Abu Taymiyyah – How To Deal With The Hardships Of This Life
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My dear respective
brothers and sisters,
as announced InshaAllah Ta'ala, today we want to
speak about the trials and the tribulations
and how to go about dealing with them.
And maybe InshaAllah Ta'ala, we will walk away
today
having introduced
a new characteristic
into our lives.
You know my brothers and my sisters,
as many of us are aware,
that the depression levels are increasing.
The stress levels are increasing as time goes
on.
Also mental health issues are on the rise.
Suicidal thoughts,
even amongst many young sisters today,
is on the increase.
Recently, my brothers and my sisters, when I
gave a lecture on social media, on the
issue and the dangers of social media,
I gave the congregation, those who attended a
couple of stats.
And I'm going to share that with you
guys as well inshallah.
So that we know the kind of monster
we are dealing with.
And the messenger he
told us
There doesn't come a time except that the
time that comes after it is worse.
And wallahi we are saying this.
And when a person finds himself in this
situation,
if he doesn't know how to go about
dealing
with some of these challenges,
then what kind of
decision is he going to make?
I personally know my brothers and my sisters,
multimillionaires,
who have everything that I need,
but he's so sad and depressed in his
life.
He has reached a point where he wants
to take his life.
And with depression
on a rise, mental health on a rise,
our kids could be suffering
really badly inside, and we don't have a
clue
how to maybe even going out and dealing
with these situations.
And these devices that they have
is playing a big role in how they
become,
and some of the challenges and difficulties that
they are experiencing.
There is a major research
project
that looks into children's lives,
and they call this the Millennium Cohort Study,
where they looked into
the lives of 14 year olds
or 11,014
year olds.
And wallahi my brothers and my some of
these stats are going to be shocking.
So brace yourself
with what about with what you're about to
hear.
They've done this research
on 11,014
year olds. Put your hand up if you're
14.
Only 1?
2. How old are you?
15.
And you?
19.
Sorry, I thought it was 16.
That's a compliment.
Masha'Allah.
So they stated, my brothers and my sisters,
it found that many girls
spend far more time
using social media than boys.
And also that they are much more likely
to show
signs of depression
linked to their interactions
on platforms such as
WhatsApp,
Instagram,
aka Fitinagram.
That's what my Sheikh called us 7 years
ago.
And Facebook,
aka fisghbook.
If you ask me what is the worst
platform that a child can use today,
I would say with hands on heart, Instagram.
When I first was given the account, I
never opened it.
Brothers like Imran, they forced me to,
have a Instagram account because they told me
all the kids are on there.
And if you want to get to the
kids, you're gonna have to have a social
media account on plat on on Instagram.
And they also told me one thing, you
know what that was?
Don't press the search button.
The moment you click the search button, what
do we see?
All types of filth and evil, Aristide Catholic.
Most of us would agree, right?
And they mentioned also that almost 40% of
girls
who spend more than 5 hours a day
on social media,
they show symptoms of depression.
Let me repeat that again.
Almost 40% of girls
who spend
more than 5 hours a day
on social media,
they show symptoms of depression.
They also mention most girls
with depression
are unhappy with their appearances,
And 2 times
or 2.5 times more
likely than boys to be dissatisfied
with their weight.
And you know my brothers and my sisters,
I'm going to inshallah,
touch on this issue later,
as to why we might sometimes feel depressed.
There's a number of reasons as to why
my brothers and my sisters,
we might be afflicted by a calamity or
might go through some of these trials and
these tribulations.
But how do I know which one it
is?
Because Allah
told us what?
Never are you afflicted with a calamity
except that this is because
of what your own hands have earned.
In another ayah, Allah tells
us,
Never are you afflicted with a calamity except
that this is because of the will of
Allah
And then we have other textual evidences
where the Messenger tells
us,
If Allah loves a person, He trials him.
So how do I know which one it
is?
Is it because Allah
loves me?
The moment I go through a difficulty, don't
worry brother, Allah loves me.
Or is it because now I should start
looking at myself
more critically?
It is maybe because
of something that I've done with my own
hands.
Who can tell me?
Or do we pick and choose?
Or we blindfold
ourselves and then, these 3, whatever.
Which one is it when we go through
some difficulties? Is it because Allah
loves me? Is it because simply Allah wants
this to happen? Or is it because of
the sins that I committed?
How do we reconcile between these three things?
This is really meant to stimulate your mind
because sometimes things go wrong in our lives,
guys.
And a lot of the time we don't
know how to go about it, what steps
to take,
or how to look at it.
You've just gone through some financial difficulties, you've
lost your job.
Is it because Allah
loves me and because of that He's trialing
me, or is it because of something that
I've done?
Things are going wrong in my marriage.
Is it because Allah
loves me, or is it because of something
wrong that I've done?
How can tell me?
Nobody goes through calamities and difficulties here.
Guys?
It's both.
It's both?
Okay, Jameel.
Anyone else want to add anything to this?
More towards the sin. More towards the sin.
Okay, good.
You.
You don't know? Say Allahu Alam. And Allahu
Alam is half knowledge.
So if you say Allahu Alam again, does
that become full of knowledge?
My brothers and my sisters, the simple answer
is that we don't know.
We don't know if this is because
Allah
loving you.
Has anyone met Allah
for him to be told that Allah
loves him?
So the scholars, they say the way to
reconcile all of this, my brothers and my
sisters,
is
to be self critical,
and to put yourself in a win win
situation.
If you tell yourself that this is because
of a sin that I committed, if you
are smart and intelligent, what are you going
to do?
You're going to make tawbah to Allah right?
