Abu Taymiyyah – Part 8 He Carried His Mum On His Shoulders

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The speaker discusses the importance of loving parents and not denying them. They also mention a common response from their mother to their brothers and sisters, which is to insult them. The speaker emphasizes the importance of fulfilling the rights of parents and not denying them.

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			Whoever is not well mannered
		
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			in his relationship with Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will patch him up.
		
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			Will deal with him under the earth.
		
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			Our parents.
		
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			My brothers and my sisters,
		
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			do we really, really love our parents?
		
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			And what does loving our parents actually entail?
		
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			You having watched the previous episodes
		
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			should give you an idea of
		
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			how to really disrespect somebody.
		
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			Our parents, my brothers and my sisters, Alallahu
		
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			Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala tells us in the Quran.
		
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			We have advised the insan, the human,
		
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			to be dutiful
		
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			and to be good to his parents.
		
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			His mother carried him.
		
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			Difficulty,
		
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			above difficulty,
		
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			above tiredness,
		
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			she went through a lot
		
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			What does that mean?
		
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			She nurtured you
		
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			for a full 2 years
		
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			She went through all of that difficulty
		
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			of having to stay up
		
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			all night,
		
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			sleepless nights,
		
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			just so
		
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			she can look after you and treat you
		
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			in the best possible way.
		
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			She breastfed you.
		
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			She was really really there for you my
		
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			brothers and my sisters.
		
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			Somebody said to me one time
		
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			that if you wanna come anywhere near,
		
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			that
		
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			what your mother carried within that period,
		
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			then go to your local Iceland.
		
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			We know what Iceland is, right? If you
		
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			don't have an Iceland, maybe go to your
		
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			Tesco or your Sainsbury's or whatever it might
		
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			be.
		
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			And go take one of these,
		
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			these milk
		
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			cartons, whatever you wanna call them.
		
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			Take 4 of them, put it into plastic
		
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			bags and carry it.
		
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			Don't go anywhere far, just go and take
		
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			it to your home.
		
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			Your mother is doing this for 24 hours.
		
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			Then Allah says,
		
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			so that you may be thankful to me,
		
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			and that you may be thankful to your
		
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			parents.
		
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			The one who interpreted the Quran, the scholar
		
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			of this Ummah.
		
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			He mentioned
		
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			that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala sent down
		
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			3
		
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			verses
		
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			that has 3 components that are connected to
		
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			another three things.
		
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			And that if a person doesn't come with
		
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			one of them,
		
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			the other, his partner, will not be accepted
		
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			from him as well.
		
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			The first one is my brothers and Muslims,
		
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			when Allah said,
		
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			Obey Allah
		
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			and also obey the Messenger and then he
		
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			said
		
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			Whoever
		
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			obeys Allah but doesn't obey the message of
		
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			salah alayhi it will not be accepted from
		
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			him.
		
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			Second thing that he mentioned was
		
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			Establish the salah,
		
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			and also pay the charity.
		
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			And then he says,
		
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			And whoever establishes a salah, but then doesn't
		
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			pay the zakat,
		
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			then his salah won't be accepted from him.
		
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			And the third thing that was mentioned was
		
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			my brothers and my sisters,
		
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			hear when Allah mentioned in that verse in
		
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			in
		
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			so that you may thank me and also
		
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			be thankful to your parents.
		
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			Whoever is thankful to Allah
		
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			Whoever is thankful to Allah
		
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			but is not thankful to his parents, he
		
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			will not be accepted.
		
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			That is very very deep my brothers and
		
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			my sisters. Allah tells us in the Quran
		
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			also in surah
		
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			don't say 'off'.
		
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			'Off my brothers and my sisters' is an
		
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			expression
		
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			or a type of reaction that when something
		
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			is stuck in our nails
		
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			and we're trying to take it up but
		
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			it's not happening and we just start kissing
		
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			our teeth.
		
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			As such
		
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			Something as small as that, we can't address
		
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			our parents with it.
		
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			How about anything else?
		
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			You know subhanAllah I was contemplating on this
		
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			hadith when the messenger sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
		
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			said
		
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			From the major sins is that,
		
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			one he insults his parents.
		
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			So the companions they asked,
		
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			wahaliyahsuburrajluwari
		
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			deh?
		
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			Is it even possible
		
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			for 1 to insult his parents?
		
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			Look at the kind of question that he
		
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			asked my brothers and my sisters.
		
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			Because
		
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			the rights of Allah have been connected with
		
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			the rights of the parents
		
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			in so many places in the Quran, a
		
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			tawhid
		
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			and also being dutiful to your parents and
		
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			not being horrible towards them
		
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			They thought, can this even really happen?
		
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			And then I was putting that into perspective
		
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			with our situation today.
		
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			Forget about one insulting his parents, there is
		
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			people who are fighting with their parents.
		
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			There's people who are getting physical with their
		
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			parents.
		
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			And then the messes Sallallahu Alaihi said, And
		
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			look at the kind of answer that he
		
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			gave to them.
		
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			He
		
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			said,
		
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			One word he does is, he insults the
		
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			father of someone else So in that person,
		
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			he insults his father.
		
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			So by you insulting
		
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			somebody else's father, somebody else's parents, and this
		
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			is something that we grew up
		
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			hearing and seeing
		
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			when in primary school and in secondary school
		
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			as well.
		
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			Your mum is this your dad is that
		
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			and
		
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			Abdullah ibn Umar radiAllahu ta'ala Anhuma
		
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			He one time saw
		
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			a man
		
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			who was carrying his mother
		
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			on his shoulders
		
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			doing tawaf, circumbalating the Kaaba.
		
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			The man came up to Abdul Aib Nur
		
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			and he said to him
		
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			Have I fulfilled her rights?
		
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			You know what his response was?
		
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			Not even a percentage of it.
		
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			Let me just repeat that again, right?
		
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			He saw Abdulai ibn Umar radiallahu ta'ala An
		
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			Umar and he said to him,
		
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			have I fulfilled
		
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			the rights of my mother?
		
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			You know what he said to him?
		
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			La
		
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			Not
		
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			even a small percentage of it.
		
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			But then he said to him,
		
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			But rather Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
		
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			for something small that you've done, he is
		
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			going to give you an immense reward.
		
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			And indeed you have done something excellent
		
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			with this
		
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			little thing that you have done.
		
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			Even if you was to do that, carry
		
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			your parents around the Kaaba,
		
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			you still
		
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			haven't fulfilled the rights of your parents.
		
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			No matter how old you become,
		
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			remember my brothers and my sisters, you are
		
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			always that little child
		
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			that your mother and your father nurtured
		
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			when they used to clean your backside,
		
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			when you used to make the place so
		
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			messy,
		
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			you are still that young child to
		
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			them.
		
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			When calling to Allah, my brothers and my
		
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			sisters, it requires
		
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			bravery
		
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			and you're going to be spoken about
		
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			This is something
		
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			that If you're calling to the truth,
		
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			the Sheikh of Amashar Mukbud used to say,
		
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			The one who wants to aid the truth,
		
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			it is a must today.
		
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			Speak about it.