Abu Taymiyyah – Part 4 10 Etiquettes Sh Saleh Osaimi Exp
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The importance of following certain etiquette during a speech or discussion, including not reciting the Prophet's hesitation or reciting hesitation. The importance of praying at home and helping others in their prayer, especially during home time. The importance of learning to handle the shay gotten from the Prophet's son and the importance of waking up at 5 minutes to wake up to the message of Allah. The importance of making space for oneself and others, especially when there is a lot of people sitting together. The importance of remembering Allah SubhanContinental Show and removing harm from people sitting and not cutting people is also emphasized.
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All your brothers on that side of the
room, what do you think I'm gonna say
to you,
Come on, guys. You guys should know better
better. You've been here for, like, the last
5, 6 hours.
Okay.
Okay, Jade.
And also keep silent when an individual speaks
to you.
Also turning to him and giving him your
full attention.
And also don't cut him.
And if a person
that is older than you is speaking, they
don't cut him.
Today, you find the debate is taking place.
You don't know speaker's corner, right?
Speaker's corner, Hyde Park
is whoever shouts the loudest,
Whoever shouts the loudest. This guy speaking, he
doesn't wanna let you speak.
There's a adab.
There is a type of etiquette that the
Prophet came with,
in how to go about
speaking in a civilized manner.
Not like animals or you're in a sock.
As if you're in the market, this guy
shouting
and then you got a store next to
him. He's shouting louder so the customers come
to him.
The
goal of a speech
or a discussion
is for the people to be heard out.
So the 5th point is if you come
to your resting place
then
come with wudu, wanam ala shirkiqal amen and
sleep on your right hand side,
wadlu ayatul kursi and to recite Ayatul Kursi,
wajma akafake,
and to gather your palms,
and to recite within them Suratul Ikhlas, which
is qulhu Allahu ahad. When we are with
attain, which is quluudhu rabbilfalaquluudhu
rabbilnas,
one full fihima,
dry spit.
And to wipe,
with it as much as you can from
your body. Tafalu dhalika thalathan.
And to do this 3 times to The
Sheikh here is referring to the hadith of
the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. The hadith
of Al Bara.
As we mentioned earlier, each point that the
Sheikh brought in his kitab, Al Adab Al
Ashra, he didn't bring it out of his
own back pocket.
Rather he built it on a hadith of
the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam mannerism, etiquette
that he's trying to put forth to you.
So the person can go and apply it
in his life.
Practical steps taken
from the prophetic tradition of the Prophet sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam.
So he
said,
Once you come to your resting place, the
place that you sleep, then make wudu.
And then sleep on your right side.
I get a lot of emails sometimes of
people saying they always get bad dreams,
or they feel like something's touching them, or
they're hearing stuff, they're hearing a bird. Recently,
a lady contacted me, messaging me saying, that
every time she goes to sleep, she sees
the same bird inside
her dreams.
Or she feels like someone is pressing her
feet.
The woman could
be someone who
has jinn possession.
But at the same time, brothers and sisters,
we always have to ask.
Are we taking the practical steps of
protecting ourselves from the shaitaan?
Are we adorning ourselves with the correct etiquette
when every action that we do? Like for
example now, how many of us when we
do go to sleep we make wudu?
Sometimes it doesn't require much research
to realize what the problem is. Are you
reading what is mentioned to here what what
is mentioned here? Alikhlaswanmaawid
attained.
Are you,
you know, purifying yourself? Are you making wudu
before you go to sleep? All of these
are things that the prophet
gave emphasis to. So here the Sheikh is
referring to the hadith of Al Bara,
where the prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam said,
When you now come to your resting place,
then
do the same wudu that you would do
when you are going to the prayer.
Then lie down
on your right side. Don't sleep on your
belly,
on your right side.
Then read this dua, Allahumma aslimtawajhiilake,
lake,
If you die,
this this night, while you've read this dua,
then you're going to die on your natural
disposition.
And make this
the last thing that you all that comes
out of your mouth.
Some mizav, protection,
shaitan, bad dreams and so on and so
forth. If you find that the
what you could do as a practical study,
you feel like that you can't memorize it,
write it down, stick it on maybe your
wardrobe, near your bed, somewhere on the wall.
Try and make it the last thing.
Don't make the last thing that you do,
you're speaking on the phone, or you're speaking
someone, or you're texting, whatsapping, facebooking,
laughing, watching these videos on Instagram. Now as
soon as you press the search button, Fawahesh
and madness comes out. I only open Instagram
recently.