You're going to seek forgiveness, you're going to
sit there and say, Astaghfirullah,
Astaghfirullah.
And you've just put yourself in that win
win situation which is
Allah loves those who constantly make tawba,
and those who are pure, and they clean
themselves.
If it was because that Allah loves you,
you haven't lost anything.
And if it was because of your sin,
you've gone and you've made tawba. This is
a reminder from Allah calling
you to pay attention
before you are afflicted with a more serious
incident.
And it white might well be my brothers
and my sisters
because of a sin that you committed.
And I remember last year, I delivered a
lecture right here.
Some of the effects of sins.
And I mentioned, I think maybe 7. And
one of those that I mentioned was,
hermanu rizqah,
being deprived of provision.
How How many of us my brothers and
my sisters, when something goes wrong, we blame
ourselves,
we go and seclude ourselves with Allah azza
wa jal. Maybe deep into the night, and
we begin to think,
maybe it's because of something that I've done.
Or we like the majority of human beings.
We point the finger at everybody except ourselves
when things go wrong.
Sahulullah.
And we even,
blame the arbitrator,
who tried to solve our problems, no, no,
you shouldn't have done that.
One of the points that he mentioned in
Bilqaym was, hermanu rizqah.
When one commits a sin, he is deprived
of provision.
And the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam, he told
us,
One is deprived of provision because of the
sin that he falls into.
Also,
what the scholars they bring as an example
is what happened to Muhammad ibn Sirin.
And I think all of us need this,
my brothers and my sisters.
Muhammad bin Nasirin, the great Tabia'i.
We always hear about the menhaj type issues,
right, with related to Muhammad bin Sirin. In
Nahadir al Madin,
a famous statement that Muhammad bin Sirin said
is,
this knowledge is your religion.
So be very careful where you take your
religion from.
But also my brothers and masters, something that
doesn't tend to get mentioned is what happened
to him at the end of his life,
when he was thrown into prison. You know
why?
Because of his deign,
because of
his high amount of debt that he put
himself in.
And this debt that he got himself into
was my brothers and my sisters,
he bought
oil for 40,000
dinars.
Dinar and darahims, they were the £1,000 and
the dollars of that time. And you know
what happened my brothers and my sisters?
A rat got stuck inside of the oil,
he took it on credit, and most businessmen
they take whatever they buy on credit, right?
And then they sell it on and that's
how they make money.
So rat got stuck
And he was stricken with some serious poverty.
Did he stop blaming the person who sold
him that oil?
Sometimes we want to make ourselves think, right?
Oh, it was probably Him that left the
right inside, or maybe He sold me.
This oil, that still had the right inside
of it.
So now when he was stricken with poverty,
my brothers and my sisters,
You know what he said, guys,
Allah has now trialed me with this poverty
because
lianani ayerturajulan
bil fakhriqablathaladeenasana.
It
is because I degraded and I disgraced somebody.
A poor man that I disgraced and I
degraded.
I looked down on him.
Over 30 years ago.
He remembered a sin, my brothers and my
sisters, now the difficulty that he is going
through because of a sin that he
committed 30 years ago.
How many of us think like that guys?
This is not the lecture about the effects
of sins, Insha'Allah Ta'ala, maybe you can go
back to it, but I'm going to mention
one more point, before I speak about
how to deal with a lot of these
trials and these tribulations.
The kind of mindset to have.
Also from the effects sometimes, my brothers and
my sisters, as to why things start going
wrong,
whether it might be in our marriages,
whether it might be with the people around
us,
we begin to feel alienated,
we tend to start feeling so down.
We see that all the doors
have been shut in our faces.
Ibn Khayim mentions
Qala Ba'al Salaf.
Some of the salaf mentioned.
When we say salaf, who do we mean?
The 3 Golden Generations, the Sahaba, the Tabi'in,
the Tabi'i'in.
Those who the Messenger praised.
They said
I disobey Allah azza wa jal, then all
of a sudden
I begin to see a change of attitude
in my wife and also my riding animal.
Wallahi guys.
When I get
invited over to solve the problems of brothers
and sisters
who are in
marriages,
maybe within the 5 the first 5 minutes
it is clear, why maybe there's so many
problems.
The amount of sin in their lives,
you can't even enumerate.
And you wonder why so many things are
going wrong in your life.
Recently I was dealing with a problem,
the brother is trying to take your house
out on riba,
and you wonder why things are going wrong.
You just started a war with Allah
He's being accused of what? Also being arrogant,
he doesn't listen.
It's always about him, himself, and he.
Also the guy was speaking to women at
1 AM in the morning when he's asked,
oh, she's just my friend.
Speak to your friend at 1 AM in
the morning,
and his wife is next to him.
And you look at her,
she's going outside
dressing in a very immodest way.
This is a recipe for disaster.
You're asking for it.
So why all of a sudden now things
are going towards a negative direction?
So a lot of the time my brothers
and my sisters, it could be because of
our sins.
Also hear the statement of the great Tabia
imalik ibn Adinar.
He said,
When now you're beginning begin to feel
a hardness in your heart
and you begin to feel down and weak.
You're not feeling weak because you didn't have
your daily meals. No, you had 3 meals
that day.
You were fed nicely.
You're not hungry at all, but still you're
feeling so down.
And then also you begin to see
your rizq, your provision being deprived from you.
And he says then know that you have
spoken about something
that does not concern you.
This is about speaking
on something that has no
relation to you. Imagine the one who is
engaged in sin day and night.
It's a recipe for disaster, isn't it?
But I don't want to sit here my
brothers and my sisters
and increase
the gloom and doom
that we are experiencing.
