Abu Taymiyyah – Hot Topics Sexual Abuse, Revert Praying In Toilet, Magic, Masterbating & More
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As,
Alhamdulillah, it's our tradition when we have our
Sheikh, Usad Abu Taimiyyah, we go through some
of these questions,
from the hot topics program.
And today's SubhanAllah, even though we only released
the link just before Maghrib, we have over
50 questions that have come in in the
last sort of 20, 30 minutes. So I
told the sheikh we have one of 2
options, either
we do a quick light one from here
to and then after we continue to Fajr
Reflections,
or we're gonna have to be selective with
the questions unfortunately.
So if your question is not answered, we
hope that our Sheikh does come back soon,
and we can go through these questions.
Now,
I wanted to start on a more maybe
personal note with you, Sheikh.
And ask, and alhamdulillah, we've seen you in
Ramadan recite with the rewai of khalif, and
we've seen you recite various surah.
What's your favorite surah to recite?
I think the favorite surah to recite because
it sounds really really nice. I asked him
earlier and he goes, I'm gonna ask you
this question about your favorites.
I didn't know he was gonna ask it.
There's of course surah that I like to
recite because
of the lessons that I take away from.
And then there are,
that I like to recite because it just
sounds, you know,
and the whole Quran sounds immense, of course,
but there's sometimes
certain sword that stand out.
Even now, they asked me to read Surah
Al Najim. It was actually the request of,
I think, 2 of our brothers.
Surah Najim. Surah Najim.
But the whole Quran is beautiful, brothers and
sisters.
To recite the book of Allah
from cover to cover, it's honestly something immaculate.
Baraklafiq.
So,
diving right in, I think one of the
questions that came up and popped up is,
how should a parent
approach teaching a child age 5 the Quran
and basic Islamic knowledge? Should the parent be
firm,
or still be linear as they are young?
Sorry, can you say that again? Sorry. So
how should a parent deal with,
teaching a child age 5 the Quran in
Islamic knowledge? Should they be firm or should
they be lenient because 5 years old are
still pretty young?
How old does the child need to be
before you start
teaching him
about the salah?
And then at the age of 10, the
messenger sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
told us to discipline them. Right?
From the age of 7, it becomes an
obligation because the messenger sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,
he instructed us, he commanded us.
Does that mean that you forsake your children
the years before that? What were we mentioning
today in the
program that I delivered on Musa alaihisattu was
Salman al Khadr?
Right. What did you mention about a one
and a half year old? Can anyone tell
me?
A one and a half year old,
Good.
We mentioned how a child that is
one and a half years of age, he
knows how to pray.
None of course how you guys pray today
in Maghrib time, but you see him doing
the movements from top to bottom.
He starts going into Ruqo, he starts going
into sujud.
Where did this come from?
It came from
looking at his parents,
because the children are visual learners, right?
As young as that my brothers and my
sisters, they are picking things up.
And likewise, at the age of 1a half,
2 years of age, they're able to access
videos on YouTube.
They know how to access hannah and Umar.
Right?
How to access
maybe even Instagram, they'll they'll start scrolling because
we see,
right? Or they see us scrolling through these
videos.
Does that make sense? So before that, you
make the deen
you show them. Because they're just looking for
things to pick up, they're just watching their
father and mother around them all the time,
they've got nothing else to watch.
Right?
So you pray in front of them, at
times you might even recite
a hadith to them, there is
a account on
a sure you guys have come across it
on TikTok and likewise Twitter.
The father of the queen, I think it's
called, you guys maybe come across that? That
little girl who's memorized so many hadith,
right? And he just says to her, Abba,
what was the hadith again? And then she
recites it.
Right? We're not forcing it down their throat,
we're just like making it muhabab,
beloved to them by us doing it, right,
in front of them. And if you don't
do that, there's so many other things that
they will pick up,
Right?
They will pick up the TV that we
are so glued to. Right?
All of these different series that we watch,
they're going to want to do the exact
same thing.
The hadith that we mentioned earlier when the
Messenger said,
every newborn is born upon the fitra, the
natural disposition,
but the parents,
the parents turn into a Jew or into
a Christian or into a Medusi.
A lot of us might think that the
hadith is only limited to these 3. No,
my brothers and my sisters. It might well
be that the parents, they turn him into
a TV addict,
because he's a TV addict.
Series that we are watching from Netflix, Amazon,
right? Hollywood, Bollywood, Somaliland,
Right?
All of these different entertainment shows that we
keep watching,
and sometimes we give them the phone because
we are occupied. You go and watch that
whatever is on the
phone, and then they're like that, and they're
looking at their parents, that's what they're doing
so I'm going to go and do this.
They are visual learners.
Be an example from a very young age,
kids, and I don't want you guys to
forget this right, as young as one and
a half years of age, they will put
on a hijab, they will start praying, they
will start even reading Quran, they'll start moving
their tongue because they see their parents moving
their tongues.
Alright.
May Allah bless you all. So insha Allahu
ta'ala encourage them and then at the age
of 7, right? You need to start teaching
them
with more determination.