One of the things the brother said to
me, when you do open Instagram, just don't
press the search button.
The madness that comes up especially,
you know, you most of the youngsters you
you know because you have Instagram.
I felt like even closing after that,
but some brothers were like, you know, it's
good to push your stuff on there. The
amount of madness that comes on there that
takes the person just before you go to
sleep. Last thing he's on, he's on his
Instagram.
Pertaining the right side of what the prophet
salallahu alaihi wa sallam used to do.
You know, brothers and sisters when you wake
up for Fajar
and the adhan has gone off, Yushra'ulak,
what is legislated for you is to pay
2 rakat.
Yushra'ulak to pay 2 rakat, which is 2
rakat before al Fajr.
The prayer that Aisha radiAllahu ta'ala Anha said.
There wasn't a prayer that the prophet prayed
more continuously,
and stuck to it. More than praying these
2 raka'at before al Fajr.
Then there's another narration which says,
These 2 raka'at are better than everything in
the dunya, and the dunya itself.
It's better than the Mercedes, and the the
Audi is the,
whatever the, you know, the cars that were
all
running off that. Assai Adumal kalam, when the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam used to pray
this 2 rakah,
He would go and he would lie down
on his right side. Just before
Fajr.
Fajr mentioned this,
Once he prayed these 2 raka'at before Fajr,
he would lie down on his right side
until
the time of iqamah came near, then he
would go out to the prayer.
Are you with me brothers and sisters?
Something that the Prophet used to do and
that a lot of people don't know about,
to lie down after you pray your 2
rakat,
al fajr, which is a sunnah, it's not
wajib. By Islam the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
barely ever left off.
And then after that you go out to
the Masjid.
A lot of people they tend to ask,
okay, is it better sometimes to pray these
2 rakaat of al fajr
in the masjid
or while I'm in the house? It's a
very, very common question.
You know, prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said,
the most virtuous
prayer that a person can pray
is the prayer that he prays at home
except the obligatory prayers.
So like the Arba Arakaat
for Duhr, the 2 after Duhr, the 2
after Maghrib, the 2 before Fajr and the
2 after Isha. To try and establish this
prayer, it is better for you to do
at home. The hikmah, the wisdom that these
scrollers they mentioned is,
when the father now, he goes and he
starts praying at home. You find that his
younger kids are there that might not normally
be able to go to the masjid. They
learn from him. The prayer. They become used
to it.
They become used to it. Recently, a brother
asked,
send me an email.
I think it was, one of one of
these messages. I can't remember exactly where. He
said, my father doesn't pray.
My father doesn't pray. Someone advised him to
pray even his fard,
His obligatory prayers at home.
Just so his father
could,
you know,
see him praying and become encouraged by it.
And I told the brother, I had a
khatah. This is a big mistake. Why? Because
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala made an obligation upon
us to pray the salawat almafroda.
The obligatory prayers inside where? The Masjid.
And this is a manly thing.
The houses were built.
The house of Allah
that Allah Azzawajal permitted
for his name to be raised.
You need a story that just came to
my mind now Sheikh Abdul Razaq Al Badr
Teacher from the Prophet's Masjid.
He was talking about
how,
SubhanAllah,
guys they find is very feminine
to be helping their wives at home.
To go and help out, you know, your
wife,
with some of the work in the house.
They see that to be very feminine.
And the shaykh was trying to drive the
point home. The point was
that this was something that the Prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasallam done. He says, sunnah of the
Prophet. So by you helping your wife, even
though it's hard upon your ego
to be helping and doing some of the
chores in the house, you are actually doing
something that the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
done.
What did the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
say?
The best of you is those who are
bested at wives,
families.
Surah Al Sheikhi said, and this is the
point I'm trying to,
bring is.
But when the time of prayer comes, the
guy is lazy and he's sitting at home.
The guy is lazy and he's sitting at
home. And then the Sheikh said, this is
how men are is feminine.
Because when his eye was mentioned,
Straight after that Allah subhanahu said, Men.
This is something that is manly, that men
are known to do. To go to the
masjid and pray the salawat inside the masajid.
When it comes to something that the Prophet
done to help out with some of the
chores in the house,
it hits his ego.
No one's saying to you, you know, go
get an apron and, start cooking the food
for the rest of the week.
To do little, you know, helping out in
the house and maybe taking some weight of
the wife. That's what we're speaking about.
Are brother and sisters, he doesn't wanna do
that. Okay. No problem. But then when a
manly
issue is required of you, you're sitting at
home,
rather this is someone that is feminine.