But my brothers and my sisters, inshallah, we're
going to take something away that's really really
positive.
You know my brothers and my sisters, when
we see all of these
problems taking place,
whether on a public scale
or whether on an individual scale,
It could really cause one now to start
having bad thoughts of Allah azza wa jal.
Su adambillahi azza wa jal.
When we see all of these Muslims being
butchered, doesn't it make you feel sad?
Doesn't it make you wonder, is there really
really a God?
And I've seen this from one of these
very well known atheists
who came out and started saying, how dare
you?
Firstly, the atheist doesn't even believe in God,
and then he's saying, how dare you?
How dare you allow all of this to
take place?
Could really make somebody feel and question Allah
and have bad thoughts about it, right?
So that's more on a larger scale.
And then on the individual scale, when we
feel like everything is going wrong,
Suicidal thoughts now begin to increase.
Just the other day, a relative said to
me, khalas, I want to take my life.
I've had enough.
Messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam, he said,
None of you should
die.
Meaning, you should
meet Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in such states.
Except that he has good thoughts of Allah
And this is a characteristic my brothers and
my sisters,
that is very, very crucial in times like
this.
And it comes with a lot of benefits
and perks.
You know what Abdulai ibn Mus'udan
said? He
Never does a person have good thought of
Allah
when he's going through some of these difficulties,
except that He's going to give it to
him.
And that is because
the goodness is in the hands of Allah
If you tell yourself
things are only going to get worse,
then you've only got yourself to blame.
But if you tell yourself, la alla khair,
perhaps Allah
has something better in store for me.
Maybe Allah
is trying to cleanse in me
because there is light at the end of
the tunnel.
See this positive mindset, Abdulai Mus'ud is telling
you, the great companion,
there's never a time when you have good
thought except Allah is going to give it
to you.
And this book of Allah, azza wa jal,
my brothers and my sisters,
that is collecting dust,
it is not meant to be,
therefore,
you know, to stay there in your rufuf
on your shelves.
It is for us to take a reminder
from it.
And nobody can give you information like Allah
You can visit a psychiatrist,
you can visit also my brothers and my
sisters, the marriage counselor,
walayunabiukamizrukhabeer.
These stories inside the book of Allah azza
wa jal, and I'm going to mention a
number of them. So we take this lesson
from there.
They serve as a reminder for us.
They inspired the messenger
When he was going through what?
So much difficulty,
and it should motivate and inspire us as
well.
It's not just there, it's a bedtime story.
Allah tells us, faqsusilqasa
la allahumya tafakaroon.
Tell them about the stories in the Quran,
so that may they think, they may think,
they may contemplate.
Look at Yaqub
We'll take a couple of prophets inshallah wata'ala.
Story time.
Yaqub alaihis salatu was salam
went through a lot of grief and difficulties,
Sahwala Allah
He lost his child
who was very very beloved to him, Yusuf
alaihis salatu wassalam.
And it didn't stop there.
Then he lost his second child.
Until who? Yaqub alaihis salatu wa sallam became
blind.
Out of constantly crying, shedding tears,
and he still didn't lose hope in Allah
And you know when he says Allah quotes,
I only complain my sorrow and my grief
to Allah
And he kept on what?
Thinking good of Allah
Perhaps
Allah is still going to what?
Bring them all back to me.
He's telling his kids,
Oh children. And they were the children
who took Yousaf and they threw him in
the world. Right?
Because they had what? Envy, and they were
jealous.
Because Ya'qub, he loved Yusuf more than the
rest of his brothers.
And still he tells his children,
Oh children go.
Go and search for your brother.
And do not lose hope in Allah And
we know the end of the story, right,
after being so patient,
after constantly thinking good of Allah Allah
brought all of them together.
He lifted his father onto the throne,
wahharru lahu sujidan,
and they all prostrated to him. Some of
the scholars they say from the time he
saw that dream,
when he told his father, I saw 11
stars
prostrating to me, and I also saw the
moon and the shams, the sun.
It was around maybe what?
60 years.
Some said 20, some said 40.
From the time he saw that dream, all
the way till the end of the surah,
when they all prostrated,
the dream interpretation was that his 11 brothers,
they're all going to what? Prostrate to him.
And the sun and the moon was his
mom and his dad.
All of that period went by and he
was too patient guys.
And then Allah
was testing him through that.
And we are in what? Darul Ibtila, my
brothers and my sisters.
We are not here and this answers this
atheist question.
We're not here to live a happy life,
to enjoy ourselves.
This is Darul Ibtila, Allah
He created.
He who created the
life and death just so he can test
you.
The greatest of the prophets and the messengers,
they were tested
to see who's going to come out with
the best possible actions.
So Allah azza wajal is testing an apt
of his, a very beloved servant of his,
60 years.
Like 60 years he had to be what?
Patient.
Till he begins to see the corners of
his eyes.
He had fusnudan,
and pay attention to this characteristic,
he had good thought of Allah
Look at Musa alaihis salatu wasalam my brothers
and my sisters.
Musa
when he came to his people, you know
what they said to him?
We were harmed before you came, and we're
still being harmed after you came.
Fir'aun, the tyrant, what was he doing?
He would slaughter their kids, and he would
humiliate their women.
And he would say to them,
seek aid and assistance from Allah
and be patient.
For indeed the land is owned by Allah
and He's going to give authority to whoever
He wills.
So now they're running away from what?
Firaun, right? We know the famous story.
In front of him was what? The Bahar,
the ocean.
And behind him was the army of Firaun.
They looked at Musa
and they said,
we're going to be caught now.
We're going to be slaughtered.