Saqnakha.
Our favorite topic here whenever your answer
is what is the halal way seeking a
sister to marry? If I'm not allowed to
approach women, how can I find the halal
wife without asking the parents of the masjid
for help?
Because if they recommend someone and they not
to my liking, it could get a bit
awkward.
So what was the end part? What did
you say the end part?
Brother is saying, hi. Sorry brothers, I'm so
tired, I'm really trying here.
I've had a very
tough last couple of days. I even got
stranded in some different country because I missed
my flight.
So I'm still recovering. Hate Fadl. Sorry.
So our brother is asking what's the best
way to find the halal sister in halal
way to marry? He said, if I'm not
allowed to approach a sister, and at the
same time going through the route of the
parents of the masjid, it could get awkward
if the person they suggest isn't
to my liking,
and I have to say no to them.
So what's the best what's the best way
in halal? Thayme, if you've come across a
sister that, you know, you're attracted to, maybe
ask your sister
to ask,
right?
You've come across maybe a sister on social
media, even though you shouldn't be going down
the avenue, but let's just say you came
across sister,
ask your sister,
or your mother, or your auntie to DM
her, don't slide into her DMs, brothers.
Right, it's a very very dangerous game the
moment you do,
and sometimes she's a non Muslim and then
the shaitaan is whispering, go give her dawah,
make her a Muslim and then she will
be your Khadija,
Does that make sense, brother and sisters?
I said this before, and, wallahi, these TikTokers,
when I recommended certain matrimonial
apps.
Do you guys remember it was one of
the hot topic discussions that we had?
They were talking about or the question was
about these marriage matrimonial
apps, and I recommended to,
that I have knowledge of to be,
right, Sharia compliant.
So what happened was
some of these companies they posted it because
I mentioned them,
and the people are commenting that I got
paid to say this.
Wallahi alaheem, I get paid by none of
these companies. Even these top companies that sometimes
I might recommend to the people, I might
tag. They're not paying me a single penny.
But I just do that sometimes because number
1, I feel sorry for them. And number
2,
I'm helping out the business, right? I don't
get paid by them. Right? So just to
clarify or to clear that up,
you have these, you know, sharia compliant matrimony
hubs, there's that one called pure matrimonial.
These brothers are sunnah mash, they're doing alright
as well.
Does that make sense? Sharia compliant, you can't
directly speak to her,
right? The way the system is, the wali's
number is sent over.
You could always try that, you go to
the masjid brothers and sisters,
There's no harm in going to 10 marriage
meetings until you find the right one. Sometimes
we think that once you go to the
marriage meeting, it means that you're marrying her.
No, it doesn't mean that. This is like
some cultural
way of thinking where if you take your
parents to the house, that means you're marrying
her and is going ahead. So they take
all of the gifts to the house
and then the mom is saying, but I
paid for all of these gifts.
Doesn't matter. You don't even need to pay
take the gifts to the house
the first time around. Maybe when you think
it's a lot more serious,
later on down the line, second meeting, 3rd
meeting,
Right? Go to the meeting, check her out,
ask questions.
And then maybe what? 2nd meeting. The father
doesn't always have to be sitting there in
your face, staring down at you.
The door can be open, someone comes in
every now and again, just to make sure
that
it's under control,
walks in and out, and then you can
have your conversation maybe on the side of
the room, it's distance between you guys as
well.
Alright?
But just don't
remain alone with each other for hours, you
know, the shaitan can get in between. I
heard of a case,
the Prophet who's actually practicing,
went to the house, his mother went upstairs
to watch EastEnders, he told me. She goes,
oh, it's 8 o'clock, I think it was,
I need to go upstairs to watch EastEnders.
They left them together and they fell into
haram in the marriage meeting
because they left them for hours.
Now, you guys get on with it, and
this is sometimes, subhanAllah, parents saying this, oh,
why are you coming to me and go
to the restaurant and talk to each other
there?
Well, I have had parents saying this,
Right? The Sharia is very easy, and it's
very balanced as well. You go to the
house, have a,
you know, normal conversation with her, right? Parents
don't necessarily see in your face, they can
walk in and out just to make sure
everything is alright, and then have another meeting,
3rd meeting, not just meetings, meetings after
one another, right? Just so you can enjoy
it sitting in our company, no. But to
find out what is going to push you
towards marrying her.
Does that make sense?
Does that answer the question, or do you
need something else to be mentioned? It's Saq
L'Heure.
The question comes from, I believe a college
student. He say I'm trying to study and
practice the deen, alhamdulillah, but the fitna ran
my a level mix school makes me forget
things I've memorized
and the knowledge that I took. Sometimes even
holding me back from studying the deen for
a while. It's a struggle in the fitna
of schools worst everyday.
My mother and I consider either dropping a
levels or doing homeschooling.
Any advice?
Earlier, when we took the kisra,
the story of Khader and Musa, we took
an important principle, a legal maxim, does anyone
remember?
The lesser of? 2 evils. 2 evils.
And we mentioned also a verse, wal fitna
to a shaddu.