Who normally stays at home?
Haijafar.
You don't know?
Allah says to us about the woman.
Allah Azzaw told the women to buy themselves
in the home. That's the Asal. That's the
origin of the woman in the house. By
the way, I'm not saying she shouldn't go
out. She don't go visit family. She wants
to go to the shop. Oh, no. She
shouldn't No. I'm not saying that. But we're
talking about the Asal.
And this is what the guy today has
become.
When he should be establishing what? Salawat and
mafoor inside the masajid.
And then for, you know, it's a funny
joke. The adhan went off. So the sheikh
has stopped. He's sitting back on his chair
and he's smiling. Everybody's wondering why is the
sheikh smiling?
As soon as the azaan finishes, he goes,
guys, what should I think?
Should we all go today and start helping
our wives and we cook them a meal?
Everybody in the midst started laughing.
So the women can think, oh, what happened
to this guy today?
You know? What's.
Read.
One time before you go to sleep. Prophet
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, he told us about we
know the famous story of the Shaitan. Right?
Who came to Abu Hurairah.
Shaitan told Abu Hurairah something. Right? He taught
him about Ayatul Kursi.
There was a time when Abu Hurairah radiAllahu
ta'ala anhu was looking after some of the
treasures in Al Medina. Some of the goods,
some of the sadaqat.
And the shaytan
came to him in the form of a
human being
and he wanted to steal. So Abu Hurayra
grabbed him.
Because I'm a poor guy. I don't have
any money. I need to, you know.
So he told the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa
sallam. The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam told
him
he is going to come back so, you
know,
be careful. He's gonna be back again. So
stay on your toes. Be attentive. So he
done this 3 nights in a row.
3rd time when Abu Ureyra saw him coming
back and he grabbed him, he said, I'll
teach you something.
I'll teach you something
that if you was to read it, then
no shaytan would be able to come to
you.
You will remain protected by Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala. And the shaytaan won't come close to
you.
Until what? Until the next morning.
Again, those who might be going through issues
with the jinn,
shaitan,
whisperings of the shaitan,
whatever it might be. Again, this is another
mean. Recently, Sheikh Adnan Abdul Qadr, you can
find the lecture online on Allah, the Masjid's
YouTube channel. You can find on my channel
as well. Why the Sheikh gave around 10
steps of protecting yourself from the shaytan.
Wajma Akafakk, the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
Sorry, the Shaykh is saying, even though the
Prophet mentioned it, bring your hands together like
this.
1
for dry spit. Not afilam, dry spit.
1 sahabihi mastataatam in jasidikh and also wipe
your body as much as you can from,
you know, as much of your body as
you can.
And do this 3 times. Where did the
Sheikh get this from again? He got this
from the hadith of Aisha
and then Nabi salawazam kanaedaawwala
firaashi kullalalalatin
jamaakaffay.
Every night if the Prophet went to his
bed, he would do that. Then
he would dry spirit.
Will start from his head,
And then the what he was able to
do.
Prophet Sallallahu
Alaihi wa'alehi also mentioned another hadith.
Any
Muslim who goes to sleep in the night,
he does this, he remembers Allah
He remembers Allah before he goes to sleep.
And he's upon
and he wakes up in the night.
What was the first thing that was mentioned
in hadith?
What did I just mention?
Are you with me guys?
Going to sleep with Tahera. That was one
of the things mentioned. What was the other
one?
Remembering Allah azza wa Jal. What was the
third one?
Wakes up in the night and he asked
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala for something.
Accept that Allah azza will always give it
to him.
3 simple steps.
If you can't stand up in the night
for prayer, even though there's so many fa'al.
The prophet says,
that one could obtain through waking up in
the Mid Anawat and engaging in the night
prayer. You can't do that.
Put your alarm for maybe 2, 3 minutes
that you wake up for.
Make dua in the night after you've gone
for Tahara,
and you remember the Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
And then you make a dua like that.
From the signs of the people of Jannah,
brothers and sisters,
as they came and saw it, Al Imran.
Those who say,
forgive us also. These are from the people
of the Jannah. The characteristics of the people
of the Jannah and their descriptions.
And they also say, save us from the
fire.
Those who are patient.
Those who are obedient to Allah and excessively.
Those who spend in charity.
And those who do istighfar at the last
part of the night.
A great fa'ilah that we are missing out
on, brothers and sisters. To wake up part
of the night to say, Astaghfirullah. Astaghfirullah. Astaghfirullah.