This was something that Fir'aun was known for.
And on top of that, they waged a
war against him. They ran away from him
now,
with their religion.
They said, Inna la Mudrakun were going to
be caught, Musa alaihis salatu wasami said,
Allah is with me and he's going to
guide me.
And the rest of the story is history.
What we know of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
found a way out for them
because Musa alaihisattu wasalam,
he has good thoughts of Allah azza wa
jal.
Also we have the same lesson my brothers
and my sisters in the story of Ibrahim
alaihisattu
alsalam.
Ibrahim alaihisattu alsalam, my brothers and my sisters,
was commanded by his Lord
to leave his wife and his kid in
the middle of nowhere.
He
says, oh Allah, I
have now situated
my wife and my offspring in a place
where there's no growth.
Oh Allah, make Your make the hearts of
the people come towards them.
And also
give them the growth and the crops from
the earth.
He's walking away from Hajar, his wife.
And she's saying,
calling out to Ibrahim
why are you doing this?
He's just walking straight.
He's not looking to his left, nor is
he looking to his right. She's walking.
She asked him from very far, Allahu Amaraka
bihada, did Your Lord command you to do
this?
He said yes. You know what she said
guys?
If that is the case, Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala
is not going to abandon us.
Because of her having khusnur done, my brothers
and Masih, a good thought of Allah
What is it that which came out of
this?
The zimzim that we drink from today when
we go for Umrah,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala calls us to come
out of the earth.
Also through the offspring
of Isma'il alaihis salatu wa salam, who came
out from it? The Messenger salallahu alaihi wa
salam.
Also on top of that,
she remains to be remembered
till this very day.
When you go for Umrah
and you're rushing from Safa and Marwa,
that name that will pop to your mind,
my brothers, it's Masjid Hajar alaihis salatu wa
sallam.
Ahsanat avana billahi
She had good thought of Allah
Then you also have the Messenger sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam.
The Messenger sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, my brothers
and my sisters, put yourself in his shoes.
When he went to Ta'if,
which is around 35 to 40 minutes from
Makkatul Mukharama,
His own people stoned him.
His feet was bleeding.
Malakul Jibal, the Angel of the Mountains came
to
the Messenger
They gave him a choice.
You know what they said to him?
If you will, we will get these 2
mountains and we will slam it on top
of them.
You know what his response was?
He refused.
These people just stoned him.
They just made him bleed.
He said,
I hope from this
that Allah
is going to bring out from their loins
people who worship Allah and they don't commit
shirk.
And today we find that this is an
area
where the people
the least that they have is a Tawhid.
They are Muslims, right? When before they were
Mushriks.
It's good thought of Allah
Another incident my brothers and my sisters that
took place in the time of the messenger
salallahu alaihi wasalam was
One time the Messenger salallahu alaihi wasalam was
sleeping.
He said, fastiqaatoo,
I woke up.
There was an Arabi,
there was a Bedouin. He had his sword
out,
saldatan.
It was out
like this. You know what he said to
the Prophet
Who's going to stop me today from chopping
your head off?
The messenger looked at him because Allah is
going to stop you.
In some narrators he dropped the sword, he
dropped it, and in other narrations he went
and he sat down.
He Had good thought of
Allah
Also when they went into the cave, him
and Abu Bakr
They were in the little cave,
and he's telling his friend Abu Bakr, do
not be sad.
Abu Bakr states
that had they looked
under their feet, they would have saw them.
And the Messenger
is telling Abu Bakr, maavanluqabithneen
Allahu Thalithwuma.
What makes you think it's only 2 of
us? Allah
is the third.
Good thought of Allah
Remember my brothers and my sisters,
when you're going through these trials and these
tribulations,
Look at those who went through more difficulty
than you.
Look at those who are more fortunate.
These prophets and these messengers,
they are meant to be there
for us to look at and take lessons
from their
difficulties.
When you get driven out of your home
because you are practicing or because you're a
newly
reverted
individual,
and your family has boycotted you and exiled
you from your home.
Remember Ibrahim
when he was thrown into the fire by
his own blood father.
When the people are mocking you
because of being a Muslim
and they call you backwards,
Somebody who follows a religion
that doesn't make quote in, quote out sense.
Remember Nuh
when he was mocked and when he was
humiliated
by his own people.
And Allah tells us, wayasna'ulfulka,
waqollama marra'alayhimalaunminqawmi
sakhiromin.
He was making a ship, right?
He told his own child, You Boonayyarkamma'ana.
Get on the ship. But his child refused.
While he was making the ship,
every time his people, they walked past,
they started laughing and joking and mocking. Nuh
alaihis salaam
Remember Nuhalisati
wa Salam. And remember who had the last
laugh?
It was Nuhalisati wa Salam, right?
Allah saved
him.
And for you is salvation,
as long as you don't give
in, and you don't become weak
when people are making fun of you because
you have a beard, or
or maybe because you're dressed in an Islamic
manner.
When you feel like my brothers and my
sisters,
that the whole world is coming down on
top of you,
remember Yunus
who was inside of 3 darknesses,
the darkness of the night,
the darkness of the sea,
and the darkness of the stomach of the
well.
He ran away from his people, right? Aftishara
give them dawah.
War salawilamiati
alfino yazidoon.
A 100000 people, they were ready.
Over there, he was there to give Dawah
to them.
Because they didn't accept, he went away from
them.
He wasn't there patient,
so he was thrown into the sea
and he was swallowed by a whale.
Three darknesses, the darkness of the night, the
darkness of the sea, and the darkness of
the stomach of the well.
And he's still called out to Allah aasawajal,
and Allah aasawajal saved him from it.
