			Don't let it surprise you.
		
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			A one eyed liar is gonna come, the
		
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			Dajjal, and people are gonna be following him,
		
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			with anyone else.
		
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			And nobody is gonna say to him,
		
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			where's your other
		
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			eye? Nobody's gonna ask that question. People are
		
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			just gonna follow.
		
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			The majority of hits goes to pranksters.
		
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			People like Adam Saleh that, you know, everybody
		
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			loves
		
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			pranks.
		
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			I do this to this guy, and then
		
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			he does this to me and then the
		
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			life goes on like that.
		
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			It's a sad situation.
		
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			Well, life is very, very sad, and we
		
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			forgot Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. We don't know
		
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			what day is.
		
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			A point that I wanna mention, brothers and
		
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			sisters,
		
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			does any anyone here not have a credit
		
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			card? Oh, sorry. Not credit card. I love
		
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			that. The debit card.
		
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			A debit card.
		
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			Is there anyone?
		
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			You don't have a
		
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			I do.
		
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			I'm sure every single person here has a
		
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			debit card. They've got some sort of money
		
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			maybe in their homes,
		
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			putting it somewhere.
		
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			Ask yourself, how much do you look after
		
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			your money?
		
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			The gold that you have, wallahi, I've been
		
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			told about people who do benefit fraud,
		
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			benefit fraud. They're lying to the government to
		
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			take that money.
		
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			They can't place in the bank because they're
		
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			gonna get croaked.
		
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			The government is gonna find that they can't
		
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			place. They're basically placing in their homes under
		
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			the
		
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			carpets.
		
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			One pastor has to always stay in the
		
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			house to look after it.
		
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			They can't leave the house
		
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			without full contention. They can't.
		
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			Because they put the money all over the
		
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			carpet to Allah, the guy that ends up,
		
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			you know,
		
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			robbing the house
		
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			is
		
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			and I couldn't look how much we look
		
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			after the money
		
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			that's inside these materialistic
		
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			things, the Louis Vuitton and the Gucci, and
		
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			every time something goes on, we get a
		
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			paper, and then we try to wipe it
		
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			off.
		
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			But then when it comes to the women,
		
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			when it comes to our wives,
		
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			aren't the wives and the daughters and the
		
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			girls more precious than all these things?
		
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			But there's no.
		
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			We don't mind. Everybody come look at my
		
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			wife.
		
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			Rather, we wanna walk around with her
		
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			so everybody can see and everybody can say,
		
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			oh, that guy is married to
		
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			a nice girl.
		
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			She's very good looking. It's become like a
		
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			show enough game, like a trophy that everybody
		
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			shows off.
		
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			The third thing that I wanna mention,
		
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			inshallah, is the woman now that goes behind
		
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			I think it's fair now, ain't it? The
		
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			guys and then the women oh, sorry. The
		
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			women and the guys. And then we'll just
		
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			balance it out now.
		
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			The woman that now goes behind the back
		
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			of her husband,
		
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			that's from the guys wallahi saalehi.
		
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			Righteous individual trying very hard
		
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			to look after his wife.
		
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			He tells her what's right and what's wrong
		
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			as much as he
		
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			can, and he leaves everything behind for her.
		
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			What happens after that?
		
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			She goes behind his back and she starts
		
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			using social media, whether it's Facebook, whether it
		
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			is displaying herself without hijab and webbing
		
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			The prophet Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam told us
		
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			3 people don't ask about them.
		
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			One of those that was mentioned was a
		
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			woman now.
		
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			She was given everything that she needs.
		
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			He left her behind
		
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			in her absence. In his absence, she's there.
		
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			She starts violating his kindness
		
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			and then she goes behind his back displaying
		
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			herself all over the internet.
		
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			The prophet
		
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			said,
		
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			3 don't ask about
		
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			them.
		
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			The matter is serious.
		
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			She goes displaying herself behind the This is
		
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			why when the prophet
		
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			said, because it's very very common.
		
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			The dunya is just a small enjoyment,
		
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			and the best part of this enjoyment is
		
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			to get married to a righteous
		
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			woman. Then he mentioned some characteristics. The guy
		
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			will now write it down in it.
		
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			The prophet
		
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			When you look at her, she makes you
		
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			smile.
		