There's a number of things that you could
do as I mentioned. One other thing, wake
up at 5 minutes.
You make dua last part of the night
and then you are also doing a staghfirullah,
staghfirah.
It is a
great characteristic from the many characteristics of the
people of Al Jannah.
You know, an issue pertaining now, dry spitting.
Do I do this after I read the
or is it before?
There's a lot of calam on this issue.
He
said,
He said that the scholars, they differed in
how to go about acting upon this hadith.
If you look at the apparent of the
hadith,
what it says is,
He first
the naf.
That's from the apparent of hadith. He done
his dry spitting on his hand. Then after
that he read
it. Even though
most people might think that it's ax is
the opposite.
I live with me brothers and sisters.
So one does nafth, then after that And
this is a strong opinion that scholars have
taken because of how the hadith came.
Because
the fa' in the Arabic language, Faqara Afihima,
you feel the Taqeeb.
Let's just say, if I say is that
if let's if I say now, for example,
Jaa Muhammad. What does that mean?
Muhammad came, right?
Jaa means he came. Muhammad, Jaa Muhammad. If
I say
now,
What does that mean?
Jaa Muhammad Wa Abu Bakr, right? Okay. Can
you understand from this that it happened straight
away? No. The waw doesn't indicate that. If
I say, jaa Muhammad,
wah Abu Bakr, it could mean that Abu
Bakr came 2 3 hours later into the
home. Baybay
say jaa Muhammad.
Fa Abu Bakr,
that means
it took place in order and he came
straight after him as well. But the waw,
it could mean that Fulan came first. Abu
Bakr came first, Mohammed came. Oh, there is
no tarteem. It doesn't mean that it's arranged
in this order. But the fa, it indicates
that it has been arranged that Abu Muhammad
came and then Abu Bakr came and it
happened straight away. So is shayid min al
kalam, when you look at the hadith, he
says that the prophet al Nafth. Then after
that
fakharafima. And then after that he read the
Quran on that.
I was gonna go into the masala of
when the you know, Bala Basha'Allah.
And the 6th point is that if you
sneeze
that you cover your face or your nose
with your hand or your throat and you
give thanks to Allah Azza wa Jal by
saying Alhamdulillah.
So if someone hears you saying Alhamdulillah,
then they say and
then you repeat by saying
From
the rights that a Muslim has on his
Muslim brother
is 6 things as it came in the
hadith.
Another narration, 5. And one of these things
is
Your Muslim brother has 6 rights upon you.
First one
is You meet him, give him salaam.
When he calls you now for his nikah
or he invites you, then respond to a
call.
When he seeks your advice, give him the
advice.
If he sneezes now and he prays out,
he says Alhamdulillah,
then do something called
You react to it.
And to give him khair. You ask Allah
That's what the shmit means. To ask Allah
to give this person goodness.
If he becomes sick then visit him.
If he dies, then follow his jinaaz. These
are all from the rice.
Taib, if I sneeze now
and
I don't say Alhamdulillah,
Do you now
say, You're hamukulla?
Why not?
He didn't say Alhamdulillah. The hadith says, if
he says Alhamdulillah,
fashammitu then after that say, You're hamukkalla.
Because if he doesn't say it, then the
hadith doesn't apply.
So you have 3 back and forths.
He sneezes.
MashaAllah. You snoozed.
And then
My mom always says
I don't know where she got this from.
She goes, if a person is speaking and
he's mentioning something
and then he sneezes,
she will say,
he spoke the truth.
But I always say to Hoya, where did
you get this from?
If a person who sneezes,
then say,
Say,
his brother, or the person who is near
him, say,
Let him say,
Does anybody know what
means
in English language?
You hadiquumullah
as well.
And may Allah
correct your thinking.
Bal in Arabic language, they use it for
your mind.
So if he says, yuslihubaalikum
may Allah Azwajal correct your thinking. Again brothers
and sisters, this is a fartkifa.
I mentioned earlier what fartkifa means, right?
Can anybody repeat it?
But if some people do it, right?
Let's just say there's a group of people.
If one of them does it,
firstly starting off with it, it's wajib on
everybody.
But if some people apply it,
the obligation
drops off everybody else.
But if nobody does it, then they're all
sinful.
Like Salatul Janaza, if nobody goes and prays
on the dead,
every Muslim in the community sinful.
Alaweed my brothers and sisters. But if some
people go out and they fulfill the obligation,
then it falls off everybody else. Likewise, earlier
which messala was we speaking about?