When things are getting difficult my brothers and
masters think of situations like that.
Also, inshallah, guys, what I'm going to conclude
with
is some practical steps.
When we go through these calamities and these
difficulties,
what is the first step that I should
take?
One of the first things my brothers and
my sisters that you should do is
something
called
For indeed we belong to Allah
and indeed we are going to be returning
back to Him.
And then there's a dua my brothers and
my sisters,
that the Messenger sallallahu alaihi wa sallam taught
his companions.
Umi Salamah
Before she married the Messenger she
went through a fatality.
Her husband passed away known as Abu Salama.
When he passed away,
she remembered the dua that the Messenger sallallahu
alaihi wasallam taught them.
This dua was
Oh Allah, reward me for the calamity that
I'm going through,
and also replace for me that which is
better.
When she said this du'a, who did Allah
give her later on?
The Messenger
And she mentioned,
that Allah gave me the Messenger The
best of those who are walking on the
face of this earth.
Also my brothers and my sisters,
when you go through that difficulty,
something that has become majur,
Barely anybody does it, when they're feeling anxiety,
agony, stress,
it's the rushta ras salah,
To pray 2 rakat.
And this is exactly what the Messenger sallallahu
alaihi wa sallam used to do. As Hudayfah
mentioned, he said, Kanar salallahu alayhi wasalamri
Whenever the Messenger was experiencing some difficulty,
he was going through some pain,
he would rush to the salah.
Guys, I'm gonna ask you guys a question.
There's times, right, when we're going through some
difficulty,
we go and sit in front of the
creation sah,
and we're complaining, we're going through this, and
we're going through that, and then this happened,
and the guy's just looking at you.
Sometimes the guy doesn't want to tell you,
like, he's busy.
Just wants to get up and leave.
A lot of the time he can't do
anything for you,
but we're sitting there for hours just complaining,
complaining, complaining,
when he might not necessarily be able to
do anything for you.
Why is it my brothers and my sisters,
we don't rush into the salah?
When the salah is there for you to
cry your eyes out to Allah
And this is what the messenger used to
do. Even Allah
commanded him, in the end of Surat Al
Hajjr,
Because We know, Allah tells him,
We know
that how tight
your chest is, because of what they keep
saying to you.
And by praising Allah, saying Alhamdulillah, Alhamdulillah,
and be from those who are in sujood.
Because the closest my brothers and my sisters,
that you can get to Allah azza wa
Jal,
The closest that one gets to Allah
is in his what?
In his sujood.
And if you make that sujood, my brothers
and masters, in the last part of the
night, it's even better. Because another narration that
says,
The closest that Allah comes to the servant
is in the last 3rd of the night.
So you're there making dua in your sujood,
asking Allah, azza wa jal, to help you.
Umwallahi my brothers and masters, it can happen
in a split of a moment.
And messenger told us,
Whoever doesn't ask Allah, Allah becomes angry with
him,
as opposed to the creation.
You ask him today,
he helps you. Ask him again, he might
not help you, and you feel humiliated, right?
And then you go, keep bugging him, this
guy is always asking us.
He's always coming to me, go somewhere else,
leave me alone, I'm busy, right?
Go and make wudu my brothers and my
sisters. When you're going through that difficulty,
go and pray turakaat.
Partake in a long sujood,
crying out your eyes to Allah, begging Allah
for whatever you need, and see how you
feel after that.
There's one time my brothers and my sisters,
I was going through some serious pain this
many many years ago.
This pain was with me for 3 months.
3 months because of an incident that took
place. And I don't want to go into
the ins and the outs.
As I was making du'a, making du'a, it
came to my mind.
Let me just go and pray 2 raka'at.
I went and made wudu,
Pray 2 raka'at. I was in my sujood.
Oh, wallahi guys.
From the moment I finished, it's as if
that pain was being what? Snatched out of
my body.
And I felt great after that.
And I was suffering from that for the
last 3 months.
So what do we mention now? We mentioned
the issue of the salah.
We mentioned that a person, he sits and
he what? Astaghfirullah,
Astaghfirullah, Astaghfirullah.
Subhanallah.
Alhamdulillah.
Also my brothers and my sisters, what will
increase your chances of your dua
and the response of Allah
is if you have a good relationship with
Allah
at times of ease.
Masin Sallallahu alaihi wa sallam told us
know Allah
at the times when things are going well,
And He will be there for you when
you're going through difficulties.
He will be there for you when you're
going through difficulties.
Imagine my brothers and my sisters,
anytime we need something in our life, it
comes to you straight away.
Have we been ever in this position where
you think to yourself,
oh, subhanAllah, I was thinking about that and
then it came to me.
Puya handra, you felt like that before.
You're just thinking about something when it comes
to you.
I can see some people nodding their heads.
Imagine your life was like that.
Because you are somebody what? Who constantly remembers
Allah
And the messenger Allah tells us,
Make mention of me and I will make
mention of you.
Also the messenger
told us in hadith al Khusi,
that when the Abdi keeps gaining closeness to
Allah through what obligatory acts, and then sunnah
acts?
Because you kept on having a relationship
outside the times when things were going difficult,
right? The
moment you need it, Allah is gonna respond
back to you straight away.
Guys, is it really difficult
to say Astaghfirullah, Astaghfirullah when you're going back
and forth wherever you're going?
When you're in your car,
you're just saying Astaghfirullah, Astaghfirullah, Astaghfirullah.
On a 2 hour journey, my brothers and
my sisters,
If you're driving
and you put your mind to it, you
could do over 3,000 Istaghfirullah.
It's really really not difficult.
