Abu Taymiyyah – Khutbah Our Kids Are Becoming Atheists Amsterdam, De Blauwe Moskee
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Muhammadin,
My dear respective brothers and sisters,
today inshallahuta'ala
I would like to speak about a Muldu'a
that is really really Muhamm. Very very important.
And that is with regards to our children.
The reality of what is happening today
that we might be unmindful, oblivious about.
My brothers and my sisters,
I'm sure we all know
how the bad friend can really really affect
our children.
Aljali su sayyih,
the bad evil companion.
And just about
every walid, walwaleedah,
every parent
with the kids that they have,
they would advise them
in order to keep good companionship.
And we all know the many narrations,
until the end of the hadith.
Something that we tell our kids about all
the time.
But my brothers and my sisters, one thing
we also need to understand is,
that the parent,
the
and
the are the closest of companions
to the child.
This is why the messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
he said,
Oh you're not Sirani.
Every single child
is born upon the fitra.
And it is the parents
that drive him towards becoming a Jew,
a Yahudi,
or a Christian, or a Majusi.
They have a very very big effect
at the early stages of his life.
My brothers and my sisters with graduation,
many of our kids
are going to be breaking up for the
summer holidays.
Some of them are going to be graduating.
And this is something that really brings us
a lot of joy and happiness.
When we see our kids
getting a stars,
getting a's, getting very very good grades.
We put a lot of effort and concern
in making sure
that they
get the best possible grace.
My brothers and my sisters, the sharia
is not
against that
someone becomes a doctor
or he becomes an engineer
or he seeks an education
and ends up attaining very high grades. The
Sharia is not against it.
It is not
But my brothers and my sisters, the reality
of the matter is
this degree
that we are chasing that we really want
so badly,
the moment we are entered into the grave,
it is going to mean absolutely nothing.
If that person did not take his religion
seriously,
if the parent, my brothers and my sisters
did not give a lot of concern
in guiding his child to that which is
correct.
The messenger salallahu alaihi wa sallam, my brothers
and my sisters,
he said in a hadith,
Aladirawawu imamalbuqari Rahimawala ta'ala.
Mammin Abdeen,
Yastarai'ilahu
Rahiya.
Yamutu yoma yamut
There is never a time
when Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala he placed a
Mas'uli
upon
anybody.
Yamut, yomu yomu yomu. The day when he
dies, he dies as somebody
who was a rash.
To
his kids.
How does he become a rash?
In another
narration he explains,
He did not advise them accordingly to that
which is correct.
Accept that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is going
to make the Jannah haram upon that individual.
The Jannah my brothers and my sisters.
If we as parents don't take the responsibility
of telling them what is right and what
is wrong, the jannah becomes haram upon us.
And that is the sad reality.
They say my brothers and my sisters
that when somebody has a child it is
one of the best feelings that he experiences.
The shur'ur, at the time of seeing the
child leaving his mother's womb.
It's an experience that many of us today
can say, Subhanallah.
Right?
But it comes with the great responsibility.
Allah tells you,
all you believe,
save yourselves
and also save your families from the fire.
Alim Nabitaib radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu,
he said about the tafsir of this ayah,
teach them
and also
teach them adab.
Teach them about the etiquette and the mannerism.
This is the person my brothers and my
sisters who really really cares about their children.
The true parent to his child
is not the one
who gives them everything they need in this
dunya.
From the moment my brothers and my sisters,
we decided to get married,
that we went into zawaj
and we had children,
we signed up for something.
We signed up for the trials and the
tribulations.
The Ibtilaat
that many parents are facing today. It's a
struggle and at the end of the day
my brothers and my sisters, nurturing
and cultivating our children is a Ibadah.
The struggles that the parents have to go
through. Every time I go to London, I'm
sitting in front of one of my aunties,
she's crying
because of what her son is doing.
It is a struggle.
And this is the responsibility
my brothers and my sisters that Allah subhan
wa ta'ala has placed on our necks.
Every single one of you is a ra'i,
the shepherd.
And every single one of you is in
charge of his flock.
It can really my brothers and my sisters
have a positive effect.
