Abu Taymiyyah – Be My Bae DONT TREAT HER LIKE A DONKEY OR SLAVE PT05
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I'm going to wear my hijab.
So why are you wearing now? Why you're
only worshiping Allah because of the husband or
the guy that you're getting married to? Nam?
That's why you have Istikhara.
You have Istikhara.
You put your trust in Allah, you make
du'a, you beg Allah, oh Allah, if she's
short for me, she's evil for me, then
keep her away from me.
Allah, people they don't pay istikhara, they don't.
You know? Istikhara is vital and crucial, brothers.
After you make
something comes up, the Prophet used to teach
us like it was an ayah from the
Quran that shows you Allah.
Like it was an eye from the Quran,
he used to teach the issue of sikhara.
You don't know what shoes to buy whether
it's Nike or Adidah space sikhara.
Even in the simplest of things,
You let alone a woman that's going to
be doing tarbiyah of your children.
You see?
So that's very vital, you place tikhari, you
put your trust in Allah, you pick
Allah O Allah! Make him, you know, make
the dua. If she's scared for me, O
Allah!
Otherwise,
if she's for me, keep her away from
me, and you'll find that you'll be pushed
towards your
destiny, insha Allah.
You got 10 minutes, you can mention inshallah.
You give me 10 minutes now.
No. I'll I'll give it till the food
comes. The brother said it's coming on the
dot, so obviously the food doesn't arrive there.
So
I've covered most of my things anyway.
Another issue that we have today is all
even with practicing sisters.
Sorry?
Okay. Eve. If you have time, give the
brothers and the see us how to how
they should be.
Okay. Good.
Yes. I always keep a balance in it.
Normally when there are sisters here, otherwise you'll
get as you're walking out the building you
get things. No?
You know what? You know when we talk
about
being obedient to the husband.
Okay?
I always say as well, brothers like,
they're not donkeys, they're not they're not slaves,
they're not maids that you're buying into the
house, that she's going to be like the
maid for your mom,
and you're just ordering her around and things
like that, sometimes you find. Because of the
love between you 2, sometimes you do things
for her as well, and
by the way, I'll tell you as well
like women they have all these love languages
just because you're buying her and taking her
to the restaurant that it doesn't necessarily she
doesn't find she doesn't find that loving, you
know.
But will that's another topic.
She's like, brothers, she's like the other half
of your deen.
She's the other half of your deen for
you to treat her like a slave. Even
though she needs to do it, she needs
to do it, but
don't treat her like a slave.
Don't treat her like a maid.
You know, be good to her. You find
that goodness takes part from that both sides.
Like I said to you, it's like a
triangle. Both of them are working as hard
as possible
to try and please Allah Subhanahu