And the benefits of istighfar and you know
doing dhikr of Allah, as well as many.
And one of them is, I'll just mention
1 insha Allahu Ta'ala,
the hadith of the man who came to
the messengers Allahu and said,
much. Has become too much.
People think when they look at this hadith,
that he was asking the Messenger
to give him a holiday
from some of the ibadat. That wasn't the
case.
He was asking for something,
okay,
that is now going to
lighten the burden of these ibaadat,
these
worships that he keeps doing,
which might be very difficult on the body.
So he said to him,
keep your tongue moist of the dhikr of
Allah, azza wa jal, of the remembrance of
Allah,
And your fasting will become easy. Your salah,
you'll begin now to what?
Feel better.
You begin to feel the joy inside the
ibadat,
that may have just become like a routine
for many of us.
And last but not least, my brothers and
my sisters,
look what Ibn Taym says,
Whenever matters became really difficult,
tara ayaatasekeena.
He would begin to read the verses
that have tranquility in it.
The verses that speak about tranquility,
and there's 6 of them.
And I'll quickly mention in the first one
Surat Al Baqarah,
ayat
248.
First one is
248.
And
the second one is the eye in Surah
Tawba, eye number 26.
Ayah number 3, Suratoba.
Ayah number 40.
When they were in the cave, the messenger
of Allah is an Abu Bakr. He told
them, don't be sad.
Don't be sad. And Allah Azzawaj just sent
down upon them what? Sakina, calmness and coolness
and tranquility.
Ayah number 4, Surat Al Fith,
ayah number 4.
The 5th ayah is again in Surat Al
Fith,
ayah number 18.
And ayah number 6, it's
also in Surat Al Fatiha.
Ayah number 26.
So 3 verses
in Surat al Fatiyeh,
ayah number 4,
ayah number 26,
and ayah number 18.
And then you have 2 in Suratul Tovah.
Iron number 26 and iron number 40.
And then 1 is Suratul Baqarah.
And that is ayah number 248.
Look what Ibn Taym mentions.
He said,
I heard him one time say,
he was afflicted with a very serious
difficult calamity.
He had such a bad serious sickness my
brothers and my sisters.
It was a type of sickness that the
mind can't even imagine.
That's what Bulutaim is mentioning,
by his teacher.
And he began to think that it was
the shayateen,
the devils
who are waging a war against him.
The jinn.
He says when things got really difficult,
I told some of my relatives to read
these ayat.
When they did that, all of a sudden
I became normal.
And I just carried on with my life.
When before that all those who are intellectuals,
they weren't able to come to the bottom
of what the sickness was.
Are you with me my brothers and my
sisters?
So we spoke, my brothers, a lot about
a lot of things.
Is that characteristics that we can take home
today and that is
having good thoughts of Allah
when we're going through
some of these difficulties,
always look on the bright side.
Sometimes Allah takes something away from you, but
because He's protecting you from a bigger evil,
you only realize later on.
How many times have we found ourselves in
that situation?
Oh subhan Allah, imagine if I still had
that, I wouldn't have this.
And some of you guys may agree.
I will agree to that. There's things that
have happened that Allah took away, but then
later on it played so well
due to some of the things that happened.
Maybe if that thing was still present, it
wouldn't have happened.
And we always say, Alhamdulillah.
Also my brothers and masters, we're self critical
of ourselves when things are going wrong.
Salafas is blaming everyone else except ourselves.
Go and sit alone. Do Do astaghfirullah astaghfirullah.
Ask Allah for forgiveness, and your whatever the
case it might be, you're in a win
win situation.
And And then you have some of these
points that we just mentioned. Remember Allah
Make mention of Him at times of ease.
Also rush to Allah Azzawajal in salah,
and so on and so forth.
I think that went on for like what?
In a whole
hour?
And I think that is a lot that
we've mentioned,
inshallah o ta'ala.
We we ask Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala to
benefit us from what we heard
and to make us from those who when
they hear the reminder, they act upon it
and they don't just put it through
one ear and take it out of the
other.
InshaAllah.
Okay.
For that very beneficial
reminder. If any, brothers and sisters have any
questions, brothers can raise their,
hands, Insha'Allah.
From the sisters, we
have a question here.
You know, any questions?
Okay.
Is it permissible to publicly make duas on
social groups? Example, may Allah reward all your
efforts or should you simply keep any dua
in your heart?
So the question is asking,
is it permissible to ask others to make
for you, right? In social groups like on
Whatsapp, sometimes somebody says, brothers make du'a for
me, I'm going through some illness.
I'm going through some difficulties.
Or is it better to make your own
dua?
It is better to make your own dua.
It is better to make your own dua.
To put your tawakkul in Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala
and to ask Allah as a wajal yourself.
Messenger Allah
tells us in a hadith,
is too shy
And we know in your sujood you have
the opportunity
5 times a day and in each salah,
maybe sometimes,
in every rakah twice, right?
Allah is saying to us,
and when My servant asks I am close.
Allah is saying to you, if you don't
ask I become angry with you. The messenger
of Allah says, Whoever doesn't ask, Allah becomes
angry with him.
So you should have that constant habit of
asking Allah
And I always say this guys,
impossible
should not exist
in a Muslim's dictionary.
Guys, no impossible?
You've seen that movie before. Right? Mission Impossible.
1, 2, 3, 4, 5. I don't know
which number is on.
Mission impossible doesn't exist.
Everything is possible, any place, anytime.
It is just down to you as a
Muslim to ask Allah and
to refrain from the things that is going
to stop your du'a being accepted.
That is your relationship with Allah Also
asking others,
it's not haram,
it really isn't, but like we said it
is better.
