Abu Taymiyyah – Part 12 Be The BIGGER Man
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Whoever is not well mannered
in his relationship with Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will patch him up.
Will deal with him under the earth.
Be the bigger man.
Be the bigger man.
We hear this all the time, right?
A dispute breaks up between 2 people, they
boycott one another, they don't speak to one
another for years.
Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam he said,
It is not lawful for one to
boycott his brother for more than 3 days.
And the best of them
is the one who starts
with the salaam.
Pardoning one another my brothers and my sisters,
the great imam Hassan al Basri, the Tabiai,
he says,
The most virtuous,
the most virtuous of good traits, of lofty
etiquettes
is delightful.
It is to pardon.
Even though my brothers and masters, it can
be so so difficult,
You can't look that guy in the face
anymore.
But remember, my brothers and my sisters,
treat the people the same way you like
to be treated.
And this is exactly what the prophet
to us.
He said,
may peace and blessings be upon him.
Treat the people with mercy and you'll be
treated with mercy.
Pardon the people, forgive them
and you will be pardoned
Look what Ibnuraj
he mentions in the wonderful book, Latayf al
Ma'arib, he says
is from the names of Allah
And Allah loves to pardon
And he loves to pardon his servants
And he loves for his servants
to pardon and forgive one another and here
comes the catch
He then says
And if they pardon and forgive one another
then that's
when Allah is going to pardon them.
And him pardoning his servants is more beloved
to him
than punishing them
Treat the people the same way you like
to be treated
A couple of years ago I went to
Accrington and I was asked the question,
what if that individual
He keeps doing the same thing time and
time again. Yes, he apologizes
and he comes across sincere, but then he
does it again.
I asked the brother
in the lecture
a very simple question.
What if Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
was to say to you if you do
this sin 5 times
then there is no forgiveness
left for you?
What would our reaction be?
How many sins have we done time and
time and time again?
But Allah tells us that he loves to
forgive us.
To conclude,
I will quickly mention something that happened to
Abu Bakr, Abu
Bakr
he had a cousin called
This cousin of his my brothers and my
sisters,
when he migrated from Makkah to Al Madina,
the only source of income that he had
was what Abu Bakr radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu used
to give to him.
And SubhanAllah what happened was his cousin
was from those who spread the lie,
The accusation about the Aisha radiAllahu ta'ala Anha.
And yes, this is the uncle now having
engaged in this.
Aisha is his niece.
He was from those who participated.
When he found
out, Abu Bakr became infuriated,
and he swore that he's going to cut
off
that income that he used to give to
his cousin, Misbah.
A verse came down.
To Allah says,
don't let those who have so much virtue,
swear that they will stop
sourcing
and helping financially those who are close to
them from the Muhajirin.
And then what does Allah say?
Forgive and forget, turn the page
Wouldn't you love for Allah to forgive you?
My brothers and my sisters,
for somebody to say about your wife,
your daughter,
that she's x, y, and zed,
and that she slept around because this is
exactly what they said about Aisha, that she
committed zina.
We will see tables turning, tables being flipped,
it's hard to take
Abu Bakr had
to overcome that
And he did. Not only did he forgive
and he forget and he forgot and turned
the page,
but he continued
spending on his cousin.
And this thing my brothers and my sisters
is not an easy thing but the immense
or but the reward is so immense.
It's one of the three things that a
Sharia
hasn't
put a limit on with regards to its
reward and Allah knows best.
The moment my brothers and my sisters you
begin to feel that you are better than
somebody,
what I need to say unfortunately is
that you are treading a very very dangerous
path which could lead to your destruction.
It really really is.