Abu Taymiyyah – Part6 $20,000 dowry or pornography Advice to parents in Canada & America
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Brothers and sisters inshallah wata'ala
this is an advice
and I don't want anyone to
get offended.
And Insha Allahu Ta'ala, we hope this advice
reaches our beloved parents,
the moms and the fathers,
so that we can all try and address
this situation
and solve it
properly
in the best possible manner.
And the religion is advised.
The religion is advised as the prophet
told us what
the religion is advised.
And also, jari'bna Abdullahahu
anhu he said
We gave our oath of allegiance to the
prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
in listening and obeying. And he came in
another narration to establish the prayer
and to establish the Zakat as well. And
that which came after that was
one
Muslim
to advise
every single Muslim.
And wallahi parents,
mothers and fathers,
the only reason why we're doing this Insha'Allah
is to
advise one another.
I'm not trying to have a dig at
any of you lot,
but just to Insha'Allah
to cooperate in good and piety as Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala told us.
Cooperate
in good and piety and do not cooperate
in sin and evil.
So this issue we want to discuss today
insha Allah is a rising problem.
Is a very
problematic matter
which is causing Fassad,
corruption upon the Earth.
And sometimes we wonder to ourselves why is
this corruption taking place? Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
has told us.
Corruption
has become apparent upon the earth due to
what the people have done with their own
hands.
And Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says to us
also
Never do you get afflicted with an affliction
except with that which your
hands have earned.
So this issue is
asking
for maybe $20,000
when it comes to the dowry,
if a young righteous individual comes up to
you
requesting to get married to your daughter.
Well, hi parents.
Brothers have contacted me from Canada, from America,
and apparently this is an issue in places
like Australia and many other places.
The parents
are requesting maybe $20,000
for the Mahar
because
or after a young individual comes
to maybe ask for his daughter's hand in
marriage
and the other things that are put forth.
Do you have a degree? And if he
doesn't have a degree and if he doesn't
have his money, it's a no go.
Fathers and mothers,
may Allah
bless you all.
The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam told us
Whoever comes to you and you're satisfied with
his deen
and with his etiquettes, his huluk,
his manners
and marry him off.
Either that you do this
or there will be fitna
and there will be corruption upon the Earth.
Why is this corruption that we have today?
And fathers,
I'm not gonna go around the bush and
I'm gonna be very very clear on this
issue.
Your children
are watching pornographics.
They are watching pornographics.
Naked men and women
having sexual *
in order to fulfill their desires.
Why is this fasad that the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam has talked about?
It is this kind of fasad that we
have on the ground today.
Our kids
are watching what? They're watching pornographics.
Either they have a girlfriend going behind your
backs
or they're watching these
filthy
films
behind your backs when you are going to
sleep under their pillows
and under their duvets.
Oh, fathers and mothers, wallahi, this is the
reality of the matter.
A sickness
that is worse than what
drugs and being alcoholic. Why?
An alcoholic,
as soon as a Muslim
brother or a Muslim sister goes and drinks
alcohol, we can smell it from them. We
can see them drunk.
They come to the home, we know that
something's up.
Likewise, a drug dealer, you can smell it
on him,
you can see the druggie
on his face, on his body, the drugs
that he's been taking.
As for the individual now that watches *,
it is something
that even if a big sheikh with a
beard
is doing it, nobody can realize.
It is something that is hidden between all
the people,
from all the people. It is something that
a person does privately.
The side effects are many
of what can happen, but this is not
the thing that we're currently speaking about.
The mere fact,
and I'm not trying to say they're right
for doing this,
but there is causes. And one of these
causes,
a righteous boy comes to your house,
and he wants to get married to your
daughter, and you tell him 20,000 or $30,000.
How is this now going in accordance to
the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam statement
There's something in our religion called what goes
around comes around. We tend we tend to
hear this in our schools, from our teachers,
and etcetera, but it's something that has a
basis in our religion.
Imagine now you had a son who failed
in his academics.
He didn't get the correct
or he didn't get the
level or the degree that you wanted him
to get, and now he wants to get
married.
The prophet
told us, getting married it is better for
the eyes and it is also
better for the private parts.
Your son now wants to get married,
he doesn't have that kind of money. Imagine
the same thing that you've done
now takes place against him.
What goes around comes around is part of
our religion. What's the proof of this?
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala he tells us a
certain
And let those people
who take the wealth of the orphans, let
them be fearful.
If they were now to leave behind weak
offspring,
it
would happen to them as well.
Because you have been eating the wealth of
the orphans, what happens?
The same thing comes and it happens to
your weak offspring
because you done it with your hands.
Fathers and mothers,
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has told us in
the Quran,
and fear for this fitna does not only
going to afflict the oppressive ones, rather it's
just something that is going to take all
the people.
This is that which is
on the ground today,
and I'm going to try and be as
straight up as possible.
And this is what I've tried to do.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is not shy of
the haqq. This is the reality of that
which is taking place in our communities.
Wallahi brothers have sent me how many messages
regarding this issue, pornographics.
We're trying to get married but the parents
are telling me this.
We go to another guy, he tells me
the exact same thing. He told me $20,000
Well, you think to yourself sometimes is she
is some dab and some diamonds that is
being bought or, you know.
We ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to benefit
us from that which we heard
and to make this
that we reach our parents
whether it is from the Somali community because
apparently this is an issue now in Canada
specifically.
And the other community whether they're Pakistani, whether
they're Indian, whether they're Bengali,
whatever the communities this might be.
Brothers. One thing that and please do not
take this to offense.
I'm not trying to dig at any parents
specifically,
but it's just an advice
from your son coming to you. May Allah
bless you all.