And if you ask somebody to make dua
for you,
fee atharil ghaib, in your absence, the Messenger
sallallahu alaihi wasallam, he said,
what was the hadith again?
The dua that a man might make for
his brother in his absence is mustajaba.
Above his head is an Angel that has
been given the responsibility
to say Amin,
and you have the same as all.
You basically end up killing 2 birds with
1 stone.
You're making du'a for your brother while you're
benefiting us all. And Sheikh Huisamu Taimur
mentions
that asra'u,
the quickest
of duas that get accepted is one that
he makes for his brother in his absence.
Yeah. This was asked to me the other
week as well.
Yeah, and one of the mashaikh that came,
he mentioned that's impermissible.
Is it haram working in
a cash in * without paying tax
as a last option?
What do you think guys?
Well I know some of the mashaikh when
they came after, they gave the fitu that
it's haram, you can't do that.
You have to abide by the law of
the land.
Are you allowed to cross the red light?
It's the law of the land, right?
But I know a lot of people still
do it.
You have to abide by the law of
the land.
As long as we're not being taught
to do something in haram and things like
that, because
they claim what you call it tax,
goes towards the general interest of the people.
Allah knows best, some people they pay more
tax than
others and
I'm just giving you guys the fatwa. This
is a bit too above my head.
Haqqadayani,
the mashakh, they gave the fatwa, they still
have to abide bite it. And what's even
more haram is that if you're getting a
cash in hand, and this is without a
shadow of a doubt, I'll tell you this.
You're you're claiming Jobseeker's allowance,
where you get £250
from the government,
and then you're working,
taking cash in hand.
When I first came back from my Yemen,
my dad forced me to go to the
job seekers allowance for 2 months.
It was the most humiliating experience, but anyways,
point of the matter is I went there
for the 1st 2 months
and it was really good as well because
I began to understand the system. They say
to
you, any money that is coming in,
you have to declare it.
Alhamdulillah, 2 months later,
I ended up getting a madrasa teaching job,
where I was getting 350. No, sorry, I
was getting first 250.
Oh, it's times like that,
250 from the government, 250 from madrasah,
that's £500.
But wallahi guys,
la barakatifimalik,
you won't have barakah from your mal. This
is like maybe 5 years ago.
My dad was forcing me because
I was in Yemen. I had to get
back into the system.
I was like a John Doe.
No, I wasn't, you know, I had to
like fit back into the system. Arakulihal
had haram.
They've given you money based on you not
having any income.
And even more worse than that, a woman
she claims,
that she's single. Benefit fraud.
And she's getting a lot of money.
She's cheating the government. You're not even allowed
to cheat the kuffar.
Jews.
And then the guy comes through the window.
So the the the first question
So the first question Asadah answered was, is
it permissible to publicly make dua on social
groups? Example, may Allah reward all your efforts
or should you simply keep any dua in
the heart?
Oh, to publicly ask or make duas?
Yes. Oh, Oh, I said, is it permissible
to publicly make duas? Okay.
On social
may Allah.
After they'll make duas for me. May Allah
reward all of your afas.
So so I think we misunderstood the question.
I thought when you guys mentioned in the
question may Allah reward all your efforts, you
was making dua for me.
But anyways I mean inshallah you can still
make the dua.
But is it permissible to publicly make duas?
Oh may Allah Azzawajal bless you.
It's not haram at all
to make dua for somebody, but it's better
to do in his absence,
it's better to do in his absence. As
for sending the dua to a person, it
could get accepted, it could not.
But the messenger
told us that
So he does in his absence, like, you
know, it's, you're killing 2 birds with 1
stone.
Sorry. You gave it to all the sisters,
but ladies first, you know.
Okay.
Very good question.
You have the Hanabil and also the Hanafiyyah.
And before I answer your question, there's something
else that I wanna mention. You have the
and also the
as opposed to Imam Shaf, you know, Osama
Malik.
They say you can't make dua except that
which has been authentically reported in your
salah.
For example we have duas, right? That in
the Quran
which has a Rabbanah in their right,
only that which has been authentically reported.
So you can't say in your sujood,
oh Allah,
give me a nice car.
And we're talking about the Arabic language.
This is in the Arabic language.
That's too out of the form alahib.
The
stronger of you is that you can make
dua
whatever you want,
because that's exactly what came into the hadith
with the messenger and said,
After you've finished doing your tahiyat,
the Messenger said make whatever du'a that you
want.
So that is a stronger view. Then the
question that arises is, that's what the Maliki
and also the Shafi'i took.
The question that he's asking now,
okay,
can I say it in English?
Some scholars say yes and some scholars say
no.
And those who say no, they actually say
that your salah is going to become invalidated.
If you now make dua with other than
that which has been authentically reported.
So to call a long story short,
it's an issue that the scholars have differed
on, right?
A safer way around this and I heard
Sheikh Mohammed Muhtar Shankiti mention this.
Is that you say the very well known
comprehensive dua, as Anas ibn Malik mentioned,
The excessive dua that Messenger Salah used to
make was
What is his dua? You're asking Allah for
all the good of the dunya,
all the good of the akhira, and you're
asking him to protect it from the fire.
Can you see how comprehensive that is?
But also when you make the dua and
sujood, you make the intention of what you
want it for.
So you want a nice lovely looking
blonde wife or whatever,
you make the intention.
You make the intention and you what? You
say,
Oh, however want you want her to look.
After the
first one. After?
The brother's asking even after the first one.
Yeah, why not?
The giving of your Lord is not restricted.
Just don't get heard saying that loudly when
you're at home.