When Alqatul want to be trialed in his
religion is far worse than losing his life.
Right? You have to, of course, judge the
situation and weigh the pros and the cons.
If me staying in school, there is a
big chance of getting a star, for example.
Right? But me
moving towards homeschooling, I might not necessarily get
the exact top grades that I'm expecting. It's
gonna go down a little bit.
Still going to get a good grade, but
I'm going to hold on to my religion.
Which one is the lesser of the 2
evils?
If you want to put it that way.
To go home, of course.
Right?
So we have to look at every situation
now.
Right? The other principle is
We're in a predicament, there is some benefit
coming out of it and there's also some
harms.
Right? I have to weigh it. Is there
more benefit coming out or is there more
cons coming out of this situation? If there
are more cons,
especially now with your religion on the line,
you have to consider other options.
Does that make sense? Of course, normally we
tell the brothers akhid there are certain things
that they can do in order to,
right, stay away from haram instead of stay
away from sin. But as it say, reach
the point then, I can't.
My religion's on the line. Then you have
to really look at other avenues and other
options,
right, with regards to,
protecting your religion, and that might well be
an option if the mom is now encouraging
and thinking that this is the right way,
then be it, if it's for the sake
of protecting your religion.
We've mentioned a lot of things
in the past q and a's, right? The
hot topic discussion with regards to these things
and how to protect yourself.
So please do go refer back to that
inshallah.
Just a follow-up question from, I believe another
college student or a high school student. Say,
I'm a high school student but my school
is far from home. It takes a lot
of time to go there and come back,
and I don't have time to go to
the masjid because I go to school I
go to school early and I return late
at night, and when I return there isn't
a masjid that is local to me that
I can go and visit.
Dear my brothers and my sisters, is the
house the only place that we can pray
at?
We get lunch breaks,
don't we? At school, even at college.
Do you have to be praying in a
closed classroom? No.
The colleges, they have playgrounds, they have pitches,
they have
open areas.
Take your Musalla and pray outside,
right?
And I don't think I'm being unreasonable here.
Take your mat
and pray anywhere if you can't find a
prayer room inside of the college or inside
of the school.
And you'll be surprised my brothers and my
sisters, when you have a bunch of brothers
who begin to campaign for their rights of
having
a prayer room, they'll get it.
Right? You have the colorful team, my brothers
and my sisters. And just to make it
very clear, I'm not inciting violence.
I'm a peaceful compassionate imam.
Right?
The moment they want something, they campaign for
it.
And don't they get whatever they're asking for.
Am I wrong to say this my brothers
and my sisters? They've got more rise than
anyone else.
Right? They've got more rights than anyone else.
I'll tell you guys something else.
If you come together as brothers
and you start asking for certain rights, and
they say no, and then you begin to
scare them about racism, trust me,
Before you know it, it's reaching the highest
guy in the pyramid.
The racism card, The victim card goes a
very long way, guys.
Right? And you're entitled to these kind of
things. If they're being entitled to all of
these things, and they are even a bigger
minority, should I say, than us.
And until you get that, prayer is time.
You don't always have to pray at the
beginning time if you're in situations like this
even though it's better,
but take a prayer mat
and start praying anywhere. The messenger sallallahu alaihi
wa sallam said,
even if you don't have a prayer mat,
you start praying in the park as long
as the place is clean.
Right? Cut out your waswas. Sometimes people ask
themselves the question, oh, maybe a dog went
past last week, and that's why it's not
clean. No, what was the line of coach?
The of the ground, of the earth is
that it is clean until proven otherwise.
Right?
The evidences for the sky that you can
pray anywhere on the earth
as long as not the
toilets and the grave,
Right? Or the places
that,
the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasa mentioned. Does that
make sense? But the rest you can go
pray in the park,
you know,
Barakkalawfiq.
The next question, I've converted and would like
to wear a hijab, but my parents won't
allow me to do, to be a Muslim
so I do it in secret.
I have to move to a different city
for 2 months to study. Can I wear
the hijab while I'm in school because my
parents don't see me there?
Sorry, please. Sorry. So sister's converted and her
parents are not really accepting her being a
Muslim and are not allowing her to wear
the hijab. She's saying, she's going to school
to a different city for 2 months. Can
she wear the hijab there temporarily where her
parents don't see her? And when she's at
home, she's unable to do so because her
parents are not allowed?
My brothers and my sisters, look at that.
There are people,
right, who ask these questions, they are crying
out to practice their religion.
Or maybe us individuals who are born a
panel Islam,
we are being begged to come with basic
obligations.
I was in West London in the month
of Ramadan, and subhanallah, what really, really touched
me was a 13 year old. A 13
year old came and embraced Islam.
Thirteen year old brother says he wants to
practice his religion.
He wants to be an adhering Muslim.
Right?
Even I get questions at times, am I
allowed to pray in the toilet?
Revert.
Yaz, very vicious
Christian parents,
right,
or Hindu parents,
and then
they fear for their life, they fear for
their safety if they start practicing Muslim Islam
in the in the house. Let me ask
you guys a question. Generally speaking, is allowed
to pray in the in the toilet?