And likewise it can have a negative effect.
I've seen my brothers and my sisters
kids cursing their parents
after he passed away.
Not because he did not give him the
money that he needed.
Not because he didn't put a shelter over
his head. He said, My parent never ever
taught me anything.
I'm maybe 30 years old
and I don't know the basics of how
to pray.
My parent never ever taught me that. They
never took me to Madrasa.
The messenger sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, he said
in another hadith.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
is going to raise
the status of the parent in Aljannah.
And then he says,
How is this happening? Why am I being
raised and elevated?
It is said to him,
Because of the dua
that your righteous child is making for you.
Right?
When the son of Adam, he passes away
all his actions come to an end.
One of them is what?
A righteous child
who is making dua for his parent.
This is what is going to be a
benefit for us when we pass away.
The one
who knew about the rights of his parents,
He would remember when he ends up having
kids,
the advices the parents used to give to
him islamically.
My brothers and my sisters,
is it fair?
Is it really really fair
that when it comes to
the academics going to school, you walk past
the homes
at 8:30 in the morning. I don't know
what time the school starts here in Holland
but over there, it starts at 9. You
go past at 8:30 in the morning,
you can hear the parents shouting from the
top of their throats.
Did you do your homework? Did you do
this? Are you ready? Why are you still
sleeping? The parents are shouting
and rightfully so. They want their kids to
get the best possible education.
Every single day,
we are up. We are making sure
that they go to school on time.
My brothers and my sisters, do we give
the same concern when it comes to the
deen of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala?
About learning the book of Allah Subhanahu wa
ta'ala. About learning the basics of a 2
aid, That which is going to save you
from the fire.
Is it fair my brothers and my sisters
that we become so happy when the kids,
they know about pythagoras theorem.
Sure we all know what that is, right?
A squared equals b squared plus c squared.
Algebra,
condensation,
evaporation,
alliteration,
and all the other shayans that I teach
them in the English language when I teach
them there.
They know it inside out.
Mean alifilaya, they know it. Masha Allah Tabarak
Allah.
But when it comes to my brothers and
my sisters,
the basics of deen
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. One time I stood
outside of the masjid
and I started speaking
to many of the kids over there in
the UK.
And we was talking, we was laughing. I
was trying to get them really really comfortable.
So I started asking them, what is the
meaning of the Islam?
Forget about anything else.
Islam. Some of them said peace, some of
them said way of life.
This is not my brothers and my sisters,
what al islam means.
They did not know the basics of
something that every single muslim should know.
I asked them about the shahada. These young
kids, my brothers and my sisters,
They did not know.
But when you ask them about the ins
and the outs of what they study in
science,
Allahumma Barik.
He knows the inside out.
So what excuse do we have?
So that brings me my brothers and my
sisters to a very very important point.
Whether we know this or not,
the schools that we send our kids to
has become
a playground.
Taref Liman, you know for who? For the
atheists.
Atheism is on the rise.
Many kids today, my brothers and my sisters,
they might not necessarily make this apparent to
you
but they have become dead inside.
He is scared
that he goes up to his parents,
That if he was to, you know,
mention some of the doubts that he has,
that the parent is going to become upset
with him. He's going to kick him out
of the house.
Really my brothers and my sisters, if we
as individuals are uneducated,
We don't know anything about the deen of
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
What do we expect tomorrow from our kids?
And then their kids as well their grandchildren.
Wallahi my brothers and my sisters,
we should not be surprised if they're coming
home tomorrow
and they have become atheists.
I seen a video
of a brother who is in America.
He became an atheist.
He came home, he told his parents.
You know what they said to him? Enter
Majnoon.
You are crazy. They started bringing sheikhs to
the house and they started reading ruqya on
him.
And they even started beating him.
They put him in the basement, they knocked
the life out of him.
Because there's something wrong with you.
And we're more concerned about what the people
are going to say
instead of actually doing something about it.
My brothers and my sisters, we really shouldn't
be surprised.
There is a kitab by Richard Dawkins.
Who's one of the main atheist that are
currently breathing today.