Assalamu alaikum.
If a person now gives you salaam and
there's 10 of yura and nobody returns the
salaam, all of them are sinful.
Because Radu Salam is wajib, to return the
salaam is wajib.
But if one person does it, yasquotaanal akarin.
Falls of everybody else. And likewise, this issue
it's wajib as zoh in that sense.
Okay.
Next issue on this is, is that the
only thing that a person could say, and
I'm going to conclude this point very, very
quickly InshaAllahu ta'ala.
Is your hamukulla and then saying, is
that the only wordings
or the only du'a that a person could
make? What else has been transmitted in the
prophetic tradition, or what the companions done.
There's another wording for Ibn Abbas, of what
he mentioned. Abi Jamrata, he says,
I heard
him
say, If someone
said
to him,
He would say if somebody,
if he sneezed and then it snows or
sneezed?
Sneeze.
Sneezed. Yeah. Then passed and sneezed.
So if someone sneezes now, if he sneezes.
Okay. If someone sneezes,
someone sneezes now
and then
Sorry, let's just say for example, I sneeze
and I say Alhamdulillah and then someone says,
You're hamukulla.
We know that we normally say,
Is there anything else that I could say?
He
used to say,
May Allah save me and you from the
fire.
And may Allah have mercy upon you as
well. So that's another thing that a person
could say.
Abu Zubay ibn Umar, again, he had something
else.
He said, Yarhamunallahu
wa'yakumayaffiru
lanawalakum.
May Allah have mercy upon me
and also yourself and may Allah forgive me
and you as well. So these are different
wordings that,
could be mentioned.
No. Babe, what about Alhamdulillah? Can I say
Alhamdulillah?
No?
He said no.
That
if a person says alhamdulillah,
alhamdulillah, alhamdulillah,
because
the hadith said,
let him praise Allah.
He never just specifically said, say alhamdulillah.
But alhamdulillah, rubilalamin, you're still praising Allah, azza
wajal. Also alhamdulillah, ala kullihal.
Oh, praise to Allah in all our situations,
so on and so forth.
So the 7th point is to restrain
yawning as much as you can
and to cover your hand with, to cover
your mouth with your hand.
And not to say
ah. No, don't say,
ah. I remember in the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam his masjid, when he was teaching
and he came to the hadith.
If any of you now yawns, then let
him try to cover as much as possible.
Of the yawnings from the Shaytan.
And then he goes
that he finds some people in his prayer.
He starts roaring like a lion inside after
yawning.
Why can't it be salat of ihqari? Whether
it is in the salat or what outside
of salat?
Because the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said
the hadith
is from the shaitan. Yawning is from the
shaitan.
If any of you now yawns,
then let this person cover it as much
as possible.
Muslim also found in Sahih Muslim.
The prophet said,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala loves those
who sneeze.
And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala dislikes the yawning.
If a person sneezes, then it's a right
upon every Muslim to do teshmith.
As for sneezing, it's from the shaitaan.
Try and cover as much as possible,
When he says
then the shaitan starts laughing at him.
The shaitan laughs at the guy that starts
starts doing that.
What does mastata mean? Aqadr isata'ati that a
person, he tries to do as much as
possible. Obviously, sometimes things are not in our
hands. Right? But he tries to cover as
much as possible.
Baib, another messala. Does he use his right
hand? Does he use his left hand to
cover his mouth? Shagmur Uzzaymeen was asked this
question.
Alafami Al Zahir.
Sharmul Usimin was asked that, did the Prophet
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam used to put his
right hand? He used to put his left
hand or did he used to put both
his hands on his mouth?
Sheikh was asked this question. Look what he
replied back and he said,
because he doesn't know of any narration that
shows that the Prophet put his hands on
there. Because when you look at the hadith,
he was speaking to somebody.
It wasn't transmitted that the prophet yawned.
This information wasn't gathered.
So he said that the amr is wasa.
The affair is quite broad that if a
person poses here right hand, left hand,
then
there's
no harm on this. But some of them,
they felt like it was better to use
your left hand. What do we normally use
our left hand for?
Anybody know?
It's dinja and also the filthy type of
things, right?
But the right hand, we use it for
honorable stuff.
We use it for honorable stuff.
So they said because
we use normally our left hand for things
that are impure and, you know, when we're
cleaning ourselves and so on and so forth,
There's nothing that is more khabith. There
is nothing that is more filthy than the
shaytan. So because now tatha'ub,
yawning has some sort of relation
to the shaytan. We cover our mouths with
what? The left hand. That's what some
scholars, you know, this is the view that
they pushed and it's a
very strong view, inshallah.