She mentioned this, right?
Even though hamam here is a bit different
from what it was before, but the this
today's hamam would go under this as well.
You're not allowed, right?
They what is the lesser of the 2
evils, this principle that we took today?
If
they can't leave the house to go and
pray for example, a lot of time they
will let you go outside, duhr, Asr,
maybe Maghrib, and even Isha, you can pray
that outside, you take your prayer mat, and
you pray outside, sahe, but let it say
fajr now, and you are scared they are
going to walk in any time, can you
go into the toilet and pray? Because you
fear that the time will finish
and you fear for your life, hate the
lesser of the two evils. Yes, you can.
Right? Yes, you can.
Does that make sense brothers and sisters?
So anyways, going back to what she was
saying.
Of course, you can wear the hijab. We
are we have to obey our parents, generally
speaking, as long as they don't
order us to do haram.
Sahih? So if her parents are saying you
can't wear it at school when you're away
for 2 months, you go against them. Because
the messenger salallahu alayhi wasallam, he said,
No. Obedience to the creation even means disobedience
to the Creator.
Does that make sense?
No obedience to the creation even means disobedience
to the Creator.
However, if you are inside of the house
and you wearing hijab is going to bring
about
you being violated against them or pressing you,
and perhaps in this case, you are excused,
but other times when you're not in danger,
then wear whatever you have to wear,
and carry out the obligations of Allah Yeah.
The next question,
I assume Mr. Brother asked and say, mashallah,
very inspiring tool for the young young youth.
Our kids are very distant from the deen
and are attracted to social media fakeness, TikTok,
road life, and crime life. What advice do
you what could what advice can you give
to approach them and what way to attract
them to the deen and their faith and
iman?
Brothers and sisters we have so many lectures
on this on my YouTube channel.
One of them was What was it called?
It was called Beloved
of Secret Servants and Open Sinners.
Secret Servants and Open Sinners, it was a
panel discussion with myself, Sheikh Abu Sam and
also
Sheikh Mustafa Burayyan, which we did in Greenlane.
And I've got a podcast as well.
It is called,
I can't remember, I'm wearing brown. Right? It's
a podcast. If you go to the podcast
section, you'll find it. And it was about
these issues pertaining to the youth and private
sitting and whatever have you. Please do refer
to that. Right? But just to give you
a
summarized answer my brothers and my sisters, let
me ask you,
right? And I've said this so many times,
all of these YouTubers that we see, KSI,
Logan Paul,
right?
MrBeast,
Justin Bieber,
Fousey Choop,
Do you believe that what you see, brothers
and sisters?
What you see on the screen you think
is a reality?
And I remember sending these videos to my
brother, my younger brother Ibrahim.
I said, what do you think, Ibrahim?
They look like they're living the life,
they flash girls, they flash cars, they flash
dunya, they flash watches,
they have fame, they come across as if
they're extremely happy,
but then I heard every single one of
them saying how depressed they are,
how they are living double lives.
How what you see on the screen is
very different to what happens behind closed doors.
Some of them are crying themselves to sleep,
brothers and sisters.
Like I said in the lecture today, I've
got brothers,
right, Muslim, al Mu Muslim,
with blue ticks on Instagram,
certified,
Abhuti is not, certified yet.
Blue ticks, and he's messaging me. I click
on his profile, it looks like he's living
the life, flashing his car and flashing his
money.
Right?
A couple of sentences in my brothers and
my sisters or back and forths.
He's sending me the yellow emoji with the
tears, please brother help.
You know the yellow emoji with the tears?
He doesn't want me to give him a
shout out. He doesn't want my followers.
He just needs help. I'm spiritually dead and
empty.
Right?
I have to read out this to you
guys, brothers and sisters. You guys heard of
Jesse Lingard, right?
Who's Jesse Lingard?
He's a red devil.
Oh, he was playing for you guys right
now. You guys are right.
Let me share with this let me share
this with you guys, right? And again, brothers
and sisters, I am not
bringing this out of my own back pocket
Nottingham Forest,
Jesse Lingard says he turned to alcohol.
He started drinking
to try and take the pain away
as he struggled to deal with his career
at Manchester United.
Have you guys heard of Jim Carrey?
Who's Jim Carrey?
He's a comedian slash actor Canadian slash American.
Jim Carrey, my brothers and my sisters, once
said, I think everybody should get rich and
famous,
and do everything they ever dreamed of so
that they can see it's not the answer.
So they can see that this is not
the answer. You know these notes that I
have, you know what it's called?
Depression
dash notes from the daily mail
and other news tabloids.
I collect the lives of multimillionaires
when they go into depression.
Ah, bingo.
So I can share it to you guys.
I have it saved ready, brothers and sisters,
right? I got this from the daily mail,
it said about 70% of people
who suddenly receive a windfall of cash
will lose it within a few years, according
to the National Endowment of Financial Education.
Lotto Laut
Michael Carroll
makes double suicide attempts squandering 9,700,000
jackpot.