Yeah, you can. You can go to counsel,
there's nothing necessarily wrong with that.
But Allah
in His Quran, in the message of Allah,
His prophetic tradition,
they told us how there is a direct
link
between
how a person feels,
whether it's depression,
whether it's when you get stressed or whether,
you know, when you're feeling really, really down,
there's a number of reasons for it.
You see?
But one can go seek that advice.
For example, now I'll give you another example,
anger management.
Anger management, there's courses that you take.
I've put together 7 points on anger management,
on what Allah
can tell you is not like anybody else.
You see? Yes, I'm not saying whatever the
kuffar tell you is wrong. No.
It might be able to benefit you.
But you find that what you find through
the Quran and the sunnah of the messul'alehi,
it's like Allah
tells us, whoever turns away
from his remembrance,
he's going to live a depressed life.
And how do you turn away from Allah
by doing the things you shouldn't be doing?
When it comes to your salat, your
When we go to Umrah, put your hand
on you into Umrah.
Most of us, how do you feel when
you've just done Umrah, you've come back? Your
iman is sky high, sahuwaralla.
And over there you're away from fitna, and
a lot of filth and evil, alayhisgadarik.
But when you're here, sometimes because you end
up falling into something
like I have a cousin,
I've been advising him for maybe over 3
years now.
He mentioned to me after the month of
Ramadan, you know mashallah, he got back into
and in the month of Ramadan we feel
great as well.
He stayed away from his girlfriend.
8 day comes, he calls him,
he was telling him, sabaaam, you're just gonna
go there, you know I'm just gonna talk
to him, I'm gonna leave.
Wallahi laweed, my brothers and my sisters, he
told me that they end up doing it
inside of the car.
He goes,
it's as if somebody broke my heart, I
felt so empty inside straight after it,
and I began to hate myself.
This is just like
real life examples that I'm giving to you
guys.
You see?
And after like, you know, just maybe 24
hours before that, he felt great.
Just came out of the month of Ramadan
and then all of a sudden, how does
he go from being that high and that
low?
A space of a moment.
You know?
What
So the problem is asking how do you
balance between work life and also just having
that connection with Allah?
Yeah? Guys one of the greatest ways
to stay firm, to be steadfast upon the
religion,
I'm talking to the prophets here, is to
be praying in salatul jamaah.
That you push yourself.
Just the other day, I was listening to
Sheikh Sheikh Salim Akawil. He's been to the
UK before from Kuwait.
Because I don't say I've seen a couple.
Not even tens, not even 100. I can
say Allah, thousands
of people that I personally know.
He was practicing, but then he fell off.
And that was because he started furthering himself
away from the house of Allah
Started becoming more further and further away from
and he just what ended up falling off.
That constant,
taradud going back and forth from the masjid
really keeps a person strong, it really does.
It keeps that relationship, that good vibe around
you.
People, all of those who have attended, they've
come to worship Allah
There's a buzz when you come to the
Masjid.
As to feeling shallow, you know, just being
in the environment where every direction you look
is haram.
The salah,
and on top of that you do it
inside a jamaah,
coming to the masjid all the time.
Salatul Fajr likewise.
It's one of the greatest isbaab,
doing that in jama'a that keeps you firm.
If you can't do duhr and asr because
you're working, but you're still praying at your
workplace,
That keeps your iman high, it really does.
And then magrib bin isha, you make sure
that you don't miss that salah inside of
the masjid.
And you find if your salah is okay,
is upright,
everything else will be upright as all.
As the scholars they mentioned, and whoever wastes
salah, everything else is gonna start going downhill.
This is why when I see a road
man, sometimes I'm driving, I see a couple
of, you know, drug dealers, crackheads standing around
who are Muslim.
I come up to them and say guys
I don't want anything more than 2 minutes
of your time.
A lot of them they're very respectful enough
to put out whatever they're doing and I
just tell them one thing, guys 25 minutes
of your day. I'm not telling you to
leave your girlfriend, I'm not telling you to
leave whatever bad evil thing that you're doing,
Just pray.
Go to the Masjid. 25 minutes of your
day. Is it fair that you give so
much hours to other than Allah and Allah
as they were to created you for one
particular purpose. You don't give it 25 minutes.
And some of them really feel guilty about
that when you tell them that.
And Allah tells us, why do I tell
them this?
Because Allah says, the salah removes the filth
and the evil of your life.
Wallahi, you lose out on the salah, don't
be surprised why you totally lose control in
what you do,
in filth and evil.
A brother that I told one time I
got out the car and I told him
this, 1 year later he came for umrah.
I saw him in the Zanzam Pulman Hotel,
he came up to me
and he said to me, do you remember
me? I'm looking at him, the guy's got
a beard, he's wearing a robe,
mashaAllah, you can see a neuron on his
face.
Like, no, I don't.
Because you came up to us that day
and you just told us pray.
So me, even though I was still carrying
on my drugs things and you know,
I just started praying.
And when you start praying, you begin to
feel uncomfortable
in that bad lifestyle that you have.
Slowly, slowly
that evil and that filth will begin to
disappear.
You see and that's very very vital.
Whatever you are doing,
just make sure you stay upright in that
and inshallah you'll be okay.
I think that's
yeah.
Jazakum Al Hakim my brothers and my sisters
for attending and listening attentively. It's lovely to
see all of you youngsters.
I didn't see you guys last year.
So it's nice to see you guys.
And InshaAllah, hopefully I'll see you guys next
year because I'm leaving in 1 week and
if I don't see you guys I'll ask
Allah to gather us all in Jannah to
firdoon sala Allah just like we're united and
gather today.