I think it's time anyway. Right?
InshaAllah, take a 7, 8 minute break and
then InshaAllah we're going to conclude. This is
I personally feel like this is the best
part of the book. Something that is relevant
to all of us. Point number 8 and
point number 10 and point number 10. And
then we're going to conclude this book insha
Allahu Ta'ala
in the next segment,
of us going through this book, inshaaAllahu ta'ala.
We got 2 minutes.
Before you finish, is that 12.
8:20.
Really? Yeah. Okay. Jade.
Go on. Translate it.
And the 8th point is that if you
reach a,
gathering,
fasalim, that you give the salaam, wajlis hayfiyintahil
majlisoo
and to sit
towards the ending parts of the majlis
and to not sit between
the sunlight and the shadow
and not to break,
and not to sit in between 2 people
except with their permission.
And to not make anyone stand up from
his sitting point.
And to spread space for those who come
and to remember Allah within the majlis.
And the least which the least that you
can come with is al kafara
which is
Good.
The 8th point brothers and sisters
is manners pertaining the etiquettes and the manners
that one should have when sitting down.
The etiquettes and the manners that one should
have when sitting down. I'm sure most of
us we sit down. Right? So this is
something that is relevant to all of us,
especially when we come to the masajid.
Prophetess, can you not come as forward as
possible?
This is the Adha Abdul Majid we're talking
about now, the manners and the etiquettes pertaining
sitting down. One of the things that we're
gonna take in there, sitting all the way
at the back.
The first thing that the Sheikh he mentioned,
wajlis haythuyantahih
al Majlis.
Sit.
Let's just say if there is a sitting
and everybody is gathering around,
don't be the guy that walks in between
the people and squeezes them and sits in
between them.
There's a circle, there's a gathering of circle.
Go and sit the
not I'm not saying to go and sit
at the back, but where the majlis finishes,
sit there.
Where the sitting finishes or the gathering finishes,
then go and sit there. Wherever you find
the hole, let's say there's a couple of
holes now, right? A person he walks in,
it's great for him to come and sit
right up front. Why? Because there's holes
there. But if now they're all closed off
together and they're sitting together and they're studying
for someone to just come and start barging
the people through, Hadam al Isra.
And again, as we mentioned, every point has
a delay. Sheikh didn't take it out of
his back pocket.
If any of us came to the gathering
of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, we
will sit where these sitting finishes. And brothers
and sisters, in the time of the Prophet
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,
in very rare situations,
they were found sitting apart from one another.
There's another hadith where one time the companions,
they came to Awadi, they came to a
valley,
and everybody went to their only uswa.
Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said, Maali arakum
aizin. Aymuth Fariqim.
Why do I see you all scattered around?
In the tafaruka
kumhada, mil aml Shaitaan.
You all scattered around is from the actions
of the Shaitaan.
So in the narrative, the hadith mentioned that
if you was to get a cloth
and put it above them, it would be
able to suffice of how close they were
sitting to one another.
So we're talking about a gathering that everybody's
close to one another.
Do not sit between the shams and the
shadow, the sun or the light, the sunlight
and also
the shadow.
The
prophet says prohibited
that one sits between the shadow and the
sunlight.
And do not separate between 2 people who
are sitting together except with a permission.
It is not permissible for a person
who sees 2 people sitting next to each
other to come and separate them.
So come and separate them both.
They could be having a private conversation.
They don't want you to come and sit
with them.
Especially if a person that comes without permission,
he comes and he sits down and he's
looking at them. You can see how awkward
it's going to be. Alis Gharik.
But rather
from the correct mannerism, see 2 people saying
one another in the corner and you wanna
speak to them brother, you know, it's okay.
I can sit with you lot. Especially if
you feel like that they're just sitting around,
or if you feel like they're having a
private sitting, either ask them or stand, wait
patiently.
And do not make anybody stand up from
his sitting. Someone sitting there for you to
tell him, get up. I'm going to sit
there now is a rude characteristic.
The prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam prohibited that
a person is be is told to get
up.
And then another person is placed in his
place.
But what you should do is you should
expand and make space.
What does Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala say?
Does anybody know?
All you believe, if it is said to
you, make space, then make space because Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
will reward you for
means that Allah
will send down upon your mercy in your
provision as well.
The fact that you're making space for the
people, Allah will make space for you in
your provision.