Carol, an alcoholic
who is now on benefits
after blowing his winnings on drugs and high
living
was taken by ambulance to the Queen Elizabeth
Hospital
in nearby King's Lynn
I've got a lot of example, guys Have
you guys heard of Tony Adams?
The others might know. He was like the
van *
of back in the day, Tony Adams used
to play for Arsenal.
The Arsenal.
He used to play for them, won so
many Premier League titles.
Right? I went to Crowley, and I visited
one uncle, and he was saying to me
that he was,
right, counseling Tony Adams for a period of
time
due to some of the addictions that he
had.
Look what I got off the Internet. Right?
Daily Star.
By the way, I don't go into these
websites just in case you think I'm going
these shaitanid websites, just I just see them
and
Tony Adams has admitted to binging on burgers
and milkshakes
to fill the void on Saturdays. What did
he do on Saturdays? They got the matchday
buzz, right?
Premier League and then Super Sundays, Sahir.
The 56 year old ex Arsenal star
says even 20 years since he retired,
he misses the matchday buzz
and admits sometimes gorging on junk food to
make himself feel better,
But after being sober since 1996,
the recovering alcoholic recognizes
food can be an addiction to,
and he works to control his emotional eating.
He said, I get a little bit sad
on Saturdays. I used to get a fix
on the Saturdays. You get into routines.
I'd go and buy
a Byron burger. I don't even know what
kind of burger there is.
I think Miami might have something like that.
Right?
I heard you guys are lining up for
a burger.
Sheikh Khabib was telling me earlier, and an
Oreo milkshake
all of a sudden as a reward
I've got so many examples, brothers and sisters,
Adriano,
some of the elders of mine, I know
he used to play for Inter Milan,
right? Who's this other one? Francesco Totti
they used to call him the god of
Roma
big guy on the football, you know, pitch
all of them my brother depression, sad, miserable
Right? I know I'm going on a little
bit here, brothers and sisters.
You know, the,
the sports industry, would you agree, is the
$1,000,000,000 industry?
Making a lot of money, right?
The entertainment industry, $1,000,000,000 industry, sir.
You have the games industry, $1,000,000,000 industry, sir.
The alcohol industry, $1,000,000,000 industry,
right?
Even drugs industry.
Did you know my brothers and my sisters,
they call cocaine Britain's open secret. Who do
you think is consuming it? You think the
junkie that you see rolling around at the
bus stop when you come out? Fajr, only
in?
Akhi, high
paid professionals.
Right? They are consuming it to make themselves
feel better.
All of these industries, why are they a
$1,000,000,000 industry? Because they are feeding off our
sadnesses, brothers and sisters, when you think about
it.
You need to keep your
minds distracted.
I have a sister-in-law who's not Muslim, right?
One time she came to visit us in
Egypt. I said to her,
what do you do in your free time?
She's a nurse. She works long hours. She's
got money as well. What do you do
in your free time? She says I have
to watch movies on Netflix.
Tell me what happens if you don't. She
goes, she did this with her hand. I'll
start losing my mind.
Right.
All of these distractions, my brothers, are there
to capture your mind. If you take it
out of the equation,
what will a lot of people do? They'll
go and commit suicide,
Right? However, we Muslims, we have something else
and that is Islam.
The way Allah created our hearts, it craves
for its Creator.
It needs Allah, otherwise you can't function.
Otherwise you have to keep your mind busy
with football
or games.
Right?
And entertainment
to keep yourself distraught, otherwise, you get bored.
Rich people, my brothers, they must they get
bored. They tell me they've got nothing to
do. What do I do now? And eventually,
he ends up committing suicide.
Right? Even these footballers, they need counseling after
they retired in that routine.
He was keeping himself distracted. All of that
money doesn't do much for him because
he needs something else to keep his mind
busy.
Free time can be dangerous
at times.
Right, but you have Islam, you have dhikr,
you have that which is going to keep
your heart nourished,
right,
they drink to forget, we do dhikr
to remember.
Say it again, they drink to forget, we
do zikr to remember.
Whenever they go through some difficulty and hardship,
but we have Allah as the wajal,
We remember him,
right? We do Quran and all that,
and that will keep ourselves nourished.
Sorry Sheikh Arbayd, I just went off Wallahi
I wasn't planning on reading all of this,
but he asked that question. But I've got
it saved.
Can you can you air drop it to
some of us?
Like you just especially the asanas Five pound
apple
For the brother who brought me Zamzam. Where
where is the brother?
They always ask me this question, right, because
I warn against it.
You may disagree with me. I've got videos.
I even done a whole Khutba by Sunan
Nambar.
TikTok,
I went off on it,
and people are like, why is this guy
being extreme for? It's just another app.
I wanted to shake the place.
Right?
Many people at the time, it was 2
years ago, I believe, when I gave the
Khuba, then I
I talk about it everywhere.
Get rid of this app, and then someone
will say, but Ustad,
that's how I got to know you.
Right? That's where I saw your videos. Now
you're telling me to delete it. I tell
them how many half naked women did you
see before you came across my video,
And how many half naked women did you
see after that as well?