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			And when you command her, ask her to
		
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			do something, she does it for you straight
		
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			away. The third thing that was mentioned,
		
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			And when you're absent from her, she preserves
		
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			herself,
		
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			safeguards herself, and she safeguards
		
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			the will.
		
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			So that's the reality of the matter.
		
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			Because it's very very hard, the prophet sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wasallam
		
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			has mentioned this in his hadith.
		
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			So how does Insha'Allah, we've got 5 minutes.
		
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			He just gave me the
		
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			paper.
		
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			How does one now maybe get away from
		
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			all of these problems on social media,
		
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			whether it is fits in a gram, Facebook,
		
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			Snapchat,
		
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			wherever it might be.
		
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			Well, I I believe after looking and also
		
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			the solution to this is want to
		
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			married. The solution to all of this. Why
		
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			is the girl going on to Facebook?
		
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			A lot of of time is because she
		
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			wants to grab attention.
		
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			For those that don't know women, they crave
		
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			attention,
		
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			and they wanna grab attention for a guy
		
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			to look at it and make her feel
		
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			better, etcetera.
		
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			If she gets married or he gets married,
		
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			all the attention, it goes between the spouses.
		
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			And it's simple as that.
		
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			But the problem is today, and inshallah, try
		
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			to make this as quick as possible. The
		
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			problem is
		
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			that
		
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			the issue of marriage, things that have been
		
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			made halal in our religion very very clear
		
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			and easy.
		
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			We as a society,
		
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			cultures
		
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			have made it very, very difficult.
		
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			As if it's some big thing about the
		
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			fool on him when they hear the issue
		
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			of marriage.
		
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			You need to have this
		
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			£10,000,
		
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			the guy says to him as if they
		
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			buy some gold or some house or some
		
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			debt.
		
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			He needs to have a car. You need
		
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			to have a degree. You need to have
		
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			this. You need to have that.
		
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			It's been made very, very hot,
		
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			and Allah
		
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			tells us the
		
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			acts
		
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			Allah hasn't placed any
		
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			hardness in your, you know,
		
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			hasn't made it difficult for you inside your
		
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			religion.
		
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			And because of this, so much
		
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			takes place. How many examples?
		
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			How many examples?
		
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			I'll just tell you about
		
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			anyone else. We're just here, about everywhere else.
		
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			The girl wants to get married to the
		
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			guy or the other way around. They go
		
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			to the parents, the parents say no.
		
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			You need to bring a guy from this
		
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			He has to be.
		
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			You're this,
		
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			you're this, and you're a sharaf.
		
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			All from different tribes.
		
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			Even if they are Somali together, they can't
		
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			get married.
		
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			And it's more common in Somali than any
		
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			other from what has become apparent to me.
		
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			And what happens? They end up doing Haram.
		
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			Allah
		
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			look made it very, very easy for you.
		
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			Made matters.
		
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			You closed off. You went against the sunnah.
		
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			What happens He ends up getting pregnant.
		
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			Then the humiliation and the aid comes to
		
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			the family.
		
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			And before people find out, they try they
		
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			try to get the marital together straight away.
		
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			The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, he said
		
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			to us,
		
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			Whoever comes to you now
		
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			and you're satisfied with his
		
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			and also
		
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			his his religion, then get him married off.
		
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			Either you do this, there's gonna be a
		
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			trial, facade, corruption upon the earth. And what's
		
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			that corruption today? The muharramal, people going behind
		
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			each other's backs.
		
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			The parents' backs. He goes and sleeps with
		
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			her, She sleeps with him.
		
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			A child comes, then they do it.
		
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			Before the humiliation comes, the matter has been
		
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			made very, very easy. Brother
		
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			is contacting me from Canada and America saying
		
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			to me that beaded guys.
		
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			Bearded. They're not just any random guy running
		
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			around the street
		
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			with the kameez, mashallah to a very high
		
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			level.
		
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			Trying to follow the sunnah. They go up
		
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			to parents saying what? I want to get
		
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			married to your daughter 20
		
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			$1,000.
		
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			You need to bring $20,000
		
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			for the maha. You need to have your
		
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			degree. You need to do this. Otherwise, no.
		
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			So people, they start referring to Haram ways
		
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			whether it is watching * and things like
		
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			that.
		
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			Just the reality. No. I don't wanna go
		
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			around the bush or anything like that, but
		
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			this is what goes on.
		
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			You find that the older
		
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			generation will light it very very hard.