He has a book called God Delusion
that he authored in the year 2,006.
My brothers and my sisters,
it was the best selling book on amazon
for 51 weeks.
Sorry. The 2nd best selling book
on Amazon
for a whole 51 weeks.
Until November 2007,
it remained as the second best selling book.
1 of my friends recently, he was coming
back from Egypt,
from the UK.
He was sitting next to a brother, Muslim
brother.
He's reading this book. He's got a dictionary
right next to him.
He's trying, he's trying to understand. He's putting
so much effort into it. He said to
him, why don't you put so much effort
into the Quran?
And then this Muslim who seems from the
apparent,
Allah ir Anoh Muslim,
he goes, How do you know that Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala is actually existent?
They really don't make it apparent to their
family members and those who are close to
them.
Wallahi my brothers and my sisters also.
Another serious problem that we have is
because some of our kids are so
uneducated, tomorrow my brothers and my sisters, they
really might bring home Charlotte.
Charlotte
or Jane.
Nobody ever explained to them exactly the ins
and the outs.
And then they go tomorrow, she's going to
bring Michael and Mark home.
All of this my brothers and my sisters
is the effect of what?
Them not having been given
the right tarbi and how to go about
deenullah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
My brothers and my sisters,
there is a consistent theme in the book
of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and likewise
in the sunnah of the messenger salallahu alaihi
wasallam.
Of how the parents of different examples,
how they went about dealing with incidents that
took place in front of them.
One of the lessons that we take from
the advice of Luqman,
Al Hakim.
In the Quran,
when Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala quotes saying,
When Luqman said to his son,
O son,
do not commit shirk with Allah Subhanahu wa
ta'ala.
The importance of teaching them a tawhid.
Basic tawhid.
Something that
many of our kids, my brothers and my
sisters, you even ask them,
This is basic essentials my brothers and my
sisters.
Yaqub
My brothers and my sisters, he's on his
death bed.
He is most concerned.
That which is bugging his mind
is what? What are my kids going to
be worshipping after I die?
What are you guys going to be doing
after I pass away?
We're going to be worshiping your Lord.
The Lord of also so and so Ibrahim
Alakhir.
Also my brothers and my sisters,
Ubaidim Rasamat RadiAllahu Ta'ala Anhu.
One time he sat down his child
and he said to him,
The first thing that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
created was the pen.
Allah told the pen, write.
What shall I write?
Write down that which is going to happen.
If you was to die upon other than
this belief,
you would be from the people of the
fire.
Messenger salallahu alaihi wasallam, Ibn Abbas is right
behind
him,
right?
Oh son,
I'm going to teach you a couple of
words.
What do we learn from all of this
my brothers and my sisters?
Do we not hear this every now and
again?
When we advise the little child, brother leave
him.
He's going to learn later on.
Khali.
It's only Justin Bieber. You know Justin Bieber,
right? All the girls they listen to him,
Until
he becomes so instilled
in her heart,
in his heart and then it becomes normal
fame later on.
Why did the messianurallahu alaihi wa sallam say,
teach them at the age of 7
so they become used to it?
As many elders later on, my brothers and
my sisters, they go through a lot of
mashaka in order to change little things in
their lives.
Because he wasn't used to it from a
very young age.
Amal ibn abhis salama.
He said, I was with the messenger salallahu
alaihi wa sallam
They were eating.
He said, My hands
started going everywhere on the plate where the
food was.
Messenger shalallahu alaihi wa sallam he said to
him,
O son,
mention Allah, say Bismillah,
Eat that which is in front of you
and also eat with your right hand.
He's a young child.
He didn't say, O wallahi kali, you know,
let him just Maybe later on inshallahta'ala he's
going to learn.
They took it really really seriously.
My brothers and masters, I'm going to give
you guys an example.
In the UK and likewise in many Arab
countries,
and I just inquired
our brother, Sheikh Hayb earlier to ask whether
this is something that is also very prevalent
here in Holland.
I'll give you guys an example
of how the issue of a tawhid
is really really missing.
Do we not hear my brothers and my
sisters,
our young brothers and sisters, our children
swearing by their mom's life?