It is uncontrollable, my brothers and my sisters,
this app.
And by the way, guys, I don't have
an active account. It's a Chinese app. I
don't have an active account. Brothers cut out
my videos and they put it on there.
People say to me, oh, I'm fame hunting.
I don't even have an account.
Brothers are putting out there. Honestly,
I'm happy that it's reaching a lot of
people
but now
that you've come to know the videos and
you've cut you know
move away from it.
I tell you to delete it now. Move
on to somewhere else. Go to Instagram. Instagram
is a fitna gram as well, but it's
better than TikTok. Move away from it. And
then eventually we get you completely off social
media.
Does that make sense?
I don't even have an account active account
on there.
Does that make sense?
I think honesty is a disease. And, Wallahi,
you're driving yourself to destruction.
If you keep that on your phone,
1,000,000,000 of the world population is 8,000,000,000 human
beings, 1,000,000,000 is on there. Things go viral
so quickly,
Right? So many people are watching it, but
at the same time their hearts are being
destroyed, and they're addicted to it on there
for hours.
Sheikh says,
Just on the same topic, Sheikh, because I
think a few people found that amusing or
funny what you're saying, but it's quite serious.
And you mentioned the time wasting, you mentioned
the haram that you consume,
you mentioned
the other dangers of TikTok. What else can
you add to it that are actual dangers
specific to this app? Like the amount of
music you listen to just without even By
the way, Prophet, this is a music app.
Isn't TikTok a music
app? It's a music app.
Right?
You got like a 70 year old guy
coming, he's shaking and wriggling himself, and he's
got music playing in the background,
wearing women clothes.
Am I wrong to say that brothers and
sisters, it was initially created
for it to be a music app.
That's the cause for it, and your brothers,
you might say, but I move away from
the video.
But already how many times has your heart
been pierced? How many black dots has hit
your heart?
And then you hear it reminded, hamdulillah, that
was nice. And then you're back on it
again.
That's the next video.
That's the story of of TikTok
that's the story of TikTok
right
a common issue amongst the youth is *.
Someone asks, how do you quit *?
A a young brother asked, he said, what's
*? If you do not know,
don't Google it. Don't search for it. Don't
know. If you know and it's a problem,
this is beneficial for you. Now when you
say don't do it, okay, they're gonna go
and do
it. And if you say do it, Sheikh,
you'll go viral for another reason.
My brothers and my sisters,
Ibn Khaim Rahmatullahahi Alaihi says women
wanna give you guys a number of practical
ways, insha Allahu Ta'ala, to overcome some of
these privat sins.
From the greatest of cures is what a
dua.
You might think to yourself, Wallahi, you know,
it's just dua,
just dua.
Brothers and sisters,
dua will change your life.
Don't take it lightly, and because you're making
a half hearted dua,
subconsciously
you're telling yourself, oh, it's probably not gonna
get accepted. It's not gonna get
because the messenger salaahu alayhi wa sallam told
us When you make dua, do it with
certainty that it will be responded back to.
That's how we should make dua,
right? So you make that sincere dua from
the bottom of your heart, my brothers and
my sisters, You Allah help me overcome this
sin.
And every time you fall back into it,
don't lose hope. The shaytan will say, oh,
but you fell in back into it. Every
time you fall into it, the second thing
that I advise you to do is get
up
and make raka'atayn,
which is referred to as salatul Tawbah.
Go make wudu,
pray Turaka'at, and you will see Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala removing your sins.
Number 3, my brothers and my sisters, write
down the sin
and write down what is causing this sin.
What is causing me to constantly fall back
into this sin?
What is it?
Is it the phone?
Right?
There was a brother
in one of these cities up up up
south down south, right,
who would say to me had a problem
with *, right, Adot
I would tell him,
get rid of your phone for a period
of time.
It might be time to go back to
the trap phone.
You know the old phones that we used
to have, the brick phones with the snake?
For a period of time, have that phone.
Psychologists or psychiatrists, they say if you want
to get rid
of a particular
habit, I think you need maybe 40 days
or 30 days. They've got a number for
it.
Right? You need a set period away from
it.
If that's the reason why you're constantly falling
back into the into that sin, get rid
of that thing that is causing you to
do so.
I one time after the lecture, he came
running behind me, he said,
he took out his brick phone.
Because ever since I went back to this
brick phone,
I did not fall into Raseem.
Right?
Also my brothers and my sisters, next step
that I want to mention,
right,
is
try to stay away from being alone.
Try to stay away from being alone. Give
this a try. When you're around people and
when you go out together,
right? And I know you can't stay away
from
being alone 24 hours a day, there will
be periods where you have to be alone.
But as much as you can try to
go to the masjid, try to
be productive, try to be active, busy your
mind
with something.
Yeah. And every time, like I said, the
second one. It was the second point, right?
Every time you fall into that sin, go
make wudu and then pray to rakat.
Does that make sense?
These are some points that I can advise
you with inshallah. There's his brother as well.
I think he has a very good course
from what people have recommended. I haven't seen
it. His name is Gabriel Romani.