Make space for you in your provision. He
will shower down His mercy upon you. Also
in your grave, it's a means of getting
your, you know, spacious grave.
That if you do something good, you're bound
to get repaid back for that.
And remember Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala in your
gatherings.
And the least thing that you could actually
do
of remembering Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala in your
sitting
is
reading this Dua at the end of your
sitting. No matter what sitting is, you prophets
today, you decided to all gather inside the
home. Everybody's there chilling, relaxing, chillaxing, whatever it
might be. There's There's something that you could
do, especially if there was a lot of
kalam that had no fa'idah. Look what the
prophet said,
Whoever sits in a gathering. And then he
has a lot of Kalam Farik.
He may have said some things that was,
you know, we all fall short of this.
Sometimes we forget ourselves and we're just speaking
about things.
But he says before he stands from the
sitting.
Accept that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will forgive
him
from anything that was mentioned inside
that sitting. We mentioned earlier that the speeches
of 3 types, right?
Then the speech is of 3 types. Who
remembers?
Khair Shah?
And Saman al No Fayda, which is Lagoo,
which is Lagoo. And we also mentioned that
the word Lagoo is sometimes used for what?
Anything bottled. Jade.
Anything bottled. Whether it's kofor, shirk, masiya, so
we use for it.
Also another adab that I want to mention
is Adam Muqaddadim Hadith.
If a person is speaking that you don't
cut him, even though we mentioned it earlier
and a hadith that comes with it. Find
2 people speaking. That just shows you. A
lot of these guys will come to a
speaker's corner and just shout.
You're asking a guy, Akhil, let me speak.
Let me listen to you.
No. It's not civilized.
You have to actually push yourself to speak.
Anyways,
I went there once.
It wasn't a good experience
and, I don't plan to go again.
You just can't have a civilized,
you know, conversation with somebody. I understand, you
know, speak 5 minutes. Let him speak 5
minutes. Get your point across. Let him hear
you out but it's a game of who
shouts the loudest.
Some of you don't know what I'm talking
about.
Adam Not Takara person when he's speaking.
When there was a time when the Prophet
SAW was sitting and he was, you know,
discussing some things with his companions,
a bedouin came into the sitting.
And we know how the Bedouins are like.
Right?
It's far off from the people. They're very
rough and tough people. They There There was
even a time where one of them came
and grabbed the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
from his neck. Anas ibn Malik radiAllahu ta'ala
anhu he said, he grabbed him so hard
I could see the marks.
I could see marks on the prophet salallahu
alaihi wa sallam's neck.
You know, the bedroom and just walked into
the messengers, urinated.
They were from the valley, far away from
the desert,
villages.
They would come. They wouldn't have basic morals.
And then when everybody got angry, he made
a dua right at the end.
Allahummaqfiliwali
Muhammad.
And do not forgive anybody else. Oh Allah,
just forgive me and Muhammad. He He only
made du'a for himself and Muhammad sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam.
As Shahidu, the Arabi came and just all
of a sudden bang. Mata sah shouted in
the middle of the masjid.
So the
Prophet So he carried on
speaking.
So some of the companions, they started mentioning
to one another. The Prophet heard, and he
disliked what he heard from the Arabi. Hence
why he didn't respond back.
Some of them they mentioned, no the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam didn't hear. This is the
reason why he ignored him and didn't respond.
So didn't know exactly as to why the
prophet just sallallahu alaihi wasallam just carried on.
So when the Prophet was finished,
he said, Aylna Arahus Sa'il ani Sa'ah. Where
is the person who came and he asked
about Yawah?
So your man said, I'm here. Anah You
Rasool Allah. Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said,
Once the Amana,
the trust
is
lost,
then that's when the Sahar is going to
happen. So the Prophet was asked,
how is the trust going to be lost?
Once the affair is now being brought to
other than his people, you stop bringing affairs
back to other than the people who are
fit for it, like the ulama, and you
cut them off, then this is when the
hour
comes close. So rasai, what we took from
this is, prophet salallahu alaihi wasalam didn't like
it.
It came clear at the end of the
hadith. This man tried to cut the prophet
salallahu alaihi, didn't like it, and he carried
on. So one shouldn't do that, but rather
you should wait till he's finished or he's
given an opportunity to speak.
Sometimes you find, I've seen this as a
person who's taught before.
Probably used to come to my lesson, some
of you that may know,
every couple of minutes he throws a towel.
I'm teaching the lesson.
Well, I had the brother who was recording
the lesson, he had to do a very
big job.