In the english language, they say
swear on your mom's life for every little
thing if he wants to be believed.
And then he says, I swear on my
mom's life. I swear my dad's life. I
even swear my nan's life. My grandmother.
My brothers and my sisters,
when we hear about the sister
who has now become pregnant
outside
marriage,
the whole street is speaking about it. There
is a big fiasco. There's folder.
SubhanAllah, remember that girl? She done this and
now she's pregnant. A'uzhubillah.
It's a big hype.
Fahadhi kabeera.
It is a major sin,
right? It's not a light matter but it's
a major sin.
My brothers and my sisters,
do we know that
swearing by other than Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
is more wise than that?
Because the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasami said,
Whoever swears by other than Allah azza wa
jal, this person has fallen into shirk.
You have major shirk,
you have minor shirk, then you have
Al Qadair.
The major sins.
And swearing by other than Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala starts off from being minor shirk which
could go up to major shirk.
And that's greater than any major sin that
we might fall into.
That's serious my brothers and my sisters. And
some scholars,
they actually believe that
based on the eye when Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala said, Where you have a masdar, isra
can be.
That even the minor shirk,
that if a person was to die upon
it, this guy is never coming out of
the fire.
But there's an Iqtila from the issue.
Ashaeed ibn al kalam, my brothers and my
sisters,
the moment we decided to get married,
we signed up
to this striving of looking after our kids
which is not easy.
And remember my brothers and my sisters,
we are the greatest of role models they're
going to have.
If we are not having our daily sittings
with our kids
every single night,
it's a problem.
We have time maybe for everything except our
kids.
Is it really really right
that the parent he says to his child,
you know when you get married, make sure
you spend time with your wife.
Because that's a must.
But then throughout the day he's sitting in
the cafe speaking about politics.
And it is the mother who's running around
taking them here then going over there, taking
the kids. By the time she gets home,
she's absolutely
out of it, completely tired.
Is it really my brothers and my sisters
surprising?
And I've been saying this to a lot
of the parents because a problem that we
have in the UK is something called benefit
fraud.
Where she cheats the government
and she says that she's single but in
reality, she's married.
You're cheating the government and then tomorrow the
kid
is doing fraud
and buying the latest cars. This is one
of the issues that we're currently dealing with
over there in the UK.
Why should you be surprised? You've been doing
the exact same thing. He's just doing something
a bit different.
You're telling your kids, don't hang around with
bad people. We're maybe doing even worse than
that. And last but not least, my brothers
and my sisters and I'm going to conclude
with this Insha'Allahu ta'ala.
Something that Rahibul Asfahani rahimullah ta'ala mentioned.
He said,
When somebody
sits with another individual,
it is not only that he becomes affected
because of what is done and what is
said. Leisa had a fakat.
He also said,
Also with what
things that you look at will really affect
an individual. What do I mean
by that? My brothers and my sisters, today
our child might be at home.
How is that possible?
These little smartphones that we have.
Wallahi alaaween my brothers and my sisters,
wa ahlifu billah. I swear by the lord
of the Kaaba.
The amount of sisters
who have maybe taken off the hijab.
They've taken off the jilbaab.
They've become individuals who display and expose their
adornment on the internet.
It was because
after
they started looking
at some of these quote in quote out
barbies online,
makeup artist,
hijabi tutorials.
And he became settled in the heart. Because
as they say, right? What the eyes can't
see, the heart can't desire.
Constantly looking at these things destroyed the heart
and she started becoming or even he started
becoming like that.
This is another badwah today that we have
to face, that we have to deal with.
We might be okay that they are home
but wallahi,
they may be exposed to more danger on
the phones that they have.
Today, the internet has become a main source
of misguiding the kids through Ilhad.
We maybe seen so many times
websites going round
of them using islamic names.
Using Islamic names like www.makkakada.com
or islaminformation.com
like that.
But they put Ilhad on there
to really strip that individual of his iman.
So the conclusion on all of this is
my brothers and my sisters,
Wallahi we have to really do something about
it because there is an ideological war on
al Islam from many different angles
that we might be totally
unmindful of.