He's got this something that will help over,
I don't know, this
yeah.
Zakhlakha,
question is asking, the question is asking, if
black magic, nazar has been done on you
and you start protecting yourself after effects, the
effects have reached you,
Will starting and then maintaining in the morning
and evening at car eventually reduce and stop
the effects or do you have to do
something else?
Good.
Black magic my brothers and my sisters.
Let's speak about black magic first, right?
It could be that a
knot has been tied and then thrown into
a river,
right?
We learn from Surah Al Falaq, we mean
30
I
mean, you seek refuge in Allah
from the evil of these individuals who blow
a knot.
Right?
They'll take maybe a hair, they'll tie it
onto something, and then they'll what?
They'll throw it in a river.
I've read on people rakhiyah.
Right?
And at times when I'm reading on them,
the jinn starts speaking and saying
when you ask, right? Where is it? They'll
tell you is in that place, in that
city, in that country.
And then after the individual gains consciousness, you
ask them, is this true? He'll ask, what?
How did you know that?
And it might be almost impossible to find,
right?
That magic spell that has been
carried out. So what do you do?
Because the messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam had also
magic done on him, as known
very well in the prophetic hadith.
Right?
And then he saw a dream, and he
was told where the magic spell was, he
went,
right? And then Allah
sent down,
How many verses are in both Suras?
How many in Surat Al Falak?
And how many in?
Altogether, both of them. 11.
11.
How was it? Was it 11? 11. 55
For every verse that was sent down
right?
It's like 11. Right?
Because I don't wanna get it wrong.
Every for every verse that was sent down,
there was 11 knots altogether.
Right? For every verse that was sent down,
it was to
untie one of the knots.
Does that make sense?
Right?
However, a lot of people, they might not
be able to find it. Sometimes it is
buried. Did you know that? They'll take a
hair or they'll take,
right, something or they'll do a magic spell,
and then they'll bury it, or they might
even put it in
a kaffen.
You know what? You got a shrouded with,
they put it in there. These magicians are
extremely, extremely despicable and abhorrent
in the way they act.
I don't want you guys to start getting
all paranoid, my brothers and my sisters. Right?
But I'm just giving you what actually happens.
The more you read on yourself, my brothers
and my sisters,
or the more you
read on the person who's going through this
trouble,
the more it weakens it, it weakens it,
it weakens it. As long as you have
the
right,
they say this,
Yaqeen al Marki,
wassehatul
Marki bihi.
Right? And what was the other one?
Anyway, some in our minds, you know,
I haven't revised for these questions,
but
the more you read, the more you go
and on and on and on, and you
have that Yaqeen,
that certainty that
Allah right, Is going to remove this eventually,
Insha Allahu Ta'ala you will see Khair.
You will see good taking place
Right? Make a lot of du'a, especially when
you're in a state of
being needy.
You're a now, you're in dire need.
Right? There's more of a reason for your
dua to get accepted because of the state
that you're in.
Does that make sense? It is tried, Mujarrab.
The more you read on that individual, my
brothers and my sister, the more it weakens.
The one that's being read on, he should
have
that that Allah is going to uplift it,
and the one that's reading it, he needs
to be sincere
in what he's doing, and inshallah these are
components that will
take you down a positive direction.
Insha'Allah. 10 minutes insha'Allah and then we will
do the Adhan and Iqamah. Okay.
Just a sister is asking a question and
this is a bit of sensitive one. A
sister told me that her father abuses her
sexually,
so what should she do?
Can she cut ties? She also fears for
her mental health if she cut if she
keeps ties.
Since now.
If she keeps size now,
she has mental health issues and is almost
30 and can't get married because of her
traumas.
By the way, brothers and sisters, this is
a question. This is a question
that I've been receiving for the last how
many years?
Every year, I received well, not even every
year, maybe every month.
Right? Or even more than that.
And this is a question that I took
to masha'ikh that we discussed
among students of knowledge. Even prior to
agreeing to discuss this matter, we were discussing
it.
It's a very very sensitive question. It's a
taboo topic,
right?
And it's not spoken about enough, and there's
a lot of people suffering more than you
think,
right? Because it's the relative that you would
normally trust.
An auntie or a lady should I say,
right? She trust her brother, Go and take
my kids. No problem.
And some of them are suffering from this
sickness,
right? And then he takes advantage of his
own niece,
right? There's a number of points my brothers
and my sisters
that we have to take into consideration. Number
1,
right?
What is highly advisable is that you visit
someone that you can trust like the imam
of a masjid,
that you can confine in. Right? And perhaps
you can discuss with him as to whether
this is considered sexual abuse or not.
Does that make sense? You You guys can
discuss amongst yourselves.
Right?
Also,
he will be
discuss with you what the next step is.
It could be that the authorities need to
be
need to be involved in,
or need to be brought into
dealing with this matter,
right?
Another important aspect my brothers and my sisters,
the issue of
keeping relations with your relatives or your father
or your uncle.
Because Islamically we have to keep ties. Right?
Right? We have to keep ties. The Messenger
is salaiahtululjannata.