Every he had to cut out. Every time
he had to cut out. Sometimes the recording
just flows. Right? Because other people wanna listen
to it. You had to keep taking this
guy's stuff out.
He came, obviously he wasn't on the same
way that we think. He was a bit
more, you know, he was into making dua
to Abadan Allah, you and all of these
sufi doubts and so on and so forth.
So we checked doubts. He didn't came to
study. He just wanted to throw doubts and
confuse the rest of the people.
If you got a saa just wait till
the end. You You want to do Nikash?
You want to discuss something with a person?
Just wait.
And leave the questions till the end. Leave
the questions till the end because you're really
going to exhaust the teacher who's trying to
teach. He might even forget
the point that he was trying he he
wants to, you know, put forth.
Last point.
To remove any harm from those who are
sitting.
If you're sitting in a sitting and you
find that some harm is taking place, you
try to remove it. Anjabul radiAllahu ta'ala Anukaalamarrajulunfilimizjidibi
siham.
A man he walked past and he has
some of his arrows
hanging off him.
Fakal Arun says, salallahu alaihi wasalam
told him to cover the tip of it.
So a shayid malikaraim,
normally, where do the people sit? They see
the message. Right? So this person now is
walking with his arrow.
It could
drop. Someone might walk past. It might, you
know, end up stabbing him unintentionally.
So to stop it. Something I'm gonna mention
insha'Allah, I think it's very very important.
And one of the sisters in the masjid,
she asked this question last week when I
was teaching them.
If Majali, sittings, gatherings of backbiting is taking
place,
is it the right upon me to go
and stop that?
Because sometimes we, and I'm gonna mention and
be very straight up about it because this
information reaches me. So And it's more common
in our sisters and the brothers.
Where
bunch of women are sitting down. They're discussing
people's private lives.
Oh, that husband and you know, he went
with his wife. You know, there's problem between
this guy and his wife. And oh, is
he divorced? Is he still single?
Who told you? Did the guy or did
the sister go up to you and ask
you to solve her marriage problems for her?
And a lot of time you find other
people who don't like it and are hearing
this.
They want to put a stop to it.
But they feel like they might be,
you know, stepping into someone's lane.
Because they're going to be told, mind your
own business. Or they're scared.
Brothers and sisters, it is your business.
When a munkar is taking place around you
and it's in your capacity to be able
to change it, to try and change it.
The hadith manruamin kumunkran faliugayirhubiday.
Whoever sees an evil and changes with his
hand. Ibn Uthimir Rahim Allahu Ta'ala in his
explanation are ba'ina know with the 40 hadith.
He said, Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala,
wallajami
al umma.
Allah subhanahu placed his response of changing and
evil.
Everybody in this nation, I'm gonna come into
it later and speak about it. Allah gave
this responsibility to everyone in the Ummah,
especially if it's in your capacity.
I don't want anyone to take it out
of context. Some condition and so on that
we're gonna go on to later on. But
the point is, point is that it is
your responsibility to try and change it. To
tell them to fear Allah because it's your
business. You're hearing it.
Abu Saeed al Khudr, radiAllahu, look what he
mentioned. You heard the hadith.
Don't let the fear of the people
stop you from speaking the truth when you
hear it. No, no. My hearing is here.
When you hear it, when you see it,
or when you witness it.
Don't let the fear, don't be scared to
tell them in a nice way.
To tell them in a nice way. It
is your business now.
Abu sa'il Khudri comments in the end and
he said, waditu anneelam asmara.
I wish that I never heard that. Why?
Because now it has become an obligation upon
him to engage in this act that many
people find difficulty in.
Not to fear the blame and the blamers.
And sometimes not fear losing out on friends
or people thinking
bad of you just because you do a
certain act is something hard on the nafs
on the soul.
But rather,
minding your own business
is doing what these sisters are not doing,
these group of sisters. By the way, I'm
not speaking about anyone specifically for for someone
gets upset in the sister section. Speaking generally.
From part of a person being a good
Muslim is to leave that which doesn't concern
him. Them group of sisters who are speaking
about another husband's wife,
they're telling this sister who told them to
stop, mind your own business.
Can you see the irony?
Who's minding his own business, and who's not
minding his own business? Rather them speaking about
the other person's family, and talking about their
problems, is that part of their business?
It's not part of their business.
Rather you're going against this hadith and arbaainanawi.
Albaain and Nawi. Part of one being a
good Muslim to leave off that which doesn't
concern him.
This is 10 minute break and then later
on we're gonna next lesson we're going to
finish the book inshallah to Allah.