Katiyah, the one who cuts ties with his
family is not going to enter into a
jannah. However,
this woman is suffering, she's been abused,
right?
This woman is going through a lot
so again, it's that principle which comes in
If me not being able to function,
my relationship with Allah is being affected,
right? That's on the line. And also that
which is on the line is the relationship
of my father.
Which one is more important my brothers and
my sisters?
Your relationship with Allah
And Allah will not burden you more than
that which you can
take.
Right?
You can only what? Fear Allah to the
best of your ability.
Even as a narration that I came across
of when Washi
came to the Messenger of Allah. Who's Wahshi?
The one who killed the uncle of the
Prophet
Right? Hamza. He killed Hamza
So we asked him, your Washi? He said,
yes. You're the one that killed Hamza? He
I said yes,
whatever reached to you, O Messenger of Allah.
And then he said to him
Is it possible that you could just move
away?
And it was difficult upon the messenger salallahu
alaihi wasallam to look him in the eye
after he
killed his uncle. Messenger salallahu alaihi wasallam is
at the end of the day, he still
has these human emotions, right?
This is why Allah told to show that
he has human emotions. We know that which
they keep saying about he's causing a lot
of pain.
So all she can do is what? Fear
Allah to the best of her ability
If now
interacting with someone who caused me all of
this trauma
is going to leave her in a very
bad situation
where she's going to start getting flashbacks,
right?
She's going to start going through difficulties in
her worship or in her day to day
dealings,
then would it be fair to say, no,
you still need to keep ties with Him?
That is something that is a must. However,
all of these things need to be taken
into consideration.
Does that make sense?
Mhmm.
So go to the imam insha Allahu Ta'ala
and have the discussion with the imam
and then this can be taken forward.
Right?
Allah, it's the origin who is best.
By the way guys whatever I mentioned
it was discussed with Masha'ikh, who was discussed
with students of knowledge.
Right? Back and forth, back and forth. It's
been a long time.
Right? Since we've considered even speaking about this
matter. Allah the amount of emails that I
received pertaining to this is so sad, it's
heartbreaking.
Right?
It brings you to tears at times,
What is happening?
Right? May Allah Azza wa Jal protect you
my sisters,
Right? And keep you strong.
Umih.
The last question,
question about people that are approaching marriage,
Isn't that your favorite line?
Okay. So, if for someone going to a
marriage meeting, for someone approaching a potential spouse,
what questions should they ask this individual?
What should be on the list of questions,
and what should they be looking out for?
I think she's the one
second wife.
Say seeking advice, Allahu Ala. Sheikh, my house
is literally walking distance from here as you
saw today. Don't get me in trouble,
or else I'll be sleeping in the masjidah.
You know, brothers and sisters,
you know, back in 2015, I I I
did this program.
It was in a restaurant,
and I made a promise in the video.
SubhanAllah, the video went round of me saying,
I'm going to put a list of questions
together,
and I'll email it to anyone who messages
me.
Since 2,000,
the amount of emails I received, what happened
to what you promised?
Up until now, I haven't got time.
I will lie, brothers. I'm gonna say this.
I never got paid to say this. Right?
Just in case someone has to cut this
out and put it on TikTok. There is
a brother
who came up with an amazing initiative.
Right? It's called Zawaj Cards.
Zawaj Cards is going to be made available
very very soon.
Right? In these cards
are questions to ask
a potential spouse
and also,
questions to ask someone who you already married
with.
How
SubhanAllah, it will I've looked at the questions.
He gave me one as a gift.
Right?
Gave me one as a gift and I
would look through it. Honestly, it's a game
changer.
I honestly believe
it will change your perspective on so many
things.
Right?
And,
even if you're in a marriage,
it may well improve it because it gives
you a more clearer
direction
of what you want to actually accomplish in
this marriage.
And then, subhanAllah, maybe, I think good 150
cards that's inside of a box. I don't
know how much he sells it for.
Right? But it will be made available, and
I advise everyone to get it.
Wallahi guys, he didn't pay me to say
this.
He asked me this question, I didn't even
know he was gonna ask this question.
When are they gonna be available, Sheikh? It's
gonna be a long summer for some of
these brothers. Now he goes to different masajid
and he puts outside and good quality
and content so maybe we'll bring him to
Manchester one time or you're gonna order it
online. Insha'Allah.
Hope I'm not falling into selling and buying
in the message.
May Allah accept it from you, my Sheikh.
And, we ask Allah's will to bless you,
your family. We ask Allah's will to bless
all of your efforts in the Dawah.
We ask Allah Azeal to accept everything from
you, and to accept it from all of
the attendees,
and to accept it from all of the
people that are running Mashil Afghan, and all
of the team, and the media team. May
Allah bless them and reward them. The Sheikh
will be back after or 4 salatul fajr,
inshaAllah, at 4:15
where he's going to be also doing the
fajr reflection
after that. And as always, on your way
out, inshallah, there are some card machines, tap
and go, you can support the Masjid Barakallahu
Faikum.
Filling out the misery of Allah. May Allah
bless every single one of you guys. Alright.